Today, we’ll look at the signs of an unhappy or dying relationship and marriage. This will allow us to diagnose and eliminate these problems swiftly. Let’s get started.
Signs of a Dying Relationship or Marriage
1. When trust has died and has been cremated
The foundation of any marriage’s success is trust.
Create trust! Please don’t break it! Without trust, the marriage has no foundation.
How do you sever trust?
When you consistently disappoint your partner with lies and deception, trust will crumble. When confidence in a marriage is lost, the end is imminent. You cannot do without trust! Build trust deliberately through honesty.
Do everything you can to maintain trust by being truthful to a fault. Let your spouse r finance be able to line up your words with your actions! Be completely honest.
A trust may be re-established once it has been destroyed, but it takes time and perseverance.
Signs of a Dying Relationship or Marriage
2. When the couple disregards God
There is really little you can accomplish without God.
God is the one who builds homes. God is the architect of marriage.
It is a waste of time to strive to construct without God.
Psa 127:1 (KJV) Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.
As a form of retaliation, some couples engage in adulterous acts. It is only a matter of time before the impending crash becomes apparent.
Iniquity is always a destructive path. Don’t toe that path!
Sin’s wages are death, thus when sin enters a marriage system, it dies by default.
I pray your marriage does not end in divorce!
I prophesy over your marriage and household, and I pray that God will protect you in Jesus’ name!
Hello and good morning! I’ll pick up where I left off yesterday.
We started with some prayer topics that every couple should pray, and we looked at two of them yesterday. We continue from there.
3. Remove selfishness from my heart.
This is another prayer that every couple and singles should say together. Selfishness simply implies failing to consider your spouse/fiancee. In what ways may couples be self-centered? Let me name a few.
Gal 5:17 For there is a root of sinful self-interest in us that is at odds with a free spirit, just as the free spirit is incompatible with SELFISHNESS. These two ways of life are antithetical, so that you cannot live at times one way and at times another way according to how you feel on any given day.
No More Selfishness Towards My Lover
a. Communication selfishness
You enjoy talking to the whole world except your loved one. That is inappropriate!.
You simply forget to converse with your spouse! You have no recollection of it. It’s understandable if you don’t talk to or call others very often. But don’t you think something is amiss when you virtually live on Whats App or Messenger, chatting up the entire world except your spouse or loved one?
You absolutely must change your approach! Allow your spouse to be your biggest fan! The most important conversations on your phone should be with your spouse, not with an old acquaintance or family member.
Pastor, we see every day! It makes no difference. Protect your marriage by doing whatever you can. You cannot truly say you tried unless you have given it your all and made some mindset modifications.
The same way for singles in courtship. Decide to ignore the whole world rather than your lover.
No More Selfishness Towards My Lover
b. Shopping selfishness
Do you go shopping and just buy your things, fully forgetting about your spouse? That’s not quite fair!
Even if the shopping is for you, make sure you grab something for your spouse. This is how you keep the flames alive.
Dear husbands, don’t buy all the electronics unless you also buy some lady stuff. Dear lady, don’t get all the powders and make-up kits unless you also buy some guy items! Be prudent.
Pray that God should remove selfishness from your heart in every way!
Prayers have tremendous power. God answers requests. My mother told me when I was about 10 years old that I would be a pastor. I didn’t agree with her. I stated that I aspired to be a businessman. She stated that she will pray, and we shall see!
When I was sixteen, she went home to live with the Lord. When I was nineteen, Jesus appeared to me in a night vision, and I was immediately called to ministry.
God heard her requests!
I will not claim that God answered all of my prayer points, but God did respond to my prayers most of the time.
I prayed for folks over the phone and online for fruit of the womb, jobs, marital breakthroughs, liberation from sexual perversion, bodily healing, and many other things, and God answered by fire!
God responds to requests. Do not give up on your partner, marriage, or house, and do not stop praying!
Pray, and then pray some more! Never stop praying in the Spirit. God will astound you.
Here are five prayer points you should use on occasion.
Dear Couple, Never Stop Praying
1. Lord, reveal to me what I don’t know that I think I know.
The majority of marriage problems are caused by ignorance. There are a lot of things we don’t know that we think we do.
There may be no development as long as you remain stubborn, without adjusting, and without being open to the possibility that you are incorrect. Nobody knows everything, not even me.
