What do ladies really want? Let’s take a look at some of them.
The Romantic Rituals:
Every lady dreams of her man being a smooth operator, a Casanova exclusive to her alone! But let’s face it, most guys unleash their inner Romeo only until the wedding bells ring. After that, the ‘romance’ button goes on a permanent vacation, leaving ladies wondering if it ever existed. Prayer and speaking in tongues are great, and yes, well needed, but a well-timed compliment can work wonders too!Speak in tongues and speak in love too!
2. The Defender Dilemma:
What’s the point of having a knight in shining armor if he abandons his post when things get dicey? Remember, defending your lady doesn’t mean challenging her to a duel. Avoid public condemnations and stranger alliances. You’re her superhero, not a sidekick with questionable loyalties. She expects you to be loyal, within and without!
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3. In-Law Intervention:
Dealing with in-laws can be trickier than juggling flaming torches. If your folks are on the difficult side, shield your beloved from unnecessary drama. Don’t let her play the role of a wife before her time. After all, navigating family dynamics requires finesse, not a battlefield strategy. Even after, wedding, you have to continue fending her. If you don’t, she can easily become the “errand girl” for the extended family during family meetings or functions.
4. PDA (Public Display of Affection):
Your fiancée wants a bit of romance on display, not a choreographed parade where she always takes the lead. Hold hands, share a laugh; always. Walk with her. Hold her hands. It won’t lead into sin out there. It is what you do in the dark and behind closed doors as singles that lead to sin.
5. Humor Harmony:
Laughter is the key to a lady’s heart, and no, that doesn’t mean you need to moonlight as a stand-up comedian. Be the guy who adds spice to life, not the one who turns every moment into a dreary episode of horror. Remember, being a source of joy is way better than being a source of confusion!
Let her get some hearty laughter from you and not from Basket Mouth and Bovi all the time!
Don’t become a source of depression. The moment you are around, despondency descends. Nah!
In this world full of chaos and hustle, taking a moment to celebrate the ones we hold dear becomes a beacon of light
My husband is my world, my sunshine, the guy who makes everything in my life sparkle. He’s my mentor, pastor, coach, and the one with a crown shining with precious gems. Seriously, he’s more than words can express.
I could go on and on, not just because I’m a writer, but because he deserves all the celebration. Grateful to God for this rare gift.
You know, special moments in our loved ones’ lives are like gold mines. Birthdays, anniversaries, promotions – they’re not to be missed. Once-in-a-lifetime stuff! And, hey, celebrating is not a one-way street. Your boo needs it too; it’s a two-way deal. Today is not his birthday, just celebrating him.
Thinking of celebrating your spouse? Here are five laid-back tips:
Be genuinely happy for your loved one. No fake smiles, please – authenticity is key. Let the joy radiate from within because authenticity is the key to a celebration that truly touches the soul.O
Be thoughtful and intentional. What does this day mean to them? Let your celebration reflect that. Every celebration is an opportunity to deepen your connection. Be intentional; let your actions mirror the depth of your feelings.
Who said celebrations need to break the bank? Get creative! Sometimes, a heartfelt gesture speaks louder than an expensive gift.
Find out what they’d appreciate and make it happen. Discover what makes your loved one’s heart skip a beat. The right gift is not just an object; it’s a symbol of your understanding and appreciation.
Words matter. Express your inner thoughts; our spoken emotions become cherished memories, engraved in the heart forever. Remember, celebrate your lover like there’s no tomorrow. They’re your only one on this planet.
This will give ladies an idea of what men want from them
1. I expect my wife to respect me
We all know that respect is the greatest need of a man. Every wife should strive to honor and respect her husband.
This will go a long way to make your husband honor you as well because you always reap what you sow.
2. I expect my wife to support and encourage my ministry/career
My wife should be my greatest and Number one fan of course!
As a wife, you should support, encourage, and strengthen your husband to to go forth and fulfill destiny and purpose.
Whether he’s conquering the corporate world or preaching to the masses, you’re the loudest cheerleader in the room.
