There are so many things you can do to make your marriage blissful and happy.
But like Jesus told Martha that faithful afternoon, ” One thing is needed and Mary has chosen it and it will not be taken from her.
Luk 10:41-42 (KJV) And Jesus answered and said unto her, Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: [42] But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her.
Here is God asking you whether you are willing to do what it takes for your marriage to be what it ought to be.
What He will be asking you to do may be different from what He is asking me to do.
We will all be required to do different things at different times.
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Joy is crucial, my dear! Joy in the Holy Spirit is one of your greatest weapons that you must hold tightly to as a lifestyle!
Joy is crucial to your continual victory in the everyday endeavour!
Joy has been given to you by God to employ against the vicissitudes of life!
Joy doesn’t come automatically, it is always a decision to make!
Hab 3:17-18 (KJV) Although the fig tree shall not blossom, neither shall fruit be in the vines; the labour of the olive shall fail, and the fields shall yield no meat; the flock shall be cut off from the fold, and there shall be no herd in the stalls: [18] Yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will joy in the God of my salvation.
All of those things might happen, yet…!
Broken relationships, yet I will rejoice!
Disappointed a few weeks before the wedding, yet I will rejoice!
Laid off from work, yet I will rejoice!
Not much in the bank account, yet I will rejoice!
No spouse is showing up, yet I will rejoice!
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We are used to instant victory. Indomie noddles kind of thing.
Even in natural things, nothing just happens. There are no instant millionaires.
In a weight loss programme, it’s easier to gain weight than it is to lose it.
You gain more calories by eating cakes, pastries, and ice cream. You will have to work out for hours and days to lose what you have gained.
My point is, you cannot have an instant weight loss or anything for that matter.
In the same way, we cannot expect instant victory over where we have been defeated before. It takes time and effort.
The Power of Incremental Progress
Some of us have been used to a certain way of thinking and doing things (in a negative way).
We have learned certain bad habits that are not making our marriage work out.
We shout, lie, are selfish and self-centered, we are bossy, we nag, we are lazy, we are insincere, we are not trustworthy, we unnecessarily keep quiet and withdraw, and the list goes on.
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It took you years to get to that point and then you are expecting an instant change.
Deu 7:22 And the Lord your God will clear out those nations before you, little by little; you may not consume them quickly, lest the beasts of the field increase among you.
Deu 7:23 But the Lord your God will give them over to you and will confuse them with a mighty panic until they are destroyed.
The Power of Incremental Progress
This is God talking to us. He says your victory will come ‘little by little’.
I feel this little-by-little victory causes us to be sober and keeps us coming to God holding on to Him and looking up to Him for His Mercy.
I believe ‘ the beast of the field’ among us is PRIDE.
Where we feel, ‘ Yes, I can press the button, and …the victory comes.
Remember it took Jesus, dying on the cross to give us this victory. It was a great price.
So don’t get discouraged on your journey to making your marriage beautiful.
Pro 23:18 For surely there is a latter end [a future and a reward], and your hope and expectation shall not be cut off.
God has promised you victory. He has promised that your expectations will not be cut off.
That marriage will be blissful.
That husband will love you.
That wife will be supportive and submissive.
Those children will be obedient and together as a family you will enjoy prosperity. You will move forward. You will increase.
That contract will come through.
God bless your marriage.
Rev. Sophia Okunowo
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1. Marriage is so demanding, that God has to understand.
God wants you to put him first place in your life. Every other thing can come later. Our God is a jealous God. No matter how demanding marriage is, God wants you to give him what’s his.
Your family shouldn’t take the place of God. Likewise your business or career. Your waking moment as a family should be given back to God. Create time out of no time to give back to God.
Four Critical Beliefs to Ditch
2. I can flirt a little since I am not sure what my spouse is doing as well.
This is nothing but a deception from hell. Never allow evil to manipulate your thought pattern. If you give the devil an inch, he will take a mile from you. Stay away from all forms of compromise. Focus on your spouse. Don’t give the devil an avenue to strike your family. Marriage is a covenant, so don’t joke with it.
