Here’s A Major Secret To be Found. Susan has had a very rough storyline regarding being found by that remarkable man. A lot of guys have taken her on a ride, some just wanted a sexual thing, while some were having a fling. Susan was almost at that place where she thinks something must be wrong with her. She doesn’t understand why it has been difficult to get married.
I want to share with you this morning about a secret to being found. Certainly, there are many ways, but I want to dovetail on just one specific area.
Let’s take a look at the scriptures. Pro 18:22 (KJV) Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.
Notice this scripture.
It says whoever finds a wife…
Not whoever finds a sister!
Not whenever finds a babe.
The great question is how do you become a wife before getting married?
It’s not on going around to cook for a guy. It’s not in offering your body for sex in the quest to “insure” the guy for a wedding. It is not in spending your hard-earned money on a guy who will later ditch you for another. Here’s A Major Secret To be Found
It’s in preparation! That is how to become a “wife” before becoming a wife!
Marriage is such a great work that you will do yourself good and do your future husband good by first becoming a wife in your attitudes, responsibilities, and general outlook on life.
A wife is a helper.
A wife is a homemaker.
There are many more, but as a single lady, you must develop yourself intellectually and otherwise in readiness to be found.
You must read wide, sit down with mentors, and learn all you can learn!
Men are looking for a “wife”
And trust me, real guys ( I am not taking if those just looking for flings or sex ) know how to spot a wife!
I will stop here this morning. I pray that God gives you more understanding! Here’s A Major Secret To be Found
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not in a hurry. I receive wisdom in my relationship.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me wisdom that is specific to me
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 18:22 (MSG) Find a good spouse, you find a good life— and even more: the favor of GOD!
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Decide to read a book a week
Every Husband Must Hear This! I feel like the Samaritan woman this morning, who excitedly went into the town and told all the men about Jesus.
The woman then left her waterpot, and went her way into the city, and saith to the men, Come, see a man, which told me all things that ever I did: is not this the Christ? John 4:28 – 29 KJV
I believe men really need to hear by revelation and have an encounter with Jesus. It makes all the difference. Men (of course our husbands) are the ones God gave the command, to love their wives like Christ loved the church.
I guess it just makes a lot of sense that they need an encounter with the man Jesus so that they can learn to be like Him.
What really makes Jesus who He is? What did Jesus represent and what did He come to the world to show us? I believe He came to show us the God kind of faith. To show us how to live the faith life. He lived here on earth as a man to show us how men (by extension, women also) ought to live.
If we are going to love our wives like Christ loved the church, it’s going to be by faith. Jesus wants every Husband to be men of faith. Every Husband Must Hear This
Talking about faith, our example of faith who walked by faith is our father, Abraham. His journey of faith started with God calling him to leave his kindred and father’s house.
I love the Amp translation NOW [in Haran] the Lord said to Abram, Go for yourself [for your own advantage] away from your country, from your relatives and your father’s house, to the land that I will show you. [Heb. 11:8-10.] And I will make of you a great nation, and I will bless you [with abundant increase of favors] and make your name famous and distinguished, and you will be a blessing [dispensing good to others].Genesis 12:1 – 2 AMPC
This is the similar instruction God gave to Adam as a key to having a successful marriage.
Therefore a man shall ‘leave’ his father and his mother and shall become united and cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24 AMPC
Every Husband is called to a life of faith. It takes faith to leave the familiar and go on a journey trusting in God.
You cannot love a woman if you are a natural man. Challenges of life will come. What will you overcome them with? The bible says faith is our victory. Faith is what gives us victory 100% of the time.
In leaving your father’s house or kindred, God actually wants us to ‘leave’ the ideals, methods, and ways of this natural world. He wants us to live by another standard. Which is the standard of faith. This is done by renewing our minds.
Husbands you have to be men of faith. Every Husband Must Hear This
Romans 12:2 AMPC Do not be conformed to this world (this age), [fashioned after and adapted to its external, superficial customs], but be transformed (changed) by the [entire] renewal of your mind [by its new ideals and its new attitude], so that you may prove [for yourselves] what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God, even the thing which is good and acceptable and perfect [in His sight for you].
You love your wife by being ‘a saviour’ to her. You enforce what is written over your marriage.
I remember just before our wedding, I was ill suddenly and was taken to the hospital. I actually passed out. It was the prayer of faith of my fiance, now my husband that revived me.
Life will be full of crises and challenges. Husbands, the greatest gift you can give your wife and family is to be a man of faith.
Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word. Be a man of the word.
Read the word, study it, meditate on it, confess it and begin to live by faith.
“Look at the proud one, His soul is not right within him, But the righteous will live by his faith [in the true God]. Habakkuk 2:4 AMP
God bless our marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a man (woman) of faith. I develop my faith and I experience victory over life’s challenges
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY I receive grace to begin to walk by faith in Jesus’ name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Look at the proud one, His soul is not right within him, But the righteous will live by his faith [in the true God]. Hab 2:4
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Begin to live by your own faith
Dear child, today yet again, we will be learning wisdom from the book of Proverbs. King Solomon has something to teach you today.
