She woke up with a start. Impulsively and almost uncontrollably, she bellowed “the blood of Jesus!” His face scared her a little. She had forgotten she got married a day before!
I want a handsome man! He has to be fine!
I want a TDH – Tall, Dark, and Handsome!
Yes, all these are okay, handsome men are cool.
Besides, who wants to marry a man that makes you scream “the blood of Jesus” when you wake up in the morning as you behold his face?
You want to wake up in the morning, take a look at his face, and be filled with the Holy Ghost afresh, burst out in singing in tongues! Isn’t that more wonderful?
However, handsomeness is not only about the face, but also about the heart!
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What is the point of a handsome face sitting upon a wicked heart? And yet, this has been the lot of not a few.
There are handsome men that are wicked. There are handsome men that are cheats. There are handsome men that are evil. There are handsome men that are rapists. There are handsome men that are adulterers.
But there are handsome men that are good men and faithful men. That is what you should pray for, that is what you should trust God for, that is what you should aspire for, and that is what you should settle for.
The face is the pulchritude, the heart is the hidden man. Find out about the hidden man before you fall in love with the face.
His behaviors will not come from his handsome face, they would take source from the heart.
Beware of the heart that despises God. Never fall in love with such hearts. Beware of the heart that mocks God. Beware of the heart that belittles your God. Beware of the heart that disregards your God
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will marry rightly. I will marry someone whose handsomeness reaches the heart
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, lead me to the right person for me. Let me not be deceived with handsomeness.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Isaiah 30:21 [KJV] And thine ears shall hear a word behind thee, saying, This is the way, walk ye in it, when ye turn to the right hand, and when ye turn to the left.
That word means “romantic.” Spirituality should never in any way disturb being a romantic lover, single or married.
The synonyms of “romantic” include loving, amorous, passionate, tender, affectionate, lovey-dovey. Speaking in tongues should not disturb speaking sweet things to your lover.
One is to God, the other is to your lover. After you have done the one for God, do the one for your lover as well.
Let your relationship or marriage be characterized with an expression of love. Be passionate towards him or her.
Before wedding, “passionate’ does not include kissing, smooching, and sex. It includes calling regularly, doting on each other, praying for one another, sending loving (not vulgar or perverse) texts to each other (not sexting), buying each other flowers, chocolates, special gifts, and doing memorable things together.
Being romantic is not being full of lust.
In the Old Testament, honeymoons last as long as one year!
Deu 24:5 (KJV) When a man hath taken a new wife, he shall not go out to war, neither shall he be charged with any business: but he shall be free at home one year, and shall cheer up his wife which he hath taken.
God wants you to enjoy each other!
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In the New Testament, God wants you to have honeymoon for life! Enjoy every day of your married life! Sadly enough, by first week of most marriages, it is only the moon they can find, no honey! That will not be your portion in Jesus name!
The Bible clearly advocates that married couples enjoy themselves sexually and otherwise.
Pro 5:18-19 (KJV) Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. [19] Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
There is nothing wrong about fantasizing about your spouse! It is godly. Take a look at the Message Translation:
Pro 5:18-19 (MSG) Bless your fresh-flowing fountain! Enjoy the wife you married as a young man! [19] Lovely as an angel, beautiful as a rose— don’t ever quit taking delight in her body. Never take her love for granted!
Everybody reading this, including myself would have done some foolish things in time past, so nobody is really exempt and this is not to condemn or indict anybody.
Every man has his share of mistakes, but the wisdom in past foolishness is learning from them and adjusting accordingly. So the pertinent question this morning is, “Am I doing something foolish presently unknowingly? Have I been entangled in the web of foolishness without knowing?”
It is important to take an inventory of yourself because the foolishness of the foolish does not allow him to identify his foolishness, he sometimes thinks, the wise are the foolish ones!
Sometimes, you need the help of another to be able to see your foolishness because foolishness blinds.
In Matt. 23:17, 19, Luk.11:40 and Luk. 24:25, Jesus actually referred to some people as fools.
So, who is a foolish man? Who will God call a foolish man or woman? Let’s learn a few things from Solomon, a once wisest man on the planet. We cannot exhaust all but here are a few.
1. A foolish lover despises wisdom and instruction
The reverent and worshipful fear of the Lord is the beginning and the principal and choice part of knowledge [its starting point and its essence]; but fools despise skillful and godly Wisdom, instruction, and discipline.
Pro 1:7 AMP
A wise man knows that the starting point of life is to be a God worshipper and a lover of God. He is apt to want to learn the things of God. A foolish man on the other hand will not appreciate or value wisdom.