I might have written a devotional a day for a while, then two each day for a while. Every day, I am reminded that I still don’t know a lot of things. I continue to learn, read, and am open to revelations from God’s Spirit. I am not a marital specialist. I am merely a vessel in the hands of God.
Jer 33:3 (KJV) Call unto me, and I will answer thee, and shew thee great and mighty things, which thou knowest not.
Your marriage will improve if you start learning things you didn’t know before and decide not to stick to what you used to know.
Dear Couple, Never Stop Praying
2. Lord, shield me from the enemy’s flaming darts.
The Bible speaks about the burning darts that the enemy throws at us. But have you ever needed to summon someone to remove darts from your back or neck?
No!
So, where have those darts gone?
Those darts are the devil’s thoughts and suggestions. They are mental assaults.
The Amplified Bible refers to them as missiles!
The modern English version refers to them as flaming arrows!
Be cautious, husband and wife, when unpleasant thoughts enter your minds!
I believe this is why the scriptures says:
Eph 6:16 (KJV) Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked.
Rick Renner explained that
“The words “fiery darts” are from the Greek word belos. It referred to an arrow with its tip wrapped with fabric soaked in flammable fluids so it would burn with hot and angry flames. The famous Greek writer Thycidides used this Greek word belos to depict specially-made, long, slender arrows that outwardly looked harmless; however, the hollow interior of the arrow was filled with flammable fluids that, upon impact, exploded into a raging fire. This last arrow is most likely the picture that Paul had in his mind when he wrote about the “…fiery darts of the wicked.”
He continued:
“Often when the devil strikes, his attack looks inconsequential at first, like harmless little arrows that can do little damage. But when those arrows strike into the heart or emotions, they often explode and set human passions aflame, causing a minor issue to develop into a fierce, flaming situation. The damage done in such a moment is very serious — and all of it could have been avoided if the shield of faith had been held high and regularly doused in the water of the Word!”
In collusion, soak yourself in the word, it will render the arrows and missiles useless.
Three Promises Every Lover Needs. Every successful relationship and marriage should have promises and FULFILLMENT OF THOSE PROMISES regulating them. Every relationship should agree to these promises and then work at fulfilling them. Here they are.
Request that your partner read the commitments and reply with their decisions.
Every couple should be committed to one another. These agreements must be stated in writing, documented, and periodically reviewed with each other.
What are these commitments?
Eph 4:2 (AMPC) Living as becomes you ] with complete lowliness of mind (humility) and meekness (unselfishness, gentleness, mildness), with patience, bearing with one another and making allowances because you love one another.
Three Promises Every Lover Needs
1. My beloved, I will always adore you
It should be a commitment from the heart rather than just something you say to pass the time when you’re bored.
Love should be given without conditions.
Love is independent of attitudes, presumptions, and actions.
It is merely a made-up pledge from the heart, that you commit to all the days of your life.
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2. I won’t ever betray you
Your life and marriage will advance significantly as a result of this commitment.
By itself, adultery is lethal. It is a dumb sin since you are only working against yourself in the case of adultery.
Because of this, the Bible claims that an adulterer lacks insight and is just plain stupid. In Nigerian lingo, “person whey dey do adultery no get brain!
Proverbs 6:32 (MSG) Adultery is a brainless act, soul-destroying, self-destructive;
Three Promises Every Lover Needs
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3. I’ll be there for you spiritually
What a gift it is to be married to a spiritual partner! What a blessing to be mutually praying for one another. What a peace that surrounds you when you are covering one another in prayers and walking in love at all times!
May God grant you and your spouse or fiancee to do the above in Jesus’ name!
Today, many homes are broken because one spouse refuses to agree to the fundamentals of marriage.
This morning, I want to highlight four areas that every woman should concentrate on in order to keep her marriage strong with the help of the Holy Spirit.
1. Avoid acting as your family’s head
Anyone should be able to follow the way God ordained marriage since it is so straightforward. Avoid attempting to design your own system. Chaos and calamity are the results when divine order is violated. It’s only a matter of time before the marriage breaks down if you habitually and constantly reject your husband’s corrections.
1 Co 11:3 GNB. But I want you to understand that Christ is supreme over every man, the husband is supreme over his wife, and God is supreme over Christ.
This is not in the sense of dominance and oppression but in the sense of divine order. Do some husbands abuse this? yes! However, the scripture is what it is!
You are acting disobediently as a woman if you submit to your pastor but not to your spouse. According to the verses above, the husband is the wife’s head.
