How To Handle A Friend Who Gossips

Gossip
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Who is a Gossip?
Gossip describes a person who habitually reveals personal or sensational facts, rumors, or reports of an intimate nature that are none of his business.

Slander is spreading false information. This means one can be gossiping and slandering at the same time, and one can be gossiping and not slandering at the same time.

Being a gossip or having a friend as gossip is both dangerous unsafe. Either way, there should be a refrain from such actions.

The Bible says we should study to be quiet and mind our own business as we see below:

And that ye study to be quiet, and to do your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you;

1 Thessalonians 4:11 [KJV]

Here are three ways to handle a gossip or shut them down nicely.

1. Walk away
When you turn and walk away from a gossiper, you literally paralyze his ability to discuss things that are not his business to discuss. You see, in order for the words of a gossip to be successful, there must be two parties involved.

Without a listener, the gossiper’s voice is silenced. If there is no one to listen, there is nothing to tell!

Where no wood is, there the fire goeth out: so where there is no talebearer, the strife ceaseth.

Pro 26:20 (KJV)

When you run out of wood, the fire goes out; when the gossip ends, the quarrel dies down.

Pro 26:20 (MSG)

2. Shut them down nicely
If you are unable to walk away, shut them down nicely.
Say words like these:

“Excuse me, but should we be talking like this?”
“Excuse me, but I don’t believe it is right for us to talk like this, and I cannot be a part of this conversation.”
“Excuse me, but this conversation makes me uncomfortable; I don’t think I want to be a part of it.”

The gossip will know right away that you are not one of those refuse grounds to pour offenses and wounds.

3. Make a Decision
Make the decision today to refrain from gossiping. Refuse to even listen to it!

The next time someone comes and talks about things that are not his to decide or to discuss, confront that person about what he is doing.

If he chooses to continue gossiping, walk away from him and maintain your integrity before God and before those who are being discussed.

God bless you.

Have a great day!

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I refuse to be a gossip, a busy body, or encourage gossips.

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Ask for the grace to focus on your assignment rather than gossips.

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Prov 26:20 [MSG] When you run out of wood, the fire goes out; when the gossip ends, the quarrel dies down

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Stop all forms of gossips.

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Prov 26

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By Dunamis Okunowo

Facilitator at Kisses and Huggs Club. Pastor at Shouts of Grace Center, Ibadan. Pastor,  Father, Mentor, Writer, Husband.

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