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2. A foolish person makes fun of God and dislikes knowledge
“How long will you childish people love your childish ways? How long will you rude people enjoy making fun of God and others? How long will you foolish people hate knowledge?
Pro 1:22 NIrV
A foolish man laughs at the things and ways of God. He practically hates knowledge. He never reads any books. He or she prefers to spend time jesting, watching films lazily, and such things rather than seeking to improve himself.
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I do not do things foolishly.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me wisdom for living.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Prov 1:7 [NET]Fearing the Lordis the beginningof moral knowledge, butfoolsdespisewisdom and instruction.
Somebody said the most complex being that God created is a woman. I am not sure whether to agree to that. I leave you to conclude and be the judge. Perhaps, people will have different opinions based on their experiences.
I believe every lady has a key. And you don’t need to search for the keys of every woman. You only need one key, the one for your spouse! That’s all.
Once you have that key, you are good. Now, this key is not meant to be used to manipulate her emotions, where you become the master puppeteer with all the strings.
What we are talking about is having your fiancee’s password, learning it, using it to please her, and seeking to understand the great help that God is bringing into your life.
Our culture or environment might be saying you are doing a woman a favour when you marry her, but it is the other way round.
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When you find a woman, you find good and you bring favour into your life. Good things will begin to aggregate in your life!
That is why I normally pray for people, “You will not Shi-Marry! Bad English, good prayer! Because when you get married to the right woman, good things will happen to you. Conversely, if you get married to the wrong woman, it is like inviting a nemesis into one’s life!
May your path not cross with a strange woman who flatters with her mouth and whose path leads to hell. That is exactly what the scripture says!
It will do you well to understand the lady in your life, whether you are single or married.
Here are two things every lady wants her man to do daily.
1. Pray for or with her daily
That is very important. Thank God for your six-packs, but without some spiritual perks, you are finished.
Thank God for your phonetics, but if you don’t know how to speak in tongues, you are not ready to face the battles that come with raising a family and overcoming them.
Thank God for your bank account, but if you are spiritually bankrupt and you don’t know how to lead your family as a priest, trouble looms ahead.
2. Tell her “I love you” regularly, and mean it!
How can this be on the list? Well, that is very important to every lady. Women go through a variety of complex emotions that are often accompanied by self esteem issues, they just needed to be affirmed over and over again especially by the one they love!
Don’t allow people outside to help you complement your loved one outside lest she becomes distracted. How long do I have to do that daily? Well, maybe as often as you can. Do it as often as you have the opportunity.
Your fiancee lives on words. That is why average, women talk more than men. An average man speaks ten thousand words daily while an average woman is doing twenty-five thousand! Isn’t that huge?
She loves to be tickled with words. She might be acting like she is not enjoying it, but in reality she is. She is putting up that attitude because she wants more.
So when you tell your lady “I love you,” She goes like, hmmm…as if she is doubting you. In reality, within her, she doesn’t want you to stop and she wants you to repeat it again.
Let me pray for you this morning: I come against that wrong spirit in your relationship, I curse the spirit behind misunderstanding, quarrels, bitterness and acrimony. I destroy their powers in the name of Jesus. I release over you the balm of Gilead and I ask for healing over every hurt and wounds in the name of Jesus.
By the strength of my call, I ask that the love of God be shed abroad in your heart right now, I command every veil to be removed and I speak healing over your relationship/marriage in Jesus name! I declare you are free from that attack in Jesus name.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will love my spouse in God’s terms
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to end all issues leading to constant strife
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY “The same goes for you husbands: Be good husbands to your wives. Honor them, delight in them. As women they lack some of your advantages. But in the new life of God’s grace, you’re equals. Treat your wives, then, as equals so your prayers don’t run aground.” (1Pe 3:7, MSG)
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When you are in love with one that beats you and then sleeps with you and you are not yet married, you don’t need to pray. You just need to pack your things and leave that guy or lady alone! A lady can also abuse a guy in some extreme cases, not really beating with her hands, but with her money!
You don’t even need counseling, you just need common sense!
But Pastor, it is not easy! Okay, so it is easy to be beaten daily? And then be seen as a sex toy to satisfy the lust and the cravings of a depraved person who will not eventually marry you?
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“Oh Pastor, he is actually a nice person! It’s just that he has anger issues” Really? So who says you are the recipient of the anger tantrums whose cause you know nothing about? All in the name of love? Nah! It is not so from the beginning! God never meant for any of us to find ourselves in some abusive, manipulative, and basest of all lust! That is not love!