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You don’t say things like I will ‘show’ you. You are actually ‘showing’ yourself because you are one in marriage. Yes, disagreement will come but you need to resolve it quickly and immediately, so as not to give room for funny thoughts. If you and your spouse are not on talking terms, you need to deal with the hurt first and then ask for God’s help. Seek counsel from someone you both submit to.
Four Critical Beliefs to Ditch
4. I make money available, what else do they want?
Money is good. It is important in marriage but it should not be placed above your family. Your wife wants time and attention. Your children need their father. Yes, you need to provide for your family, but not at their expense. You can plan a vacation, a retreat etc. Just make sure you are there for your family.
I pray for you this morning, every situation in your home is corrected by the mercies of God right now. The shalom of God envelopes your marriage. The joy you once had about your spouse is restored right now in the name of Jesus.
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Certainly––but only within a certain context. It’s good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. (1 Corinthians 7:2 Message)
As married couples, make sure you satisfy each other sexually. You will chase adultery away like that. But, Pastor my husband has a higher libido and wants it all the time! Receive grace to satisfy him, okay?
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With understanding and love, you will be able to strike a balance but make sure he is not frustrated to the point of considering exploring and looking for it outside.
You have married because you are to help each other. Don’t deny one another in the bedroom.
Depths of Sexual Connection in Marriage 2
5. Comfort
Ask every married man; sexual intimacy can be so comforting with one’s spouse when he or she is down. In hard times, in difficult moments, when he or she is at the lowest ebb, sexual intimacy can be so comforting.
There are times when sexual intimacy is wanted and there are times when it is needed. Be sensitive. It is wanted when either spouse asks for it, it is needed when your spouse is down and you decide to comfort your spouse.
Outside of marriage, it brings confusion, disorder, selfishness, and outright disobedience to God’s way of doing things. Now you don’t want to be in a place where you will not have God’s support, and favor.
The question is would you rather go for confusion rather than comfort?
Good morning!
May God bless your marriage!
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God wanted you to have pleasure! Conception and reproduction could have taken place in a million ways. Some cellular division could have taken place and there would be kids staring at you. But God wanted pleasure!
God does not want intimacy without marriage commitment. God does not want you sleeping with everybody you set your eyes on. God in His divine wisdom knows what He is doing.
So why did God create Intimacy between a husband and wife?
1. Procreation
The first obvious reason why God created sexual intimacy is because of reproduction. The deposit of seed by the man, the fertilization process in women, the trimesters’ experiences, and the completion of the gestation period, are all processes that God designed to help us value human life.
If it had taken us less than two hours to get pregnant and then give birth, probably we would have been killing our kids once they offend or get stubborn or they didn’t come out cute since we could have another one in the next two hours!
The Depths of Sexual Connection in Marriage
2. Closeness
And Adam knew Eve his wife; and she conceived, and bare Cain, and said, I have gotten a man from the Lord. (Genesis 4:1 KJV)
This knowing is nothing more than sexual intimacy. When a couple who is married, a man and a woman, (not a man and a man, or a woman with another woman,) come together in sexual intimacy it is the highest possible way they can physically know themselves.
It brings a bond that cements the couple together. It is an expression of love for each other, stronger than a thousand words.
The Depths of Sexual Connection in Marriage
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Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love (Proverbs 5:18-19 KJV).
God wants you to have pleasure! When you look at your wife and you are turned on in marriage, it is very holy! God didn’t make mistakes when He said let her breasts satisfy you at all times!
The problem begins when you start to derive satisfaction from the breast of another man’s wife or somebody you are not married to!
When the scripture says be thou ravished with her love, literal Hebrew says be thou intoxicated and enraptured with her love!
When all you are thinking the whole day, is about your wife and the sexual intimacy you will have with her later in the night, it is okay and holy! You need to understand that sex in itself is holy! It is when man decides to get selfish and disobedient that it becomes unholy.
