Communication Is So Important In Marriage. I started writing yesterday on things that should be present in every marriage and we looked at one thing yesterday. Today we look at four more things.
The second thing that must be present in every marriage that will succeed has to do with communication.
Communication Is So Important In Marriage. Constant Communication. A man was once asked what the three most important things in a marriage are.
His response:
1. Communication 2. Communication 3. Communication
Do I agree? Yes, I fully do!
When communication dies, assumptions, suspicions, lies, and deception will take over.
There is nothing as beautiful as a marriage where both parties can fully express themselves. Hear each other out!
When a man talks, his goal may be a logical explanation, but when a woman talks, it is more than an explanation, it is a release; an emotional release.
So every time she is muted, there are pent-up tensions being stored up for a later time.
It is akin to the molten magma within, nothing shows on the surface much, but one day, the magma can no longer hold still, and there will be a volcanic eruption causing untold havoc!
Unexplained hurts, unexpressed bitterness, are all like the molten magma in the belly of the ground.
So, when you tell your spouse to “shut up” continually, and it looks as though you are in charge and winning, well, you are not really winning, you are actually losing!
Allow free expression in your matrimonial home.
When a lady is also reluctant to talk or communicate, it shows some deeper issues as well.
Both husband and wife have to be committed to communication. The excuse of temperaments should not be brought in.
Well, people at work, in church, or elsewhere can look at you and say you are a quiet person, but your spouse should be able to say “you are not quiet to them!” This shows they are friends!
Make the commitment to be friends and to keep talking. Communication Is So Important In Marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will keep communicating with my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to work on areas where I am lacking
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Mat 12:35 (MSG) A good person produces good deeds and words season after season. An evil person is a blight on the orchard.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Have a time out with your spouse
He Doesn’t Love When He Says These. As I said, problems don’t just show from the blues. They have always been there and would have been hinted at because out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.
We looked at two yesterday, let’s dive into the remaining today.
He Doesn’t Love When He Says These
3. Out of all my girlfriends, you are the best
This is often a logical way to manipulate the emotions of the lady. As a lady, I don’t really know what you are doing with someone who tells you out rightly that you are not the only one he is seeing. Are you encouraging adultery after marriage and giving him a go-ahead? Men don’t really change after marriage! When a man has the guts to tell you that he has several ladies as lovers including you, then as a lady you should have the guts to walk away from such affliction!
4. We don’t have to tell anybody about this relationship
When a guy begins to make this statement, your antenna should go up! Something is defective right there. There are no commitments when he hides the relationship from friends and family. There may be occasions when the parents are not interested in marriage and it is wise to keep quiet for some time, but at least, he should be willing to notify his pastor. What if he doesn’t have a pastor? The answer to that is another question. What are you doing with such a person?
5. I am just managing you and you should thank your stars
When a guy doesn’t love you, he will verbalize it one day, one way or the other. If you are sensitive, you can pick it up from his words. When a guy says he is just managing you, that sounds like wickedness to me. Probably the lady in question has a self-esteem issue, but as a lady, you don’t have any business with anybody that doesn’t value you or appreciate you as a person. After marriage, you don’t want to be treated as a doormat, you want to be valued as a true help.
He Doesn’t Love When He Says These
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be deceived
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, show me what I don’t know
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Mat 12:34 (KJV) O generation of vipers, how can ye, being evil, speak good things? for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Disallow your relationship to be sex driven
How To Discover He Doesn’t Love You. Problems don’t just erupt like a volcano in relationships and marriage. They have always been there. Sometimes, we simply close our eyes to all the warning signs and red lights because we are in love. It is however wise to be alert and be open to taking heed of all these warning signs.
God is not a wicked God. He will attempt to talk to you through His Holy Spirit and try to warn you about some of these things. It is always good to pay attention and try to listen to what God is trying to say! Here is How To Discover He Doesn’t Love You. It is revealed in the statements he makes! Let’s look at two of them.
1. There is nothing wrong with sex. Everybody does it
When a guy begins to pressurize you to compromise using logic and persuasion tactics, it shows he doesn’t really love you. All he wants is your body and once he gets that, anything can happen. As the lady, you have a responsibility to preserve your virtue by insisting on waiting till after marriage. A guy that truly loves you will be willing to wait as against satisfying his rush of adrenalin at your disadvantage. God’s word is so clear on pre-marital sex and any guy that loves you and fears God should be looking for ways to obey God, not the other way.
2. I may not call you or send SMS often. You have to understand.
When a guy loves you genuinely, he wants to be in touch. He wants to call, send an SMS, or chat. He just wants to stay in touch one way or the other. I know there are times he can get so busy depending on the intensity of his work or the level of attention needed, but I also believe he should be able to talk to his loved one daily, even if it is for five minutes. The only tenable reason is when he is working where there are no networks, which could be rare. Even at that, a guy who is in love will climb mountains; go to the top of buildings, and hold his phone high in the sky searching for a network!
These two statements show How To Discover He Doesn’t Love You. I will write more tomorrow.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will love my spouse with tender loving care
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give us a tender heart
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Luke 1:78 (CEV) God’s love and kindness will shine upon us like the sun that rises in the sky.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Pray over your relationship
This Must Be Present in Every Marriage. A lot of things must be implemented for a marriage to succeed.
Conscious and deliberate inputs must be in place so the marriage can bring bliss and not blisters.
