God’s word remains the only authentic manual for living a fruitful married life and indeed every other aspect of our lives
Marriage is not meant to be lived without God. How do you get God involved in your marriage except by finding out of His word says in every different aspect?
The issue of forgiveness is very crucial in marriage. We must guide ourselves on how to handle hurts and offenses such that they don’t degenerate into bitterness and finally get to a point where your spirit is closed against your spouse.
Marriage is a union that is meant to multiply our strength. One is meant to chase a thousand and two of us in marriage put ten thousand to flight.
Yet marriage is the place where most offenses occur, mostly because of temperamental differences, background differences, and male/ female differences.
Pressures of different sorts occur in marriage. Unmet expectations, challenges, and changes happen in marriage and all these cause the very foundation of our marriage to be shaken. Arming ourselves with the right knowledge and getting the strength to help us navigate this aspect of our marital journey is very important.
That hurts will not come is living in a fool’s paradise. Let’s look at what God’s word says
2 Cor 6:3 Giving no offence in anything, … We are to make sure we are not easily offended. Don’t easily be offended. Grow a thick skin to being offended. Holding offenses is not even good for our health.
Learn to let go quickly. I know it is not an easy pill to swallow. I also know, that depending on the magnitude of the offense, it becomes really hard to let go. Yet God’s word must be obeyed.
Matt 18:7 Woe unto the world because of offences! for it must needs be that offences come; but woe to that man by whom the offence cometh!
Offenses MUST come. This is a reality in marriage. We are not expecting it but we are armed with how to handle offenses quickly when they show up.
I think that is a fair way to live.
Let’s look at what God’s word has to say about forgiveness
Matt 6:15 But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses
If we don’t forgive from our hearts, we stand the risk of having God holding our shortcomings against us. We are always in need of the mercy of God. So one of the reasons we forgive our spouse is because we also offend God in so many ways and want Him to forgive us. God counts it sheer wickedness, if we want God to forgive us and yet we withhold mercy from our covenant partner. Forgiveness is a show of Mercy that we give to the offender. When we show mercy to others we will also receive mercy.
I will stop here this morning. It is my prayer that God will grant us the Grace to forgive each other in marriage in Jesus’ mighty name.
In the journey of matrimony, your words are more than mere expressions; they are catalysts for change. God, a speaking spirit, designed us to release creative power through speech. Don’t shy away—speak with wisdom, propelling your husband to take giant strides. Ensure you use the power of words to steer your marriage in the right direction by choosing to speak respectfully and with wisdom to your husband
7. Avoid Silence, Be a Person of Influence
While being a person of few words is commendable, silence has no place in your relationship. Don’t be a piece of furniture; instead, be a strategic communicator. Your role as a helper is amplified when your words are infused with wisdom and purpose.
8. The Power of Genuine Prayer
As a helpmeet, embrace the role of an intercessor. Connect with God on behalf of your husband, bringing his burdens and dreams to the divine realm. In genuine intercession, you’ll find a source of strength that transcends the earthly realm.
9. Crafting a Haven: The Art of Homemaking
Wives are natural multipliers; utilize this creative power to enhance your husband’s life. Transform your house into a home, a place of peace and rejuvenation. Let your homemaking skills become a testament to your love and commitment.
10. In His Shoes: Understanding Every Aspect
To truly be a part of your husband’s life, delve into every aspect of it. Understand his finances, relationships, challenges, dreams, and more. Whether accompanying him physically or supporting from afar, be intimately involved in his journey. Do not be emotionally detached!
Acknowledge the unique role you play in managing your husband’s passions. In marriage, find creative ways to satisfy his needs, ensuring anticipation and excitement. This role is exclusive to you—embrace it with love and openness.
In embracing expressive communication, heartfelt prayer, and active involvement, you become the architect of a flourishing marriage. May understanding and love continue to thrive in your relationship.
Maintain a firm hierarchy in your life—God first, your husband second, followed by your children, and only then any other relationships. This order should resonate in your actions, words, and thoughts. Ensure that your communication with your spouse surpasses any other conversations; anything less might be a misalignment of priorities. Don’t talk more to anybody than you talk to your spouse. It’s a misplaced priority.
2. Innovative Approaches to Respect
Recognize that respect is not just invaluable but also alluring and seductive. Respect is not only priceless, it’s attractive and sexy. Forge creative ways to express respect to your husband, intertwining your hearts and fostering a magnetic connection that keeps him returning to you repeatedly. It makes your husband’s heart knitted to yours
3. Embrace Your Role as a Helpmeet
Understand that your role is a life-long commitment. Embrace it with dedication, finding fulfillment in fulfilling it. This partnership is integral to the harmony of your life.