To be continued tomorrow
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There is one truth I want to drive in this morning! Whether single or married, this truth will be helpful for you!
The devil’s attempt is always to limit us by what we see. But the scripture is clear on what we are to do regarding that! See it below:
2Co 4:17-18 (KJV) For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, worketh for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory; [18] While we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen: for the things which are seen are temporal; but the things which are not seen are eternal.
This One Too Shall Pass
First of all, it says our affliction is light! It is not heavy enough to kill us. God is not a taskmaster and He would not allow us to be tempted beyond our strength!
He allows tests and trials, not to kill us but to work for us eventually.
But then there is an instruction in the above verse. Do not look at those things that are disturbing you. Please don’t focus on them. There is no need for your BP to rise!
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Don’t give mental consideration and acceptance to the issues you are facing. Why?
They are temporal! Glory to God. They are not eternal. They do not have a forever status! They are transient and they shall pass. That is why I like the phrase “And it came to pass”
This One Too Shall Pass
Whatever it is, my dear, that one shall pass too
Those issues that were like life and death issues some five or ten years ago, where are they now? They passed. This one too will pass!
Who then do you focus on? Focus on God and His Word. Judge Him faithful. Meditate on His goodness always and you will experience that goodness in your relationship or marriage. Good morning!
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Being married is a call to selflessness. God is love and love is an action word. Love is practical. You cannot say you love your spouse while you are being selfish. Just as you love yourself, you must love your spouse too.
Couples should avoid these types of selfishness
Don’t Be Selfish To Yourself
1. Selfishness in taking care of yourself
Self-care and self-love are recommended for healthy living, good mental health, and good self-esteem. However, in marriage, we are to look out for each other. A selfish spouse is known in few ways. How do you treat your spouse when he or she is ill? Some expect their spouse to be all over them, taking care of them. There is nothing wrong with this. In fact, that’s how it should be. However, everything is wrong, when you don’t reciprocate the same to your spouse.
You treat them with levity. Husband, how do you treat your wife when she is pregnant? Do you tell her to get up and do the house chores and cook because you don’t know how to cook?
Do you buy stuff for yourself and forget your spouse or buy a cheaper version for your spouse?
There’s a funny video on Instagram where the wife serves her husband food but hides more chicken in her own food. Are you like that? Learn to treat your spouse well, if not better than yourself.
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Always find ways and opportunities to celebrate your spouse. Celebrate your spouse’s physical beauty, mental capacity, cooking skills, organizational skills etc
Appreciate them for them to be able to do better. Whatever you appreciate will not depreciate. Whatever you disregard, depreciates.
Always look for ways in casual conversations with friends and colleagues to celebrate your spouse. Never miss an opportunity to do this. It could be very painful when you don’t celebrate your spouse but celebrate others. Do this and your spouse will learn from you to do the same.
My husband had to correct me on this. It is not hero worship, it is being minded of your spouse, being smart, and being their number one cheerleader. If you appreciate your spouse, you are appreciating yourself. Papa E.A Adeboye does that a lot. My husband too does this.
Some spouse are always blowing their own trumpet. Without attributing some accolade to their spouse, as if they don’t have any good qualities worthy of appreciation. Be very generous with appreciating your spouse. If you find it difficult to appreciate your spouse then you are not a grateful person. A grateful soul will always find things to appreciate about their spouse. This will also reflect on how grateful you are to God.
The deliverer’s greatest struggle is the deliverance within! Perhaps, that would be the greatest lesson from the life Mobhad, the young singer who just died. He was in the music industry, bringing fun, music, and excitement to others, while he was dying inside from harassment, bullying, and attacks from those he trusted. May God comfort his family.
Perhaps he tried to talk, but I doubted whether he actually spoke to those who could really help! It was a case of bringing fun to others while dying and eventually dying in the process.
