Life is really interesting. Children have been known to suffer sometimes for the action of their parents. A careless parent can raise a defective child. Our prisons are filled with young minds whose minds became warped because of the negligence of a father or mother. Too many people are incarcerated today because of an absentee father. Too many baby mamas do not really know the agony and pain they are initiating into their lives and that of their children whose worlds have been marred even before reaching the age of accountability.
This then becomes a point of cogitation as you begin to realize that it’s not all about you, but about your progeny which lies in your bosom. That your actions and inactions do not end with you, but their consequences can affect and alter the lives of the generations that are locked in your loins.
My discourse this morning was prompted by my meditation on a verse that jumped at me as I read my Bible.
“So Saul died, and his three sons, and his armourbearer, and all his men, that same day together.” (1Sa 31:6, KJV)
It was Saul that messed up and disobeyed God. But here are the lists of those who died with him.
1. His three sons. 2. His armourbearer 3. All his men
Isn’t it sobering? They all died with him the same day and together.
So then, you slept with a guy or a lady? So you did something wrong? It’s not ending there. You live your life carelessly the way you want it?
After all, “It’s my life!”
Well, it’s not your life. It goes beyond you. Your actions will affect generations. Think about today alone. How many decisions have you made that has affected others?
Are you taking conscious steps to change, and make adjustments?
This then leads to a logical and revelatory conclusion. You must live responsibly and in fear towards God, in the realization that you will one day stand before Him to give account.
Good morning!
CONFESSION FOR TODAY I choose to live responsibly
PRAYER FOR TODAY Ask for grace to do it right
THOUGHT FOR TODAY 1 Sam 31:6 (CEV) Saul was dead, his three sons were dead, and the soldier who carried his weapons was dead. They and all his soldiers died on that same day.
ACTION PLAN FOR TODAY Live responsibly, for your actions are beyond you
Yes, you can believe God for a spouse! How do you that? By following the leading of God. God wants to lead, in all reality.
God will not choose for you but He has the best choice for you if you ask Him. There is God’s perfect will and there is God’s permissive will.
Your goal is to locate God’s perfect will for you concerning marriage. There is a beautiful assurance and confidence that stays with you when you know you are in God’s plan.
When the storms of life come, and marital wind begins to blow, you will not be assuming it’s because of being out of God’s will, rather you will have the strength and the wherewithal to overcome the storms.
So in a pragmatic sense, how do you believe God for a spouse?
There must be a promise from God’s word which is discovered and revealed in your heart concerning what you are believing God for.
Then you take this promise and think on it, and then think, and think and keep thinking. That is what is referred to as meditation.
When this word has been sown as a seed in your heart, it takes root.
Well, you need to water any seed that will grow.
So you do that by confessing what you believe. The moisture from your mouth is needed to water your seed. It is easy if you have really thought and meditated on it, because out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.
In no time, that seed grows and brings forth fruit. That fruit is the manifestation of that which you are believing God for.
It works every time. The word is the seed!
My question, is what scripture are you standing on?
Drop it in the comment section if you have a promise you are standing on now.
Good morning.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I believe. I receive!
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, show me what I need to know
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Jer 15:16 (NKJV)Your words were found, and I ate them, And Your word was to me the joy and rejoicing of my heart; For I am called by Your name, O Lord God of hosts.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Write out the word you are standing on
There are habits that are stubborn, resilient almost bothering on strongholds, that hold you by the jugular, breathing down on your neck, suffocating God’s blessings, and ruining the operations of God’s favour
These habits can be killing. You have read about it, you have heard sermons about it, you have prayed and fasted about it, yet this weakness or habit stands tall, cocky, and refusing to move an inch.
What do you do?
Samson found himself in this kind of addictive trap. He knew Delilah was from the enemy. He knew Delilah wanted to kill him. Yet, he played along and cooperated till he lost his life.
Samson that all of Philistines were scared of! Samson that used the jawbone of an ass to kill a thousand men! Samson that killed a lion with his bare hand!
How did Samson get to this point?
He cooperated with the enemy of his soul. He ignored that which clutched to his very soul. He underestimated the power of the enemy because of his past victories.
