Spider in the palace? That is sacrilegious! How did it get there? Who granted it entrance? Where are the palace guards? How dare such a creature be allowed into the most secured and guarded place?
It can’t just be. Maybe you did not see well. Or maybe you are hungry and you are taken by mirage or simply hallucinating. It can’t be! Spider sha? No way!
If you are even talking of a lion in all its, strength we can understand. If you say it’s an elephant, oh that is understandable, for who will dare stop the humongous beast from trampling on where it wants?
But a spider! Ordinary spider! Something I can crush with my leg. Spider ko, spider man ni!
But wow, there it is. The spider is actually in the palace!
How did it enter!
The spider taketh hold with her hands, and is in kings’ palaces.
Pro 30:28 (KJV)
It’s by her hands! It’s by its skill. It’s by what it can do!
An entrance was granted to the spider by reason of the skill it brings to the table.
As singles, I want to encourage you this morning, identify a skill that is inherent and develop it. Maximize it. Don’t be laid back in life for life has no place for such people.
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Take hold with your hands like the spider and you will find yourself in palaces.
By the time you are thinking about marriage, you should have a definite stream of income! Nobody wants to marry a liability. That is a simple truth!
Go learn something! How to sew, bake, and such things as additional things you can do. There is money there!
And if you are particularly career-driven, then study more courses that will enhance your area of dexterity!
I pray God will give more understanding today in Jesus name
Have a blessed day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not lazy.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Teach me how to use my skill wisely oh Lord
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psalms 78:72 (KJV) So he fed them according to the integrity of his heart; and guided them by the skilfulness of his hands.
Sense is described by Word Web dictionary as “The faculty through which the external world is apprehended”
As Buddy entered his friend’s house, you could tell he was excited. He was grinning from ear to ear he could almost eat Banana from the side of his mouth.
Woah! I have finally found my wife. I am so much in love with her. I asked her out and she said Yes.’
Daniel was happy for him.
‘When did you meet her?’ ‘Two hours ago.’
‘What is her name?’ ‘Lovett, I don’t know her surname.’
‘And you already asked her out?’ ‘Yes.’
‘And she said yes?’ ‘Of course now, what is the meaning of all these questions?’
‘Where is she from?’ ‘I don’t know. She must be from heaven.’
‘What does she do?’ ‘I don’t know, but she has hot legs!’
One other question that every single will be confronted with is the question of common sense.
You see, you are not supposed to fall in love with strangers. True love emanates from the knowledge of the characters involved. You hardly know somebody you just met some thirty minutes ago. True love should spring up from friendship.
God gave you a brain so that you will not disturb him on some issues that you can already find their answers in God’s Word.
‘I am so happy for you Comfort. Is he born again? ‘l don’t know but he goes to church.’
You don’t need somebody that you can’t even vouch for concerning Salvation. You need somebody that loves God!
‘He does not drink alcohol, he only takes Stout.’ ‘He does not do weed, just normal cigarettes. I will convert him after marriage.’
You see, you are not the Holy Spirit. Watch the person you fall in love with. Use your gumption. Spirituality does not mean stupidity or thoughtlessness. The scripture says that discretion will preserve you!
‘I have aborted for him three times, but I cannot leave him. I love him.’ But when he finally ruins your chances of giving birth, he will leave you! Wake up! The reason you cannot leave him or her is not because of love but because of low self-esteem and soul ties, wrong bonding that comes as a result of violating God’s principles as regards jeru trip.
‘I know I am number three on his list.’ So what are you still doing, playing a second fiddle, opening your legs to a man that you know can drop you anytime? You see, hear me, and quote me anywhere, you cannot use jeru trip to buy love. Jeru trip does not guarantee marriage. In fact, it reduces its chances.
Whoever told you that you are ugly? It is money you need! When God blesses you, you will know how beautiful you are! Guys never have problems with appearance, it is always ladies. Haven’t you seen guys with their legs like Hockey sticks, and yet wearing three-quarters short? They don’t care! And they will come and ask you out like that, and you are like, What?
You are not ugly! Beauty is in the beholder’s eyes. You are fearfully and wonderfully created, so says the scriptures. You will be wonderful to some people, and fearful to others, so never mind if someone calls you ‘ugly’ When you meet your spouse, you will be wonderful! So, believe in God and believe in yourself!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will apply discretion in every area of my relationship as God helps me
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Lord, I ask that you give me wisdom and understanding in my relationship in Jesus name.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Proverbs 11:29 [MSG] Exploit or abuse your family, and end up with a fistful of air; common sense tells you it’s a stupid way to live.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Have a hearty discussion with your lover today
Betty has always loved family life and she looked forward to marriage with tremendous ecstasy. Eventually she got married but did not enjoy one single day of her marriage. The reasons are not far-fetched. She is the type that wants her husband around her all the time. She is a in-the-home woman. But then she got married to a Military man because she loved Military weddings. It was just two weeks after her wedding that reality dawned on her. She had married a on-the-road man!
