Alright, we have been looking at couple combinations in the past few days!
We are looking at a peculiar combination today! We know that opposites attract, but with a few exceptions, we often have couples of the same temperament and tendencies getting married.
This is why we are looking at these combinations to know how couples can manage themselves.
A quiet husband and a quiet wife! Wow!
Their marriage will be a peaceful one, at least in a general sense, but this does not mean there won’t be underlying conflicts and tantrums.
Both of them are not vocal, so there is a high tenacity that they bottle things up, go through the motions to avoid issues and never tell themselves the truth.
Here is the second part of this couple combination.
A vocal husband, vocal wife combination will need a lot of wisdom and tact to survive in their marriage. If they don’t manage their personalities well, a crash is imminent.
Here are a few areas they need to work on.
Their anger.
I gave an example of Simeon and Levi yesterday! Their sister was raped in a particular city and because of that, they got angry and wiped off a whole city of all males and cattle!
Why did they go to that extent? They were two angry brothers. Their anger was referred to as instruments of cruelty. They went to that extent because both of them were angry at the same time!
Now, a vocal husband and a vocal wife cannot afford to be angry simultaneously! The house will be in flames!
This morning, we are looking at an explosive combination, probably the most volcanic of couple types!
Vocal Husband, Vocal Wife!
What?
As uncommon as it could be, this coupling type exists!
Well, Pastor, you said opposites attract, so what happened in this scenario?
Well, there is every possibility they started as vocal and quiet, but as time goes on, the other quiet spouse adopted being vocal as a coping mechanism with a vocal spouse!
This person assumes the only way they can survive in that marriage is to match their spouse, word for word, trouble for trouble, and vice for vice!
Couple Types: Vocal Husband, Vocal Wife
This type of couple is very explosive, they fear one another, and the house is usually one of shouting matches.
The spouses are unwilling to give in to one another. There is no mutual submission and any form of submission is seen as a sign of weakness on their part.
In some cases, they get violent with each other and sometimes destroy things!
This type of couple is sitting on a gunpowder and it is a matter of time before it explodes on their faces.
They are both angry and volatile with their emotions.
I am sure you remember the case of Simeon and Levi .
Gen 49:5-6 (KJV) Simeon and Levi are brethren; instruments of cruelty are in their habitations. [6] O my soul, come not thou into their secret; unto their assembly, mine honour, be not thou united: for in their anger they slew a man, and in their selfwill they digged down a wall.
Two angry people in a marriage is never recommended!
In the Amplified version, it says
Gen 49:5 (AMPC) Simeon and Levi are brothers [equally headstrong, deceitful, vindictive, and cruel]; their swords are weapons of violence. [Gen 34:25-29]
Note the word, EQUALLY! No marriage can survive where the couple is equally vocal, vindictive, troublesome, and angry!
For this marriage to survive, they have to be willing to die to their flesh and sacrifice for one another.
To be continued tomorrow.
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We have been looking at couple types and we looked at vocal husband and quiet wife. We started looking at quiet husband vocal wife yesterday and we will delve into Part 2 today.
The quiet husband, though inexpressive is like a pillar of strength for the family. He is the definition of strength, without noise. He has this quiet noiseless faith that can get the job done without much noise.
However, his weaknesses also come to the fore because he can be withdrawn, and secretive and can make decisions without informing his spouse.
The quiet husband will often struggle with the need for validation because his quiet nature presents the picture of a weak husband in the light of societal expectations. He has to learn to appreciate his uniqueness while also working on his extreme reservation.
The immediate challenge is that he is married to a wife who is vocal and who enjoys talking chatting, babbling, and everything in between.
His quietude will be seen by his wife as a deliberate neglect of her needs. She is emotional, so she can hardly understand why she can talk and her husband won’t talk.
It becomes even more intense if the husband can get chatty with his friends but won’t talk chattily with his wife.
The husband must learn to talk because his wife will never understand his reservations, The vocal wife must learn to talk less because her husband won’t understand why she can’t keep her mouth shut.
Incidentally, if the husband begins to talk a lot and the wife shuts up too much, we will have even more crises. So, what is needed is actually for them to be balanced in their relationships with one another.
They must love and accept one another’s personalities and then begin to work together to improve their communication. Marriage is a place of sacrifice! So they both need to sacrifice “This-is-me” syndrome and seek to please the other person!
The goal is peace and tranquility without strife in the home and guess what,? It is very possible!
Good morning!
Have a fantastic week ahead of you!
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Hello, people of God. We started looking at different couple types and we have seen vocal husband and quiet wife. Today we will quickly look at the quiet husband and the vocal wife. When we have this combination, there are some peculiarities to be expected.
The quiet husband usually has a phlegmatic temperament and because opposite attracts like I always say, he is likely to attract somebody opposite his temperament, maybe a choleric or a Sanguine. So what do we have here?
At any provocation, because the wife is the vocal one she goes into a lot of babbling and rattling which of course the husband doesn’t like.
The vocal wife talks when she’s happy and when she’s unhappy, she talks when she’s friendly and she also talks when she is angry. She draws her fulfillment from talking.
We see a lot of frustration for her because the husband is not the talking type. So most of the time, she has nobody to talk to which makes her unfulfilled.
In this case, we usually see a situation where she becomes a gossip because her husband doesn’t enjoy talking.
The husband has to learn to move away from his quietude and learn to talk to his wife so that there can be some fulfillment for the vocal wife. Also, the wife has to bridle her mouth so that she doesn’t get on his nerves all the time. Of course, we also know that respect is a major issue for a man, and when a wife talks a lot, especially angrily, that comes as disrespect to the man.
The man also has to be careful not to mute his wife completely otherwise there won’t be peace in that particular home. So a lot of balance and maturity are needed in that particular family.
To be continued!
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