Help Pastor, We Don’t Communicate Well in Marriage! Communication is so important in marriage. Just as you can do for long without food, the same way, you cannot do without communication in marriage.
There must be good communication between a husband and wife.
A husband and wife must talk about everything and anything. They must not be secretive and they must not hide anything for one another.
Never allow your communication to degenerate into mono-syllable answers, where it seems only one party is doing the talking.
Communication is so important that whole cities and countries have been brought down simply because the two parties involved cannot understand one another.
This is this story of Tower of Babel. They had a great goal; to build a city whose top will reach unto the heavens, God attested to their feat that they would do it.
The only way for God to stop their ambition is to touch their language and they could not understand each other.
Their language became confounded. Once that happened, their project was brought to an abrupt end.
May I dare say that a lot of opportunities have been truncated because the husband and wife are busy fighting and throwing tantrums, and withdrawing from themselves.
Help Pastor, We Don’t Communicate Well in Marriage! Learn to talk in your marriage.
For communication to take place, there must be a person who is willing to receive and another who is willing to share.
When either party does not want to share and at the same time doesn’t want to receive, that may be a major issue there.
Help Pastor, We Don’t Communicate Well in Marriage! If you are the quiet one in your marriage, then you must consciously encourage your spouse when he or she is talking or joking.
Also, deliberately respond to your spouse and don’t just shake your head. Your spouse is not a Radio station which talks alone most of the time.
Be deliberate about good communication. I pray that God grant you more wisdom. Be blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am helped in my marriage. Our communication is getting better.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, strengthen me in my are of weaknesses
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Gen 11:7 (MSG) Come, we’ll go down and garble their speech so they won’t understand each other.”
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Decide to initiate a meaningful conversation between you and your spouse
What’s this Let me see you Buga stuff, Pastor? As singles, whenever there has been some mushy mushy lovey dovey kind of compromise which doesn’t involve penetration, they are quick to say, we just kissed, that’s all.
Really, is that all?
Are you sure. You just kissed? And you are even saying it with some “Buga!”. You kissed and you still dey Buga!
“We did not do anything o! Seriously, we just only kissed!
“Okay, so when you were kissing, where were your hands? Like your hands were by your sides, like that of a statue, static and unmoving or they were raised in the air, stuck and glued to space, as in permanently shouting Hallelujah?
It was at this point that the single guy/lady knows he’s been caught and cut!
Oh, let me tell you what is happening to your hands when you are deeply kissing! It’s right there in the scriptures!
Son 2:6 (MSG) His left hand cradles my head, and his right arm encircles my waist!
That is it! Your left hand around the head and anything around the head and below! Your right hand around the waist and all the neighbours of the waist!
But then look at the next verse! This is the word of the Lord!
Son 2:7 (MSG) Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem, by the gazelles, yes, by all the wild deer: Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready.
There is a warning for you Singles! Guys and ladies! Don’t Let Me See You Buga O!
The cradling of the head and encircling of waist will excite love and stir it up. And you are not ready! You are never ready till your wedding day!
Oh, you are already into the oral stuff? You have a cucumber kept somewhere? Or you have even gone the whole length?
Here is God’s perspective. He doesn’t condemn you! But He won’t condone sin either. He forgives and He forgets. But then he expects you by His grace to stay away from the cradling of the head and encircling of the waist and all its cousins. They all lead to series of movies, and the romantic movies can switch to horror movies real quick.
Stay in His mercy, embrace His forgiveness, and decide not awake or stir up the hormones. That can wait.
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Dear Couples in the house, you remember how you wanted to consummate your love so badly as singles. And some of you actually did. But that is not what I am taking about today.
I am actually looking at why what you wanted so badly as singles became what you did not care for again! You wanted it so badly. Now you are married, life happened and you are not that much interested, especially the wives!
Take a look at the scriptures
Son 2:6-7 (MSG) His left hand cradles my head, and his right arm encircles my waist! [7] Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem, by the gazelles, yes, by all the wild deer: Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready.
Do you have an idea of what God is saying to you now that you are married?
Let’s take a look.
Pro 5:18-19 (KJV) Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. [19] Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
Dear Couples, Enjoy yourselves sexually! The Bible actually recommends sucking of the breasts! Chai! FOR THE COUPLES!