3. I expect my wife to pray for me always and be my greatest intercessor Women are powerful prayers.
The genuine prayers of a happy wife will advance your life in no small measure.
Wives, pray for your husband!
Be the intercessor ninja he never knew he needed. Your prayers are like a magic potion, brewing success and happiness.
4. I expect my wife to be homely, caring, and loving A woman who is not homely shows no care, and detests cooking will be a constant source of frustration to the husband.
There is something in women that makes caring natural with them
Forget about runway models; your catwalk is from the kitchen to the bedroom. Serve love, not just dinner!
5. I expect my wife to look beautiful always
All men are moved by sight including me!
So, I expect my wife to look good always. Women, do not get careless with your appearance and your looks.
Look your best all the time!
All men are moved by sight, so keep that dazzling smile and killer outfit game on point. You never know when the paparazzi (aka your husband) might strike!
6. I expect my wife to keep the bedroom hot
Sexual satisfaction is paramount to any marriage that will not collapse.
Wives, do not get careless in this area.
It is an obligation!
Never use sex as a reward or punishment.
1Co 7:5 (AMP)
Do not refuse and deprive and defraud each other [ of your due marital rights ], except perhaps by mutual consent for a time, so that you may devote yourselves unhindered to prayer. But afterwards resume marital relations, lest Satan tempt you [ to sin ] through your lack of restraint of sexual desire.
I will stop here this morning!
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Yesterday I started on this topic and looked at five symptoms of immaturity in your relationship. I will conclude this morning with the remaining five.
Immaturity, though not inherently sinful, serves as a breeding ground for destructive behaviors within the realm of relationships. Our journey takes us through the subtle intricacies that hinder personal growth and consequently erode the foundation of meaningful connections.
Hebrews 12:1 guides us on this expedition: “Let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so easily besets us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us.” It’s a call to shed the burdens of immaturity, run the race of growth with endurance.
The Greatest Pitfall: Selfishness
At the heart of immaturity lies selfishness. Relationships thrive on love’s sacrificial essence. An immature connection, clouded by self-centeredness, is destined for turbulence.
1 Corinthians 13:4-6 beautifully outlines the attributes of love, emphasizing its patience, kindness, and aversion to self-aggrandizement. A relationship devoid of these qualities is a ship sailing against the winds of maturity.
More Symptoms of Immaturity:
Neglecting God and His Principles The essence of a relationship is deeply intertwined with divine principles. Failing to prioritize God in the union reflects a lack of maturity. God’s principles are the bedrock, providing stability to the intricate dance of companionship.
Picture this: God, the relationship superhero, swooping in with a cape made of divine principles. Neglecting that? Well, it’s like trying to fight crime without your superhero suit.
Deceit in the Relationship Lies, deceit, and double standards are the hallmarks of immaturity. Sincerity and transparency, on the other hand, signify emotional maturity, paving the way for a relationship rooted in truth.
Financial Instability True financial stability extends beyond material possessions. It’s about self-sufficiency, the ability to meet one’s needs without dependency. A mature partner is not meant to be a financial crutch; instead, both contribute to the relationship’s prosperity.
Low Self-Esteem A mature individual understands their worth, deriving it from an unwavering self-esteem. Insecurity and seeking external approval are hallmarks of immaturity, capable of wreaking havoc and compromising one’s integrity.
Abusive Behavior Any form of abuse, whether verbal, emotional, or physical, is a glaring symptom of immaturity. Relationships are mutual, complementary endeavors where superiority has no place. Abuse dismantles the foundation of shared strength and understanding. Say no to abuse; it’s not in the script!
Shedding the garments of immaturity requires introspection, commitment to growth, and adherence to divine principles. May the journey towards emotional maturity be one guided by self-awareness, compassion, and a relentless pursuit of true love.
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Maturity plays a pivotal role in steering relationships toward fulfillment and longevity. Let’s dissect five signs that may indicate an unsettling level of immaturity within the realm of lovers.