Here is one of them
Prayers. This Must Be Present in Every Marriage.
A family that prays together stays together.
A husband and wife that pray together will overcome the flesh easily.
Prayer protects, shields, and connects you to your inheritance in God.
As husband and wife, pray for one another rather than tear one another apart.
Intercede for each other.
What the devil wants is a tearing apart, do not cooperate with him.
Wake up in the middle of the night and pray together.
The power of agreement is better harnessed as a couple.
In the first few years of our marriage, my wife and I would wake up by 12.00 am and pray in the Spirit.
I am persuaded that those prayers advanced our lives and ministries.
There is a purpose for coming together in marriage.
It is not just for making love and then dying at the age of ninety.
There is a purpose in the heart of God.
That purpose is not to be decided, it is to be discovered.
When you discover that purpose, you just stepped into your wealthy place.
You can only discover in the place of prayers.
The devil will do all he knows to make sure you don’t pray.
You will notice that each time you decide to pray, something else will interrupt it. Those are not natural. The devil doesn’t want you to pray at all. Prayer-less couples will leave so many cracks and loopholes open for the devil to explore.
The devil will not access your marriage. Your marriage will be preserved in Jesus’ name!
Do not let anything interfere with your prayer times. May God help you and your spouse in Jesus’ name
Be blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will respect my loved one
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give us a humble heart
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Jas 4:7 (KJV) Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Start praying together if you weren’t doing that
More Things A Lady Expects From Her Lover. There are things a lady expects from her lover that may be oblivious to an average guy. We started on this two days ago and we looked at the following
1. She expects that she would be genuinely loved
2. She expects that he is no longer living in sin
3. She expects him to pray for her
4. She expects that he will not take advantage of her
5. She expects that he is responsible and will be able to care for her
Let’s take a look at some more.
More Things A Lady Expects From Her Lover
6. She expects him to be romantic
Every lady wants a romantic man. Most men are really romantic until their wedding!
After the wedding, the romantic button seems to stop functioning.
And really it should not be so. Being romantic should be part of every man towards her lover.
As singles, being romantic does not include any form of sexual expression. After you have prayed and spoken in tongues, you should speak good words in a romantic way to your loved one.
7. She expects him to be her defender
What’s the point if you cannot defend her?
You always guard jealously what you prize most, isn’t it?
Don’t leave her at crucial moments when she needs you.
Don’t stand with a stranger against your loved one.
Don’t condemn or try to correct her publicly.
8. She expects him to protect her from her future in-laws
In-laws are people. And people can be difficult.
If your parents are the difficult type, you must protect your loved one.
Don’t leave her at their mercy wherein she starts playing the role of a wife before becoming one.
9. She expects PDA
Your fiancée expects some public display of affection.
Not that you ask her to walk ahead of you every time.
Walk with her. Hold her hands. It won’t lead to sin out there.
It is what you do in the dark and behind closed doors that lead to sin.
10. She expects him to be humorous
Ladies loved those who make them laugh.
Not that you should become a comedian, but you should have a great sense of humor.
Make her laugh. Let her know when you are around, there are no dull moments. She will love you more.
Let her get some hearty laughter from you and not from Basket Mouth and Bovi all the time!
Don’t become a source of depression. The moment you are around, despondency descends. Nah!
The joy of the Lord is your strength.
Stay joyful. Stay positive. These are some More Things A Lady Expects From Her Lover
May God grant more understanding
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will take care of my loved one
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, surround me with your favour
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 5:18 (MSG) Bless your fresh-flowing fountain! Enjoy the wife you married as a young man!
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Do something special for your loved one
Six Things Husbands Expect From Wives. This will give wives an idea of what husbands want from them
1. The Issue of Respect We all know that respect is the greatest need of a man. Every wife should strive to honor and respect her husband.
This will go a long way to make your husband honor you as well because you always reap what you sow
2. The Issue of Support in Career/Ministry/Business My wife should be my greatest and Number one fan of course!
As a wife, you should support, encourage and strengthen your husband to go forth and fulfill destiny and purpose.
3. The issue of Prayers and Intercession Women are powerful prayers. The genuine prayers of a happy wife will advance a man’s life in no small measure.
Wives, pray for your husband!
4. The Issue of caring, homeliness, and love A woman who is not homely shows no care and detests cooking will be a constant source of frustration to the husband.
There is something in women that makes caring natural for them
5. The issue of beauty and looking good always All men are moved by sight including me! So, I expect my wife to look good always. Women, do not get careless with your appearance and your looks.
Look your best all the time!
6. The issue of keeping the bedroom hot! Sexual satisfaction is paramount to any marriage that will not collapse. Wives, do not get careless in this area. Never use sex as a reward or punishment. These are the Six Things Husbands Expect From Wives
It is an obligation! 1Co 7:5 (AMP) Do not refuse and deprive and defraud each other [ of your due marital rights ], except perhaps by mutual consent for a time, so that you may devote yourselves unhindered to prayer. But afterwards resume marital relations, lest Satan tempt you [ to sin ] through your lack of restraint of sexual desire.
Be blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a good spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, make my heart right
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1Co 7:5 (MSG) Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it, and if it’s for the purposes of prayer and fasting—but only for such times. Then come back together again. Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Give your spouse a special treat
Dear Pastor, I Feel God Has Forgotten Me. I have a word from the Lord for you this morning. God is going to single you out for his blessing. There are over seven billion people on earth, but God wants to single you out and focus His countenance and loving kindness on you.
