Why He’s Not Putting a Ring on It

Why He’s Not Putting a Ring on It

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Why He’s Not Putting a Ring on It

This devotional is for singles and married! 

The other day, I was talking our first son and his best friend, and my question was “When are you guys getting married? Both of them just smiled and replied with an expression like, “Marriage? Who is thinking of that?” When I was my son’s age, I was already “toasting” Pastor Sophia! 

Why do guys hesitate today? Why does it seem marriage is the last thing on their mind?

Let’s dive into this this morning. 

The world today is a fast-paced world, where instant gratification is often a click away, but relationships and marriage seem to be following a different timeline! 

This phenomenon has sparked curiosity and, at times, frustration among young ladies wanting to walk down the aisle. So, why are guys taking their sweet time to commit or walk down the aisle? 


Did you miss yesterday’s devotional? Read it below!


1. Individualism and Career Goals

The young man today is fiercely independent, valuing personal growth and career ambitions. Many young men are delaying marriage to focus on establishing themselves professionally and financially. This may nit be unconnected that there is “hunger” in the land! Building a career before building a home resonates strongly. For married couples, ensure there is a balance between you career and home! Family comes first! 

2. Perfect Timing

The concept of “perfect timing” is another factor contributing to the delay. Guys are more attuned to the idea of timing in their lives, often waiting for the perfect moment when all stars align – career stability, emotional readiness, and finding the ideal partner. This pursuit of the perfect scenario can lead to postponements in making significant relationship milestones.

After wedding, ask married couples, three will be more responsibilities, but this also makes you to sit up and harness every grace and opportunities available to take care of your family! 

I will stop here today! Watch out for the second part tomorrow! 




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Lord, Deliver Me From Me!

Lord, Deliver Me From Me!

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Lord, Deliver Me From Me!

We live in a world of constant noise – pings from social media, pressure to keep up with the latest trends, and an unrelenting expectation to be everything to everyone. It’s easy to get lost in that chaos, losing sight of who we truly are. Whether you’re single or married, there’s one prayer that strikes a chord deep within: “Lord, Deliver Me From Me.”

Psa 139:23 (MSG) Investigate my life, O God, find out everything about me; Cross-examine and test me, get a clear picture of what I’m about;

We’ve all been there, staring at our reflection, wondering why we can’t just be a little more like this or a little less like that. In our pursuit of perfection, we become our own harshest critics and biggest roadblocks. But here’s a liberating truth: It’s okay not to have it all figured out. It’s okay to be a work in progress, constantly evolving and growing.

For the singles out there, society often makes it seem like you’re on a ticking clock, that you need to have your life mapped out with a fairy-tale ending. But guess what? Your worth isn’t tied to your relationship status. Your journey is uniquely yours, and it’s not a race against anyone else. Praying “Lord, deliver me from me” is a powerful way to let go of those self-imposed pressures and anxieties. It’s about asking God to help you embrace your singleness as a season of growth, discovery, and self-love. Being single isn’t a waiting room for happiness; it’s a chapter where you get to write the rules, discover your passions, and build an unshakable relationship with yourself and God.

Now’s your golden chance to dive into what makes you tick, explore new hobbies, and figure out your dreams – just you, no plus one needed. Use this solo time to get tight with God, finding out who you are in His eyes, which is pretty amazing and so much bigger than just being someone’s other half. Don’t just solo it; build your tribe of friends, family, and mentors – these connections are priceless. Got goals? Now’s the time to chase them down, whether it’s your career or learning something new. And most importantly, take care of your heart and mind, and find joy in your own company.

For the married folks, this prayer is equally potent. Marriage is a beautiful dance of togetherness and individuality, but it’s easy to lose yourself in the duo. “Lord, deliver me from me” is a heartfelt plea to maintain your essence while being an integral part of a union. It’s about asking for the grace to grow together without losing sight of who you are as individuals. It’s a prayer for patience, understanding, and the strength to be your partner’s ally, not their adversary. Remember, your marriage is as unique as a fingerprint, and there’s no one-size-fits-all formula. Embrace your journey, with all its twists and turns, and know that it’s okay to be imperfectly perfect.