You beg to be loved and accepted Relationships should be a union of equals, not a theatrical plea for validation. The incessant need for external affirmation suggests a void that can’t be filled by external sources. True maturity stems from self-assurance, recognizing that love is not a currency to be begged for but a shared, reciprocal endeavor. You’re not auditioning for a role; you’re co-starring in this blockbuster called Love. Embrace your uniqueness!
You threaten to leave the relationship if and when you don’t have your way Emotional blackmail has no place in a mature relationship. The willingness to walk away as a power play reveals an absence of mutual respect and a failure to comprehend the essence of partnership. Healthy relationships thrive on compromise, communication, and a shared commitment to growth. Sweetheart, we left the ‘I’ll take my toys and go home’ tactic back in preschool.
You cry at every issue Tears are a potent emotional expression, yet when deployed excessively, they may mask a deficiency in communication skills. Mature partners rely on articulate conversations to navigate challenges, fostering an environment where emotional expression doesn’t drown out the significance of rational dialogue. Emotional maturity means using words before the waterworks. Save the tears for a movie night.
As a guy, you beat your fiancée Physical aggression is the antithesis of a mature relationship. The only thing you should be lifting is your partner’s spirits, not your fists. It signifies an alarming lack of emotional intelligence and a failure to comprehend the sanctity of a partnership. Real men safeguard their loved ones emotionally, recognizing that love and violence exist in diametrically opposed realms. Real men know that love and violence should never share the same space. Put down those boxing gloves, pick up some emotional intelligence
You tell your friends everything happening in your relationship Your relationship is not a live broadcast. Your friends don’t need a minute-by-minute commentary. Keep it personal, not public. Privacy is the bedrock of mature relationships. Broadcasting intimate details to an external audience reflects a lack of discernment and an unwitting invitation for unwarranted influences. A couple attuned to the nuances of emotional maturity understands the sacred nature of their connection.
In essence, identifying and rectifying these signs is not just a personal responsibility but a collective commitment to nurturing a relationship that stands the test of time. Maturity isn’t a destination; it’s a continuous journey, and in the realm of relationships, the path to maturity is the only one worth traversing.
1. Family is Key The family, is more critical than your morning coffee! Forget about your career, work, and even those church runs. Seriously, your family is the real deal. If you’re the man of the house, don’t let anything interrupt your home life. Remember, a peaceful home pays better dividends than Bitcoin.
Because, you know, most prisoners are the offspring of absentee fathers. Who knew skipping family time was a crash course in “How to End Up in Jail 101” Prioritize your family!
2. Let Your Kids Witness Your Epic Love Story The most damaging thing to a kid’s emotions? Watching Dad turn into a WWE wrestler with Mom as the unsuspecting opponent. Let’s avoid emotionally scarred kids, shall we? Show your children the real power of love, God-style. If you love and respect your wife, your kids won’t need therapy. Simple, right? Because, in the chaotic sitcom of life, modeling God’s love is the core responsibility of every sitcom dad.
3. Insist on Home Peace – No Shouting Allowed As a husband, forget screaming.. If you don’t, you’ll end up with kids who think shouting is an Olympic sport. Do you want that on your conscience? Avoid quarrelsome arguments; they’re not Christ-like, and your kids won’t thank you in their acceptance speeches.
4. Daddy’s Domestic Boot-camp Dads, don’t let your kids escape into the virtual world via gadgets while Mom runs a marathon in the kitchen. It’s time for Daddy’s Responsibility Bootcamp. Teach those responsibilities early on, or your little ones might grow up thinking cooking is a special skill reserved for cooking show contestants. Because, seriously, it’s not a good family-safe idea for your kids to be on Facebook while the kitchen’s on fire.
5. Dinner – Bringing Families Closer Eat together as a family. It’s not just a meal; it’s a bonding session. Picture this: forks clinking, laughter echoing, and everyone arguing over who gets the last chink of meat. It’s like a sitcom episode, but real. Eating together brings you closer, enhances togetherness, and improves your chances of winning the “Best Family” award.
And with that, my friends, I’ll stop here today. Have a great day!
