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Don’t Play the Victim In Your Marriage. I heard the story of a man of God who went hunting together with a friend (the friend was actually the one taking him hunting). He was looking forward to having a quick or fast hunting experience but to his greatest surprise this was not happening.

He then asked his friend “where are the animals?” His friend said, “I will show you a secret.” He made a certain sound, and true to his words, an animal came out from the woods. He asked his friend what was the connection between the sound and the animal coming out?

The friend told him, that was no ordinary sound, but the sound made by animals that are caught in a trap, that are already helpless. Hearing that sound means there was cheap meal available for it.

This is the crust of my message this morning.

 “There is no virtue in playing the victim”.

Our lives are constantly making sound(s) in the spirit realm. What sound are you making? Are you playing the victim game? Is your life oozing out victory or defeat?

Even in our marriage, if we constantly give a sound of defeat and being beaten, our spouse will not enjoy our company despite loving us.  Don’t Play the Victim In Your Marriage

Another truth is that the sound you produce determines more of what you attract. If you are joyful, you will attract more joy.

Don’t be a victim in your marriage. We all have being through some things. Yes, I know some have been through harder situations than others. Bible tells us, we can handle whatever comes our way.

1 Corinthians 10:13 KJV.
There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it. 

Whatever situation we faced or passed through is to make us better not bitter. We gained experience to comfort others with the comfort where with we were comforted.

2 Corinthians 1:3 – 4 KJV 
Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort; who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God. 

Pick up yourself from your past. Whatever happened in your past, rise above it and don’t live in your past. Don’t keep the memory of your past in your present. You lost your mum, yes, live past it. You lost money, lost relationship, whatever your loss is, get past it and move on.

Move on as though it never happened. Dust yourself. Be like the donkey in a story, who even though dirts were dumped on it  it  “shook it off the dust and stepped on it”.

The more you play the victim the more life will hand you more abuse. When you murmur, complain and grumble about life the “serpent” will bite you. Your sound of murmuring and complaining will attract demons who will give you more reasons to complain.

Keep up your joy. Let the sounds of Glory, of rejoicing and shouts of praise proceed out of you.

In your marriage, you become attractive to your spouse when you are full of life. Depression is a disease that repels. It is repulsive. You want to be your spouses’ friend? Then be responsive, be jovial, be playful, be youthful.

Some times we feel when we play the victim we engender sympathy and pity from others. Yes, we might. But soon they get tried and frustrated. 

We already have all the victory in Christ Jesus. Don’t have an entitlement mentality. The world doesn’t have to revolve around you. Pick up yourself and enjoy life. Don’t Play the Victim In Your Marriage

God bless our marriages.

My mind is renewed by God’s word. I am not a victim of life

O Lord, I ask for wisdom in areas where I lack wisdom in Jesus name 

Rom 12:2 (CEV) Don’t be like the people of this world, but let God change the way you think. Then you will know how to do everything that is good and pleasing to him.

Pick up yourself from whatever happened in your past. Stop being the victim.

1 Cor 10:13


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