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At every point in time, we will always need people around us. We need people to do certain things for us. No one was created to be an island. We were made to live and work with people.

Kings are surrounded by chiefs and elders. Governors are surrounded by advisers and special advisers. Some special advisers also have special advisers, who will critically look at situations and proffer solutions.

In the bible, we see a scene between two kings, which ought to have ended well, but for those around one of these Kings.

The king of the children of Ammon died and David, king of Israel, sent his servants to pay condolence to this son of the late king.

Naturally, this wouldn’t have been an issue, but for those surrounding the king.

But the chiefs of the children of Ammon said to Hanun their lord, Does it seem to you that David is honouring your father by sending comforters to you? has he not sent his servants to go through the town and make secret observation of it, and overcome it?

2 Sam 10:3 [BBE]‎

This goes to tell you that you can’t allow just anyone into your space. You can’t submit your destiny to just any random guy.

All through marriage, you will be making decisions, so you want to be careful who you align with because a wrong decision can affect you for the rest of your life.

A supposedly harmless condolence visit led to two bloody wars, loss of lives and properties.

Another scenario we see is in the life of King Ahasuerus. He gave an instruction that Queen Vashti should come out and entertain his guests. For reasons best known to her, the Queen refused.

Now Ahasuerus was a good man. He probably would have forgiven her, but for those surrounding him.

If it pleases the king, let a royal decree go out from him, and let it be recorded in the laws of the Persians and the Medes, so that it will not be altered, that Vashti shall come no more before King Ahasuerus; and let the king give her royal position to another who is better than she.

Est 1:19 [NKJV]

What is my point this morning?

Watch those who surround you. Watch those you allow into your personal space. Watch your association. They will influence you in the long run.

That is why the bible says light and darkness cannot walk hand in hand.

You cannot claim to be Christian and be moving freely with unbelievers.

You cannot claim to be a child of light and be surrounded by sons and daughters of baal. It doesn’t work that way.

To you, who need to make the right decision as regards who to settle with, receive illumination!

To you, who need to pull out of that wrong relationship, receive strength!


I will not end up with the wrong man/woman

Pray that God will lead and put you in the right association.

1 Cor 15:33[KJV] Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.

Watch your association

2 Sam 10


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