Why subject yourself to such harrowing experiences? Common, free yourself as a bird and flee away! That is why God gave you legs! Run! Run run! There is fire on the mountain and that fire burns!
Go and wait for God’s plan for your life rather than trying to create a plan for yourself!
Our soul is escaped as a bird out of the snare of the fowlers: the snare is broken, and we are escaped.
Psa 124:7 (KJV)
You can only pray in this scenario if you are already married because God’s first option is not always to divorce! And if the abuse continues unrepentantly to the point your life is threatened, then you have a decision to make.
I pray for you this morning and every area of your life where you need to make a decision in other to please God, God will strengthen you in Jesus name.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open my eyes to know who to run away from
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Proverbs 2:12 [KJV]To deliver thee from the way of the evil man, from the man that speaketh froward things;
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Review your relationship in light of the above.
4. When you are in love with your Pastor who is married
This one may sound ridiculous, but trust me, it happens every day, I am a counselor!
A lot of ladies fall in love easily with their pastor because he is anointed and they listen to him every time. It is so easy to fall in love with your pastor, but when a Pastor who is married has fallen in love with you as well, it is better and wise to leave that church as soon as possible, because if you don’t, you will ruin yourselves!
By the time he is making advances at you, you should find another church! There is a difference between a hireling and a pastor! Don’t bother to pray that God should work it out! Are you praying that God should kill the Pastor’s wife?
If you have been sexually involved or manipulated by your pastor, leave that church. He might be a prophet or an apostle, if you are sleeping together, leave that church and leave that man!
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You say he is a spiritual father, he is married and yet sleeping with you? He is not a spiritual father; he is a spiritual nemesis! Run away! Avoid him!
Don’t bother praying. It is like both of you are sitting on a bomb, and it is better to disappear from that church! Don’t waste your time asking for His will. His will is clear, disconnect from such a relationship so that you will not delay yourself in your marital journey!
He is never going to leave his wife as he is promising you. All those lies are manipulations to keep you down in the sexual adventure.
At such scenarios, you don’t deceive yourself, you tell yourself the truth so that the truth can set you free.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open my eyes to know who to avoid in life
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Proverbs 2:12 [KJV]To deliver thee from the way of the evil man, from the man that speaketh froward things;
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Review your relationship in light of the above and mark out those to avoid.
2. When you are in love with a married man or woman
If you have found yourself to have fallen in love with a married person, it will be good for you to also try and rise out of that love as soon as possible. It just would not work!
Oh, Pastor, it is just that married people are more mature in their thinking and know how to take care of someone. Is that all? What about the heartache and the agony a side chick will cause the rightful owner of the man? What about the unnecessary warfare emanating from the rightful owner that would be entered into?
When you are involved with a married person, chances are that you will soon be sexually involved, and that simply translates to adultery. It is graduation into unimaginable afflictions both for the man and the woman involved.
God will never answer those prayers when the prayer is indirectly saying that a person’s marriage should crash so that you can have your way! Adultery is a stupid sin because one loses at the end!
But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.
(Proverbs 6:32 KJV)
Here is the Message translation, which I like most
Adultery is a brainless act, soul-destroying, self-destructive;
3. When you are in love with an unbeliever
When you have fallen in love with an unbeliever, it is better you run away from such a person.
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It directly violates the principles of God and it is not just going to work out. Ok, you can say you will convert him later, but you are not the Holy Spirit. It is the Holy Spirit that convicts.
You can say, he is so caring, he is this and that…but when the chips are down, an unbeliever is capable of doing anything because he is under an influence.
Everybody you see on earth is under an influence, and it can either be positive or negative! The reason you find it difficult to leave such people is that you have been sexually involved.
A soul tie has been established and it should be broken in the name of Jesus.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage. I receive the strength to run away from every wrong relationship.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open my eyes to know who to run away from
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Proverbs 2:12 [KJV]To deliver thee from the way of the evil man, from the man that speaketh froward things;
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Review your thought pattern in light of the above and run away where necessary.
God gave each of us a brain so that He can rest. There are some things you should not pray about. There are people you should not fall in love with and in case you do, the only reasonable thing for you to do is to disconnect from them.
Don’t bother praying that God should approve your decision, which is clearly at loggerheads with His principles. God will not answer such prayers because He will not contradict His word.
Here are the scenarios that don’t need prayers or fasting. Don’t waste your time on them.
1. When you are in love with more than one person at a time
There is nothing as confusing and as unwise than to fall in love with more than one person at a time! The person involved will be disoriented, defocused, and disorganized.
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You will become deceptive in order to cover up. Then you will need to tell more lies in order to cover up the cover-ups!
