Three Things About Delay. We are going to be looking at the different sources of delay.
1. You may be the source of the delay
Delays can be caused by oneself. There may be delays caused by your own carelessness.
Disobedience to God can result in self-imposed delay. This can also be caused by arrogance and ignorance. Refusing to follow God’s commandments can likewise cause delays.
Cooperate with God as soon as possible in all areas to avoid self-inflicted delays.
If God’s instructions are clear to you, act quickly to carry them out.
Three Things About Delay
2. Delay can be caused by God
Delay can be caused by God when He knows you are about to make a decision that will hinder your salvation, joy, or bring any type of evil.
The Lord does not delay [as though He were unable to act] and is not slow about His promise, as some count slowness, but is [extraordinarily] patient toward you, not wishing for any to perish but for all to come to repentance. 2 Peter 3:9 AMP
Because God does not want you to perish, He can delay stubborn decisions you are about to make in order to save your soul.
Make modifications in accordance with God’s instructions.
This type of delay might also occur if you refuse to work on your character.
Constant attitude adjustment is critical to moving your relationship and marriage aspirations forward.
Three Things About Delay
3. The devil can cause delays
Finally, the devil can cause delays. This is the devil’s work, and it will not be permitted. It must be repudiated, rejected, and opposed.
The devil’s works have already been destroyed by Jesus.
The Son of God appeared for this purpose, to destroy the works of the devil.
1 John 3:8b AMP I pray for you today that God would grant you the much-needed victory in Jesus’ name, and that He will send help your way in Jesus’ name!
The story of Samson and Delilah contains numerous lessons for us all. Samson was chosen by God. His mission was so important that an angel heralded his birth!
He did, however, have a weakness: women. Samson was a total womanizer. When he saw a woman, he would utterly lose his bearings. He let his erection become his compass.
KJV Jdg 16:1 Then Samson went to Gaza and saw a harlot and went in to her.
He finally became a disappointment because he refused to address his shortcoming.
In fact, he once spotted a lady and realized he couldn’t speak correctly! ” He said, “…get her for me to wife!”
Jdg 14:2 KJV And he came up, and told his father and his mother, and said, I have seen a woman in Timnath of the daughters of the Philistines: now therefore get her for me to wife.
How to Escape From Destiny Destroyers
His eyes were gouged out in the end, and he did not realize his destiny.
Samson knew Delilah was out for his life, yet he couldn’t get free from her. He was well aware that Delilah intended to murder him, yet he clung to her and refused to let go.
Some of us are currently in this situation. You are in an ungodly relationship that is extremely compromising, but you refuse to let go!
You find yourself in the arms of an aggressive and manipulative person, yet you refuse to let go.
You fall in love with someone who isn’t in love with you, yet you can’t let go.
How to Escape From Destiny Destroyers
Here’s some guidance. Don’t end up like Samson. No, we don’t require another. Don’t let your gift be terminated by death. Don’t be delivered right into the clutches of your adversaries.
Don’t allow it to reach the point where your spiritual eyes are gouged out and you can’t read the word anymore.
If Samson had fled, he could have been rescued. When the Bible says to run, don’t say, ‘Let’s reason together!’
A Swift Reminder to Men Everywhere. A husband is the glue that holds the family together. Because the eyes are positioned in the head, he serves as the family’s leader and navigator.
Because everyone in the family can see through him, he cannot afford to have blurry vision.
He can’t afford to be devoid of vision. He cannot afford to have blurry vision.
Here are some things to keep in mind as the leader:
A Swift Reminder to Men Everywhere
1. Demonstrate good leadership.
The male household head has the most impact on the kids. Children of absent fathers who failed to set a good example of leadership are becoming a common sight in our prisons.
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The best leadership is Christ’s leadership, which must first be exemplified via a close relationship with God.
2. Daily emotional connection and expression
Women are sensitive individuals. They cannot be deprived of that.
The words “I love you” will never get old for a lady.
She wants to hear that every day, and the quicker you provide it to her, the better, to prevent someone else from doing so. That might start an emotional relationship.
Compromise is merely a chance away once an emotional bond has been created with an outsider.
Tell her every day how much you adore her and how sincere your words are.
Maintain an emotional connection with your children, particularly if you have a girl child.
A Swift Reminder to Men Everywhere
3. Maintain sincere and animated dialogues
Be eloquent without being violent.
Don’t let arguments and corrections become the only topics of conversation between you and your husband.
You’re not a professor; you’re a husband. Avoid lecturing and preaching. Love your communication.
