We started with this topic yesterday and I will be concluding on it today. I established yesterday that unity or being united has to do with being whole, being one and being together, speaking the same language, with the same voice for the purpose of achieving a common goal
Now I beseech you, brethren, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that ye all speak the same thing, and that there be no divisions among you; but that ye be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgment. – 1Co 1:10
The issue of husband and wife being one is very crucial. The opposite of unity is division, seeing differently and having opposing viewpoints. With unity, we can build maximally and reach our highest potential as couples.
Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity! – Ps 133:1
From the story of the Tower of Babel, we can see the power of unity and the power of disagreement.
Unity comes when we as couples are in agreement. This happens when we see ourselves with the eyes of the spirit, when we see ourselves the right way that we are in a covenant relationship, and that whatever we do affect our spouse and eventually the union and our progress.
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To understand and have a spiritual perspective of who we are, we must remain spiritual and make the Holy Spirit our friend. Marriage is spiritual and to make a success of it, we in turn have to be spiritual, and have guiding principles.
Never go to bed with an unresolved disagreement. When your spouse hurts you, don’t react, talk to the Holy Spirit first. That sounds hard or impossible, but it works. You have to practice it before you become perfect doing that.
Some benefits of being united, being in agreement and being as one are;
1. Unity brings progress
2. When you are in agreement, your prayers are answered.
3. Your voice will be as one in the spirit and you will command much respect. Whatever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven.
4. Unity brings prosperity
5. Unity brings peace
6. Unity enables you to achieve more.
7. Your results are exponentially multiplied.
8. You and your children are protected and preserved
9. The power of God dwells with you
10. There is God’s favor and blessings upon your home and in all you do, you prosper.
Make up your mind to never fight or be in disagreement with your spouse again. Accept the headship of your husband. Please him and do whatever he says. Be happy with him, honor him because the word of God says so and it will be well with you and your family. You will have rich rewards to show for it.
May God open our eyes and understanding in Jesus name, amen!
God bless our marriages.
CONFESSION OF THE DAY I seek to understand my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord I receive grace to understand my spouse more
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1Pe 3:8 Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be patient to understand your spouse
But when the Holy Spirit controls our lives he will produce this kind of fruit in us: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control; and here there is no conflict with Jewish laws. – Gal 5:22-23 [TLB]
What is love?
As Christians, we are guided by what the bible says. So let’s find out what the bible says about love.
My beloved friends, let us continue to love each other since love comes from God. Everyone who loves is born of God and experiences a relationship with God. The person who refuses to love doesn’t know the first thing about God, because God is love — so you can’t know him if you don’t love. – 1 John 4:7-8
The scripture above tells us that love comes from God. Love doesn’t come from the movies, from friends, from family members, but from God.
Does that mean my family members cannot show me love? The answer is right there.
The person who refuses to love doesn’t know the first thing about God, because God is love — so you can’t know him if you don’t love. – 1 John 4:8
Before you can show love to anybody, you have to have a relationship with Love Himself. You have to know God and who He is.
So when you see someone acting in an awkward manner, or does not display attributes of a believer, rather than write him or her off, extend an arm of fellowship to such a person. Tell him or her about love. Invite such a person to Christ and see the wonders that will become of him/her in the nearest future.
I pray God will help you to show love everywhere you find yourself, Amen.
Prayer: Lord, teach me how to be a love being.
Action point: Show love to all around you
Declaration: I am a person of love, just like my God
Betty: You are not reading your Bible well. It says, a merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance. In order words, when you trust God, your heart will be merry because you know God will do it. If your heart is merry, it will show on your face! Shikena! (Period!)
Angie: So my face is driving men away?
Betty: Yes, men are moved by sight firstly before they are moved by your heart. The moment you turn your beautiful face to that of a masquerade, like every problem in the world is on you, guys don’t wait to confirm what is in your heart before they take off.
