Seeing Love From The Eyes of Jesus Christ. The love of Jesus is an absolute, unconditional and a sacrificial love. A love marked with ultimately giving of Himself.
The Bible says
john 3:16, ‘For God so loved the world that He gave His only beloved son, that whosoever shall believe in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.’
He loves us that we may know how to love. He shows us how to love that we may in turn reciprocate that agape love to others especially our spouse. Seeing Love From The Eyes of Jesus Christ will make us appreciate that love.
The love of Jesus is greater than any type of love. It is so deep, it reaches the inner recesses of our heart and the core of our being. It is so wide we can’t get round it , it covers all our being. It is so high we can’t get enough of it. It just overwhelms us.
Such is the love of Jesus to us. His love was what made Him die on the cross of Calvary. Jesus came to this world as the express image of God the father. He is the expression of the father. The expression of the fathers love. This love is not selfish or self seeking. It is a love that is faithful and loyal . A love that keeps waiting with arms wide open to receive us. Our weaknesses, faults, short comings, stubbornness, disobedience not withstanding.
The abba fathers love yearns for us every time, He wants an intimate relationship with us. He wants to be our Yahweh. Our best friend , our shepherd who protect us with His life. He wants to be our defender, the one who fights our battles for us. Our Jehovah Rohi, Shammah, Rapha and whatever names, He has revealed Himself to us
Seeing Love From The Eyes of Jesus Christ’s perspective helps us to see how we should love our spouse unconditionally.
God bless our marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love my spouse with the agape, unconditional love of Christ
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord; let me see and receive your love that I may love my spouse the same way
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY John 3:16 God loved the people of this world so much that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who has faith in him will have eternal life and never really die.
Open The Heavens By Opening Your Mind. If you are stubborn with your thoughts, you can delay your next season.
A lot of things happen in the realm of the mind. If you are growing, one sign will be that your thoughts keep changing, getting better and better aligned to God’s word.
If your thoughts are still the same, as it was ten or fifteen years ago, it shows that there is some form of spiritual deformity.
Take a look at the scripture:
Rom 12:2 (AMPC) Do not be conformed to this world (this age), [fashioned after and adapted to its external, superficial customs], but be transformed (changed) by the [entire] renewal of your mind [by its new ideals and its new attitude], so that you may prove [for yourselves] what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God, even the thing which is good and acceptable and perfect [in His sight for you].
Open The Heavens By Opening Your Mind. There has to be constant transformation or change which the scripture says will come from Renewal of mind.
Do you now see that it’s a big problem for those stubbornly fixated on their thoughts and who refuse to embrace the workings of the Holy Spirit in their hearts?
Everything you are learning daily is an opportunity to change and be transformed.
It’s a little here and a little there.
For example, the Kisses and Huggs Club devotionals which you read daily are like building blocks, words inspired daily by the Holy Spirit.
So, it actually becomes counter productive if one is just reading and never applying the lessons in a pragmatic way.
Each daily devotional is an encounter with God, with the capacity to cause a transformation, a day at a time.
You can now see that God’s method of making you better, wealthy and prosperous is through your mind. According to 3 John 2, God wishes above all things that you prosper, as your soul prospers.
You’ve got to open up your heart and mind to God’s word! Open The Heavens By Opening Your Mind!
A person with a closed up mind is a loser any day, anytime. I pray that God grants you more understanding
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My mind is renewed by God’s word.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY O Lord, I ask for wisdom in areas where I lack wisdom in Jesus name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Rom 12:2 (CEV) Don’t be like the people of this world, but let God change the way you think. Then you will know how to do everything that is good and pleasing to him.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE Decide to make immediate changes as God speaks to you
The ultimate goal of your marriage is that you and your spouse become best of friends, an intimate relationship or better still a covenant relationship. This Is what marriage is meant to be. We have to find a common ground of friendship where we truly love and like ourselves. That’s why we always advise you marry your friend.
Some of us were not really friends before they got married while some others lost their friendship along the way in marriage. Life happened to them and the very basis for their friendship was eroded. Others could not manage their differences, and as such lost their friendship. Yet others allowed third parties come between them.
Our friendship as couples is meant to last till death do us part.
Pro 18:24 (MSG) Friends come and friends go, but a true friend sticks by you like family.
Pro 18:24 TPT) Some friendships don’t last for long, but there is one loving friend who is joined to your heart closer than any other!
We are supposed to stick together for life.