Samson knew Delilah was after his life, yet he could not disconnect from her. He knew Delilah wanted to kill him, yet he clung to her and would not let go. In the end, his eyes were gouged out and he had to ask for his own death.
How many things are we doing now that it looks as though we are cooperating with the enemy?
I am here to tell you by the power of the Holy Spirit, to let go of what doesn’t want to let you go!
That something is holding unto you will not be an excuse for holding on to that thing!
Let go.
It could be a boyfriend, a girlfriend, an affair, a habit, an addiction, a deception, or some lifestyle or any other works of the flesh… whatever it is, Let Go!
Then you can let God.
Good morning!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I receive grace to let go and let God.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me the grace to let go.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Isa 43:18(CEV)Forget what happened long ago! Don’t think about the past.
There are many tell-tale signs that will usually show that a lady doesn’t love you and will not likely marry you. Below I have listed some of them. If you find up to five of any of these in your lover, it’s time to sit down and talk and seek counsel.
1. She will take from you and not give; there will be no mutual giving of a gift 2. She will not introduce you to her Pastor. 3. She will easily snap at you, shut you down, and even scream at you as occasion demands. 4. She will not pray about you or about the relationship. 5. She is comfortable not speaking with you for many days. 6. She shows her preferences for other guys and endlessly compares you to other guys. 7. She is only momentarily happy with you when you buy her stuff 8. She allows you to do all the pursuing without making any efforts to reciprocate 9. She embarrasses you in the presence of her friends 10. She lets you know that she is managing you and that you are not her type. 11. There will be disregard and disrespect 12. If a lady is not interested in you, it will show in her value system towards you. 13. It will manifest in disregard for your person and principles. 14. It will show in her utter disrespect for you. 15. She will deliberately ignore your preferences. 16. She will despise your wisdom and won’t care a hoot about what happens. 17. She will see your missed calls and will not make an effort to call back. 18. She will annoyingly ignore your calls and not pick them. 19. She will not introduce you to her friends or parents. 20. She will show that she is not proud of you and all you represent.
The above are signs that she is disenfranchised from you and only holding on because of some favor she is getting from you or using you as an emotional fill-in-the-gap.
I pray that God will grant you more understanding and give you divine direction as to know the right decisions to take in your relationships.
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CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not oblivious to the tell-tale signs. My eyes are open.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God will deliver you from the person that will not marry you.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Cor 13:5 (AMP)It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong].
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Review your relationship based on the above and be sure the person will marry you.
I still remember my wedding day. It was twenty-two years ago, in the city under the rock! The service was long, and the sermon was boring.
I can tell you what happens in a long service on a wedding day! The couples have left in their mind, and a major part of the crowd have left in reality, on their way to reception to wait for the main item of the day. A lot of people are not as concerned about the marriage as they are concerned about not missing the wedding “Jollof” rice!
By the time the church folks are getting to the reception venue, another set of crowds are already waiting! Those ones don’t attend church service. They are not interested in the church’s blessing.
This is why the family of couples usually gets bouncers!
The bouncers would keep unwanted visitors away! The bouncers are usually hefty-looking guys, muscular and well built to send fear to intruders!
In the same vein, God has given you bouncers to keep you from falling in love with intruders!
And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
Php 4:7 (KJV)
This bouncer is called the peace of God. Look at what it says; shall keep your hearts!
You don’t want your heart broken? This peace is the bouncer! You don’t want your heart violated and you end up being cheated? The peace of God is the bouncer!
Now take a look at the Amplified version.
And God’s peace [shall be yours, that tranquil state of a soul assured of its salvation through Christ, and so fearing nothing from God and being content with its earthly lot of whatever sort that is, that peace] which transcends all understanding SHALL GARRISON AND MOUNT GUARD over your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.
Php 4:7 (AMPC)
Garrison Mount guard.
This peace is like an army barrack keeping you secured from marital bandits and kidnappers! This peace wades off attacks like divorce, adultery, strife, and so on!
How do you find this peace? It comes when God has spoken. It is absent when you are about to make a mistake. Follow this peace. Follow this bouncer and you will avoid a lot of mistakes in your marital endeavor!