A lot of Pastors are on this table. Preaching, teaching vibrating and yet dying slowly within, often with nobody to talk to! You see your greatest mistake would be not to seek help! A lot of young couples are sitting nicely on this table, watching their homes torn apart slowly and yet refusing to do the right thing!
Yes, it is possible. A person can be so proud that the pride rides him into the grave. The devil’s method is to keep you muted till you are lifeless. That will not be your portion!
Job was once frustrated He was bringing hope to many, being the greatest man in the East, and yet when he was at his lowest ebb, his friend disappointed him so much so that he said,
Job 16:2b (KJV) miserable comforters are ye all.
Have you ever been surrounded by the wrong comforters who bring more misery? Not all your friends can help you!
When The Deliverer Needs Deliverance
I was on this table sometimes back. I was dealing with a serious issue while bringing hope to many daily!
Well, I reached out to those above me, and thank God help came!
Would there even be a time, when you would not be dealing with something in your marriage? I doubt, as long as you are in days of your flesh! Jesus promised us victory, provided you reach out and seek help.
Most times it would cost you time, finances, and your ego!
When a person is not ready to sacrifice any of that, a crash is imminent!
You won’t know it all. Those you are admiring and comparing yourself with know where they seek help from, they are smarter.
A couple can keep quiet in their pride and watch their marriage and home degenerate! Going through the motions, helping others while you ate crying within. That is not God’s plan for you. Jesus already died for you, you don’t need to die for anybody!
Jesus Christ, with having direct access to God, still begged his friends and disciples to pray with him. Sadly they failed him.
When The Deliverer Needs Deliverance
In the moment when I needed help, a dear older woman of God got us some materials that totally arrested the situation! My wife and I diligently went through these materials over and over again, and then help came!
I have gone through the pain of putting this resource together online for your marriage, alongside the journal/workbook. You are your spouse will spend seven weeks to turn things around in your marriage, whatever the issue is.
Additionally, Pastor Sophia and I will have seven sessions with you and your spouse diligently crossing all the ’T’s and dotting all the ‘I’s in your marital endeavor, prayerfully trusting God to bring help to your situation, and even after the course, we will still be available to mentor you.
It is not free, No, it is not. If you wish to invest this in your marriage, then check it out HERE while the discount is still running. Husband or wife, run to your spouse and convince them to get on this programme asap because both of you have to do this together!
Cheers to a better, newer, fresher, and blessed marriage as you make the little investment! This investment will be “coins” compared to the lawyer’s fees and all the anguish and agony that comes to the whole family as a result of a separation or divorce.
Let’s look at a few more things you shouldn’t do to your spouse!
1. Don’t be selfish in Prayers
A couple can be selfish in the place of prayer when all prayer points are about them. They forget to pray for their spouse!
In this case, it is what is in the heart that is being played out. Your greatest prayers should be directed to your spouse in love. Pray for one another’s career business, desires, aspirations, and dreams. Be wise!
Invariably, you are praying for yourself when you pray for your spouse! God answers such prayers.
Don’t Do These To Your Spouse
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2. Don’t be selfish in family relationships
When there is selfishness in family relationships, either spouse would only get in touch, call, text, or chat, with parents and siblings.
Relationship with spouses’ family is zero! Hey, this is selfishness raised to power hundred!
You need to understand what the Bible says about marriage. You leave your parents and cleave to your spouse!
This does not mean you will not get in touch with them, but it does mean that your relationship must not be lopsided in favor of your own parents and siblings!
Prioritize your spouse and everything that concerns him and you will have less trouble.
Don’t Do These To Your Spouse
3. Don’t be selfish in cheerfulness
Here, you are cheerful with everybody, you make the whole world laugh, and you are the office comedian but at home, you are as cold as frozen fish! Not fair!
Your spouse cracks a joke and you look at them with disdain and disgust as if they just uttered some stupidity.
Another person cracks a less funny joke and you are reeling with laughter, with tears coming out of the corner of your eyes. It is called selfishness. If you are like that, you need a change of heart and some prayers too.
