Find your way back to God. Similar to the prodigal son, who realized his mistakes while living a life of despair, it is crucial to come to terms with your own thoughts and emotions. This is the initial step towards regaining mental clarity, finding restoration, and overcoming confusion.
2. Seek forgiveness and dedicate yourself to growth
The next thing to do is to consciously ask God to forgive you. Do not allow the voice of doubt to convince you that you are beyond redemption. Remember, no one is ever too far gone. God has the power to save even the most lost souls. After seeking forgiveness, commit yourself to personal growth and transformation.
How To Overcome Confusion
3. Disconnect from negative influences and unhealthy relationships
The company we keep greatly impacts our lives. It is essential to sever ties with negative influences and ungodly associations. Delete their contact information and avoid visiting places that hinder your progress. Protect your destiny by making choices that align with your values and goals.
Seek the guidance of a mentor who has walked the path you aspire to tread. A mentor possesses wisdom that can help you navigate through foolishness. A single word of advice from a mentor can prevent a year of heartbreak and agony. However, choose a mentorship that feels mutually beneficial, and never allow yourself to be coerced into a mentoring relationship that doesn’t align with your comfort.
How To Overcome Confusion
5. Make reading the Bible a daily habit
Commit to reading the Bible every day. It nourishes your soul, provides spiritual sustenance, and safeguards you from falling into temptation.
6. Seek divine direction through prayer
Constantly communicate with God and seek His guidance in all aspects of life. Maintain an open line of communication with Him, and He will respond to the desires of your heart.
7. Place unwavering trust in God and His word
Trust in the Lord and His teachings. He genuinely cares for you and will always guide you in the right direction. Remember the words of Psalms 71:1, In thee, O Lord, do I put my trust: let me never be put to confusion.
Uncovering the Origins of Confusion. Today, I want to delve into a significant issue that affects both individuals and couples, whether single or married.
A recurring statement that I constantly hear is, “Pastor, I am in a state of confusion, unsure of what steps to take!” It is widely acknowledged that confusion does not originate from God. As stated in scripture:
For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints. (1 Corinthians 14:33 KJV)
Confusion stems from the devil. A relationship or marriage plagued by confusion will inevitably crumble. Consider this:
The city of confusion is broken down: every house is shut up, that no man may come in. (Isaiah 24:10 KJV)
The next pertinent inquiry then becomes, “What are the causes of confusion?” Let us explore some of them. By identifying the root causes of confusion, one can avoid falling victim to them. So, what are these causes?
Uncovering the Origins of Confusion
1. Neglecting to read the Bible
The word of God is life-giving. In Him lies life, and this life serves as the guiding light for humanity. When one ceases to engage with divinity through His word, confusion inevitably takes hold. If the word of God brings life and light, then it follows that neglecting to read the Bible leads to darkness and spiritual death.
Initially, this may not manifest as physical death, but it undoubtedly results in a loss of direction, brewing confusion.
2. Ignoring the voice of God
The Spirit of God perpetually seeks to guide us. He communicates with us daily and at all times. Confusion becomes the outcome when one chooses to disregard His voice and instead follow the desires of their heart.
Obedience to God and His word brings peace of mind. Conversely, disobedience to God and His principles leads to confusion. The word of God is replete with guiding principles. By adhering to these principles, one can avoid disappointment.
We lie down in our shame, and our confusion covereth us: for we have sinned against the Lord our God, we and our fathers, from our youth even unto this day, and have not obeyed the voice of the Lord our God. (Jeremiah 3:25 KJV)
4. Engaging in multiple relationships simultaneously
Being involved with more than one person in a relationship invariably leads to confusion, as it disrupts God’s intended order.
When Adam proclaimed, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh,” he referred to a singular partner. However, when one engages with multiple individuals simultaneously, it becomes impossible to discern which person truly belongs to them.
