Apology is defined in the Oxford English Dictionary as a regretful acknowledgment of an offense or failure.
There has been instances where the husband does something that hurts the wife, a simple ‘am sorry’ would have resolved the matter, but the husband refuses to apologize because of his ego. In marriage, we cannot afford to have a blotted ego. We have to be humble. In humility, we serve each other and are to look out for each other.
Back to my analogy, the wife gets hurt over the fact that her husband offended her. She enters into the strife not talking to her husband for days. She too is claiming her right for the need to be apologized to.
Meanwhile, she should also apologize for being in strife.
Between the couple, it always takes two to tango. At every point, if we would just learn to swallow our pride and apologize, most issues will be solved.
The unending cycle of strife continues.
The devil is having a great time keeping couples from fulfilling their God ordained destiny and doing exploits.
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How should one chase a thousand, and two put ten thousand to flight, except their Rock had sold them, and the LORD had shut them up? – Deu 32:30
A times, we allow the devil cheat us because we allow our flesh and we refuse to apologize.
When we hurt each other and it is not intentional, we should still learn to apologize. It could be hard especially if we are not used to apologizing.
God bless us as we begin to apologize even for the small things we do to offend our spouse. Apologize out of love not a sense of duty or an obligation
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am humble and quick enough to apologize to my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me the spirit of humility and grace to apologize.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Deu 32:30How should one chase a thousand, and two put ten thousand to flight, except their Rock had sold them, and the LORD had shut them up?
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be the first to apologize to your spouse for the next 30 days.
There are people who don’t know about Jesus. They could be around you or not. Even if you can’t evangelize to them, you too can pray.
Pray that the Holy Spirit will help them to accept Christ into their lives. They could have heard about Christ and still be unwilling to accept Him. It’s only the Holy Spirit that can convince them of who Jesus is and make them yield to Him. Yes, only the Holy Spirit can do that; it is not in your power to do that.
Make prayer also, for those who have never heard of Christ before. Pray that they will have an encounter with someone who would tell them about Jesus. And that once they are spoken to, the Holy Spirit will convict them.
God loves it when we make prayer for people to know Christ because He wants everyone to enjoy the benefits of having Christ in their lives.
There is no doubt that God speaks to His people. For me, God spoke to me clearly while I was a student on the Campus as relating to relationships and marriage. God still speaks today. If you seek His face, He will speak to you!
He is a speaking God.
“Saith the Lord’ is found over eight hundred times in the scriptures.
Jesus constantly speaks to us.
And your ears will hear a word behind you, saying, This is the way; walk in it, when you turn to the right hand and when you turn to the left. – Isa 30:21 AMP
The Holy Spirit is a speaking Spirit.
And I know that his commandment is life everlasting: whatsoever I speak therefore, even as the Father said unto me, so I speak. – Joh 12:50 KJV
He desires to lead us. Here a few things to note.
1. God will not speak to you outside of His word.
2. To hear God more, read His word the more. His word in your Spirit, prepares your Spirit like a receptacle to hear God.
3. When you seek His face, you will hear Him speak to you.
4 Fasting and prayer often help to hear God more clearly.
As they ministered to the Lord, and fasted, the Holy Ghost said, Separate me Barnabas and Saul for the work whereunto I have called them. – Act 13:2 KJV
5. Relationship and marriage should not be the first issues that arise when you are trying to hear God. Try developing hearing Him in other areas as well.
6. God is particular even with the minutest details of your life, and when you learn to relate with the Holy Spirit like you will relate with a friend, He will always speak to you, like a friend will speak to you.
7 When God shows you a guy, clam down, don’t get suggestive, let him discover too. The lady is not the aggressor; she is the responder.
8. When God shows you a lady, it is just information because you are His child and fathers speak to their children. You are His friend. So He tells you of what is to come. Jesus said when the Holy Spirit comes, He will tell us of things to come.
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will hear God clearly about my life and marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for the spirit of discernment.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Isa 30:21[AMP] And your ears will hear a word behind you, saying, This is the way; walk in it, when you turn to the right hand and when you turn to the left.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY What did God say to you today? Write it down.
