2. When you are in love with a married man or woman
If you have found yourself to have fallen in love with a married person, it will be good for you to also try and rise out of that love as soon as possible. It just would not work!
Oh, Pastor, it is just that married people are more mature in their thinking and know how to take care of someone. Is that all? What about the heartache and the agony a side chick will cause the rightful owner of the man? What about the unnecessary warfare emanating from the rightful owner that would be entered into?
When you are involved with a married person, chances are that you will soon be sexually involved, and that simply translates to adultery. It is graduation into unimaginable afflictions both for the man and the woman involved.
God will never answer those prayers when the prayer is indirectly saying that a person’s marriage should crash so that you can have your way! Adultery is a stupid sin because one loses at the end!
But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.
(Proverbs 6:32 KJV)
Here is the Message translation, which I like most
Adultery is a brainless act, soul-destroying, self-destructive;
3. When you are in love with an unbeliever
When you have fallen in love with an unbeliever, it is better you run away from such a person.
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It directly violates the principles of God and it is not just going to work out. Ok, you can say you will convert him later, but you are not the Holy Spirit. It is the Holy Spirit that convicts.
You can say, he is so caring, he is this and that…but when the chips are down, an unbeliever is capable of doing anything because he is under an influence.
Everybody you see on earth is under an influence, and it can either be positive or negative! The reason you find it difficult to leave such people is that you have been sexually involved.
A soul tie has been established and it should be broken in the name of Jesus.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage. I receive the strength to run away from every wrong relationship.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open my eyes to know who to run away from
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Proverbs 2:12 [KJV]To deliver thee from the way of the evil man, from the man that speaketh froward things;
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Review your thought pattern in light of the above and run away where necessary.
God gave each of us a brain so that He can rest. There are some things you should not pray about. There are people you should not fall in love with and in case you do, the only reasonable thing for you to do is to disconnect from them.
Don’t bother praying that God should approve your decision, which is clearly at loggerheads with His principles. God will not answer such prayers because He will not contradict His word.
Here are the scenarios that don’t need prayers or fasting. Don’t waste your time on them.
1. When you are in love with more than one person at a time
There is nothing as confusing and as unwise than to fall in love with more than one person at a time! The person involved will be disoriented, defocused, and disorganized.
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You will become deceptive in order to cover up. Then you will need to tell more lies in order to cover up the cover-ups!
God has not called you to this kind of lifestyle, and there is no way God will answer you when you start praying in such state of heart.
The first thing to do is to disconnect from both or all of them because, in reality, it could be one of the people you have fallen in love with or NONE of them!
But when you are asking God to approve what you have decided, something is wrong with that process and it doesn’t work that way! God is never mocked.
In the same way, married people are to focus on their spouse only and not direct their love to anybody aside from their spouses.
My husband wrote the first part of this devotional yesterday. I will be concluding on the other part this morning.
And I am excited because today is my birthday! God has been faithful to me.
Let’s get into the devotional….
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1. Let God be your foundation
Luk 6:48 He is like a man which built an house, and digged deep, and laid the foundation on a rock: and when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently upon that house, and could not shake it: for it was founded upon a rock.
2. Choose with God
Psa 11:3 If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?
3. It takes more than love to make a success of marriage
There are many ingredients that make a good marriage. Love is just one of them, find the other ingredients.
4. Get informed about marriage
Pro 4:7 Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.
5. Don’t sweep any character flaws under the carpet
6. No sex and all forms of sexual compromise before marriage.
7. Do not double date. It is a rehearsal for adultery in marriage
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8. Do not plant wrong seeds because you will really reap what you plant
9. Respect each other right from courtship days
10. Be a whole person before marriage. Marriage doesn’t make you whole
11. Be open and sincere about your past with each other. Open your baggage and discuss with each other.
12. Be friends and relate with each other as friends.
God bless your relationship.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I celebrate myself today and always
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Ask that God will prepare you for marriage.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
So basically, today is our wedding anniversary! It has been twenty-two years! God has been good. God has been good over us and our children.
It has not always been an express road with so smooth a ride, but it has been one filled with bumps and pot-holes!
However, our marital vehicle did not break down! God kept us. At some times, the engine nearly got knocked, but God did not allow it.
Below are twenty-two things we have learned in twenty-two years of marriage
1. God leads. He always does. Finding out His Will for your life is the most beautiful thing you can do.
2. God’s mercy is real. Without that mercy, nothing remains, really. That is why we are alive! That is why we have not been consumed.
It is of the LORD’S mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not.
Lam 3:22 (KJV)
3. Communication is key. The absence of it can lead to the marital life being maimed.
4. Become friends before becoming lovers. Don’t jump. Follow the process.
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5. Prayers are important. Talk to God about everything. I mean everything.