5. Succumbing to sexual sins
Indulging in sexual compromises will undoubtedly lead to confusion. God does not desire for us to entangle ourselves in the snares of promiscuity. Such scenarios will invariably breed confusion, as they defy God’s intended order.
The subsequent pressing question then becomes, “What should one do when faced with confusion?” How does one extricate themselves from this state?
We will consider some potential solutions tomorrow.
Spirituality should never in any way disturb being a romantic lover, single or married.
This has nothing to do with sexual intimacy.
The synonyms of “romantic” include loving, amorous, passionate, tender, affectionate, lovey-dovey.
Speaking in tongues should not disturb speaking sweet things to your lover.
One is to God, the other is to your lover. After you have done the one for God, do the one for your lover as well.
Let your relationship or marriage be characterized by the expression of love.
Be passionate towards him or her.
Before the wedding, “passionate’ does not include kissing, smooching, and intimacy.
It includes calling regularly, doting on each other, praying for one another, sending loving (not vulgar or perverse) texts to each other (not sexting), buying each other flowers, chocolates, and special gifts, and doing memorable things together.
After the wedding, it includes all of the above and regular, consistent, times of intimacy, as much as you want.
In the Old Testament, honeymoons last as long as one year!
Deu 24:5 (KJV) When a man hath taken a new wife, he shall not go out to war, neither shall he be charged with any business: but he shall be free at home one year, and shall cheer up his wife which he hath taken.
God wants you to enjoy each other! Obviously, this doesn’t mean to go and stay somewhere without work in today’s world, It simply means to continue in that atmosphere of honeymoon. By the time you do one year, it becomes a lifetime practice.
In the New Testament, God wants you to have a honeymoon for life! Enjoy every day of your married life!
Sadly enough, by the first week of most marriages, it is only the moon they can find, no honey!
That will not be your portion in Jesus’ name!
The Bible clearly advocates that married couples enjoy themselves sexually and otherwise.
Pro 5:18-19 (KJV) Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. [19] Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
Are You Lovey-Dovey?
There is nothing wrong with fantasizing about your spouse! It is godly. Take a look at the Message Translation:
Pro 5:18-19 (MSG) Bless your fresh-flowing fountain! Enjoy the wife you married as a young man! [19] Lovely as an angel, beautiful as a rose— don’t ever quit taking delight in her body. Never take her love for granted!
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What should come together before the wedding are the souls, in the place of beautiful conversation, healthy chats, romantic exchanges of words, making plans for the future, and envisioning the future together.
Speaking in tongues should not replace speaking loving words to each other.
Both are very important.
The Intersection of Romance and Spirituality
Speaking loving words to your lover should not replace speaking loving words to your creator.
Both are lovers.
God is the lover of your soul, your dear one is the lover of your body!
God loves you to speak loving words to Him.
Your lover craves loving words to be spoken to him or her.
After you have prayed, make sure you also play with your loved one!
There must be a balance of the romantic and the spiritual in order to keep your love life going and in order to make a relationship lead to marriage.
Speaking loving words to each other will keep false assumptions away.
Speaking in tongues will keep demonic influence away.
Speaking loving, romantic words to each other adds strength to your love life.
Speaking in tongues adds strength to your inner man.
With your love life, you fight doubt and insecurities.
With your inner man, you fight and wade off attacks of the enemy.
That is why the scripture emphasizes that romance alone will not deliver.
The Intersection of Romance and Spirituality
Rom 14:17 (KJV) For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost.
That is, if you want to bring the kingdom of God into your relationship or marriage, it is not in meat and drink alone, it is not in ice cream and cinema outings alone, it is also in right living, in Shalom, and in the Holy Spirit
Do you get it?
That he is handsome alone would not be enough, can he speak in tongues?
That she has hot legs alone would not suffice, does she have a hot heart as well?
I will stop here this morning!
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Do you mean the Bible advises on some form of intoxication? Do you mean I can really get high and still make heaven?
Well, it depends on what is intoxicating you!