Be blessed this morning, as always!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I follow the peace of God.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, lead me by your peace.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Phil 4:7 (TLB)If you do this, you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will keep your thoughts and your hearts quiet and at rest as you trust in Christ Jesus.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Do you have peace about that decision?
As they walked down the aisle, Kunle holding his bride, and their faces punctuated with laughter and sheer joy. Betty and Kunle are finally getting married and both of them were so happy.
They had looked forward to this day. Preparations were in top gear as they pumped millions into ensuring the day was glorious. They left no stone unturned, and both of them even borrowed some money for the D-Day. The day was colourful, and people went home belly-full. Everybody eat to their satisfaction as they hired the best caterer in town.
By the time they arrived at the honeymoon venue, they were both exhausted. And now, a new chapter of their life begins.
That day was super and that was it. The wedding was over and marriage began. Reality sets in. Few weeks after the wedding, the pressures showed up in their numbers and with the pressures are different scenarios.
My point this morning? We all put in a lot of preparation and resources into one day often at the detriment of the real thing. We spend millions on feeding guests while we cannot spend a couple of thousands required to take a good marriage counseling.
Here are a few things to note
1. Do not overstretch yourself because of a one-day event. It is foolishness to borrow and feed people while you spend the next six months in debt and are unable to feed yourselves properly.
2. Work more at the comfort of your spouse after the wedding. Some couples will sit on some golden beautiful settee on their wedding days and then arrange plastic chairs in the living room afterward. Who are we really trying to impress?
3. You and your intended spouse should draw a budget and work within the budget. Agree on how you want the day to look and prioritize your home after the wedding
4. Lastly, do not allow folk in the family to draw you into unnecessary spending. Be wise. Be circumspect.
I pray God to grant you more understanding
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am wise and circumspect.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for divine wisdom to plan your wedding
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Matt 19:16 (AMP) So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
There are a few things every lady wants from her man. I will attempt to write about a few of them this morning.
Every lady wants a romantic playmate
A lady loves a guy who makes her laugh and who has endless romantic ideas. It’s cool to be a serious person, but you can’t be serious all the time! It’s not even good for your health! In an already tense environment, you must devise ways to keep her calm and laughing. She looks forward to a man that can help her unwind without compromising.
Every lady wants a spiritual guy It goes without saying that every lady wants a prayerful man, who can be a spiritual covering! They need someone who is romantic and who can also explain the book of Romans!
They want some who can spend, but who is also spent for God!
Every lady wants a guide She wants someone who can advice, not one that will adversely crush her spirit. She wants someone who can point the way, who will provide navigation for the family eventually. You see, the eyes are located in the head, and since the man is the head, he is supposed to provide the compass for the family.
4. Every lady wants a truthful man Every lady is looking for a man of integrity. Men who will say something and stand by it. Our generation is filled with too many insincere people! O Lord, give me a spouse that will be truthful.
Most men will proclaim every one his own goodness: but a faithful man who can find?
Pro 20:6 (KJV)
Truthfulness is a legacy to leave for the children, and the children will eventually gravitate towards what they can see in their father.
Never cope with an impulsive and unrepentant lair. If you marry such, you might have to endure it for a lifetime. Whoever refuses to change now is not planning to change anytime soon.
5. Every lady wants a man who will allow them to be who they are. Nobody wants to be caged! She wants a man that will not be insecure as to limit her greatness. She wants a man that will give her wings to fly and help her fulfill all God has called her to do.
6. Every lady wants a man who is loaded in the pocket Ladies want to be comfortable and they want a man who can take care of them. Nobody wants to get involved with a liability! Every man should work! You may be out of job, but never be out of work. No lady wants to afflict her life with a perpetually lazy man! Get working!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I know how to show love to my partner.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to speak lovingly to my partner
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Most men will proclaim everyone his own goodness: but a faithful man who can find? Pro 20:6 KJV
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Show love to your spouse today
This is Part 2. I started writing on this topic yesterday. This morning, I will conclude. If you missed the first part, you can read it HERE
6. Don’t hold your lover in unforgiving mode. I learnt from my dad how to forgive quickly. He doesn’t know how to get bitter, and that has prolonged his life. You need that attitude in your relationship or marriage. You have to learn to lovingly overlook mistakes and errors and not be unnecessarily judgmental.