In a world captivated by the allure of wedding rings, it’s time to shift our focus from the symbolism to the profound commitment that defines marriage.
The True Essence of Commitment
Many singles embark on the journey to marriage with the sole goal of changing their status, overlooking the depth of commitment required. The beauty of the wedding day often overshadows the lifelong commitment that follows.
Marriage: A Multi-Faceted Journey
Marriage transcends the materialistic desire for a ring; it encompasses spiritual, physical, and emotional facets that demand continuous effort and preparation.
The Real Commitment of Being a Spouse
It’s not merely about acquiring a title but embracing the responsibilities that come with it. For husbands, it means embodying discipline, responsibility, and maturity, relinquishing the bachelor lifestyle.
Husband: The Multifaceted Role
Being a husband involves being a leader, coach, pastor, lover, and confidant. It’s about providing direction, financial support, and overseeing the well-being of your partner.
Marriage: A Financial Commitment
Recognizing that money sustains a home, a husband commits not only emotionally but also financially, making decisions that propel the family towards prosperity.
Vision, Discipline, and Emotional Stability
A husband shoulders the responsibility of charting a course for the family, maintaining discipline, and providing emotional and psychological stability.
The Dedication of Being a Wife
For wives, marriage demands day-to-day dedication, supporting their husband’s decisions, and ensuring the family’s comfort. It’s about saying ‘Yes’ even when sacrifice and inconvenience accompany it.
Trusting God and Sacrifice
Being a wife involves trusting God to meet needs when personal energy and finances are poured into family comfort. It requires sacrificing personal interests for the higher calling of being a help meet.
Shifting from ‘My’ to ‘Our’
Marriage is a transition from ‘my’ to ‘our,’ from individual to collective. It’s about unity in finances, family, and friendships.
Preparation for a Lifetime Commitment
Aspiring couples must reflect on these commitments, preparing for a life that extends far beyond the glittering moment of exchanging rings. It’s not just about the wedding ring; it’s about a lifelong commitment blessed by God.
May your journey into marriage be filled with commitment, love, and the grace to navigate the beautiful complexities of a lifelong union.
In a world where financial boundaries are often overlooked, some individuals, regardless of gender, throw caution to the wind when it comes to money matters. Let’s talk about this today!
Financial Freedom, Not Dependency
The perilous journey that some find themselves on, cohabiting with their partners, is often paved with financial missteps. Fear of uncertainty and the dread of hardship lead some to relinquish their independence, transforming into mere dependents.
Empower Yourself, Be Industrious
In challenging times, it’s crucial to resist compromising your integrity for the sake of survival. When a person appears financially stable, rational judgment often takes a back seat.
It’s high time for the younger generation to embrace innovation and industriousness, carving their paths to financial independence.
Don’t Be a Liability, Be Self-Reliant
Relying on an unmarried partner for sustenance can lead to loss of control and compromises against personal values. Remember, they are not your saviors or financial safety nets. Your lack should drive you towards self-discovery and entrepreneurship.
Fast Lane vs. Righteous Path
Choosing the fast lane over God’s guidance can lead to destruction, even for the devout. Justifying actions by self-reliance might seem reasonable, but God’s standards remain unaltered.
Unveiling the Truth: Cohabitation Dilemma
Cohabiting with your partner might seem convenient, but it’s unacceptable before God. No justifiable reasons can mask the truth – if you’re not married, you’re not married.
Faith in God, Not in Your Boo
Developing faith in God, rather than relying on your partner, is paramount. Regardless of the logical reasons you provide, true fulfillment comes from unwavering faith.
In a world where financial interdependence can cloud judgment, it’s essential to navigate the path of self-reliance, innovation, and unwavering faith in God. Remember, your relationship should be a source of strength, not a financial burden.
Embarking on a journey of self-love and enthusiasm for your life might seem like a mere suggestion, but in reality, it is a vital instruction.
Discovering the Wonder Called You
In the hustle of life, it’s common to find joy in the accomplishments, talents, beauty, and intelligence of others. However, the time has come to redirect that excitement towards the marvel that is YOU.
