Your Guide to Beating Temptation

Your Guide to Beating Temptation

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Your Guide to Beating Temptation

Over the years, I’ve helped both single people and married couples with their problems. Let me tell you, dealing with issues related to sexual sins is one of the toughest challenges out there.

The grip of sexual sins can feel unshakeable, trapping people in cycles of guilt, shame, and compulsion. It’s a battle that tests your willpower and faith to the core. Many who seek guidance find themselves torn between fleeting desires promising quick satisfaction and the deeper longing for spiritual purity.

Imagine trying to climb a huge mountain; that’s what it’s like for anyone dealing with sexual sins. They get so caught up in it, like an ant trapped in a spider’s web, and it’s really hard to break free but beating temptation is very possible in God.

Breaking free from addiction and beating temptation demands a holistic strategy: prayer, accountability with trusted friends, and practical changes in daily life. It’s a journey that requires patience and empathy, understanding that setbacks aren’t failures but opportunities to recommit to recovery.

When I first started at KHC, it was super frustrating. Even after a lot of counseling and prayers, many people would just go back to their old habits. It felt like we weren’t making any progress.

We were all pretty confused until God revealed to me that sexual sins are often like spiritual traps. With God’s help, I’ve been able to guide people toward beating temptation with a kind of supernatural freedom from the spirit of perversion and deception behind these behaviors.

I’ve seen people cry and repent, only to fall back into sexual sins later. I’ve even counseled pastors who preached against these sins but struggled with them personally.

One time, I got a call about a leader who was making inappropriate advances on a church member during prayer at his branch.

I’ve also seen people fast for forty days to fight against sexual sins, but then they would just go back to their old behaviors.

Beating Temptation

Remember what it says in the Bible: “Sin won’t control you, because you’re not under the law but under grace” (Romans 6:14). No matter what you’ve been through, this truth stands strong. Jesus gave His life to free us from sin’s power.

Back in the day, people in the Old Testament used to cover their sins with animal sacrifices. Every time they messed up, they had to offer up an animal to make things right with God. But things changed when Jesus came. His death on the cross wasn’t just another sacrifice—it was the ultimate game-changer in beating temptation. His blood didn’t just cover our sins temporarily; it wiped them out completely. Imagine that—all your mistakes, gone, erased by His sacrifice.

So, now we’re not stuck under the weight of our wrongs. We’re free to embrace God’s grace, to experience real forgiveness and restoration. It’s not about trying to be perfect or earning our way to heaven; it’s about accepting what Jesus did for us and letting His love transform our lives.

So, let’s live like we’re truly forgiven like we’ve been given a fresh start. Because in Jesus, we find true freedom from sin and a new way of living that’s filled with hope and purpose.

Next, remember to ask God for forgiveness. He not only forgives but also forgets. It’s important to know that God doesn’t judge you; instead, He encourages you to turn away from sin.

Many people trapped in sexual compromise aren’t necessarily promiscuous but have endured abuse or trauma. It’s crucial to seek healing and not let past hurts control your future.

You don’t have to be controlled by sinful desires. With the Holy Spirit’s help, you can overcome these struggles and step into the future God has planned for you by beating temptation easily.

Take time today to pray for forgiveness and grace. Reflect on Psalm 125:4, and think about how you can make choices that honor God throughout your day.


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Love on Hold: Strategies for Handling Delays

Love on Hold: Strategies for Handling Delays

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Love on Hold: Strategies for Handling Delays

Hey, let’s start with singles. What do you do if you’re single, especially if you’re a single lady dealing with delay? You’ve prayed, confessed, given offerings, seized moments, and tried to secure your future, yet nothing seems to happen. What do you do at times like these? It can get frustrating because it seems like God answers everyone else’s prayers except yours.

Come on, let’s be honest. Haven’t you felt that sometimes it seems like someone less spiritual, who doesn’t serve or pray as much as you, is married without any issues?

And then you start thinking about a lot of things. Is there a curse? But haven’t we been told that we’re redeemed from the curse? Or maybe I’m not attractive enough? But that can’t be true because even those who aren’t conventionally attractive are happily married with children!

If it’s about looks, you’re fine. If it’s about education, you’ve done your best. If it’s about serving God, you’re committed. So why the delay and what should be one’s position in handling delays?

There are some self-imposed limitations and delays caused by disobedience to God—ignoring His voice in relationships, and things like that.

But what about when someone avoids wrongdoing and still feels like prayers go unanswered?

Now, I have two important things to share with you today! Two things that will help you in handling delays.

Firstly, never give up on yourself! In your situation, God intends to reveal His glory because you’re His child. The devil wants to frustrate you into giving up!

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“And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.” (Galatians 6:9 KJV)

Keep doing good. Don’t believe the lie that bad girls get married faster. There’s no proof of that. God doesn’t work by statistics. When David took a census in the Bible, God punished him and the nation. God can bypass millions to reach you when you please Him. No matter how many get married every day, your spouse is unique!

The key in that verse is to not get tired. Don’t grow weary of serving God. Don’t get upset. Don’t get mad at your Creator. The devil lies, but God’s promises are sure. Stay strong in doing good. Don’t ruin years of service and waiting with a careless act out of frustration. You’ve done everything you know to do, so “Having done all, stand!” Don’t get discouraged because someone on your block just got married. Rejoice with them; soon, they’ll celebrate with you! That’s one of the strategies for handling delays.

Then it says, “in due season”! There’s a season for you that even hell can’t stop. When Jesus’s due season came, He rose despite opposition!

I see you rising despite delays. I see God wiping away years of waiting, bringing you unimaginable joy! I see Him honoring your integrity!

Go ahead, pray in tongues a bit, and declare those words over your life!

Finally, that scripture concludes,

“In due season you will reap, if you faint not!”

Don’t faint! Fainting means missing out on God’s goodness and visitation. Stay alert. Stay close to His word. Don’t stop going to church. Refuse to get tired, because your glory is near!

Remember what Scripture says:

“Which none of the princes of this world knew: for had they known it, they would not have crucified the Lord of glory.” (1 Corinthians 2:8 KJV)

That’s your anthem! If the devil had known, he wouldn’t have caused delays. Delay won’t deny you; it’s a setup from God to bring you to a better place! The devil will regret messing with you because God’s plan for you will prevail.

I celebrate with you in advance. This is your season, your time. Keep staying in God’s word, serving Him, sowing seeds, praising Him, and handling delays like the mature Christian you are.

You are blessed!

Today, God will honor you. He remembers your seeds sown. He lifts your head and makes today productive for you in Jesus’ name!


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Top 7 Practical Tips To Stop That Thing – Part 2

Top 7 Practical Tips To Stop That Thing – Part 2

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Top 7 Practical Tips To Stop That Thing – Part 2

Masturbation is a problem many struggle with secretly. This devotional identifies practical tips to stop this habit and teach you how to gain freedom today.

4. Retrain your brain

Intrusive thoughts are common, but we can change our response. When an urge or intrusive thought hits, one of the practical tips is to use a physical interruption technique like snapping a rubber band on your wrist. This action can disrupt the conditioned response pattern and bring your focus back to the present moment. Over time, this technique can help reduce the frequency and intensity of triggers.

Consistently applying the rubber band technique or other interruption methods can help retrain your brain. This process involves creating new neural pathways that are less likely to respond to triggers in the old, habitual ways. With practice, your brain can learn to react differently, reducing the power of intrusive thoughts. When an intrusive thought arises, redirect your mind to God’s word through prayer or other spiritual exercises. Actively replace negative or intrusive thoughts with positive affirmations or constructive thoughts. This practice can help build new mental habits that are more aligned with your goals and values.

5. Get an accountability partner

Sharing your struggles and victories with someone you trust takes the behavior out of secrecy. This openness can significantly reduce feelings of shame and isolation, making it easier to address and overcome challenges. Knowing that you’ll have to report your progress and any slips to your accountability partner can serve as a strong deterrent during moments of weakness. This added layer of responsibility can help you think twice before engaging in behaviors you’re trying to avoid. Choose someone you trust and feel comfortable with. This person should be non-judgmental, supportive, and willing to listen. They could be a friend, family member, mentor, or even a professional like a counselor or coach. Discuss and agree on how often you will check in with each other, the types of updates you’ll share, and the level of support you need. Clear expectations ensure that both parties are on the same page and committed to the process. Sharing your successes with your accountability partner can reinforce positive behavior and motivate you to continue making progress. Celebrating small victories together can build your confidence and resilience.

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6. Learn to manage your feelings

Many turn to masturbation to avoid uncomfortable emotions. The first step in managing your feelings is to recognize and acknowledge them. When you feel sad, lonely, or bored, take a moment to identify these emotions without immediately reacting to them. Simply naming your feelings can reduce their intensity and help you understand them better. Develop a habit of regularly checking in with your emotional state. This can be done through journaling, mindfulness meditation, or simply taking a few moments each day to reflect on how you’re feeling. When uncomfortable emotions arise, resist the urge to escape or numb them through habitual behaviors. Instead, allow yourself to sit with these feelings and explore them. Understand that emotions are temporary and will pass with time. Over time, as you practice managing your emotions without resorting to escapism, you’ll develop greater emotional resilience. This means you’ll be better equipped to handle life’s ups and downs with a balanced and healthy approach

7. Set Consequences

One of the recommended practical tips to overcome masturbation is to decide on specific, unpleasant tasks that you’ll commit to doing each time you slip up. These tasks should be challenging enough to act as a deterrent but not so harsh that they become counterproductive. Examples include doing a set number of pushups, running a mile, or performing extra acts of service. For consequences to be effective, they should be applied immediately after the slip-up. This immediacy helps create a clear connection between the behavior and the consequence, reinforcing the message that the behavior is undesirable. While setting consequences is important, also remember to reward yourself for positive behavior and progress. Balance the unpleasant tasks with positive reinforcement, such as treating yourself to something enjoyable or celebrating milestones. Setting consequences is just one part of the puzzle. Make sure you are also addressing the underlying issues that contribute to the behavior. Combining consequences with strategies like seeking support, managing emotions, and understanding root causes creates a more comprehensive approach to change.

In conclusion, gaining freedom from compulsive masturbation is challenging but very possible. With determination to address root causes, practical tips, and support, many have found lasting change. Take the first step today – you don’t have to be controlled by this habit any longer.