7. Do not feed your weaknesses Your strength is to provide needed balance in your marriage so that your strength will cover for her weaknesses and vice versa. Deliberately avoid feeding each other’s weaknesses. That way, you will grow faster.
8. Do not correct to hurt or in anger. Let affirmations be the landing place for your corrections. Learn how to correct in love!
O LORD, correct me, but with judgment; not in thine anger, lest thou bring me to nothing.
Jer 10:24 (KJV)
This is how God corrects and this is what we need to imbibe as well.
9. Do not lead your lover into sin You are the greatest influence on your lover. Most of the time, he or she will do what you want or what you approve of. Do not lead each other or encourage each other into iniquity. Be circumspect.
10. Do not ignore the wisdom of mentors and superiors. God will usually surround you with mentors and pastors that can help you out in your marital journey. Ignoring them could be at your peril. The wisdom you will need in navigating the path of a successful courtship and eventually marriage is usually domiciled in your mentors around you.
Counsel in the heart of man is like deep water; but a man of understanding will draw it out.
Pro 20:5 (KJV)
Good morning.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I know the things to do to make my lover feel loved
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me the things I need to know.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Cor 13:4 (AMP) Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Go through the devotional again and make plans.
Most times, we need to be reminded not just what to do, but what not to do in a relationship that will lead to marriage. God is clear in His word regarding the Don’ts. It is your ability to stay within the parameters of God’s word that will guarantee a great relationship that will lead to a wedding. Here are those things you need to pay attention to.
1. Do not stop praying for each other Hear this again and again, in addition to working on your relationship, you are going to need a lot of prayers. You are going to need that spiritual energy to sustain the relationship. The devil doesn’t want you to get married! He is going to do everything possible to throw tantrums and bring confusion into the relationship. When you pray constantly, you will not enter into his temptation and traps!
2. Do not ignore each other Stay in touch through calls and chats. If there is someone not to ignore, it’s your loved one! Ignoring each other will open the door for the devil to feed your souls with assumptions; and assumptions are the lowest forms of knowledge.
3. Do not stop buying gifts for each other. Gifts should not be one sided. There is nowhere in the scripture where it says it is the destiny of guys to buy gifts while the ladies collect. It should be mutual. You will always be creative with giving gifts to the one you really love.
4. Do not stop sharing spiritual truths. Talk to each other from time to time about your dealings with God. Whatever God is sharing with you in your personal closet, share the same with your spouse. This will enable you to be on the same page. In the coming days when you forget, your spouse is the one that will remind you.
5. Do not discourage each other Don’t wear each other out with criticism and discouraging words. Do not disparage each other. Rather, invest in each other’s esteem and build yourselves up in God. Say good words and prophesy unto yourselves! It works!
I will stop here today and continue tomorrow.
Have a blessed day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I know the things to do to make my lover feel loved
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me the things I need to know.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Cor 13:4 (AMP)Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Go through the devotional again and make plans.
There are several beliefs that are so popular and yet very wrong. They are as wrong as they are popular. Believing them is to the detriment of that believer.
This morning, I want to delve into some of them so you can roll them up as they come and throw them in the trash can.
Incidentally, some of them will be fed to us by precious family and friends around us. That is to the extent they know. And that is why we often believe them. However, you need to note, that irrespective of the source of an information, once it is in contradiction to the scriptures, simply throw them away.
Here is one of those beliefs;
Marriage is unnecessary in the real sense, I can just be a baby mama, have a few children and I will be okay.
Well there is nothing okay about the above scenario. It is in total contradiction to the institution of marriage that God Himself established.
Sleeping with a man because he is a celebrity or he has some money is a total departure to the principles and injunctions of the Lord as we know it.
Marriage is necessary. It helps you to contain sexual sins to a large extent.
Certainly—but only within a certain context. It’s good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder.
1Co 7:2 (MSG)
Marriage is designed to contain sexual sins. Avoiding marriage while wanting to have children will sentence a person to a lifetime of adultery.
This is why a baby mama can often have children for more than one man. What can be more debilitating than that?