God has not called you to this kind of lifestyle, and there is no way God will answer you when you start praying in such state of heart.
The first thing to do is to disconnect from both or all of them because, in reality, it could be one of the people you have fallen in love with or NONE of them!
But when you are asking God to approve what you have decided, something is wrong with that process and it doesn’t work that way! God is never mocked.
In the same way, married people are to focus on their spouse only and not direct their love to anybody aside from their spouses.
My husband wrote the first part of this devotional yesterday. I will be concluding on the other part this morning.
And I am excited because today is my birthday! God has been faithful to me.
Let’s get into the devotional….
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1. Let God be your foundation
Luk 6:48 He is like a man which built an house, and digged deep, and laid the foundation on a rock: and when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently upon that house, and could not shake it: for it was founded upon a rock.
2. Choose with God
Psa 11:3 If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?
3. It takes more than love to make a success of marriage
There are many ingredients that make a good marriage. Love is just one of them, find the other ingredients.
4. Get informed about marriage
Pro 4:7 Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.
5. Don’t sweep any character flaws under the carpet
6. No sex and all forms of sexual compromise before marriage.
7. Do not double date. It is a rehearsal for adultery in marriage
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8. Do not plant wrong seeds because you will really reap what you plant
9. Respect each other right from courtship days
10. Be a whole person before marriage. Marriage doesn’t make you whole
11. Be open and sincere about your past with each other. Open your baggage and discuss with each other.
12. Be friends and relate with each other as friends.
God bless your relationship.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I celebrate myself today and always
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Ask that God will prepare you for marriage.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
So basically, today is our wedding anniversary! It has been twenty-two years! God has been good. God has been good over us and our children.
It has not always been an express road with so smooth a ride, but it has been one filled with bumps and pot-holes!
However, our marital vehicle did not break down! God kept us. At some times, the engine nearly got knocked, but God did not allow it.
Below are twenty-two things we have learned in twenty-two years of marriage
1. God leads. He always does. Finding out His Will for your life is the most beautiful thing you can do.
2. God’s mercy is real. Without that mercy, nothing remains, really. That is why we are alive! That is why we have not been consumed.
It is of the LORD’S mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not.
Lam 3:22 (KJV)
3. Communication is key. The absence of it can lead to the marital life being maimed.
4. Become friends before becoming lovers. Don’t jump. Follow the process.
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5. Prayers are important. Talk to God about everything. I mean everything.
6. Be a voracious book reader. Read like your life depended on it.
7. Start your day with His word. That day will be blessed.
8. Loose living and an indisciplined sexual life will always terminate in regrets.
9. Get ready for the conflicts that come from male-female differences. Read ahead and be prepared to handle them.
10. Stay honest. Stay on the side of truth. The truth will always set free.
11. Be open with each other. It’s naked and not ashamed.
12. Be sacrificial. Seek to please your partner. That is the simple definition of marriage. Seeking to please him or her. You see, after pleasing God, the next person to please is your spouse.
To be continued tomorrow.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, increase my passion for my lover.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
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4. Two people who are sentimental
When two people who are sentimental get married, their lives will be devoid of principles that are meant to keep them focused and energetic in their marriage and home.
Two sentimental people will always judge a situation from a sentimental point of view rather than principles. In no time, they can ruin themselves because you cannot go very far living and swimming in the ocean of sentiments.
They would not be able to achieve much because they would have excuses for their mediocre lifestyles.
5. Two people who are often uncontrollably angry
Two angry people in a relationship and marriage cannot go far. See the scriptures:
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Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul (Proverbs 22:24-25 KJV)
The scripture here advises that you should not get involved with somebody that has anger problems and who refuses to work at it.
An angry man can take a knife or gun one day and end it all. An angry wife can ruin things in seconds.
Take a look at the Message Translation:
Don’t hang out with angry people; don’t keep company with hotheads. Bad temper is contagious–– don’t get infected (Proverbs 22:24-25 Message)
6. Two people who are deceptive
Another dangerous combo is ‘two people who are deceptive.’ They both operate under the delusion of grandeur. They tell themselves lies and refuse to confront each other.
They sweep things under the carpet and live under illusions. They deliberately flout God’s principles hoping that somehow things will work out.
Everybody around them wonders why they can’t see the obvious. They are unapproachable and unreachable. But the scripture is very clear:
Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.
(Galatians 6:7 KJV)
No matter how we pretend, we cannot mock God. You can do all of that with humans, but not with God. At the end of the day, it is not worth it to waste time on what would not work.
As singles and married couples, you are to deliberately work things out in your relationship or marriage and with the help of the Holy Spirit.