Here are some tips that will help you build friendship with your spouses and become best friends. We must show ourselves friendly if we must have our spouse as our friend. {Pro18:24)
How To Best Be Friends with Your Spouse
Spend a lot of time together and learn how to start and sustain conversations. Friendship is spelt time together doing activities together and communicating. Stay as much as possible and keep in touch through text, calls, chats etc. and also enjoy each other’s company.
Forgive easily, quickly and completely
Pro 17:9 CEV You will keep your friends if you forgive them, but you will lose your friends if you keep talking about what they did wrong.
Do activities you both enjoy together. Do what you both enjoy doing. Eat out, walk together, watch movies, go sight seeing.
Be each other’s cheer leader. Let your spouse always feel like a million bucks. Don’t pull your spouse down.
Be vulnerable with each other. Encourage open conversations.
Accept each other’s flaws. Roses have thorns, if you focus on the thorn you will not enjoy and appreciate the fragrance of the rose.
Don’t focus on each other’s weaknesses. Stop drawing attention always to your spouse’s weaknesses. Give them time to grow and trust God to work on them.
Encourage each other during tough times. Be the support system for them, always be there for them.
Don’t be a boss or be domineering. Respect each other’s feelings, boundaries and personality differences
Be honest. Give your sincere opinion or correction in love
This is How To Best Be Friends with Your Spouse. God bless our marriages.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am my spouse best friend, no one and nothing can come between us
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
I let go of every offense that has cause our friendship to be turned in hatred in Jesus name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 18:24 KJV A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.
Doubts will come, as long as you are human. Even Jesus Christ experienced doubts. This happened at the garden of Gethsemane when he was overwhelmed by the pain and agony he would be going through.
So how do you prevent unnecessary doubts?
1 Be sure of God’s direction before you take a step
That way, when doubts arise, you will easily identify the source and then you can deal with it. You will know that the doubt is coming to fight you out of God’s will and you will resist it.
But when you are not sure whether it was God or not in the first place, when doubts arise along the way, you are unsure of how to handle it, because inner conviction is absent.
2 Don’t be a in a hurry in your romantic journey
Don’t be hasty. Don’t fall in love senselessly. Be responsible and surround yourself with good friends and mentors.
3 Do not lgnore authority figures in your life,
While they are not supposed to decide for you, God can often speak through them to warn you about steps you are about to take. Do not despise or disregard their wisdom.
4 Learn to read and study God’s word regularly.
It brings you the wisdom that stabilizes your soul.
Handling Doubts About Your Lover. The next question is what if I am already in doubt?
1. Go back to God to confirm what He said in the first place.
There is nothing wrong with hearing God again.
God hath spoken once; twice have I heard this (Psalms 62:11 KJV)
2. Take time to stay in God’s presence and you will hear Him again.
Sometimes you might have to fast to get your mind quiet.
3. Stay away from every sin.
Ask God to forgive you if you are hooked up with masturbation, pornography, pre-marital sex, or some other sexual perversion.\
5. Learn to pray together.
When you don’t pray, unnecessary issues will arise often and destabilize you.
The last question is how can I be sure a decision is of God?
When a decision you are about to take or have taken is of God, you will have peace. It is an unexplainable peace that doesn’t seem to line up with physical reality sometimes, but the peace will be there that tells you all is well. When this peace is absent, never go ahead with that decision. This is the way of Handling Doubts About Your Lover
And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:7 KJV)
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I have the peace of God. I am guided by God’s peace.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, let there be restoration of all that I have lost.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Php 4:7 (AMPC) And God’s peace [shall be yours, that tranquil state of a soul assured of its salvation through Christ, and so fearing nothing from God and being content with its earthly lot of whatever sort that is, that peace] which transcends all understanding shall garrison and mount guard over your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Ask you lover pertinent question about the future.
We are considering The Importance of Peace in Marriage today. Peace is not just the absence of troubles, it is tranquility in the midst of the storm.
In Mark 4:32, we read the story of Jesus calming the boisterous sea and wind. He was able to calm that storm basically because He was with them on that trip.
Jesus the Christ is not only the source of peace, He is the Peace Himself. The Prince of peace, the Amen, the Word of God.
In John chapter 2, Jesus was not just a guest at the wedding (your marriage). He was acknowledged, honoured, valued and obeyed. They know The Importance of Peace in Marriage!
Do you value Jesus the Word and allow Him have a say in your marriage? Do you believe Jesus can proffer solution to your marital crisis? Are you willing to obey whatever He asks you to do no matter how ridiculous or difficult or time consuming it seems?