Angie: But some are still interested in me like this
Betty: So why are you not married?
Angie: I wonder o…
Betty: You don’t need to go to wonderland; did you not say the other time that all the people that come your way are asking for sex?
Angie: Yes
Betty: Because they are not ready for commitment, all they want is fun, so they don’t mind the way you look as long their lust is satisfied.
Angie: Many of them like that
Betty: And that is how you also delay yourself
Angie: How, Auntie?
Betty: By consenting to give them what they ask for, you think you are securing them, but in essence, they will never marry you like that.
Angie: Why are men so wicked?
Betty: It is not about being wicked, it is because they don’t have fear of God.
Angie: Na the same thing joor! (It is the same thing)
Betty: Guys that don’t have the fear of God will try and persuade you to compromise with them, and when you do, they eventually won’t marry you.
Angie: Why would they do that?
To be continued tomorrow
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to trust you.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
The Oxford dictionary of English words defines unity as the state of being united or joined as a whole. The state of forming a complete and harmonious whole, especially in an artistic context; A thing for a complete whole.
God is a God of unity. You can see the perfect unity in the Trinity; the three Godhead working together in perfect unity as one – God the father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit, all working together as one, having the same voice, speaking the same language. They are one whole. That is why we say the three in one God.
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God the father, son and the Holy Spirit are different entities with different and distinct assignment, yet they are so much in unity.
That they all may be one; as thou, Father, art in me, and I in thee, that they also may be one in us: that the world may believe that thou hast sent me. And the glory which thou gavest me I have given them; that they may be one, even as we are one: I in them, and thou in me, that they may be made perfect in one; and that the world may know that thou hast sent me, and hast loved them, as thou hast loved me. – Joh 17:21-23
God created husband and wife to be one
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one. – Gen 2:24
The original mandate in the heart of God concerning marriage is that they will be the example of the God head here on earth. They are to be one flesh even though they are different individuals with different ideologies, belief systems etc
May God help us that our oneness may be complete in Jesus name.
I will continue tomorrow.
God bless our marriages.
CONFESSION OF THE DAY I seek to understand my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord I receive grace to understand my spouse more
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1Pe 3:8 Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be patient to understand your spouse
In the next few days, we will be taking a series on the fruit of the Spirit. This is very important to us as children that it dictates and gives direction to our lives.
There are nine fruits of the spirit as recorded in the fifth chapter of Paul’s letter to the Galatian church
But when the Holy Spirit controls our lives he will produce this kind of fruit in us: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control; and here there is no conflict with Jewish laws. – Gal 5:22-23 [TLB]
Here, Paul, the Apostle is telling us what will become of our lives when we allow the Holy Spirit control our lives.
My question to you this morning is this;
Is your life controlled by the Holy Spirit? Do you live according to the dictates of the flesh? Are you spirit-led all the time?
Do not think this topic is for adults alone. The earlier you start yielding to and being controlled by the Holy Spirit, even from a tender age, the better.
Gal 5:22-24 [GNT] But the Spirit produces love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 humility, and self-control. There is no law against such things as these.
From tomorrow, we will take these fruits one after the other and see how we can get the best from them.
Angie is a single lady of twenty-nine while Betty is a married woman of about thirty-seven years of age. Angie visits Betty who is her mentor.
Angie: Hullo Auntie
Betty: How are you, Angie?
Angie: I am fine
Betty: No, you are not fine. Why is your face like this? (Looking at her intently)
Angie: That is how my face is Auntie; I like frowning.
Betty: No, that is not your face, something is definitely wrong.
Angie: Ok, Auntie, if I tell you, hope you will not laugh at me?
Betty: No, trust me now?
Angie: Ok, Auntie, na husband wahala o! (It is the issue of marriage)
Betty: (laughing)
Angie: You promised you won’t laugh o
Betty: Ok…but seriously, is that the only issue?
Angie: Yes now, Auntie, or won’t I marry?