If your spouse cracks a joke, whether it is funny or not, just laugh! If you call their joke dry or senseless, then you are the spouse of a dry and senseless joker! Whatever you are doing to them is what you are doing to yourself. You are joined together.
If they crack a joke, just laugh, even if the joke is boring. Laugh. Be the number one fan of one another. This is how to keep the marriage going. There are many examples, but I would like to stop here.
Be blessed!
Good morning!
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In marriage and even in courtship, there are pressures. Pressures of raising a family, taking care of your spouse, taking care of the children, paying bills, and many more. All these are coupled with pressures from work and career. Singles in courtship are not left out.
If one is not careful, marriage will be one strenuous, stressful, and tiring adventure.
It is deliberately then that you have to decide to live life to the fullest. You just have to make up your mind that in the midst of all the pressures, there will be pleasures.
It is a decision to remain joyful irrespective of whatever situation you might be going through.
As singles, decide to maximize that time rather than turn it into a pressured time as a result of unnecessary quarrels.
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You simply make up your mind to defuse pressures with laughter, for laughter doeth well like medicine
Pro 17:22 (MSG) A cheerful disposition is good for your health; gloom and doom leave you bone-tired.
Having a depressing disposition, unhappy tendencies, habitual despondency, and uncontrollably bad moods are enough to leave the bones tired.
Since you have to cook anyway, why not decide to cook while enjoying yourself
Since you are going to wash the car, decide to wash it while having a nice time.
Since the kids would always be around and going nowhere, enjoy yourselves and let them enjoy themselves too.
Doing things grumbling, complaining, and being unhappy in marriage is self-punishment.
Decide to enjoy yourselves as a couple.
As singles, pray together and do not be intertwined with the bind of iniquity. Iniquity comes with its own pressures! Stay out of the bedroom!
Couples, Satisfy each other right into the bedroom!
A few ways you can have fun together include: 1. Have regular date nights where you can spend quality time together like a dinner or a movie night out
2. Cook together in a collaborative way
3. Board games and puzzles. It will afford some time for laughter and togetherness.
I pray for your marriage, God will help you indeed in Jesus’ name. At every point of pressure, God will bring succor, His healing balm, and restore you in Jesus’ name.
Your marriage is blessed!
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I started this topic a while ago and I will be concluding it today.
Let me quickly summarize the 6 points.
Communication issues
Financial strain
Emotional Compatibility
Intimacy and Sexuality
Conflict Resolution
Balancing individuality
7. In-law issues
Another challenge faced by married couples in their marriage is managing in-law issues. Some in-laws can be really troublesome, others over sensitive while others could just be selfish. Whichever category your in-laws fall into, they should be treated with a lot of wisdom and tact. Always remember to treat in-laws with understanding knowing you will be an in-law someday. The bottom line is, to protect your spouse, defend them, and don’t expose them.
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8. Parenting
Not knowing how to raise children is definitely a challenge. Differing parenting styles and decisions. Both couples are to discuss and agree on the parenting model they should adopt in their family.
9. Life-Work Balance
Creating a balance between work, family and personal time between couples can be a threat to the marriage. Couples who work for several hours or live apart should discuss how best to adapt. There should be a good balance between all three or it will take a toll on the marriage and the children
10. Other Stressor
Every other factor that disturbs the peace and unity of the marriage comes under this category. Things like health, societal pressure, job changes, peer pressure, and ignorance are a few of the external stressors that can impact the marriage negatively.
In conclusion, a successful marriage requires open communication, compromise, and a commitment to working through these challenges together. Challenges are meant to be overcome.
Not forgetting to seek help through books, seminars, therapy, and mentors for difficult issues.
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Two days ago, I wrote about selfishness in two areas, in commitments and in raising the children. I will continue this morning. If you missed it two days ago, you can check it here:
You go out with colleagues, go out with friends, go out with the whole world except your spouse! Hey, that is extremely wrong! You need to pray against such selfish attitudes and then take action to make adjustments.