4. Cultivate Friendship with Your Husband
Invest time and energy into developing a profound friendship with your husband. This investment will yield substantial returns in the future. Strive to be intimately connected, so absorbed in pleasing your husband that trivial matters hold no significance in your busy life. Be as close to your husband as much as possible.
5. Acknowledge His Leadership Role
Recognize and treat your husband as the leader in your marriage. Approach him as royalty, and you will naturally assume your place as his queen. Treat him as a king and you will automatically find your place as a queen beside him. Be the sovereign companion he seeks, eliminating any need for him to look elsewhere.
Today’s insights end here, with more to come tomorrow.
May understanding abound, and may our marriages be blessed in the mighty name of Jesus.
By the way, today is my birthday So, say a word of prayer for me. Yesterday, my husband and I equally celebrated our 24th wedding anniversary! God has been good! I want to thank you all for all the wishes and prayers!
In the realm of matrimony, the role of a husband is pivotal. To enhance the dynamics of your marriage and foster a stronger bond, consider these insightful tips.
1. Embrace Servant Leadership, not Boss Leadership
As the leader of your household, your approach matters. Instead of adopting a boss-like demeanor, embody the qualities of a servant leader. Lead by setting an exemplary standard. Demonstrate respect, love, sacrifice, courage, and selflessness. Your actions will reverberate throughout your home.
2. Understand Your Wife on a Deeper Level
Take on the responsibility of truly understanding your wife. She is not a puzzle to be solved but a complex, unique individual. Delve into her weaknesses, strengths, and untapped potential. Comprehend what resonates with her emotionally and what makes her thrive.
3. Dwell with Wisdom: Know Her Love Language
It’s not just about knowing your wife; it’s about dwelling with her with wisdom and intention. Identify her love language and become fluent in it. Your ability to speak her language fluently will bring delight and foster a deeper connection. Be attuned to her needs and desires.
4. Be a Multifaceted Partner
Expand your role beyond that of a husband. Be her confidant, life coach, mentor, spiritual guide, teacher, and more. Strive to be everything she needs at different moments. As her best friend, lover, and advisor, you’ll unlock the full potential of your partnership.
5. Avoid Lectures; Correct with Care
Resist the urge to lecture your wife or nag her. Your role as a leader is not to deliver lectures but to provide guidance. Correct her when needed, but do so with tact and consideration. Understand the nuance between correction and lecturing. Your influence is profound, so use it judiciously.
In conclusion, these tips serve as a foundation for building a thriving marriage. By embodying servant leadership, understanding your wife deeply, speaking her love language, being a multifaceted partner, and offering gentle correction, you pave the way for a fulfilling and enduring marital journey. Remember, the journey continues, and growth is a shared endeavor.
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The cornerstone of any enduring relationship is a strong foundation with God. He provides the stability and strength needed to weather life’s challenges.
2. Wisdom in Relationships
Wisdom is essential in every aspect of life, including relationships. Seek wisdom from God’s word, as it holds the key to understanding and sustaining healthy relationships.
3. Timing Matters
Timing is Crucial. Don’t rush into a relationship too hastily. Premature relationships often lead to premature endings. Exercise patience and wait for the right time.
4. Preparation is Key
Let God Prepare You. God often uses experiences and people with similar temperaments of your spouse to prepare you for the relationship you desire. Allow Him to guide you through this preparatory journey.
5. Foundational Values
Respect and Submission are Fundamental Respect, honor, and submission are non-negotiable components of a successful marriage. Embrace these values to nurture a lasting bond with your partner.
If you are not ready to love your wife unconditionally, you are not ready for marriage
If you are not ready to submit and honour him as you head, you are also not ready for marriage.
Rather than attempting to change your partner, focus on being an influential and positive force in their life. Transformation happens through influence, not coercion.
7. The Power of Prayer
Harness the Strength of Prayer. Prayer is vital in maintaining a healthy relationship. Don’t wait for crises to pray; build a foundation of prayer to navigate challenges together.
8. Sacrifices for Love
There has to be a Willingness to Make Sacrifices. Relationships often require sacrifices, both big and small. Be prepared to make these sacrifices to strengthen your bond with your partner.
9. Be Teachable and Meek
Embrace a Teachable Spirit. Approach your relationship with humility and a desire to learn. Recognize that you don’t have all the answers, and God places you in relationships to grow and learn.
10. The Role of Leadership
Understanding Your Partner’s Headship
Comprehend the role of your husband as the head of the relationship. This understanding is key to respecting and nurturing the relationship.
Eph 5:23 (KJV) For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