The Holy Writ expressly and without mincing words says you should be intoxicated with your wife!
Really?
Go ahead and read it for yourself!
Proverbs 5:18-19 English Standard Version 2016 (ESV) Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.
Be Intoxicated Always!
To be intoxicated means to be drunk or under the influence of drugs.
Just that the drug is now the love for your wife!
Why would God be advising this?
He knows times will come and you will be irritated with your wife for several reasons. Some genuine, some out of ignorance, some out of arrogance, and some just some selfish ego trip.
It becomes even more intense when you are irritated with your wife and getting intoxicated with another! Ha!
That is sitting on a keg of powder! You ready don’t want to do that! I’m just advising you ni o!
So choose your source of intoxication wisely! Be enraptured with her love always! Please take my advice and have peace of mind!
Be Intoxicated Always!
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God has been faithful. The faithfulness of God is like a check that you can take to the bank with your full chest!
His faithfulness never fails! Not once!
Has God been faithful to me?
The answer is Yes, a billion times! God has been faithful to me!
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Joy is a serious business of heaven, so says Rev, Mark Hankins
As I was meditating on the phrase, the Holy Spirit whispered in my spirit,
“If joy is the serious business of heaven, then sorrow must be the serious business of hell!
Don’t Let The Devil Steal Your Joy
Sorrow, perpetual guilt, depression, despondency, and regrets are the tools of hell to create a loophole, entry point, and landing place for the cohorts of hell
The devil cannot just access your life, finances, family and so on, with a loophole Such loopholes are created when you lose your joy!
Later today, I will post a message on joy you need to listen to!
Marriage wine can often dry up, turn sour, or simply lose taste. Relationships can lose the spark, the fun, and the glee!
Love can wane, can grow old, and can fast dissipate. Feelings are fickle, never with a forever status.
What do you do when love seems to wane, when the tummy butterflies have all rested their wings, love birds have no more songs, when his or her words evoke no more feelings, and the blushing, the dimples, and the smiles have all gone?
What do you do at such times?
You are in courtship and everything seems intense, but of recently, you are no longer excited.
You don’t even look forward to hearing from each other and yet you still have peace that you are in the right relationship.
You are married, and the marriage bed has gone cold.
Intimacy used to be a trip but right now it is a complete bore. You could almost be reading a novel while you are at it. And yet the Bible unequivocally advises that Pro 5:19 (KJV) Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
What happened?
Here are a few things that could steal the wine off the marriage shelf, that could sap out and zap off every fun in the union.
What To Do When Love Wanes
1. When you allow pressures to stifle the pleasure
There will always be pressures, especially pressures from work. Wise husbands and wives learn to leave office pressures at the office and not bring them home.
For those in courtship, do not allow work pressures to swallow up fun communication times, times of bonding, and times of aligning the souls.
Decide to enjoy your courtship through vibrant communication and unhindered flow irrespective of the pressures that be
What To Do When Love Wanes
2. When you allow the hustles and bustles of life to steal your rest in God
Whether you like it or not, there will always be issues to deal with.
You must have a commitment to each other in a relationship or marriage to put each other first place after God.
3. When you refuse to spend quality time together
Love will wane when you don’t spend time with each other.
Nothing will ever replace quality time spent together enriched with destiny discussions and plans for the future.
Those times of fellowship can never be replaced with any other thing
For singles in courtship, this quality time must not be tainted with sexual sins.
With compromise, quality time will become dangerous time, bringing with it, damnation and guilt.
But essentially, it’s no longer about you alone, it’s now the two of you!
Are You Single Or Married?
2. You must be responsible
Marriage life requires responsibility. It’s a life of being responsible.
You don’t live for yourself alone. You think about your spouse and your family’s well-being.
You think and carry the thoughts of your family everywhere you go.
That will inform your decision at the time. You don’t just wake up one morning and decide to travel for three weeks.
Your life as a married man or woman must reflect responsibility in all areas.