Does God single out people? Yes. Just like we see in the following verses.
Luk 4:25-26 (KJV) But I tell you of a truth, many widows were in Israel in the days of Elias, when the heaven was shut up three years and six months, when great famine was throughout all the land; [26] But unto none of them was Elias sent, save unto Sarepta, a city of Sidon, unto a woman that was a widow.
In the midst of famine, when the heaven was shut as it were, and all hope seemed lost, God remembered one woman, singled out from the city of Sarepta.
Wherever you are this morning, hear the voice of the Lord, He will single you to be blessed!
Psa 112:6-8 (MSG) No shuffling or stumbling around for this one, But a sterling and solid and lasting reputation. [7] Unfazed by rumor and gossip, Heart ready, trusting in GOD, [8] Spirit firm, unperturbed, Ever blessed, relaxed among enemies!
Dear Pastor, I Feel God Has Forgotten Me. In the midst of contradictions and opposition, in the midst of seemingly lack and famine, God is remembering you!
God is coming for you. Just you!
He is going to give you individual attention.
I see God focusing His love and benevolence on you. Just you!
There are no two people that are exactly the same. Even the most identical twins have been seen to have deep innate variances.
And God treats you so.
There is nothing like God blessing you generally.
He wants to favor you specifically.
That Is why in the book of Acts, when the cloven tongue of fire rested upon them, it was not a general cloven tongue, but it rested upon them individually!
Each man had a cloven tongue of fire!
God knows your name!
He has your name tattooed! Did I still hear you say “Dear Pastor, I Feel God Has Forgotten Me?”
Isa 49:15 (AMP) [ And the Lord answered ] Can a woman forget her nursing child, that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb? Yes, they may forget, yet I will not forget you.
Mothers may forget, despite the deep maternal instincts, but what God has for you is beyond maternal instincts.
It is deeper. God said without mincing words, “I will never forget you!
Events may play out as to suggest that God has forgotten, but His words reverberate strongly to you this morning, His divine sweet, and resolute voice, “I will never forget you!
Then the next verse says:
Isa 49:16 (AMP) Behold, I have indelibly imprinted (tattooed a picture of) you on the palm of each of My hands; [ O Zion ] your walls are continually before Me.
So, in the palm of God’s hands, your picture is the DP!
What? Glory! And guess what, God is not about to change his DP!
Not just on one palm, but on both hands!
Waoh! Do you sense a rush of God’s love? That revelation is enough to blast the devil off your turf! You are especially loved by God! And He is visiting you this morning, today, this week, and this month in the name of Jesus!
Get ready as you embrace and settle down in the love of God. You will not regret it. You will not be ashamed.
You will not be disconcerted. Help is here for you! Believe it. Accept the word of the Lord this morning And that will be your experience in Jesus’ name! Be blessed!
We love you! And God loves you even more!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not forgotten!
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me to embrace your love
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Isa 49:16 (GW)
I have engraved you on the palms of my hands. Your walls are always in my presence.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Affirm yourself in God today!
One Thing Married Couples Should Avoid. At the meeting of married couples I facilitated sometimes back outside the country, I was asked whether married couples can view pornography since they are already married. My response was No!
“Pastor, why would you say so? At least, we are married, and we can do anything in the sanctity of our marriage!”
James 1:14-15 But each one is tempted when he is carried away and enticed by his own lust. Then when lust has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and when sin is accomplished, it brings forth death.
Well, here are a few reasons why I would not advocate that you bring viewing pornography into your marriage.
There is a spirit behind pornography
The strongman of perversion is behind pornography. When you start viewing pornography, single or married, you open yourself or your home to the influence of these spirits.
There will be what is called transference of spirits. And you will not like the consequences of that, especially years later.
When a two-year-old who has not been exposed to anything sexual whatsoever, start humping against the wall or against a teddy bear, you can guess where the inspiration is coming from.
Everything carries a spirit. You wouldn’t want those wrong spirits messing up your home.
Avoid soft porn, Kama-Sutra, and some disguised pornography. It is a subtle attempt of the devil to have an in-road into your precious family. Do not cooperate with the devil in that area!
2. It would suck you in the more The second reason is the fact that it will not only get your heart dirty with all the sadistic and demonic drama, but it will also come with a strong pull at your heart.
The possibility of addiction is so strong that if you are not careful, sex will be incomplete until you have watched pornography. After a while, regular pornography will not satisfy you, and there will be a pull towards more unimaginable perversion like bestiality, bondage, and submission dimensions!
You will start exploring sexual toys! All these terrains are not the way to go for a believer!
It has the capacity not only to mess up your sex life but to destroy the marriage and also to mess up your relationship with God. This is One Thing Married Couples Should Avoid
3. There will be a comparison Your spouse would be placed under undue pressure of performance of all you have seen and watched.
What you fail to realize, however, is that all the drama and sexual antics are mostly done under the effect of drugs, so powerful to numb every dignity out of a human!
It will be so unfair and almost bothering on wickedness to ask your wife to act out what you see in pornography.
You might be violating her conscience, and yours as well and then eventually awakening the liberty for her to cheat on you as a result of all you watch together.
You need to know that what you see is acted. They are performing for the screen and money!