Here is what the scripture says:
…work out your own salvation with fear and trembling. (Philippians 2:12b KJV)
In courtship, you are to work things out. Courtship does not lead to marriage automatically, you are to work things out in your disposition, attitude, and reactions.
Now there are some couple combinations that are sure to crack along the way. When you find yourself in these spots, you need to seek help prayerfully and with a lot of wisdom to address the lurking issues. Here are those combinations:
1. Two people who are unbelievers
Two people who are unbelievers may love themselves, may be committed to each other, but when the storms of life come, they will fight their battles alone and you know, some of those battles can be very fierce.
They will not have God’s support since they don’t have a relationship with God. They will not have the benefit of sonship and it can be very intense! They need to connect with God!
2. Two people who are believers but refuse to grow
The second group of couples are those who may be believers but whose minds are not renewed. The only thing is that they already have a relationship with God, but apart from that, they are still carnal.
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They still do their stuff like unbelievers would do. They still want to have fun in forbidden areas and they still want to explore the perverse, which would often come with dire consequences.
My advice for couples in this group is that they seek help as soon as possible.
3. Two people where one is born again and the other is not
Here is another scenario that doesn’t always play out well, except with a lot of patience, prayers, and perseverance. I always advise singles, don’t think of getting married to someone who doesn’t have a relationship with God.
It would always be filled with challenges that you might have to fight alone because you are not agreed on your choice of weapons.
It can be frustrating while one is praying, the other is clubbing.
You want to pray, but he or she thinks you are just being fanatical. That can be very disconcerting, to say the least.
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not greedy.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to love correctly.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Joh 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son, that whosoever believes, should not perish, but have everlasting life.
First of all, there is a difference between one’s love language being “gifts” and when one is just being covetous or greedy.
If your fiancé/fiancée/spouse’s love language is gifts, what it means is that until you start appreciating him or her with gifts in a consistent manner, he or she will not feel loved.
How do you know if someone is not just being greedy?
1. Do or Die?
He will not always demand gifts in a do-or-die manner.
2. Love Gives
When you are in a relationship, and no gifts are forthcoming, there may be an issue there because love gives.
What if he or she has no money or has no job? As I said, a gift is a gift and it doesn’t have to be expensive. Writing her a poem is a gift!
Buying him one tiny little chocolate is a gift! What is important is not the gift itself, it is the gesture that brings assurance of being loved and cared for.
When you are able to give gifts in the midst of not too much provision, you will also be able to do so when you eventually have more income.
Your giving spirit is more of an attitude than spending power.
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3. Love is patient
He will not back out just because gifts are not forthcoming. She will not break the relationship because you are not financially buoyant.
4. He will not just be a receiver
He will not just be demanding while he folds his arms and never gives back. Love gives.
5. Giving Back
He will give away gifts too because that is the language he understands and that is what he craves. She would want to give back gifts as well.
6. Gift is not Payment
When a lady gives out her body for money, that is not about love language because what she gets is no longer ‘gifts’ it has become an illegal payment for services rendered and that is not God’s order.
7. Conclusion
In conclusion, and in expressing this language, let God’s word guide you and keep you within godly boundaries.
Don’t borrow to give gifts. Don’t take a loan just to impress someone. Don’t start what you cannot sustain. Don’t spend the money you don’t have to buy things that are not needed in order to impress people that are not looking.
May God grant more understanding!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not greedy.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to love correctly.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Joh 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son, that whosoever believes, should not perish, but have everlasting life.
Yesterday, we spoke extensively on the issue of soul ties. I explained how they are formed.
This morning, I will show you practical ways to break free from soul ties and mistakes of the past.
As singles, you should learn to put your body under. Your body ought not to dictate to you. Rather, you are to allow your spirit to gain ascendancy over your body! It is very possible to stay off a sinful lifestyle because the scripture is emphatic when it said, “Sin shall not have dominion over you.”
How do you break soul ties from past sexual mistakes?
1. Ask God to forgive you of the mistake
2. Repent and make up your mind not to do it again.
3. Fast and pray and ask God to severe every bonding and soul ties
4. Disconnect from such a person. Stop all the calls, chats, and pings.
5. Psalm 23 says, “He restoreth my soul!” Ask God to restore your soul
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6. Stop living in sin. Jesus told that woman, “Go and sin no more!”
7. Patiently wait for the salvation of God in your relationship. Don’t be hasty. Cooperate with God’s plan.
8. Believe that God has a plan for you and that the plan will become a reality.
9. Keep reading and studying God’s word. Your mind will be renewed over time. For example, if you can follow this devotional consistently, your mind will be renewed in this area and you will get to know a lot of things and be prepared for marriage. A lot of people have testified to that.