Her husband had to answer call of duty and he was gone for months.
The Bible clearly advises that when you want to go on a journey you should first of all take account and make plans.
A major question that needs to be answered as you prepare for marriage is the question of compatibility. Unfortunately, for most singles rather than look critically at these area, they’re busy concentrating on sexual compatibility, a flimsy excuse to indulge in pre-marital sex and satisfy the raging fire of lust in their soul.
Areas where compatibility issues needs to be critically examined include the following.
a. Intellectual compatibility Not a few marriages have been dissolved because of this issue. Marriage is about communication. The moment you are married to someone who is at a great intellectual distance as to the extent of inhibiting natural communication flow, it alters the whole configuration. The other spouse begins to look elsewhere to satisfy that need for intellectual discussions and before long, unholy alliance are formed which eventually becomes a distraction to the marriage. It is like meeting a legitimate need in an illegitimate way.
b. Cultural compatibility A lot of people would not want to hear about their children marrying from another tribe or ethnic group because of the experiences they have had. You see, the major problem is that people often advice others based on their experiences rather than on the principles of God’s word. I don’t see anything wrong in getting married from any tribe as long as you are led of God. You must however pay a lot of attention to parental consent. This is very crucial. What if your parents say an outright NO and you feel you are on the right path? Go to God in prayers. If it is really of God, He will sort it out Himself.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will apply discretion in every area of my relationship as God helps me
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Lord, I ask that you give me wisdom and understanding in my relationship in Jesus name.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Proverbs 11:29 [MSG]Exploit or abuse your family, and end up with a fistful of air; common sense tells you it’s a stupid way to live.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Have a hearty discussion with your partner today
We began this topic few days back. If you missed the part 1, you can read it here.
3. God speaks in the stillness
He leadeth me beside the still waters.
The waters represent the word of the living God. He would lead you by His word in your heart. He would not necessarily speak to you through thunder and lightening neither will He slap you to get your attention, He leads you gently and will never force you to do anything.
He would not speak outside His word. If you cannot hear Him, then you have not been beside the still waters. Maybe, it has been long since you opened your Bible!
The still waters is not in the romantic soap operas or in the football matches. It is not in Time Magazine neither is it in philosophical novels. Not even in John Grisham. If that is all you spend your time doing at the expense of God’s word, you will have a hard time knowing His voice.
You have to consciously dedicate some time for Him, in the mornings, afternoons or nights. You don’t need any pastor or prophet to help you see something. You can see for yourself and you are the prophet of your own life.
Your pastor is to teach and guide you, not give you direction! Your pastor is not to choose a spouse for you; he can give suggestions though. Direction only comes beside the still waters, in God’s word. When you want to hear Him clearly, study His word dearly!
4. Get healed of hurts from broken relationships
He restoreth my soul:
This is pivotal to a successful relationship. Even in marriage, couples can hurt each other so badly they would start considering divorce. Hurts from the treatment you got from you Ex needs healing before proceeding to another relationship, or else that new person will suffer in your hands as a result of the hurts.
How do you get healed of hurts? How do you forgive somebody that cheated you and manipulated you and you are so hurt that you could shoot such a person?
God offers you an invitation to be healed
He restoreth my soul:
Yes, everywhere your soul has been punctured and ruptured, every area where your emotions were trampled, sampled and wrecked, God can and will restore!
He restoreth my soul:
God will reset your soul to factory default, if you allow Him! He will give you the grace to heal from wounds, forgive those who hurt you so that you can move on with your life.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY The Lord is my Shepherd, I shall not want
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, guide my with your shepherding grace
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psalm 46:11The Lord of hosts is with us; the God of Jacob is our refuge.
I taught a message recently at our church on “What It Really Means To Jeun Soke! Below is a two-minute snippet from the message, which is the crux of today’s devotional. Kindly watch in two minutes before proceeding to read.
The two women decided to boil their children and eat! What could lead to this?
And the king said unto her, What aileth thee? And she answered, This woman said unto me, Give thy son, that we may eat him to day, and we will eat my son to morrow. So we boiled my son, and did eat him: and I said unto her on the next day, Give thy son, that we may eat him: and she hath hid her son.
2Ki 6:28-29 (KJV)
What could engender such wickedness in a mother to the extent of making a meal out of her child? Women are not known for such expressions of wickedness and callousness? A woman’s love for her child is established.
But in the above scenario, mother’s love was thrown out of the window!
One of the women actually played out the script, her child was boiled, served, and eaten!
What led to this point where a mother was forced to do something abnormal is famine. They were famished and all sense of decorum flew away. Hunger led them into a place where absurdity took over.
Dear singles, you cannot allow your spirit man to be famished. The reason you find yourself in scenarios where you do things without mercy and consideration is because of spiritual hunger.
May you not get to the point where you boil your posterity.
You’ve got to learn to dive into God’s word and “Jeun Soke!