Forced to act enjoying what is humanly debilitating! Well, I will stop here this morning! I want to believe you have been blessed with this topic “One Thing Married Couples Should Avoid”
Remain blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I refuse every form of perversion
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, set me free from all forms of bondage in the mind
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Mat 5:28 (MSG) But don’t think you’ve preserved your virtue simply by staying out of bed. Your heart can be corrupted by lust even quicker than your body. Those leering looks you think nobody notices—they also corrupt.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Take out every pornographic item from your house and destroy them
What A Lady Expects From Her Lover. We are going to be looking at five things that a lady expects from her lover.
1. She expects that she would be genuinely loved Every lady wants to be loved. The need for love can be so strong that ladies can give their body to get it, but sadly, they never get it that way. Love can never be gotten on the platform of sexual compromise.
Husbands love your wife, so says the scripture because God knows this is a great need of women. If you are not going to love her genuinely, let her be!
Don’t leave that beautiful, vivacious lady depressed, despondent and disappointed! Love her genuinely!
2. She expects that he is no longer living in sin A believer does not live habitually in sin. He can make mistakes, but that is different from a habitual sinful lifestyle. He is not constantly talking about some hyper-grace message in other to keep living in sexual sins.
Rom 6:1-2 (KJV) What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound? [2] God forbid. How shall we, that are dead to sin, live any longer therein?
She does not want the man that would spend hours trying to show her in the Bible why sexual sin is not really a sin!
3. She expects himto pray for her Every lady wants a priest! A priest, not a pest! Honestly as a man, if you cannot pray for her, if you cannot take spiritual responsibility and provide spiritual leadership, leave her alone!
Don’t tag along into marriage with that attitude. Being a man is not just about pointing your nozzle and filing tanks all over the place, it is about leadership and modeling God to her and the children.
It’s a huge responsibility! What Else Does A Lady Expect from her Lover?
4. She expects that he will not take advantage of her She wants a man that will not take advantage of her! She wants a protector, a man of integrity, a head, not a headache, a gardener, not a scavenger. Are you in that lady’s life to take advantage of her? Don’t do it, remember seed time and harvest.
A lady expects you will not capitalize on her weaknesses to set her up. She expects you will not use all info about her against her eventually.
5. She expects that he is responsible and will be able to care for her Finally, a lady expects to be cared for. As a man, be responsible. If you are out of job, find a work. Sometimes, the loss of a job or inability to get a job while your other friends are getting could be an avenue to lead you into the discovery of God’s purpose for your life.
It takes a wicked man to willfully and deliberately rip apart a lady’s once peaceful life. God judges such things! If you are not going to care for her, stop telling her lies.
If you want her as a side chick, you will bring chaos into your life and her own. Ladies, allowing yourself to be labelled as a side-chick is an embarrassment on your dignity in God.
Disallow such. Why be a side-chick when you can be the main and the only chick?
Your husband cometh! Do not give up on God! These are What A Lady Expects From Her Lover. Be blessed
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be shortchanged
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, surround me with your favour
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Rom 6:1 (MSG) So what do we do? Keep on sinning so God can keep on forgiving?
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Read a good book on relationships
You Don’t Have Much Time! Sometimes back, in not too much of a distant past, God gave us a boy. So tiny, so little, I could carry him with one of my palms. Fast forward to now, the guy is presently serving with NYSC.
Everything was fast! In a couple of years, I would easily and successfully become a grandpa! What? I am still trying to feel like a dad and now the grand dad thing is beckoning gently!
The scripture says: Eph 5:15-16 (KJV) See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise, [16] Redeeming the time, because the days are evil.
The Message Translation puts it this way:
Eph 5:15-16 (MSG) So watch your step. Use your head. [16] Make the most of every chance you get. These are desperate times!
Dear husband and wife, this is the time to work together. This is the time to make the most of every chance you have.
Don’t use half of your lifetime quarreling, settling quarrels, getting in and out of strife, living in perpetual suspicion, and never harnessing the power that lies in the prayer of agreement.
The scripture makes us understand that as husband and wife, your productivity is supposed to mount up in leaps and bounds.
You are supposed to get better in a divine synergy that will touch lives around you.
This requires you to make up your mind to avoid unnecessary quarrels, stay out of strife and forgive quickly.
Not talking to each other for weeks, picking quarrels at every instance, and trying to change your spouse are all energy wasters. You Don’t Have Much Time!
Take a look more at this: Rom 13:11 (MSG) But make sure that you don’t get so absorbed and exhausted in taking care of all your day-by-day obligations that you lose track of the time and doze off, oblivious to God.
Never get so absorbed in other things at the expense of God
It is only with God that your time can be maximized.
It further says:
Rom 13:12 (MSG) The night is about over, dawn is about to break. Be up and awake to what God is doing! God is putting the finishing touches on the salvation work he began when we first believed.
The night is about to be over!
You don’t have much time, do you?
That dream that lies in the pages of your diary, gathering dust on the shelf, when will you give birth to it.? The pregnancy of aspirations you have carried for years when will deliver?
I think it is about time! Finally look at this:
Rom 13:13 (MSG) We can’t afford to waste a minute, must not squander these precious daylight hours in frivolity and indulgence, in sleeping around and dissipation, in bickering and grabbing everything in sight.
Work together as a husband and wife and let the glory that is embedded in the purpose for which you came together come into reality!
The price to pay is to decide to follow God, forgive easily, love each other unconditionally and pray more!
I pray sincerely for you this morning!
God will strengthen you to work together and fulfill your destiny!