Betty: But this frown on your face doesn’t solve it
Angie: It is not easy, I am just depressed about it all
Betty: This your face, if I am the man and I see this face, honestly I will take off
Angie: What happened to my face?
Betty: Take a look at the mirror
Angie: Auntie, it is not that bad, it is just the way I feel
Betty: You don’t get it. You want a husband, and now you put up an attitude that will discourage the exact thing you are looking for. Can’t you see that the purpose is defeated?
Angie: It is not easy, and that is how I feel
Betty: You cannot live by your feelings because feelings are fickle, and they don’t represent well. You have to learn to trust God that He will not disappoint you.
Angie: I trust God, I am even praying and fasting
Betty: I disagree with you on that
Angie: But God knows I trust him o…God looks in the heart, not my face.
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open the eyes of my understanding.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 1:18 [GW] Then you will have deeper insight. You will know the confidence that he calls you to have and the glorious wealth that God’s people will inherit.
Here Is What It Takes To Build A Home. There is a popular scripture I love so much. It is in the book of proverbs
Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands. – Pro 14:1
From this scripture, it is seen that the building of homes is directly the responsibility of the woman. But not just any type of woman, the woman has to be wise. It takes wisdom to build.
So that means there is wisdom to build, and there is the foolishness that plucks down or tears down. How is this wisdom acquired? If it just read a woman, we will know that once you are born a female, then you automatically possess this wisdom to build.
That means there are some women who do not have the wisdom to build their marriages and homes. There are no two ways to do it. It is either you are building your home or you are tearing it down. There is no middle way to it.
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If you have wisdom, then you have it and if you don’t have it, you don’t have it.
The question we need to ask ourselves is; am I a wise woman?
The bible gave us the blueprint of asking for wisdom. We have a right to ask God for wisdom
My mentor told me how she will go about eating Suya and one day, a car almost hit her. The incident was reported to her husband who out of anger said she was behaving stupidly.
She felt slighted and offended. She talked to the Holy Spirit about the matter, and the Holy Spirit confirmed what her husband said. The Holy Spirit told her she is not only stupid but also foolish and not operating in wisdom. She was shocked at this and almost couldn’t believe her ears. She then decided to ask God for wisdom.
Until you consciously ask God for wisdom, don’t assume you have wisdom. Until you can say for sure when you were given wisdom by God, don’t assume you have wisdom.
My mentor prayed for wisdom for six months, every day for 3 hours. No wonder she had an encounter with the spirit of wisdom.
If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him. – Jas 1:5
We have to ask and keep on asking. There are over 223 scriptures in the Bible where the word wisdom appears. We can take one aspect of wisdom and pray it into our life.
There are different aspects of wisdom. There is wisdom to deal wisely in the affairs of life. Wisdom is worth praying for because if you don’t have wisdom, you are left with foolishness, and foolishness tears down.
May we not out of foolishness, tear down that which we have built.
May God help us!
God bless our marriage in Jesus name.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love my spouse wholeheartedly.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me the wisdom to build my house.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands. Pro 14:1
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Decide to be more committed in your marriage.
Responsibility is a great virtue. A responsible child at home will not only bring joy to the hearts of her parents but also society. There are things you do at home that speak a lot about how responsible or irresponsible you are. Irresponsibility is the opposite of responsibility.
One of such is helping around the house.
Do you know what your chores are at home? Do you have to be told before you do them? How often are you asked to carry out tasks or chores around the house before you do?
Do you frown and drag your feet sluggishly? Do you give excuses as to why you shouldn’t or couldn’t your chores?
How you answer the questions above tells a lot about you.
When you learn how to not avoid your responsibilities at a young age, you become a responsible adult. And a responsible adult is of great benefit to society and the world.
This is how to change your cycles and break into new ones. The social media is unpleasant and caustic to issues that has to do with giving, tithing, first fruits and so on.
Understandably so, there have been charlatans who have manipulated God’s people for their selfish end.