I want you to pay close attention to today’s devotional, and make sure you learn something.
Do you know who a king is?
A king is a ruler over a kingdom. He has lots and lots of people who answer to him.
His words are powerful, because once he speaks, everyone listens and follows what he says.
A king has a crown, a beautiful crown made with precision, and valuable items like Gold, sliver, precious stones and so many beautiful things.
He is also dressed in beautiful clothing because he wears the best things in his kingdom.
Another thing about a king is that he lives in a palace, a beautiful place, built specifically for kings to live in.
Do you know that God has called you and I as his children to be kings and queens on earth?
If you are a child of God, it means you are royalty. Since God is the King of Kings, and we as his children are representing him on earth, so you are a king/queen.
Today in our focus verse, King Solomon says something very important about kings, and I want you to learn from it.
A divine decision [given by God] is on the lips of the king [as His representative]; His mouth should not be unfaithful or unjust in judgment. —Proverbs 16:10 (AMP)
As a king/queen, you are a representative of God on earth, and so since you represent him, he puts wise words in your mouth to speak at all times.
You are not to speak words that don’t represent who you represent.
You know God is faithful and true, so as his kings and queens, what you say should be the truth at all times
You should always speak words that shows that you are a king/queen not otherwise.
You don’t just say something because everyone is saying it, your words should be divine and true at all times.
As God’s kings and queens, you shouldn’t tell lies, say abusive words, gossip or say things that don’t represent the kingdom of God.
What God expects you to do is to bless people with your words. Say good things all the time, don’t tell lies, don’t gossip about anyone, pray for your friends and family.
God honours the words of kings and queens because he choose you to be one.
Today, decide to live and speak as kings and queens today.
How To Handle Rejection From Lovers’ Parents. Ade and Bridget were so much into each other that all their friends saw them as the definition of a perfect love story.
It’s been over six years of love affair because they met prior to admission into higher institutions. Theirs was like a love story woven be heaven itself.
They looked forward to their wedding with glee and passion. There was nothing they have not discussed from number of children, to career compatibility and even the location where they will be domiciled.
For the very first time, they decided to open up to their parents who had been kept in limbo all the while. They didn’t expect any resistance from that end, they sure have taken care of that in prayers.
However, to their consternation and amazement, the guy’s parents refused to bless the union. These heavily stalled all their plans and threw Bridget into emotional frenzy!
What would people say? How would they explain to all who looked up to them and saw their relationship as a model?
She was devastated. They prayed, but the more they prayed, the more obstinate the parents were!
Ade was helpless. Every of their attempt to convince the parents came to null and void.
At this point, what should they do?
Ade and Bridget should be prepared to move on! What? Yes, it is not going to be easy. It is going to heartbreaking, but on no occasion should Bridget force her way into a family that forthrightly rejected her.
If she did, frustration and agony awaited her. What should be her response on How To Handle Rejection From Lovers’ Parents?
You see, in God, rejection can become direction! She should go into her closet and seek God’s face why this happened. She should resort to worship and judge God faithful!
Heb 11:11 (KJV) Through faith also Sara herself received strength to conceive seed, and was delivered of a child when she was past age, BECAUSE SHE JUDGED HIM FAITHFUL WHO HAD PROMISED.
If you are in Bridget’s shoes, you MUST worship and rejoice… then you will truly rejoice at the end.
Be assured that no parents can stop God’s plan. So when they insist, and looked like they won, God must have permitted it for a purpose, if they are unyielding after several prayers.
Let it go and see the beautiful story God will weave out even as you worship and rejoice.
Remember this, if you stay in hurt and bitterness, you can lose out. So stay in joy! This is How To Handle Rejection From Lovers’ Parents
Good morning!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be a loser. I embrace God’s wisdom.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY O Lord, grant me grace to overcome hurts and wounds in the soul
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Heb 11:11 (KJV) Through faith also Sara herself received strength to conceive seed, and was delivered of a child when she was past age, because she judged him faithful who had promised.
Don’t Play the Victim In Your Marriage. I heard the story of a man of God who went hunting together with a friend (the friend was actually the one taking him hunting). He was looking forward to having a quick or fast hunting experience but to his greatest surprise this was not happening.
He then asked his friend “where are the animals?” His friend said, “I will show you a secret.” He made a certain sound, and true to his words, an animal came out from the woods. He asked his friend what was the connection between the sound and the animal coming out?
The friend told him, that was no ordinary sound, but the sound made by animals that are caught in a trap, that are already helpless. Hearing that sound means there was cheap meal available for it.
This is the crust of my message this morning.
“There is no virtue in playing the victim”.
Our lives are constantly making sound(s) in the spirit realm. What sound are you making? Are you playing the victim game? Is your life oozing out victory or defeat?
Even in our marriage, if we constantly give a sound of defeat and being beaten, our spouse will not enjoy our company despite loving us. Don’t Play the Victim In Your Marriage
Another truth is that the sound you produce determines more of what you attract. If you are joyful, you will attract more joy.