6. Be a voracious book reader. Read like your life depended on it.
7. Start your day with His word. That day will be blessed.
8. Loose living and an indisciplined sexual life will always terminate in regrets.
9. Get ready for the conflicts that come from male-female differences. Read ahead and be prepared to handle them.
10. Stay honest. Stay on the side of truth. The truth will always set free.
11. Be open with each other. It’s naked and not ashamed.
12. Be sacrificial. Seek to please your partner. That is the simple definition of marriage. Seeking to please him or her. You see, after pleasing God, the next person to please is your spouse.
To be continued tomorrow.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, increase my passion for my lover.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
We started on this yesterday. If you missed yesterday, read HERE
4. Two people who are sentimental
When two people who are sentimental get married, their lives will be devoid of principles that are meant to keep them focused and energetic in their marriage and home.
Two sentimental people will always judge a situation from a sentimental point of view rather than principles. In no time, they can ruin themselves because you cannot go very far living and swimming in the ocean of sentiments.
They would not be able to achieve much because they would have excuses for their mediocre lifestyles.
5. Two people who are often uncontrollably angry
Two angry people in a relationship and marriage cannot go far. See the scriptures:
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Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul (Proverbs 22:24-25 KJV)
The scripture here advises that you should not get involved with somebody that has anger problems and who refuses to work at it.
An angry man can take a knife or gun one day and end it all. An angry wife can ruin things in seconds.
Take a look at the Message Translation:
Don’t hang out with angry people; don’t keep company with hotheads. Bad temper is contagious–– don’t get infected (Proverbs 22:24-25 Message)
6. Two people who are deceptive
Another dangerous combo is ‘two people who are deceptive.’ They both operate under the delusion of grandeur. They tell themselves lies and refuse to confront each other.
They sweep things under the carpet and live under illusions. They deliberately flout God’s principles hoping that somehow things will work out.
Everybody around them wonders why they can’t see the obvious. They are unapproachable and unreachable. But the scripture is very clear:
Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.
(Galatians 6:7 KJV)
No matter how we pretend, we cannot mock God. You can do all of that with humans, but not with God. At the end of the day, it is not worth it to waste time on what would not work.
As singles and married couples, you are to deliberately work things out in your relationship or marriage and with the help of the Holy Spirit.
Here is what the scripture says:
…work out your own salvation with fear and trembling. (Philippians 2:12b KJV)
In courtship, you are to work things out. Courtship does not lead to marriage automatically, you are to work things out in your disposition, attitude, and reactions.
Now there are some couple combinations that are sure to crack along the way. When you find yourself in these spots, you need to seek help prayerfully and with a lot of wisdom to address the lurking issues. Here are those combinations:
1. Two people who are unbelievers
Two people who are unbelievers may love themselves, may be committed to each other, but when the storms of life come, they will fight their battles alone and you know, some of those battles can be very fierce.
They will not have God’s support since they don’t have a relationship with God. They will not have the benefit of sonship and it can be very intense! They need to connect with God!
2. Two people who are believers but refuse to grow
The second group of couples are those who may be believers but whose minds are not renewed. The only thing is that they already have a relationship with God, but apart from that, they are still carnal.
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They still do their stuff like unbelievers would do. They still want to have fun in forbidden areas and they still want to explore the perverse, which would often come with dire consequences.
My advice for couples in this group is that they seek help as soon as possible.
3. Two people where one is born again and the other is not
Here is another scenario that doesn’t always play out well, except with a lot of patience, prayers, and perseverance. I always advise singles, don’t think of getting married to someone who doesn’t have a relationship with God.
It would always be filled with challenges that you might have to fight alone because you are not agreed on your choice of weapons.
It can be frustrating while one is praying, the other is clubbing.
You want to pray, but he or she thinks you are just being fanatical. That can be very disconcerting, to say the least.
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not greedy.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to love correctly.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Joh 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son, that whosoever believes, should not perish, but have everlasting life.
First of all, there is a difference between one’s love language being “gifts” and when one is just being covetous or greedy.
If your fiancé/fiancée/spouse’s love language is gifts, what it means is that until you start appreciating him or her with gifts in a consistent manner, he or she will not feel loved.
How do you know if someone is not just being greedy?
1. Do or Die?
He will not always demand gifts in a do-or-die manner.
2. Love Gives
When you are in a relationship, and no gifts are forthcoming, there may be an issue there because love gives.
What if he or she has no money or has no job? As I said, a gift is a gift and it doesn’t have to be expensive. Writing her a poem is a gift!
Buying him one tiny little chocolate is a gift! What is important is not the gift itself, it is the gesture that brings assurance of being loved and cared for.