On the other side, the generation of Ishmael will always mock Isaac. It is Isaac who has to make us mind to be unmoved and stand his ground in following God and obeying eternal truths.
This season is when people are supposed to honor God with their first-fruits as well laid out in the scriptures.
Pro 3:9 (ERV) Honor the LORD with your wealth and the first part of your harvest.
So there is honor here, and your first fruit becomes a measure of your value to God in terms of its quality and quantity.
The Bible also clearly says you can enter into a covenant with God by your firstfruits which should be a sacrifice.
Psa 50:5 (AMPC) Gather together to Me My saints [those who have found grace in My sight], those who have made a covenant with Me by sacrifice.
With your sacrifice or first fruits, you can enter into a covenant with God concerning how you want this year to be and also use the same to change a persistent cycle in your life and break into another.
All through scriptures, from Abraham, to Isaac, to David, to Samuel, they forcefully barged into their next levels by sacrifice.
Even God, in wanting to get us back and to Himself, had to offer His best, Jesus as a first fruit!. The son of God became the son of man so that He can brings us as sons back to God.
We were saved through sacrifice!
The earlier you understand these principles and apply them, the quicker you break out of persistent yokes and become high flier by covenant!
Also, important are the laws of value and productivity, which opines that you must turn your value into a product, so that after paying your first fruit, you give God an avenue to bless the work of your hand and increase you and said in the scriptures.
In today’ edition of devotionals for Married Couples, I explained a little what first-fruit would do specifically. You can read HERE
You can also listen to Audio Messages (The Economy of Heaven And Your Prosperity Parts 1 & 2) I taught on this topic HERE. You will also be able to pray the prayers over your sacrifices.
May God give you understanding and strength to obey His voice!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I break every cycle of lack and insufficiency
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open the eyes of my understanding to see truths from your word that will set me free
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 3:9 (MSG) Honor GOD with everything you own; give him the first and the best.
How To Break Persistent Yokes In Marriage. The Bible has a tremendous supply of solutions to everything we are going through! God is unfathomable!
One of such mysteries is that of first fruits! In the Singles Devotional for today, I laid some foundation of what this practice is and explained how you can break out of any cycle and yokes. You can read HERE
The reality is that there are five levels of prosperity and money is only one part!
Before you say, you are prosperous, these five levels must be present!
What does the scripture say about first fruits?
Pro 3:9 (AMPC) Honor the Lord with your capital and sufficiency [from righteous labors] and with the firstfruits of all your income;
So there is honor here, and your first fruit becomes a measure of your value to God in terms of its quality and quantity.
The Bible also clearly says you can enter into a covenant with God by your first fruits which should be a sacrifice.
Psa 50:5 (AMPC) Gather together to Me My saints [those who have found grace in My sight], those who have made a covenant with Me by sacrifice.
With your sacrifice or first fruits, you can enter into a covenant with God concerning how you want this year to be and also use the same to change a persistent cycle in your life and break into another.
Never give your first fruit carelessly! Give it with intense worship unto the Lord! The giving of Firstfruit Offering must be accompanied with worship
Deu 26:10 (AMPC) And now, behold, I bring the firstfruits of the ground which You, O Lord, have given me. And you shall set it down before the Lord your God and worship before the Lord your God;
Kindly take time and listen more to the Audio Messages (The Economy of Heaven And Your Prosperity Parts 1 & 2) I taught on this topic HERE. You will also be able to pray the prayers over your sacrifices.
Have a tremendous day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I break every cycle of lack and insufficiency
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open the eyes of my understanding to see truths from your word that will set me free
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 3:9 (MSG) Honor GOD with everything you own; give him the first and the best.
Hello dear one, I would like to share something really special with you today. It is about how you can understand the love of God.