I will stop here this morning. See you tomorrow and have a blessed day.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am decided for Jesus. I do things right.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the spirit of patience even as you keep on believing.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Cor 7:2 (GNT) But because there is so much immorality, every man should have his own wife, and every woman should have her own husband.
Betty gave her all to that relationship. It was the very first time she would fall in love and it meant a lot to her. She saw nothing other than a glorious wedding, a blissful marriage, and wonderful children ahead. She fantasized herself being with Bode, loving each other as married couples.
She nearly failed her exam at a time because she was in love. The love was like drugs to her. She thought about nothing other than Bode. Her friends told her to slow down but she told them they were jealous and it was because theirs weren’t working.
As time progressed, quarrels reared their heads. The love story began to develop unwanted twists that nearly ended the story abruptly. But she hung on.
The straw that broke the camel’s back was when Betty discovered that Bode was cheating on her with three different ladies, one of them being her best friend.
Her heart was shattered, scattered, and battered.
“All men are scum!” She said.
She went from anger into hurt and then bitterness. From there she entered acute feminism and she was beginning to sing that “marriage is not for me”
Have you ever find yourself in this kind of scenario? I have a word of the Lord for you this morning.
Even though you are hurting and bitter, God will heal your soul! Yes, He promised that!
HE RESTORETH MY SOUL: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name’s sake. Psa 23:3 (KJV)
He would not just heal your soul which is battered, He will restore it and reset it! Then He will now lead you into His God’s ordained plan for you maritally.
So when you are hurting, don’t stay in that hurt, go to God and let God do only what God can do.
I pray for you, healing and restoration will come to your soul in Jesus Name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My soul is restored in God.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for your emotional healing
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ps 23:3 (AMP) He refreshes and restores my life (my self); He leads me in the paths of righteousness [uprightness and right standing with Him — not for my earning it, but] for His name’s sake.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Take your hurting heart to God
Betty has been praying to God for the right man for a few years. Her expectation of her prayers being answered had driven her into some relationships that never worked out. You know how you had prayed and then the next person that showed up seemed like the right person, only for the person to heavily disappoint. Betty wasn’t happy at all. On some days, she would wake up with depression. At other times, she would think something was wrong with her.
What could be wrong with Betty?
There are those seasons in life that it looked like prayers are not working. At such times, it looked like prayers are bouncing off the ceiling back at you. At such other times, it might look like God has gone on holiday to the Bahamas.
It looked like your prayers to settle down in a marital relationship is being ignored. You were serving God in all ways you could and yet others who were not “serious” with God seemed to get their suitors and settle down quickly.
What exactly is happening?
Does God really forget someone? And if He does, should it be me?
Let’s take a look at the scriptures:
But Zion said, The LORD hath forsaken me, and my Lord hath forgotten me. Can a woman forget her sucking child, that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb? yea, they may forget, yet will I not forget thee.
Isa 49:14-15 (KJV)
The truth is clear here. God will never forget you. He has you in mind. It may look late, but it will eventually be the latest.
It may look like it’s taking long, but God will cause all thing to work out together for you. Keep trusting, keep believing and rest in the assurance that He has not forgotten you!
Good morning!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not forgotten. My prayers are answered.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, comfort me and make me stronger
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Isa 49:15 (MSG) “Can a mother forget the infant at her breast, walk away from the baby she bore? But even if mothers forget, I’d never forget you — never.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Refuse to be bitter or angry.
Yeah! Nobody is perfect! We are all projects in the making in the hands of the Lord. We are all still growing and getting better by the day.
We also often bring with us old practices before we got born again and we still indulge in some of these things even though the Bible says we are to put off the old man.
Even the best of saints will still make mistakes occasionally. And there is provision for this by God in the scriptures.
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
1Jn 1:9 (KJV)
However, there is a clear difference between making a mistake and having a character defect.
There is also a difference between having a character defect and working on it, and having a HABITUAL character defect that one is not willing to work on.
The former is actively working on it and seeking all help, while the latter is just frolicking in the pool of iniquity because it’s already a habit.