While you converse with her, have fun. Play with her, enjoy yourself, and be jovial.
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Don’t take your spouse too seriously.
The Bible advises you to cherish the wife you had in your youth.
Enjoy yourself and try not to lock up too frequently due to budgetary constraints or other problems.
To overcome despair and unwarranted concern, learn to give God your requests.
Your wife and children turn to you for guidance and leadership.
Will You Walk This Marital Journey With Me? Knowing that God is with you as you walk down the aisle is one of the nicest things that can happen to you.
Everyone needs that certainty, I tell you!
Moses was a person who understood the value of having God at your side. Nothing could replace it in his opinion.
Take note to what he said below:
Exo 33:15 (KJV) And he said unto him, If thy presence go not with me, carry us not up hence.
Moses threatened to stay still if God refused to accompany him.
This one-of-a-kind mindset can ensure a wonderful and fruitful relationship.
Perhaps the Message Translation can help you comprehend it more clearly.
Exo 33:15 (MSG) Moses said, “If your presence doesn’t take the lead here, call this trip off right now.
Will You Walk This Marital Journey With Me?
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Can you reach that stage when you ask God to end this relationship right away if He is not with me?
The fact that you can accomplish this demonstrates your honesty.
It demonstrates that you give God the highest priority.
Given that He has already taken precedence in your life and relationships, you may rest assured that God will take care of you at this point.
And how much this assurance will help you in your pursuits. It will greatly bolster your faith!
Will You Walk This Marital Journey With Me?
Here, have a look:
Php 4:19-20 (MSG) You can be sure that God will take care of everything you need, his generosity exceeding even yours in the glory that pours from Jesus. [20] Our God and Father abounds in glory that just pours out into eternity. Yes.
God will look for you. He’ll take care of all your requirements. He’ll lead you.
He is going to lead you this week. He will accompany you. You won’t be held hostage.
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In the name of Jesus, the enemy’s plans for your life and relationships are now broken and shattered.
In the name of Jesus, God will honor you in every aspect of your life.
In the name of Jesus, the enemy’s traps are removed from your path. This week, you won’t have any trouble!
This week, the angel of assistance will find you.
In Jesus’ name, so it shall be for you, according to the Lord’s word!
As a marriage counselor, I’ve had to mediate conflicts between various couples over the years. One significant concern is affairs or adultery.
This does not only apply to nonbelievers. There is also adultery within the church.
An affair is defined as a sexual relationship, romantic friendship, or passionate attachment between two people that occurs without the other spouse’s knowledge.
Nobody is exempt from having an affair. Nothing can ever justify an affair. God frowns upon it, and we do also on Kisses and Huggs Club
Why do affairs occur?
The answer is not far-fetched once we identify the main reason.
How Marriage Affairs and Adultery Begin
1. A forewarning and a wake-up call
Some people have affairs solely to “warn” their spouse and show them what they are capable of. Can you outdo that?
When you try to warn or return to your spouse through an affair, the repercussions are not pleasant.
Pro 6:32-33 (MSG) Adultery is a brainless act, soul-destroying, self-destructive; [33] Expect a bloody nose, a black eye, and a reputation ruined for good.
How Marriage Affairs and Adultery Begin
2. The Demands
When either party’s sexual and emotional needs are not addressed, it is a red flag that an affair is on the horizon.
As a pair, try to meet each other’s wants as much as possible.
It aids in reducing the vulnerability that results from unfulfilled needs.
How Marriage Affairs and Adultery Begin
3. A Swollen Ego
This may sound silly, but guys frequently have affairs to restore a damaged ego!
At the same time, while this may appear “valid” to men, affairs are still wrong and will always have consequences.
Wives, don’t purposefully wound your husband’s ego. Instead, massage and shield it.
In Jesus’ name, may God provide you with more insight.
As singles, understand that double dating is the rehearsal for adultery. If your partner is cheating on you before the wedding, they will likely continue even after marriage.
How to Stop Nagging in Your Marriage. Cynthia was perplexed by her husband’s abrupt change in behavior. He now stays out late with his friends rather than returning home.
Cynthia reflected that he wasn’t like this when they were first married.
She couldn’t handle it any longer. She cried and wouldn’t stop until Peter, her husband, explained why he was late.
Peter’s statement took her by surprise. Cynthia, you nag! he remarked.
Cynthia couldn’t understand the connection between nagging and coming home late. What is the connection? Let’s take a look at the scripture.