The reason for which you came together as a family will become a reality in Jesus’ name! Remember, You Don’t Have Much Time!
Be blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY We will be productive
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, keep us together
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Rom 13:12 (CEV) Night is almost over, and day will soon appear. We must stop behaving as people do in the dark and be ready to live in the light.
How To Praise Your Way Into Marriage. When the devil wants to finish a person, he would plant bitterness in the person’s heart.
It could be bitterness toward men or towards God.
However, it is, bitterness will cripple every good thing that God is trying to do in your life.
Heb 12:15 (KJV)
Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled;
The grace of God over a man would fail when bitterness is allowed.
Grace for finances will fail.
Grace to have a good marriage will fail.
Grace to succeed in business will fail.
Grace for financial abundance will fail.
Not only that, bitterness will not only affect the one that is bitter, the scripture says it will cause many to be defiled.
And then, the scripture calls it the root of bitterness!
Roots are hidden, but they are there!
Roots are not visible, but they are responsible for everything happening to the plant.
Their invisibility should never be interpreted as impotence.
This is the same way it is, bitterness will not show on the face, but it will take over that person’s life.
Like the root within the soil, the fruits will come forth.
Like the bitterness within the heart, the fruits will wreak havoc.
Just as the root is responsible for the kind of fruits that eventually come forth, bitterness will ensure that wrong fruits come forth.
Bitterness would literally cause praise to be suffocated.
Learn to laugh like a little child!
Don’t let the bitterness of past relationships and disappointments of the past keep you from the reality of today’s praise!
Praise is powerful. You must learn How To Praise Your Way Into Marriage.
Thank God for where you are.
Thank God for where He is taking you.
Praise your way out of rejection.
Praise your way out of delay.
Praise your way out of generational curses.
Praise your way out of diabolical influences.
Praise is a potent weapon.
Praise puts a sword into your hands.
Psa 149:6-9 (KJV) Let the high praises of God be in their mouth, and a twoedged sword in their hand; [7] To execute vengeance upon the heathen, and punishments upon the people; [8] To bind their kings with chains, and their nobles with fetters of iron; [9] To execute upon them the judgment written: this honour have all his saints. Praise ye the LORD.
The moment high praises are in your mouth, a two-edged sword will be placed in your heart!
You don’t need to take vengeance on people, praise will handle it.
Praise will punish destiny offenders.
Praise will bind erring kings with chains.
Praise will execute the judgment written.
All saints have this honor.
What honour?
To praise your way into victory.
To lift up your voice without lifting your hands.
Praise! This is How To Praise Your Way Into Marriage.
Keep praising!
You will surely see that salvation of God in Jesus’ name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a God-praiser
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me reasons to praise you for the rest of my life
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psa 149:5 (KJV) Let the saints be joyful in glory: let them sing aloud upon their beds.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Schedule a praise time for today!
How To Leave And Cleave To Your Spouse. The words “Leave” and “Cleave” stand out in the verses we are considering today. An understanding of those words will greatly help us in our marriage!
Gen 2:24 (KJV) Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
The word “Leave” means to loosen, relinquish, permit, and forsake
It is a total departure.
But it is never a disconnection.
The man has to do the leaving.
Without leaving, there will never be a successful marriage.
All undue interference and control from the parents must be minimized.
The word “Cleave” means cling or adhere; to catch by pursuit: – abide, follow close (hard, after), be joined (together), and pursue hard
Allegiance must shift from parents to your wife.
This is what marriage is.
Your wife comes first on the wedding day.
Your spouse becomes your priority.
Your mum is another man’s wife, not your wife.
Your own wife must be your priority.
Cleaving means to catch by pursuit, so you never stop pursuing your wife.
You keep at it, even after the wedding.
In the pursuit lies the cleaving.
The man is to cleave unto HIS OWN wife!
An attempt to cleave to another man’s wife will usher in a marital crisis.
It also means to follow close.
Be joined and connected to her emotionally and otherwise.
When things seem not to be going right, you don’t quit.
This is How To Leave And Cleave To Your Spouse
You don’t pack your stuff and start singing songs of divorce when there is a little provocation.
This is what cleaving is.
It is just like your relationship with God.
You are to cleave unto Him and not try to leave when things seem not to be going your own way.
Leaving God and refusing to cleave will complicate issues, and that is the same thing in marriage.
You are to cleave for life!
Any attempt to leave is a tearing part that would be painful.
Stay with each other no matter what.
Cleaving means that you are dedicated to each other.
It means sharing with each other on the deepest level.
It means enjoying each other and supplying warmth for yourselves. This is How To Leave And Cleave To Your Spouse
Ecc 4:11 (KJV) Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone?
I pray that God will grant understanding.
Your marriage will not suffer a crisis.
Your marriage will not lose that godly steam.
I pray that God will pour new wine into your marriage and cause the love between you to come alive!
Have a great day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will cleave to my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help to leave completely and cleave fully to my spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ecc 4:11 (CEV) If you sleep alone, you won’t have anyone to keep you warm on a cold night4
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Cleave to your spouse in a special way today
How To Tongue Your Way Into Marriage. I practically tongued my way into marriage! Literally! There is tremendous power available for you as a believer, to get anything you want, to create the kind of life you want, and to superimpose the grace and power of God upon any situation.
You can have victory every time and anytime, only if you know the vast power that lies in your belly.