“Ha Pastor!” Which is one “Ha Pastor?” Read your Bible!
The scripture is saying focus on your spouse. Let her satisfy you. Don’t look outside!
Take a look at the Message Translation for better perspective.
Pro 5:18-19 (MSG) Bless your fresh-flowing fountain! Enjoy the wife you married as a young man! [19] Lovely as an angel, beautiful as a rose— don’t ever quit taking delight in her body. Never take her love for granted!
Need I say more, dear couples? Appreciate your spouse always. Focus on each other. Love each other passionately and stay deeply in love!
My name is Rev. Dunamis. I remain your Pastor!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love my spouse deeply. We are one. We are together. We love one another.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, make us one and keep us focused on each other
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 5:18 (CEV) Be happy with the wife you married when you were young.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Express your love to your spouse consciously
It goes on and on. The underlying thing I want you to see is that the moment God’s word is being challenged on any level; know that the devil is at work. The Holy Spirit will never come to counteract God’s word or debunk it; He only comes to expound it.
Never yield ground to the devil. Resist him as Jesus Christ did and he will flee.
Adam and Eve yielded to the devil and lost the fullness of God’s plan.
Jesus came to restore that loss, but he would have failed if he yielded to the devil when he was being tempted.
Every compromise you cooperate with alters something in the spirit realm. Make up your mind to resist the devil every day and consciously with the help of the Holy Spirit.
You cannot be yielding to your flesh and the devil every time if you want to go far! You cannot be saying some girl seduced you all the time while you sleep around recklessly. You cannot be saying a man forced you into compromise with his money.
The devil is not that powerful, he is as powerful as you allow him in your life. He needs your permission before he can trip, and trap you. Never allow him again. Don’t give him an inch!
Do it God’s way. There will no longer be delays in Jesus name. God will perfect everything in your relationship as you make up your mind to resist the devil.
Never forget this, if you can keep feeding your spirit with God’s word daily and consistently, and you believe His word, that same word of the Lord will keep you!
That is why we have created this online Club for you! Visit it daily and keep learning all you can. Keep encouraging each other! Stay on your toes and be alert.
I pray that you will have a higher revelation of the person and the principles of our Lord Jesus Christ! Victory is yours this year!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY In all things, I give thanks, including for the priceless gift of being good a spouse and helper. I will not allow the devil, pride, pressures of life, and ignorance direct, and lead me astray.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me your wisdom to be a good partner to my future spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Do you see what we’ve got? An unshakable kingdom! And do you see how thankful we must be? Not only thankful, but brimming with worship, deeply reverent before God. For God is not an indifferent bystander. –Hebrews 12:28 (MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Make up your mind to stand strong in God
God created you to exercise dominion and authority on earth. It is not right for the one who is to exercise dominion to be dominated. You are to be the man and woman God created you to be.
All such things as insecurities, low self-esteem, rejection, condemnation, guilt, approval addiction, and fears, are all an attempt of the enemy to steal your authority from you. He attempts to make you laden with a poor image of yourself. That devil is a liar.
You have what it takes to have dominion. It was inbuilt into you at creation. Every source of insecurity is giving way right now. You cannot be battling with such feelings and expect to take charge of your life.
You take charge of your life by first knowing and believing what God says about you.
God says;
You are the head and not the tail.
You are acceptable in the beloved.
You are the apple of His eyes.
You can do all things through Christ that strengthens you.
Ye are gods and children of the Highest.
You have been made the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus.
All these and many other promises you have to believe. You are secured in who God says you are. Your approval is not based on your past, who rejected you, your performance, or what you did or didn’t do.
God wants you to enjoy life and have life in abundance. Having life in abundance is being in dominion and exercising your God-given authority, where you are not intimidated by anything or anybody.
Your relationships are good. You are trusting and hoping in the Lord. You have faith in your heavenly Father that He loves you and so he is mindful of you.
Walk in dominion and God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY God’s vision over my life will not be prolonged.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, this year, your vision for my life will speak!