How to Stop Nagging in Your Marriage
King Solomon was correct when he stated
Pro 21:9 CEV It’s better to stay outside on the roof of your house than to live inside with a nagging wife.
Solomon then says in a few verses later in the chapter:
Pro 21:19 CEV It’s better out in the desert than at home with a nagging, complaining wife.
Simply said, nagging will drive couples apart. As some may believe, nagging is not gender-specific. A wife can nag and a husband can nag too. Men who take a lot after their mum can often nag as well.
Nagging is just making a repeated demand or comment.
If you find yourself in this predicament, there are a few options to get out of it.
How to Stop Nagging in Your Marriage
1. Recognize that nagging is a negative attitude.
2. Request that the Holy Spirit assist you in breaking the undesirable behavior.
3. Look into Scriptures in the Bible that deal with the circumstance and ponder on them.
4. Respect your spouse’s thoughts and don’t expect your spouse to do everything you suggest right away.
5. Do not keep repeating yourself. Your husband initially heard you. Rather than nagging, pray to God and ask him to assist you.
It is easier and more effective when you let God do the saying to your spouse than you continually nagging till you wear each other out.
If This Happens, He Doesn’t Love You. One of the most unpleasant and draining sensations is falling in love with someone who is uninterested in you.
It is an abusive relationship where one will chase after the other, with no chance of ever catching up. One is authentic, living authentically, while the other is merely playing games.
Unfortunately, the one who is genuine will be saddened when the milk spills, while the other is unbothered.
Here are five signs that a man isn’t interested in you.
If This Happens, He Doesn’t Love You.
He rarely calls, and when he does, it is to obtain something from you.
People who don’t care about you will rarely stay in touch because they care about you; they will only stay in touch to acquire what they want. When they see that they are not going to get what they want, they drop you like a hot potato.
Communication is essential to the success of any relationship or marriage. If your sweetheart has not been in constant communication and is continually making flimsy excuses for not remaining in touch, it strongly indicates that something is wrong.
The quality of your conversation reflects the health of your relationship.
You see when you’re in love with someone, you want to be with them, you want to talk to them, and you want to spend time with them.
If This Happens, He Doesn’t Love You.
When phone calls are abruptly terminated and repeatedly hung up on you, you are no longer on the same page.
In marriage, you also have to keep the communication going. Don’t let the routine of day-to-day happenstances mess with your loving communication!
Keep it going! Yes, you saw yourselves in the morning, continue the conversations on the phone, chats, and so on.
For couples, who live apart because of their jobs, you even have to be more deliberate and also do this frequently!
One Characteristic to Look for in a Man. One of the most common problems that single women face is determining how to spot a good man.
According to the Bible, in
Pro 20:6b (KJV) but a faithful man who can find?
It implies that finding a good man is difficult. There are numerous attributes to seek in a man. I only want to show you one as an example of things to look out for in a man.
This is a non-negotiable trait. It is something you should never, ever compromise on.
One Characteristic to Look for in a Man
Let’s have a look at this.
1Pe 3:7 (KJV) Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
Does this person you want to make your husband HONOUR you?
It’s a multi-billion-dollar question that requires a thoughtful journey before signing on the dotted line!
He will not honor you tomorrow if he does not honor you now.
One Characteristic to Look for in a Man
Everything your fiance is doing to you now will be repeated in marriage.
All of his deeds are trailers for the real film.
And that film is lengthy, spanning multiple seasons!
What does it mean to be honorable?
It indicates holding high regard or regard for someone. Can you say this to the man you want to marry?
There is no honor when he sleeps with you under duress or by any other type of manipulation. There is no honor if he tells you that you are merely one of his many girlfriends. There is no honor if he repeatedly raises his hand against you, only to apologize later.
I could go on, but I’m sure you get the idea.
One Characteristic to Look for in a Man
According to the Message translation:
Honor them, delight in them.
Is he really into you? In a genuine way, rather than for the sake of sexual gratification?
Another translation is as follows:
Husbands, in a similar way, live with your wives with understanding.
Is he thinking of you? Does he let you express yourself or does he silence you until your default mode is mute?
Finally, another translation states:
If you are a husband, you should be thoughtful of your wife.
Is he considerate? Is he sympathetic to your requirements, or does he believe you are overly demanding?
These are important questions to think about.
I will not forget to pray for you this morning. My God will lead you into His will. In Jesus’ name, your path will not intersect with a time-waster! And for those already married, God will keep you and preserve your marriage for good in Jesus’ name!