Old habits die hard, they say. The person has to be committed to changing and turning a new leaf. If you are in love with someone who is unwilling to make changes as regards character, then you really need to be extremely careful.
If he or she keeps telling you and promising you that change will come after wedding, that promise might as well be an empty one. There must be genuine repentance and the willingness to change.
However, before there can be a change, there has to be truthfulness and honesty as regard what needs to change. In denial, change is impossible because you cannot change what is deemed as inexistent.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will work on my character before marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God helps you to work on your weaknesses.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 John 1:8-9 (MSG) If we claim that we’re free of sin, we’re only fooling ourselves. A claim like that is errant nonsense. On the other hand, if we admit our sins — make a clean breast of them — he won’t let us down; he’ll be true to himself. He’ll forgive our sins and purge us of all wrongdoing.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY List your strengths and weaknesses.
Back then, as a young man in the university, I had just fallen in love. It all looked so unique because that would be my first and incidentally, the last. I remember how I was giggling all over the place, because I was in love.
Next thing I felt like doing and which I did was to introduce her to all loved ones, friends, family and all who matter to me. It was just a natural course of action.
If you are in a relationship and your partner is reluctant to introduce you to family, then something might not be at par.
“Oh’ let’s keep it between ourselves for now.” “I don’t want anybody to know about us now.” “Give me some time, I am not ready to let my family know anything now.” “I will take you home when we are close to wedding. For now, let’s keep it low.”
While some of these statements might be genuine, a lot of them are symptomatic of non-commitment in the relationship.
You see, falling in love is not supposed to be like joining a secret cult. I believe it’s a joyful thing and whenever anything joyful happens, you want people who matter in your life to know about it.
The moment things are hidden and coded and you are just been shielded from family despite repeated promises of wedding, care need to be taken.
It is even more intense if your relationship is hidden from your pastors! The person who is hiding usually have issues with accountability or has ulterior motive and is not ready to really be committed.
The person knows telling more people will make it difficult to pull the carpet off when it is time to take off.
So, when he or she is getting secretive, you might need further counseling to get to the root of it.
Have a great day.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to do it right and not secretly.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to make the right choice.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Cor 14:40(NKJV)Let all things be done decently and in order.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be careful of any lover who wants to love you secretly.
Our world is filled with all kinds of vices and hardened men who give in to them. There are men and women that pain means nothing to, so they gladly dispense it from their armory of sadistic tendencies that will cause the ears to tingle.
These men litter our prisons, correctional homes, and slums where drug culture is the groove and all manner of crimes are birthed and carried out.
It is easy to blame them and label them as heartless, however at the root of all these vices and evil is the art of deception.
Sitting on the slimy throne of deception is the devil himself, dishing out deception endlessly, for there is nothing about him except lies and deception.
The adulterer was deceived. The armed robber was deceived. The prostitute was deceived. The cheat was deceived. The crook was deceived. The rapist and the raped were deceived.
Refusal to turn a new leaf when confronted and challenged is also strengthened by deception. And note, it is one thing to be deceived, it is another thing entirely to be self-deceived; that is, a person deceives himself.
Well. It doesn’t matter, so they say. Do I tell you something? It doesn’t matter plus it doesn’t matter equals IT MATTERS!
Eve was deceived! Abraham was deceived when he took Hagar! David was severally deceived! Solomon was deceived by strange women despite all his wisdom. And so were many others.
Today, the devil has not changed his tactics, to deceive you, to cause you to believe a lie. He tells you sleeping around means nothing! Everybody is doing it. When you fall for his deception, you unlock a series of regrettable events. That will not be your portion!
There is only one way to deal with deception. Get into God’s word. Bury yourself in it. Read it. Study it. Meditate on it and you will see that only truth sets free, deception and lies binds!
Good morning!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be deceived. I will not compromise.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, deliver me from self-deception and compromise.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Gal 6:7 (NKJV) Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap.
Sade has been abused since she was young. Almost everybody who met her wanted to abuse her. From her cousins to her Uncles, and then to the gateman. From fellow schoolmates to friends and neighbors, it has been the same story. It is as though she has a magnetic entity in her body that draws people filled with lust.