When you are able to give gifts in the midst of not too much provision, you will also be able to do so when you eventually have more income.
Your giving spirit is more of an attitude than spending power.
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3. Love is patient
He will not back out just because gifts are not forthcoming. She will not break the relationship because you are not financially buoyant.
4. He will not just be a receiver
He will not just be demanding while he folds his arms and never gives back. Love gives.
5. Giving Back
He will give away gifts too because that is the language he understands and that is what he craves. She would want to give back gifts as well.
6. Gift is not Payment
When a lady gives out her body for money, that is not about love language because what she gets is no longer ‘gifts’ it has become an illegal payment for services rendered and that is not God’s order.
7. Conclusion
In conclusion, and in expressing this language, let God’s word guide you and keep you within godly boundaries.
Don’t borrow to give gifts. Don’t take a loan just to impress someone. Don’t start what you cannot sustain. Don’t spend the money you don’t have to buy things that are not needed in order to impress people that are not looking.
May God grant more understanding!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not greedy.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to love correctly.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Joh 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son, that whosoever believes, should not perish, but have everlasting life.
Yesterday, we spoke extensively on the issue of soul ties. I explained how they are formed.
This morning, I will show you practical ways to break free from soul ties and mistakes of the past.
As singles, you should learn to put your body under. Your body ought not to dictate to you. Rather, you are to allow your spirit to gain ascendancy over your body! It is very possible to stay off a sinful lifestyle because the scripture is emphatic when it said, “Sin shall not have dominion over you.”
How do you break soul ties from past sexual mistakes?
1. Ask God to forgive you of the mistake
2. Repent and make up your mind not to do it again.
3. Fast and pray and ask God to severe every bonding and soul ties
4. Disconnect from such a person. Stop all the calls, chats, and pings.
5. Psalm 23 says, “He restoreth my soul!” Ask God to restore your soul
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6. Stop living in sin. Jesus told that woman, “Go and sin no more!”
7. Patiently wait for the salvation of God in your relationship. Don’t be hasty. Cooperate with God’s plan.
8. Believe that God has a plan for you and that the plan will become a reality.
9. Keep reading and studying God’s word. Your mind will be renewed over time. For example, if you can follow this devotional consistently, your mind will be renewed in this area and you will get to know a lot of things and be prepared for marriage. A lot of people have testified to that.
I pray for you this morning that God will grant you more understanding.
Right now, I exercise my authority as God’s servant, I break every form of soul ties that may exist in Jesus name.
I destroy every plan of hell over your destiny, I declare you free from consequences of past mistakes and I ask in the name of Jesus and by the power of the Holy Spirit, that your soul be restored now to God’s desire for you as an individual and in your relationship in Jesus name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am free because whosoever the son of man shall set free is free indeed!
PRAYER FOR THE DAY I destroy and severe every form of soul ties in Jesus name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY “Or do you not know and realize that when a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? The two, it is written, shall become one flesh. But the person who is united to the Lord becomes one spirit with Him.” (1Co 6:16-17, AMP)
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Sade and Tony have been engaged for only three months. But in the short time they were together, they could not remember as many times as they have had premarital sex. They practically used it to greet each other anytime they get to see.
But when they quarreled after three months, they parted their ways and went differently.
Somehow, they kept thinking of each other. They had moved on differently and each of them even have new relationships but they kept on thinking of each other.
What happened to them?
The reality is that they have what is called “soul tie!”
This is what sex does! How does this happen?
In marriage, sex brings a bonding between the couple, because that is one of the purposes of sex. It cements the couple and joins them together at the highest possible level. Their souls become knitted together. They become one. They are glued together, and God says nobody should put them asunder.
But outside marriage, there is also a bonding. It is just that it is another kind of bonding. It is an illegal bonding that gives access to the operation of demonic entities in one’s life. It is called soul ties.
This is what the scripture is talking about here:
“Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.”
(1Co 6:15-16, KJV)
Can you see that?
In sex before marriage, the two people also illegally become one body! They are not married, but there is an illegal bonding that gives access to legal operations of demonic activities because of disobedience.
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Message Translation puts it this way:
“There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, “The two become one.””
(1Co 6:16, MSG)
So we see that this is spiritual. As a matter of fact, when you get involved in sex with someone, you are actually having sex with everybody that person has had sex with! It is not uncommon to see a person suddenly stealing after being intimate with someone that steals!
There is nothing like casual sex. Nothing is casual about it, it is spiritual. There is nothing like one night stand. One night stand can lead to an eternity of woes and damnation.
There is nothing like a quickie outside marriage. One quickie and one’s destiny can be quickly set back by five years or more! This is just the reality!