Four Things A Lady Shouldn’t Do
2. Never undervalue the effectiveness of prayer
Be a woman who prays. That automatically sidesteps some marital problems. Your prayers will keep certain things from trying to make an unsightly entrance. Pray instead of elaborating.
2 Co 2:11 KJV. Lest Satan should get an advantage of us. for we are not ignorant of his devices.
We are not supposed to be ignorant. We ought to be ahead at all times.
2 Co 2:11 MSG. After all, we don’t want to unwittingly give Satan an opening for yet more mischief–we’re not oblivious to his sly ways!
God gave every woman a womb so she may give birth in both the physical world and the spiritual world. Learn to trust God alone, not man, with everything. This is not to argue that men should not take the lead during family prayers. However, every wife should be an intercessor for her husband and vice versa.
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3. Avoid comparisons
2 Co 10:12 KJV. For we dare not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves. but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.
In terms of resources and social standing, we are all not on the same playing field. It is stupid to make comparisons with other people or families.
Focus on your home and live within your means.
2 Co 10:12b MSG. …But in all this comparing and grading and competing, they quite miss the point.
You, your husband, and your family are put under pressure by comparison. Depression may eventually result from it. So be grateful rather than comparing. Be thankful in your attitudes.
Four Things A Lady Shouldn’t Do
4. Be on the lookout for any type of affair
Emotional and physical affairs are two tried-and-true methods to destroy a family. Never, under any circumstances, succumb to the pressure to cheat on your husband. Avoid attempting to get revenge on him by betraying him. The results are genuinely unpleasant.
One negative aspect of adultery is that because it operates with consent, it invites other demonic forces to assault your house.
Keep your word to your hubby. Avoid romance at work.
Don’t give in to the need to talk about your marital difficulties with a male coworker who you know has a soft spot for you. That will lead to a trap for you.
In secret, sin thrives. Be approachable to your hubby. Locate a confidant mentor. When immorality is exposed, its influence is destroyed.
God’s peace be with you and your family. I dispel all of the raging storms in your family via the power of the Holy Spirit. I command: peace in your relationship and home in Jesus’ name!
1. Marriage and work are demanding. I don’t have time for God. God should understand
God desires that you prioritize him in your life. Everything else can be done later. Our God is a jealous God. God wants you to give Him what is His, regardless of how hard you feel it is to do that.
God should not be replaced with your business or profession. Every waking moment should be given back to God as a family. Make time when there is none to give to God.
2. Because I don’t know what my spouse is doing in my absence, I can also flirt a little.
This is nothing more than deception
Never allow the devil to control the way you think. The devil will take a mile from you if you give him even a single inch. Avoid making any kind of compromise. Put your spouse first. Don’t make it easy for the devil to harm your family. Don’t play pranks on marriage because it is a covenant.
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Four Toxic Beliefs You Should Expunge
3. In this marriage, it is tit for tat.
You don’t say things like I’ll show you. You will ‘be showing’ yourself since you are one in marriage. Yes, there will be disagreements, but you need to settle them swiftly and without delay to prevent the emergence of absurd ideas. If you and your spouse can’t communicate, you should first address the hurt before seeking God’s intervention.
Ask someone to whom you both submit for advice.
Four Toxic Beliefs You Should Expunge
4. I provide money; what more does my spouse need?
Cash is good. Although it is significant in a marriage, it shouldn’t take precedence over your family. Your wife requests your time and focus. Your kids require their father, you know. You must support your family, yes, but not at their price. You may organize a getaway, a retreat, etc. Just be sure to be present for your loved ones.
I’m praying for you this morning; right now, the mercies of God are resolving every issue in your home. God’s shalom surrounds your marriage. In the name of Jesus, there is restoration of all that is lost!
One cannot emphasize this enough. Prayers are crucial. When a family prays collectively, they stay together. The family that doesn’t pray as a unit will become the devil’s prey.
2. Avoid hanging out with coworkers or people who have been making overtures toward you.
What will you be doing at ungodly hours in a guesthouse with a person of the other sex? Although you are aware that this individual has been ‘eyeing’ you, you accept his or her invitation to ‘hang out’ in a hotel. Be honest with yourself. If you think you can’t manage it, stay away from such people and talk to your spouse about it. Openness kills the power of iniquity.