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Top 7 Practical Tips To Stop That Thing

Top 7 Practical Tips To Stop That Thing

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Introduction

Masturbation is a natural and common activity, but for some, it can become a problem when it turns into a compulsive habit. Many individuals struggle with this issue secretly, feeling ashamed or embarrassed to seek help. This devotional aims to address the challenges of compulsive masturbation, provide practical tips to help stop that thing, and offer guidance on how to gain freedom from it today.

Understanding Compulsive Masturbation

Compulsive masturbation is characterized by an uncontrollable urge to masturbate that interferes with daily life, productivity, and emotional well-being. It can lead to feelings of guilt, shame, and isolation. Recognizing that you are not alone in this struggle is the first step towards overcoming it.

The Challenges of Overcoming Compulsive Masturbation

Overcoming compulsive masturbation can be incredibly difficult due to several factors:

• Psychological Factors: Stress, anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues can drive individuals to seek solace in masturbation.

Physical Factors: The release of endorphins during masturbation can create a cycle of dependency, making it hard to break the habit.

Social Factors: The stigma and secrecy around the topic can prevent people from seeking support and discussing their struggles openly.

Here are practical tips to stop this habit, and teach you how to gain freedom today.

1. Find out the underlying cause

Masturbation is often a way to self-medicate from past traumas, low self-esteem, or feelings of worthlessness. Watching the relevant videos can provide valuable insights into the underlying issues related to sexual behaviors. This video can help you recognize patterns and triggers that may be contributing to your current habits. Taking the online tests can provide a more personalized understanding of your situation. The test can highlight specific areas where you might be struggling, offering a clearer picture of the underlying causes. Knowing the reason behind your behavior is crucial. Addressing the root cause enables you to tackle the real issue rather than just the symptoms. This approach is more effective in achieving long-term change, improvement, and helps to stop that thing.

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2. Shut down sources of temptation

It’s important to eliminate opportunities for acting out. Use porn blockers on devices and change settings to avoid suggestive content. Install porn blockers and filtering software on all your devices. These tools can prevent access to explicit content and help you stop that thing when you might be tempted. Adjust the settings on your social media accounts and other online platforms to filter out suggestive or triggering content. This can include unfollowing certain accounts, blocking specific keywords, and enabling safe search options.

Limit unsupervised time spent with triggering people. Be mindful of the time you spend alone, especially with people or in environments that may trigger your behavior. Opt for shared or public spaces where you are less likely to engage in activities you are trying to avoid. Seeking help from an accountability partner or counselor makes long-term changes possible when willpower alone isn’t enough. This person can check in with you regularly, helping you stay on track and offering a listening ear when you need to talk

3. Stop keeping secrets.

For many, secrets about past traumas or behaviors fuel shame and isolation. However, you need to understand that keeping secrets can perpetuate negative cycles and hinder your ability to heal and eventually stop that thing. Secrets can create a sense of isolation and shame, making it difficult to move forward. Choose someone you trust, such as a religious leader, counselor, or therapist. This person should be non-judgmental and supportive, providing a safe space for you to share your experiences. Secrets keep us stuck in old cycles, but opening up can be scary. While opening up can be scary, taking this step is crucial for your healing journey. Share your secrets and past traumas with your chosen confidant.

This process can be incredibly liberating and can help you stop that thing and break free from the hold these secrets have on you. It’s normal to feel afraid when facing your secrets. Acknowledge these fears, but don’t let them stop you. Having support from a trusted person can make facing these fears much more manageable. Once you start sharing, you may feel a sense of relief and begin to see the path to healing. Opening up allows you to receive support, guidance, and understanding, which are essential for breaking out of old cycles and moving toward a healthier, more balanced life.




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Breaking the Chains: Rise Above Bitterness

Breaking the Chains: Rise Above Bitterness

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Breaking the Chains: Rise Above Bitterness

Back in the early days of our marriage, around 2002, my wife and I got into a quarrel that dragged on for days. Strangely, I can’t recall what sparked it. However, during this dispute, something remarkable happened: I experienced a spiritual awakening. For the first time, I glimpsed into the realm of the supernatural and saw the deep-seated animosity that the devil and his followers harbor toward marriages and families. It was eye-opening to witness the lengths to which the devil would go to sow discord and disrupt relationships. Fortunately, the quarrel between my wife and me was resolved swiftly thereafter.

If God were to grant you a glimpse into the spiritual realm, you’d find yourself softening swiftly. All the anger and aggression would dissipate as you realize you’ve been under demonic sway. Demons are indeed real. While the physical world may seem bustling, the spiritual realm is even more so.

Understand, there exist powerful malevolent forces, opposing courtships and marriages, aiming to sow doubt and discord. These evil spirits seek to manipulate your thoughts, feeding you assumptions that could jeopardize your marriage.

The real question is: will you align your destiny with hell? As a child of God, the devil cannot intrude into your life, family, or home unless you invite him in. Remember, the devil has already been defeated. However, by disregarding God’s principles, you inadvertently open the door for his influence.

A child of God cannot be possessed by a demon but can experience oppression. This oppression can pave the way for yielding to demonic influences. In your relationships, marriage, and home, it’s crucial to steer clear of certain pitfalls. These missteps can swiftly open the door, providing the devil with an opportunity to wreak havoc. One such mistake to avoid is harboring bitterness towards each other.

Don’t get bitter at each other

Bitterness should be shunned like a plague, for it is far more destructive. When bitterness takes root, it becomes a barrier to receiving help, as even prayers go unanswered. It’s not merely a fleeting emotion; it’s a deep-seated root that, if left unchecked, can lead to further devastation. Reflect on the scriptures for guidance in this matter.

Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled; (Hebrews 12:15 KJV)

Bitterness

When bitterness takes hold, it can cause God’s grace to falter, a perilous position to find oneself in.
It warns of trouble ahead, as bitterness only begets more trouble. Ultimately, many will be tainted by its influence, leading to impulsive actions. In marriages, it can affect the children, while in single life, it may disrupt academic and career pursuits.

It all begins with getting hurt. You may have an expectation, perhaps awaiting an apology, but none comes. As you grapple with this, another hurt follows, compounded by the absence of an apology. Then, another action adds to the hurt, perpetuating the cycle.

These accumulated hurts can evoke a range of emotions, from feeling unloved to harboring hatred toward the very person you’re meant to love. Before you know it, the devil steps in, planting seeds of suggestions and assumptions. Remember, the devil is a deceitful liar, the originator of falsehoods incapable of speaking the truth.

Embracing and believing these assumptions leads to a hardening of the heart, gradually plunging you into depression and despair. In this state, where scripture and God’s love are pushed aside, the sole focus becomes proving a point, paving the way for bitterness to take hold. In the grip of bitterness, your spouse becomes perceived as the enemy, ensnaring you in a trap.

The wife withdraws emotionally, while the husband’s anger escalates, exacerbating the situation. Bitterness clouds judgment, leading to regrettable decisions.

When trapped in bitterness, there are paths to freedom.

1. Prayer is key

Engage in fervent prayer to clear the mind and open yourself to God’s guidance, which offers a way out.

2. Patience

Patience is paramount when dealing with a bitter spouse. It requires an abundance of patience to guide them out of their bitterness. In cases where both parties harbor bitterness, it’s crucial to set aside hostilities and collaborate towards resolution.

3. Forgiveness

Additionally, swift forgiveness is imperative. Only through quick forgiveness can prayers find their efficacy.

4. Humility

Humility plays a pivotal role as well. Rather than asserting dominance, humility fosters an environment conducive to reconciliation.

For singles, the process remains the same. If bitterness and hurts permeate your relationship or courtship, seeking help and mentorship is essential to uproot the bitterness. It’s imperative not to proceed down the aisle burdened by bitterness.


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Top 8 Ways To Find Certainty in Choosing Your Life Partner Part 2

Top 8 Ways To Find Certainty in Choosing Your Life Partner Part 2

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Top 8 Ways To Find Certainty in Choosing Your Life Partner Part 2.

5. The Role of Physical Attraction

The third realm, the body, plays a crucial role, particularly in the realm of physical attraction, in choosing your life partner. It’s imperative to acknowledge the significance of physical attraction, which is meant to complement the spiritual guidance received through the inner being.

Was I physically attracted to my wife? Absolutely, unequivocally yes! Her presence had a magnetic pull on my heart, causing it to skip a beat whenever she was near.

Yet, it’s essential to exercise caution in this realm. In choosing your life partner, physical attraction is important.

6. Exercising Caution in Physical Desires

While physical attraction is natural and important, it’s vital not to allow the desires of the body to dictate one’s actions. The body may yearn for intimate gestures like kissing, petting, or engaging in premarital sex, but succumbing to these desires is a mistake.

7. Upholding the Sanctity of Love

Premarital sex, in particular, is not a testament to love; rather, it undermines the sanctity of the union. True love is demonstrated through patience and restraint. A man or woman unwilling to wait during courtship is unlikely to exhibit self-control after marriage.

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Therefore, it’s imperative to resist the urges of the body and uphold the sanctity of the relationship, for true love is patient, respectful, and enduring.

8. Discipline of the Body

Absolutely, it’s crucial not to yield to the desires of the body. Doing so disrupts the beautiful narrative that God is weaving in your life. Engaging in sexual sins introduces confusion into the equation, as you shift your focus from listening to your inner being, attuned to God’s guidance, to heeding the impulses of the flesh.

The problem lies in allowing the flesh, driven by physical desires, to dictate your decisions. Unlike the spirit or inner man, which aligns with God’s will, the flesh cannot provide godly direction.

9. Pleasing God Through Decision-making

As Paul admonishes in 1 Corinthians 9:27 (KJV), “But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway.” This underscores the importance of disciplining the body, ensuring that it remains subservient to the inner being.

Indeed, as Romans 8:8 (KJV) emphasizes, “So then they that are in the flesh cannot please God.” In matters of decision-making, it’s imperative for the inner being to take precedence over the desires of the body.

10. Conclusion: Harmonizing Spirit, Mind, and Body

In summary, it’s crucial to listen to God through your inner being, continually renew your mind with God’s Word to align with His will, and disregard the cravings of the body. These bodily feelings are ordained by God to be enjoyed within the sanctity of marriage.