You’ve got to eat well before you embark on the journey of marriage, just as the angel encouraged Elijah to eat well because of the journey.
May God grant more understanding.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not starve my spirit man
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for strength to stay with the word
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Jer 29:11 [AMP]For I know the plans and thoughts that I have for you,’ says the Lord, ‘plans for peace and well-being and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.
There is something personal about that. “The Lord is my…” It didn’t say the Lord is “our shepherd.”
“He is my….”
He will attend to me personally. He does not deal with me generally. Only God can do that. He attends to billions of people with billions of requests in billions of places at the same time without missing a beat or wiping sweat off His brow. He doesn’t make mistakes. He would not mistakenly give me a bicycle when my request was for a car.
The shepherding grace of God then is what I enjoy when I have a personal relationship with God, not just by being a member of a church.
The first thing I need to do then is to develop a conscious relationship with God, who is my shepherd.
No wonder Jesus Christ said:
I am the good shepherd, and know my sheep, and am known of mine.
John 10:14
There must of necessity be a personal knowing, a connectedness, a relationship with God upon which every successful courtship and marriage will stand.
He will personally attend specifically to my marital needs. He knows who I am, who I need, and who I don’t need!
He is my shepherd!
2. He wants your submission and obedience
He maketh me to lie down in green pastures:
He wants you to lie down and feed on His Word, and He doesn’t want you running around all over the place. Adam couldn’t get a wife until He slept. Some of us are just too awake. Sometimes, you just need to be still and know that He is God and that He is your shepherd.
It is not only your toasting skill that will get you a spouse, sometimes it is just your ability to be still and follow His direction. It is not all about the dressing and the perfumes alone, there is a place for His fragrance which comes by His favour!
Psalm 46:10Be still, and know that I am God:
Message translations says, “Step out of the traffic…”
That is why He calls you a sheep, even though you might not like that particular creature. You probably prefer a lion. But the sheep actually shows the true vulnerability of the Homo-Sapien. However, the sheep that stay with the shepherd is even more powerful than the lion!
Stay obedient to Him!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY The Lord is my Shepherd, I shall not want a good spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, guide me with your shepherding grace to find the right spouse.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psalm 46:11The Lord of hosts is with us; the God of Jacob is our refuge.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Read and meditate on Psalm 23
This article is continued from yesterday. If you missed yesterdays devotional, you can read it here.
Will one ever get to a place in life where doubt is completely extricated and will never occur again?” Like take a gun and shoot doubt forever and ever?
Well, the answer is a big NO. Doubt will still come, whether you like it or not. But it is now your choice to discard it or embrace it.
How do we deal with doubt and how can it be prevented?
1. The first thing to note is that you should never take a step until you are sure of God’s plan! That way, you are rock solid when doubt surfaces because you already know what you are doing. Let doubts come from a thousand ends, you remain steadfast because you already heard God and His word that you heard would stabilize you and become an anchor to your soul.
2. Don’t fall in love anyhow. Fall in love with common sense and with your eyes open.
3. Do not despise the wisdom of authority figures in your life. They may not be right all the time, but God can often use their voice to speak to you and keep you from making costly mistakes.
4. Read God’s word regularly. That is what will stabilize your soul. Pray as well and speak in tongues a lot.
What do you do if you are already in doubt?
1. Take time to go back to God in prayers and listen to Him talk to you again.
2. Fast if necessary and spend time in God’s presence until you hear Him
3. Clean up your life from all forms of sexual compromises. Jeru trip and other sexual sins will usually bring confusion and with confusion, there will be huge kettles of doubt in your mind.
4. If you are married and doubt keeps coming, the solution is not to walk out of your marriage. Rather, stay with your spouse and refuse to entertain doubts. Go to God in prayers and renew your covenant with God. See doubt as an attempt from the devil to render your prayers ineffective, so guard against it.
Lastly, how can one be sure that a decision is of God?
The acid test is what is called “peace”
Take a look at this scripture:
And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
(Philippians 4:7 KJV)
Amplified Version:
“And God’s peace [ shall be yours, that tranquil state of a soul assured of its salvation through Christ, and so fearing nothing from God and being content with its earthly lot of whatever sort that is, that peace ] which transcends all understanding shall garrison and mount guard over your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.”
(Php 4:7, AMP)
Did you see that? This peace that comes as an assurance of God’s voice concerning a decision will become like an army officer to your soul, It will mount guard and disallow any doubt from accessing your mind. Glory to God!
My prayer for you this morning is that you will indeed hear God. I speak against every confusion in your life, no more in Jesus name! I come against every plan of the devil, every intent of hell, every strategy of the evil one, no more in your life in Jesus name!
I speak peace to every storm in relationships, and I pray for God’s divine intervention in Jesus name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not confused.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that every doubt will be destroyed
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY “Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life.” (Php 4:7, MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Spend time in God’s presence
BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY 2 Chronicles 6-7; Psalm 136
It happens all the time. You fall in love, you make commitments, in some cases, wedding plans begin, and then like a mighty tornado from nowhere, doubt hits you like you hit someone with a sledge hammer.