Giving Your Waking Moments To God In Your Marriage
There is something about the Morning. There is something about giving the first to God that makes the rest of the day blessed. God wants to be involved in our day. There’s no way He can be involved if you don’t intentionally invite Him.
You don’t wish God to intervene in your affairs, you pray Him to intervene. God does not just burst into our life, He must be invited.
You have not been configured to struggle through life all by yourself. This life is a wicked world. There are so many evils. The wickedness of the wicked is on the increase.
The concept of early morning has since been. Let’s see some examples
1.Abraham
And Abraham gat up early in the morning to the place where he stood before the LORD: – Gen 19:27
2.Joshua
So Joshua rose up early in the morning, and brought Israel by their tribes; and the tribe of Judah was taken: – Jos 7:16
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3.David
Awake up, my glory; awake, psaltery and harp: I myself will awake early. – Psa 57:8
When you give God the best and prioritize him, He releases His blessings. The help of God is what you need in life.
That marital issue, the health challenge, the lack of job, lack of profiting in your business endeavors, lack of favor, overwhelming bills or debt etcetera, will all be a thing of the past. As you lift up your voice to God early in the morning and provoke the morning, He will answer you.
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CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I give my waking moments to God
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for diligence and strength to build a vibrant prayer altar
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Gen 19:27And Abraham gat up early in the morning to the place where he stood before the LORD:
Yesterday, we talked a bit about your thoughts, and learnt that we should guard our thought pattern. Today, we will talk about your words and actions. Your WORDS receive the baton from your THOUGHTS. They continue the race but if your thoughts leave the racetrack, they make your words run the same way.
Your words do as they like also and continue to the race.
Your ACTIONS finish the race. Whatever way your actions pass the baton to them is how they will finish it. If the baton is received wrongly, the race will end in a disaster.
Disaster can only be averted if the race starts well with your THOUGHTS good and passing the same goodness to your WORDS who pass this same goodness, finally to your ACTIONS, who end it healthily.
The only way to have a healthy ending is if you know and remember what the word of God says about your thoughts, words, and action.
To obey God is a sign that you love Him. And God likes it when we obey Him. It makes Him bless us more and more.
Be careful about what you think. Your thoughts run your life. Prov. 4:23 ICB
May the Lord help you with your thoughts, words, and actions. Amen.
Prayer: Lord, help my thoughts, words and actions start and finish their relay well in my mind. Let me guard my thought well in Jesus’ name. Amen
Action point: Check your thoughts always, watch your words, don’t jump into acting instinctively. Pray about these three areas.
Declaration: My thoughts, words, and actions are guided by the word of God.
This is the concluding part of this series. I hope you have been following diligently. and you are taking note of what to do before love turns to shock.
So what do we do? Keep on sinning so God can keep on forgiving? [2] I should hope not! If we’ve left the country where sin is sovereign, how can we still live in our old house there? – Romans 6:1-2 (MSG)
The grace of God is to deliver you from sin, not to keep you safe in your sin!
9. Character Defects
When you see obvious character defects, don’t close your eyes to them especially when he or she says he will change later.
Marriage changes nobody. Anybody that tells you he or she will change later is deceiving you. What do you do when you see character defects? Seek help! Don’t keep quiet.
10. Take a Pause
If during courtship or after marriage, you suddenly discover you never knew who you were in the same boat with, here is what to do.
In courtship, take a pause on everything until you find a solution. For example, if the issue has to do with physical violence or physical abuse, don’t just keep quiet thinking that marriage will soften him.
Don’t walk down the aisle into that kind of marriage, or you might need to soon run up the aisle and out! If you are getting slaps in courtship, guess what will happen in marriage? In marriage, divorce is not the first option. Look for a Christian marriage counselor or marriage therapist for help.
11. Long-Distance Relationships
If you are in a distant relationship or some online dating, you need to know that you will not have a distant marriage and you will not live online.
The reality must dawn on you never to make life-involving decisions without knowing the person very well. It is wrong for you to fall in love with a stranger.
Something is not quite right with falling in love with an online profile or some voice-over-the-phone! Marriage is not a game! It is a covenant!
12. We are Projects
Finally, we are all projects in the making in the hands of God.
Nobody is perfect, but there are things that are unbecoming for a child of God. When you see some of these things, it is time to seek help, or if intense, run for your life!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be in shock!