5 Marriage Advice for Married Men. Here are five tips that will help husbands.
1. Have a good leadership.
The body will be correct if the head is correct. However, if you have a terrible head, the likelihood of your body following suit is high.
We can still work on the body if the head is in good shape. We can exercise to maintain it in shape, or we can eat more to keep it healthy and strong.
Invest in books to become knowledgeable and educated.
2. Always take your wife with you.
Your wife is supposed to be beside you. Let there be no vacancy in her place. Tell her all you have planned, both now and in the future.
Allow her to know about your finances, and understanding her personality will help you decide what to entrust to her hands.
If she is not going to handle the financial aspects of the house, she should at least be aware of where the money is going.
3. Always communicate in your wife’s love language.
Your wife needs to know she is adored. She must understand that she is adored by you. You love her on her terms rather than yours. That is what it means to speak her love language.
4. Defend your wife and be there for her.
The truth is that your wife is the only person on the planet with whom you have a marital vow.
It is your obligation to ensure that she is emotionally, psychologically, and otherwise safeguarded.
5. Stay on the same page.
To accomplish this, you must both have a common purpose that you intend to attain together.
You must collaborate to achieve a common goal. According to the Bible, two are better than one because they will receive a favorable recompense for their efforts.
Allow your hard work and the fruits of your labor to shine through.
Don’t waste your entire marriage fighting over insignificant issues. Grow as a couple. Be mature and tackle the task that God has assigned to you both.
As singles, we need to know who to fall in love with. As couples, we need to keep falling in love with the person we have chosen.
Let’s talk to singles first. I frequently remind people that there are some questions for which they do not need to pray. Certain situations do not need seeking God’s face. Certain concerns should not be brought up with your pastor.
God is an orderly God! So, when He created us, he gave us brains so that we could think. In addition, He gave us His word to instruct us. His principles are clearly stated in His word.
So, when it comes to receiving guidance from God regarding relationships and marriage, there are some issues we don’t need to ask God about again because He has already informed us in His word.
As a single individual ready to marry, you cannot marry everyone and everyone. Some people should be avoided. You see, when you fall in love with the wrong person, there’s no need in asking God about it because His word already tells you not to.
That is why we never receive responses to some of our prayers because His word clearly provided the solution.
This is why, according to James, we sometimes ask the wrong question.
Jas 4:3 AMP [Or] you do ask [God for them] and yet fail to receive, because you ask with wrong purpose and evil, selfish motives. Your intention is [when you get what you desire] to spend it in sensual pleasures.
Loving Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul
So, who are you not supposed to fall in love with?
Don’t fall in love with someone who despises God!
That’s all there is to it.
You cannot love someone who despises God. Hear me, and hear me clearly. Do not consider him if he has not been born again and does not fear God. Don’t bother asking God whether it’s okay. His word is already clear: don’t do it.
2Co 6:14 MSG Don’t become partners with those who reject God. How can you make a partnership out of right and wrong? That’s not partnership; that’s war. Is light best friends with dark?
Loving Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul
Light and darkness cannot be united in marriage.
Now comes the tricky part.
A God-hater can appear to be pleasant. A God-hater, like Nabal, can amass wealth, but that wealth will harm them.
Pro 1:32 KJV For the turning away of the simple shall slay them, and the prosperity of fools shall destroy them.
Think carefully before falling in love. Watch your hormones and sentiments before they take control of your spirit! Watch it before your thinking is dismissed and your sensibility is blunted by “love.”
It is explicitly stated in the scriptures. A person who does not know God cannot adequately love you. God is love, and you must first know God in order to genuinely love another.
The majority of what is professed as love is simply lust!
What if you’ve already fallen in love with someone who doesn’t know God and has stated his disinterest in God? Simply rise above the love you’ve fallen into! No more.
You fell in love, didn’t you? Simply get up and leave the love to save your life and destiny. Your life’s mission and purpose should not be buried and forgotten in the kitchen of a God-hater!
Deliver yourself and go off!
Pro 6:5 KJV Deliver thyself as a roe from the hand of the hunter, and as a bird from the hand of the fowler.
What if you are already married?
The first thing to think of is not divorce or separation. The first thing is how to save your marriage. Unless of course, you are being abused and your life is threatened. If your life is not threatened, then you want to pray and seek counsel and find ways to initiate changes and improve the marriage. Ultimately, the relationship with God has to be prioritized by the couple and then all others will fall in gradually.
How to Spot a Faulty Love Life . There are signs that show a friendship probably won’t lead to marriage.
There are signs along the way that a relationship will end or crash.