“Oh, common Pastor, I am not for that tongue business! I am good as I am!”
Well, you may be ignorant! Really!
“How can I be speaking some strange language?”
Because there are strange troubles in this world!
“Well, how can I be saying something I don’t understand?”
Because there are impossible situations you wouldn’t understand!”
“So I will now be speaking a little child?”
Unless you come as a child, you really cannot receive anything!
Mar 10:15 (MSG) Mark this: Unless you accept God’s kingdom in the simplicity of a child, you’ll never get in.”
That’s quite punchy! Arrogant people have no place here!
And the combination of ignorance and arrogance is not a nice idea!
How To Tongue Your Way Into Marriage
Isa 28:11-12 (KJV) For with stammering lips and another tongue will he speak to this people. [12] To whom he said, This is the rest wherewith ye may cause the weary to rest; and this is the refreshing: yet they would not hear.
The scripture says there is a rest that awaits you as you pray in the Spirit.
Rest from delays, from broken hearts, disappointing relationships, and rest from froward men who are liars!
Rest from strange women as well! If you have been weary from the stress that comes with wrong relationships, there is a rest and a refreshing.
But the sad part is the concluding part, YET THEY WOULD NOT HEAR!
Don’t be part of those that would not hear! They prefer to do things their own way, so that rest eludes them.
They prefer to experiment with online dating, so refreshing is far! There is nothing like cyber-refreshing!
They prefer to learn from experiences rather than from wisdom, wasting many years of falling in love with a man that was never in love and then all ending in frustration!
There is rest! It is in the place of speaking in tongues There is a rest and a refreshing!
It is in the place of taking time and spending time in God’s presence and praying in the Holy Ghost!
I am not talking about thirty minutes, but some hours of sustained praying in the Holy Ghost, moving heavens on your behalf, causing a rain of favor to come upon you, causing heaven to move on your behalf, and releasing unprecedented blessings like never before!
There is a hurricane of favor and blessing you can only access as you stir the river, for out of your belly shall rise rivers of living water!
Rather than complaint, pray in the Spirit. Rather than get depressed and despondent, pray! I pray that you receive strength now to pray! This is How To Tongue Your Way Into Marriage
You will enter into that rest in marriage in Jesus’ name!
Waters of refreshing will move over your soul, life, and destiny! Rejuvenation and fresh energy are your portions in Jesus’ name!
Your love life will not be a waste!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am refreshed
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me rest in my relationship
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Isa 28:11 (CEV) So, the Lord will speak to his people in strange sounds and foreign languages.
Building Intimacy By Meeting Needs. There cannot be intimacy where needs are not met. We are drawn to ourselves more when we meet each other’s need. Women have needs that are so different from the needs of men. These needs are very genuine and you grow intimately when you focus on meeting these specific needs.
Basically, we meet our spouse’s needs by speaking their love language. What is the language your spouse is speaking right now? We have different needs per time. Are you meeting those needs by speaking his/her love language? Be committed to Building Intimacy By Meeting Needs.
For example, a husband feels he’s working hard to provide for the wife while the wife may need him to just be around her at the time because she’s going through a lot of emotions or maybe she needs him to be a friend.
You may have been working hard in the wrong direction.
The husband may get angry, frustrated, and disappointed that she’s not being grateful. It is not that she’s ungrateful, it’s just that you have not spoken her love language and have not met her needs.
This can lead to arguments and quarrels. If it is not handled well, the couple can begin to drift apart. Especially if good communication is not encouraged. This can be resolved by finding out and trying to understand why he/she is not happy when you feel they should be excited.
Note that you cannot meet the needs you don’t know anything about. Both husband and wife must be committed to communication. There is nothing like, “I am the quiet type!” You are to strive and commit to talking all the time to keep communication alive. This is what Building Intimacy By Meeting Needs entails.
Your marriage will thrive.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am intentional about being intimate with my spouse. I am careful to notice what their needs are and I meet those needs.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Help me Lord to grow in my intimacy with my spouse.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY And Adam said: “This is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.” Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh”. Gen 2:23-24 NKJV
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be intentional about being intimate with your spouse. Seek to know what love language your spouse is speaking par time and meet their needs.
Here’s What To Do When All Fails. Sandy believes something is wrong with her. Her biological clock ticks without consideration. How she wished she could do with a Pause button. Relationships after relationships are failing. Nothing seems to be working.
She will begin a relationship and everything seems to be working fine, but then, in a moment and without warnings, it crashes. And then it happens again and again.
Each time, she approaches a new relationship, trusting, believing, and praying that it would work out. But nothing worked, except that she was getting worked up.
What do you do as a child of God at such times? How do you get out of the rut of failure after failure?
That is what I want to teach you this morning with the help of the Holy Spirit.
Here’s What To Do When All Fails Letting Go of All Offences The important thing is to get rid of all offenses and every form of bitterness. If you romance with bitterness, it will stop any good thing you might be trying to start.
Heb 12:15 (KJV) Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled;
The scripture calls it a root. You don’t get to see the root of a plant, but it is surely there.
Bitterness can be submerged in the belly without showing forth its dangerous fruits until much later when more damage would have been done.
I know your “Ex” hurt you and did the unbelievable and unthinkable! But that is not enough for you to now discard the blessing!
Don’t stop yourself as a result of that!
Your parents did this and that.
One friend betrayed you.
The other person stabbed you in the back, and then in the front!