I pray for you this morning that God will grant you more understanding.
Right now, I exercise my authority as God’s servant, I break every form of soul ties that may exist in Jesus name.
I destroy every plan of hell over your destiny, I declare you free from consequences of past mistakes and I ask in the name of Jesus and by the power of the Holy Spirit, that your soul be restored now to God’s desire for you as an individual and in your relationship in Jesus name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am free because whosoever the son of man shall set free is free indeed!
PRAYER FOR THE DAY I destroy and severe every form of soul ties in Jesus name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY “Or do you not know and realize that when a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? The two, it is written, shall become one flesh. But the person who is united to the Lord becomes one spirit with Him.” (1Co 6:16-17, AMP)
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Sade and Tony have been engaged for only three months. But in the short time they were together, they could not remember as many times as they have had premarital sex. They practically used it to greet each other anytime they get to see.
But when they quarreled after three months, they parted their ways and went differently.
Somehow, they kept thinking of each other. They had moved on differently and each of them even have new relationships but they kept on thinking of each other.
What happened to them?
The reality is that they have what is called “soul tie!”
This is what sex does! How does this happen?
In marriage, sex brings a bonding between the couple, because that is one of the purposes of sex. It cements the couple and joins them together at the highest possible level. Their souls become knitted together. They become one. They are glued together, and God says nobody should put them asunder.
But outside marriage, there is also a bonding. It is just that it is another kind of bonding. It is an illegal bonding that gives access to the operation of demonic entities in one’s life. It is called soul ties.
This is what the scripture is talking about here:
“Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.”
(1Co 6:15-16, KJV)
Can you see that?
In sex before marriage, the two people also illegally become one body! They are not married, but there is an illegal bonding that gives access to legal operations of demonic activities because of disobedience.
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Message Translation puts it this way:
“There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, “The two become one.””
(1Co 6:16, MSG)
So we see that this is spiritual. As a matter of fact, when you get involved in sex with someone, you are actually having sex with everybody that person has had sex with! It is not uncommon to see a person suddenly stealing after being intimate with someone that steals!
There is nothing like casual sex. Nothing is casual about it, it is spiritual. There is nothing like one night stand. One night stand can lead to an eternity of woes and damnation.
There is nothing like a quickie outside marriage. One quickie and one’s destiny can be quickly set back by five years or more! This is just the reality!
You see, you need to understand that as a child of God, the devil is trying to trip you. And a lot of people have been tripped. Yes, you can ask for forgiveness, and God will forgive you and cleanse you but when you keep getting careless and you make this a habitual lifestyle, then you are cooperating with the devil for your destruction. It is as truthful as that.
So, what do you do?
I will conclude tomorrow. Don’t miss it.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am free because whosoever the son of man shall set free is free indeed!
PRAYER FOR THE DAY I destroy and severe every form of soul ties in Jesus name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY “Or do you not know and realize that when a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? The two, it is written, shall become one flesh. But the person who is united to the Lord becomes one spirit with Him.” (1Co 6:16-17, AMP)
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What is that one quality you should watch for in a prospective lover or spouse?
There are many qualities, and there are many attraction points, but one thing you should take into cognizance is what I want to talk about this morning.
This quality can preserve a couple and make their marriage last longer. I am talking about the quality of meekness.
What is meekness?
Meekness simply means being submissive, being teachable. Meekness is not weakness, rather it is strength under control
The Merriam-Webster Dictionary describes meekness as having or showing a quiet and gentle nature; not wanting to fight or argue with other people.
Let’s take a look at the scriptures:
Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; [4] But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a MEEK and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
1Pe 3:3-4 (KJV)
The scriptures advise that aside from the pulchritude, which is evident in adorning of the hair, use of jewelry, and nice wears, let there be an adorning of the heart as well, that is an ornament of MEEK and quiet spirit.
You see, we all come into relationships with baggage, baggage from the past, issues from past emotional upheavals, tensions arising from strained relationships in the past, highly opinionated postures emanating from parental upbringing, warped ideas resulting from emotional, verbal, sexual, and physical abuses, and the list goes on.
The only way we can survive in a relationship or marriage with all the undesirable and irritating baggage is to be MEEK!
To be teachable and submissive. That is the only way to make it in relationship and marriage
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A hard posture, statue-like stance in relationships will always almost destroy any courtship. Flexibility and willingness to adjust and learn new things will go a long way to add spice and fun to your relationship or marriage.