Don’t be a victim in your marriage. We all have being through some things. Yes, I know some have been through harder situations than others. Bible tells us, we can handle whatever comes our way.
1 Corinthians 10:13 KJV. There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.
Whatever situation we faced or passed through is to make us better not bitter. We gained experience to comfort others with the comfort where with we were comforted.
2 Corinthians 1:3 – 4 KJV Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort; who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God.
Pick up yourself from your past. Whatever happened in your past, rise above it and don’t live in your past. Don’t keep the memory of your past in your present. You lost your mum, yes, live past it. You lost money, lost relationship, whatever your loss is, get past it and move on.
Move on as though it never happened. Dust yourself. Be like the donkey in a story, who even though dirts were dumped on it it “shook it off the dust and stepped on it”.
The more you play the victim the more life will hand you more abuse. When you murmur, complain and grumble about life the “serpent” will bite you. Your sound of murmuring and complaining will attract demons who will give you more reasons to complain.
Keep up your joy. Let the sounds of Glory, of rejoicing and shouts of praise proceed out of you.
In your marriage, you become attractive to your spouse when you are full of life. Depression is a disease that repels. It is repulsive. You want to be your spouses’ friend? Then be responsive, be jovial, be playful, be youthful.
Some times we feel when we play the victim we engender sympathy and pity from others. Yes, we might. But soon they get tried and frustrated.
We already have all the victory in Christ Jesus. Don’t have an entitlement mentality. The world doesn’t have to revolve around you. Pick up yourself and enjoy life. Don’t Play the Victim In Your Marriage
God bless our marriages.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My mind is renewed by God’s word. I am not a victim of life
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY O Lord, I ask for wisdom in areas where I lack wisdom in Jesus name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Rom 12:2 (CEV) Don’t be like the people of this world, but let God change the way you think. Then you will know how to do everything that is good and pleasing to him.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE Pick up yourself from whatever happened in your past. Stop being the victim.
There is something powerful in stillness. There are losses and failure embedded in anxiety and unnecessary worrying!
The very concept of faith itself, is contradicted in your efforts to do things in your own wisdom and at the detriment of His instructions and direction!
Yes, you are lover boy, and you are experienced, but can you be still before you are humbled?
Oh yeah, you are a babe who have read all major relationship books, but can you be still to hear Him!
When you are too noisy and unsettled in your communion with Him, you miss His voice! Oh Lord, that I should not miss your voice for once!
Can I tell you something striking this morning? Can it be possible that you are crying for God’s intervention in your relationship and yet the very attitude that block that is being courted?
Oh, I have had a lot of broken relationships
Oh, I can’t seem to know who to get married to
Oh, I don’t know who to choose out of so many
Well, you sure needs God’s direction!
However, seeing God in your relationship, seeing His intervention in your love life, is predicated on STILLNESS! Finding The Love of Your Life In Stillness is the next big thing!
Let’s validate that in the scripture.
Psa 46:10 (KJV) Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth.
The scripture is so clear and explicit here. Be still and you will know He is God! God is interested in Finding The Love of Your Life In Stillness
Let’s take a look at another translation. Psa 46:10 (MSG) “Step out of the traffic! Take a long, loving look at me, your High God, above politics, above everything.”
Wow! Get out of that traffic of anxiety and worry!
God is above all the politics of relationships and marriage!
You get it now! Light dawns on you now! You’re been taking things into your hands all in the name of planning and strategizing!
All has failed you till now. The milk of disappointment has been gobbled down severally! Now is the time of realization, that your miracle is in your stillness.
This stillness simply and aptly put, is your trust in God that He’s got your back, that He won’t abandon you and that He will not disappoint you!
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CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I ham still. I am not anxious.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me to be still and to trust you
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psa 46:10 (AMPC) Let be and be still, and know (recognize and understand) that I am God. I will be exalted among the nations! I will be exalted in the earth!
Seeing Love From The Eyes of Jesus Christ. The love of Jesus is an absolute, unconditional and a sacrificial love. A love marked with ultimately giving of Himself.
The Bible says
john 3:16, ‘For God so loved the world that He gave His only beloved son, that whosoever shall believe in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.’
He loves us that we may know how to love. He shows us how to love that we may in turn reciprocate that agape love to others especially our spouse. Seeing Love From The Eyes of Jesus Christ will make us appreciate that love.
The love of Jesus is greater than any type of love. It is so deep, it reaches the inner recesses of our heart and the core of our being. It is so wide we can’t get round it , it covers all our being. It is so high we can’t get enough of it. It just overwhelms us.
Such is the love of Jesus to us. His love was what made Him die on the cross of Calvary. Jesus came to this world as the express image of God the father. He is the expression of the father. The expression of the fathers love. This love is not selfish or self seeking. It is a love that is faithful and loyal . A love that keeps waiting with arms wide open to receive us. Our weaknesses, faults, short comings, stubbornness, disobedience not withstanding.