You see, you need to understand that as a child of God, the devil is trying to trip you. And a lot of people have been tripped. Yes, you can ask for forgiveness, and God will forgive you and cleanse you but when you keep getting careless and you make this a habitual lifestyle, then you are cooperating with the devil for your destruction. It is as truthful as that.
So, what do you do?
I will conclude tomorrow. Don’t miss it.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am free because whosoever the son of man shall set free is free indeed!
PRAYER FOR THE DAY I destroy and severe every form of soul ties in Jesus name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY “Or do you not know and realize that when a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? The two, it is written, shall become one flesh. But the person who is united to the Lord becomes one spirit with Him.” (1Co 6:16-17, AMP)
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What is that one quality you should watch for in a prospective lover or spouse?
There are many qualities, and there are many attraction points, but one thing you should take into cognizance is what I want to talk about this morning.
This quality can preserve a couple and make their marriage last longer. I am talking about the quality of meekness.
What is meekness?
Meekness simply means being submissive, being teachable. Meekness is not weakness, rather it is strength under control
The Merriam-Webster Dictionary describes meekness as having or showing a quiet and gentle nature; not wanting to fight or argue with other people.
Let’s take a look at the scriptures:
Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; [4] But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a MEEK and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
1Pe 3:3-4 (KJV)
The scriptures advise that aside from the pulchritude, which is evident in adorning of the hair, use of jewelry, and nice wears, let there be an adorning of the heart as well, that is an ornament of MEEK and quiet spirit.
You see, we all come into relationships with baggage, baggage from the past, issues from past emotional upheavals, tensions arising from strained relationships in the past, highly opinionated postures emanating from parental upbringing, warped ideas resulting from emotional, verbal, sexual, and physical abuses, and the list goes on.
The only way we can survive in a relationship or marriage with all the undesirable and irritating baggage is to be MEEK!
To be teachable and submissive. That is the only way to make it in relationship and marriage
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A hard posture, statue-like stance in relationships will always almost destroy any courtship. Flexibility and willingness to adjust and learn new things will go a long way to add spice and fun to your relationship or marriage.
Even as a child of God, your success is predicated on continual renewal of mind, with the word of God. The word of God is the key to learning meekness. There is a change and a transformation that come into your life as you behold the word of God.
But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord.
2Co 3:18 (KJV)
If you are already in a relationship, that is one way to start changing. You cannot change your lover. If you attempt it, you will be frustrated. You are not equipped to change anybody. But with the word of God and its study, anybody can make a change in his or her life.
God loves those who are meek and teachable!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am meek and teachable for my lover
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, give me a teachable heart.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1Pe 3:4 (KJV) But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a MEEK and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
Writing letters is powerful. It is one of the most potent forces to stir, sustain and fuel love between two people. Interestingly, chatting, audio calls, and video calls have taken the place of letters, and yet none of those could do what a letter would have done.
E-mailing may be close to it, but there is nothing like that feeling of reading a letter from your lover in his or her handwriting.
Single or married, when last did you write a letter to your loved one?
Oh, Pastor, it’s old-fashioned Well, so is love! God wrote letters on stones for the children of Israel.
In the New Testament, God is still writing letters, but now He is writing His laws into our hearts directly!
Much of God’s love was communicated and expressed with love letters to us. The Bible is simply a book of letters to us.
Pauline’s epistles were letters.
Ye see how large a letter I have written unto you with mine own hand.
Gal 6:11 (KJV)
He kept on writing letters, and those letters are references all over the world today. His letters outlived him. Your letters are much more powerful than you.
It was said concerning Apostle Paul that
For his letters, say they, are weighty and powerful; but his bodily presence is weak, and his speech contemptible.
2Co 10:10 (KJV)
Did I write letters? I wrote volumes of them. Everything God told me, every dealings, every experience, the visions, and aspirations, were all succinctly communicated to my loved one while we were in courtship.
I wrote her I would preach. I wrote her we would preach together. I wrote her God told me I would teach about relationships as far back as 1997!
And that helped her significantly to cooperate with what God would do with my life. And those letters are still in our room today. Preserved on paper and on our hearts.
I have been writing KHC newsletters since 2007, and devotionals since 2010. Do you know that they are simply letters from me to you? Daily letters that have touched several lives across the globe. Daily letters that have saved many a relationship and marriage from the brink of an imminent crash.
If by reason of proximity, letter writing will be cumbersome, then do mails, and write the mails like letters.
Some of the most powerful blogs we have on earth today are simply letters, the communication of a deep-seated thought or an idea in someone’s heart.
So, why don’t pick your pen and do a letter to that loved one?
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And for those who have nobody writing any letters, I pray today, that God will cause your path to cross with that man or woman He has ordained for you in Jesus name.