Just because you’re hooked doesn’t mean you vanish into the “we” – keep that awesome “you” shining bright. Picture your marriage like a bike ride; you both get to steer and enjoy the view. Living with your lover means patience is your new best friend. Think of your spouse as your co-conspirator in this adventure of life, not the opponent you need to outwit or outlast. Embrace the one-of-a-kind life you two are living together, and enjoy it!

Whether you’re single or married, young or old, the prayer “Lord, Deliver Me From Me” is a powerful reminder that we’re not alone in our struggles. It’s an acknowledgment that sometimes, the person we need to be delivered from is ourselves. So, let’s take a deep breath and step into this journey with open hearts. Let’s be kind to ourselves, embrace our flaws, and celebrate our victories, no matter how small. After all, life isn’t about having all the answers; it’s about trusting the One who does. Remember, you’re not alone. We’re all in this together, learning, growing, and finding our way. And in those moments when you feel overwhelmed, just whisper that simple yet profound prayer, “Lord, Deliver Me From Me,” and watch as peace fills your heart and guides your steps.




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5 Golden Tips for Singles and Married

5 Golden Tips for Singles and Married

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5 Golden Tips for Singles and Married

If all singles and married couples can master these 5 points, there will be fewer issues in their relationships. These are just the basic things; if you walk with the Holy Spirit, He will tell you how to tailor things to meet your specific needs in time.

He is the best companion ever in relationships and marriage. He knows what you and your partner need and knows exactly what wisdom to use and how to navigate the complex issues and nature of your relationship and marriage.

Here are the 5 tips:

  1. Master communication.

As a single, have conversations that reveal your true self and encourage the other person to do the same. Your conversations are for connection, not just surface talk. For married couples, keep communication lines open and honest. Share your feelings, dreams, and fears without reservations. Your conversations are to deepen your connection, ensuring both of you feel heard and understood.

  1. Understand yourself

As a single, be clear on who you are and what you want. What makes you happy. Be clear about your non-negotiable. This clarity will help you in finding and keeping the one person with whom you can truly do life together. As a couple, keep growing. Personal growth is essential to the health of your marriage. Also, encourage each other’s ambitions and passions.

  1. Handle Conflicts Smartly

As singles, know that disagreements are a part of your journey. If conflict arises, tackle it with maturity and understanding, knowing that it’s not about winning the argument but respecting your differences. As couples, see disagreements as a means to get to know each other better. Work at solving conflicts to benefit the relationship and not just the individual.

  1. Cherish and value your independence.

As a single, embrace and enjoy your single life, pursue your passions and interests, have friends outside your relationship. As couples, maintain personal interests and do things you enjoy. This contributes to a more healthy and vibrant relationship, which allows both partners to bring fresh experiences and insights into the marriage.

  1. Align your goals.

As a single, nurture the vision you share together for the future, whatever it is. Being on the same wavelength can prevent a lot of heartache eventually. As a couple, constantly check if your goals and dreams are still in sync. As you grow, so do your dreams. Ensuring that you are still heading in the same direction strengthens your bond and makes your journey together fulfilling and exciting.

God bless you.




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Buddy and Stella: The Listening Couple

Buddy and Stella: The Listening Couple

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Buddy and Stella: The Listening Couple

Once upon a time, in a bustling city filled with bright lights and fast-paced lives, there lived a young couple named Buddy and Stella.

They were deeply in love and committed to building a relationship grounded in understanding and connection.

One evening, as they sat on the rooftop of their house, Stella shared her dreams and aspirations with Buddy. 

Instead of merely hearing her words, Buddy decided to listen truly. He put away his phone, looked into Stella’s eyes, and let her pour out her heart. He nodded, smiled, and used his body language to show he was fully present and engaged.

When Stella finished speaking, Buddy took a moment to gather his thoughts. He summarized and rephrased what she had shared, ensuring he understood her correctly. 

Stella’s face lit up with excitement. She felt truly seen and understood by Buddy’s active listening. It made her feel valued and cherished, knowing that he was genuinely interested in her passions and dreams.

They delved into conversations about life, faith, and their shared purpose. Questions like, “What impact do you hope to make in the world?” and “What are your wildest dreams and how can I support you in achieving them?” became the fuel for their connection.

In moments of vulnerability, they acknowledged each other’s emotions, just as Jesus did with compassion and understanding. 