Jesus is that peace your marriage desperately needs. Just like Jesus was the solution that the Cana of Galilee wedding needed in John 2. They could have despise Him, refuse to acknowledge Him and disobey Him, to their detriment. They chose rather to not ignore The Importance of Peace in Marriage!
Don’t just be a church goer, a prayer warrior, a demon chaser, don’t just know Jesus (they must have known Him to invite Him to the wedding). Recognize Him as the final authority in your marriage. Whatever Jesus tells you to do, DO IT, and you will experience miracles beyond your imagination.
God bless your marriage
Thought for the day.
I need Jesus in my life and marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not only have Jesus passively in my marriage but I will listen to His voice and obey Him.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord help me to make you the Lord of my marriage.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Mary then went to the servers and told them, “Whatever Jesus tells you, do it!” John 2:5 TPT
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Read a book on how to hear God’s voice
How to handle doubts about your lover is a skill you need, to have a successful relationship. Emeka and Sandy are seeing each other, but there is a nagging feeling within her that brings doubts every time. She didn’t know what to do with the doubts.
What do you do with doubts? Doubts will always come. You can’t prevent it. I think the first question is “Why do doubts spring up in a relationship that is looking so promising?
There are several scenarios that can elicit doubts. Let’s take a look at some of them.
1. Doubts can come quickly to shatter the delicate glass of romance when your expectation of a lover are unrealistic and are not being met
2. When your lover is not God’s choice for you, God will allow the doubts to rush at you in order to get your attention.
3. Conversely, when the devil wants to dissuade you about your lover, he can bring doubts, his aim being to make you miss out on God’s plan for your marriage.
There are more ways to identify doubts in order to know how to handle doubts about your lover.
4. When there is sexual compromise, the beautiful romantic story God is writing can quickly become one with nasty twists and turns. This is what sin does, particularly sexual sins, it seeks to bring confusion to the soul.
5. When you rush into a relationship with a lover without duly seeking God’s direction, every events in the relationship will be a spring board of doubt, simply because you are not sure.
6. When you shift the responsibility of finding out God’s plan to some prophet or seer, doubt will arise along the way and you will quickly drift off, since there was never a personal conviction.
7. When all respected people and authority figures around you are against the choice of your lover, doubts, like bandits, are waiting and lurking in the next junction of romantic journey.
8. When storms arise, and winds blow, and dusts rise to blur the romantic journey, doubts can quickly emerge from within the turbulence.
After knowing How To Handle Doubts About Your Lover, the next question then will be “What do I do when these doubts come? How can I guard against unnecessary doubts? How can I be really sure?
This is where we will continue from tomorrow! Don’t miss it!
Tonight, Tue 19th July, we will be having School of Relationship and Marriage and Pastor Sophia and I will be teaching you! It will take place on YouTube. You can subscribe ahead and click on notification bell to know when we go live by 6.00pm. Use this link HERE
God bless you!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not doubt. I have God’s Spirit in me.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God will bring His wisdom to your life
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Rom 8:14 (KJV) For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.
Is Your Marriage a Reward or an Assignment? Marriage is a beautiful experience when we go by God’s dictate. People can make their wedding day more beautiful than their marriage. They attach more priority to the wedding day than they do the marital life. Every one loves a beautiful wedding day. From the bride’s gorgeous dress, to the maids of honours’ outfits, to the flowers, the well decorated hall, the music and the joyous atmosphere. We plan for the wedding day for months forgetting the marriage which is more important!
My question to us this morning is simple. Is your marriage a reward or an assignment? For some people, marriage is a reward, a prize and they want to sit back and enjoy their reward.
Is Your Marriage a Reward or an Assignment? For some others, marriage is an assignment. A calling to work and labor. To the wives, a call to be an helpmeet, to respect and to be forgiving. To the husband, a call to love like Christ loves the church.
What a great assignment we have on our hands. We will keep on learning, unlearning and relearning to fulfil this assignment. It is actually a life long assignment we will never graduate from.
God’s standards are defined and it is to him we are accountable. He is the one to mark our scripts. So husbands and wives, be diligent to do your assignment.
God bless our marriages. Is Your Marriage a Reward or an Assignment?
Tonight, Tue, 19th July, we will be having School of Relationship and Marriage and Pastor Sophia and I will be teaching you! It will take place on YouTube. You can subscribe ahead and click on notification bell to know when we go live by 6.00pm. Use this linkHERE
God bless you!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am focused on my God given assignment
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, grant me grace to give my assignment all it takes to make a success of it in Jesus name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAYRom 8:13 (KJV) For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be intentional about working on your marriage
Real Love Or Social Media Illusions? I will be fifty this years old this year, and I tell you, a lot has taken place in the last few decades!