Write a love poem. Write about how much you love him or her. Write about how much you value him or her.
Write on the picture you have in your heart about him or her that you’ve not been able to find words to communicate. Write about the qualities that endear him or her to you that you have never articulated before.
Write a letter and end that prolonged quarrel!
Write a letter today, and say something good from your heart. Appreciation that is not verbalized or documented dies eventually. And yet that appreciation can be the needed fuel for your loved one to keep going another mile!
May God grant you more understanding!
Have a blessed day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to communicate rightly with my lover through letters
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, increase my passion for my lover.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Write love letters to him/her
That has been a while o! Our first boy is out of University/College and the last is almost out of Secondary school/High school. God has been good.
But I still remember those lessons. Singles will learn from them. Let’s go!
Just like a pregnant woman, most of us are pregnant with greatness. Some of us are even having multiple pregnancies
Pregnancy with a woman begins with a seed from a man and a receptacle from a woman. In the same way, pregnancy of destiny and greatness in you begins with a seed.
What is that seed?
Now the parable is this: The seed is the word of God.
Luk 8:11
What is the receptacle?
When any one heareth the word of the kingdom, and understandeth it not, then cometh the wicked one, and catcheth away that which was SOWN IN HIS HEART. This is he which received seed by the way side.
Mat 13:19
The receptacle is your heart.
If there is the seed of the word, and you receive that word in your heart, you will conceive
Here are a few things about the pregnant woman.
1. A pregnant woman is often selective of what she eats
Not everything is safe for the baby. In the same way, not everything is safe for your consumption when you are pregnant with greatness. There are things you don’t eat. You let go of spiritual junk. For example, pornography and sexual looseness will not help the baby!
2. A pregnant woman often has strange appetites
Your appetite for the word must go beyond normal. You must have a “strange” appetite for devouring the word. This strange appetite can often come with a strange combination of food. Garden egg and butter! Lol…
In the same way, you study the word beyond what a normal person is doing. You must learn to combine Isaiah with John to sometimes get what you want for your baby!
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3. Another time comes and she eats everything in sight
She just wants to eat everything. In the same way, This book of the law shall not depart…
You read your Bible, listen to tapes, read books, yet you are not content.
Night unto night showeth knowledge… Your voracious appetite for God’s has word has no equal.
Thy words were found, and I did eat them; and thy word was unto me the joy and rejoicing of mine heart: for I am called by thy name, O LORD God of hosts.
Jer 15:16 (KJV)
So we see clearly, a part of the process of conception and delivery of every greatness has a lot to do with the word.
Keep taking the word. Your greatness is sure. There will be no greatness without the word. There will be no marriage without the word. Jesus Christ, the word himself was at the wedding at Cana of Galilee!
“In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. The same was in the beginning with God. All things were made by him; and without him was not any thing made that was made.”
Joh 1:1-3 (KJV)
Get in the word today! Conceive! Deliver! And your greatness shall be seen!
Have a blessed testimony-filled day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to feed rightly.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, increase my desire for the word.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psalms 19:2 Day unto day uttereth speech, and night unto night sheweth knowledge.
Have you laughed yet this morning? Oh, why not just go ahead and laugh right now. It’s so simple, isn’t it? And yet it’s so powerful!
The three-minute short video below explains why you should keep laughing. Quickly watch this to understand why you should keep laughing before reading on.
Isn’t that funny?
Take a look at the scripture again
Why do the heathen rage, and the people imagine a vain thing? The kings of the earth set themselves, and the rulers take counsel together, against the LORD, and against his anointed, saying, Let us break their bands asunder, and cast away their cords from us. HE THAT SITTETH IN THE HEAVENS SHALL LAUGH: the Lord shall have them in derision.
Psa 2:1-4 (KJV)
What we see as massive issues and problems, God is just laughing at them and you know what, He wants you to laugh along!
Why should you laugh? Because your victory is guaranteed.
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He that sits in heaven shall laugh and who is that? God! But then that’s not the end. Look at this scripture:
And hath raised us up together, and MADE US SIT TOGETHER IN heavenly places in Christ Jesus:
Eph 2:6 (KJV)
So what do we do? We laugh as well.
Rather than get bothered about being still single or experiencing delay, get rejoicing!
Every time you laugh about something, you are actually laughing about something! Because it’s the joy of the Holy Ghost, there are things He sees you cannot see…so you simply cooperate with His joy and flow with it!
No more sadness. No more depression! No more despondency!
Keep laughing and you will soon really laugh!