That’s why society frowns at it if a married woman or man dresses seductively because that is not expected of him/her. A married person is expected to be responsible.
God bless you this morning! Have a fantastic day ahead!
Marriage is a lifelong journey and you want to be sure you travel light.
You don’t want to carry unnecessary baggage that will make your journey strenuous and unpleasant.
There are stuff that are anti-blissful marriage.
Someone once said if you want to travel by flight you go light.
That is why your luggage is weighed at the airport before you board the plane.
If the purpose of God for your marriage and home is going to be accomplished, you must decide to let go of certain habits or mindsets.
They may not necessarily be sins but the Bible talks about laying aside the weight that easily beset us.
Heb 12:1 Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us.
Your marriage is the race set before you and you must be prepared to run it with patience. You will not make a shipwreck of your marriage in Jesus’ name.
I’ll be writing to the men today as they are the leaders of the house.
Loving your wife doesn’t sometimes come naturally, especially if you have been married for a while. To love your wife, you have to learn it and practice it from time to time.
Here are practical ways to love your wives as recorded in the scriptures.
Eph 5:25-28 MSG – Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church–a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor–since they’re already “one” in marriage.
Strategies for Loving Your Wife Like Never Before
1. Go all out for her: This is the first instruction given in the passage above. Go out of your way. Go all out in your love. Don’t hold back in expressing your love for your wife. Love your wife deeply. Love her with your substance. Love her with your commitments.
Love her genuinely and be interested in her progress, all around. Express that love both in action and in words Do not give your emotional space to any other except for her. Go all out for her even in your emotions!
Be there for her emotionally. This means being there to listen, understand, and comfort her during both the good times and the challenging ones.
Strategies for Loving Your Wife Like Never Before
2. Give, don’t just get: As a husband, let your love be marked by giving, not just by getting. Be a giver. That’s the way things are done. Give your time. Give your attention. Give your love. Give them to your family, not to a strange woman out there. Provide for the family. Go the extra mile to make her happy. Let your family be your priority.
Marriage is sacrifice. Let your wife see your love, commitment, and sacrifice.
Give her your time! Sacrificing time for meaningful, quality moments together is crucial
What else can you give? Thoughtful gestures will go a long way! Surprising her with a treat, leaving romantic notes, or having date nights can make her feel cherished and loved.
Don’t just get intimacy, give her too. Give her a listening ear and a shoulder to lean on, she will need it when she is down
You Will Be Joy-Full!. Happy New Month! Welcome to October! It will be a great month for you in Jesus’ name!
This month is our month of JOY-FULL! Your joy will be full in Jesus’ name!
Joh 16:24 (KJV) Hitherto have ye asked nothing in my name: ask, and ye shall receive, THAT YOUR JOY MAY BE FULL.
1Jn 1:4 (KJV) And these things write we unto you, THAT YOUR JOY MAY BE FULL.
God wants your joy to be full!
The question is, “What is that thing that God will do that will cause your joy to be full this month?
In your relationship or marriage, business or career, what is that thing that God would that will cause your joy to be full?
Get ready for it to be done! You Will Be Joy-Full!
Hitherto, you have asked nothing, go ahead and ask now! Hitherto, you have not really been in faith because you think it can’t be done. Well, go ahead and ask now, because God is going to do it!
I pray for you according to the word of the Lord, this month your joy will be full.
Something great, something beautiful, something extraordinary, something that will make you laugh, rejoice, and dance, that thing will be a reality in your life in Jesus’ name!
So what do you do?
Start rejoicing before the rejoicing!
There is always a dance before the dance! You Will Be Joy-Full!
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We all have seeds to sow in our marriage at every point in time.
God will never leave any man without a seed. Seed is the only influence we have to change our tomorrow.
God used the principle of seed time and harvest. The whole world we see today started with just one man and one woman but today we have billions of men and women who have lived on the face of the earth.
If you have the seed(s) and you recognize the seed you have, you can change your future.