As married couples, it’s essential never to deny each other intimacy. Using sex as a reward or punishment undermines the sacredness of the marital bond and can lead to adultery, with dire consequences. Even during times of disagreement, denying each other intimacy goes against God’s plan. Conjugal rights are meant to be honored and enjoyed as a gift from God.

May God grant you a deeper understanding and deliver you from confusion and disorientation. I pray for peace, calmness, and divine direction to permeate your life in Jesus’ name as you embark on choosing your life partner.


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Top 8 Ways To Find Certainty in Choosing Your Life Partner

Top 8 Ways To Find Certainty in Choosing Your Life Partner

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Top 8 Ways To Find Certainty in Choosing Your Life Partner

Introduction: Proposal Experience.

In advising others on proposing to a lady, I often suggest not emulating my approach. My proposal occurred early one morning, precisely at 6:30 a.m., right after our morning devotions. The setting was the Campus Hall of Popoola Hospital, within the premises of Ogun State University, during the third week of February 1996. Unconventionally, I had not yet bathed, dressed simply in a black trouser, a short-sleeved shirt, and bathroom slippers. The decision to propose at that moment was impulsive, spurred by a vivid vision I had experienced the previous night. The urgency of the vision propelled me to act without delay.

1. Being Certain About Whom to Marry.

Today, I want to delve into the topic of how to be certain about choosing your life partner.

As a tripartite being—composed of spirit, soul, and body—you operate within these three realms, each playing a distinct role in heart matters.

First and foremost, it’s essential to recognize that God communicates with you through your spirit. If you seek guidance from the divine, listen closely to the promptings of your inner being, your spirit, or your inner man. This underscores the significance of prayer, particularly praying in the Spirit or speaking in tongues. Engaging in such practices enhances the sensitivity of your inner being, enabling you to discern God’s voice on any matter, including matters of love and marriage thereby enabling you to choose your life partner.

2. Listening to the Inner Being

Indeed, hearing God’s guidance through my inner being was precisely how I discerned that Sophia was destined to be my wife. From the moment I first laid eyes on her, an unmistakable certainty washed over me. It’s akin to tuning in to frequencies on a radio set; as a child of God, you become attuned to divine direction and wisdom.

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As the scripture affirms in Romans 8:14 (KJV), “For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.” This inner knowing, this spiritual leading, is a hallmark of being in tune with God’s will.

However, despite this deep conviction, I took no immediate action for nearly a year. Patience is essential in choosing your life partner.

3. Renewal of the Mind

Within the second realm of existence lies the mind. What God communicates through our inner being, we process through our minds. The extent to which our minds can align with God’s guidance depends on their renewal. This renewal occurs gradually as we immerse ourselves in God’s Word and study diligently. Regular attendance at church and daily devotionals contribute to this process of mind renewal, for the Word of God holds transformative power. This process is essential in choosing your life partner

4. Dealing with Doubts and Fears

In my mind, doubts and fears crept in. Despite my love for Sophia and the conviction in my spirit, I grappled with uncertainties. Questions nagged at me: Was she truly meant to be my wife? Would our union be blessed with children? What if I had misinterpreted the signs?

In such moments of doubt, the remedy lies in returning to the source of the original guidance: the Spirit within. Through prayer in the Spirit, seeking clarity and confirmation, I sought reassurance. Was I on the right path? Was this truly God’s plan for me?

As I prayed, a sense of assurance welled up from within, like a river flowing from my innermost being, washing away the doubts and fears. Yet, if despite my prayers, the fears persisted, and peace remained elusive, it signaled a need for further discernment. It was crucial to ascertain whether God’s leading was indeed guiding me in this direction.

Despite the initial fears and uncertainties, prayer in the Spirit consistently brought clarity and certainty. Each time I prayed, the doubts dissolved, reaffirming my conviction that Sophia was meant to be my wife.




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Top 15 Discoveries About Languages In Marriage

Top 15 Discoveries About Languages In Marriage

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Top 15 Discoveries About Languages In Marriage.

Introduction

Communication issues are one of the leading causes of conflicts in marriage. This article will show you how understanding each other’s languages holds the key to unity. We’ll agree that poor communication strains relationships, identify the main problem as a lack of a shared language, and teach you how to speak your spouse’s love language.

1. The Tower of Babel Incident.

The Bible recounts in Genesis 11 how humanity attempted to build a tower that would reach the heavens. Their shared language and unity enabled this ambitious plan. However, God saw that “nothing will be restrained from them” if left unchecked. So he confounded their language, dividing them through their inability to understand one another. This shows that Languages In Marriage is key.

2. Unity and shared language were factors in their success.

God himself affirmed that the people’s oneness and common tongue were critical to their success. Once their language was tampered with, they could no longer work as one. They had to abandon their vision and scatter as understanding broke down. This shows how vital shared communication is for togetherness.

3. Learn your spouse’s love language through commitment.

There are five primary love languages in marriage: physical touch, gifts, words of affirmation, quality time, and acts of service. However, if you only speak your language to your partner, conflicts will persist. You must commit to understanding what makes them feel loved. This requires investment, as learning new languages takes effort.

4. Address issues instead of sweeping them under the carpet.

Rather than postponing problems, couples should face challenges together through open communication. Unresolved tensions will pile up over time like magma under the earth’s crust, ready to erupt in a meltdown. Discussing difficulties daily prevents major volcanic disruptions down the line.

5. Ability to build together and achieve dreams as a team.

When a couple understands each other, they can work as one unit towards common goals. Just as the people at Babel succeeded due to unity, so marriage partners who speak the same languages in marriage in terms of vision can accomplish great things hand in hand.

6. Effective communication and intimacy.

A shared tongue provides the basis for real intimacy where spouses feel heard and known. It allows for resolving conflicts instead of just arguing at cross-purposes. Partners can truly be one flesh through the closeness that results from comprehending each other fully. Effective communication will enhance languages in marriage.

7. Determining Your Love Languages.

If you are unsure of your top love languages or your spouse’s, there are tests available online that can help identify them. Answering simple questions about what makes you feel most loved and appreciated gives highly accurate results. Once you understand each other’s love languages, you have insight into how to better express love in a way that is meaningful to your spouse.

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8. Speaking Each Other’s Languages.

Making an effort to regularly speak your spouse’s top love languages, even if it is not your natural way of expressing love, goes a long way. It shows you are making them and their needs a priority. For example, if your spouse’s language is acts of service, help out more with household chores without being asked. If it is words of affirmation, give more compliments and express appreciation for who they are. Consistently speaking love languages fosters emotional intimacy.

9. Aspects of Communication.

The way we communicate with our spouse, both verbally and nonverbally, greatly impacts the relationship. Being aware of tone, body language, listening skills, and word choices helps foster understanding and resolve conflicts.

10. Tone and Body Language.

It is easy to overlook, but our tone of voice and body language convey a strong message. Speaking to our spouse in a respectful tone and maintaining open body posture, like facing them directly instead of crossed arms, signals we are engaged and care about what they have to say. It is just as important as the words themselves.

11. Listening to Understand.

When our spouse shares how they feel, the goal should be to understand their perspective rather than just thinking of our reply. Make eye contact, nod occasionally, and ask clarifying questions to show you are actively listening. Refrain from interrupting and give them your full attention. This validates their emotions and makes them feel heard.

12. Choosing Words Wisely.

We must consider how our words impact our spouse’s self-esteem and the relationship. Saying hurtful criticisms or insults does long-lasting damage and breeds resentment. Instead, use encouraging words that build them up. Compliment their good qualities and efforts. When addressing problems, focus on behaviors and not their character.

13. Handling Frustrations in a Godly Way.

Even with understanding and good communication skills, frustrations will inevitably arise at some point in any marriage. It is how we respond that determines the outcome. The proper languages in marriage can be learned.

14. Taking Time to Cool Off.

If tensions are high, the best thing is to take a break from the discussion until emotions have settled. Harsh words or accusations said in anger often do damage that is difficult to repair. We must remember not to make life-changing decisions, like divorce, during a temporary emotional state.

15. Praying Together for Wisdom.

In challenging times, seeking God’s wisdom and relying on His peace is key. Pray together, read scripture, and ask the Holy Spirit to guide your thoughts, words, and actions. His supernatural help enables spouses to respond to each other in a Christ-like manner of patience, kindness, and self-control, even when they don’t feel like it. Resolving conflicts in a godly way through understanding, communication, and prayer strengthens the marriage foundation and builds an atmosphere of trust and respect.

Conclusion.

Maintaining unity is vital for a marriage to thrive. When spouses make the effort to understand one another on deep levels, it ensures they can weather challenges as a team with their goals aligned. Languages in marriage is crucial. Speaking the same language spiritually through prayer and emotionally by learning love languages lays the groundwork for a lasting bond. The rewards of prioritizing communication far outweigh any short-term convenience of sweeping problems aside. Make understanding your spouse a daily commitment to enjoy a rich, fulfilling relationship.


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30 Shocking Realities Before Marriage by Eno Jerry Part 2

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30 Shocking Realities Before Marriage by Eno Jerry Part 2

We started on this yesterday and we will conclude today.

19. Manage Expectations

It’s normal to fantasize about marriage and picture the ideal relationship. However, unrealistic expectations can damage a union if not addressed. When two individuals commit their lives together, compromise is necessary.

No one is perfect, so don’t expect your partner to meet all of your emotional or physical needs without also meeting theirs. Appreciate your significant other for who they are, not who you imagine them to be. Small irritations that seemed minor before may bother you more as a married couple.

20. Find Purpose

Also, your partner should not have to fulfill your purpose or identity. While support is important, relying on them solely for happiness places unfair pressure on their shoulders. Maintain interests and friendships outside the marriage for balance.

Similarly, allow your partner space to follow their dreams too. Whether it’s furthering education, changing careers, or pursuing hobbies, encourage each other’s goals. Make time for activities you each enjoy separately as well as together.

21. Be Flexible

Compromise means considering your spouse’s perspective and finding solutions that work for you both. Be willing to bend when possible and don’t just think of yourself. With patience and teamwork, you can overcome challenges as a united front. Going into marriage with realistic views sets the stage for a fulfilling partnership built on mutual understanding and support. Unmet fantasies often stem the root of dissatisfaction.