Good morning!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will rejoice evermore. No more sadness. No more depression. Celebration is my portion.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Bind the spirit of depression in your life
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Joh 16:24 (KJV)Hitherto have ye asked nothing in my name: ask, and ye shall receive, that your joy may be full.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Decide to be joyful and full of celebration.
Being joyous is a decision. It is not something that comes upon you. It is not a gift. It is not the reserve of some certain people. It is a decision that you must make in other to joyfully walk down the aisle.
Is it because you have not been found or you haven’t found as the case may be? That would not be enough reason to look sad and miserable. Decide to be joyful.
Years ago, in a revelation, God showed me a certain lady who was depressed most of the time. Do you know where this lady was sitting in that revelation?
She was in a pit. Deep down, sitting down and downcast. Moreover, the pit was dark. Extremely dark.
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Now the question is how will this lady even be found by any man in that position? Can you see the plans of the devil? It was thoughts of not been found that led her into depression and then the pit. Now, she is even more in a place where it is more difficult to find her. Which man will locate a lady in a dark pit?
This is how the devil plans and keeps God’s people bound! But you cannot be bound! We are not ignorant of the devices of the devil.
You’ve got to make up your mind and declare, “I refuse to be miserable. I refuse to yield to the strategies of the evil one!”
Decisions! It is a decision you must make, dear people of God.
The reason you are not joyful is not that you are not married, the reason you are not married is because you are not joyful.
Really? Do you know why? Because the joy of the Lord is your strength.
With that joy, you will procure the dividends of salvation.
You must not allow anybody or anything to steal your joy!
God bless you, have a great day.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to be joyful all day long.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Reject the spirit of depression.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Hab 3:17-18 (KJV) Although the fig tree shall not blossom, neither shall fruit be in the vines; the labour of the olive shall fail, and the fields shall yield no meat; the flock shall be cut off from the fold, and there shall be no herd in the stalls: [18] YET I WILL REJOICE IN THE LORD, I WILL JOY in the God of my salvation.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Sing, shout, jump, do anything to stay joyful.
Two days back in church, we had a strong move of the spirit and below is a short snippet of what went up in the Holy Ghost! Dive into it and experience a rush of joy in your spirit before continuing reading.
Did you feel lifted after watching? I bet you did! You see, you can’t allow anything or anybody or the devil to ever steal, tinker or tamper with your joy!
No wonder the Bible says the joy of the Lord is your strength!
Then he said unto them, Go your way, eat the fat, and drink the sweet, and send portions unto them for whom nothing is prepared: for this day is holy unto our Lord: neither be ye sorry; FOR THE JOY OF THE LORD IS YOUR STRENGTH.
Neh 8:10 (KJV)
That is powerful.
The topic above says your spouse is right inside your joy. The question is how is that?
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Take a look at the scripture:
Therefore with joy shall ye draw water out of the wells of salvation.
Isa 12:3 (KJV)
The word for salvation in the original Hebrew means:
a) welfare, prosperity b) deliverance c) salvation (by God) d) victory
So it takes joy to draw all of these out? Including welfare! Victory in relationship and marriage! You see why everything you are looking for and trusting God for is in your joy?
Keep your joy on! Don’t let anything steal your joy! No wonder the devil seeks to attack our joy all the time! He knows that once we lose our joy, we lose a lot of things!
Decide to keep your joy intact, in all situations, at all times, all day and you will surely have the victory!
Praise be to the Lord!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY The joy of the Lord is my strength
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, cause me to experience joy unspeakable
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Isa 12:3 (KJV)Therefore with joy shall ye draw water out of the wells of salvation.
How will you know if your lover truly loves you or not?
He will love God first
This is the first acid test to know whether a man would really love you appropriately or understands what love is.
Listen to me, guys, you will never be able to love a lady the right way until you love God first.
You don’t love a woman with money alone or with fame, otherwise, the love tangos of celebrities should have been successful, but that is not always the case. The fundamental cause of marriage failure among them is that they don’t know God.
God is love and love without God is no love, it becomes lust
Is he a God-lover? If he has issues with loving God, he will have issues with loving you. True love can only be shed abroad in your heart by the Spirit of God.
It is only the God factor in a man that won’t allow him to lift up his hands against his wife in the days on anger.
Will those days come? Yes, they will come, but what will restrain a man from the tendency of beating and battering his wife is that fear of God.
So then, Pastor, how do you know a man that loves God?
a. He would want to obey God always. If you love God, you will keep His commandments. That is what Jesus said. He wouldn’t be insisting on pre-marital sex.
b. He will serve God with his time. He wouldn’t be too busy to serve God in any capacity.
c. He will serve God with his finances. He will not struggle with tithe. That is how you know a man that really loves God.
d. He will listen to his pastor or mentor. If a man loves God, he wouldn’t have problems with the servants of God.