My wife and I were campus sweethearts, falling in love while in school and getting married while she was serving!
Things have changed rapidly over the years. They changed so fast and everybody in my generation witnessed the unveiling of another era. As a matter of fact, some people are still caught in the analog years as their brains refused to cooperate with the present realities.
I recall with nostalgia, how there were no smart phones, there was no Facebook, no Instagram, as a matter of fact there was no internet while I was in courtship with my wife.
Let me make it worse, there were no emails. The first time I heard the word, “e-mail” I had already graduated from the University and the fellow who told me wanted to charge me three thousand to create email for me! I gladly declined. I was not about to pay for something I couldn’t fathom!
Real Love Or Social Media Illusions? The present day singles are beleaguered with Social Media life and the pressure is intense.
From IG to TikTok, it’s a race to be relevant, to be an influencer and to make money!
Filled with all manner of sexually appealing content, the extent of unreal life can be overwhelming.
However, you are not going to live a social media life, you are not going to have a TikTok wife, and YouTube children. You are going to have a real human being as spouse and the reality goes beyond the world of social media. There is a difference between Real Love Or Social Media Illusions?
Take a look at the scripture: Mat 6:2 (MSG) “When you do something for someone else, don’t call attention to yourself. You’ve seen them in action, I’m sure—’playactors’ I call them—treating prayer meeting and street corner alike as a stage, acting compassionate as long as someone is watching, playing to the crowds. They get applause, true, but that’s all they get.
Every time you seek attention and “likes” on social media as against pleasing God, you already got your reward for all you do! Every time you do stuffs for the sake of being noticed, you are defeating the original purpose.
It is important to take your root downward in God’s word, be an authentic person and be spiritual in your dealings with God and man!
Scrolling through a payer app, is not prayer, listening to a YouTube worship is not practicing God’s presence, and so on and so forth!
Learn to drop the phones for a while and be spiritually authentic! Connect with God. When the chips are down, TikTok or IG would be unable to cast out a demon!
Good morning!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I value God and his word. I prioritise God and I please Him always
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Pray that God will leek you focused on Him and Him only
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Mat 6:3 (CEV) When you give to the poor, don’t let anyone know about it.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Spend time in God’s presence today.
We want to learn How To Crucify The Flesh In Marriage this morning. Marriage is a mystery as it is likened to the relationship between Christ and the church .
The love between a husband and his wife can make them do crazy stuffs when they are in love.
Flip the coin the other way and what you have are deep seated offenses that you wonder, “were they ever in love?” Can love to turned to hatred? Yes, it can be. This is evident in the rate of divorce out there. A husband and his wife that were once in love and can’t seem to get their hands off each other can’t stand each other’s presence now. They must learn How To Crucify The Flesh In Marriage
The truth is that marriage cannot be done in the flesh. It takes the two parties involved, walking in the spirit and deciding to crucify their flesh. Love itself is not a natural virtue, it is a spiritual virtue. Both husband and wife can be naturally selfish. We want our ways. We don’t want to serve each other, rather we want to be served. We can be revengeful, and most times, our flesh doesn’t want to forgive.
God proffered a once and for all solution,’Crucify the flesh.’ Mortify the deeds of the flesh in you. Walk in the spirit and you will not gratify the deeds of the flesh.
Be a doer of the word.
Rom 8:13 (KJV) For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live.
Take a look at the Message Translation: Rom 8:13 (MSG) There’s nothing in it for us, nothing at all. The best thing to do is give it a decent burial and get on with your new life.
God bless your marriage. As couples, we should know How To Crucify The Flesh In Marriage!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a doer of the word. I put to death the works of my flesh.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, grant me grace to crucify my flesh
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Rom 8:13 (TPT) For when you live controlled by the flesh, you are about to die. But if the life of the Spirit puts to death the corrupt ways of the flesh, we then taste his abundant life.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be intentional about walking in the spirit.
How Do Men Decline Wedding Without Talking? This is our subject of discourse this morning.
Well, He has not said anything, but I think he loves me!
Don’t try that with guys! Guys are very logical, if a guy loves you he will verbalize it or show it. Men are natural hunters in the forest of love. They are pursuers, the pursuit gives them energy.
The only snag is that men allow the hunter in them to die after marriage, and it should not be so, because that in itself has contributed to a lot of crash in marriages.