The abba fathers love yearns for us every time, He wants an intimate relationship with us. He wants to be our Yahweh. Our best friend , our shepherd who protect us with His life. He wants to be our defender, the one who fights our battles for us. Our Jehovah Rohi, Shammah, Rapha and whatever names, He has revealed Himself to us
Seeing Love From The Eyes of Jesus Christ’s perspective helps us to see how we should love our spouse unconditionally.
God bless our marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love my spouse with the agape, unconditional love of Christ
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord; let me see and receive your love that I may love my spouse the same way
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY John 3:16 God loved the people of this world so much that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who has faith in him will have eternal life and never really die.
Open The Heavens By Opening Your Mind. If you are stubborn with your thoughts, you can delay your next season.
A lot of things happen in the realm of the mind. If you are growing, one sign will be that your thoughts keep changing, getting better and better aligned to God’s word.
If your thoughts are still the same, as it was ten or fifteen years ago, it shows that there is some form of spiritual deformity.
Take a look at the scripture:
Rom 12:2 (AMPC) Do not be conformed to this world (this age), [fashioned after and adapted to its external, superficial customs], but be transformed (changed) by the [entire] renewal of your mind [by its new ideals and its new attitude], so that you may prove [for yourselves] what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God, even the thing which is good and acceptable and perfect [in His sight for you].
Open The Heavens By Opening Your Mind. There has to be constant transformation or change which the scripture says will come from Renewal of mind.
Do you now see that it’s a big problem for those stubbornly fixated on their thoughts and who refuse to embrace the workings of the Holy Spirit in their hearts?
Everything you are learning daily is an opportunity to change and be transformed.
It’s a little here and a little there.
For example, the Kisses and Huggs Club devotionals which you read daily are like building blocks, words inspired daily by the Holy Spirit.
So, it actually becomes counter productive if one is just reading and never applying the lessons in a pragmatic way.
Each daily devotional is an encounter with God, with the capacity to cause a transformation, a day at a time.
You can now see that God’s method of making you better, wealthy and prosperous is through your mind. According to 3 John 2, God wishes above all things that you prosper, as your soul prospers.
You’ve got to open up your heart and mind to God’s word! Open The Heavens By Opening Your Mind!
A person with a closed up mind is a loser any day, anytime. I pray that God grants you more understanding
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My mind is renewed by God’s word.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY O Lord, I ask for wisdom in areas where I lack wisdom in Jesus name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Rom 12:2 (CEV) Don’t be like the people of this world, but let God change the way you think. Then you will know how to do everything that is good and pleasing to him.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE Decide to make immediate changes as God speaks to you
The ultimate goal of your marriage is that you and your spouse become best of friends, an intimate relationship or better still a covenant relationship. This Is what marriage is meant to be. We have to find a common ground of friendship where we truly love and like ourselves. That’s why we always advise you marry your friend.
Some of us were not really friends before they got married while some others lost their friendship along the way in marriage. Life happened to them and the very basis for their friendship was eroded. Others could not manage their differences, and as such lost their friendship. Yet others allowed third parties come between them.
Our friendship as couples is meant to last till death do us part.
Pro 18:24 (MSG) Friends come and friends go, but a true friend sticks by you like family.
Pro 18:24 TPT) Some friendships don’t last for long, but there is one loving friend who is joined to your heart closer than any other!
We are supposed to stick together for life.
Here are some tips that will help you build friendship with your spouses and become best friends. We must show ourselves friendly if we must have our spouse as our friend. {Pro18:24)
How To Best Be Friends with Your Spouse
Spend a lot of time together and learn how to start and sustain conversations. Friendship is spelt time together doing activities together and communicating. Stay as much as possible and keep in touch through text, calls, chats etc. and also enjoy each other’s company.
Forgive easily, quickly and completely
Pro 17:9 CEV You will keep your friends if you forgive them, but you will lose your friends if you keep talking about what they did wrong.
Do activities you both enjoy together. Do what you both enjoy doing. Eat out, walk together, watch movies, go sight seeing.
Be each other’s cheer leader. Let your spouse always feel like a million bucks. Don’t pull your spouse down.
Be vulnerable with each other. Encourage open conversations.
Accept each other’s flaws. Roses have thorns, if you focus on the thorn you will not enjoy and appreciate the fragrance of the rose.
Don’t focus on each other’s weaknesses. Stop drawing attention always to your spouse’s weaknesses. Give them time to grow and trust God to work on them.
Encourage each other during tough times. Be the support system for them, always be there for them.
Don’t be a boss or be domineering. Respect each other’s feelings, boundaries and personality differences
Be honest. Give your sincere opinion or correction in love
This is How To Best Be Friends with Your Spouse. God bless our marriages.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am my spouse best friend, no one and nothing can come between us
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
I let go of every offense that has cause our friendship to be turned in hatred in Jesus name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 18:24 KJV A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.
Doubts will come, as long as you are human. Even Jesus Christ experienced doubts. This happened at the garden of Gethsemane when he was overwhelmed by the pain and agony he would be going through.