I thought I was in love! Where is this doubt coming from? O Lord, help me!
It even gets more confusing when compromise or specifically, sex is involved. You hardly know what to do. On one hand, you think you love him or her, but when you think about your future together, a lump rises in your throat and a subtle fear meanders in the inner crevices of your mind.
What do you do at such times? This is what we want to look at this morning.
At what points do doubts occur? Here are some:
1. A relationship is outside of God’s will and God needed to get your attention.
2. A relationship is actually God’s will, but the devil wants to confuse you so that you can step out of that will.
3. You have huge and sometimes unrealistic expectations and unfortunately the expectations are far from being realised.
4. You are in a relationship and it is God’s plan for you, but somewhere along the line, you are caught in sex. The devil would usually bring guilt trips and if you stay habitually in the compromise, confusion will enter the soul and you won’t know your left from right.
5. You are not informed and you are ignorant of your basic spiritual rights, you will easily get confused and yield to doubt.
6. You start a relationship or courtship without seeking God’s will. That conviction would not be there and doubts would have an upper hand.
7. You sought direction about your marriage from some prophet without a personal adventure in seeking God’s face.
8. You go into a relationship or marriage in order to escape from something. After your escape,then you start asking whether you really love the person.
9. All your mentors, pastor, and even parents are against the marriage except you. Doubt will surely come eventually.
10. Marriage is not all about roses and flowers, when the thorns show up, they usually come in the basket of doubt.
The next thing is “will one ever get to a place in life where doubt is completely extricated and will never occur again?” Like take a gun and shoot doubt for ever and ever?
I will talk about that tomorrow.
Don’t miss it.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not confused.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that every doubt will be destroyed
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY “Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life.” (Php 4:7, MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Spend time in God’s presence
BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY 2 Chronicles 6-7; Psalm 136
According to Wikipedia, A player who has been cautioned (with yellow card) may continue playing in the game; however, a player who receives a second caution in a match is sent off (shown the yellow card again, and then a red card), meaning that he must leave the field immediately and take no further part in the game.
Case 1 You are in a relationship but your lover is not interested in the things of God like before, realizes this and is trying to work on it.
As a counselor or referee, I will surely bring out a card and it will be: YELLOW!
He or she can continue in the relationship because of the willingness to work on it and consciously do something about it.
Case 2 Your lover is not interested in the things of God like before, but is open to counsels and is really seeking mentoring.
It will surely be a yellow card – a warning because he or she is open to correction.
Case 3 Your lover is not interested in the things of God but thinks he is okay and is not open to any advice. The card is: RED! It is dangerous to give your heart to such a person, because he or she already showed you who he is.
It is fool-hardy to continue in a relationship with such a person.
Case 4 You have caught him lying on you once. The card will be: YELLOW!
There is a possibility it’s a mistake. But time will tell.
Case 5 You have caught him or her lying and cheating on you severally. Nothing other than: RED! He or she is not likely to change soon. Walk out of such relationship and then do a thanksgiving!
May God bless you!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am discerning Lord
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Open my eyes, Lord
THOUGHT OF THE DAY Php 1:9-10 (KJV) And this I pray, that your love may abound yet more and more in knowledge and in all judgment; [10] That ye may approve things that are excellent; that ye may be sincere and without offence till the day of Christ;
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Go through the list of your friends and make decisions
This morning, I want to challenge us as we begin a new week to not allow the devil to negotiate you out of the best that God has for you!
My teaching is taken from the below short clip.
The scripture there is
And God blessed them, saying, Be fruitful, and multiply, and fill the waters in the seas, and let fowl multiply in the earth.
Gen 1:22 (KJV)
These were the first words of God to humanity! You can’t allow any nonsense from the devil! Don’t allow him to negotiate with you and come up with all kinds of excuses why your relationship is not working, why nobody is coming your way, why there is an unnecessary delay, and so on and so forth!
Why is the scripture above so important!
This was God’s instructions from the beginning!
That which was from the beginning, which we have heard, which we have seen with our eyes, which we have looked upon, and our hands have handled, of the Word of life;
1Jn 1:1 (KJV)
Go back to what God said in the beginning and hold on to that! All other suggestions, instructions, manipulations, adaptations, conclusions, and deductions are inferior to the very first words that proceeded from God!
If your relationship is not fruitful, then something has been tampered with and you cannot settle for it!
It is either fruitfulness or fruitfulness!
And the verse above listed the process involved; hear it, see it, look upon it and let your hands handle it!
This week, I am praying for you, whatever it is that stares you in the face, be it your business, relationship, carrier, ministry, or whatever it is, I declare fruitfulness in Jesus name!