Everyone married has seeds and we have to see them and put them to use or sow them. Having seeds is useless if it is not planted. It abideth alone, so says the scriptures.
Two Seeds To Sow Into Your Marriage
1. The Seed of Time:
Every one of us has the gift of time. The people whose marriages are blissful have 24 hours and those whose marriages are troublesome also have 24 hours. The question is: what are you doing with your time?
You cannot be partying around and expect your marriage to come out better than those who give attention to their marriage. How much time in 24 hours do you give or dedicate to your family, after God?
Your marriage is like a garden. If you want a good garden, you have to spend time tending it. How much time do you spend together to talk about yourselves and get to know each other more? You have to sow the seed of time in the right direction to reap the right harvest in your marriage.
Two Seeds To Sow Into Your Marriage
2. The Seed of Words:
We all can speak. We all have the gift of words but what are we saying in our marriage?
Pro 18:21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.
By using their tongues negatively, some people have literally destroyed their marriages. Some curse their spouse and with their own hands have pulled down their marriage.
They destroyed the wealth of their husband and made the creativity of their wife nonsense by their negative tongues.
Some of us don’t curse but we also don’t bless our marriage and our spouse. We should consciously bless (speak good things about) our marriage and spouse.
Even when things are not working as they should be or your spouse does not know the Lord as he/she should, that’s the best time to continually declare God’s word over them.
God used the same principle
Gen 1:2-3 And the earth was without form, and void; and darkness was upon the face of the deep. And the Spirit of God moved upon the face of the waters. 3. And God said, Let there be light: and there was light.
He spoke when the earth was without form and void. He spoke about what He wanted to see.
A man of God said in his book that God spoke to him one day, “My people are busy saying what they can see, what is happening, instead of saying what they want to see”
You have to say what you want to see. Then in time, you will have what you say
Mar 11:23 For verily I say unto you, That whosoever shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith.
May God grant us understanding.
God bless your marriage. We shall continue tomorrow by God’s Grace
What Happened On Your Wedding Day The day you walk down that aisle, something happens.
It’s almost crazy! Your body is no longer your own, it belongs to your spouse.
A fusion takes place in the realm of the spirit, that is so strong that God proclaimed, “Let no man put asunder!”
God becomes the witness of this union, and any attempt to drive a wedge in between this union is coming against God Himself.
As couples who are believers, and well-grounded, the weapon of the devil against you is strategic.
If you are a weak believer with no firm resolve, he can easily bring adultery and infidelity to the table and you will be swept off your feet if you are far from God.
But with those who may be grounded, his weapon is to keep you divided, torment you in your thoughts, and keep you perpetually in strife.
You are not in adultery, but in your mind, you are probably worse off.
What Happened On Your Wedding Day
This will affect the whole family because your thoughts are magnetic and will determine a lot of things around you
How will you pray and agree together when the mind of one of the spouses is riddled with doubt, contempt, and dislike for the other?
Your spouse is easily excited talking to others but irritated when you are alone.
The friend you saw in your spouse as courting sweethearts has evaporated into thin air!
Before you start blaming him or her, you should take responsibility first for where you find yourself, humble yourself, and ask God to help you.
It is another problem entirely when you keep blaming your spouse for your actions, neglect, and carelessness. That can be unfair and you will never change that way.
What Happened On Your Wedding Day
It is like a General Manager who keeps blaming his employees for losses and the employees who keep blaming the Manager for their ineffectiveness. That organization is in a quandary!
Stop the blame game! It is a trap of the devil.
See, there is no point wasting your time, there is much to do!
Why would you fast forty days and then use four days of strife to rubbish everything?
Why would you sow seeds for years and then pull them out with careless, selfish thoughts and words?
Common, get on the same page and combine your weapons against the enemy of your soul.
From the day you get married, you can no longer do it alone!
So, get over trivial issues, be it husband or wife, and be on the same page so that you can both enjoy the fullness of God’s blessings in your life.