So how do you prevent unnecessary doubts?
1 Be sure of God’s direction before you take a step
That way, when doubts arise, you will easily identify the source and then you can deal with it. You will know that the doubt is coming to fight you out of God’s will and you will resist it.
But when you are not sure whether it was God or not in the first place, when doubts arise along the way, you are unsure of how to handle it, because inner conviction is absent.
2 Don’t be a in a hurry in your romantic journey
Don’t be hasty. Don’t fall in love senselessly. Be responsible and surround yourself with good friends and mentors.
3 Do not lgnore authority figures in your life,
While they are not supposed to decide for you, God can often speak through them to warn you about steps you are about to take. Do not despise or disregard their wisdom.
4 Learn to read and study God’s word regularly.
It brings you the wisdom that stabilizes your soul.
Handling Doubts About Your Lover. The next question is what if I am already in doubt?
1. Go back to God to confirm what He said in the first place.
There is nothing wrong with hearing God again.
God hath spoken once; twice have I heard this (Psalms 62:11 KJV)
2. Take time to stay in God’s presence and you will hear Him again.
Sometimes you might have to fast to get your mind quiet.
3. Stay away from every sin.
Ask God to forgive you if you are hooked up with masturbation, pornography, pre-marital sex, or some other sexual perversion.\
5. Learn to pray together.
When you don’t pray, unnecessary issues will arise often and destabilize you.
The last question is how can I be sure a decision is of God?
When a decision you are about to take or have taken is of God, you will have peace. It is an unexplainable peace that doesn’t seem to line up with physical reality sometimes, but the peace will be there that tells you all is well. When this peace is absent, never go ahead with that decision. This is the way of Handling Doubts About Your Lover
And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:7 KJV)
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I have the peace of God. I am guided by God’s peace.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, let there be restoration of all that I have lost.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Php 4:7 (AMPC) And God’s peace [shall be yours, that tranquil state of a soul assured of its salvation through Christ, and so fearing nothing from God and being content with its earthly lot of whatever sort that is, that peace] which transcends all understanding shall garrison and mount guard over your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Ask you lover pertinent question about the future.
We are considering The Importance of Peace in Marriage today. Peace is not just the absence of troubles, it is tranquility in the midst of the storm.
In Mark 4:32, we read the story of Jesus calming the boisterous sea and wind. He was able to calm that storm basically because He was with them on that trip.
Jesus the Christ is not only the source of peace, He is the Peace Himself. The Prince of peace, the Amen, the Word of God.
In John chapter 2, Jesus was not just a guest at the wedding (your marriage). He was acknowledged, honoured, valued and obeyed. They know The Importance of Peace in Marriage!
Do you value Jesus the Word and allow Him have a say in your marriage? Do you believe Jesus can proffer solution to your marital crisis? Are you willing to obey whatever He asks you to do no matter how ridiculous or difficult or time consuming it seems?
Jesus is that peace your marriage desperately needs. Just like Jesus was the solution that the Cana of Galilee wedding needed in John 2. They could have despise Him, refuse to acknowledge Him and disobey Him, to their detriment. They chose rather to not ignore The Importance of Peace in Marriage!
Don’t just be a church goer, a prayer warrior, a demon chaser, don’t just know Jesus (they must have known Him to invite Him to the wedding). Recognize Him as the final authority in your marriage. Whatever Jesus tells you to do, DO IT, and you will experience miracles beyond your imagination.
God bless your marriage
Thought for the day.
I need Jesus in my life and marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not only have Jesus passively in my marriage but I will listen to His voice and obey Him.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord help me to make you the Lord of my marriage.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Mary then went to the servers and told them, “Whatever Jesus tells you, do it!” John 2:5 TPT
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Read a book on how to hear God’s voice
How to handle doubts about your lover is a skill you need, to have a successful relationship. Emeka and Sandy are seeing each other, but there is a nagging feeling within her that brings doubts every time. She didn’t know what to do with the doubts.
What do you do with doubts? Doubts will always come. You can’t prevent it. I think the first question is “Why do doubts spring up in a relationship that is looking so promising?
There are several scenarios that can elicit doubts. Let’s take a look at some of them.
1. Doubts can come quickly to shatter the delicate glass of romance when your expectation of a lover are unrealistic and are not being met
2. When your lover is not God’s choice for you, God will allow the doubts to rush at you in order to get your attention.
3. Conversely, when the devil wants to dissuade you about your lover, he can bring doubts, his aim being to make you miss out on God’s plan for your marriage.
There are more ways to identify doubts in order to know how to handle doubts about your lover.
4. When there is sexual compromise, the beautiful romantic story God is writing can quickly become one with nasty twists and turns. This is what sin does, particularly sexual sins, it seeks to bring confusion to the soul.
5. When you rush into a relationship with a lover without duly seeking God’s direction, every events in the relationship will be a spring board of doubt, simply because you are not sure.