So, a man will always speak up when there is some commitment there!
His silence should not be misconstrued. A man can sometimes frustrate a lady with silence and cold treatment with the intention to make the lady back out.
So, he doesn’t pick your calls regularly again
He doesn’t call you. He says he is busy!
Easily irritated at you.
He’s refusing to talk about wedding plans or simply avoiding conversations around that area.
He refuses to meet your parents and pastors.
The only thing he wants is probably sex.
Now, that is a defective and manipulative relationship
All the above attitudes and body language are indicative that he is not interested.
Whenever a guy is like this, don’t try to resort to begging him, because the reality is often that he has left several weeks or months before you start noticing the attitudes and tendencies.
If you beg him and the relationship ensues, it is usually for a while and that is mostly because the guy perceives that he has some benefits coming out if the relationship. However, wedding is far from his plans. The next time a guy grows cold on you for months without any change, just know what he is saying. This is How Men Decline Wedding Without Talking
God bless you. Have a great service today!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be confused. I have light and direction.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God will lead you always in your relationship
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 4:20 (BBE) My son, give attention to my words; let your ear be turned to my sayings.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Read a good book on relationships today
All Hail The King And The Queen! It is certain that every husband wants to be the king in their marriage. Where they are treated with so much honor, dignity, respect, admiration and given all the attention fit for the king. It is every husband’s dream to be so treated.
The wives are not left out also. Every wife wants to be the queen of her man’s heart. She loves to be treated with dignity and honor. She loves the tender, loving care. Not the cruel, cold and unaffectionate treatment of a harsh husband.
So, what is All Hail The King And The Queen all about? We all love to reign both in life and in our marriages. Probably because we were created in God’s image and likeness. God is not in any way against our reigning as kings and queens especially in our homes and marriages.
God has made provision for us on how we can reign in life and I bet to say in our marriages as married couples. Let’s look at the scriptures. In Proverb 4:4b in the The Passion Translation, it says, …Never forget my words. If you do everything that I teach you, you will reign in life’.
All Hail The King And The Queen! Do you want to reign in your marriage? Kings and queens don’t struggle to reign. Follow God’ s instruction in Pro4:4. It’s pretty simple.
a. Don’t forget His words
b. Do everything He teaches you.
So we all see why God’s word is so important to us. God’s word is the key to your becoming a king and a queen in your own marriage. Be a doer of the word. Start being intentional about reading and doing the word. The word of God is full of instructions on how you can reign. Let your word be full of authority by the Word.
I see you reigning.
God bless your marriage. All Hail The King And The Queen
Thought for the day Pro 4:4 Then my father taught me, saying, “Never forget my words. If you do everything that I teach you, you will reign in life.”
Prayer for the day Lord I will do everything you teach me and not forget your words in Jesus name.
Confession for the day I am a doer of the word. I learn, I do and I am not a forgetful hearer.
Action plan for the day Be intentional about reading God’s word
How to exit properly from an ex is the topic we started discussing since yesterday. We looked at one crucial way to fro that which is Forgiveness.
The next way to do this is emotional disconnection.
Emotional Disconnection.
The Ex with whom your soul is intertwined is difficult to let go. You have written off the relationship, you have broken up, and you thought you have moved on, but you discover there is a strong soul tie that binds you together.
From time to time, his or her thoughts pop up and and you are wondering what is happening.
The way to ensure a disconnection emotionally is to put a stop to all communication. Notice I did not say you should be involved in some bitterness of entertain the unforgiving spirit
You can control and minimize all communication without the coloration of bitterness.
Avoid the use of “Dear,” “Love” “sweetheart” and so on.
Do not visit an ex with whom you have been sexually active before because one thing can lead to another and before you know it, you are back to your vomits.
How to exit properly from an ex? Do not go and greet and stay overnight.
Do not buy special romantic gifts for him or her. You see all those small gestures, which on a good day looked cool, are the reasons why you are unable to move on.
Do not try to reach out on special days with gifts and the like. Those gifts can recall and bring back memories, and with the memories can come unnecessary emotional vulnerability.
Moving on means moving on.
How to exit properly from an ex? Distract yourself emotionally from him or her by getting busy in church, or by meeting new friends. Stay in the word regularly so that your soul can be renewed as well.
Why is it so important to know how to exit properly form an ex? The reason is not far fetched. If you don’t move on, you will not be able to go to next phase of your life especially as it relates to marriage.