She got born again and the story did not change. She is completely frustrated and did not what to do. At the root of it all, she discovered she has grown to a point where she actually entertained herself with abusive thoughts. She looked forward to being abused unconsciously and she would often position herself in such scenarios by following guys she barely know to their homes for sex romps
She is completely frustrated. She has prayed, read her Bible, and fasted, yet the problem persisted.
Well, the main issue about Sade’s problem is that she has an addiction; and it is called sex addiction. She thought she was just being an emotional person. But she is wrong.
It is even possible she has not yet slept with anybody, aside from all the touch and kisses, and yet be sex addicted. This is because not all sex addicts need to have sex to feed their addiction, they only need to fantasize.
Such people can have sexual pleasure by just viewing pornography, by thinking about a certain person that has been tattooed into their brain, by a certain object or image they have photographed into their brain.
The brain has then attached sexual pleasure to these persons, objects, or fantasies such that all they need is a thought away. And of course, because this is dominant in the brain, anytime an opportunity presents itself to express these carnal thoughts, they simply give in. This is why such people often say they cannot say No.
Such people will certainly need a form of therapy in addition to the renewal of mind exercises that is persistent to become free. I will write more on this in the ensuing days.
If you find yourself in such a scenario and you believe you need help, you can send me a mail at khcpartners@gmail.com or send a WhatsApp message via +234 802 350 7395 for private premium therapy that can be of help.
Have a great day.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am free from all forms of emotional addictions.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, deliver me from all forms of emotional addictions.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Rom 12:1-2 (NKJV)I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. 2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.
You don’t need a diviner or a herbalist of a soothsayer to know the man that is just playing you and will not marry you. All the tell-tale signs are loud and visible. The actions and inactions, the disenfranchisement and the distance, the unaccountability and the subtle rebellion are all the signs that should not be ignored in any way.
Here is an indication that He will not marry you.
Little or No Communication
The guy who will not marry you is likely to starve your of communication. If there are two love birds, one way you will know them is that they are into themselves and they talk a lot. They will stay in touch through WhatsApp, Facebook, and other social media. There will likely be more than one call in a day.
The person you love and who really loves you wants to talk to you all the time. I guess it’s just simply natural. The moment he starts forming busy, and he is unwilling to pick your calls, then you should know something is deeply wrong there.
He has been outside the country for some months and there has not been communication. Well, you can simply assume the relationship is over. Communication is the oil that runs the engine of a love affair.
On the other hand, when the communication is little and toxic all the time, it’s a tell tale sign as well that something is not right.
He hardly calls and when he calls, it’s to weigh you down, maim and lacerate, leaving deep gaping wounds in the soul. It’s a sure sign that the love affair is sick.
Pro 12:18 (MSG) Rash language cuts and maims, but there is healing in the words of the wise.
Do not forcefully hold to an abusive relationship because it only ends with stories that touch the heart!
Have a blessed day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I do not give place to the devil.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask that God opens your eyes to see what you cannot see.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Gen 11:6 (HCSB)The LORD said, “If they have begun to do this as one people all having the same language, then nothing they plan to do will be impossible for them.
There is hardly any strong person. We only have helped people. My discourse with you this morning is a prophetic declaration that you will be marvelously helped in your relationship in Jesus name.
Oratory power is cool. Intellectual prowess is admired but is not always a magic wand when it comes to the problems of life. There are issues that defy the best of the intellectuals. There are puzzles and enigmas of life that are beyond the parameters of cognitive abilities.
At the end of the day, ensure you are helped of God. Your innate abilities, your gifting, your intelligence then begin to make meaning when God helps you indeed.
This morning, I prophesy into your relationship, you are helped of God in Jesus name!
And he made in Jerusalem engines, invented by cunning men, to be on the towers and upon the bulwarks, to shoot arrows and great stones withal. And his name spread far abroad; for he was marvellously helped, till he was strong.
2Ch 26:15 (KJV)
The guy above is sharp and intelligent. He is creative and productive. He had inventors working for him. But the last phrase amazes me. He was marvelously helped till HE WAS STRONG!
So, with all his achievements and productive energy for inventions, he was weak. He only became strong when he was marvelously helped.