6. When you shift the responsibility of finding out God’s plan to some prophet or seer, doubt will arise along the way and you will quickly drift off, since there was never a personal conviction.
7. When all respected people and authority figures around you are against the choice of your lover, doubts, like bandits, are waiting and lurking in the next junction of romantic journey.
8. When storms arise, and winds blow, and dusts rise to blur the romantic journey, doubts can quickly emerge from within the turbulence.
After knowing How To Handle Doubts About Your Lover, the next question then will be “What do I do when these doubts come? How can I guard against unnecessary doubts? How can I be really sure?
This is where we will continue from tomorrow! Don’t miss it!
Tonight, Tue 19th July, we will be having School of Relationship and Marriage and Pastor Sophia and I will be teaching you! It will take place on YouTube. You can subscribe ahead and click on notification bell to know when we go live by 6.00pm. Use this link HERE
God bless you!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not doubt. I have God’s Spirit in me.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God will bring His wisdom to your life
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Rom 8:14 (KJV) For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.
Is Your Marriage a Reward or an Assignment? Marriage is a beautiful experience when we go by God’s dictate. People can make their wedding day more beautiful than their marriage. They attach more priority to the wedding day than they do the marital life. Every one loves a beautiful wedding day. From the bride’s gorgeous dress, to the maids of honours’ outfits, to the flowers, the well decorated hall, the music and the joyous atmosphere. We plan for the wedding day for months forgetting the marriage which is more important!
My question to us this morning is simple. Is your marriage a reward or an assignment? For some people, marriage is a reward, a prize and they want to sit back and enjoy their reward.
Is Your Marriage a Reward or an Assignment? For some others, marriage is an assignment. A calling to work and labor. To the wives, a call to be an helpmeet, to respect and to be forgiving. To the husband, a call to love like Christ loves the church.
What a great assignment we have on our hands. We will keep on learning, unlearning and relearning to fulfil this assignment. It is actually a life long assignment we will never graduate from.
God’s standards are defined and it is to him we are accountable. He is the one to mark our scripts. So husbands and wives, be diligent to do your assignment.
God bless our marriages. Is Your Marriage a Reward or an Assignment?
Tonight, Tue, 19th July, we will be having School of Relationship and Marriage and Pastor Sophia and I will be teaching you! It will take place on YouTube. You can subscribe ahead and click on notification bell to know when we go live by 6.00pm. Use this linkHERE
God bless you!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am focused on my God given assignment
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, grant me grace to give my assignment all it takes to make a success of it in Jesus name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAYRom 8:13 (KJV) For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be intentional about working on your marriage
Real Love Or Social Media Illusions? I will be fifty this years old this year, and I tell you, a lot has taken place in the last few decades!
My wife and I were campus sweethearts, falling in love while in school and getting married while she was serving!
Things have changed rapidly over the years. They changed so fast and everybody in my generation witnessed the unveiling of another era. As a matter of fact, some people are still caught in the analog years as their brains refused to cooperate with the present realities.
I recall with nostalgia, how there were no smart phones, there was no Facebook, no Instagram, as a matter of fact there was no internet while I was in courtship with my wife.
Let me make it worse, there were no emails. The first time I heard the word, “e-mail” I had already graduated from the University and the fellow who told me wanted to charge me three thousand to create email for me! I gladly declined. I was not about to pay for something I couldn’t fathom!
Real Love Or Social Media Illusions? The present day singles are beleaguered with Social Media life and the pressure is intense.
From IG to TikTok, it’s a race to be relevant, to be an influencer and to make money!
Filled with all manner of sexually appealing content, the extent of unreal life can be overwhelming.
However, you are not going to live a social media life, you are not going to have a TikTok wife, and YouTube children. You are going to have a real human being as spouse and the reality goes beyond the world of social media. There is a difference between Real Love Or Social Media Illusions?
Take a look at the scripture: Mat 6:2 (MSG) “When you do something for someone else, don’t call attention to yourself. You’ve seen them in action, I’m sure—’playactors’ I call them—treating prayer meeting and street corner alike as a stage, acting compassionate as long as someone is watching, playing to the crowds. They get applause, true, but that’s all they get.
Every time you seek attention and “likes” on social media as against pleasing God, you already got your reward for all you do! Every time you do stuffs for the sake of being noticed, you are defeating the original purpose.
It is important to take your root downward in God’s word, be an authentic person and be spiritual in your dealings with God and man!
Scrolling through a payer app, is not prayer, listening to a YouTube worship is not practicing God’s presence, and so on and so forth!
Learn to drop the phones for a while and be spiritually authentic! Connect with God. When the chips are down, TikTok or IG would be unable to cast out a demon!
Good morning!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I value God and his word. I prioritise God and I please Him always
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Pray that God will leek you focused on Him and Him only
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Mat 6:3 (CEV) When you give to the poor, don’t let anyone know about it.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Spend time in God’s presence today.
We want to learn How To Crucify The Flesh In Marriage this morning. Marriage is a mystery as it is likened to the relationship between Christ and the church .