Marriage is a place of sacrifice, so you really want to go out of your way to satisfy your spouse, not just consider your own preferences.
That is what makes marriage beautiful, when each spouse seeks to satisfy the other, oh how beautiful will it be?
When we are selfish towards one another, that is when we create loopholes for the devil and then he tries to come up with more vices like jealousy, envy, and the like.
Imagine a couple that is constantly jealous of one another! Obviously, that is not God’s plan!
Ask your spouse deliberately how you can satisfy them and make them happy and then go a step further and do that thing!
You will love one another more!
d. Selfishness in cooking
Is this possible? Yes, the husband insists all the time that his best food must be on the table for everybody. It is really unfair when his best food is beans!
Or the wife cooks only what she likes and does not take into consideration the preferences of others!
It is also selfishness when the wife refuses to cook or make provisions for meals by saying “I thought nobody was hungry!”
It is selfishness when the husband never helps out in the kitchen, especially when there are no house-helps. Nothing is wrong with the husband helping out to cook sometimes or helping out with the dishes.
Leaving her to sweat it out all by herself while you are watching football or listening to the news is another level of selfishness.
Be involved with one another and help one another. Be a team. Show that you love your spouse deeply and let that love be unconditional.
Remember, marriage is not fifty percent from each side, but a hundred percent from each side!
Good morning!
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Say This Over Your Lover. Let’s quickly look at a few important prayers to pray over your loved ones.
1. Take away a heart of stone and give me a heart of flesh
Everything is about your heart. Your productivity will never rise above the capacity and quality of your heart.
Make sure your heart is right. Everything rises and falls on your heart.
David realized that his heart was the main issue after the dual iniquity of adultery and murder he found himself in.
Thus, he prayed,
Psa 51:10 (KJV) Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.
As a husband and wife, when you find yourself doing something you never thought you could do for your spouse, but which situation forced out of you and revealed, you just saw the capacity of your heart.
Lord, take away the heart of stone!
Eze 36:26 (KJV) A new heart also will I give you, and a new spirit will I put within you: and I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you an heart of flesh.
The Message Translation nailed it!
Eze 36:26 (MSG) I’ll give you a new heart, put a new spirit in you. I’ll remove the stone heart from your body and replace it with a heart that’s God-willed, not self-willed.
2. Lord, bless my spouse, shield my spouse, and take my spouse to the next level in you
There is always a next level in God regardless of where you are in God.
Pray for one another and constantly too.
Ask God to bless and favor your spouse. It would be to the benefit of both of you eventually. Even when you feel your spouse is defective in one area, prayer would almost all of the time change the course of events.
Never ever give up on your spouse.
Keep praying and do not get weary. One day you will wake up and find out your prayers are answered.
I pray that God will bless your marriage abundantly.
Be blessed!
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There is a need to pray against selfishness in your family and also to take conscious steps towards being selfless. There are different sides of selfishness.
a. Selfishness in commitment
How committed are you to the marriage? Is apology always one-sided? Do you care about ending a disagreement or do you always wait for your spouse to say sorry even if it would take a year, you really do not care.
Are you really committed to the marriage or you are committed to your ego? Are you committed to making it work, or you are committed to making your spouse bow?
Who apologizes all the time? That is the most mature! Take it or leave it, that is the truth. Saying “sorry” is maturity,.
Refusing to say “sorry” whether you are wrong or right is a form of rebellion, and it is not wise to sow rebellion in your own home.
The spouse who is committed to the marriage has no problem offering a GENUINE apology. He or she is just not comfortable when you are apart.
Anytime you are comfortable when there is an issue, when you are okay with some underlying problems, without an effort to end an issue, you need to check your heart and pray more.
Refuse To Be A Selfish Lover
b. Selfishness in raising the children
There can be selfishness in raising the children. You have never been to your children’s school. You don’t even know which classes they are. You don’t know who bathes for them, or how they eat.
You are always buried in whatever you are doing. This is a definition of selfishness, however, you want to look at it. It is even more intense when both of you are building a career, and you are both busy.