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY This vision–message is a witness pointing to what’s coming. It aches for the coming––it can hardly wait! And it doesn’t lie. If it seems slow in coming, wait. It’s on its way. It will come right on time. Habakkuk 2:3 MSG
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Write down plans for the coming months
A little deviation from our wisdom series this morning, I want to show us one way we can maintain our sanity in this present world.
The devil aims at filling our minds with negative things, that is why almost everywhere you look, there is one form of sad news or the other.
Social media, print media and other forms are equally not helping matters. One can almost begin to wonder why you were born in this generation.
The plan of the devil is to weary us till we become sick, tired, and even suicidal. But thanks be to God who gives us the victory in Christ Jesus! Hallelujah!
There is an age-long, profound, medicine found in the bible that I want to prescribe to you this morning. Whenever you feel down, depressed, sick, angry, unloved, or any negative feeling, just use this medication and I assure you, you will be fine.
A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones. – Pro 17:22
God wants you quick, alive, and active. The devil wants you depressed, gloomy, and broken. The scripture tells us laughter is good. It is healthy. It has some curative powers.
Sometimes, just take off your gaze from the test you failed, the bully in school, the teacher that hardly smiles, the stress of the assembly ground, and just laugh out loud.
As a matter of fact, it has been proven that children are more prone to laughter than adults. Do you also know that God himself laughs?
In heaven the Lord laughs as he sits on his throne, making fun of the nations. – Ps 2:4 [CEV]
So what is your excuse? When last did you have a good laugh?
Go ahead and laugh over that situation because you have the victory already. Glory!
PRAYER: Father in Jesus name, always give me reasons to laugh.
ACTION PLAN: Go ahead and laugh out loud
DECLARATION: I choose to laugh always. I am not depressed, sad or gloomy. The joy of the Lord is my strength.
The tactics the devil uses doesn’t change. It is important we get conversant with his tactics so that we can better prepare ourselves and safeguard our destinies with the help of the Holy Spirit from falling into his traps.
That is why the scripture says
Lest Satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of his devices. -2Corinthains 2:11 (KJV)
The Amplified version says:
To keep Satan from getting the advantage over us; for we are not ignorant of his wiles and intentions. -2Corinthains 2:11 (AMP)
We must by the Spirit of God protect ourselves so that he does not get an advantage over us in our relationships.
Now the serpent was more subtil than any beast of the field which the LORD God had made. And he said unto the woman, Yea, hath God said, Ye shall not eat of every tree of the garden? –Genesis 3:1 (KJV)
In verse one of the above verse, he said:
“Yea, hath God said…”
He still does the same today. What he does is to challenge the truth of God’s word in your heart.
He did the same thing for Jesus Christ!
The temptations of Jesus Christ were crafted to challenge the word of God. That was why the moment Jesus Christ responded with “It is written…,” he won!
Why would the devil always challenge God’s word?
The reason is obvious. The moment he makes you doubt God’s word or reject God’s word, he would have a foothold to operate.
So he comes and says things like:
“Did God really say we should not have pre-marital sex?”
“But everybody is compromising! Why should I be different?”
“Can I really marry someone without ‘testing’ that person in bed?”
Sometimes he even comes quoting scripture and misapplies it. He says things like:
“The scriptures says we must be wise as a serpent, so I don’t think it is wrong to fight for my job at workplace by sleeping with my boss”
“Is it really wrong to be involved in adultery? David was adulterous, and yet God still said He is a man after His heart. Did God not approve adultery there? If God hates an adulterous life, He would have killed David!”
He comes and tells two people who are in courtship:
“See, there is nothing wrong in kissing and petting. It is something we should do in order to express our love since we are sure of getting married!”
He tells another:
“There is nothing wrong with masturbation. We must find a way to relieve the pressure, in as much as we did not fornicate. Even one Pastor said it is okay…”
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY In all things, I give thanks, including for the priceless gift of a good spouse and helper. I will not allow the devil, pride, pressures of life, and ignorance direct, and lead me astray.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me your wisdom to be a good partner to my future spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Do you see what we’ve got? An unshakable kingdom! And do you see how thankful we must be? Not only thankful, but brimming with worship, deeply reverent before God. For God is not an indifferent bystander. –Hebrews 12:28 (MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Make up your mind to stand strong in God
We serve a God who delights in doing the things that we think are impossible. We call Him the God of the possibilities.