The love between a husband and his wife can make them do crazy stuffs when they are in love.
Flip the coin the other way and what you have are deep seated offenses that you wonder, “were they ever in love?” Can love to turned to hatred? Yes, it can be. This is evident in the rate of divorce out there. A husband and his wife that were once in love and can’t seem to get their hands off each other can’t stand each other’s presence now. They must learn How To Crucify The Flesh In Marriage
The truth is that marriage cannot be done in the flesh. It takes the two parties involved, walking in the spirit and deciding to crucify their flesh. Love itself is not a natural virtue, it is a spiritual virtue. Both husband and wife can be naturally selfish. We want our ways. We don’t want to serve each other, rather we want to be served. We can be revengeful, and most times, our flesh doesn’t want to forgive.
God proffered a once and for all solution,’Crucify the flesh.’ Mortify the deeds of the flesh in you. Walk in the spirit and you will not gratify the deeds of the flesh.
Be a doer of the word.
Rom 8:13 (KJV) For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live.
Take a look at the Message Translation: Rom 8:13 (MSG) There’s nothing in it for us, nothing at all. The best thing to do is give it a decent burial and get on with your new life.
God bless your marriage. As couples, we should know How To Crucify The Flesh In Marriage!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a doer of the word. I put to death the works of my flesh.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, grant me grace to crucify my flesh
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Rom 8:13 (TPT) For when you live controlled by the flesh, you are about to die. But if the life of the Spirit puts to death the corrupt ways of the flesh, we then taste his abundant life.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be intentional about walking in the spirit.
How Do Men Decline Wedding Without Talking? This is our subject of discourse this morning.
Well, He has not said anything, but I think he loves me!
Don’t try that with guys! Guys are very logical, if a guy loves you he will verbalize it or show it. Men are natural hunters in the forest of love. They are pursuers, the pursuit gives them energy.
The only snag is that men allow the hunter in them to die after marriage, and it should not be so, because that in itself has contributed to a lot of crash in marriages.
So, a man will always speak up when there is some commitment there!
His silence should not be misconstrued. A man can sometimes frustrate a lady with silence and cold treatment with the intention to make the lady back out.
So, he doesn’t pick your calls regularly again
He doesn’t call you. He says he is busy!
Easily irritated at you.
He’s refusing to talk about wedding plans or simply avoiding conversations around that area.
He refuses to meet your parents and pastors.
The only thing he wants is probably sex.
Now, that is a defective and manipulative relationship
All the above attitudes and body language are indicative that he is not interested.
Whenever a guy is like this, don’t try to resort to begging him, because the reality is often that he has left several weeks or months before you start noticing the attitudes and tendencies.
If you beg him and the relationship ensues, it is usually for a while and that is mostly because the guy perceives that he has some benefits coming out if the relationship. However, wedding is far from his plans. The next time a guy grows cold on you for months without any change, just know what he is saying. This is How Men Decline Wedding Without Talking
God bless you. Have a great service today!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be confused. I have light and direction.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God will lead you always in your relationship
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 4:20 (BBE) My son, give attention to my words; let your ear be turned to my sayings.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Read a good book on relationships today
All Hail The King And The Queen! It is certain that every husband wants to be the king in their marriage. Where they are treated with so much honor, dignity, respect, admiration and given all the attention fit for the king. It is every husband’s dream to be so treated.
The wives are not left out also. Every wife wants to be the queen of her man’s heart. She loves to be treated with dignity and honor. She loves the tender, loving care. Not the cruel, cold and unaffectionate treatment of a harsh husband.
So, what is All Hail The King And The Queen all about? We all love to reign both in life and in our marriages. Probably because we were created in God’s image and likeness. God is not in any way against our reigning as kings and queens especially in our homes and marriages.
God has made provision for us on how we can reign in life and I bet to say in our marriages as married couples. Let’s look at the scriptures. In Proverb 4:4b in the The Passion Translation, it says, …Never forget my words. If you do everything that I teach you, you will reign in life’.
All Hail The King And The Queen! Do you want to reign in your marriage? Kings and queens don’t struggle to reign. Follow God’ s instruction in Pro4:4. It’s pretty simple.
a. Don’t forget His words
b. Do everything He teaches you.
So we all see why God’s word is so important to us. God’s word is the key to your becoming a king and a queen in your own marriage. Be a doer of the word. Start being intentional about reading and doing the word. The word of God is full of instructions on how you can reign. Let your word be full of authority by the Word.
I see you reigning.
God bless your marriage. All Hail The King And The Queen
Thought for the day Pro 4:4 Then my father taught me, saying, “Never forget my words. If you do everything that I teach you, you will reign in life.”
Prayer for the day Lord I will do everything you teach me and not forget your words in Jesus name.
Confession for the day I am a doer of the word. I learn, I do and I am not a forgetful hearer.
Action plan for the day Be intentional about reading God’s word
How to exit properly from an ex is the topic we started discussing since yesterday. We looked at one crucial way to fro that which is Forgiveness.