Celebrate the Unique You
Take a moment to gaze into the mirror and celebrate the person staring back at you. Often, we neglect to appreciate ourselves amid the busyness of life, failing to recognize our own uniqueness.
Embracing Life’s Phases
Life unfolds in phases, and each passing moment is irreplaceable. Acknowledge the phase you’re in; it’s a cause for celebration. Capture these moments, pause, and revel in the significance of being the central character of your own story.
Today, a Gift; Tomorrow, a Promise
Acknowledge that your best days are not confined to the past; your best moment is now. While tomorrow remains a promise, today is a gift. Embrace it, for yesterday’s night has passed, and you stand resilient in the present.
Psalm 139:14 – Acknowledging the Marvel of Your Existence
Reflect on Psalm 139:14 (AMP), confess and praise for the fearful and wonderful creation that is you.
Building a Positive Aura
Cultivating a positive environment around you is essential. This not only affects your perception but also makes you appealing to others.
Break free from the shackles of seeking external approval. Living excitedly about your life liberates you from being dependent on others’ opinions. Your joy is not dictated by external validations.
Becoming Your Best Company
Learn to relish your own company. Dance, laugh, and celebrate alone. Being comfortable in your solitude is a powerful reflection of self-love
Self-Recognition: Knowing the Person Under Your Skin
Delve into self-discovery. Can you recognize yourself if placed in another body? Understanding your greatness, beauty, talents, and intelligence is paramount.
Five Paths to Celebrating Yourself
1. Gratitude as a Catalyst
Cultivate a thankful heart; gratitude breeds excitement.
2. Authenticity over Pretense
Live authentically, seeking help when needed. Avoid the trap of a double life.
3. Continuous Learning
Embrace a mindset of constant learning, making informed choices for a better life.
4. Excitement in Knowing God
Discover joy in knowing the creator of your life; a connection with God fuels excitement.
5. Daily Commitment to Better Choices
Your choices define your life. Commit to making positive choices daily, from thoughts to actions.
Even in the face of mistakes or setbacks, refrain from self-condemnation. Instead, use these moments as opportunities for growth, ensuring a continuous journey of excitement about your life. Good morning!
In a not-so-distant past, we were blessed with a tiny boy, a mere handful in my palm. Fast forward to the present, he’s graduated and already working.
The pace of time is astonishing! In a couple of years, I would easily and successfully become a grandpa! What?
I am still trying to feel like a dad and now the granddad thing is beckoning gently!
The scripture in Ephesians 5:15-16 urges us to walk wisely, redeeming the time, for the days are challenging. In simpler terms, make the most of every opportunity, given the desperate times we live in.
Seize the Moment, Dear Couples
Now is the time for couples to unite and make the most of every chance. Avoid spending half your lifetime in disputes and suspicions, robbing yourselves of the power found in the prayer of agreement. The synergy between husband and wife should result in abundant productivity, touching lives around you positively.
Break Free from Energy-Wasting Patterns
Unnecessary quarrels, prolonged silences, and attempts to change your spouse are all energy-draining activities. Romans 13:11 (MSG) cautions against getting so absorbed in daily obligations that you lose track of time and God. Your time can be maximized only with God.
Rom 13:11 (MSG) But make sure that you don’t get so absorbed and exhausted in taking care of all your day-by-day obligations that you lose track of the time and doze off, oblivious to God.
The Dawn is Near
Romans 13:12 (MSG) emphasizes that the night is nearly over, urging us to be awake to what God is doing.
Rom 13:12 (MSG) The night is about over, dawn is about to break. Be up and awake to what God is doing! God is putting the finishing touches on the salvation work he began when we first believed.
The urgency is clear – time is fleeting. The dreams in your diary and the aspirations you’ve carried for years should not linger; it’s time to give birth to them.
Don’t Squander Precious Minutes
Romans 13:13 (MSG) reminds us not to waste a minute, discouraging frivolity and indulgence. Couples should work together, aligning with the purpose for which they came together, avoiding squabbles and distractions.