May God bless you massively.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am able to decide for God and for good
PRAYER FOR THE DAY I receive Grace and strength to make quality decisions in my love life
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY So, chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline. Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offence. Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master forgave you. And regardless of what else you put on, wear love. It’s your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it. Colossians 3:12 – 14 MSG
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Make that decision that will make you better today
The power of decisions in marriage cannot be overemphasized. In life and of course in marriage, there comes a time when “we come to ourselves” like the prodigal son and make decisions. We could be inspired by our situation, events, people’s actions or inaction, the Holy Spirit or the Word of God.
Today, I want to encourage some one to take time and ‘come to yourself ‘ and take a decision for a positive change in your life and marriage.
Make up your mind to be whole. Let the Holy spirit mend all your brokenness.
This is How To Make Decisions In Marriage. Decide not to be a victim any longer. Decide to live life to the fullest in God. Decide to enjoy everyday life. Decide to live for God because ultimately, it is Him you are answerable to. Decide to be the right spouse. Decide to be good. Decide to live the Christ like life. Decide to be compassionate, kind and humble. Decide to be a quick forgiver. Decide to clean up your thought life. Decide to forgive an offense and not dwell on it. Decide not to hurt. Decide to allow God fight for you. Decide to love your spouse fully.
You fill in the gap and make that decision in your life and marriage that will bring about that change you so much desire
Remember, the power of your decision is great. Let nothing and no one distract you from your decision.
This is How To Make Decisions In Marriage. May God strengthen us. God bless our marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I decide to life the victorious life. I decide to be happy. I decide to be who God said I am.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY I receive Grace and strength to make quality decisions
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY So, chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline. Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offence. Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master forgave you. And regardless of what else you put on, wear love. It’s your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it. Colossians 3:12 – 14 MSG
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Make that decision that will make you better today
How To Exit Properly From An Ex? There are people who have one or two Exes but there are also those I will refer to as EXE-cutives who have had several Exes over the years!
Whichever camp you belong to, the important thing is that God has not condemn you. How soothing can that be?
It is men that will look at you with “one kind eye” when you make mistakes, but God doesn’t do that. He knows your imperfection, and He is patient with you, He however wants you to get better and walk with Him. He wants you to learn from your mistakes.
How do you move on from an Ex? It can really be tricky because the soul has been intertwined in love most of the time.
Coupled with this is the bitterness and hurts that accompany the experience most of the time. All these can become massive chains that immobilizes.
In moving on from an ex, the first thing I will like to note is that you must forgive!
How To Exit Properly From An Ex
1. Forgive
This is very important. For some of us, if we had opportunity, we will shoot our Exes. That reveals the underlying bitterness and hurts. When this is there, as the scripture says, it will defile you and even defile anybody around you.
Forgiveness frees you and makes you light. Unforgiving spirit makes your heart clogged and your legs heavy. Movement is impeded, sight is becomes blurred. Sense of judgement becomes warped.
It is when love is present and abounds that you will be able to approve and recognize the right decisions to take at such times. See it in the scripture!
Php 1:9-10 (KJV) And this I pray, that your love may abound yet more and more in knowledge and in all judgment; [10] That ye may approve things that are excellent; that ye may be sincere and without offense till the day of Christ;
How To Exit Properly From An Ex? You must forgive and walk in love.
What is the second way to move on?
I will continue tomorrow! Have a blessed day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I forgive easily. I am a love being
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me the grace to forgive easily
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Php 1:9 (MSG) So this is my prayer: that your love will flourish and that you will not only love much but well. Learn to love appropriately. You need to use your head and test your feelings
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Decide to let go fo all offenses
Help Pastor, We Don’t Communicate Well in Marriage! Communication is so important in marriage. Just as you can do for long without food, the same way, you cannot do without communication in marriage.
There must be good communication between a husband and wife.
A husband and wife must talk about everything and anything. They must not be secretive and they must not hide anything for one another.
Never allow your communication to degenerate into mono-syllable answers, where it seems only one party is doing the talking.
Communication is so important that whole cities and countries have been brought down simply because the two parties involved cannot understand one another.
This is this story of Tower of Babel. They had a great goal; to build a city whose top will reach unto the heavens, God attested to their feat that they would do it.
The only way for God to stop their ambition is to touch their language and they could not understand each other.
Their language became confounded. Once that happened, their project was brought to an abrupt end.
May I dare say that a lot of opportunities have been truncated because the husband and wife are busy fighting and throwing tantrums, and withdrawing from themselves.
Help Pastor, We Don’t Communicate Well in Marriage! Learn to talk in your marriage.
For communication to take place, there must be a person who is willing to receive and another who is willing to share.