Let’s talk a little about the power we all have. Whether you are married or single, man or woman, tall or short, rich or poor, privileged or disadvantaged. We all have this very unique power.
We have long been ignoring this power.
It is the same power God used to create the world and Jesus during His earthly ministry used it all through.
Jesus, our perfect example taught us ‘the how’ to recognize this power.
He showed us how to effectively use it to our advantage no matter what we are going through or what the issue is.
I am talking of the power of the little organ right in our mouth!
Wow! I am sure most of you were thinking, Oh, what is that great power I have?
Well, that is it!
It is as simple as that.
Every Couple’s Got It
It is right there when you open your mouth, and it is the power of your ‘TONGUE’.
Let’s see what the Bible says about our tongue.
Pro 18:21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and they who indulge in it shall eat the fruit of it [for death or life]. [Matt. 12:37.]
And as a result, this is what happens:
Pro 18:20 A man’s [moral] self shall be filled with the fruit of his mouth; and with the consequence of his words he must be satisfied [whether good or evil].
This is an open cheque. The bible says we shall eat the fruit of our tongue whether life or death.
That means God is giving everybody equal chances to create the fruit they will eventually eat in their life and of course, marriage.
You cannot be saying death and expect to eat life.
The thing there is that, the devil makes us unaware of this power and in turn makes us say careless words about our marriage, ourselves, and life in general.
We just speak words as though those words don’t have any effect on our lives.
Become deliberate and don’t just say anything that is not ‘life’ from your mouth.
Use your tongue to bless yourself, your marriage, your children, your work, your business, your everyday situation, and your circumstances.
Don’t envy the fruits of another person. Every Couple’s Got It
Everybody will eventually eat the fruits of what they have been saying over time.
Begin to bless that husband of yours. Begin to bless and speak life to your wife.
Before long, you will begin to eat the fruits of your tongue.
Everybody has got to tend their garden, and tending your garden requires handwork and not giving up.
The grass is always greener on the other side but somebody is tending it.
There are so many things you can do to make your marriage blissful and happy.
But like Jesus told Martha that faithful afternoon, ” One thing is needed and Mary has chosen it and it will not be taken from her.
Luk 10:41-42 (KJV) And Jesus answered and said unto her, Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: [42] But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her.
Here is God asking you whether you are willing to do what it takes for your marriage to be what it ought to be.
What He will be asking you to do may be different from what He is asking me to do.
We will all be required to do different things at different times.
Joy is crucial, my dear! Joy in the Holy Spirit is one of your greatest weapons that you must hold tightly to as a lifestyle!
Joy is crucial to your continual victory in the everyday endeavour!
Joy has been given to you by God to employ against the vicissitudes of life!
Joy doesn’t come automatically, it is always a decision to make!
Hab 3:17-18 (KJV) Although the fig tree shall not blossom, neither shall fruit be in the vines; the labour of the olive shall fail, and the fields shall yield no meat; the flock shall be cut off from the fold, and there shall be no herd in the stalls: [18] Yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will joy in the God of my salvation.
All of those things might happen, yet…!
Broken relationships, yet I will rejoice!
Disappointed a few weeks before the wedding, yet I will rejoice!
We are used to instant victory. Indomie noddles kind of thing.
Even in natural things, nothing just happens. There are no instant millionaires.
In a weight loss programme, it’s easier to gain weight than it is to lose it.
You gain more calories by eating cakes, pastries, and ice cream. You will have to work out for hours and days to lose what you have gained.
My point is, you cannot have an instant weight loss or anything for that matter.
In the same way, we cannot expect instant victory over where we have been defeated before. It takes time and effort.
The Power of Incremental Progress
Some of us have been used to a certain way of thinking and doing things (in a negative way).
We have learned certain bad habits that are not making our marriage work out.
We shout, lie, are selfish and self-centered, we are bossy, we nag, we are lazy, we are insincere, we are not trustworthy, we unnecessarily keep quiet and withdraw, and the list goes on.
