We often imagine hearing God as something that happens in deep prayer or during life’s major crossroads—like choosing a spouse or a career. But what if God speaks just as clearly in the grocery aisle, the traffic jam, or while folding laundry?
Joseph, the earthly father of Jesus, teaches us that divine direction isn’t reserved for dramatic moments. He wasn’t a priest or prophet—just a carpenter trying to live right. Yet every time God spoke, Joseph heard.
In Matthew 1:20, when the angel said, “Do not be afraid to take Mary home as your wife”, he listened. When told, “Get up, take the child and his mother and escape to Egypt” (Matthew 2:13, NIV), he obeyed. Later, “Go to the land of Israel” (Matthew 2:20, NIV). No thunder. No burning bush. Just quiet clarity in ordinary life.
What made Joseph different wasn’t his holiness—it was his habit of listening. He didn’t treat hearing God as a rare spiritual event but as part of his daily rhythm. His obedience turned ordinary moments into sacred history.
Maybe God’s voice isn’t hiding—it’s just competing with our noise. The ping of notifications. The rush of deadlines. The hum of worry. But when we quiet our hearts, even in the middle of life’s routine, we might catch the whisper of God guiding us through “everyday” issues: which conversation to have, which decision to delay, how to respond in kindness.
Like Joseph, we don’t need a spotlight to hear heaven. We just need to stay tuned. The voice that guided him still speaks steadily, practically, and is present in the details of our ordinary days.
In Acts 5, we meet Ananias and Sapphira, a couple who wanted to look generous before others. They sold some land and agreed to pretend they were giving all the money to God, even though they secretly kept some for themselves. They thought no one would know, but God did, and their lie cost them their lives.
Their story teaches us something important: true love never leads us to do wrong. When we truly love someone, we help each other do what pleases God, not what hides the truth. Ananias and Sapphira stood together, but they stood together in sin. That is not the kind of unity God blesses.
If you are single, don’t let your feelings for someone push you into choices that dishonor God. The right person will help you grow closer to Him, not away from Him.
If you are married, remember that love means helping each other live honestly and faithfully. A home built on lies cannot stand strong.
True love doesn’t cover sin. It leads us toward the truth. When love is built on God’s truth, it becomes something pure, strong, and lasting. That’s the kind of love God wants for all of us.
While making peace quickly is valuable, rushing reconciliation without addressing underlying issues can lead to unresolved resentment. Take time to process emotions and ensure both parties feel heard.
Matthew 5:24 emphasizes reconciling before offering gifts at the altar—a reminder to prioritize genuine restoration.
Solution: Allow space for reflection if needed, but commit to resolving the issue completely rather than sweeping it under the rug. True unity requires honesty and effort.
6. Keep God at the Center
Falling in love is not just about two people—it’s also about inviting God into the relationship. Pray together or individually for wisdom, patience, and grace during conflicts.
Philippians 4:6-7 assures us, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, present your requests to God.”
Solution: Surrender quarrels to God, asking Him to guide your hearts toward peace and understanding. Trust that His Spirit will lead you both to solutions aligned with His purpose.
7. Learn and Grow Together
Every conflict presents an opportunity to better understand each other’s triggers, fears, and communication styles. Use these moments to deepen intimacy and trust.
Hebrews 12:11 says, “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace.”
Solution: After resolving a quarrel, discuss what you’ve learned about each other and how to prevent similar misunderstandings in the future. Growth strengthens the foundation of your relationship.
Final Thought:
Quarrels during the falling-in-love stage aren’t necessarily a sign that something is wrong—they’re simply evidence that you’re two unique individuals navigating life together. The key is handling disagreements with grace, humility, and a commitment to honoring one another.
Remember, love is not just a feeling—it’s a choice to cherish, respect, and work through challenges side by side. By leaning on God’s wisdom and prioritizing open communication, empathy, and mutual respect, you’ll build a relationship that withstands trials and flourishes over time.
As you navigate conflicts, keep Colossians 3:14 in mind: “And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.” Love covers a multitude of sins—and it also helps heal wounds, fostering a partnership built on trust and devotion.