There is this special song I would like to teach you, it goes thus;
Jesus loves the little children All the children of the world Red and yellow, black and white They are precious in His sight Jesus loves the little children of the world
The Bible says in
But Jesus said, Suffer little children, and forbid them not, to come unto me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven. – Matthew 19:14
Jesus always wanted little children around him.
Jesus made a profound statement, he said “such is the kingdom of heaven”
Jesus likened you to the Kingdom of heaven! Do you know what that means? It means you are very special and dear not only to Jesus, but also to everyone around you.
I want you to know that you are special, so never feel bad about yourself
You are very valued. Anything that can be compared to heaven is beautiful, special, and a joyful thing, and that is exactly what is said about you.
God loves you, your parents love you, your uncles and aunties love you, everyone around you loves you. You are an answered prayer and a dream come through. Never think little of yourself.
Prayer point: Dear Lord Jesus, thank you for loving and showing me love. Amen
Action Plan: Go ahead and confess the love of Christ throughout today
Don’t trap yourself. You are praying together in the night in his room and electricity fails and you are still looking for a candle? That is the time to escape for your life. It is not about the fact that he is a Christian or the prayer leader; it is about the fact that he is a man and he is human.
All those prayers you do while you are wearing something seductive, you are finishing the guy slowly. His eyes are red, the tongues are changing and you think it is the anointing? No, the guy is on fire! And the bible says you cannot carry fire in your bosom and not be burnt!
5. Give her gifts, no matter how small
She likes that a lot. However, the gift may not make any meaning to her if she has been hurt severally.
6. Never shut her up or shout at her, correct in love
God used the finest bones by the sides of a man in creating a woman to indicate that he wants your wife by your side!
God didn’t use the bones by the feet because your wife is not your doormat, whose emotions and person is to be trampled upon!
7. Forgive her quickly
Don’t shoot yourself in the leg. Not forgiving her can block your prayers. So says the scripture!
8. Major on her good points, overlook her mistakes.
That is the way to go if you want your courtship or marriage to last.
9. Never abuse her or disrespect her in the presence of others.
10. Be sensitive to her needs, moods, and fears. Be there for her.
11. Call her pet names. Let her know at every opportunity that you appreciate her.
12. Seek to understand her more so you can love her more. Women are complex. Men should learn and keep learning.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open the eyes of my understanding.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 1:18 [GW] Then you will have deeper insight. You will know the confidence that he calls you to have and the glorious wealth that God’s people will inherit.
Marriage is for the broken. I mean those who have mortified their flesh. Does it then mean that anybody that has not attained this level cannot marry? Of course not. They can marry but making a success out of the marriage is impossible.
The devil understands this and he is okay with it. He is even happy with the idea of immature people getting married, so far as they don’t get to fulfill God’s mandate and agenda.
They could even spend millions of Naira on the wedding, with an elaborate and classic wedding. What matters most is how the marriage is going. How much does the husband love his wife as Christ loved the church? How much does the wife submit to her own husband?
God has given both the wife and the husband specific roles and functions in the marriage. This role is an individual mandate that is not dependent on what the other partner does or doesn’t do.
For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live. – Rom 8:13
The flesh has deeds or works.
Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God. – Gal 5:19- 22
There is a kingdom of God to be inherited by us in our marriage but ‘Those who do entertain the works of the flesh cannot inherit the kingdom of God.
The mandate of marriage can only be carried out in the spirit. By those who have their flesh crucified and dead to sin.
And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. – Gal 5:24
In our marriage, we must see to it that our flesh dies daily. Every wife should study what the Bible says about submission and every husband study what it means to love.
Our flesh must be broken to allow the spirit of God to manifest.
I once lived in pity-party and was very stubborn in my disposition to my husband. I was just so fleshly. I yielded to the flesh without constraints and I entertained and embrace every negative thought that came to my mind. I went to see my mentor because I had come to my wit’s end. She told me, ‘be broken, and listen to your husband’. Those words set me free because they were the truth.
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Husbands, be broken and love your wife. Love her and be tender-hearted towards her.