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to trust you.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Romans 6:1-2 (MSG) So what do we do? Keep on sinning so God can keep on forgiving? [2] I should hope not! If we’ve left the country where sin is sovereign, how can we still live in our old house there?
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Pray for insight, to prevent any kind of shock.
There is no condition you are, that does not require a level of stress. One of the greatest things one is looking for in life is rest all around.
Life is most of the time full of complications. Overwhelming work schedules, hustle and bustle of life, bills to pay, in-laws to take care of, relationship to maintain, a spouse to look after, spirituality to pursue, the standard of living to raise, health condition to battle with, and the list goes on and on.
But now the LORD my God hath given me rest on every side, so that there is neither adversary nor evil occurrent. – 1Ki 5:4
Solomon had the testimony of experiencing rest all around, where the people of Israel were prosperous, where all their wars ceased, all their struggles became rest.
It is this state of rest, every man is looking for. It is this same peace or rest Jesus Christ, the Prince of Peace came to bring to us
Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. – Joh 14:27
How can we have access to the peace of Jesus?
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We have access by the Person of the Holy Spirit. It is the communion with the Holy Spirit that gives us rest all around.
There are troubles all around us, the peace He gives remains. We are joyful in the midst of life’s challenges and He helps us to eliminate those struggles and He gives us wisdom and strength to deal with them.
So if you are experiencing struggles and you don’t seem to be able to maintain balance in every aspect of your life, I want to introduce you to the person of the Holy Spirit.
It is developing a relationship with the Holy Spirit that puts an end to your struggles. Let your waking moments be given to God In worship. Cultivate a relationship with the Holy Spirit. Learn to spend time in the presence of God. Practice his presence and your day, week and life generally will be blessed.
You will experience the move of God the Holy Spirit in your marriage in Jesus name
God bless our marriage!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I have all-round peace in my marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that the Prince of Peace will dwell in your home
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. – Joh 14:27
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Say the prayer for the day
Learn to guard your thought pattern. Have you ever watched a relay race before? Four people in a team will have to complete a set amount of distance, each covering a distance before passing the baton to the other person.
This continues till the last person takes the baton and finishes the race. The last person holds all the chances of the team either winning or losing the race.
Now, imagine your THOUGHTS, WORDS, and ACTIONS as members of a relay team. Who do you think will start the race? Who will be in the middle and who will end the race?
Be careful about what you think. Your thoughts run your life. Prov. 4:23 ICB
Your THOUGHTS will definitely start the race because they are what inspires or fires up the rest. Their speed is an advantage to the team. They birth the whole process and come from deep within you.
If you don’t teach them to run within the lines of the racetrack, they will run the race as they like and hamper the chances of the team winning the race.
Tomorrow, I will talk about your words and actions.
Prayer: Lord, help my thoughts, words and actions start and finish their relay well in my mind, in Jesus’ name. Amen.
Action point: Check your thoughts always, watch your words, don’t jump into acting instinctively. Pray about these three areas.
Keeping our family together during the tough times, challenging times and good times is something we must all strive to do.
The earlier we start to do these things, the better for us. It is better to inculcate certain virtues into members of our families as standard and allow them grow with it as the family grows.
Challenges in life are inevitable but we can go through whatever comes our way easier, if we have a supportive and encouraging family.
He is like a man which built an house, and digged deep, and laid the foundation on a rock: and when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently upon that house, and could not shake it: for it was founded upon a rock. – Luk 6:48
Let’s build our marriage and family on the rock. Let your spouse and children be solidly built, so that when the storm comes, they will not crash.
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Let me share five of those things.
1. Read God’s word together
Form a good habit of reading scriptures as a family. The children will love it and it will not be a burden reading God’s word when they are older.
2. Pray together
A family that prays together stays together. Where there is unity, God’s blessings abound. Your family knows how to pray by praying.
3. Eat together
Eating together is so powerful. Even Jesus eat the Passover with his disciples and teaches us to take communion.
4. Say the truth to each other and be sincere
Be open and truthful to each other. Say it as it is.
5. Go to church together
Your church is not a social gathering, it is the place you are being fed spiritually. It also affords you the opportunity to pay your tithe for your heavens to be opened.
