Sticking To Your Spouse

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There is a state of heart that makes every spouse stick to each other. It is having an understanding that your relationship is a covenant relationship.

A covenant relationship is based on the principle of ’till death do us part’. A relationship that should only be severed by death. Through thick and thin we stick together.

A lot of couples give up on their marriage and on their spouses too soon. Yes, I am not saying it will be easy and Yes, there are some cases, where it becomes practically impossible to stick together.

As couples, when you get married you are saying, “Your God shall be my God, your people shall be my people”

Ruth understands this covenant relationship.

Every covenant relationship will be tested, just as the relationship between Ruth and Naomi was tested.

The benefit of the covenant of marriage is only enjoyed by those who stick to each other till the end.

For the Singles, you need to ask yourselves can this lady or guy stick with me through the tough times? Can I stick with her for life? Am I that committed to him/ her? Can I cover him/her?

Sticking To Your Spouse

Let’s see Ruth’s understanding of the covenant as recorded in the bible.

Ruth 1:16 KJV
And Ruth said, Intreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God:

Ruth 1:16 – 17 MSG
But Ruth said, “Don’t force me to leave you; don’t make me go home. Where you go, I go; and where you live, I’ll live. Your people are my people, your God is my god; where you die, I’ll die, and that’s where I’ll be buried, so help me God—not even death itself is going to come between us!”

The Covenant of Marriage is not supposed to be endured but enjoyed.

In other to enjoy the marriage covenant there must be agreement.

Can two walk together except they agree? Amos 3:3

Sticking To Your Spouse

This agreement must be well spelled out. It is like the Vision and Mission statement of an organization. Everybody knows why the organization exists and how to reach its goals.

Without an agreement, there is no sticking together, and definitely, no covenant relationship will exist.

All couples should work on their “agreement”. There has to be the involvement of both husband and wife in all matters. There must be mutual consent or assent.

Let’s see the definition of agreement:

An agreement is a manifestation of mutual assent by two or more persons to one another. It is a meeting of the minds with a common intention and is made through offer and acceptance. An agreement can be shown from words, conduct, and in some cases, even silence.

The agreement involves discussion, rubbing together of minds. It requires patience and understanding for both parties to be on the same page.

There can only be speed when there is agreement.

“All parties must agree about an offer made by one party and accepted by the other.

Something of value must be exchanged for something else of value”

Let us all work towards agreement in our relationship and marriage.

May we fulfill God’s mandate for our marriage in Jesus’ mighty name

Rev. Sophia Okunowo