Even as a child of God, your success is predicated on continual renewal of mind, with the word of God. The word of God is the key to learning meekness. There is a change and a transformation that come into your life as you behold the word of God.
But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord.
2Co 3:18 (KJV)
If you are already in a relationship, that is one way to start changing. You cannot change your lover. If you attempt it, you will be frustrated. You are not equipped to change anybody. But with the word of God and its study, anybody can make a change in his or her life.
God loves those who are meek and teachable!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am meek and teachable for my lover
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, give me a teachable heart.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1Pe 3:4 (KJV) But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a MEEK and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
Writing letters is powerful. It is one of the most potent forces to stir, sustain and fuel love between two people. Interestingly, chatting, audio calls, and video calls have taken the place of letters, and yet none of those could do what a letter would have done.
E-mailing may be close to it, but there is nothing like that feeling of reading a letter from your lover in his or her handwriting.
Single or married, when last did you write a letter to your loved one?
Oh, Pastor, it’s old-fashioned Well, so is love! God wrote letters on stones for the children of Israel.
In the New Testament, God is still writing letters, but now He is writing His laws into our hearts directly!
Much of God’s love was communicated and expressed with love letters to us. The Bible is simply a book of letters to us.
Pauline’s epistles were letters.
Ye see how large a letter I have written unto you with mine own hand.
Gal 6:11 (KJV)
He kept on writing letters, and those letters are references all over the world today. His letters outlived him. Your letters are much more powerful than you.
It was said concerning Apostle Paul that
For his letters, say they, are weighty and powerful; but his bodily presence is weak, and his speech contemptible.
2Co 10:10 (KJV)
Did I write letters? I wrote volumes of them. Everything God told me, every dealings, every experience, the visions, and aspirations, were all succinctly communicated to my loved one while we were in courtship.
I wrote her I would preach. I wrote her we would preach together. I wrote her God told me I would teach about relationships as far back as 1997!
And that helped her significantly to cooperate with what God would do with my life. And those letters are still in our room today. Preserved on paper and on our hearts.
I have been writing KHC newsletters since 2007, and devotionals since 2010. Do you know that they are simply letters from me to you? Daily letters that have touched several lives across the globe. Daily letters that have saved many a relationship and marriage from the brink of an imminent crash.
If by reason of proximity, letter writing will be cumbersome, then do mails, and write the mails like letters.
Some of the most powerful blogs we have on earth today are simply letters, the communication of a deep-seated thought or an idea in someone’s heart.
So, why don’t pick your pen and do a letter to that loved one?
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And for those who have nobody writing any letters, I pray today, that God will cause your path to cross with that man or woman He has ordained for you in Jesus name.
Write a love poem. Write about how much you love him or her. Write about how much you value him or her.
Write on the picture you have in your heart about him or her that you’ve not been able to find words to communicate. Write about the qualities that endear him or her to you that you have never articulated before.
Write a letter and end that prolonged quarrel!
Write a letter today, and say something good from your heart. Appreciation that is not verbalized or documented dies eventually. And yet that appreciation can be the needed fuel for your loved one to keep going another mile!
May God grant you more understanding!
Have a blessed day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to communicate rightly with my lover through letters
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, increase my passion for my lover.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Write love letters to him/her
That has been a while o! Our first boy is out of University/College and the last is almost out of Secondary school/High school. God has been good.
But I still remember those lessons. Singles will learn from them. Let’s go!
Just like a pregnant woman, most of us are pregnant with greatness. Some of us are even having multiple pregnancies
Pregnancy with a woman begins with a seed from a man and a receptacle from a woman. In the same way, pregnancy of destiny and greatness in you begins with a seed.
What is that seed?
Now the parable is this: The seed is the word of God.
Luk 8:11
What is the receptacle?
When any one heareth the word of the kingdom, and understandeth it not, then cometh the wicked one, and catcheth away that which was SOWN IN HIS HEART. This is he which received seed by the way side.
Mat 13:19
The receptacle is your heart.
If there is the seed of the word, and you receive that word in your heart, you will conceive
Here are a few things about the pregnant woman.
1. A pregnant woman is often selective of what she eats
Not everything is safe for the baby. In the same way, not everything is safe for your consumption when you are pregnant with greatness. There are things you don’t eat. You let go of spiritual junk. For example, pornography and sexual looseness will not help the baby!
2. A pregnant woman often has strange appetites
Your appetite for the word must go beyond normal. You must have a “strange” appetite for devouring the word. This strange appetite can often come with a strange combination of food. Garden egg and butter! Lol…
In the same way, you study the word beyond what a normal person is doing. You must learn to combine Isaiah with John to sometimes get what you want for your baby!