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e. He doesn’t joke with his devotional life. He knows that is the source of his strength in God.
f. He will not manipulate your emotions or try to use you. The fear of God in him would not allow all that.
g. He will not be “okay” with habitual sins. He will be uncomfortable with offending God in anyway.
h. He will not be able to accommodate strife for too long. He will be forgiving and will not be comfortable quarreling for extended number of days without feeling bad about that attitude.
I can go on and on but those are just a few.
At the background of all these, however is the fact that nobody is perfect, and nobody will have it all. You will never be able to see a man that has it all. We are all “works of project” in the making.
So there may be mistakes here and there, but you will see signs of genuine repentance and willingness to make adjustments.
At the height of all these, do you have peace? If you have peace, then go ahead, irrespective of some imperfections. When I say, imperfections, I don’t mean consistent habitual sins!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am led by the Spirit of God
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me in the way to go and guide my feet into your plans
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY “No one who abides in Him [ who lives and remains in communion with and in obedience to Him—deliberately, knowingly, and habitually ] commits (practices) sin. No one who [ habitually ] sins has either seen or known Him [ recognized, perceived, or understood Him, or has had an experiential acquaintance with Him ].” (1Jn 3:6, AMP)
That is the name he usually calls her. As he held her hands and looked into her eyes, Angie tried to look back into his eyes and beyond the words, to really find out if Buddy meant his words, but she couldn’t decipher anything.
“Well, I am not sure” replied Angie.
“Why would you say that,” Buddy said, still holding her hands.
“You are going for NYSC next week, I am not sure what you will come back with.”
“Oh, common, Angie, we have been together for four years now and by the grace of God, we will get married soonest. You have no reasons to doubt me.”
“I don’t doubt you, but I get scared sometimes.”
“Angie now, why would you be scared?”
“You know what happened….”
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“Don’t go there!” Buddy cuts in, raising his voice a bit. “I have already asked for forgiveness and that it wouldn’t happen again. I thought you have forgiven me?”
And they went on and on.
Angie has her fears because of the mistake that Buddy made of recent with another girl that he slept with whom he initially claimed he was mentoring. How did a protégée end up in bed? What type of mentoring is that? There is a difference between a mentor and a tormentor!
Angie wasn’t sure whether it was a genuine mistake or a state of his heart. If it is a state of his heart, then he would still do it again.
But the dilemma is that you cannot enter a man’s heart.
Only someone knows the heart of a man, and that is God. Angie knows she would need God to really make up her mind, as she wouldn’t want to be hurt and disappointed again.
How do you know a man’s heart? How do you know a guy who loves you and will eventually marry you? That will be our subject of discourse tomorrow morning.
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CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am led by the Spirit of God
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me in the way to go and guide my feet into your plans
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY “No one who abides in Him [ who lives and remains in communion with and in obedience to Him—deliberately, knowingly, and habitually ] commits (practices) sin. No one who [ habitually ] sins has either seen or known Him [ recognized, perceived, or understood Him, or has had an experiential acquaintance with Him ].” (1Jn 3:6, AMP)
Here is a true story. A woman was having tremendous challenge in her matrimonial home. She had this friend she would always discuss with. The friend told her she is being stupid and that she needed to teach her husband a lesson by packing out. She did.
She packed out and later informed her Pastor what she has done. Her pastor told her to go back to her house before he would say anything. This is after a few days.
Out of respect for her Pastor, she obliged. She got back home with her loads and knocked. When the door was opened, lo and behold, the person she saw was her friend in a towel.
Life is about association. Your level of productivity is often determined by the people you associate with. The same way, your failure is sealed when you walk with foolish people who have no regard for God.
Your relationship decisions are influenced by the choice of your friends. The people you know and you have access to in the days of challenges will determine whether that challenge will crush you or will be crushed.
The relationship and marriage mentors you have will often be the thin line between divorce and victory in marriage.
Most often than not, your relationship or courtship will survive not based on your wisdom alone but on the wisdom you are able to garner from those that have done what you are trying to do. Do you have one?
If you associate for long with a monkey, you will learn how to jump on trees. If you lie down with a dog, you will rise up with fleas. It is all about laws of connections and relationships.
That boyfriend that is always paying for abortion as a result of jeru trip is really an enemy.
That friend that introduced you to that underground jeru trip chain so you can earn dollars is an enemy. You see, your destiny is in contention.
Who is your friend? Your friend is the definition and description of your life. The future of your friend is the picture of your future. Watch the friends you have. Friendship is by choice and not by force.
Can you confidently introduce your friends to your pastor or parents?
Most young people who suddenly find themselves in prostitution were not really decided on doing that, they were introduced by friends.