What is it in your life that seems to look impossible? What is that difficult thing that has defied all solutions? What is that issue? Is it barrenness or joblessness? Is it a mountain of debt or bills to pay? Is it a financial need and you are tired of the same level?
Are you on the same spot for years? Rejoice, for we serve the God of all possibilities. He is coming through for you.
The bible says:
‘For with God nothing shall be impossible’ Luke 1:37(KJV)
It is an absolute statement. Nothing shall be impossible, not with the government or with your rich uncle but with God. Do you have this God in your life? Then be rest assured.
And he said, the things which are impossible with men are possible with God”. – Luke 18:27 (KJV)
You have to believe God’s word. He said those things that are impossible with men are possible with God.
Your situations that are impossible are becoming possible right now. Do you believe that?
What God wants is that you believe.
Just believe in the one He has sent. Believe in Jesus. Believe what He says he can do.
Maybe your marriage is not what you dreamt it would be like. You feel this is not what you bargained for.
All your mentors have tried talking to you and it looks like it’s over. Trust again.
For nothing shall be impossible with God. He will do the impossible
God bless your marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY God has a purpose for my life. I will cooperate with that purpose
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, show me what I need to know right now in my life
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own. –Proverbs 3:5 (MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Read Papa Kenneth Hagin’s book on “Following God’s plan for your life”
A wise son brings joy to his father, but a foolish son grief to his mother. –Proverbs 10:1(NIV)
One of the things you should work really hard at doing is making your parents happy at all times. God wants you to do this, that’s why it is mentioned in the bible.
If you want to be called a wise child, you should bring joy, and smiles to your father, and make your mother happy at all times.
The Bible defines this as wisdom.
It is also stated in the bible that when you as a child honour your father, and mother your days will be long on the earth. This is the only commandment with a promise.
It’s really important that you as a child prioritize the happiness of your parents. How do you do this?
It’s by thinking of their happiness in all your decisions and making sure that you obey them. Let me show you ways in which you can make your parents happy and be a wise child.
1. Obey everything they tell you
2. Pray for them all the time
3. Read your books and do well in school
4. Do your house chores without being told to
5. Be hardworking and diligent at all you do
6. Keep your books properly so they don’t get torn or missing
7. Honour elderly people around you
8. Be nice to your friends and siblings
You have to be intentional about making your parents happy, be deliberate about it, always do things that will make them smile, and before you do anything ask yourself; will mum and Dad be happy about this thing I am about to do?
If you do this all the time, you will see that you will gradually become mindful of their happiness every day.
PRAYER: Father in Jesus name, give me the wisdom to make my Parents happy always
ACTION PLAN: Choose to do one thing today to make your parents happy
DECLARATION: I am a good child, I am wise. I have the wisdom to make my mum and dad happy all the time
Like Adam, have you been in that place where no help-meet has been found? Have you searched and prayed and fasted and yet nothing is forthcoming?
You see, you have to cease from your own strength! Your intellectual prowess cannot get a prudent wife from the Lord. Your nice manners and Queens English are irrelevant. The parameter of your cognitive abilities is not the issue here.
Adam successfully named every creature on earth, a display of uncommon spiritual and mental energy and prowess, and yet was frustrated at the end because he could not find a spouse!
Are you in that place like you are a graduate, but no helpmeet? You are rich and comfortable, but no helpmeet? You attend functions and join the church workforce and do a lot but no helpmeet? That was where Adam found himself.
What was God’s solution to the imbroglio?
And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept…
Guys and ladies, you’ve got to “sleep” and allow God to lead you! Some of you have simply refused to sleep! The scripture said “and he slept,” so it was a choice. He could have said, “I am not sleeping, and just start jumping or jogging.
After you have done all you know to do, why not just sleep and abandon yourself in God’s arms and plans for your life? You have been too much awake and yet no result!
Just sleep and trust God to do it. When you sleep, you don’t wake up every two minutes to check your security. You just sleep. Go into a deep sleep and stop sampling ladies all over the place every Sunday! You don’t even listen to messages again in church!