Raising the children should be a joint effort so that you can have emotionally balanced children. Now, you don’t need to go and accuse your spouse over this, I am only pointing you to what we need to pray and take action about
Refuse To Be A Selfish Lover
Good morning!
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Solomon was a king of a kind. He wasn’t your regular king.
If he were a Nigerian, he would have houses in all states of Nigeria, including plush places like Lekki, VI, and Abuja. He would have landed properties all over and this would be so easy because he would be the richest man not just in Nigeria but the richest man alive.
Ecc 2:4 (KJV) I made me great works; I builded me houses; I planted me vineyards:
He would have farms, and forests and would grow all kinds of exotic flowers and plants, having massive income in the tourism sector.
Ecc 2:5 (KJV) I made me gardens and orchards, and I planted trees in them of all kind of fruits:
He would have the largest irrigation system that even APC and PDP would envy.
Ecc 2:6 (KJV) I made me pools of water, to water therewith the wood that bringeth forth trees:
What if King Solomon hailed from Nigeria?
He would have the highest number of employees, Dangote would easily be one of his boys where wealth is concerned. He would have the largest livestock company in Africa.
Ecc 2:7 (KJV) I got me servants and maidens, and had servants born in my house; also I had great possessions of great and small cattle above all that were in Jerusalem before me:
He would largest amount in all the Banks, he would have diamond chains that David and Burnt Boy would envy. Sinach, Dunsi Oyekan, Simisola, and their like would be regular guest ministers in his palace. Tiwa Savage, Teni, and the like would be regular too. Beyonce and Rihanna would be flown in weekly to entertain him.
Ecc 2:8 (KJV) I gathered me also silver and gold, and the peculiar treasure of kings and of the provinces: I gat me men singers and women singers, and the delights of the sons of men, as musical instruments, and that of all sorts.
He would be an impulsive buyer, purchasing just anything he likes no matter how expensive. His daily expenses would easily run into hundreds of thousands of dollars.
Ecc 2:10 (KJV) And whatsoever mine eyes desired I kept not from them, I withheld not my heart from any joy; for my heart rejoiced in all my labour: and this was my portion of all my labour.
What if King Solomon hailed from Nigeria?
But upon all, he would conclude that it is all vanity!
Ecc 2:11 (KJV) Then I looked on all the works that my hands had wrought, and on the labour that I had laboured to do: and, behold, all was vanity and vexation of spirit, and there was no profit under the sun.
There was nothing to all of it. Just smoke, nothing but smoke!
The reality King Solomon is telling us. Is that without Jesus, all is vanity
Without Jesus, that wedding honeymoon in the Bahamas is vanity. That multi-million dollar wedding budget is all rubbish without Jesus.
All the money, acquisitions, properties, power, followers, and fans on social media are all vanity without Jesus.
The message is clear. Go after Jesus first. Don’t waste your time! Learn from the wisest and the richest man on earth at a time.
Good morning!
Rev Dunamis Okunowo
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We all want to have our desires when it comes to our choice of spouse. Well, there is nothing wrong with that. It is ideally in order.
We know that man we want. Tall, dark, and handsome. Loaded with muscles and six packs and also loaded in the pocket, enough to afford a honeymoon in Dubai or the Bahamas.
Very cool. Nothing wrong with these desires.
We know that lady we want. Beautiful enough to turn heads. Curvy with Coca-Cola Bottle shape. Catwalk, nice shape, and all that.
You have all these desires.
What is Really Important In A Spouse?
After the wedding though, your priorities change quickly. Yes, you are proud of all the equalities, but you soon promptly discover, there are deeper qualities that are even more important!
Pro 31:30 (KJV) Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
All of a sudden, you begin to discover that favour or charm can deceive. The Message Translation puts it this way;
Pro 31:30 (MSG) Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-GOD.
You just simply find out that someone can be beautiful and stupid. Somebody can be handsome and wicked.