Five Things Couples Should Remember
3. Don’t empower your housekeeper with complete control.
Let her “assistance” be defined. Allowing your housekeeper to cook and serve your husband, regardless of her age, is reckless. What she wears inside the house and outside should be approved by you. Do not believe that because your husband is so spiritual, he will simply speak in tongues and solve all of the problems. What men see affects them. Your responsibility is to safeguard your spouse; it is not to trap him and then wait for him to bluff his way out.
4. When required, seek assistance.
The reality is that there are many issues that cannot be resolved all by yourself. Be vocal. Have mentors you can turn to occasionally.
Don’t die quietly. You might only need a few words from a reputable person to get out of that pickle. Leant to talk to trusted people.
Five Things Couples Should Remember
5. Flirting is identical to adultery
Don’t lag behind. Do not believe that because you are married, you have escaped. Put your spouse first. Enjoy your youthful wife or husband. Do not give attention to those designed to distract you. They will come in their numbers, but you must be smart to evade them prayerfully.
Five years into their marriage, Mr. and Mrs. Scott are both dissatisfied.
They both adore God, are born-again, and have a strong bond with one another.
But with time, that affection seems to have diminished. The affection they had shared seemed to vanish into thin air.
The butterflies that had gathered inside their stomachs to form the shape of love appeared to have left.
Mrs. Scott’s eyes, which had given her husband an adrenaline boost, now seemed to be the source of annoyance.
“I just love your eyeballs, they are heavenly,” became, “Please don’t stare at me so irritably!”
Mr. Scott’s broad shoulders, which used to make his wife’s knees buckle in adoration, no longer affect her. In fact, she feels that his chest is overly big. Does he believe that when he was conceived, “chests” were sold on earth?
What?
What took place? Well, soon after their wedding, The Scotts set out on a quest to transform one another.
They were singing the song into each other’s ears nonstop.
“You must change.”
“You are the cause of all the problems in this house.””If you could only change.”
Well, they remained the same.
And in a marriage, that is the truth you will inevitably encounter.
Lord, Change My Spouse Now!
If you anticipate a dramatic transformation in your spouse over night, you will be quite disappointed.
When either spouse is an unbeliever, that is another thing entirely. Change in that sense is possible and can be anytime.
However, it may take some time when it comes to habits, attitudes, and behavioral patterns.
Lord, Change My Spouse Now!
Patience
You’ll need to be patient, though! It takes some time.
Let’s say that when you got married, your partner was 25 years old.
It implies that for 25 years, he or she has been molded into a specific shape.
Expecting your spouse to change quickly after you preach to or lecture them will not result in any change within a few days of becoming married.
If you keep hoping for a speedy change, you can be let down.
1Co 13:4 (CEV) Love is kind and patient, never jealous, boastful, proud…
I believe that in marriages, you always learn what the virtue of “long-suffering” really means.
In a marriage, arguments will always arise. When it comes to marriage, contrasting opinions are nothing new. You and your husband have different personalities and have operated in various ways for the previous years. To seek to change your partner to become more like you is akin to trying to chew stones.
If you expect your spouse to be like you, you will simply squash their initiatives. Since it is not likely to happen, you should make the necessary adjustments and appreciate your spouse’s divergent viewpoint.
Your marriage will experience the least amount of conflict if you and your spouse are aware of this reality.
Here are some tips to help you stop fighting in your marriage:
A Marriage With Less Conflict
1. Recognize your spouse’s personality
Knowing your spouse’s temperament makes it simpler to connect with them. You don’t dispute with a choleric, for instance. You must concede defeat to the choleric. Either wait till a suitable time or pray about the circumstance.
2. Determine the significance of the topic you are debating
It is not worthwhile to argue over anything if it is not important. Some issues are better left undebated, in order to avoid conflict.
3. Improve your communication skills
Life is communication. You must master this skill, and master it well. Keep talking in your marriage. Do all it takes to sustain healthy conversations.
A Marriage With Less Conflict
4. Develop a tolerance for offense
Separate the person from the issues. The fact that your spouse is expressing a different viewpoint from yours does not imply that they don’t like you. Differential opinions should not result in hatred and irritation.
5. Your spouse will benefit greatly from hearing your opinions.
Consider your partner’s healthy self-esteem. One day, you’ll need their diverse perspectives on issues. Don’t silence your spouse. Their self-esteem and confidence are destroyed when you shut them up all the time.
6. Speak your mind in a sensible, collected, and encouraging manner.
Give your husband the power to make the final choice. Do not feel that your opinion was ignored and that you should refrain from offering your opinion in the future.