The list is endless, but whatever anybody has done to you, you must make up your mind to forgive!
Let God handle it. Let God fight for you!
Don’t allow the emotions of hatred to have the better part of you.
You really don’t want anybody’s foolishness to become your own folly.
Bitterness can scatter that new relationship.
The Bible says bitterness is a root and can spring up from nowhere, and many other relationships, opportunities, and doors will be defiled!
John the Baptist died because of offense. When he had a problem with his spiritual leader, his spiritual head, his physical head followed. Don’t let the daughter of one insignificant child of the devil request for your head. Don’t let your head become one of the awards on a prize giving day!
Deal with bitterness. Confront it.
Bitterness and iniquity are cousins. They work together.
Act 8:23 (KJV) For I perceive that thou art in the gall of bitterness, and in the bond of iniquity.
Ask God to help you.
If you have to cry, gladly do that so that your destiny can gather motion.
Extra luggage will attract extra costs. You don’t need that luggage that is weighing you down.
With those dangerous emotions, you cannot fly like an eagle.
That is why a suitcase is weighed when you want to fly in the air. But as long as you remain on the ground, nobody really cares about your luggage.
May your destiny not be permanently assigned to the ground. May you mount up like an eagle! May you fulfill destiny!
There are people reading this who just went through a breakup. You have been disappointed, left in the cold, abandoned, and discarded like unwanted trash.
Don’t cry too much, a little is okay. Don’t sulk, rather deal with your heart. Protect your heart from bitterness.
And let God compensate you for the loss! I pray that God will give you more understanding!
Be blessed and have a beautiful, productive, and blessed day in Jesus’ name!
We love you and we celebrate you!
Greatness beckons, you will not miss it! Here’s What To Do When All Fails
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am free from all offenses
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, heal me and cleanse my heart of all hurts and bitterness THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 4:31 (KJV) Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:stickers
How To Build Intimacy Intentionally. This is a very interesting topic and I hope we all are ready to learn one or two things. For our marriage to work and be blissful, we have to invest in knowledge. Knowledge is very important in the issue of marriage.
Men and women are so different. We have to humble ourselves to learn and keep on learning.
The whole concept of marriage is for intimacy. Intimacy simply means “into me see, into my needs, or a deep connection between spouses”. It is when two people become one flesh.
Gen 2:23 -25 And Adam said: “This is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.” Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
Many people build their marriage on different things e.g. kids, career, fame, ministry, and so on, whereas we should build our marriages on our relationships with one another.
The kids will grow and go, what happens to our relationship with each other?
Marriage is meant to survive anything where there is intimacy. It can survive infertility, infidelity, lack, poverty, health challenges, or interference. Interference of in-laws or third parties thrives in a marriage without intimacy.
The bond and covenant of marriage are strong enough to withstand any of these pressures.
When we build intimacy in our marriage that’s when we begin to enjoy the rewards of unity. Where we begin to have great rewards, we begin to chase 10,000 more as a couple.
How do we build intimacy in our relationship? Let’s look at the acronym ‘INTIMACY’.
How To Build Intimacy Intentionally
1. INTENTIONAL
We cannot build intimacy in our marriage without being intentional. We don’t become one at the altar on the wedding day. We are pronounced ‘one’ and then go through the process of becoming one which involves the two spouses.
No marriage suddenly breaks; couples gradually drift apart.
Love can die. If love can grow then it can also die. We have to be intentional about keeping love ablaze.
As powerful as fire is, something has to keep it burning. Such is the passion of love. We start a marriage with emotional love where we love almost unconsciously.
As the marriage grows, we need to be intentional and conscious about loving our spouses, knowing them, meeting their deepest needs, and being there for them.
Good couples become intimate by chance but great couples become intimate by choice. This is How To Build Intimacy Intentionally
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am intentional about being intimate with my spouse. I am careful to notice what their needs are and I meet those needs.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Help me Lord to grow in my intimacy with my spouse.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY And Adam said: “This is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.” Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh”. Gen 2:23-24 NKJV
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be intentional about being intimate with your spouse. Seek to know what love language your spouse is speaking par time and meet their needs.
Are All Men Scum? All men are scum! Really? If that is what you believe, that is what you might keep attracting! All men are not scum! You cannot use a personal experience to summarize everybody!
Most men will ‘toast’ you and promise you heaven and earth, but a faithful man who can find?
Most men will tell you they are the best, but a faithful man who can find?
Most men will claim they love you more than anybody, more than their mothers, but a faithful man who can find?
Most men will tell you how much they will take care of you, but a faithful man who can find?
Are All Men Scum?
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Pro 20:6 KJV Most men will proclaim every one his own goodness: but a faithful man who can find?
The word from which ‘faithful’ is translated from the Greek is ‘emun’ which means ‘trusty’ or ‘trustworthiness.’ In essence, the question above is ‘most men are good toasters, but who can find a man that can be trusted?
David made the situation worse when he said
Psa 12:1 KJV Help, LORD; for the godly man ceaseth; for the faithful fail from among the children of men.
Are there good husbands at this age? Will one ever find a man that will love God and love his wife as well?
Are there still men who will not compromise and cheat on their wives? Are there still men that will not pounce on the tempting house girl? Are there still men that will remain faithful even if they have traveled to places where sex is available and almost free?
Well, there are still faithful men! Elijah went before God and said he is the only one that remains. God said, ‘you are wrong, there are still thousands that would not bow to Baal.’