That will be your portion this week in Jesus name! Have a great and fulfilling week!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I refuse to cooperate with the devil
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, take my relationship to how you intended it in the beginning
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 John 1:1[ESV] That which was from the beginning, which we have heard, which we have seen with our eyes, which we looked upon and have touched with our hands, concerning the word of life
One way you can achieve this is by rejecting the victim mentality in your relationship.
There are people who live with a victim mentality. It is not a good place to be. It is a negative mentality, an unfortunate place to be.
The guy with the victim mentality goes into a relationship expecting it to break up. The lady with victim mentality expects to be heartbroken, expects to be disappointed, and expects to be jilted.
Somehow, that person is addicted to pain. Until he or she is treated in some bad way, he or she is bored. It is a contradiction. He or she prays against pain but then looks forward to it through actions and in-actions. Such a person enjoys the depression and despondency that comes after being hurt.
So the person indirectly positions himself or herself to be hurt. Even when the hurt is not forthcoming, he ensures something happens that will create the scenario.
It is a victim mentality, a time-waster, a destiny twister.
And there we saw the giants, the sons of Anak, which come of the giants: and we were in our own sight as grasshoppers, and so we were in their sight.
Num 13:33 (KJV)
How did these people know that they were like grasshoppers in other people’s eyes? It was their belief system.
When you go into a relationship with this mentality, the break up is guaranteed.
This mentality and feeling must be rejected.
Don’t go into a relationship believing that you will be abused. Don’t go into a relationship believing that you will be jilted. Don’t go into a relationship believing that you will be cheated and conned.
Don’t go into a relationship believing that you will be dumped and discarded. Don’t go into a relationship when you don’t even love yourself.
Believe the best of God. Love believes the best. Give yourself some hope, stay positive and constantly declare God’s word over your life.
I will stop here this morning.
May God bless your relationship!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I am loved of God
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, take away from me every negative spirit
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Num 13:33 (MSG) Why, we even saw the Nephilim giants (the Anak giants come from the Nephilim). Alongside them we felt like grasshoppers. And they looked down on us as if we were grasshoppers.”
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Confession God’s word over your life
1. Dating is an appointment between two people (not in a hotel or some guest house)
2. Dating is a meeting to conduct a long-range interview with the purpose of knowing a person.
3. The purpose of dating is to eliminate all surprises eventually if a romantic relationship ensues.
4. Dating seeks to know the person, not the body.
5. Dating is a discovery of who the person is, not what is under the clothes.
6. Once jeru trip is involved, the mind enters into confusion and you can no longer trust your judgment.
7. Dating seeks all information as regards the person in consideration, medical, spiritual, and all.
8. Dating helps you not to fall in love blindly.
9. Dating is perfectly okay for a child of God. However, meeting in his place or at some ungodly hour is not dating! When you are in a guy’s territory, anything can happen.
10. Finally, after dating, take everything back to God. Do all of this before any emotion is involved and let God guide you by His peace!
God bless your relationship.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be deceived
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, guide me by your shepherding grace
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 2Ti 2:22 (KJV) Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Talk to God every step of the way
Dressing matters a lot. Somebody said the way you dress is the way you will be addressed. Take a look at the below video and then we will get into this:
This video says it all. In no way should people come to church and then be distracted. Distractions are understandable out there, but certainly not in church!
People really want to come to church and be able to focus. You see, we need to understand this especially the ladies.
You see ladies don’t understand that men are moved by sight. The hanging cleavage, the rolling eyes, the flashing laps, the batting eyelids, the chewing of gum and smirking of lips, the seductive dance and gyrating.. all of these and more are killing for an average man.
Some people will say that dressing does not really matter, but the scriptures says otherwise.
Joseph had to change his raiment when he was summoned to the palace from the prison.
Then Pharaoh sent and called Joseph, and they brought him hastily out of the dungeon: and he shaved himself, and changed his raiment, and came in unto Pharaoh.
Gen 41:14 (KJV)
Joseph needed to change his clothes for his new address.
You have to be excited about your life, yes, your own life. You have been excited about other people’s lives, their achievements, their talents, their beauty, their intelligence and so on. It’s time you begin to get excited at God’s wonder called YOU.
Look into the mirror, and celebrate the lady or guy you see at the other side. Most times, we pretend to be too busy not to give a few second’s glance to appreciate ourselves.
Behind that busyness is an avoidance to notice how special and unique you are.
Life is in phases and the last minute that just went by now can never be re -lived again. It is gone forever. Whatever phase you are in, it is worth celebrating. Learn to capture moments, pause and celebrate the major character called you.
You are the major character that the whole of heavens is intently looking at. Your best days are not behind you, your best moment is here and here now. Tomorrow is a promissory note, but today is a gift.
Celebrate yourself because you made it through the night season and you are here now. Even if you are not sure how tomorrow will look like, you don’t have to forfeit the today you can see now.
I will confess and praise You for You are fearful and wonderful and for the awful wonder of my birth! Wonderful are Your works, and that my inner self knows right well.