When you do all these, you are building wisely and securing the future of your family.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will build my house solidly
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help us to build according to pattern.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Luke 6:48 He is like a man which built an house, and digged deep, and laid the foundation on a rock: and when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently upon that house, and could not shake it: for it was founded upon a rock.
As a marriage counselor for some years, I can rightly say that it is true some people really love the Lord, but along the way, there is a turn around. This can be due to negative influence, change of environment, pressure that comes with marriage, choice of career and so on. Whatever it is, when you find yourself in this kind of scenario, you need to quickly find a marriage counselor to talk to.
7. Meeting In Church Guarantees Nothing
When you meet a new person in a church setting, beyond falling in love with some height or some hot legs, find out how involved he is in church. Is he or she a worker in that church? How long has he or she been in the church? Does the pastor know him or her personally? Is he filled with the Holy Spirit?
All these do not guarantee a successful or stress free marriage, however, they go a long way to establish some credibility and spirituality of the person involved. This is a better approach than meeting someone in church and on the same day, you are in his house! You must learn how to protect yourself!
8. Renewal of Mind Factor
You need to know that being born again can be genuine and yet the guy or lady is still involved in some sharp practices. When you are born again, your spirit is regenerated, but your mind is in the process of being renewed as you listen to God’s word.
This often takes time and is determined by how studious you are in the word and how much time you give to the study of God’s word. In the process of the mind being renewed, a lot of ‘sinful’ mistakes can happen. As long as they are not habitual, God will forgive and you will be okay. But when you do something habitually and unrepentantly, the conscience becomes seared and a religious spirit takes over.
Don’t get caught up with all the erroneous teachings flying over the place that grace will cover for your habitual sins. That you can continue sinning and grace will keep covering for you. That is an error from the pit of hell.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to trust you.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
Jesus is one important person you cannot help but study about. Studying about Jesus is important, and the bible talks about Him all through from the start to the end.
You could start from the prophecies about Him, His conception, birth, death, and resurrection. These are key aspects of His life that will definitely benefit and bless your life.
Study what He did, how He did it, where He did it and why He did it. It’s a wonderful thing to study about Jesus. His whole being and existence is the bedrock of salvation.
And as you study, ask Him to bless you with a revelation about Him. Amen.
Prayer: Lord Jesus, give me more revelation about you. Help me know you more. Amen.
Action point: Take yourtime to study about Christ.
Declaration: As I study, there is illumination on my path.
The issue above is one of the commonest statements of regret from the hundreds of people that I counsel.
“Pastor, he has changed…”
“Pastor, I never knew he was like this…”
“Pastor, before we got married, he was a leader in the fellowship, but now, he doesn’t go to church…”
“Pastor, during our courtship, he was so sweet, but now, he beats me up!
“Pastor, I never knew him because our courtship was a distant one…”
…And so on and so forth…
Well, what went wrong along the way?
Here are a few things to note.
1. There are pretenders out there.
There are people who will feign being in the faith just to get a ‘good’ girl that will not give them ‘problems’ in marriage. This is where Christian pre-marriage counseling comes in.
2. That you met somebody in church does not guarantee that he or she is a true child of God.
Anybody and everybody can attend church services for different purposes. Always seek counsel before you get involved with anybody.
3. Not everybody in the church setting is looking for God.
That is why phones and personal effects get missing in church. An angel didn’t steal them. They were stolen by people with whom you worship but with ulterior motives.
4. Let the leadership of the church be involved in your relationship and marriage.
There are some churches that have marriage guidance councils, these are not instituted to control you or spy into your private life but to guide you appropriately. Let your pastor be in the know. This is important because the pastor usually knows the committed ones and those who are insincere to an extent.
5. Learn all you can learn.
Get marriage tips and free Christian advice online. On KHC, for example, we offer free Christian advice for singles and married couples and you can get advice on marriage issues on our daily devotionals, and several other materials online. Don’t walk into a marriage ignorantly and so naïve that you fall for anything.
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to trust you.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
There are a thousand and one articles on what to do in marriage, and sometimes we are running to keep up.
At times, our roles as husband and wives are so complicated and sometimes we get confused and mix things up. We minor in the major and major on the minor.