Falling in love is beautiful, but sustaining it after saying yes is where real work begins. Whether you’re single, preparing for marriage, or already married, love needs daily nurturing to thrive. Here are practical steps to keep that flame burning.
1. Keep God at the Center
Every lasting relationship stands on a solid foundation. That foundation is God.
Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it – Psalm 127:1, NKJV.
Praying together, studying the Word, and seeking God’s guidance create spiritual unity. A relationship built on Him can weather storms.
2. Communicate with Openness and Grace
Love flourishes in honest, kind communication. Don’t bottle up feelings or expect your partner to read your mind.
Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt– Colossians 4:6, NIV.
Speak truthfully, listen patiently, and respond with empathy.
3. Choose Forgiveness Daily
No relationship is perfect. Offenses will come, but forgiveness keeps bitterness from taking root.
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you– Ephesians 4:32, NIV.
Holding grudges only builds walls; forgiveness builds bridges.
4. Keep the Spark Alive
Intentional effort is needed to keep romance vibrant. Plan date nights, share surprises, laugh together, and celebrate small wins. For singles, this means learning to nurture love beyond the butterflies—through acts of service, patience, and consistency.
5. Grow Together, Not Apart
As life changes, keep evolving together. Support each other’s dreams, pray over each other, and face challenges as a team.
Two are better than one… for if they fall, one will lift up his companion – Ecclesiastes 4:9–10, NKJV.
Final Thought
Saying “Yes” is just the beginning. Sustaining love is a journey of daily choices—anchored in God, seasoned with grace, and strengthened by intentionality. Whether single or married, commit to nurturing your love story so it reflects Christ’s enduring love.
As singles and couples, many of us long for a deep, meaningful connection with a life partner. We may try to create this through our own efforts, strategies, and carefully planned timelines, yet often those attempts leave us feeling weary, disappointed, or uncertain. The truth is, love is not something we can fully control or manufacture. God’s Word reminds us that He is the ultimate author of our stories, and when we place our trust in Him, we discover peace and assurance that His plan is always good.
Scripture gives us this promise:
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”(Jeremiah 29:11).
These words reassure us that God sees the bigger picture. While we may feel anxious about whether we will ever meet “the one,” God is never rushed or late. His timing is perfect, and His ways are far beyond our understanding.
Instead of focusing on what we lack, this season of waiting can be an invitation to deepen our relationship with Him. When we draw near to God, we are transformed into the people He created us to be—whole, confident, and ready to love in a Christ-centered way. Trusting God does not mean passivity, but rather an active surrender: choosing to walk in faith while preparing our hearts for His blessings.
Jesus Himself encourages us
“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.” Matthew 7:7
When it comes to relationships, prayer is not only about asking for a partner but also about aligning our hearts with God’s will.
Through prayer, we can:
– Seek God’s guidance and wisdom to recognize the right person when they come into our lives.
– Ask for protection from unhealthy or harmful relationships that may distract us from His plan.
– Pray for patience, resisting the temptation to rush ahead of God’s timing.
– Request clarity on our values, priorities, and non-negotiables so that we pursue relationships grounded in faith.
When we consistently bring our desires before the Lord, we open ourselves to His peace. Even if His answer looks different from our expectations, we can be assured that His will leads to lasting joy. Love found through prayer is not built on fleeting emotions but on the steady foundation of God’s promises.
For those who are already married, prayer continues to be a vital lifeline. It strengthens the bond between husband and wife by inviting God to be at the center of the relationship. Couples can pray together for unity, wisdom in decision-making, and grace to forgive and love each other as Christ loves the church.
Prayer also helps guard the marriage against division and selfishness, replacing them with compassion, patience, and understanding. By seeking God together, spouses grow not only closer to Him but also closer to each other, building a partnership rooted in faith and sustained by His Spirit.
As we journey through seasons of waiting or seasons of commitment, may we remain hopeful and faithful, trusting that the One who holds our future also knows the deepest desires of our hearts.