The next way to do this is emotional disconnection.
Emotional Disconnection.
The Ex with whom your soul is intertwined is difficult to let go. You have written off the relationship, you have broken up, and you thought you have moved on, but you discover there is a strong soul tie that binds you together.
From time to time, his or her thoughts pop up and and you are wondering what is happening.
The way to ensure a disconnection emotionally is to put a stop to all communication. Notice I did not say you should be involved in some bitterness of entertain the unforgiving spirit
You can control and minimize all communication without the coloration of bitterness.
Avoid the use of “Dear,” “Love” “sweetheart” and so on.
Do not visit an ex with whom you have been sexually active before because one thing can lead to another and before you know it, you are back to your vomits.
How to exit properly from an ex? Do not go and greet and stay overnight.
Do not buy special romantic gifts for him or her. You see all those small gestures, which on a good day looked cool, are the reasons why you are unable to move on.
Do not try to reach out on special days with gifts and the like. Those gifts can recall and bring back memories, and with the memories can come unnecessary emotional vulnerability.
Moving on means moving on.
How to exit properly from an ex? Distract yourself emotionally from him or her by getting busy in church, or by meeting new friends. Stay in the word regularly so that your soul can be renewed as well.
Why is it so important to know how to exit properly form an ex? The reason is not far fetched. If you don’t move on, you will not be able to go to next phase of your life especially as it relates to marriage.
May God bless you massively.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am able to decide for God and for good
PRAYER FOR THE DAY I receive Grace and strength to make quality decisions in my love life
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY So, chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline. Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offence. Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master forgave you. And regardless of what else you put on, wear love. It’s your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it. Colossians 3:12 – 14 MSG
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Make that decision that will make you better today
The power of decisions in marriage cannot be overemphasized. In life and of course in marriage, there comes a time when “we come to ourselves” like the prodigal son and make decisions. We could be inspired by our situation, events, people’s actions or inaction, the Holy Spirit or the Word of God.
Today, I want to encourage some one to take time and ‘come to yourself ‘ and take a decision for a positive change in your life and marriage.
Make up your mind to be whole. Let the Holy spirit mend all your brokenness.
This is How To Make Decisions In Marriage. Decide not to be a victim any longer. Decide to live life to the fullest in God. Decide to enjoy everyday life. Decide to live for God because ultimately, it is Him you are answerable to. Decide to be the right spouse. Decide to be good. Decide to live the Christ like life. Decide to be compassionate, kind and humble. Decide to be a quick forgiver. Decide to clean up your thought life. Decide to forgive an offense and not dwell on it. Decide not to hurt. Decide to allow God fight for you. Decide to love your spouse fully.
You fill in the gap and make that decision in your life and marriage that will bring about that change you so much desire
Remember, the power of your decision is great. Let nothing and no one distract you from your decision.
This is How To Make Decisions In Marriage. May God strengthen us. God bless our marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I decide to life the victorious life. I decide to be happy. I decide to be who God said I am.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY I receive Grace and strength to make quality decisions
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY So, chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline. Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offence. Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master forgave you. And regardless of what else you put on, wear love. It’s your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it. Colossians 3:12 – 14 MSG
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Make that decision that will make you better today
How To Exit Properly From An Ex? There are people who have one or two Exes but there are also those I will refer to as EXE-cutives who have had several Exes over the years!
Whichever camp you belong to, the important thing is that God has not condemn you. How soothing can that be?
It is men that will look at you with “one kind eye” when you make mistakes, but God doesn’t do that. He knows your imperfection, and He is patient with you, He however wants you to get better and walk with Him. He wants you to learn from your mistakes.
How do you move on from an Ex? It can really be tricky because the soul has been intertwined in love most of the time.
Coupled with this is the bitterness and hurts that accompany the experience most of the time. All these can become massive chains that immobilizes.
In moving on from an ex, the first thing I will like to note is that you must forgive!
How To Exit Properly From An Ex
1. Forgive
This is very important. For some of us, if we had opportunity, we will shoot our Exes. That reveals the underlying bitterness and hurts. When this is there, as the scripture says, it will defile you and even defile anybody around you.
Forgiveness frees you and makes you light. Unforgiving spirit makes your heart clogged and your legs heavy. Movement is impeded, sight is becomes blurred. Sense of judgement becomes warped.
It is when love is present and abounds that you will be able to approve and recognize the right decisions to take at such times. See it in the scripture!
Php 1:9-10 (KJV) And this I pray, that your love may abound yet more and more in knowledge and in all judgment; [10] That ye may approve things that are excellent; that ye may be sincere and without offense till the day of Christ;
How To Exit Properly From An Ex? You must forgive and walk in love.
What is the second way to move on?
I will continue tomorrow! Have a blessed day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I forgive easily. I am a love being
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me the grace to forgive easily
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Php 1:9 (MSG) So this is my prayer: that your love will flourish and that you will not only love much but well. Learn to love appropriately. You need to use your head and test your feelings
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Decide to let go fo all offenses