Psa 139:14 (AMP)
Get excited about yourself and build a positive self-esteem and a positive atmosphere around you. Others will perceive this and it will make you attractive to them. When you get excited about your life, you are not living at the mercy of others. What people say or think about you does not really matter.
Some people are approval addicts. They go about seeking people’s approval. People that look forward to other people’s approval are never excited. They are too busy, pre-occupied with who is appreciating them. They are always looking for company.
Learn to be your best company. Some people can’t dance all by themselves in their own company. Some can’t laugh or give a little dance step all by themselves.
Ask yourself, can you recognize yourself if you were in another body? Some people don’t know half about the person under their skin.
You are great and unique. You are beautiful. You are talented. You are smart. You can make the right choices. You are intelligent. You are wise.
One of the reasons celebrating yourself is also good is that it keeps you in check. You cannot be smoking, drinking, gambling, having multiple sexual partners and be celebrating yourself at the same time. They don’t go together. When you get excited about your life, it helps you make better choices and vice versa.
Five ways to get excited about your life.
1. Be a grateful person A thankful heart is an excited heart.
2. Be real. Don’t live a fake life Seek help where necessary. Don’t fool yourself covering up or hiding some habitual sins. A double life cannot be an excited life. Seek counsel.
3. Be ready to learn every day Learn how to live life. There is a better way you don’t know. Learning makes life better.Learn more to have and be able to make better choices.
4. Be excited about knowing God Until you are excited about God and excited about knowing Him, you cannot be excited about your life. God is the author of your life, a discovery of Him is a discovery of your life.
5. Be ready to make better choices daily Your choices will make you. Right from the choice of thoughts you permit in your mind, to your words, your actions, your habits and of cause, your character. You can only be excited about your life when you have handled well all these other choices.
Never beat yourself down even when you fall or make a mistake. Be ready to go over the process again and you will see yourself getting excited about your life once again.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am wonderfully made
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me inner strength
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psa 139:14 (MSG) I thank you, High God—you’re breathtaking! Body and soul, I am marvelously made! I worship in adoration—what a creation!
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Pray about God’s plan for your life
In God, there will never, read that again, there will never be disappointments when you stay with Him. Everything in God is perfect. He is the master planner who never misses a bit. The problems we have are mostly self-inflicted.
Even at that, when we come back to God in repentance and ask for His mercy, He hears and ensures that our situation works together for our good and still ends up in victory.
Are you experiencing any form of delay? Are you getting tired of the whole thing and feeling like backing out on God?
Don’t!
The pressures are mounted when you are closest to your miracle!
When the heat is increased, victory is often near. When the fire was increased seven times more to fry the three Hebrew guys, Jesus Christ was near!
Then Nebuchadnezzar was filled with wrath, and the form of his face was changed against Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego. He spoke and commanded that they should heat the furnace seven times more than it was usually heated.
Daniel 3:19 (MKJV)
And these three men, Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego, fell down bound into the midst of the burning fiery furnace. [24] Then Nebuchadnezzar the king was amazed. And he rose up in haste and spoke and said to his advisers, Did we not throw three men bound into the middle of the fire? They answered and said to the king, True, O king.
Daniel 3:23-24 (MKJV)
The fire was heated seven times more, but the situation only became an opportunity for a miracle.
Let the fire burn, let the waters rush, let the storms roar, God is still God.
Hold on. Refuse to give up. Endure. Refuse every compromise.
A miracle waits for those who wait!
And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.
Galatians 6:9 (KJV)
It is when we faint not that we surely reap.
The delay eventually turns out to be a relay race, you are not out yet, you can still rejoice!
Keep serving Him. Keep keeping joy. Keep holding unto the word.
Your wedding will be a reality. God will ensure it.
Dream your miracle. Visualize the blessing. Imagine the reality, because you will soon see the travail of your heart.
I hear the sound of rejoicing on your behalf. I see God honouring His word in your life! Be blessed.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My miracle is here. No more delay.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, do a new thing in my life
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Galatians 6:9 (MSG) So let’s not allow ourselves to get fatigued doing good. At the right time we will harvest a good crop if we don’t give up, or quit.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Rejoice and be glad. Your miracle is here
This morning, I want to specifically talk about oral sex as one major type of perversion.
Synonyms for this oral thing include cunnilingus, fellatio, sixty-nine, oral-genital stimulation, blow-job, head, and more.
Listen to me, there is a spirit behind this act that is totally anti-God. I saw the activities of this demonic spirit in a vision of the night.
In a very sad realization, the spirit has crept into the church.
Sometimes back, I had to deal with this when God sent me to a young girl, less than 20. God showed me what she was doing, but all attempts for her to own up so that she can be restored fell on deaf ears.
For months, I was on her case, but she denied it all. Eventually, it was a story of cancerous growth in her mouth, and in less than a year, she was gone. Like a candle blown in the wind, her life was truncated. Cut off in the midst of her days.
Aside from the health implications, you don’t want to be in a spot where you offend God.
Let’s take a look at the scriptures.