When either party does not want to share and at the same time doesn’t want to receive, that may be a major issue there.
Help Pastor, We Don’t Communicate Well in Marriage! If you are the quiet one in your marriage, then you must consciously encourage your spouse when he or she is talking or joking.
Also, deliberately respond to your spouse and don’t just shake your head. Your spouse is not a Radio station which talks alone most of the time.
Be deliberate about good communication. I pray that God grant you more wisdom. Be blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am helped in my marriage. Our communication is getting better.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, strengthen me in my are of weaknesses
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Gen 11:7 (MSG) Come, we’ll go down and garble their speech so they won’t understand each other.”
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Decide to initiate a meaningful conversation between you and your spouse
What’s this Let me see you Buga stuff, Pastor? As singles, whenever there has been some mushy mushy lovey dovey kind of compromise which doesn’t involve penetration, they are quick to say, we just kissed, that’s all.
Really, is that all?
Are you sure. You just kissed? And you are even saying it with some “Buga!”. You kissed and you still dey Buga!
“We did not do anything o! Seriously, we just only kissed!
“Okay, so when you were kissing, where were your hands? Like your hands were by your sides, like that of a statue, static and unmoving or they were raised in the air, stuck and glued to space, as in permanently shouting Hallelujah?
It was at this point that the single guy/lady knows he’s been caught and cut!
Oh, let me tell you what is happening to your hands when you are deeply kissing! It’s right there in the scriptures!
Son 2:6 (MSG) His left hand cradles my head, and his right arm encircles my waist!
That is it! Your left hand around the head and anything around the head and below! Your right hand around the waist and all the neighbours of the waist!
But then look at the next verse! This is the word of the Lord!
Son 2:7 (MSG) Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem, by the gazelles, yes, by all the wild deer: Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready.
There is a warning for you Singles! Guys and ladies! Don’t Let Me See You Buga O!
The cradling of the head and encircling of waist will excite love and stir it up. And you are not ready! You are never ready till your wedding day!
Oh, you are already into the oral stuff? You have a cucumber kept somewhere? Or you have even gone the whole length?
Here is God’s perspective. He doesn’t condemn you! But He won’t condone sin either. He forgives and He forgets. But then he expects you by His grace to stay away from the cradling of the head and encircling of the waist and all its cousins. They all lead to series of movies, and the romantic movies can switch to horror movies real quick.
Stay in His mercy, embrace His forgiveness, and decide not awake or stir up the hormones. That can wait.
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Dear Couples in the house, you remember how you wanted to consummate your love so badly as singles. And some of you actually did. But that is not what I am taking about today.
I am actually looking at why what you wanted so badly as singles became what you did not care for again! You wanted it so badly. Now you are married, life happened and you are not that much interested, especially the wives!
Take a look at the scriptures
Son 2:6-7 (MSG) His left hand cradles my head, and his right arm encircles my waist! [7] Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem, by the gazelles, yes, by all the wild deer: Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready.
Do you have an idea of what God is saying to you now that you are married?
Let’s take a look.
Pro 5:18-19 (KJV) Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. [19] Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
Dear Couples, Enjoy yourselves sexually! The Bible actually recommends sucking of the breasts! Chai! FOR THE COUPLES!
“Ha Pastor!” Which is one “Ha Pastor?” Read your Bible!
The scripture is saying focus on your spouse. Let her satisfy you. Don’t look outside!
Take a look at the Message Translation for better perspective.
Pro 5:18-19 (MSG) Bless your fresh-flowing fountain! Enjoy the wife you married as a young man! [19] Lovely as an angel, beautiful as a rose— don’t ever quit taking delight in her body. Never take her love for granted!
Need I say more, dear couples? Appreciate your spouse always. Focus on each other. Love each other passionately and stay deeply in love!
My name is Rev. Dunamis. I remain your Pastor!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love my spouse deeply. We are one. We are together. We love one another.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, make us one and keep us focused on each other
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 5:18 (CEV) Be happy with the wife you married when you were young.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Express your love to your spouse consciously
It goes on and on. The underlying thing I want you to see is that the moment God’s word is being challenged on any level; know that the devil is at work. The Holy Spirit will never come to counteract God’s word or debunk it; He only comes to expound it.
Never yield ground to the devil. Resist him as Jesus Christ did and he will flee.
Adam and Eve yielded to the devil and lost the fullness of God’s plan.
Jesus came to restore that loss, but he would have failed if he yielded to the devil when he was being tempted.