By the time Adam woke up, God brought her to Adam! Ladies, don’t bring yourself, allow God to bring you! When God brings you or showcases you, it comes with a revelation or conviction to your husband-to-be. Don’t be suggestive. Don’t sound too available. Don’t take the lead. The man is the aggressor and the lady is the responder!
When you “sleep,” God will show you your spouse. He will bring her to you! You will see her and know! That was why, without God saying a word, Adam went into a frenzy of romantic prophecy and began to speak in tongues!
And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
Who told him? I wonder! But he had gone through the process of “sleeping” and allowed God to do it, so He woke up with conviction and with no doubt about who his wife was. He didn’t have to go to a mountain in Eden to pray again, He just knew because he had slept!
The next time you want to take things into your hands and step outside His will, remember to step back and got to “sleep!”
I pray for you this morning that this year, God will establish all that concerns your relationship/marriage and dissolve every puzzle in Jesus name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY By the Spirit of God, I am making wise decisions. I make the most of opportunities in my relationships.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, I ask for an anointing of wisdom. Teach me to do the best and at the right time.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Lam 3:27 KJV It is good for a man that he bear the yoke in his youth.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Discern which season you are now and ask God for wisdom to maximize it.
God wants us to serve him with the integrity of heart.
In our homes and in our individual lives, God requires that we serve Him with an upright heart. Serve God in the faithfulness of your heart. Seeking to know God and His ways will engender walking in the integrity of your heart, where you are not deceived in your own heart.
Some people try to mock God. They serve God unfaithfully and expect the reward of being faithful.
Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. – Gal 6:7
What you reap is a function of what you sow; that is God’s word. You can’t serve God without integrity and expect the reward of those that serve God with integrity.
David served God with the integrity of his heart. He was sincere. He was true to himself and to God. He loved God genuinely, he served him with the whole of his heart. He had no other God. Were David’s heart to be opened, you will see him serving God with the truth. He had no skeleton in his cupboard.
So he fed them according to the integrity of his heart; and guided them by the skilfulness of his hands. – Psa 78:72
God promised that if we walk in the integrity of heart and in uprightness, keeping all His statutes, He will establish us. In the works of our hands, in our homes, and on the job, He wants to show Himself faithful.
And if thou wilt walk before me, as David thy father walked, in integrity of heart, and in uprightness, to do according to all that I have commanded thee, and wilt keep my statutes and my judgments: Then I will establish the throne of thy kingdom upon Israel for ever, as I promised to David thy father, saying, There shall not fail thee a man upon the throne of Israel. – 1Ki 9:4 – 5
Let us be true to ourselves. Let us not think we can do things on our own. Let our heartbeat be to do His will. Some of us don’t want to do things God’s way because we think His ways are too difficult.
In our hearts, let us check for any form of deception that may want to deceive our hearts. As a husband or as a wife, seek to serve God with the integrity of your heart. God is searching for those whose hearts are upright towards him.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I have the wisdom of God to do the needful
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God will teach and instruct you in the way to go
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye (Psalms 32:8 KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Discuss the issue of integrity
Dear child, one of the benefits of being a child of God is being directed by him. How cool is it to have God tell you how best to do something, and then you realize it turns out right?
God loves to direct his children. God loves to give us instructions that help us arrive at the right answer all the time.
See what the bible says;
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths. –Proverbs 3:5-6 (NKJV)
There are conditions to having God lead and direct you, it’s clearly written in this verse. Let me show you.
1. To have God direct you, you have to trust him. Trusting God means that you do not doubt what he says to you and regardless of the instruction you are given, you have to believe that since it’s God who is asking you to do it, it means it will turn out right.
2. For God to direct you, you have to lean on his understanding, not yours. This means that you rely totally on God’s wisdom and not yours, God has to be sure that you believe he knows better than you do, and that his wisdom is ultimate.
3. The last thing is to acknowledge God. Acknowledge that there is a God that is all-powerful and all-knowing, who watches over us all. God is keeping an eye on every person in the world and he is guiding and shielding us all at the same time.
After we have done these three things then God will direct us. How will God direct you?
1. Through the Bible
2. Through the Holy Spirit in you
3. Through your Parents
Trust God today and he will direct you, and tell you the right thing to do all the time.
PRAYER: Oh Lord, help me to trust in you
ACTION POINT: Pray to God for direction.