For this is the will of God, that you should be consecrated (separated and set apart for pure and holy living): that you should abstain and shrink from all sexual vice, [4] That each one of you should know how to possess (control, manage) his own body in consecration (purity, separated from things profane) and honor, [5] Not [to be used] in the passion of lust like the heathen, who are ignorant of the true God and have no knowledge of His will,
1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 (AMPC)
A few things you should note in that place.
What is God’s will? I will tell you. It’s right there in that verse.
God’s will is that you are consecrated unto Him.
And then it says, look, the will of God is that you should be consecrated which means that you should abstain from all sexual vice and perversion!
Then it says that you should know how to possess, control, and manage your body in honor!
That oral thing is a dishonor to God and to your person. The act is derogatory in itself. Your body is not to be used in a passion of lust! God will never “understand” the oral thing as a substitute for fornication. It will never be acceptable, there is no point buying a lie from the devil. Keep your body in honour.
Anybody asking for your nude, sending stuffs to you, asking you for the oral thing is not a friend. He is an enemy; an enemy of your soul. Do you know there can be handsome enemies and beautiful destiny killers?
Every time you dabble into sexual sins, something dies around you. Opportunities, favors, God’s blessings are at risk when you do these things, and that is exactly what the devil wants; to keep you in the grip of iniquity.
But the scriptures says without mincing words;
For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace.
Romans 6:14 (KJV)
See the Message Translation as I conclude:
Sin can’t tell you how to live. After all, you’re not living under that old tyranny any longer. You’re living in the freedom of God.
Romans 6:14 (MSG)
Are you entangled in such? Time to quit!
Ask God to help you and cleanse you and for whatever reasons, never go back there again. Get accountable to someone. Let someone pray with you.
I pray that God will grant you more understanding.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am consecrated and delivered from perversion
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help to give up all sexual vice and perversion
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Romans 6:14 (AMPC) For sin shall not [any longer] exert dominion over you, since now you are not under Law [as slaves], but under grace [as subjects of God’s favor and mercy].
As we conclude on this topic, below are practical steps to take so as not to awaken love before time.
Our scripture remains
I charge you, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, by the roes, and by the hinds of the field, that ye stir not up, nor awake my love, till he please.
Son 3:5 (KJV)
1. Don’t visit at ungodly hours. He’s alone, living alone, and then you decide to visit by 9.00 pm. Are you going for a night vigil? Never visit a guy at a guest house, hotel etc.
2. Don’t go and cook dinner for a single guy. After dinner, certain things usually happen. Don’t try finding out.
3. When you are together, don’t rest your head on his laps. He’s going to get a hard-on, and things can get messy from there.
4. Don’t rub at his chest, beards, neck, and so on. Don’t lean over on his chest. The hands would want to get busy. Those could be erogenous areas that will weaken your resolve. It doesn’t mean if you just finished speaking in tongues.
5. Don’t talk dirty with each other. Don’t start asking for his view about sex. Things can get really crooked fast and you might be discussing pornography soon.
6. Don’t press your breasts on him, while deceiving yourself that you are praying together. You are not only stirring up love, you are setting him on fire. You, him, heaven, and hell know that you are not praying. You will trap yourself that way.
7. Don’t tease him Don’t ask questions like “Are you really a man?” Stop asking him if he can really perform on bed. At that point, it is not the devil tempting you, you are the one tempting the devil.
8. Avoid prolonged hugs, kissing, smooching, All in the name of greeting each other.
9. Stop discussing past sexual escapades. Stop telling him how many guys you have slept with. Stop describing graphically your past sexual escapades. If he is not a mature Christian, he will feel cheated and will want to have his way with you as well.
10. Stop watching romantic movies together. Your bodies will long for each other. If you continue, one day, you will find yourself in the land of perpetual compromise.
I can go on and on, but I’m sure you already have an idea of what I mean by saying you should not excite love. May God grant you more understanding.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not stir up love before time
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God will keep your feet strong
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 6:13 (KJV) Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Do not awaken love before time
There comes a time when love should be stirred up hundred percent, consistently, daily, and without caution. That is in the domain of marriage.
But as singles, you need to be careful around your loved one not to provoke him, especially, if he is keeping the faith and refusing to compromise.
You see when you are in love, your emotions are in overdrive most of the time, you are at the borderline of compromise and messing up most of the times you are together. You can help him a lot by your deliberate comportment.
Look at the scriptures:
I charge you, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, by the roes, and by the hinds of the field, that ye stir not up, nor awake my love, till he please.
Son 3:5 (KJV)
I charge you, O ye daughters of KHC! Do not stir up love until the right time.
Take a look at the Message Translation:
Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem, by the gazelles, yes, by all the wild deer: Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready.
Son 3:5 (MSG)
So, this is a warning to all ladies, do not excite love until the time is ripe and you are ready.
When will you be ready? You will be ready when you are married. At that time, you can excite love all day long. The angels will be clapping for you.