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If your friend is promiscuous, you will eventually become one. If your friend is a goal getter, you will eventually become one. The same way, if your friend is a gold digger, you will eventually become one.
He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.
Pro 13:20 KJV
Message translation
Become wise by walking with the wise; hang out with fools and watch your life fall to pieces.
Pro 13:20 MSG
You must review your friends from time to time. Any friend that is not adding value to you should be disconnected from.
Friendship is an issue of life and so friendship decisions must not be subjected to sentiments. A friend that is always looking out for ‘jists’ on the next bad thing is an enemy in disguise.
Someone once said that your wisdom level is the level of wisdom your circle of friends have. Someone else said that if you are the smartest among your friends, it is time to look for better friends because you are adding to them while you are gaining nothing.
May God grant us more understanding.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not associate with the wrong person.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to disconnect from those who are not adding to me in any way.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed. (Proverbs 13:20 KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Disconnect from all wrong associations.
Whatever you eat is what you will use to live in your relationship. That is just the reality. You cannot afford to marry a starved person.
The short humorous video (extremely funny) below summarizes what we are looking at this morning. Take a moment to watch it right away
As a single, you have to find what to eat. This is a responsibility all believers have.
When you really want to eat, we are not talking about Golden Morn or nodules. You go for real food when you really want to “jeun soke!”
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It is the same in the realm of the spirit. You have to sit down with God’s word and study extensively. You have to eat to your satisfaction. Eating well takes time in preparation.
Refusal to study God’s word can be likened to a watery stew that has no taste. There is nothing to enjoy there. Do you really want to enjoy your relationship? Then eat well and make sure you marry somebody who has spiritual stamina by reason of what he or she has eaten.
The smell of food never satisfies until you taste it. Tasting is never like eating.
When we hear a revelation on Television or in a conference that blesses us, you have just smelt it, now you need to go home and sit down to really make your own food based on the smell and then cook your own revelation. That is when you really get blessed.
My soul shall be satisfied as with marrow and fatness; and my mouth shall praise thee with joyful lips:
Psa 63:5 (KJV)
People of God, this is how things work. Let’s get into real business as we eat well concerning areas where we are believing God.
May God grant you more understanding and bless the works of your hands today.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I receive the grace to eat well for my marital destiny
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Ask for wisdom and understanding
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Jeremiah 15:16 (KJV)Thy words were found, and I did eat them; and thy word was unto me the joy and rejoicing of mine heart: for I am called by thy name, O LORD God of hosts.
As a single, your greatest asset is not your hips, tips, boobs, complexion, baritone voice, your looks, skills, degrees, background, wealth, sonorous voice, beauty, or any other physical attribute.
It is your character.
Your character is the real you. Not who you profess to be or what people say you are. You can never run away from your character.
A Yoruba adage says, your character is like smoke, you can never hide it for too long. It will always surface.
Young ladies, don’t focus on that which is ephemeral. It is not a big deal to make yourself beautiful.
All you need is some good, quality make-up. A dark-skinned lady can become fair by virtue of the different toning creams available.
A guy can look polished, well packaged with all the six-packs, but really who is he?
A guy may look very responsible and mature, but may not be in actual fact. Remember looks can be deceptive.
The good news is that you can develop your character. You can develop a positive character that will add value to you and not make you a liability in marriage.
Nobody is left out of this quest to develop proper winning character. So don’t ever think you are alone or get overwhelmed with developing your character.
As singles, your priority is to put your strength to improve your character.
Some people will adamantly stick to the character flaws and excuse them away. Some will even pretend and push their negative characters deep down so people will not easily notice.
Whatever negative tendencies you have are to be confronted, dealt with, and replaced with positive ones.
There are a thousand and one character flaws. Some are very glaring, while others are very subtle and hidden.
Whichever way, every negative character will be brought to full view in marriage no matter how long it takes.
God and His word, with our cooperation can help us to develop positive character.
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Our present character is formed basically by our thoughts. Our thoughts become our words. Our words become our actions, our actions become our habits and our habits form our character.
We developed our present character through a process and it will also take a process to unlearn the negative character and develop new ones.
Roms 12:2 tells us to be transformed by the renewing of our minds.
And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
Rom 12:2 (KJV)
In other words, we allow God’s word and His Holy Spirit to change our thoughts, which will change our words, which will change our actions, change our habits and then ultimately change our character.
No matter what your character is today, you can change it for good. The earlier you take up this task the better for you.
The character flaws you don’t deal with now as a single will roar at you in marriage.
Whatever bad tendencies you have now can be replaced with goodly and godly character.
As a single, you have no business chasing only funfair while your major course is left unattended. It’s a gross mistake, don’t fall for it.