DECLARATION: I trust the leading of the Lord for my life
God is interested in your relationship and marriage. God will always lead you even though He allows you to do the choosing. He will not force anyone on you. But if you ask for His direction, He will lead you and often reveal to you His best choice for you.
It is only God that sees you in some thirty years’ time, sees your intended spouse in some years to come, and knows what you will be doing before then, by then and after then, hence he knows the best person fit for you!
House and riches are the inheritance from fathers, but a wise, understanding, and prudent wife is from the Lord. – Pro 19:14 AMP
I love the above scripture. You see, there is a plan of God for you concerning your marital life and it is important you follow that plan!
To understand this, we will go back to the very first story of marriage in the scripture. From there, we can always see the pattern that God has established. God’s methods may change, but His underlying principles remain unchanged!
And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof. And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him. And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. – Gen 2:18-23 KJV
In verse eighteen, God rightly said the man needed a helper. So he created Eve for Adam. God created an Eve, not a Steve! God’s order is clear from the beginning! Man and another man is not God’s order. Two women in marriage is an aberration, it is not God’s order! That is just by the way.
After God created Adam and established he needed help, God created all animals and brought them to Adam to see what He would call them. Thank God, Adam named them appropriately and didn’t call a baboon a wife in the process. If Adam had looked at a monkey and said this is the bone of my bone….that would have spelt some trouble!
This could actually have happened because verse 20 says,
…but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.
You must learn to name people appropriately and not go out with everybody or jump in bed with everyone and anyone! This is my boss. This is my colleague. This is just a friend! This is just an acquaintance. This is an unbeliever.
Like Adam, you must name people rightly! Not everybody is your helper! Some are nice but they are destiny killers! There are handsome destiny destroyers and beautiful dream abortionists. You must name people appropriately and you must not allow desperation to push you out of God’s will!
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY By the Spirit of God, I am making wise decisions concerning my spouse. I make the most of opportunities in my relationships.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, I ask for an anointing of wisdom. Teach me to do the best and at the right time.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Lam 3:27 KJV It is good for a man that he bear the yoke in his youth.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Discern which season you are now and ask God for wisdom to maximize it and choose your spouse.
I know a God who delivered the three Hebrew boys, Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego. He is the on-time God. He is right just on time. Not a second late, not a minute earlier.
He is awesome. He didn’t deliver them when they faced the king. He didn’t deliver them when they were bound to be thrown into the fire. He didn’t deliver them just before throwing them into the fire. He delivered them in the fire. Glory to God!
He was already waiting for them in the fire. Hallelujah! He waited for them. Let your trust in Him be strong.
What if the three Hebrew boys had started crying that this God has failed us? What if they refused to enter the fire and deny God? What if? We will not have their story written in the bible.
You may be passing through a situation right now that seems God is not answering your prayers. Maybe it’s the health of your child. Maybe it is the weakness of your husband or wife. Maybe it is a financial issue or a debt. Maybe it is a problem that seems to defy solution.
Just keep on waiting on God. Wait on him to come through in the nick of time. Don’t be anxious about when He will answer. Just be assured that He will answer.
God bless your marriage!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will go forward and press forth. I will not give up on God.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God will honour you
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Oh! Teach us to live well! Teach us to live wisely and well! (Psalms 90:12 Message)
As believers, one of the greatest things that can happen to us is being born again. The next to that is being baptized with the Holy Ghost. Now, don’t go with the popular notion you might have had about Holy Ghost baptism. Patiently follow these teachings with an open heart to learn, re-learn and possibly un-learn some things you might have known about the Holy Ghost and baptism.
The believer who is baptized in the Holy Ghost is operating under a blessing. Unfortunately, many don’t know.
But you shall receive power when the Holy Spirit has come upon you; and you shall be witnesses to Me in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the end of the earth. – Acts 1:8 (NKJV)
The moment you are baptized, a new power comes upon you, according to the scripture above. This power has the ability to transform you into another man. Your life before the baptism should be different from your life after the baptism.
I must state that this baptism is not only for adults. As a matter of fact, it is good when you are baptized in the Holy Ghost from a very tender age like yours.