It is crucial for ladies to pray for their husbands’ wisdom, insight, and fear of the Lord because of this.
How You Can Rise Above Perversion. Tope sobbed bitterly as she described her story because of what she had gone through. Despite having grown up in a godly household, she ended up living a strange lifestyle. She was simply unable to believe it. She previously decried and strongly resisted this way of life, but sadly, she fell victim to what she detested. She detested this way of life, yet she was unable to give it up. She caught herself in prostitution for cash. She disliked the way of life, but she adored the cash.
Dele is a womanizer. He came from an affluent family, so he lured unwary women in with his money. He tried to stop, but he was unable to. His resolve to stop would not hold. He was unaware that the spirits of mammon and depravity were controlling him.
Pastor Johnson is a young man=. He is chosen, appointed, and called. He still doesn’t know how he got started compromising. He leads people to his room who he is supposed to lead to Christ. Johnson is anointed, but he is also bound by a religious mentality, believing that God must be endorsing his way of life based on the ‘result’ and the anointing he possesses. He has no idea that he is a walking corpse!
How You Can Rise Above Perversion
In the same way, pornography, masturbation, lesbianism, homosexuality, and other sexual perversions are practiced by some of God’s children.
Today I present to you God’s message. God is not angry with you, nor does he condemn you! But He would not tolerate any sin! Is there any reason He wants you to lose your soul? No! This is due to the ultimate price that has been paid on your behalf!
Heb 13:5 AMP. ‘Let your character or moral disposition be free from love of money [including greed, avarice, lust, and craving for earthly possessions] and be satisfied with your present [circumstances and with what you have]; for He [God] Himself has said, I will not in any way fail you nor give you up nor leave you without support. [I will] not, [I will] not, [I will] not in any degree leave you helpless nor forsake nor let [you] down (relax My hold on you)! [Assuredly not!]’
What you should understand is that the spirits of mammon and perversion are working in tandem. That is why the prostitute gives her body in exchange for money, the man gives his money in exchange for a lady, the student offers her body in exchange for money for school fees, the young man sleeps with older women in exchange for money, and so on.
The scripture teaches that you should allow your character or moral inclination to be free of a love of money [including greed, avarice, lust, and yearning for earthly riches] and content with your current [circumstances and possessions];
How You Can Rise Above Perversion
Never let greed or a desire for money dictate your life’s emphasis. Is it wise to obtain all the money and then lose your soul?
God won’t let you down! He won’t abandon you. He won’t abandon you. Don’t make yourself into a disposable item passed from man to man and from bed to bed for financial gain! Embrace your own worth. Count on him and respect his word. Refuse the operations of the spirit of deceit!
There is no topic in marriage about which God does not provide suitable answers or directions. The same can be said about the problem of forgiveness in marriage.
Marriage is the place where you will be most upset or irritated, and where you will feel the most pressure to get even with your spouse.
Marriage is impossible apart from God, His Holy Spirit, and His word. That is why prayer and declaring God’s word are so essential. We must be willing to follow God’s word exactly.
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How to Forgive Your Partner and Move On
The Bible is quite clear and unequivocal on forgiveness.
Forgiveness is the act of letting go of something that has profoundly injured you, releasing it from your heart and all the negative emotions linked with it, and moving on.
Marriage should include many moving-on moments. Unfortunately, many couples do not seem to be able to move past this; they appear to be stuck in this rot. An unforgiving spirit is a killer of marital peace, joy, growth, and productivity.
If you have difficulty forgiving someone, especially your spouse, you must seek solutions, identify the main cause, and pray for God to heal you, release your soul, and restore you.
How to Forgive Your Partner and Move On
An unforgiving spirit can manifest itself in subtle or explosive ways. I used to have difficulty forgiving my spouse because I was so upset, and it was difficult for me to let go of the small and large things that hurt me.
Let us examine the verses that encourage and teach us to forgive.
Mar 11:25-26 And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses. But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses.
Jesus stated it once more;
Luk 6:37 Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven:
Consider these scriptures and accept them into your life. The word has the power to change your life. After a while, forgiveness becomes simpler to come by, to the point that it becomes second nature.
I Have No More Feelings For My Lover. I’m no longer in love with my spouse! No more feelings!
It’s okay, it’s not an issue!
The reality is that the “giz giz” sentiments you felt when you first met your partner are fleeting.