I was also running this race to meet up and catch up with what I should be doing as a wife early in our marriage.
I discovered that every one of those articles had a core message. We could have 100 topics on marriage but the core message they are passing across is the same.
For example, we have articles that talk about dressing well for your husbands, how to cook, communicating well in such a way that shows true friendship, husbands treating your wife well, taking her out, remembering her birthday and buying her gifts, understanding each other’s temperament, and many more.
The Bible remains our marriage manual. Each of us should take his/her portion and run with it. We should pursue our role, not minding whether the other person takes up the challenge of his/her responsibility.
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I believe if husbands and wives can be committed to this, we will have fewer problems in our marriage.
Our manual as couples is in Eph 5:22- 26. Emphasis on verses 22 &23 for wives and for husbands verses 24-26
For wives, this means being supportive to your husbands like you are tenderly devoted to our Lord, for the husband provides leadership for the wife, just as Christ provides leadership for his church, as the Savior and Reviver of the body. In the same way the church is devoted to Christ, let the wives be devoted to their husbands in everything. And to the husbands, you are to demonstrate love for your wives with the same tender devotion that Christ demonstrated to us, his bride. For he died for us, sacrificing himself to make us holy and pure, cleansing us through the showering of the pure water of the Word of God. – Ephesians 5:22-26
In summary, wives should be supportive to their husbands and husbands are to demonstrate love to their wives with the same tender devotion that Christ demonstrated to us.
Now, every couple is to take this and fit it into their own marriage. Find creative ways you can show your support to your husbands as wives. Husbands, love your wives tenderly.
Meditate on these verses and begin to function in your roles. God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to go with the manual.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help us to follow the manual
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 5:22 For wives, this means being supportive to your husbands like you are tenderly devoted to our Lord.
What do you say to yourself? Are you speaking good? The words you speak to or about yourself are very strong and important.
Do you say negative things about yourself? Do you bring yourself down in front of others?
The use of negative words like ” I am just not good with counting”, “I don’t have good legs”, ” My face is too ugly”, is a sign of negative self-esteem.
The bible says we are wonderfully and fearfully made in God’s image. That means you are made in God’s image. Made in the image of the Creator of the whole earth.
Why would you think you are ugly? Who told you so? Magazines? Slay queens? Public opinion? The mirror? Who? You?
Rather than look at all these external forces telling you what you are not, look towards the One who created you and start to see how He sees you.
Start using excellent and beautiful words on yourself. Raise your esteem with the word of God and walk in the light of those words.
If life is all about seed, time, and harvest, then it means every time I tell a lie, get into falsehood, or I am insincere, I am sowing a seed. If the harvest will eventually come, the question is ‘what kind of harvest will come with those kinds of seed?
If I keep deceiving her while I have somebody else I really want to get married to, that would be a wrong seed to sow into my life.
If I start a secret relationship and try to hide from my spouse, and willfully continue in it, that would surely be a wrong seed!
The deal is very simple; if you don’t want the whirlwind, then don’t sow the wind!
For they have sown the wind, and they shall reap the whirlwind…(Hosea 8:7a KJV)
4. You will be able to deal with sins that thrive on secrecy
Do you know it takes secrecy to cheat on your spouse? Do you know it takes secrecy to double date? It goes without saying then, that if you can be sincere with your spouse to the last details, you will not be trapped!
If you know you cannot but tell your spouse everything that happened, then you are cautious about what you do because you still have to say everything.
The moment you can internalize it and hide it in marriage, you have just given the devil a foothold to operate!
Be sincere! When you are sincere, the power of iniquity will be broken!
Don’t give the Devil that kind of foothold in your life.
Iniquity is perpetuated in the atmosphere of secrecy. Make up your mind to hide nothing from your spouse, and you would have freed yourself from a lot of demonic strongholds without any deliverance sessions!
This does not necessarily mean having to dig into the past to bring out unnecessary issues that have been long forgotten and forgiven by God.
I am talking about present issues, daily happenstances, make up your mind to hide nothing, you will be amazed at how you have liberated yourself.
Your life of truthfulness or deception goes beyond you, it will be consequential upon your destiny, your lover, spouse, your children, and generation unborn.