Most of the time, these signs are clear, but when we are “in love,” we don’t notice them.
The man who will end up hitting you would have given you hints when you were dating.
He would have given you a few hits and punches here and there, but you probably let him off the hook because you thought he would change.
The woman who will bother you all day and night probably gave you hints, but you must have just thought it was her personality.
How to Spot a Faulty Love Life
If a woman didn’t care about your goals and dreams, she would have shown it, but you were so in love with her that all you could see were her hot legs.
The Holy Spirit will often try to guide us and let us know when something is wrong in a relationship. But if we think, “I know everything,” then there’s nothing God can do.
Because He is fair, God will always let you choose for yourself. He won’t change what you want. If God can stop us from doing what we want to do, then everyone should be made to be born again and accept Jesus Christ into their lives.
How to Spot a Faulty Love Life
God won’t do that, though. But if you ask Him and listen to Him, He will always lead, direct, and help you.
I’ll talk about one area where problems often show up, but we don’t pay attention to them: spiritual life.
You need to be very careful with him if his spiritual life is weak and nothing to write home about.
If she doesn’t care about God, she should just watch it.
If he or she doesn’t value God’s word by reading and studying it regularly, there is definitely something wrong.
If he or she doesn’t go to church often, that’s a very bad sign.
Don’t let love make you lose your mind.
He only drinks when he is upset. Really?
He doesn’t use hemp to calm down. Instead, he smokes a few cigarettes. Really?
She is always busy, so she doesn’t go to church.
You are dating, but only both of you know about it. Nobody else! There’s something wrong with that.
You’re dating, but he or she doesn’t call much, sometimes for weeks. Well, if you go into marriage like that, you should already know what you’re getting into.
I’ve always said this: Marriage doesn’t make anyone different.
Already married and bad issues are cropping up? The you want to see help quickly in marriage counseling. The issues you ignore are waiting and brooding into more complex issues, so its better to address them as they show up!
Dear Babe, What Exactly Do You Want? No matter how spiritual a lady is, there are certain things she wants from her man, single or married.
This morning, we will look at a few of them.
1. She wants someone to play with.
There is a little girl inside every woman who always wants to play with the little boy in her lover.
Learn to play with her in your relationship. Don’t always be too serious. Get her to laugh. Have fun with her. Together, go to the movies.
2. She wants a guide, not a teacher.
Every woman wants to be guided and not told what to do.
There are many big differences between the two.
Don’t tell her what to do, because you are not her teacher.
Don’t give her a sermon; you’re not her preacher.
Don’t use Bible verses to get mad at her, that won’t help.
When a mentor is kind, things go better and faster.
3. She wants a man who is honest.
Every woman wants a man who is honest. Cheating comes from the same heart that tells lies. When you tell the truth, you know you are safe.
Make a promise to always tell the truth, no matter what. A man who tells the truth will have children who also tell the truth. It’s as easy as that.
Don’t walk down the aisle with him if he lies on the spot.
4. She wants a guy who will let her say what she wants to say.
Every woman wants to talk and loves to do it. Let her say what she wants. Don’t silence her. Even if you don’t understand what she’s saying, let her talk.
She feels better when she talks and says what’s on her mind. Let her be.
Don’t make her look like an idiot.
5. She wants a guy who is responsible and capable with money.
Lastly, every woman wants a man who is good with money and not careless with it.
A guy who isn’t good with money is a big source of heartache and frustration for the woman.
Some Ways To Make Your Husband Happy. This morning, let’s talk about some ideas on how to make your husband happy
1. Always show your husband respect and deference.
Respect him as the leader. Regard him as the leader. Respect him in public and in private. Respect him with your words, ideas, and actions. Even as singles, respect is a major issue for your fiancé. However, you shouldn’t hop on the bed because you want to “respect” him.
2. Do not constantly cling to your own point of view.
Allow him to make the final call. Do not usurp his power by making decisions without his delegated authority. As singles during courtship, you start learning how to get your opinion across without coming across as rude.
Some Ways To Make Your Husband Happy.
3. Do not go silent on your husband.
Be upbeat. Don’t be a grumpy wife. Men are rational, therefore do everything you can to communicate yourself verbally. Learn to keep the communication flowing.
4. Have fun.
Every spouse has a young boy inside him. He wishes the small boy would come out and play every now and then, simply to relieve the stress of work and life.
Being cheerful and fun improves your health and frees your thoughts.
5. Do not nag your husband.
Pro 27:15 A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike.
You are pushing your husband away when you nag him.