Nothing is as volatile as emotions.
So you’re married and it appears like your affections have faded?
It is not an issue.
It only becomes a problem, and a potentially deadly one, when you begin to seek new “feelings” outside of your marriage.
I Have No More Feelings For My Lover
While feelings may not always be present, one thing that must always be continuous and present is commitment!
Be committed to your partner, regardless of your sentiments.
As long as you stay dedicated, the sensations will return.
Never look for sentiments outside of your own home.
That will not make God happy.
Decide to ONLY FOCUS on your partner.
Every other appeal is a trap designed to tire you out, drain your marital and spiritual energies, distract you, and cause you to forfeit God’s benefits.
That young lady you’ve developed feelings for is a hellish orchestration designed to appeal to and feed your weakness, finally rendering you “unblessed!”
Be prudent.
Don’t let yourself or your family down this year.
That polite and “understanding” coworker or guy is a magnificent plot from Satan to derail your walk with God, and your work on earth, and transform grace into humiliation.
Be astute.
I Have No More Feelings For My Lover
Make “hard” demands on yourself.
Accepting doubtful and unneeded presents from men will weaken your willpower, dim your logic, and confuse your soul.
I am hoping for your continued strength!
Make a decision.
Consider this a litmus test.
Is there anything you’re keeping from your spouse? Are you “reporting” your spouse to your parents, friends, and colleagues, and your spouse has no idea? That indicates a problem that must be addressed.
Make a promise to hide nothing, yes, nothing from your spouse, and you will be shocked at how free and blessed you will become!
Pray, pray, and pray some more. It is more than just religious advice. It is a tried and true method that has worked for many years. When a guy prays for his wife, he grows closer to God and relieves his wife of stress.
This also works perfectly in a courtship situation! Pray a lot for your lover! My spouse and I prayed a lot together while we were students at the University and this helped us a lot!
When a man realizes that his wife lacks certain virtues, he should turn to prayer. No amount of pestering will change that. No amount of lecturing will persuade her otherwise.
Only God can transform our marriages into what He intended them to be, and prayer is one of the routes through which God accomplishes it.
When you pray, you bring God into the picture and give him the authority to accomplish whatever He wants with your marriage.
Eph 5:25-28 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
It is the husband’s obligation to ensure that his wife becomes everything God intended her to be.
As a wife, request that your husband pray for you. Request that he places his hands on you and speaks words into your life. He doesn’t have to be a pastor to bless you!
It makes you naturally submissive and allows the spouse to serve as the priest God has called him to be.
It will also help to reduce constant squabbles. You can’t expect someone who is battling with you to always pray for you.
Make it a point to pray for your lover or spouse, and you will see the transformation that God will bring.
Life as a married couple is extremely demanding and requires a lot of wisdom.
There are many areas you should focus on as couples. This morning, I will be identifying just a few of these areas as we all make up our minds to work on our marriages. Singles should learn from this too as a preparation for their wedding.
Pay attention to these details, and your marriage will flourish.
Focus On These Areas In Marriage
1. You should never make your partner feel threatened.
Marriage is a collaboration, not a boss-bondmaid relationship. Nobody is better or worse than anyone else.
Learn to value one another as human beings first. The husband is the head of the household, but it does not make him superior.
The wife is to submit but that does not mean she should be muted and silenced in the home.
Husbands must come into that place of maturity to give wings to their wives to fly while wives must learn to be a help meet indeed by fully submitting to their wives and respecting them.
Focus On These Areas In Marriage
2. Never allow for adultery or infidelity.
It is never worth it, no matter how much you are tempted. Adultery will always be regarded as a dumb sin.
Extramarital affairs are frequently extremely expensive. Nothing compares to the cost of shattered trust.
Stay together and eliminate every emotional interference.
3. Never deny each other.
Don’t deprive your spouse of the enjoyment God intended for sex in marriage. Try various styles. Proper hygiene is also essential.
On the other hand, singles are to keep their bodies under and not indulge in sexual compromise.
The biblical instruction remains the same, sex should be kept till after the wedding! God is not about to change that injunction!
Focus On These Areas In Marriage
4. Maintaining secrets in a marriage is a dead end.
It is likely that you withhold certain sensitive subjects from your spouse for a better time. But no secrets, please. Be open and be transparent with one another. Whatever is covered never heals, and moreover, if your partner had to discover themselves, the trust would have been broken.