This is because truthfulness or deception will inform your decisions and your decisions will inform how your life, that of your spouse, and your children turn out.
Decide today to be fruitful. It pays.
Amplified Bible sums it all.
The heart of her husband trusts in her confidently and relies on and believes in her securely, so that he has no lack of [ honest ] gain or need of [ dishonest ] spoil. – Proverbs 31:11 (AMP)
May God grant you more understanding!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will be a person of integrity.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to be a person of integrity
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Let integrity and uprightness protect me, for I wait [expectantly] for You. Psalms 25:21 KJV
We stated in our devotional yesterday that there are some things that would not just work. As far as we are called ‘wife’ and we want to fulfill our destiny as godly wives, we must stay away from doing such things.
Yes, I agree that some of these things are the normal reactions that women find easy to do. They flow naturally with being women. Naturally, a woman finds it easy to want to disrespect or give the silent treatment when she is not pleased with her husband.
Remember, God has not called us as wives to do what flows with us or comes to our flesh as a natural behavior, but to be spirit controlled and mortify the deeds of the flesh.
For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live – Rom 8:13
Yesterday we looked at two out of the five things not to do as a wife. They are
1. Disrespecting your husband
2. The silent treatment
Let’s conclude.
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3. Don’t Usurp Authority
Because women are multitasking, there is a natural tendency for them sometimes to want to fix everything. The mother hood instinct wants everything-to be in order. There is also a tendency in men to want to sit back and relax especially when the wife decides to step in and fix it all. The man is the head and the family should be run as a team work. Each person must have their roles to play and function in it. So as a wife, don’t usurp authority.
Let your husband remain the husband and you the wife. Stay at your duty post, don’t leave your duty and focus on the duties of your husband. If you do, you will end up being overwhelmed.
4. Don’t disobey your husband
This is very crucial. Your husband must be obeyed at every time. That is why every wife should be very prayerful. What prayer does is that it brings God to the affairs of your home to intervene. God has instituted it that the wife is protected in her obedience to her husband. As you pray and are ready to obey your husband, God will intervene in your affairs.
5. Don’t deny your husband Jeru trips
What jeru trip is to a woman is different from what it is to a man. Jeru trip is very necessary for men and guess what, you must be prepared for this task. It is the only task no woman can help you or assist you. Don’t reject him and don’t refuse him for no matter the reason.
So heed my advice now and do as occasions serve you.
God bless our marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will respect my husband publicly and privately.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to be a good man/woman to your spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. – Rom 8:28
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Show some respect to your spouse
The Holy Spirit works in us. Thirteen-year-old Funmi asked her mother for some money but her request wasn’t granted. When her mother went to the kitchen, Funmi quickly took money out of her mother’s purse.
She felt good knowing that she had money to spend with her friends at school. Her friends always had lots of money to spend at school and she didn’t want to be any different.
But she kept having a feeling. As much as she was happy, the feelings of happiness were slowly dwindling. What could it be, she wondered. Soon, she began to feel bad about taking the money.
A voice kept telling her it was wrong of her to have taken the money. It kept telling her she had stolen the money. But I didn’t steal the money, Funmi said to herself. It’s my mother’s money and she has lots of it.
Funmi was hearing the voice of the Holy Spirit. When you sin, the Holy Spirit convicts you of it. He speaks to your heart and tells you what you did wrong.
When the Holy Spirit speaks to you and can convict you to the point where you change your ways or confess your wrongdoings, you are stillborn in a safe zone. You still have a conscience.
Funmi didn’t spend the money at school that day or went with her friends to buy things. She felt bad about taking the money and knew what she had to do – tell her mother the truth, ask for her forgiveness, and never steal again in her life.
May the Holy Spirit give you a healthy conscience. Amen.
Prayer:
Sweet Spirit of God, thank you for the power to convict me of all sins. Please give me a heart that will listen and obey you in Jesus’ name. Amen.
Action point:
Has the Holy Spirit ever spoken to you about something wrong you did? How did you respond? Did you do what He said or not? Decide to always listen to and obey His instructions.
Declaration:
My conscience is not seared. I listen and obey the Holy Spirit.