But if you excite love now, they will fly away. Lol
Let’s take a look at one more translation:
Young women of Jerusalem, swear to me by the gazelles or by the does in the field, that you will not awaken love or arouse love before its proper time.
Son 3:5 (GW)
There is a proper time.
Tomorrow, I will show you practical ways on how not to excite love before its time.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not partake in stirring up love before time
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God will keep you from stirring up love before time
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 6:13 (KJV) Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Don’t excite love till it’s time
Today I will share with you some helpful hints. A broken heart for a moment is better than a broken heart for life. You may want to carefully and prayerfully weigh your options and make your decision. Remember we make decisions and the decisions eventually make us.
1. Consider your future and destiny It is very important in falling in love to consider the future. Can you see him/her in the picture of your future? Is there destiny alignment? Are there things in destiny to accomplish together?
2. Consider your genotype For example, AS and AS is a no-go area. Don’t fall in love before finding out your genotype. A few days of pain and a broken heart is far better than a lifetime of pain and regret.
3. If he/she is an unrepentant sinner If he/she is an unbeliever or a believer who still enjoys habitual sin and is unrepentant. The things of God are taken with levity and he/she is making no efforts to draw closer to God. He or she does not go to church. A breakup may save you from a regretful future.
4. If there are a lot ofcharacter flaws Nobody is perfect but there are some character flaws that cannot be overlooked. If he or she drinks, smokes, womanizes, is a fraudster or engages in any form of violence, a break may be a better option.
5. If love is not genuine If the love is lopsided and he or she only loves you for what he can get from you a breakup is a better option. There is no genuine basis for the relationship.
6. If there is a major parental and family disapproval If prayers, efforts, and all possible options have been explored and yet there is strong parental disapproval despite prayers, you may want to consider a breakup. It may happen to be direction in the long run.
Remember that as a child of God, He wants the best for us and our future.
God bless you.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am wise in my decisions
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me a wise and understanding heart
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 16:9 (KJV) A man’s heart deviseth his way: but the LORD directeth his steps.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Consider these points and see if need be to break up
The Answer is No! You can marry an imperfect person because nobody is perfect. Nobody! We are all a work in progress.
But wait… let’s make some clarifications.
An imperfect person is not someone who is living in an unrepentant habitual sin, sinning willfully and enjoying the pleasures of sin.
In other words, I am saying, you cannot marry someone who is living consistently in habitual sin, with no remorse or repentance. Such a person is going get you into trouble and drag you into misery.
About being imperfect, the scriptures lets us know we will get better as we stay in the word, study the word, pray in the Spirit and pay attention to the things of the Spirit.
Is your lover doing all these?
Check the scriptures:
But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord.
2Co 3:18 (KJV)
Again we see here:
And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
Rom 12:2 (KJV)
We are promised a change as we pay attention to the word. This is entirely different from a habitual sinner. He is not interested in changing or getting better in God.
He may profess interest in change with his mouth, but his heart is far from that. He or she is not interested in God’s word, he is only religious, he goes to church.
He is a serial fornicator. He plays sport with sin. The Bible warns against such people.
Here are some clear instructions:
But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no not to eat.
1Co 5:11 (KJV)
You are not to be friends with such people not to talk of getting married to such because they probably have some money.
Amplified Bible puts it this way:
But now I write to you not to associate with anyone who bears the name of [Christian] brother if he is known to be guilty of immorality or greed, or is an idolater [whose soul is devoted to any object that usurps the place of God], or is a person with a foul tongue [railing, abusing, reviling, slandering], or is a drunkard or a swindler or a robber. [No] you must not so much as eat with such a person.
1Co 5:11 (AMPC)
Again take a look at the Message translation:
But I am saying that you shouldn’t act as if everything is just fine when one of your Christian companions is promiscuous or crooked, is flip with God or rude to friends, gets drunk or becomes greedy and predatory. You can’t just go along with this, treating it as acceptable behavior.
1Co 5:11 (MSG)
Let’s take a look at one more scriptures and I will rest my case:
I wrote you in my earlier letter that you shouldn’t make yourselves at home among the sexually promiscuous. [10] I didn’t mean that you should have nothing at all to do with outsiders of that sort. Or with crooks, whether blue- or white-collar. Or with spiritual phonies, for that matter. You’d have to leave the world entirely to do that! [11] But I am saying that you shouldn’t act as if everything is just fine when one of your Christian companions is promiscuous or crooked, is flip with God or rude to friends, gets drunk or becomes greedy and predatory. You can’t just go along with this, treating it as acceptable behavior.
1Co 5:9-11 (MSG)
I will have to stop here this morning.
May God grant you more understanding!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will hearken to God’s voice. I will work on myself till I am perfect.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God will perfect you
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1Co 5:11 (GW) Now, what I meant was that you should not associate with people who call themselves brothers or sisters in the Christian faith but live in sexual sin, are greedy, worship false gods, use abusive language, get drunk, or are dishonest. Don’t eat with such people.