Why get married if the reason for being married is not fulfilled? Don’t waste heavens mandate! Jesus said we should occupy till he comes. We must make up our minds that our marriage will fulfill destiny and purpose.
God bless your marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love my spouse wholeheartedly.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, make me a broken spouse.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY I exhort therefore, that, first of all, supplications, prayers, intercessions, and giving of thanks, be made for all men; 1Ti 2:1
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Decide to be more committed in your marriage.
Sin is the barrier that disrupts you from accessing God’s throne and His presence as you should. It is that one thing that blocks you from being with your heavenly Father.
In the old testament, the bible records that the temple had a place called the Holy of Holies where there was a veil covering it.
“…The veil shall separate for you the Holy place and the Holy of Holies” – Exo. 26:33
But only the high priest could enter after he had undergone some cleansing rituals.
“But only the high priest could go into the second room, and he did that only once a year. He could never enter the inner room without taking blood with him. He offered that blood to God for himself and for the people’s sins…” ICB. – Heb.9:7
The God we serve hates sins totally and needs us to be pure before we can come before Him.
After sinning, the enemy suggests to a person that God can never forgive, thereby encouraging them to run away from God. This is where shame comes in.
If you allow the enemy to tell you that your shortcomings are so huge or terrible and that God can never forgive you, then you don’t know your God.
Your God is more than able to forgive your sins.
He wants nothing more than to forgive you so that the two of you can be in a loving relationship constantly.
Your heavenly father wants to forgive you so that He can bless you.
He will always forgive you but asks that you don’t allow yourself to become a slave to sin.
Never allow the enemy or anyone to tell you that God can’t ever forgive you. He gave Jesus for you. Jesus that was sinless to die for your sins that you may be called His son or daughter.
Prayer point: Dear Lord Jesus, thank you for granting me access to the Holy of Holies. I am glad that God will always forgive my sins. Sin will not overcome me. I will not hide in shame. Amen.
Action Plan: Stay away from all forms of sin
Declaration: God will forgive me of my sins. I will not hide in shame.
You wouldn’t imagine how important this is to women. They want to hear it all the time! A man wonders why he should keep saying that because he is logical.
A woman thinks if you don’t say it often, with emotion, eyeball to eyeball, you don’t really love her!
For singles, It is okay to express your love to your fiancée but you must not allow verbal expression to lead to physical aggression. You sure know what I am talking about!
2. Tell her she is beautiful.
Women have issues with their bodies especially after giving birth. She worries about her shape, her belly, her face and more. It goes a long way when you tell her and keep telling her that she is beautiful. I say this to my wife all the time and she would still blush and smile like she is hearing that for the first time.
If your fiancé or husband never says that to you, ask him directly how you look in a dress.
Ladies who are not yet in a relationship, understand that you will not appear beautiful to everybody. If somebody says you are ugly, that is a personal opinion. You will be beautiful to your spouse!
The scripture says you are ‘fearfully’ and ‘wonderfully’ made. So it is okay to be ‘fearful’ to some people. Beauty is in the beholder’s eyes. When your spouse sees you, you will be the most beautiful woman on earth. So stop worrying yourself unnecessarily.
3. Listen to her when she talks, give her attention, and don’t ignore her presence.
This is very important to both singles and married couples. It is important you listen well. In a particular country, women pay listeners per hour to just listen to them talk. If a woman finds a listener in her colleague, an emotional affair is knocking on the door. Ever wondered how respectable women end up sleeping with their cooks or drivers?
They were neglected by their husbands and they found a companion elsewhere!
The highest form of listening is empathic listening and this is what your fiancee requires. It involves a guy putting himself in her shoes as he listens with compassion.
Give her your time and attention. Don’t let her compete with laptops, blackberries, ipods, ipads and other ‘toys’
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to trust your timing.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psalms 139:14 I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.