At the end of the day, you soon and out that charm can be misleading and deceitful, while beauty can be vain and can quickly fade.
What is Really Important In A Spouse?
What is the most important thing?
It’s a spouse who fears the Lord! Wow! How can I emphasize this?
A spouse who fears the Lord will take care of you, love you, and care for you, irrespective of mistakes, weaknesses, and whatever along the way!
No, I am not talking about coping with rubbish, I am talking about being accepted as who you are, and becoming better by the day because you are married to a spouse that fears the Lord.
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The transactions of everyday endeavor can quickly bring weariness to the soul. The continual waiting for a miracle, blessing, or an answered prayer can unwittingly and subtly drive you into a place of mere religion where there is no more faith, but just going through the motions.
Now you must fight this from happening with every fiber in you because it is in the place of faith where you can constantly experience God.
In your relationship or marriage, what has God told you?
Whatever He told you will still come to pass, regardless of your present situation or circumstances.
Does it look laughable? Well, it is always like that. Too incredible to believe, and yet His words never fall to the ground.
When God Comes Knocking
The same thing happened to Sarah. She laughed at God! But that did not stop what God promised!
Gen 18:12-14 (MSG) Sarah laughed within herself, “An old woman like me? Get pregnant? With this old man of a husband?” [13] GOD said to Abraham, “Why did Sarah laugh saying, ‘Me? Have a baby? An old woman like me?’ [14] Is anything too hard for GOD? I’ll be back about this time next year and Sarah will have a baby.”
Well few chapters away, God fulfilled His word!
When God Comes Knocking
Gen 21:1-6 (MSG) GOD visited Sarah exactly as he said he would; GOD did to Sarah what he promised: [2] Sarah became pregnant and gave Abraham a son in his old age, and at the very time God had set. [3] Abraham named him Isaac. [4] When his son was eight days old, Abraham circumcised him just as God had commanded. [5] Abraham was a hundred years old when his son Isaac was born. [6] Sarah said, God has blessed me with laughter and all who get the news will laugh with me!
I loved the phrase, God visited Sarah. God knocked on her door!
I pray for you today, this week, God will visit you indeed and give you a blessing that will make you laugh! God will knock on your door this week in Jesus’ name!
That is the prophetic word of the Lord to you this week. Expect a visitation! Expect God to knock on your door! Amen!
Good morning!
Rev Dunamis Okunowo
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There are those times you get to and you feel you have made too many mistakes, of you have disobeyed God or you have not been proactive enough and time is gone? Do you feel time is gone concerning relationships or marriage?
God is asking you a question this morning.
1. Whose time? 2. Who is the timekeeper? 3. Who made the clock, if there was ever one?
You see, we often believe the words of the devil most times and these words are designed to weaken and weary us!
So the question is how do you get the strength to restart, refire, or revive?
Do you Feel Time Is Gone?
Heb 11:11 (KJV) Through faith also Sara herself received strength to conceive seed, and was delivered of a child when she was past age, because she judged him faithful who had promised.
Sarah was past childbearing age. Her time was gone!
Gen 18:11 (MSG) Abraham and Sarah were old by this time, very old. Sarah was far past the age for having babies.
She wasn’t just old, she was past that age! In the same way, you can say you are past some opportunities!
However, she received strength!
That is what you need to do this morning!
How did she receive strength? That scripture tells us she judged God faithful
It is the same thing you need to do! Receive strength this morning!
Do you Feel Time Is Gone?
Decide to judge God faithful over your life rather than be encumbered with regretful reminiscences.
Decide to judge God faithful that at least you are still alive and whatever you went through did not swallow you!
You are still alive and if you are, there are still possibilities!
God will still come through for you!
Stay joyful by judging God faithful over your life and you will see His power in your life and your situation!
Judge Him faithful today and tomorrow and the next and for the rest of your life!
You will receive strength. You will conceive. You will deliver that business or project or whatever it is!
Have a fantastic weekend!
Rev Dunamis Okunowo
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