If this has happened once, forgive and move on but learn from it!
The Bible instructs us to judge ourselves so that we are not judged. In other words, judge yourself always!
According to the Bible,
1Co 11:31 For if we would judge ourselves, we should not be judged.
So, in a practical sense, let us utilize yardsticks to evaluate ourselves.
1. How has my prayer and devotional life been?
This, to a considerable measure, decides your connection with God. Have you remained consistent? If you haven’t already, you should make new promises to do so.
If you want your relationship with your lover to be successful, you must first fall in love with God! That’s a lot of wisdom for you!
The Judge and The Judged Of Your Love Life
2. Have I been walking in love?
You are a person. You’ve got toes. There are other people. They have unintentionally stepped on your lovely toes. However, you must forgive and go on.
Do you have somebody on your unforgiving list? You must let go. Don’t allow someone to stymie your spiritual development, since an unforgiving attitude will.
What fresh things have they done for you? How much pain have they inflicted on you that Jesus did not experience? Do you realize the devil fights those he fears? Don’t you realize it’s your fantastic future that’s at stake? What if your family threw you into the pit? What if your family led you to become a houseboy/housegirl? Joseph went through all that!
Forgive and let go, my dear. You will have better days ahead of you. Refuse to be sour. If you do not forgive, your heavenly Father will not forgive you, according to Jesus.
The Judge and The Judged Of Your Love Life
3. Have I been compromising?
You occasionally lose your balance. As long as it is a mistake, God makes allowances. Perpetual sin will destroy you. If it was only a mistake, you should seek God for forgiveness and move on.
If you find yourself repeating the same sin over and over, it’s time to put a stop to it. You can’t go on like this. In the name of the Lord, I implore you to make a decision to stop today! Divorce that life on iniquity, disconnect from that bond of iniquity, and decide to live for God!
He does not call the qualified. I was a naive nineteen-year-old when God called me, and I did nothing about it until a few years later when I was graduating from high school. Is God asking you to perform anything that appears to be beyond your abilities? That is how it is!
2. God will speak with you in a pattern.
Study that pattern and pay attention to what He says. God speaks in snippets, as much as you can handle at one moment. As a result, always document.
3. Do not be in a hurry.
When God speaks to you, you are burdened. There is a burden of preparation and a burden of performance. When you try to perform when you should be preparing, you may fail.
4. Be calm when leaving a ministry or church, regardless of how you believe you have been treated.
Be prudent. David never retaliated. He was knowledgeable in his behavior. Do not backbite or gossip. Maintain your cleanliness.
Called Or Sense of Calling?
5. It is folly for you to go up against a man of God who has multiple branches or a stronger ministerial standing than you do.
His many branches can absorb all the conflict for a while, but your new work may not.
6. What do you do when you are enraged by some people in the ministry?
The most stupid thing you can do is start gossiping and spreading your pain. That is what your flesh desires, but it is not what the scripture recommends.
7. So, what are you going to do?
You pray for that individual or people in the Holy Spirit. Intercede on their behalf and sincerely ask God to bless them. The bitterness will fade, and the devil’s plan will fail.
8. Never go anywhere without a spiritual covering.
It’s like a baby who wants to go out without his or her birth parents. It is virtually impossible.
Called Or Sense of Calling?
9. Israel is divided into twelve tribes.
There are tribes in ministry, but no tribalism. Find your tribe or spiritual ancestry since that is where your legacy resides. You will always thrive when you are in the proper company. You can’t be friends with everyone. Do not let your attention wander.
10. Avoid spending time with persons who oppose your calling.
Words are like spirits. There are tongue slanderers. Be an avid reader. Be adaptable while being steadfast.
God’s word is potent. Keep nourishing your inner man with, books, messages, and church sermons. Your life’s success depends on studying God’s word regularly.
And don’t for a minute let this Book of The Revelation be out of mind. Ponder and meditate on it day and night, making sure you practice everything written in it. Then you’ll get where you’re going; then you’ll succeed. (Joshua 1:8 Message)
God’s word can solve some of your frustrations as singles. Do you realize that studying God’s word can solve some of your biggest questions?
Do you know that God’s word can unravel your deepest mysteries? Do you know God’s word may reveal hidden things that were inconceivable?
All things were made by him; and without him was not any thing made that was made. (John 1:3 KJV)
God’s word will do these in your relationships and Marriage.