When Buddy faced setbacks in his career, Stella listened without judgment, providing a safe space for him to express his frustrations. And when Stella experienced self-doubt in her emotions, Buddy offered unwavering support and reminded her of her inner strength! 

Most importantly, Buddy and Stella learned to avoid interruptions and assumptions. They realized that true understanding required patience and the willingness to hear each other out completely. They were quick to listen and slow to speak, just as the Scriptures advised.

Their love story continued to flourish as they embraced the art of radical listening. Their relationship became a haven of trust, where they could freely express themselves and find solace in the other’s understanding. 

They discovered that active listening was the key to unlocking a love that transcends generations—a love that speaks the language of the heart and nurtures the souls of both singles and couples.

And so, their love story continues to inspire others, reminding them of the power of radical listening. This power can ignite flames of love and understanding in the hearts of a generation yearning for authentic connection.

For Singles:

  1. Are you actively practicing radical listening in your friendships and potential romantic relationships? How can you incorporate the principles of active listening into your interactions?
  2. What are your deepest passions, dreams, and aspirations? How can you find someone who will truly listen and support you in pursuing those dreams?
  3. Reflecting on your past relationships, were there instances where active listening could have made a positive difference? How can you improve your listening skills in future relationships?

For Couples:

  1. How well do you currently practice active listening in your relationship? Are there areas where you can improve to foster deeper understanding and connection?
  2. What open-ended questions can you ask your partner to foster meaningful conversations and explore each other’s dreams and aspirations?
  3. How do you acknowledge and validate each other’s emotions in moments of vulnerability? Are there any specific ways you can enhance your empathy and support for each other?

For Singles and Couples:

  1. Reflecting on the story, what is one action you can take today to become a more active and empathetic listener in your relationships?
  2. How can you create intentional moments of undistracted listening with your partner or potential partner?
  3. Are there any assumptions or interruptions that you need to be more mindful of in your communication? How can you practice being quick to listen and slow to speak?

Good morning!




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5 Timeless Relationship and Marriage Secrets 

5 Timeless Relationship and Marriage Secrets 

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5 Timeless Relationship and Marriage Secrets 

1. Patience and Kindness

Based on 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast.” 

Your lover or spouse will test your patience! Just telling you ahead! 

Throughout a relationship, there are times when you’ll need patience and times you’ll need grace to acknowledge each other’s kindness. 

Patience and kindness are the strings that bind all your excesses together, helping you through every uphill and making it easier to celebrate every high. 

It encourages couples to appreciate each other’s gifts, navigate through each other’s flaws with understanding, and dig in with care.

2. Love and Keep Loving 

Each One of You Also Must Love His Wife as He Loves Himself, and the Wife Must Respect Her Husband.

Ephesians 5:33 encourages wives and husbands to respect each other, which is the essence of mutual admiration and understanding.

When you respect each other, you create a safe environment for your love to grow. You can disagree with respect, appreciate your partner’s opinions, feelings, and well-being, forming a strong base for any relationship.

When you understand this, you will be able love and keep loving! 

3. Practice forgiveness

Colossians 3:13 reminds us, “Bear with each other and forgive one another; if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” 

The power of forgiveness allows relationships to heal, grow, and mature, building a foundation of trust. Grudges create barriers to love; forgiveness breaks them down and creates a bridge to the other person, a bridge to the heart.

My dear couple, avoid strife like a plague! You don’t want to dine with strife in any way! 

4. Be honest and transparent

What is the foundation of all relationships? Proverbs 24:26 says, “An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips.” 

Honest communication is the lifeline of relationships. It builds trust, dissipates misunderstandings, and gives partners a clearer path. 

When we love another person, we need to know that in their love for us, they will be honest, and we can be honest with them. Then, the lines of communication are truly open!

Be sincere! You really don’t want to be caught in the web of deception! 

5. God cannot be wrong!

She was intelligent, ambitious, and the love of your life. You were intelligent, ambitious, and the love of her life. God was involved. In the journey of your unfolding relationship, keep referring to the encounter you had with God before you married your spouse! That will stabilise you and remove all doubts!

These five Biblical pieces of advice can help you and your partner enrich your relationship and build a loving, respectful union that can stand the test of time and flourish in times of joy and challenge. 

Whether you’re navigating the early stages of love or seeking to rekindle the flame in a long-term relationship, these timeless teachings will help you in your relationship or marriage.




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