It took you years to get to that point and then you are expecting an instant change.
Deu 7:22 And the Lord your God will clear out those nations before you, little by little; you may not consume them quickly, lest the beasts of the field increase among you.
Deu 7:23 But the Lord your God will give them over to you and will confuse them with a mighty panic until they are destroyed.
The Power of Incremental Progress
This is God talking to us. He says your victory will come ‘little by little’.
I feel this little-by-little victory causes us to be sober and keeps us coming to God holding on to Him and looking up to Him for His Mercy.
I believe ‘ the beast of the field’ among us is PRIDE.
Where we feel, ‘ Yes, I can press the button, and …the victory comes.
Remember it took Jesus, dying on the cross to give us this victory. It was a great price.
So don’t get discouraged on your journey to making your marriage beautiful.
Pro 23:18 For surely there is a latter end [a future and a reward], and your hope and expectation shall not be cut off.
God has promised you victory. He has promised that your expectations will not be cut off.
That marriage will be blissful.
That husband will love you.
That wife will be supportive and submissive.
Those children will be obedient and together as a family you will enjoy prosperity. You will move forward. You will increase.
That contract will come through.
God bless your marriage.
Rev. Sophia Okunowo
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1. Marriage is so demanding, that God has to understand.
God wants you to put him first place in your life. Every other thing can come later. Our God is a jealous God. No matter how demanding marriage is, God wants you to give him what’s his.
Your family shouldn’t take the place of God. Likewise your business or career. Your waking moment as a family should be given back to God. Create time out of no time to give back to God.
Four Critical Beliefs to Ditch
2. I can flirt a little since I am not sure what my spouse is doing as well.
This is nothing but a deception from hell. Never allow evil to manipulate your thought pattern. If you give the devil an inch, he will take a mile from you. Stay away from all forms of compromise. Focus on your spouse. Don’t give the devil an avenue to strike your family. Marriage is a covenant, so don’t joke with it.
You don’t say things like I will ‘show’ you. You are actually ‘showing’ yourself because you are one in marriage. Yes, disagreement will come but you need to resolve it quickly and immediately, so as not to give room for funny thoughts. If you and your spouse are not on talking terms, you need to deal with the hurt first and then ask for God’s help. Seek counsel from someone you both submit to.
Four Critical Beliefs to Ditch
4. I make money available, what else do they want?
Money is good. It is important in marriage but it should not be placed above your family. Your wife wants time and attention. Your children need their father. Yes, you need to provide for your family, but not at their expense. You can plan a vacation, a retreat etc. Just make sure you are there for your family.
I pray for you this morning, every situation in your home is corrected by the mercies of God right now. The shalom of God envelopes your marriage. The joy you once had about your spouse is restored right now in the name of Jesus.
Certainly––but only within a certain context. It’s good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. (1 Corinthians 7:2 Message)
As married couples, make sure you satisfy each other sexually. You will chase adultery away like that. But, Pastor my husband has a higher libido and wants it all the time! Receive grace to satisfy him, okay?
With understanding and love, you will be able to strike a balance but make sure he is not frustrated to the point of considering exploring and looking for it outside.
You have married because you are to help each other. Don’t deny one another in the bedroom.
Depths of Sexual Connection in Marriage 2
5. Comfort
Ask every married man; sexual intimacy can be so comforting with one’s spouse when he or she is down. In hard times, in difficult moments, when he or she is at the lowest ebb, sexual intimacy can be so comforting.
There are times when sexual intimacy is wanted and there are times when it is needed. Be sensitive. It is wanted when either spouse asks for it, it is needed when your spouse is down and you decide to comfort your spouse.
Outside of marriage, it brings confusion, disorder, selfishness, and outright disobedience to God’s way of doing things. Now you don’t want to be in a place where you will not have God’s support, and favor.
The question is would you rather go for confusion rather than comfort?