He will be duped into believing that there is serenity outdoors, away from his wife.
Some Ways To Make Your Husband Happy.
6. Never sexually reject him.
Your hubby enjoys and desires sex virtually all of the time. Don’t force him to beg for it.
Lovemaking should not be viewed as a chore or compulsion. Be eager and ecstatic.
As singles in courtship, sex is a no-go area. Do not give in to a sexual relationship before your wedding!
7. Only God should have precedence over your husband.
Assure him that he is not competing for your affection or attention with anyone else.
No one, not even your children, should take your husband’s position.
Some Ways To Make Your Husband Happy.
8. Pray for your husband on a daily basis.
Please pray for your hubby. Pray for understanding, wisdom, and God’s blessing.
Intercede with God on his behalf.
As singles, in courtship, pray more than have fun all over the place!
Advancing By Caring For Your Lover. The man is always the muscular, stronger gender while his feminine counterpart can be frail, weaker, and vulnerable, physically and emotionally. However, the administrative and justice system of God for any marriage is amazing.
Husbands are to care for their wives. And if you don’t, God is unequivocal about it. Your prayers will be hindered.
Who wants his prayers hindered? Who wants his ways hard? Who wants his life without God’s support? That is not a place to be!
But it is so clear what God wants in the scriptures. Even as singles, you cannot be sowing wild oats all over the place, thinking there would be no consequences. In the ideal dating situation, the guy is the protector of the lady’s body and soul, not the violator of it.
Advancing By Caring For Your Lover
Let’s see how the scripture puts it.
1 Peter 3:7 (KJV) Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
Let’s consider other translations to see what God is saying here!
1 Peter 3:7 (MSG) The same goes for you husbands: Be good husbands to your wives. Honor them, delight in them. As women they lack some of your advantages. But in the new life of God’s grace, you’re equals. Treat your wives, then, as equals so your prayers don’t run aground.
Who wants his prayers to run aground?
1 Peter 3:7 (GNB) In the same way you husbands must live with your wives with the proper understanding that they are more delicate than you. Treat them with respect, because they also will receive, together with you, God’s gift of life. Do this so that nothing will interfere with your prayers.
You must relate with your fiancée or wife with the proper understanding that they are more delicate and they are to be treated with respect.
Advancing By Caring For Your Lover
Pause for a moment and see if you are doing this. If not, this is the time for repentance! And O ye wives, don’t sit back and give attitudes making it harder for him to love! If his prayers are hindered, so are yours! May your prayers not be hindered in Jesus’ name!
If you are still single, the way you are relating with your colleagues, roommates, and friends is an indication of what will play out when a relationship ensues. It is therefore time to start working on yourself!
Where Is The Virtue In My Lover? Many people enter relationships and marriage expecting the other partner to be loving and sweet with little expectation on their part.
They seem to indulge themselves in their weaknesses. We permit ourselves to still linger in our shortcomings, where we are still dealing with our flesh. We expect our partner to be a shoulder we can lean on and a support system to carry all our burdens.
We expect them to be our solution to every problem and to have answers to all our problems.
We expect them to understand us when we are naughty, moody, and unpleasant.
As all these expectations seem wonderful, the reality is that there is no human being capable of fitting into that mold.
The Godhead, that is God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit is the only perfect one that can fit into that mold.
The Bible rightly says in Proverb 20:6 the last phrase, a faithful man who can find?
Pro 20:6 Most men will proclaim every one his own goodness: but a faithful man who can find?
Your search for a faithful man is going to be a long search. The faithfulness of character, and diligence in all things, spiritual and natural comes only when we embrace the virtues of God. When God the Father becomes our father indeed, God the Son becomes our meditation day and night and the Holy Spirit becomes our greatest ally.
The Proverbs 31 Woman paints an incredible picture of a woman of virtue, strength, and character, which happens to be every man’s dream woman. Verse 30b seems to be the most important verse in the whole chapter. I think the whole chapter rests on this verse where the secret of Proverb 31 woman hinges.
Pro 31:30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
The proverb 31 woman fears the Lord.
It is high time we begin to look inwards and begin to develop our own virtue by the fear of the Lord. Whether man or woman, God is the only guaranteed source of our virtue.
An omelet is not better than the eggs that make the omelet. Instead of putting pressure on the other party for performance, let us work at becoming virtuous ourselves. Let us work at being loving, caring, gentle, kind, forgiving, a person of the word and spirit.
Whether in a relationship or in marriage. Let us work at being that powerful person. That person that will be a positive influencer in the relationship and marriage.