22. Work on Communication

Strong communication serves as the foundation for any healthy relationship. However, speaking and listening with understanding do not always come naturally and require effort. As a couple, make developing this skill a priority.

Start by listening without judgment or assumptions when your partner speaks.

Focus fully on what they say rather than thinking of your response. Ask clarifying questions if needed so you can see things from their perspective. All these are important before marriage.

When sharing your feelings or needs, do so respectfully using “I statements” instead of accusations. Say something like “I feel upset when you forget our plans because I was looking forward to our time together.” This avoids placing blame.

Discussing disagreements kindly helps resolve issues rather than letting them fester. Come prepared to compromise rather than demand your way. Take breaks if tensions rise so you can return to difficult topics with clearer heads.

23. Don’t Sweep Issues Under The Carpet.

Small problems become big ones if not addressed. So talk through everyday annoyances before they accumulate. Catching issues early gives the best chance of a resolution that satisfies you both. With practice, you’ll strengthen your ability to communicate supportively as a team.

Healthy communication habits take work but are well worth establishing as the foundation for a strong marriage. Facing challenges together through respectful discussion helps deepen understanding and intimacy between partners

24. Seek Counseling if Needed

Even couples excited about marriage may have areas to improve before tying the knot. Pre-marital counseling provides an objective third party to help identify issues and give you tools to build a healthy relationship.

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A counselor can guide meaningful discussions that you and your partner find difficult alone. They’ll prompt reflection on your backgrounds, values, expectations, and communication styles. This helps ensure you see eye to eye on important topics and are ready to support each other.

Working through any existing problems with a professional also gives the best chance of overcoming them. Bottled-up resentment or unresolved conflicts from your past are less likely to negatively impact your marriage.

Pre-marital sessions teach relationship skills like active listening, “I statements,” compromising, and managing conflict. Practicing these with guidance strengthens your bond and ability to face challenges together down the road.

Don’t be afraid to seek counseling if you notice areas of concern. It takes courage to address problems head-on with your partner and a counselor. But it provides so much benefit to working through difficulties before marriage rather than hoping they’ll disappear after “I dos.”

With counseling, you’ll feel confident that you and your significant other are fully prepared for the commitment of marriage. Your union will be built on a strong foundation of understanding, trust, and communication from the very beginning.

25. Signs It May Not Last

While every couple faces obstacles, some partnerships show red flags indicating deeper issues. If several of these signs apply to your relationship, seriously consider whether you and your partner are ready for marriage. It’s better to acknowledge problems now rather than later.

26. Lack of Commitment

One or both individuals are not fully bought into the marriage. They are not willing to put in the effort it requires through good and bad. One or both feet may still be out the door. Before marriage, this area should be sorted.

27. Inability to Solve Problems

Major conflicts over important issues like finances, intimacy, or in-laws are left unresolved. Partners lack effective communication skills and are unable or unwilling to find compromises. This is a crucial area that needs to be addressed before marriage.

28. Unrealistic Expectations

One or both have an idealized, fantasy view of marriage and relationships rather than a realistic one. They expect their partner to meet all their needs and resolve all their issues. Before marriage, unrealistic expectations should be discarded.

29. Lack of Trust or Respect

There are underlying trust issues due to past hurts, different values, or personality clashes. Partners disrespect one another through insensitive words, dismissal of feelings, or private criticism. If this happened before marriage without check, it will still happen afterward.

30. Frequent or Escalating Arguments

Disagreements happen, but true red flags include arguments that end in personal attacks, name-calling, or one partner trying to control the other through anger or tears.

Take time to reflect on whether any of these signs ring true for your relationship. Addressing concerns with counseling before marriage gives the best chance at a healthy union built to stand the test of time.


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30 Shocking Realities Before Marriage – Eno Jerry Eze

30 Shocking Realities Before Marriage – Eno Jerry Eze

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30 Shocking Realities Before Marriage

1. Before You Enter that Marriage.

If you want to build a strong and lasting relationship, learn from other people’s mistakes. In this devotional, I will share my personal story and the issues I faced in past relationships. I will show you how anger, disrespect, and blaming others can damage your bonds. More importantly, I will explain how change is possible when you take ownership of your weaknesses.

2. Parents as Models.

Growing up, I witnessed frequent arguments and even physical fights between my parents. As children, my brother and I would cry and beg them to stop fighting to no avail. Witnessing these conflicts shaped my views on relationships from a young age.

3. Growing up in a quarrelsome home.

It was all I knew to see parents constantly quarreling, even in front of us kids. My parents loved us but they didn’t understand the impact their fights had on our development. We learned that resolving conflicts through yelling and aggression was normal.

4. The impact on children.

Seeing your parents fight regularly leaves scars. As a child, it makes you feel unsafe and stressed. Subconsciously, it can influence you to repeat similar behaviors in your own relationships later in life. I believe growing up in that environment is what made me prone to anger issues and arguments as an adult.

5. Arguing and fighting as weaknesses.

In my teens and early adulthood, I saw arguing and even physical fighting as normal behaviors. I took pride in “winning” fights and felt validated when others were impressed by my aggression. However, these were clearly weaknesses that would damage my relationships if not addressed.

6. Owning your faults instead of blaming others.

For a long time, I blamed my parents and upbringing for my anger issues. I thought it wasn’t my fault since that’s all I knew growing up. But the moment you realize your parents’ actions don’t define you, change becomes possible. You have to own your faults instead of making excuses for bad behaviors. No one else can change you but yourself.

7. Examples of anger issues from my past.

Looking back, I see many examples of how my anger ruined past relationships. I would blow up over small things and say hurtful words just to win arguments. I never respected my partners’ feelings or tried to understand other viewpoints. My anger was like a monster that I couldn’t control.

8. The impact on relationships.

Is it any surprise that those relationships didn’t last? No one wants to be with someone who constantly yells, blames, and shows anger without reason. It destroys trust and communication. Both parties always feel on edge, like walking on eggshells. Respect and care fade away when anger takes over. I didn’t realize it then but my behavior was emotionally abusive.

9. Making the decision to change.

It took hitting rock bottom, with the failure of yet another relationship, for me to realize I had to change. I decided to seek counseling to understand the roots of my anger and how to manage it better. This was the first step to taking control of my life and weaknesses.

10. Seeing positive changes with time.

Learning new coping skills like active listening, expressing feelings respectfully, and taking a breather to calm down when angry – these techniques really helped. With practice over months and years, I saw real differences. Fewer outbursts, more patience, and greater control over my emotions. My relationships became far more peaceful than before.

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11. Communication skills to develop.

Some key skills I worked on include: listening without interrupting, using “I feel” statements, finding compromises, validating feelings, and apologizing when wrong. These small changes in how you interact go a long way in making the other person feel heard and respected.

12. Showing respect for your partner.

Beyond communication, it’s important to respect your partner’s individuality and make them feel cared for through little gestures. Saying thank you, doing small favors, giving compliments, and making time for each other daily all show you value the relationship. Respect is the foundation of any healthy bond.

13. Growth and healing in my own marriage.

I met my husband a few years after starting my personal journey. By then, I had learned so much and was still learning. Of course, new challenges would come up but I had better tools to handle them respectfully. Our communication is honest yet caring. We make each other feel valued every day.

14. Advice for others based on my experience.

If you struggle with anger or past hurts influence you, don’t delay getting help. Your future relationships and mental well-being depend on it. Also, keep learning from your mistakes; that’s how you keep growing. Finally, value your partner and meet them with compassion – this will take you very far.

15. Get to Know Your Partner.

Getting to know someone fully takes time. Before marriage, it’s important to truly understand who your partner is at their core. Spending quality time together in different situations can help reveal important things.

16. Date Nights.

Plan regular date nights where you engage in meaningful conversation without distractions. Ask questions and really listen to learn about each other’s upbringing, values, life experiences, and goals. Did you grow up similarly or differently? What matters most to each of you?

17. Understanding.

Also, make an effort to understand your partner’s relationships with family and friends. How do they interact with loved ones? What role will family play after your wedding? Knowing how to navigate in-laws can help prevent future issues.

Be open about topics that affect your future too, like finances, children, faith, and careers. Discuss expectations for these areas to ensure you are compatible. It’s better to address any gaps or disagreements now rather than be surprised later.

Make quality time together a priority, even when busy with work or other commitments.

18. Conversations.

Continuing meaningful conversations throughout your relationship helps you and your partner grow closer emotionally and practically. Going into marriage with a solid understanding of each other sets the stage for a healthy bond.

I will continue from here tomorrow. Be blessed!


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Secrets Unveiled: Apostle Arome’s 14 Keys To A Lasting Marriage Part 2

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What are the Keys to a Long-Lasting Marriage?

8. Understanding the Price of Agreement.

Agreement is the foundation of any covenant relationship. Maintaining an agreement requires effort, but it is well worth it to enjoy the benefits of a true partnership. As the Apostle pointed out, “two cannot walk together except that they agree.”

Agreement allows couples to function as a corporate entity, combining their strengths for maximum impact. However, agreement does not just happen – it is something that must be cultivated through understanding each other, compromising when needed, and prioritizing the relationship above personal desires.

Apostle Arome used the example of Israel’s relationship with God to show how disagreement can arise even when two parties are committed to each other. Though Israel was married to God by covenant, at times “there was no harmony, no concord.”

Living together day after day reveals each person’s weaknesses as well as their strengths. It takes work to see beyond surface issues and maintain the “temperature of agreement.” But the rewards are great for couples who make this effort, as Apostle Arome said, with agreement comes the ability to “explore the field of destiny” through their combined efforts.

9. Avoid Unequal Yoke.

Being “unequally yoked” leads to a lack of harmony. When two people have differing values, priorities, or visions for their lives together, it creates internal friction that manifests in their interactions. Small disagreements that would normally be resolved become magnified when the underlying yoke is unequal.

Couples may find themselves constantly butting heads over decisions big and small. Resentment and frustration can build on both sides when there is no agreement at the core level of who they are and what they want from their marriage and future. Apostle Arome pointed to this lack of agreement at the foundational level as a disaster for any relationship that is meant to function as a unit.

10. Fellowship and Participation.

The Greek word for fellowship means participation. Effective participation between partners requires understanding each other’s strengths, weaknesses, passions, and quirks.