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3. Another time comes and she eats everything in sight
She just wants to eat everything. In the same way, This book of the law shall not depart…
You read your Bible, listen to tapes, read books, yet you are not content.
Night unto night showeth knowledge… Your voracious appetite for God’s has word has no equal.
Thy words were found, and I did eat them; and thy word was unto me the joy and rejoicing of mine heart: for I am called by thy name, O LORD God of hosts.
Jer 15:16 (KJV)
So we see clearly, a part of the process of conception and delivery of every greatness has a lot to do with the word.
Keep taking the word. Your greatness is sure. There will be no greatness without the word. There will be no marriage without the word. Jesus Christ, the word himself was at the wedding at Cana of Galilee!
“In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. The same was in the beginning with God. All things were made by him; and without him was not any thing made that was made.”
Joh 1:1-3 (KJV)
Get in the word today! Conceive! Deliver! And your greatness shall be seen!
Have a blessed testimony-filled day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to feed rightly.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, increase my desire for the word.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psalms 19:2 Day unto day uttereth speech, and night unto night sheweth knowledge.
Have you laughed yet this morning? Oh, why not just go ahead and laugh right now. It’s so simple, isn’t it? And yet it’s so powerful!
The three-minute short video below explains why you should keep laughing. Quickly watch this to understand why you should keep laughing before reading on.
Isn’t that funny?
Take a look at the scripture again
Why do the heathen rage, and the people imagine a vain thing? The kings of the earth set themselves, and the rulers take counsel together, against the LORD, and against his anointed, saying, Let us break their bands asunder, and cast away their cords from us. HE THAT SITTETH IN THE HEAVENS SHALL LAUGH: the Lord shall have them in derision.
Psa 2:1-4 (KJV)
What we see as massive issues and problems, God is just laughing at them and you know what, He wants you to laugh along!
Why should you laugh? Because your victory is guaranteed.
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He that sits in heaven shall laugh and who is that? God! But then that’s not the end. Look at this scripture:
And hath raised us up together, and MADE US SIT TOGETHER IN heavenly places in Christ Jesus:
Eph 2:6 (KJV)
So what do we do? We laugh as well.
Rather than get bothered about being still single or experiencing delay, get rejoicing!
Every time you laugh about something, you are actually laughing about something! Because it’s the joy of the Holy Ghost, there are things He sees you cannot see…so you simply cooperate with His joy and flow with it!
No more sadness. No more depression! No more despondency!
Keep laughing and you will soon really laugh!
Good morning!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will rejoice evermore. No more sadness. No more depression. Celebration is my portion.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Bind the spirit of depression in your life
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Joh 16:24 (KJV)Hitherto have ye asked nothing in my name: ask, and ye shall receive, that your joy may be full.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Decide to be joyful and full of celebration.
Being joyous is a decision. It is not something that comes upon you. It is not a gift. It is not the reserve of some certain people. It is a decision that you must make in other to joyfully walk down the aisle.
Is it because you have not been found or you haven’t found as the case may be? That would not be enough reason to look sad and miserable. Decide to be joyful.
Years ago, in a revelation, God showed me a certain lady who was depressed most of the time. Do you know where this lady was sitting in that revelation?
She was in a pit. Deep down, sitting down and downcast. Moreover, the pit was dark. Extremely dark.
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Now the question is how will this lady even be found by any man in that position? Can you see the plans of the devil? It was thoughts of not been found that led her into depression and then the pit. Now, she is even more in a place where it is more difficult to find her. Which man will locate a lady in a dark pit?
This is how the devil plans and keeps God’s people bound! But you cannot be bound! We are not ignorant of the devices of the devil.
You’ve got to make up your mind and declare, “I refuse to be miserable. I refuse to yield to the strategies of the evil one!”
Decisions! It is a decision you must make, dear people of God.
The reason you are not joyful is not that you are not married, the reason you are not married is because you are not joyful.
Really? Do you know why? Because the joy of the Lord is your strength.
With that joy, you will procure the dividends of salvation.
You must not allow anybody or anything to steal your joy!
God bless you, have a great day.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to be joyful all day long.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Reject the spirit of depression.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Hab 3:17-18 (KJV) Although the fig tree shall not blossom, neither shall fruit be in the vines; the labour of the olive shall fail, and the fields shall yield no meat; the flock shall be cut off from the fold, and there shall be no herd in the stalls: [18] YET I WILL REJOICE IN THE LORD, I WILL JOY in the God of my salvation.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Sing, shout, jump, do anything to stay joyful.