Every compromise you cooperate with alters something in the spirit realm. Make up your mind to resist the devil every day and consciously with the help of the Holy Spirit.
You cannot be yielding to your flesh and the devil every time if you want to go far! You cannot be saying some girl seduced you all the time while you sleep around recklessly. You cannot be saying a man forced you into compromise with his money.
The devil is not that powerful, he is as powerful as you allow him in your life. He needs your permission before he can trip, and trap you. Never allow him again. Don’t give him an inch!
Do it God’s way. There will no longer be delays in Jesus name. God will perfect everything in your relationship as you make up your mind to resist the devil.
Never forget this, if you can keep feeding your spirit with God’s word daily and consistently, and you believe His word, that same word of the Lord will keep you!
That is why we have created this online Club for you! Visit it daily and keep learning all you can. Keep encouraging each other! Stay on your toes and be alert.
I pray that you will have a higher revelation of the person and the principles of our Lord Jesus Christ! Victory is yours this year!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY In all things, I give thanks, including for the priceless gift of being good a spouse and helper. I will not allow the devil, pride, pressures of life, and ignorance direct, and lead me astray.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me your wisdom to be a good partner to my future spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Do you see what we’ve got? An unshakable kingdom! And do you see how thankful we must be? Not only thankful, but brimming with worship, deeply reverent before God. For God is not an indifferent bystander. –Hebrews 12:28 (MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Make up your mind to stand strong in God
God created you to exercise dominion and authority on earth. It is not right for the one who is to exercise dominion to be dominated. You are to be the man and woman God created you to be.
All such things as insecurities, low self-esteem, rejection, condemnation, guilt, approval addiction, and fears, are all an attempt of the enemy to steal your authority from you. He attempts to make you laden with a poor image of yourself. That devil is a liar.
You have what it takes to have dominion. It was inbuilt into you at creation. Every source of insecurity is giving way right now. You cannot be battling with such feelings and expect to take charge of your life.
You take charge of your life by first knowing and believing what God says about you.
God says;
You are the head and not the tail.
You are acceptable in the beloved.
You are the apple of His eyes.
You can do all things through Christ that strengthens you.
Ye are gods and children of the Highest.
You have been made the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus.
All these and many other promises you have to believe. You are secured in who God says you are. Your approval is not based on your past, who rejected you, your performance, or what you did or didn’t do.
God wants you to enjoy life and have life in abundance. Having life in abundance is being in dominion and exercising your God-given authority, where you are not intimidated by anything or anybody.
Your relationships are good. You are trusting and hoping in the Lord. You have faith in your heavenly Father that He loves you and so he is mindful of you.
Walk in dominion and God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY God’s vision over my life will not be prolonged.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, this year, your vision for my life will speak!
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY This vision–message is a witness pointing to what’s coming. It aches for the coming––it can hardly wait! And it doesn’t lie. If it seems slow in coming, wait. It’s on its way. It will come right on time. Habakkuk 2:3 MSG
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Write down plans for the coming months
A little deviation from our wisdom series this morning, I want to show us one way we can maintain our sanity in this present world.
The devil aims at filling our minds with negative things, that is why almost everywhere you look, there is one form of sad news or the other.
Social media, print media and other forms are equally not helping matters. One can almost begin to wonder why you were born in this generation.
The plan of the devil is to weary us till we become sick, tired, and even suicidal. But thanks be to God who gives us the victory in Christ Jesus! Hallelujah!
There is an age-long, profound, medicine found in the bible that I want to prescribe to you this morning. Whenever you feel down, depressed, sick, angry, unloved, or any negative feeling, just use this medication and I assure you, you will be fine.
A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones. – Pro 17:22
God wants you quick, alive, and active. The devil wants you depressed, gloomy, and broken. The scripture tells us laughter is good. It is healthy. It has some curative powers.
Sometimes, just take off your gaze from the test you failed, the bully in school, the teacher that hardly smiles, the stress of the assembly ground, and just laugh out loud.
As a matter of fact, it has been proven that children are more prone to laughter than adults. Do you also know that God himself laughs?
In heaven the Lord laughs as he sits on his throne, making fun of the nations. – Ps 2:4 [CEV]
So what is your excuse? When last did you have a good laugh?
Go ahead and laugh over that situation because you have the victory already. Glory!
PRAYER: Father in Jesus name, always give me reasons to laugh.
ACTION PLAN: Go ahead and laugh out loud
DECLARATION: I choose to laugh always. I am not depressed, sad or gloomy. The joy of the Lord is my strength.