Couples who take the time to truly get to know their spouse on deep levels find it much easier to participate together in a harmonious way. They understand how to encourage and support each other’s participation in activities, responsibilities, and decision-making in a way that plays to each person’s nature. This allows them to function as a cohesive unit where both people feel valued for their contributions. A lack of real understanding breeds a lack of participation, which in turn breeds distance and disharmony in the relationship.

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11. Communion and Intercourse.

Communion, or “koinonia”, refers to intercourse – the height of agreement between partners. When there is disharmony between a couple, it negatively impacts their ability to be intimate with each other. Intercourse is meant to be an act that deepens the bond of unity between a husband and wife, but lack of agreement on other levels makes true communion very difficult.

Unresolved issues like differing values or ongoing arguments translate to a disconnect even in the bedroom. Partners may feel reluctant to be emotionally or physically vulnerable. Addressing the root causes of disharmony through open communication and compromise is important to restore full communion in the relationship.

12. Purpose and Objectives.

Having a clearly defined, shared purpose is important for agreement. Couples who do not have a strong sense of why their marriage exists beyond just being together are more likely to experience disagreement down the line. Life presents many opportunities to veer off course individually if a marriage’s purpose is unclear or unaligned. Discussing each person’s goals, values, vision for family, and aspirations helps partners get on the same page about their reasons for committing to each other. With a mutual understanding of purpose, it is easier to make decisions and compromises while staying focused on similar objectives.

13. Addressing Past Mistake.

Apostle Arome discusses how past inappropriate relationships or touches can negatively impact agreement in a current marriage if unaddressed. Soul ties from previous romantic connections, even if just emotional, can linger in the recesses of one’s mind and heart. This leaves room for comparison or unresolved baggage that seeps into the present. Complete honesty and repentance between partners is needed. Working through such issues with a counselor or mentor can help cut past ties that hinder full agreement in the marriage. Sins of the past, if not brought to light, have the power to slowly poison unity in the present.

14. Conclusion.

In conclusion, the keys to lasting long in any marriage ultimately come down to agreement. Couples must work to cultivate agreement through fellowship, shared purpose, addressing past issues, and prioritizing their unity. When two become one in mutual understanding and participation, it allows them to present a united front even against any “enemy” seeking to bring disharmony. With agreement as the foundation, a marriage can withstand challenges and last for the long run.


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The Secret Sauce – Apostle Arome’s 14 Keys To A Lasting Marriage

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The Secret Sauce – Apostle Arome’s 14 Keys To A Lasting Marriage

Finding Agreement in Marriage

Marriage was designed by God to be a covenant of exclusivity and intimacy between a man and a woman. A lasting marriage is God´s will. However, many couples struggle to find agreement and live in peace. In this article, we will discuss the root causes of unfaithfulness in a marriage, based on the message shared by Apostle Arome. By understanding these causes and applying the biblical principles outlined, couples can build a strong foundation for an enduring marriage of agreement.

What Are the Causes of Unfaithfulness in Marriage?

1. Soul Ties and Their Implications.

According to Apostle Arome, soul ties are spiritual connections formed when a person becomes intimate with another person through sexual relations or prolonged emotional attachment. Apostle Arome shares that soul ties act as “pathways” that allow demons to traffic between people and oppress or manipulate them.

A common way soul ties are formed is through pre-marital sexual relationships. The pastor explained that these relationships leave a person in a “vicious circle of connection” to former partners that can negatively impact their current marriage. Demons and spiritual problems can be transferred through this soul tie “highways.”

2. Lack of a Regulator in Marriage.

A regulator for the marriage is one of the keys to a lasting marriage. Apostle Arome used the analogy of an electric fan without a thermostat to illustrate what happens when a marriage lacks a “regulator.” Just as an uncontrolled fan could cause harm, an unregulated marriage where both partners do not submit to God’s authority is at risk of “crashing.”

When unbelievers marry without acknowledging God, there is no spiritual “regulator” to keep the relationship balanced. While they may live together, they are truly just “cohabiting” rather than in a covenant marriage as designed by God. This leaves the relationship vulnerable to demonic interference through unaddressed soul ties and other openings.

3. How Do You Prevent Unfaithfulness?

The first way to prevent unfaithfulness is to commit to God’s Regulations for Marriage.

For a marriage to be protected from unfaithfulness, both partners must commit their relationship fully to God as the supreme authority and regulator. They should see marriage as a blood covenant instituted by God, not just a legal contract. By willingly submitting to God’s regulations on marriage in the Bible, such as mutual exclusivity and intimacy only with each other, couples place themselves under God’s covering and protection.

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4. Another way to prevent unfaithfulness is Accountability and Transparency with Each Other.

The pastor emphasized the importance of accountability between spouses. If one feels attracted to someone else, they should openly tell their partner instead of hiding it. Regular communication and transparency about thoughts and feelings can help address issues before they escalate. It also prevents the devil from taking advantage of cracks in the relationship.

5. Another way to prevent unfaithfulness is Working Through Misunderstandings with Understanding.

The testimony shared revealed how a disagreement led to a loss of attraction between the couple. Apostle Arome counseled resolving issues through understanding instead of driving one’s spouse away. During challenging times like pregnancy, husbands must learn their wife’s changing needs with patience. With open communication and a willingness to understand each other, misunderstandings need not lead to unfaithfulness.

6. Another way to prevent unfaithfulness is Identifying and Breaking Soul Ties.

Apostle Arome emphasized that deliverance must be deliberately sought to break soul ties formed in the past through pre-marital relationships. One must write down the names of all former sexual partners and repent fully of those acts. Breaking the associated soul ties requires calling on God to sever the spiritual connections.

7. Another way to prevent unfaithfulness is Fasting and Prayer for Complete Deliverance.

Complete deliverance from past soul ties and their effects may require an extended period of fasting and prayer. Apostle Arome noted it can take up to nine months of consistently rejecting demonic suggestions and images that surface.

But with persistence, one can be fully freed from the oppression of the past through God’s power. The fast also helps destroy appetites of the flesh that open doors to unfaithfulness. We will stop here today and continue with part 2 tomorrow!


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11 Marriages That Must Not Take Place By Dr. D.K Olukoya

11 Marriages That Must Not Take Place By Dr. D.K Olukoya

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11 Marriages That Must Not Take Place By Dr. D.K Olukoya

Introduction

I agree that wrong marriages can seriously damage our lives and futures. In this post, I will discuss Dr. Olukoya’s guidelines on 40 types of marriages that must be avoided. By learning to identify and steer clear of such unions, we can protect ourselves from unnecessary hardship. I will explore each kind of problematic marriage and explain why it should not take place.

Number 1. Fast food marriages.

Fast food marriages are based solely on physical attraction and lustful desires, rather than true love and compatibility. When the initial infatuation fades, as it always does, the relationship collapses. Marrying for looks or sexual chemistry alone is a recipe for divorce once those surface-level attractions disappear.

Number 2. Serpent in the pocket marriages.

A “serpent in the pocket” marriage is one where one spouse hides their real character flaws and intentions until after the wedding. Once committed, the deceptive person’s true colors emerge, often in a toxic manner that poisons the relationship. Founding a marriage on deception lays the groundwork for major betrayal and breach of trust down the road.

Number 3. Marrying the enemy.

Marrying someone you perceive as an enemy or competitor is asking for trouble. Unresolved negative feelings like dislike, mistrust, or a history of conflict do not make for a solid foundation for marriage. Even minor disagreements can easily escalate when underlying enmity exists. It is usually best to maintain distance from adversaries rather than legally binding yourself to them through marriage. Trying to change an enemy into a spouse often backfires.

Number 4. Marrying late in life hastily.

Those marrying later in life after previous relationships have ended may feel lonely or pressured to settle down quickly. However, rushing into marriage without properly evaluating the partner’s character can be imprudent. When loneliness or deadlines override good judgment, marriages entered into hastily tend to end in regret. It is wise not to compromise the standards of a compatible life partner just to avoid singleness. Taking the time to know someone fully is critical for long-term success.

Number 5. Half and half marriages.

Half-and-half marriages combine two incompatible halves that are doomed to clash. This occurs when partners of different faiths, cultures, or backgrounds enter marriage with unresolved differences. Over time, disagreements over issues like religion, in-laws, or child-rearing tend to intensify rather than diminish tension. For lasting peace, spouses must be fully united.

Number 6. Red Cross Society marriages.

Red Cross Society marriages refer to unions formed due to accidental pregnancy before marriage. While having a child does require responsibility, rushing to marry the other parent does not guarantee the couple is ready or suited to building a healthy family together long-term. Careful discernment is still needed.

Number 7. Demonic consultation marriages.

Demonic consultation marriages were explained as occurring when a partner seeks guidance from occult forces like astrology, witch doctors, or other ungodly sources rather than relying on God’s will. Putting faith in spiritual powers runs contrary to biblical teaching and exposes the marriage to harmful manipulation and control from demonic entities. God alone should direct our paths.

Number 8. Witchcraft marriages.

Witchcraft marriages are those involving spouses with a background or family history steeped in witchcraft, idolatry, or other demonic practices. Such spiritual baggage has toxic consequences, as the marriage itself may become a battleground for conflicting spiritual influences and ideologies that undermine harmony.

Number 9. Syringe marriages.

Syringe marriages occur when a partner has a history of drug abuse or addiction. Substance issues often stem from deeper problems, and getting clean is a long process even after rehab. Marrying an unreformed addict risks exposing yourself and any future children to harm from relapses or associated unhealthy behaviors. Stability must be established first before committing to such a union.

Number 10. Diabetes marriages.

Diabetes marriages involve partners with uncontrolled medical conditions like diabetes that require intensive management. The strain of caring for an ill spouse’s needs can drain both physical and emotional resources from the relationship. Health must be reasonably stable to ensure both spouses’ well-being and ability to fulfill their roles before marriage

Number 11. Marrying out of pity.

Marrying out of pity rather than genuine love or compatibility is unfair to both partners. Pity seeks to fulfill an ego need to help someone, but true care requires considering the other person’s long-term well-being and ensuring the relationship is healthy for both sides. Otherwise, it risks becoming a crutch rather than a partnership.

In conclusion, while the heart wants what it wants, marriage is not merely an emotional affair but a serious life commitment. Entering without fully considering factors like spirituality, values, health, background, and long-term goals nearly guarantees problems down the road. Rather than acting on fleeting feelings or circumstances, take time to carefully discern true compatibility in all areas before making a vow. Building on a firm foundation of mutual understanding and agreement increases the chances of a stable, fruitful union.