One of the advantages you have over others when you become baptized in the Holy Ghost is that you communicate with God in another dimension. You no longer speak with Him in this realm. When you do this, the devil cannot hear or understand what you are saying.
That looks like what a superman can do. Well, you are a superman.
I will continue some other time on the other advantages you derive from this wonderful relationship.
Talk to your parents, teachers, or guardian to get you filled with the Holy Ghost today. You sure will enjoy the experience.
I want a dad in the real sense of it. I want a dad whose confidence, leadership, courage, and examples inspire me.
I want a dad who will not usher my budding destiny into smoking and drinking and clubbing by transference of spirits. I want a dad who will pay the price just so for me to emerge. I want a dad I can bless and not regret in the years to come. I want a dad I can call my own, not an absentee dad.
I want a dad that will truly love my mum. I want a dad that will not mess up my inclinations and outlook by bringing in so many ‘mums’ into his bed. I want a dad that will not teach me to lie. I want a dad that will not make my malleable emotions and innocent tendencies gravitate into the world of sexual perversion.
I want a dad that prays for me, a dad that I am proud of, a dad I am close to and a dad I can discuss everything with! I want a dad that will not touch me (girl child) inappropriately. I want a dad who will not sexualize me. I want a dad who will teach me how to love my spouse when the time comes in a pragmatic way.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a good man. God will help me!
PRAYER FOR THE DAY oh Lord, flood the eyes of my mind with revelational light in Jesus name.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1Ti 2:8 KJV I will therefore that men pray everywhere, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Check the man in you and sincerely take an inventory to see whether you are pleasing God or not.
It is still the same God of the bible that is still the same now. He is the same God who turned back the red sea, who made the lame to walk, the blind eyes to see, the dumb to speak e is still the same God you are serving.
The God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob. The Israel God, The Jehovah the man of war, his mercies endureth forever and ever. The only one, the mighty one, awesome, wonderful, the way maker, He made a way in the wilderness, He is still the same God.
He defeated great kings, he stopped the mouth of the lions, He turned bitter water into sweetness, He made the barren mother of children, he fed five thousand with five loaves of bread and two fishes, he is the same yesterday, today, and forever, He is still the same God.
The God that answers by fire, the one whose voice is like thunder, He spoke and mountains shook, the Holy God, the righteous God, the Only one, the breadth of life, the light in the darkness, He is still the same one.
The bright and morning star, the most high, and His name shall be called Wonderful, Counselor, the lily of the valley, is still the same one.
The same one that raises the dead, the same one that heals the sick, He is the same one that gives joy and laughter, the great teacher, He is still the same one.
He is still the same one you and I call, He is the same one who has promised that will never fail. He is the same one who will never leave us or forsake us. He is the one who has called us to trust in him, He never sleeps nor slumbers. He is the great I am. The I AM WHO I AM. The Word of God. The Amen.
This God is still the same God. Trust Him. He will take care of you.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY God is a great God over my life
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, let me see your greatness
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psa 71:19 (KJV) Thy righteousness also, O God, is very high, who hast done great things: O God, who is like unto thee!
“What do you want?” is probably the most important question you must ask yourself as a person.
Everyone should have something they want. Even animals have needs. Plants have needs as well. God, our father, has needs too. He needs us to believe, trust, and obey Him amongst other things.
The blind man in (Luke 18:38) called out to Jesus “… Jesus, Son of David! Please help me!”
Note the exclamation marks at the end of his words. Even when people told him to keep quiet, he didn’t listen to them. He still raised his voice, crying out to Jesus for help (vs 39). And he got what he wanted the most because Jesus heard him and stopped.
Jesus stopped and said, “Bring the blind man to me!” when he came near, Jesus asked him, what do you want me to do for you?” He said, Lord, I want to see again.” Jesus said to him, “Then see! You are healed because you believed.” – Luke 18: 40-42 ICB
The man got what he wanted because he knew what he wanted. When you know what you want, you can have it.
Imagine if Jesus asked the man what he wanted, and the man had nothing he wanted. That would have been a waste?
Know what you want and pray about it. Jesus hears you and will stop to ask you what you want.
God bless you.
Prayer point: Lord, Jesus, thank you for hearing me and stopping to ask me what I want. As I tell them all to you, I receive the answers to my prayers in Jesus’ name. Amen.