The Word In Your Marriage
1. It will erase your past!
The anointed word of God will erase your past! Jesus sacrificed himself for you, which is nearly inconceivable.
Never let the past hold you hostage. You’re free. Today, your past mistakes cannot hold you down!
2. It will give you hope.
After forgiving and forgetting, God’s word will offer you hope. Hope is essential to receiving God’s fullness. Suddenly, hope arises in your heart!
The Word In Your Marriage
3. God’s word will instill victory.
God’s message inspires faith. Faith grows as you hear and read God’s word. Why faith? Faith wins in God!
For whatsoever is born of God overcometh the world:and this is the victory that overcometh the world, even our faith. (1 John 5:4 KJV)
See Message Translation:
Every God–begotten person conquers the world’s ways. The conquering power that brings the world to its knees is our faith. (1 John 5:4 Message)
See that? God’s word-based faith can topple the world and its institutions! Praise God!
4. God’s word will illuminate your path
Direction can be rigorous. The good life is about good judgments. Relying on God to choose a spouse overcomes your human imperfections in marriage because an assurance that God is involved will make forgiveness easy.
5. The Bible will stabilize your marriage.
Embracing God’s word will help you identify good and bad people. Relationships require steadiness. Marriages need God’s help.
You need divine knowledge to avoid divorce and separation.
And wisdom and knowledge shall be the stability of thy times, and strength of salvation: the fear of the Lord is his treasure. (Isaiah 33:6 KJV)
May God grant you honor on your wedding day! May honor attend to you throughout your marriage.
So, what’s the deal with honor?
Whatever it is, doesn’t it sound good?
Let’s look at the Bible.
1Sa 2:30b (KJV) but now the LORD saith, Be it far from me; for them that honour me I will honour, and they that despise me shall be lightly esteemed.
The scripture is unequivocal in this regard.
God said, “Honor me, and I will honor you; despise me, and I will lightly regard you.”
Let’s look at another translation for clarity.
1Sa 2:30b (GW) “…I will honor those who honor me, and those who despise me will be considered insignificant.
It indicates that if you do not honor God, you will be deemed insignificant!
That sounds like “ouch!”
The best bet is to just decide to honor God.
So, how do you honor God in your relationship?
Here is one way to do that.
Honour Him in your devotion.
Prioritizing God honors God in your devotion. Do not be careless with your devotion to God. On a daily basis, honor Him in your prayer periods. The key to success is consistency.
Pro 8:17 (KJV) I love them that love me; and those that seek me early shall find me.
Let us now look to the Passion Translation:
Pro 8:17 (TPT) I will show my love to those who passionately love me. For they will search and search continually until they find me.
As you pursue God in your devotion on a daily basis, as The Passion translation states, God will honor you in return.
How do I know?
His word is unbreakable!
I pray for you this morning, that God will honor you. In Jesus’ name, God will see you as significant.
As you honour Him, God will honor you back on your wedding day and throughout your marriage!
Being Still In A Marriage Love is a wonderful thing when two hearts beat in unison. It is even more powerful when the couple has learnt how to be still!
I’ll be writing about being still today. If you wish to experience God’s majesty and greatness, you must learn to be still. Not necessarily in terms of inaction, but of being silent and admitting God’s lordship. Recognizing that He is Lord of all or Lord of none, and giving Him the proper place He deserves.
The Bible says in Psalm 46:10 KJV, Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth.’
I really like the Passion translation (TPT). It says, ‘Surrender your anxiety! Be silent and stop your striving and you will see that I am God. I am the God above all the nations, and I will be exalted throughout the whole earth.’
Being Still In A Marriage
If you want to see and experience God in your marriage, you must let go of your worries and efforts and be calm. I’m not sure what the problem is in your marriage. You’ve been striving and worrying for far too long. You cannot resolve the challenges in your marriage on your own.
Be still today, recognize, and understand that God is Lord. How do you become still?
Through worship and adoration With thankfulness and a glad heart Through the study of the Bible and meditation Declaring the word or making a confession By walking in the spirit. By following His directions.
Being Still In A Marriage
You can start accepting Him as Lord today in your finances, health, misunderstandings with your spouse, every thorny issue with your husband, in-law, children, and so on.
There is a time and season for things to break forth in the spirit realm. When the breakthrough happens in the spirit realm then there will a breakthrough on the earth.
I pray to God to provide us with the necessary strength. In Jesus’ name, God bless your marriage.