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Top 56 Valuable Lessons from The 56-Year Marriage of Joyce and Dave Meyer – Part 2

Top 56 Valuable Lessons from The 56-Year Marriage of Joyce and Dave Meyer – Part 2

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Top 56 Valuable Lessons from The 56-Year Marriage of Joyce and Dave Meyer – Part 2

The Marriage of Dave and Joyce Meyer has been for over 56 years. In their Video, Talk It Out, they share candidly about the highs and lows of their journey together. Joyce notes early on in their 5-date courtship, they didn’t truly know each other. Yet through divine intervention, they found themselves bonded for life.

Based on this conversation with celebrated life coach and bestselling author Joyce Meyer and her husband Dave, here are some Valuable Lessons from The 56-Year Marriage of Joyce and Dave Meyer. This is Part 2. Read Part 1 Here.

Forgiving Quickly to Avoid Strife.

29. Satan wants strife but God wants peace. Joyce shares how realizing this, and refusing to get offended has helped. Forgiving and letting things go is key to avoiding discord.

30. Joyce and Dave warn against expecting overnight fixes. Trials often intensify before peace emerges, so persevering shows faith in God’s unseen hand at work.

31. The key is learning to accommodate each other. For example, while Dave may think Joyce’s processing style is “just wasted breath,” refraining from dismissive comments and listening respectfully goes a long way. Likewise, Joyce can try viewing situations from her husband’s logical perspective, even if she needs further discussion.

32. With patience and compromise, couples can diffuse tensions simply by acknowledging how their brains work differently.

33. Holding onto offenses is one of the surest ways to damage a marriage.

34. Joyce shared how she struggled with this early in her relationship with Dave but realized harboring resentment only benefits the devil.

35. The sooner spouses forgive small slights and absorb the word of love from First Corinthians 13, the smoother their union will go. “Love keeps no record of wrongs” is a radical concept in relationships but brings tremendous peace when applied.

36. Forgiveness also requires making a daily choice not to dwell on past hurts.

37. As Joyce said, the more one ruminates on offenses, the deeper the roots of bitterness take hold. But nipping issues in the bud through quick forgiveness keeps relationships clean and harmony intact. This helped the Marriage of Joyce and Dave Meyer a lot.

38. With practice, this can become second nature for even the most sensitive partners. Remember – it’s not about condoning bad actions but releasing the right to retaliate so love can reign free.

Seeing the Best in Each Other.

39. Dave lets Joyce be herself fully. Joyce has learned to see Dave’s logic as balancing her emotions, not opposing her. They’ve found humor in each other instead of aggravation.

Marriage of Joyce and Dave Meyer

40. Beyond communication gaps, every couple has their endearing idiosyncrasies that can push buttons if left unchecked. The Marriage of Joyce and Dave Meyer indeed is a great inspiration across the world.

41. Joyce humorously pointed out little habits of Dave’s, like noisily eating cereal or purposefully banging dishes louder when irritated, that get under her skin. However, she realized God made them with these distinct traits intentionally, perhaps for their own amusement.

42. We must appreciate our spouses as whole individuals rather than demanding they change harmless peculiarities.

Prioritizing Safety in Toxic Situations

43. While God hates divorce, abuse is never okay. If danger exists, safety comes first by distancing oneself until help is found. Otherwise, prayer and God’s guidance are vital.

44. While the above advice focuses on minor marital tensions, dangerously toxic relationships require a different approach to prioritizing safety.

45. Joyce rightly cautioned those in abusive situations to remove themselves and children from harm’s way, as God never intended endangerment. Additionally, prayerfully considering counseling or legal protection may become necessary steps of wisdom.

46. The role of prayer cannot be overstated even in these dire circumstances.

47. Communing continuously with Christ brings His empowerment, perspective, and discernment for the next steps.

48. Rather than facing challenges alone in one’s strength, total reliance on God’s guidance through Scripture and stillness lifts the heavy burden.

49. His perfect love casts out all fear as His plan and protection unfold. With His intervention, seemingly impossible problems dissolve. Love is a constant factor in the Marriage of Joyce and Dave Meyer.

Applying God’s Love.

50. Focusing on patience, kindness, and protecting the relationship helps. Seeing each other through God’s loving eyes transforms perspectives.

51. His Word shows us how to think of our spouse and ourselves.

52. Joyce emphasized consistently seeking God first in all matters, from minor annoyances to profound crises.

53. His love far surpasses any human love and fills what is lacking when spouses apply it through obedience, prayer, and wisdom

54. Together with Dave for decades, she stands as proof of the peace and joy available when Christ forms the foundation of a union.

55. With His help, couples can rise above natural tendencies to impatience, resentment, or control

56. In summarizing this discussion on marriage, the key lessons are to go into marriage with clear communication about expectations, to accept your spouse for who they are rather than trying to change them, and to rely on God’s wisdom in navigating disagreements and difficult seasons

Conclusion

While differences will arise, focusing on each other’s positive qualities and prioritizing individual responsibility for happiness can help strengthen the bond. With patience, compromise when needed, and a commitment to a lifelong partnership, a marriage has the potential to grow deeper in love and understanding over decades.


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Top 56 Valuable Lessons from the 56-Year Marriage of Joyce and Dave Meyer

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Joyce and Dave Meyer have been married for over 56 years. In their Video, Talk It Out, they share candidly about the highs and lows of their journey together. Joyce notes early on in their 5-date courtship, they didn’t truly know each other. Yet through divine intervention, they found themselves bonded for life.

Based on this conversation with celebrated life coach and bestselling author Joyce Meyer and her husband Dave, here are some invaluable insights on how to build a strong, God-honoring marriage.

1. Joyce and Dave Meyer discuss the ups and downs of their early marriage and how their thinking has changed over the years.

2. Dave knew marriage was forever so he never thought about changing Joyce or leaving if things didn’t improve.

3. They had to learn about each other through experiences and God helped Dave deal with difficult situations. Over decades, Joyce and Dave Meyer learned to accept each other fully as God designed.

4. Dave applies relevant scriptures like Ephesians 5:28 to situations rather than dwelling on problems.

5. Joyce explains she came from a difficult childhood which manifested in erratic, emotionally volatile behaviors in their first years of marriage. She recalls giving Dave the silent treatment for weeks at a time when upset.

6. Dave remained steadfast, understanding where Joyce’s hurt originated while navigating ups and downs to learn about her. He displayed remarkable strength and commitment to their vows.

Common Mistakes in Marriage.

7. Trying to change your spouse instead of letting them be who they are. Realizing their unique qualities complement one another affirms God’s plan for oneness in marriage.

8. Joyce acknowledges trying to change Dave was misguided since transformation must come from within.

9. From the start, Dave viewed marriage as permanent, avoiding the “threat” mindset some have of changing or divorcing a spouse.

10. Focusing on what’s wrong with your spouse instead of what’s right is a common mistake.

11. Thinking you have to be happy for your spouse to be happy instead of each being responsible for their own happiness.

Handling Differences of Opinion.

12. It’s normal to have different opinions and likes in a marriage.

13. Compromise by allowing each person to decorate their own space.

14. It’s okay to disagree as long as you don’t think your spouse is wrong for having a different view.

15. Joyce recommends couples make a side-by-side list of each other’s positive and negative traits. For her and Dave, the good vastly outweighed the bad. By shifting mental focus to a spouse’s virtues, small flaws seem insignificant.

Dealing with Financial Disagreements.

16. Joyce and Dave Meyer advised that you talk through finances and goals before marriage to avoid surprises.

Joyce and Dave Meyer

17. Needs can change over time so revisit financial agreements.

18. Understand each other’s perspectives and fears around money.

Dave’s Experience with Saving Money as a Youth.

19. Dave shares how he learned the value of saving money from a young age. He explains how at 16 years old, he saved one thousand dollars cutting grass and selling items to buy his first car.

20. Dave emphasizes the importance of prioritizing spending money on important goals.

Accepting Each Other as God Made Us.

21. Joyce and Dave Meyer are different. Dave is more logical while Joyce processes things verbally.

22. One frequent source of disagreement between spouses is having differing communication styles.

23. Joyce mentioned how she likes to verbally process situations by talking through all the angles, while Dave prefers a more direct, logical approach. It’s not that either way is wrong, but recognizing these distinctions is important. They’ve realized God made them this way and focusing on each other’s strengths has helped.

24. When Joyce was unhappy, Dave modeled finding joy regardless through stable faith.

25. As Christians, we are not to let others dictate our moods but lead by example. Joyce was inspired to mirror Dave’s contentment.

26. Misunderstandings often arise when partners don’t understand each other’s methods of thinking and reasoning through problems.

27. Surrender fully to God’s design for oneness. Appreciate differences as completing each other.

28. Apply biblical solutions in tough times, not human reasoning. Prioritize your spouse’s well-being through humility, patience, and consistent prayer.

We will continue with Part 2 of Top 56 Valuable Lessons from the 56-Year Marriage of Joyce and Dave Meyer tomorrow.


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Top 10 Secrets Of Rising To The Top In Marriage with Dr. Becky Enenche

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Introduction

If you want a successful marriage that stands the test of time, this article is for you. Many marriages struggle or fail because the vital roles of God, the husband, and the wife’s submission are not properly understood. In this piece, I will explain the secrets to rising to the top in marriage by exploring the God factor, the husband’s role, and what submission from the wife truly means.

The God Factor

It is no secret that God must be at the center of any marriage that hopes to thrive. God is the one who gives dignity and blessing to a marital relationship. He is the one who gives color and meaning to what marriage represents. Rising To The Top In Marriage Is possible with God.

The Bible tells us that “favor is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord will be praised.” This shows us that the greatest quality a wife can have is the fear of God, and the same applies to the husband. When both partners put God first in their marriage, it lays the foundation for success. Here are Top 10 Secrets Of Rising To The Top In Marriage

1. God must be at the center.

The very first secret of Rising To The Top In Marriage is realization that God instituted the marriage institution, so He must be at the center for it to fulfill His purpose.