The issue is that the moment you conclude in your heart that “all men are evil,’ that is the kind of men you keep attracting! You see, you cannot make conclusions about men generally because of a few bad trends and experiences with men.
There are still faithful men, and there is a man that God has for you!
If you will trust God to lead you and guide you in making decisions, he will surely help you out.
But if you decide to do it your own way, try to buy your way into a man’s heart by offering your body, it usually wouldn’t work out because that is not God’s order. Are All Men Scum?
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I receive the grace to do it God’s way and not my way
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask God for wisdom and direction in your daily affairs
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psa 12:1 (AMPC) HELP, LORD! For principled and godly people are here no more; faithfulness and the faithful vanish from among the sons of men.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Study “faithfulness” in the scriptures
Here Are Reasons Why Affairs Happen. Bode has been starved of sex in his matrimonial home. His wife, Sandy feels justified to “close shop” for him because she suspected he was cheating on her. This even increased his vulnerability and drove him more into the hands of the daughters of Eve who have been itching to have him! Why do affairs happen?
A major point of conflict between couples has to do with adultery! This does not have to do with those without the church alone. There is adultery within the church as well.
An affair can be defined as a sexual relationship, romantic friendship, or passionate attachment between two people without the knowledge of the other spouse.
Nobody is immune to having an affair. Nothing can justify having an experience. God frowns at it.
Why do affairs happen?
Once we can know the root cause, the solution is not far-fetched.
Here Are Reasons Why Affairs Happen 1. Warning and Wake-Up Call Some people have affairs in other to simply “warn” their spouse and tell them what they are capable of doing. Can you beat that?
When you try to warn or get back to your spouse through an affair, the consequences that follow are really not pleasant.
Pro 6:32-33 (MSG) Adultery is a brainless act, soul-destroying, self-destructive; [33] Expect a bloody nose, a black eye, and a reputation ruined for good.
2. The Needs When the sexual and emotional needs of either party are not met, it could lead to an affair.
As couples, strive to satisfy each other’s needs as much as you can.
It helps to reduce the vulnerability that arises as a result of unmet needs.
3. A Bruised Ego This may sound ridiculous, but men often have affairs to repair broken-down egos!
At the same time, this may sound “valid” to men, but affairs are still wrong and always come with attendant consequences.
There is never a “good reason” for adultery! The after-effects care less why it happened.
Wives, don’t deliberately bruise your husband’s ego.
Instead, massage it, and protect it. Here Are Reasons Why Affairs Happen
May God grant you more understanding in Jesus’ name.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be trapped
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, shield my marriage from all evils
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 6:32 (GW) Whoever commits adultery with a woman has no sense. Whoever does this destroys himself.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Set boundaries to prevent affairs
What Husbands and Wives Are To Build. Let’s start with the wife. Women are powerful.
To show you how powerful women are, the Bible never says a man builds a home. It says a woman builds.
Pro 14:1 (KJV) Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.
Dear wife, there is a lot of power and accompanying responsibilities that lie with you.
Your decisions, prayers, and actions will eventually build your home or tear it down, therefore, you cannot afford to be foolish.
Be wise and cooperate with what God is trying to do in your life.
How do you do this?
Avoid all the strife, bickering, quarrels, and the like for that is how a foolish woman tears down her home. Cooperate with your husband and be submissive as the Bible says.
Now, to the husbands. What Husbands and Wives Are To Build. Since it is the woman building the house, what then is the responsibility of the man?
Build the woman! The husband is to build the builder!
That is what the husband should do. Build the woman.
Dear men, build your wife so that your wife can build the house.
Invest in your wife. Support her endeavors and career.
Be interested in her passion and you know what, she will give it all it takes to pray for the family.
May your marriage be blessed. These are What Husbands and Wives Are To Build
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a wise builder.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me the wisdom to build.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Jas 1:5 (KJV) If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.
One Prayer That Shouldn’t Leave You. Things are not going fine. You are not happy. You don’t even know where the problem is coming from.
You have prayed, fasted and even sought counsel and nothing seems to be working.
You are even at the point of compromising your faith or you have even done so out of frustration and done what you knew was clearly wrong!
Like it is often said, “the spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.”
Well at this point, when you have done all you know to do, and you don’t know what else to do, here is what to do!
Mercy! Lord!
That is One Prayer That Shouldn’t Leave You
I guess when Apostle Paul said to pray without ceasing, this is the kind of prayer point he has in mind!
1Th 5:17 (KJV) Pray without ceasing.
See another translation:
1Th 5:17 (TPT) Make your life a prayer.
Again this is corroborated in the book of Hebrews.
Heb 4:16 (KJV) Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.
If you read it backward, it will say something like this:
In the time of need, you should find grace after obtaining MERCY, by coming boldly to the throne of grace!
Mercy over my relationship!
Mercy over my life!
Mercy over my finances.
Mercy over my decisions.
Consciously ask for His mercy all day long and you will see God intervene in your situation! This is One Prayer That Shouldn’t Leave You
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY The mercy of God will work for me
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, have mercy on me!
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Heb 4:16 (AMPC) Let us then fearlessly and confidently and boldly draw near to the throne of grace (the throne of God’s unmerited favor to us sinners), that we may receive mercy [for our failures] and find grace to help in good time for every need [appropriate help and well-timed help, coming just when we need it].
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Meditate on God’s mercy today!