I have discovered that in our marriage relationship, we can not afford to go on the journey alone. There is such peculiarity in our marriage that it takes the Holy Spirit to help us.
The Holy Spirit is a person. He is real. He is alive and He dwells in us. It is amazing that we have so much help available in Him yet we seek help everywhere.
Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, that shall he speak: and he will shew you things to come. – Joh 16:13
The Holy Spirit is the spirit of truth. He knows the real truth about every situation. He will not lie to us. Most of the time that we claim our spouses are too harsh on us, it is our flesh reacting. Our flesh wants to resist the truth.
I remember when my husband was correcting me and I felt bad about the correction. I even fasted telling God how wrong my husband was. I wanted God to correct him. It took the Holy Spirit to show me I was wrong. That I had to be broken and submissive to my husband.
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After that encounter, I was gentle and sober. I stopped all my ‘gragra’.
The Holy Spirit is so wonderful. He will keep you calm in situations where your flesh wants to be strong and stubborn.
Most of the issues in our marriages are opportunities for the Holy Spirit to manifest Himself, reveal and glorify Jesus.
The Holy Spirit will teach you how to react, when to say something, when not to talk. In short, He is the ‘olofofo’ of our marriage. He will tell you what your spouse is struggling with. Before a problem starts, he will tell you.
I remember several times the Holy Spirit will reveal to my husband things I’m going through. These are some of the benefits of being a believer. We are born again Christians, let’s make use of these fact.
Let’s develop a relationship with the spirit of Grace. The marital journey is not meant to be ran alone. The Holy Spirit is not a general spirit. He is a particular, specific and individual spirit. He addresses your situation personally.
No two marriages are exactly the same. It is the Holy Spirit that helps you interpret a general message to suit you and your marriage.
As an helper meet for your husband, you have to be strong and courageous. You need the Holy Spirit to be a good husband and take care of that woman. As a wife you need the Holy Spirit.
The Holy Spirit is a teacher. He will teach you all things. And you what, you can talk to him about anything and every thing, He will answer you. Learn to receive the helper made available for you.
Develop a thriving relation with Him today. God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY The Holy Spirit is available for me
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Holy Spirit, help my marriage.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY John 16:13 Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, that shall he speak: and he will shew you things to come.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Ask the Holy Spirit for help
Fall in love with your common sense! Don’t fall in love with a married man or woman!
He tells you that you are the one he loves. That is a lie! He loves his wife at home; they might just have issues.
Why fall in love and play the second fiddle? Why fall in love with a man that visits twice a week in a house he rented for you? What kind of life is that?
God has got your own spouse for you, but you will keep on delaying what God wants to do when you are busy carrying out your own agenda. Be wise!
A foolish woman is clamorous: she is simple, and knoweth nothing. (Proverbs 9:13 KJV)
5. Don’t fall in love with a stranger
Don’t fall in love with somebody you don’t know. There is nothing like love at first sight, only with foresight. There may be a ‘knowing’ at first sight, but it is never love at first sight. Why? You cannot fall in love with somebody you don’t know!
The rush of adrenaline in your body does not translate into love! Body chemistry is not love!
Infatuation is not love. Lust is not love. Love is a deeper ‘sensing’ and knowing, more than a feeling, it is an assurance, and it is deep-seated in the heart. It’s not something that happens with a stranger.
Fall in love with a friend, not with a stranger, so that strange things will not happen to you! You don’t’ even know her name, and you are saying you are in love!
For married people, never get tired of your spouse. You have to keep falling in love over and over again. Wives, learn to dress for your hubby at home, he is moved by sight, so stop tying wrappers all the time unless that is what your husband wants. Go get some lingerie and learn to fire up his blood. It is a holy thing to do, for your husband!
I pray that God will grant more understanding.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open the eyes of my understanding.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 1:18 [GW] Then you will have deeper insight. You will know the confidence that he calls you to have and the glorious wealth that God’s people will inherit.