Why must we put God at the center?

a. Putting God at the center eliminates distrust that comes from defiled relationships. Premarital sex erodes love, trust, respect and leads to affairs.

b. God gives direction for the roles of the man and woman, so obeying His word on these roles helps the marriage.

c. A God-centered marriage receives blessings, dignity, and favor from above.

For Rising To The Top In Marriage to be realized, every husband and wife must ensure God is the number one priority in their home. Their relationship with Him must come before anything or anyone else.

Dr. Becky Enenche highlights that the man’s singular assignment as far as a successful marriage is concerned is to love his wife. This is rooted in Ephesians 5 verse 25 which instructs husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church. What a tall order that is! There are 5 key ways for a man to love his wife.

2. Be Patient:

Patience is another top secret of Rising To The Top In Marriage. As the weaker vessel, a wife needs patience, understanding, and accommodation from her husband. Rushing her or having unrealistic expectations will breed resentment.

3. Be Kind:

Rising To The Top In Marriage

This means taking care of her needs, being considerate of her feelings, opening doors, and generally making her feel cherished through actions.

4. Do Not Insist on Your Own Rights:

A loving husband will be willing to yield his rights or ways sometimes for the good of his wife and family unity.

5. Do Not Be Rude or Arrogant:

Speaking to one’s wife, especially in public, in a demeaning way destroys her dignity and the respect a husband is meant to command. Rising To The Top In Marriage cannot be realized if either spouse is rude and arrogant.

6. Praise Your Wife:

Loving words, compliments, and affirmations are like water for a wife’s soul. They help her to respect and cheerfully submit to her husband.

When a man fully embraces these 5 points, he sets himself and his wife up for success in marriage. But it is a two-way street – the wife also has a role to play.

A wife’s singular assignment in marriage is submission to her husband. This is rooted in Ephesians 5 verse 22 which instructs wives to submit to their husbands as to the Lord. Submission is often misunderstood in today’s society but is vital for a thriving marriage. Here are 4 key aspects of a wife’s biblical submission.

7. Depend on Your Husband:

Look to him for provision, protection, and leadership. This allows him to fulfill his role joyfully. That way, Rising To The Top In Marriage will not be far-fetched.

8. Adapt Yourself to Your Husband:

Be flexible in your ways and accommodate his preferences sometimes to keep peace in the home.

9. Respect Your Husband:

Honor, admire, and hold him in high regard as the head of the home. Respect strengthens a man’s leadership. Respect is a secret of Rising To The Top In Marriage.

10. Praise Your Husband:

As with the husband praising his wife, a wife who makes her man feel valued through words of affirmation and encouragement empowers him.

When a wife embraces these 4 principles of submission, it creates an environment where her husband can love her as Christ loved the church. In turn, this releases blessings in the home. A submissive wife is a barometer for a successful, happy marriage.

Conclusion

In summary, the secrets to rising to the top in marriage are ensuring God is at the center, the husband loves his wife as Christ loved the church, and the wife submits to her husband’s leadership as unto the Lord. When both partners understand and fulfill their God-ordained roles, it creates an ideal environment for a thriving marriage full of joy, peace, and blessings from above.

Some may object that submission seems like oppression. However, as outlined, biblical submission is not about control but about each partner serving the other. It allows both to fulfill their full potential.

When submission is embraced with a pure heart, it leads to a marriage where both partners truly become one flesh.

For those struggling in their marriage, I strongly recommend focusing on the God factor, having the husband study what it means to love like Christ, and the wife learning about joyful biblical submission. Make these secrets a daily reality and watch as your marriage is transformed and rises to new heights.

In closing, if you want your marriage to stand the test of time, put God first, love your spouse sacrificially, and learn to submit to one another through service. Apply these secrets and you will reap an abundant, blessed marriage that will be the envy of those around you.


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Unlock 10 Secrets of Biblical Courtship and Marriage with Dr. David Ogbueli

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This devotional is from a teaching originally done by Dr. David Ogbueli in a YouTube video titled Biblical Courtship and Marriage.

Many struggle with relationships failing to last. Can we just take a moment to appreciate how much wisdom is packed into the Bible’s approach to courtship and marriage? It’s like a well-designed blueprint for building a solid foundation, and let me tell you, that foundation is crucial when it comes to weathering life’s storms together.

What are The Two Stages of Biblical Courtship and Marriage?

1. First Stage. Engagement

Engagement in the biblical sense wasn’t just a fancy way of saying “We’re dating.” Nope, it was a brief period where the couple obtained consent from the woman’s family, kind of like a formal “courting” phase. Once that consent was given, it was time to move on to the next stage: marriage.

2. Second Stage. Marriage

Marriage represented the legal and covenant union between a man and woman. Speaking of marriage, this wasn’t just a casual “let’s make it official” kind of deal. It was a full-blown covenant union between a man and woman, complete with ceremonies and celebrations with both families. Talk about making a commitment, right? That is the second stage of Biblical Courtship and Marriage.

Let’s talk about Understanding Engagement in Scripture.

3. The Example of Rebekah and Isaac

Remember the story of Rebekah and Isaac? When Abraham’s servant went searching for a wife for Isaac, Rebekah showed she was game, and the servant then asked her family for permission. Boom, that’s the engagement process right there. This is a clear example of Biblical Courtship and Marriage.

4. The Example of Mary and Joseph

How about Mary and Joseph? According to Matthew 1:19, they were already betrothed (engaged) when Mary became pregnant. Joseph was ready to “divorce her quietly” because he thought she had been unfaithful. That just goes to show how serious engagement was back then – it was basically like being married already.

What are the Factors to Consider During Engagement?

5. Inquiring About Family Backgrounds

When it comes to Biblical Courtship and Marriage, It was important to inquire about each other’s family backgrounds, values, and relationships. After all, you’re not just marrying the person; you’re marrying into their whole family dynamic.

6. Checking Spiritual Values and Upbringing.

Checking in on spiritual values and upbringing was also crucial. You wanted to make sure you and your potential spouse were on the same page when it came to following Christ and living out biblical truth. It’s not just about what someone says; it’s about the fruit they bear.

7. Moving From Engagement to Marriage

Once consent and compatibility were established, it was time to move from engagement to marriage without delay. Dragging things out too long risked forming unhealthy attachments or behaviors that weren’t exactly in line with Christian commitment. With God’s guidance and some wise counsel, a couple could discern when they were ready to tie the knot.

How Do We Apply Biblical Courtship and Marriage Principles for Lasting Marriages?

8. The Importance of Parental Guidance

Following God’s blueprint for relationships helps build marriages that stand. parental guidance is key. Having that accountability and wisdom from the get-go helps ensure you’re making a decision based on character and calling, not just fleeting emotions.

9. Building on Shared Faith

When you and your spouse are united in following Christ, you’ve got a solid spiritual and moral foundation to weather any storm that comes your way. Marrying someone who doesn’t share your faith can lead to growing apart over time as your worldviews diverge.

10. Recommendation

That’s why I wholeheartedly recommend following the Biblical Courtship and Marriage model of brief engagement and parental guidance when it comes to relationships. It’s all about open communication, accountability, and making sure you’re compatible in the ways that truly matter – shared faith, values, and a commitment to putting Christ at the center of your union. Let’s be real, emotions come and go, but a marriage built on the solid rock of Christ? That’s a union that can withstand anything life throws your way, all while bringing glory to God.

Conclusion

So, my friend, as you navigate the world of relationships and marriage, remember to make wisdom your guide. Don’t just go with your feelings; seek counsel, prioritize character and conviction, and build on a foundation of shared faith. When you do that, you’ll be setting yourself up for a marriage that not only lasts but also reflects the incredible love and commitment of our Heavenly Father. I hope you have learnt one or two things about Biblical Courtship and Marriage.


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18 Blueprints for a Successful Marriage and Home by Bishop Oyedepo

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18 Blueprints for a Successful Marriage and Home Part 2 by Bishop Oyedepo.

We continue from where we left off yesterday.

8. Protect Your Home from Unauthorized Discussions.

Satan knows the best way to infiltrate is through our vulnerabilities. We must guard our hearts and minds, as well as protect our families, from having private counsel with those who could mislead or misinform.

Only by focusing on Jesus can we avoid being led astray down dangerous paths that end up destroying what God wants to build.

9. Satan, Liar and Deceiver.

Satan is introduced in the Bible as a deceiver, not a man of strength. He is against a Successful Marriage and home. His power comes from deception, not might. We must recognize him for who he truly is – a liar who seeks to trick us through half-truths and distortions of God’s word. To avoid giving Satan access, we must educate ourselves on the strategies he commonly uses. Some of his devices mentioned in the Bible include sowing discord, temptation of the flesh, and accusations against believers. Studying God’s word and growing in spiritual discernment equip us to recognize Satan’s tactics and not fall for his tricks.

10. Satan Seeks to Gain Advantage Through Ignorance.

Paul warns in 2 Corinthians 2 verse 11 that we should not be ignorant of Satan’s devices, lest he gain an advantage over us. Unless we are conversant in his tricks and tactics, the enemy will succeed in deceiving us. Knowledge is key to not allowing Satan’s entrance. We must understand how he operates so we aren’t caught unaware by his schemes. In a successful marriage, the couple is sensitive.

11. Love Your Spouse As Christ Loves the Church.

A foundational way to keep Satan out is by following Christ’s example of sacrificial love for our spouse. When we put our partner’s needs above our own desires, prioritizing understanding and kindness, it creates an environment Satan cannot penetrate. Your marriage and home becomes a haven.

12. Submit to One Another in Reverence for Christ.

Another one of the blueprints for a successful marriage and home is submission. Bishop Oyedepo highlighted the importance of mutual submission according to Ephesians 5. By humbly yielding to one another out of respect for Jesus, it fosters an atmosphere of peace, unity, and care that protects the home from Satan’s schemes.

13. Living Out God’s Design for Marriage.

God created marriage to reflect Christ’s love for the church. Living this out daily through small acts of service, communication, and time together provides the foundation Satan cannot gain entry over.

14. Dealing With an Unsaved Spouse.

For those with unbelieving partners, Bishop Oyedepo advised continuing to love unconditionally as Christ did, while being a light that points to Jesus. With patience and prayer, God can use a faithful spouse’s example to soften their companion’s heart over time. Your marriage and home can be glorious.

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15. Standing United as a Family.