Action point: It pays to have a list of what you want and pray along with them.
Declaration: I will be specific with my requests. I will have what I ask for. God will honor me.
Dear single men, pay attention to today’s devotional. Yesterday we examined God’s perspective of an ideal man; today I want to show you what every virtuous woman looks out for in a man.
The lady speaks;
I want a man, a real man, man enough to be my husband, strong enough to stand in his place as the head of the house and the breadwinner. I want a man who is a king and a servant at the same time.
I want a man whose royalty is rooted in God, I want a man I can be proud enough to call ‘my crown!’ I want a man who despite being a king is humble enough to have the heart of a servant.
I want a man I can call my own! A man I am proud of! I want a man of integrity. I want a man whose words I can go to bed on. I want a man who will protect me. I want a man that will not want me to compromise my virtue in order to satisfy his lust during courtship.
I want a man who will be my head and not my headache! I want a man who will love me properly, accept me as I am, nurture me, and commit to my spiritual development.
I want a man that will stand by me in the labour room. The hands of Zerubabbel started it. It ought to complete it!
I want a man I can vouch for. I want a man that will love me only and no other. I want a man that is thinking of me all the time. I want a man, not a boy.
I want a man that will not bring another to our matrimonial bed. I want a man who fears God so much and will not desecrate the marital covenant because of lust. I want a man that will rather die than become adulterous! I want a man that will respect the covenant and will not throw our home into untold chaos and havoc with his actions. I want a man that can zip up!
I want a man in the house that will usher me into peace when I am not around. I want a man in the house that the house-help is safe with. I want a man who has self-control.
I want a man that can lay hands on me and bless me. I want a man that I can rely on emotionally. I want a man whose shoulders I can lean on. I want a man that will lead our family to God.
I want a leader in the house! I want a man who will make my heart bless him and not make my heart bleed at his appearance. I want a man that will make my heart filled with thanks and not tears. I want a man that will make me be at rest and not under duress! I want a man that will make me his queen and not his doormat! I want a friend, confidant, and companion, not a competitor!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a good man / I will find a good man. God will help me!
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Father in the name of Jesus, I ask that you flood the eyes of my mind with revelation light. As I study your word give me understanding. Let my relationship be transformed as my mind gets renewed daily.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY I will therefore that men pray everywhere, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting. -1Timothy 2:8 (KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Check the man in you and sincerely take an inventory to see whether you are pleasing God
When there is disunity in a household, there are all sorts of evil works of unrighteousness there. The devil has a field day because the demons are at work in such a family.
A family where they don’t pray together, study God’s word, take confessions, and do spiritual exercises together invites the devil.
The atmosphere in such a family is tense; there is hardly laughter, playing, or any of such. All there will be is suspicion, strife, unforgiving spirit, and abuse.
A house where the father is the lion of the tribe of the house; he is feared with trepidation, where the children are full of lies, abuses, and emotional hurts, where the children hibernate in their rooms for lack of companionship. Where the wife is full of lies, insincerity, hurts, bitterness, and schemes, all this ought not to be so.
We as believers are called to Christ-like life, to live like Christ, to love like Christ, to be meek and gentle like Him in all that we do.
When Jesus was on earth, He lived a selfless life, he lived to please God and not himself, his relationships were selfless.
He taught forgiveness, he lived forgiveness, even when he was dying on the cross he said; Father, forgive them for they know not what they do. That statement alone can set us free in our marriages.
Ask yourself, the wrong that is done to you, does that person know it is a sin? Then if they do not know, forgive them. Be quick to forgive easily. Develop a forgiving spirit. Learn to forgive in advance. Make up your mind; you are going to forgive your spouse no matter what he/she does.
When you forgive, you are actually helping yourself, because you cherish your relationship with God more than anything, and you don’t want anything to disrupt your relationship with God, you forgive.
Let us work towards making our home a haven and not an oven. It is your responsibility. Don’t wait for one person to do it for you. You have to be committed and take up the responsibility to do it yourself.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I have God’s wisdom to do the right thing
PRAYER FOR THE DAY I receive grace to forgive easily
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace. –Romans 6:14 (KJV)