We have been looking at this topic building to last in marriage for some time now and I will be taking the concluding part of the same topic.
I pray and sincerely hope this message will bring couples to ways they can discuss this together to find their own way of implementing the points. There may be ways based on their peculiar situation, they could adapt the points discussed here.
8. Never talk bad about your spouse to anybody
Respect the covenant between you. Let no one be able to come between you. Don’t betray trust. Defend each other. Don’t fight with each other but fight for each other. Don’t fight your spouse because of any other person. Don’t give any other person the privilege of being more special than your spouse. It will backfire. What is between the two of you cannot be compared with any other relationship.
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9. Love jeru trip
Enjoy Jerusalem trips. It is pleasure to both of you. Never get tired of each other. Give yourself to one another unhindered
10. Keep the word ‘divorce’ out of your dictionary
Remember your marriage vows. It is till death do us part. There are no problems without solutions. There are issues, challenges but there are ways of handling them. We may not be patient enough or seek God’s face enough to find a lasting solution. God has promised us a way of escape.
Jesus said in John 14:6, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life
Have a bulldog approach to your marriage. Whatever happens, God can restore and make all things new. That doesn’t mean staying in an abusive relationship and environment. Seek all the help you can get for your marriage to be better.
11. Understand each other’s love language
Your love language is like your native mother language, you are most comfortable speaking it and have a free flow with it. Just like you speak the language your spouse understands, you must be willing to learn and understand your spouse’s love language. Don’t insist on your own way of expressing love.
Try to please your spouse. Do whatever he/ she likes and best expresses that you love and care for him/her.
It is either it is gifts, words, touch, actions, or quality time. If it is words, learn to speak tender and kind words to your spouse. Don’t be harsh with your words. Don’t correctly sharply.
If gifts, surprise each other with gifts, do this frequently.
If actions, help to do the dishes, throw the garbage out, wash the car, etc, just offer to do something.
12. Spice up your marriage with little gestures.
Surprise each other with gifts, kisses, and sex. That shows you are thinking of your spouse. Let your spouse know that you are still in love with them.
Kiss passionately, hold hands, cuddle and show public display of affection. Look into each other’s eyes when talking. Be deeply concerned about each other. Look out for yourselves and ask whatever may be happening to your spouse emotionally, physically, or otherwise.
May God bless our marriage as we put these things into practice.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love my spouse wholeheartedly.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me how to trust my spouse in Jesus name.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY I exhort therefore, that, first of all, supplications, prayers, intercessions, and giving of thanks, be made for all men; 1Ti 2:1
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Decide to show genuine love to your spouse.
Little children, since we know we are created in God’s image, let’s ensure we keep clean always. Your body is God’s temple!
Your outer body is what people see, and the condition of your skin, hair, or face tells them a lot of how clean or dirty you are.
Endeavour to take your baths in the mornings before you leave the house, when you get back from school or after any activity that leaves you sweaty like when you finish playing football or running with your friends.
Allowing sweat to stay long on your skin, forms bacteria that could lead to some skin conditions like eczema and rashes.
Also, when bathing, use a sponge and soap and scrub your skin very well, but not too harshly.
Brush your teeth in the morning, and at night before you sleep.
Don’t forget to comb or brush your hair before you leave the house. Cut it also when due. For girls, pack your hair neatly with a hairband or visit a hairdresser to make it for you. Keep hair well oiled and neat.
All these and many more helps you to be holy before God.
Looking and smelling good attracts people to you. When they admire you, they are indirectly praising God over you. That is how God is worshipped!
Looking and smelling nice could also make people listen to you when you tell them about Jesus. And when they finally accept Christ into their lives, you have won a soul into God’s kingdom by your appearance.
1 Thess. 5:23, ICB We pray that God himself, the God of peace, will make you pure, belonging only to him. We pray that your whole self–spirit, soul, and body–will be kept safe and be without wrong when our Lord Jesus Christ comes.