When spouses present a united front and make their marriage and home a priority through quality time together, it sends a message to Satan that he is not welcome. Discord and division give him an opening to sow temptation, but unity slams the door in his face.

16. Praying For and Encouraging Your Spouse.

Lifting each other through prayer is vital and also a Successful Marriage secret. When spouses cover one another before God’s throne daily, interceding for protection and blessing, it forms a hedge of protection around the home that demons cannot penetrate. Positive words of affirmation and compassion also strengthen the resolve to resist Satan’s attacks.

17. Resolving Conflict Biblically.

Disagreements will inevitably arise, but Bishop Oyedepo stressed addressing them according to Matthew 18, through gentle confrontation and then involving authority figures if needed. Refusing to let the sun go down on anger prevents the devil from gaining a foothold in division. thereby saving your marriage and home.

18. Filling Your Home With Love.

Making your marriage and home a place of acceptance, forgiveness, and fun keeps Satan at bay. Laughter, inside jokes, and making memories together form an impenetrable shield of protection. Filling your water pots with love and kindness starves the accuser of any opportunities.

Conclusion. By understanding Satan’s tactics, equipping yourself with biblical knowledge, and living out God’s design for marriage, you can send the demons attacking your marriage and home fleeing. Make protecting your family through Christ-centered unity and love a daily priority. Though spiritual battles will come, focus on filling your water pots with God’s love so Satan finds no entrance. Stay strong in the Lord and in the power of His might.


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Blueprints for a Successful Marriage and Home by Bishop Oyedepo

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Blueprints for a Successful Marriage and Home by Bishop Oyedepo.

Before we dive into today’s devotional, I want to wish you a happy new month! God bless you massively! This month, God has given us a word! You will SING a NEW SONG! I’m expecting your testimonies!

The enemy has targeted the family as his number one priority to attack and prevent a Successful Marriage and Home. Bishop Oyedepo shares in his YouTube video titled “How To Build A Successful Home” how to protect your home through the power of God’s Word and have it overflowing with miracles instead of darkness.

1. The Enemy’s Target: The Family.

As we learn from Genesis, Satan was personally introduced as soon as the first family was established by God. His very first activity on earth was directed towards destroying this family unit. Satan appeared immediately after God had concluded the first marriage between Adam and Eve.

Satan knew that the family was central to God’s plan and purpose. By attacking the home, he could undermine what God was establishing. Even today, the home remains one of Satan’s top priorities to infiltrate and dismantle. Whether it is causing strife between husbands and wives or turning children away from their parents, Satan will do anything to wreck God’s design for families.

2. Jesus’ Counter: Establishing Joy at a Wedding.

In direct contrast, the first miracle Jesus performed was at a wedding in Cana to save the celebration. Jesus appeared where Satan had sought to destroy, in the context of marriage and family.

By turning water into wine, Jesus brought joy to the newlywed couple on what should have been a happy occasion. He established that his mandate was to give life abundantly. Just as Satan came to steal, kill, and destroy, Jesus came so that we may have life more plentifully.

This miracle sets the stage for Jesus to undo all of Satan’s works. It showed his heart was for restoring families and taking away any shame that the enemy tried to bring. Wherever Satan brought sorrow, Jesus promises joy instead. Jesus showed His support for a Successful Marriage and Home.

3. Do Whatever God Tells You To Do.

Bishop Oyedepo highlights the servants’ obedience as the key to Jesus performing miracles. When he told them to fill the water pots, they did so fully without question. This is one of the blueprints of a Successful Marriage and Home.

If we want to see miracles in our homes, we must do whatever God says – not half-heartedly, but to the fullest extent. When His Word calls us to honor our spouse, forgive easily, or put our kids first – we must obey without limit. Full obedience unlocks God’s power.

4. Fill the “Water Pots” with the Word.

The servants were filling the pots with water, but the passage likens the water to God’s Word. When we fill our minds and homes with scripture, speaking it over our situations, we position ourselves for miracles.

God’s Word has the power to transform every area, just as the water became wine. Make time each day to read the Bible and pray its truths over your family and you will enjoy a Successful Marriage and Home.

5. Miracles Will Be the Result.

When the servants obeyed Jesus fully by filling the pots to the brim with water, the scripture says he then told them to draw some out and take it to the governor of the feast. And when the ruler tasted it, he declared it the best wine of all – even though it had just been turned from water moments before.

In the same way, when we obey God’s Word completely for our families and homes, miracles will be the inevitable result. Where there was lack, abundance will come. Trouble will turn to triumph. And what the enemy meant for evil, God will use for good beyond what we could ask or think.

Through obedience, our families can be transformed from average to excellent – far surpassing what people expect. So make the choice today to do all that God instructs for your home. Miracles will follow!

6. Avoid Strife.

Bishop Oyedepo noted that Satan works by spreading unauthorized information to cause strife. But God’s people have a distinct advantage – we are called to walk in the light of His Word. To have a Successful Marriage and Home you have to avoid strafe!

7. Walk in the Word and Hear God, Not Men.

When gossip, rumors, or doubts come our way, the Bible instructs us to test everything and hold fast to what is good. We must determine if a message lines up with Scripture or comes from an ungodly source meant to deceive. By hearing God’s voice above all others, no weapon formed against our home can prosper (Isaiah 54:17). His truth protects us from the enemy’s schemes. We will stop here today and continue tomorrow.


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Top 10 Secrets to a Stress-Free Marriage They Didn’t Teach In School

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Top 10 Secrets to a Stress-Free Marriage They Didn’t Teach In School Originally Taught by Dr. Albert Femi Oduwole


This teaching is done by Dr. Albert Femi Oduwole, an International Conference Speaker, Author, Life coach and Lead Pastor at Triumphant Nation. Many people struggle in their marriages wondering “why can’t relationships just be easy?” While love may feel simple at first, maintaining a healthy marriage requires effort. In this article, we’ll discuss the root causes of marital problems and provide practical tips for overcoming struggles through open communication, appreciation, and personal growth.

Here Are A Few Root Causes of Marital Problems

1. Unhealthy Comparisons

It’s only natural to compare our partners to others, but this often stems from unrealistic expectations. No two people or relationships are exactly alike, so comparing your spouse to an idealized version of someone else sets them up for failure. Learn to appreciate your partner for who they are. Focus on your partner’s positive qualities rather than perceived flaws. Appreciate how they enrich your life uniquely rather than longing for something different. Avoiding unhealthy comparisons is one of the secrets to a stress-free marriage.

2. Taking Your Partner for Granted

How we treat our spouse on a daily basis matters greatly. When we stop showing gratitude for the little things they do, it’s easy to start resenting them. Don’t forget to express thanks for the care and support you receive from your partner. Verbalize gratitude, perform small acts of service, and give compliments. Keep romance alive with date nights, gifts, and quality time together.

3. Lack of Communication

Problems arise when we make assumptions instead of openly discussing how we feel. Resentment builds over time if issues aren’t addressed. Make deliberate listening a priority so you can understand each other’s perspectives. Use “I feel” statements to share feelings respectfully. Actively listen by restating what you heard to ensure understanding. Find a compromise when you disagree instead of demanding your way.

4. Lack of Regular Date Nights

Make time to reconnect as a couple away from distractions. Enjoy fun activities together to foster intimacy and friendship.

5. Not Participating in Chores  

Lend a helping hand with chores or responsibilities to lighten their load. Offer back rubs, make their favorite meal, or send caring notes.

Understanding Each Other Despite Our Differences

While marriage comes with its challenges, understanding and appreciating our differences can help overcome them. Let’s dive into three key areas: At the core of the secrets to a stress-free marriage is understanding one another.

6. Rice vs Spaghetti Brains

Science has shown men and women’s brains develop differently. A man’s brain tends to be compartmentalized like individual rice grains, allowing him to focus intently on one thing at a time. In contrast, a woman’s brain is more interconnected like spaghetti, allowing her to multitask and take in various details simultaneously.

This affects how we process and store information. For example, a husband may have trouble following a story if his wife jumps around. Or a wife may get frustrated if her husband doesn’t seem engaged when she’s sharing feelings. Understanding these natural differences can help us communicate better.

7. Speaking Each Other’s Love Language

People also express and receive love primarily through five “love languages” – gifts, quality time, acts of service, words of affirmation, and physical touch. Gary Chapman’s research showed unless we understand our spouse’s main love language, our efforts to show love may not be properly received.

For instance, if a husband’s language is acts of service but his wife’s is quality time, he may feel unloved when she does chores but doesn’t spend meaningful one-on-one moments with him. Learning each other’s love language builds intimacy. Speaking Each Other’s Love Language is one of the secrets to a stress-free marriage

8. Handling Challenges as Opportunities

Rather than magnifying problems, we can choose to see challenges as opportunities for growth. Hard times, if faced with gratitude, can strengthen our character and relationship in unseen ways. Problems often come hand in hand with blessings, if we have the right perspective. For example, an illness may bring family closer in caregiving. Financial struggles may lead to cutting expenses in healthy ways. Difficult conversations could improve communication long-term.

9. Blessings In Disguise

Seeing blessings amidst trials requires an active choice to be thankful in “all circumstances,” as Paul wrote. It’s human nature to focus on negatives; changing our lens takes effort but pays off.

Similarly, problems present chances to cultivate virtues like patience, humility and dependence on God. We can learn so much about ourselves and each other through adversity. If faced constructively as a team, challenges need not tear us apart but can instead bring us closer together. Seeing Challenges as Opportunities is one of the secrets to a stress-free marriage.

10. The Power of Perspective

One powerful testimony shared was about a man who promised to take his family on a vacation. However, he then hit unexpected financial struggles and it seemed the trip may not happen.

Instead of worrying, the man chose to be thankful for what he had. He thanked God each day for blessings like his health and family. Opportunities then unexpectedly opened up for an even greater provision beyond what he asked for, enabling an amazing vacation.

This example shows how shifting one’s perspective from lack to gratitude can change everything. When we feel discontent, it’s easy to focus on wants. But being thankful for what we’ve received, no matter how little, attracts more goodness.

In conclusion, understanding our differences, seeing struggles as opportunities, and cultivating gratitude can strengthen any marriage. Appreciating each other as God designed will help weather challenges and build a foundation of love. When you understand these tips, you would have discovered powerful secrets to a stress-free marriage.


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