May God help you by sending the right people your way. May you have your engines located on the towers and upon the bulwarks, to shoot arrows and great stones that will devastate every marital enemy in Jesus name.
See the Message Translation:
He also installed the latest in military technology on the towers and corners of Jerusalem for shooting arrows and hurling stones. He became well known for all this—a famous king. Everything seemed to go his way.
2Ch 26:15 (MSG)
Everything will go your way and work together for your good in Jesus name!
Have a great day.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am marvelously helped of God.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Pray for the help of God
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 2 Chron 26:15 (ERV)In Jerusalem, Uzziah made machines that were invented by clever men. These machines were put on the towers and corner walls. They shot arrows and large rocks. Uzziah became famous. People knew his name in far away places. He had much help and became a powerful king.
A perpetually irritating friend or ally is always somewhat a nuisance. There are some naughty relationships like that. They just keep provoking you and testing your patience till you want out. After you have been grieved severally and you are brought into a place where it looks like there will be no change, you probably want to quit.
If this is done to you, you sure don’t want to stay too long among such people. There is a way you naturally move away from where you are being afflicted to where you will be celebrated. Nobody wants his or her head beaten all the time and that without cause. You, being on the receiving end, are not usually having a pleasant time.
What if I say that is what we often do to God? Take a look at this scripture:
How oft did they provoke him in the wilderness, and grieve him in the desert! Yea, they turned back and tempted God, and limited the Holy One of Israel. They remembered not his hand, nor the day when he delivered them from the enemy.
Psa 78:40-42 (KJV)
Provoking God with acts of compromise in your relationship, grieving Him with repeated wrong acts in a deliberate fashion translates to turning back and tempting God, thereby limiting Him.
His desire is to bless and increase us. His desire is that the marriage institution He established becomes a reality in our lives. God is never the one bringing delay into your life, it is we that often keep tempting and limiting the Holy One of God.
The Message Translation puts it this way:
How often in the desert they had spurned him, tried his patience in those wilderness years. Time and again they pushed him to the limit, provoked Israel’s Holy God. How quickly they forgot what he’d done, forgot their day of rescue from the enemy,
Psa 78:40-42 (MSG)
My advice this morning: Quit limiting God to do what He wants to do through your disobedience and repeated errors. Stop pushing Him to the limit with habitual sinful tendencies.
Allow Him to be God in your life.
May God grant you more understanding!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not provoke God to anger. I will not limit God
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God shows you areas where you have been limiting him.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ps 78:41 (ERV)Again and again they tested his patience. They really hurt the Holy One of Israel.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Stop limiting God through disobedience
Words are powerful. It is interesting to know that our world is created by our words. Your micro world as well, guess what, was fashioned by your words.
Words are so powerful that what you say eventually overwhelms you and give direction to your life.
It is in the regard that the scripture says:
“Take this most seriously: A yes on earth is yes in heaven; a no on earth is no in heaven. What you say to one another is eternal. I mean this.
Mat 18:18 (MSG)
Words are so powerful that even the heavenlies respond to your words and statements.
Angels, as powerful as they are, the scripture declares that they listen and act on the WORDS of God in your mouth.
If you keep saying life is tough, guess what will happen to you. If you keep saying marriage is tough, guess what you are building with words. If you keep saying all men are scum, guess what the experience will be.
Your life simply gravitates in the direction of that which you speak.
In your relationship therefore, you want to be careful and deliberate about what you say to your lover, especially when you are angry or livid.
You want to abstain from such statements as below:
1. Our relationship is over 2. I know you cannot change 3. You are frustrating my life 4. You are such a negative force in my life 5. Since we met, it has been one problem or the other and I know that is what it will be forever 6. One day, I know our relationship will be over 7. I know this is never going to lead to marriage 8. I regret the day I met you 9. There is bad luck hovering around you 10. There is a curse following you and it is affecting me
Avoid any statement that looks like the above. As you begin to train your mouth, your life will come into alignment with God.
Have a great day.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My words are seasoned with salt
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to speak the right words
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Colossians 4:6 (NLT): “Let your conversation be gracious and attractive so that you will have the right response for everyone.”
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Watch what you are saying to your lover