The Day I Met My Dream Man. The earthquakes going on in their hearts were unprecedented. All it took was the locking of their eyes for a brief moment, less than ten seconds, and sparks flew everywhere. There were no warning tremors. Its magnitude is massive enough to destroy a whole city block. It wasn’t a one-sided spark, it was mutual.
It was a like a movie straight out of Hollywood kind of meeting, everything seemed in place, the lips, tips, and hips matched the six packs, the muscles, and the beards.
Finally, it was looking like God has answered her prayers! What a good God we serve! The night vigils are finally paying off. The fasting can now be put at bay and wow, What a God of suddenly! Can I recover from the suddenness of God? She thought!
As they approached each other for the all-important introduction, her knees shook, and his lips trembled.
It looked like a heavenly written love script, except for one thing!
Their hands locked in a romantic handshake, and the handshake shook them, causing their knees to tremble in response to the “heart-quake!”
The Day I Met My Dream Man.
“Hullo, I am Bode!”
What? The voice! God can be so detailed. She wanted this Bass Voice!
“Pleasure meeting you, I am Sandy!”
Bode smiled and there was the gap tooth she wanted! She knew her testimony would be powerful on Sunday!
“I am married!” Bode said!
The shockwave sent into her interrupted the ‘heart-quakes”
“Ohh…” she said in a voice-laden disappointment, and her facial expression changed from one of ecstasy to that of irritation.
“Excuse me, I will like to use the convenience.”
The Day I Met My Dream Man.
That was her escape! She looked at herself in the mirror, a lone tear emerged and she quickly sent it back through the tear duct before it messed with her makeup!
She wondered how she nearly fell into a trap.
She knew married men is nowhere to go.
“No way, I am not about to mess it all up because of some nonsense feelings. Feelings won’t wreck my journey with God. God has a plan for me.” She affirmed to herself.
As she went home quietly, she thanked God on one side that she wasn’t deceived by that man for she would have fallen into that trap at that moment when all her thinking faculties have been hacked.
She remembered the scripture:
Proverbs 31:30 (KJV) Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
It was all looking like favour, but it was a trap wrapped up in favour! The dream nan can be the wrong man!
The ultimate place God wants you to be in any relationship or marriage is that place where you love THE RIGHT towards your spouse and you hate THE WRONG towards your spouse!
What will that do?
It will cause God to anoint you with an oil that will give you leverage and space in your career business, ministry or whatever you do!
Really, Pastor? Do you mean how I treat my spouse has something to do with my productivity? Exactly Yes!
See it in the scripture before you start wondering “What is Pastor teaching again o?
Rights and Wrongs of Relationship and Marriage
Psalms 45:7 (MSG) You love the right and hate the wrong. And that is why God, your very own God, poured fragrant oil on your head, Marking you out as king from among your dear companions.
Do you see what it says right there? If you love the right and hate the wrong towards your lover or spouse, there is a release of fragrant oil on your head! The oil is to make you a KING among your contemporaries!
Wow!
Psalms 45:7 (AMPC) You love righteousness, uprightness, and right standing with God and hate wickedness; therefore God, Your God, has anointed You with the oil of gladness above Your fellows.
King James Version calls it the Oil of gladness.
Rights and Wrongs of Relationship and Marriage
When you are somewhere where your spouse is not and yet you maintain your integrity, you refuse to cheat even when you are pressured or tempted, God sees that, and His justice system will cause oil to flow that will aid you and bring you much profit and result that will propel you above your competitors, colleagues or contemporaries!
Treat your spouse well.
Singles, stop breaking hearts all over the place, thinking that is where it ends! You are literarily refusing the oil of gladness when you do that! May that not be your portion!
Honour your spouse and see money flow into your hands! Stay faithful and see God hear your prayers! Avoid emotional affairs and see how the oil of gladness will flow and give you amazing testimonies!
Healing From The Heartbreaks of Love. Love comes with heartbreaks Marital crashes often occur on the high road of romance and love. ! There are those moments when the eyes are red, and the tears flow endlessly and you just couldn’t be consoled enough.
For singles, it could be those times of rejection, when the one you love walks away or you are even the one who needed to walk away. Either way, walking away is not always a pleasant experience.
It could be those times you suddenly feel betrayed when you discover that the one you have been loving all your life is loving another!
It could be those times when you feel neglected and it seems nobody is looking your way. All the guys seemed blind, and they can’t see you unless for those who wanted a ride!
Healing From The Heartbreaks of Love
For the married, it could be those times when all your expectations have been disappointed and what you see in marriage is far from what you think it should be.