Here are four reasons why you should strive to be truthful and be a person of integrity in your relationship and marriage.
1. That is the way God wants it
I strongly believe that God wants you to be a person who is truthful and sincere in all your dealings in life and with people.
Take a look at the scripture:
He that worketh deceit shall not dwell within my house: he that telleth lies shall not tarry in my sight. (Psalms 101:7 KJV)
Look at the way The Message translation puts that:
But no one who traffics in lies gets a job with me; I have no patience with liars…(Psalms 101:7 Message)
Getting the fullness of God’s blessings in your life, relationship and marriage requires that you strive to be a person who is sincere.
Now, this does not mean that once you make a mistake and tell some lies, you are down and out. Almost everybody has done that anyway.
What this is saying is that when you make such mistakes, you quickly recognize and realize it was a mistake, and you strive not to repeat such mistakes.
However, it is a different ball game when a person is a habitual and impulsive liar! I don’t think God likes that.
Basically, because God Himself is truth; and in Him is no lie. So, He would also want His children to be children of light, not of darkness.
2. Trust will be built in your relationship or marriage
When you are a person of integrity and your spouse knows, there will be trust in your relationship or marriage. It is all for your good.
When your spouse has been disappointed many times and had to find out a lot of lies and deception, trust will be ruptured.
When trust is destroyed in a relationship or marriage, what will be left will be suspicion and mistrust.
Even when there is nothing, he or she will be suspicious. With that, the power of agreement; which is the greatest advantage of a couple, will be tainted.
They eventually will slow themselves down! Be a person of integrity in that relationship or marriage! Integrity preserves!
Let integrity and uprightness preserve me; for I wait on thee. (Psalms 25:21 KJV)
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will be a person of integrity.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to be a person of integrity
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Let integrity and uprightness protect me, for I wait [expectantly] for You. Psalms 25:21 KJV
There are certain things that are just not advisable to do if you want to enjoy your marriage. No matter how good it is or seems to be, the laws of marriage are always against them. Whenever as a wife, you engage in such, you are playing foul and a red card will always follow. There are some things every husband detests, no matter how good he is or loving he is.
The male-female differences will just not make him understand. I want to share with us five of those things every wife must avoid.
1. Disrespecting your husband whether publicly or privately.
Respect is a big deal to men. In fact, the number one need of a man is respect. So every wife wants to stay clear of anything that looks like not respecting her husband. Watch out for every form of disrespecting your husband. Abusing, talking down on him, disobeying his instructions, ignoring him to attend to others, etc, you must avoid every form of disrespect in words, actions, or attitudes.
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2. That silent treatment must stop.
This is when the wife decides to keep to herself either by reason of being hurt or angry with the husband. The wife shows her displeasure by not talking to her husband or giving mono-syllabic answers. This will usually breed strife.
I once asked my husband how he sees silent treatment. Of cause, he said it makes him angry, confused and wants to retaliate. Wives should learn to desist from such acts.
We will continue from here tomorrow.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will respect my husband publicly and privately.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to be a good man/woman to your spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. – Rom 8:28
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Show some respect to your spouse
This year, learn how to journey with God. A new year comprises numbers that run from one to three hundred and sixty-five. It’s just numbers that help you make the most of your life and time.
Every new year starts from number one and runs all through to the end. That is an indication that what you didn’t or couldn’t achieve in the past year, there is another set of days, weeks, and months to do so.
Another beautiful thing about a new year is that it’s a clean slate for you to fill with decisions and habits. It is an empty book for you to use as much as you want.
The fact that there are numbers in a year is clearly helpful in measuring your progress. As you count from one to two to three and so on, you are measuring what you are doing and noticing the changes you see.
You can also break the numbers into months; another way of structuring your progress.
A new year is a promise of possibilities. Adding God to the equation makes it juicer because He has seen all the days in the year.
Only He can help you navigate through this new year.
Add God into this new year. Don’t trudge alone on your journey. Let God load you on His back.
May this new year be a journey with God you will never forget. Amen.
Prayer: Lord, as this year starts, I hold your hand and start with you. Load me daily with your benefits. Be a part of my day throughout this year, in Jesus’ name. Amen.
Action Plan: Consciously ask for God to walk with you this year. Do not go alone.