It could be those times when you feel misunderstood and your spouse isn’t lifting a finger to understand your feelings.
It could be those times when you are so deeply hurt that it reaches to the bone and marrows when the one you love and trust has broken your trust, caught red-handed frolicking with the opposite sex.
Or it could just be any of the days when there are no stars in the sky, and the moody mushy thing envelopes you and you don’t want to talk to anybody including GOD.
It could be times of going through a midlife crisis when all the cruises are gone and all that is left are crashes.
In any of those sad unhappy times, what do you do?
Sing. Rejoice. Dance. Jubilate!
What?
Isa 54:1 (KJV) Sing, O barren, thou that didst not bear; break forth into singing, and cry aloud, thou that didst not travail with child: for more are the children of the desolate than the children of the married wife, saith the LORD.
Healing From The Heartbreaks of Love
That is what you do. Do the opposite of what your flesh wants. And then, in an incredible turn of events, you will see God’s intervention and justice system in that situation and you will have victory and rejoice at the last.
Do not grumble. Do not get bitter. Do not fight back.
Leave all the fights to God.
Rom 12:19 (MSG) Don’t insist on getting even; that’s not for you to do. “I’ll do the judging,” says God. “I’ll take care of it.”
And when you do this, get ready to rejoice, because there is a REJOICING after the rejoicing.
Singles Versus Married: Some Distinctions. Here are some distinctions between singles and married that will communicate some wisdom to you.
1. The single person is just simply “selfish”
They think of themselves and no other. However, once married, they have to move from that point of “self” to “us’ for the marriage to be successful.
The singles have to train themselves to be selfless, to think of the other people around them, and learn to show some empathy and care because that is what marriage is all about.
In marriage, it’s all about pleasing one another. After pleasing God, the next person you want to please is your spouse!
Singles Versus Married: Some Distinctions
2. The singles are to stay away from pre-marital sex.
After the wedding, the couple is licensed to have sex. Even if they wanted it ten times a day, the angels will be clapping for them. But for singles involved in pre-marital sex, the angels will flap their wings and escape so that their eyes will not behold evil. Lol.
However what do we have, we are admonishing singles to wait and not be sexually involved, while we are begging married couples to have sex!
This is simply the ploy of the devil. While single, it looks like sex is the ultimate. Not really. Food is even more important than sex. You can’t do without food for a year, but I lived without sex for twenty-seven years. The very first time was after my wedding!
What about those who are already sexually active? Don’t beat yourself hard. Return to God. Let God help you and teach you how to put your body under. You must discipline your body and not respond to lust because a wedding doesn’t solve the lust problem! That is why some married folk cheat on each other!
Singles Versus Married: Some Distinctions
3. Use your season wisely.
As singles, you have all the time in the world to pray, so use that season of your life wisely. As couples, you are not going to have as much time, however the advantage you will have is the power of agreement. You will be able to join hands together and move mountains.
And this is also why you must avoid strife and quarrels like a plague so that you can properly harness the power of agreement.
The Unveiling of True Authentic Love. A true genuine love doesn’t just want to get, it wants to give!
Let’s go even further. A true love doesn’t want to give to get, it just wants to give!
There are men who will give just anything and yet it won’t still be true love!
There are men who will fund girls and yet would refuse to pay their children’s school fees, and yet it is not true love! That is just giving to get and at the height of it, it is still manipulative and unhealthy!
True love is sacrificial. True love wants the best for their lover. They don’t want them hurt in any way. They won’t violate them to fulfill the rush of their adrenaline.
True love considers their partner. True love wants the other person to be happy and joyful.
True love is not a user. True love is not manipulative or controlling.
The Unveiling of True Authentic Love
In marriage, true love wants their spouse to be happy and joyful. True love wants to please their spouse all the time.
True love will never cheat on their spouse! They love their spouse too much to desecrate their marital covenant or jeopardize their precious union.
True love wants the best for one another. Even when there are some quarrels or disagreements, it’s all resolved quickly because true love can’t successfully stay away emotionally from their lover for too long.
True love forgives quickly and rapidly because camaraderie, intimacy, loving communication, and romantic collaboration is priority!
The Unveiling of True Authentic Love
True love is not interested to the point of pursuing another person. True love is focused.
True love believes in the best and prays the best into one another.
True love looks out for one another, solving problems for one another and doing things that make them happy!
True love has the fear of God. The fear of God under guards true love and supplies the strength needed to do the needful and avoid the harmful.