The Path Forward
To make the glory embedded in your union a reality, couples must decide to follow God, forgive easily, love unconditionally, and pray fervently.
I sincerely pray for your strength and unity, that the purpose for which your family came together becomes a reality.
I want to share ten pieces of advice that can contribute to a flourishing relationship or marriage.
1. Cherish Each Other Always
Avoid the trap of taking your spouse’s love and efforts for granted. Whether it’s paying the bills or preparing meals, acknowledging and appreciating each other’s contributions is vital for a joyful marriage.
As lovers in a relationship, learn to compliment and appreciate one another.
2. Minimize External Influences
External factors, such as in-laws, friends, colleagues, and family, can impact your marriage. While everyone plays a role, exercise wisdom in managing external influences to prevent unnecessary burdens on your relationship.
For singles in courtship, embrace counsels and do to isolate yourselves.
3. Establish Family Goals
Having a common vision for the family fosters unity. Work towards achieving shared objectives, whether it’s a project, a vacation, or any other aspiration that binds both partners together.
While in courtship, set goals and exclude physical intimacy at that stage.
4. Check in on Each Other’s Fulfillment
Don’t assume your spouse is always content. Regularly discuss career, goals, dreams, and aspirations to ensure you’re both fulfilled and can support each other’s growth.
5. Foster Transparency, Eliminate Secrets
Avoid the pitfalls of keeping secrets. Open communication builds trust, so be transparent about all aspects of your life, including finances. Shared knowledge prevents misunderstandings.
6. Cultivate Best-Friendship
Strive to be each other’s best friend. Engage in open conversations, share laughter, and enjoy recreational activities together. Marriage is more than a serious commitment; it should also be a source of joy.
7. Open the Financial Book
Maintain transparency in financial matters. Share details about income, expenses, and investments. This transparency not only builds trust but also ensures accountability.
8. Let Forgiveness Prevail
Address grievances promptly, preventing them from escalating into deeper issues. Avoid harboring resentment and practice forgiveness. Controlling your temper and choosing words wisely are essential for a peaceful marriage.
9. Measure Your Words
Words are powerful; they shape your marriage. Be cautious about what you say to your spouse. If you wouldn’t want to experience it, don’t say it. Your words should reflect the love and commitment you share.
10. Seek Wisdom from Respected Mentors
Having a mentor both partners respect can be invaluable. Seek guidance from experienced individuals during challenging times. Their wisdom may provide the insight needed to navigate various aspects of married life.
May these insights contribute to the success and longevity of your marriage. Blessings to you all.
This morning, I want to delve into a crucial principle outlined in the scriptures, one that guarantees daily victory in our work, relationships, marriages, and life in general.
The power lies in the words we speak. Uttering words with our mouths is a potent force that steers the course of our lives.
These spoken words possess such influence that they can overwhelm our lives, shaping and controlling the events that unfold. Recognizing this, Jesus Christ emphasized the significance of words, stating,
“It is the spirit that quickeneth; the flesh profiteth nothing: the words that I speak unto you, they are spirit, and they are life” (John 6:63, KJV).
From the moment of birth, we emit sounds as a sign of life. As we grow, words form, marking our progression. In relationships, words play a pivotal role, from expressing romantic interest to exchanging vows on a wedding day. Marriage thrives on a consistent exchange of loving words.
Even in matters of faith, confessing certain words is essential. The act of proclaiming the Lordship of Jesus brings about a powerful experience.
Proverbs 13:2-3 underscores the significance of words in the spiritual realm. Positive affirmations lead to a fruitful life, while negative expressions open the door to destructive forces.
In the spiritual dimension, the devil understands the potency of words. He endeavors to inject negative thoughts, hoping they find verbal expression. Verbalizing negativity transforms thoughts into tangible experiences.
The crucial question to ponder is, “What are you saying?” Proverbs admonishes that by keeping our mouths, we safeguard our lives. Therefore, monitoring our speech becomes imperative.
Avoid statements like:
“I don’t even understand my life.”
“I am very confused.”
“I think there is a curse working against me.”
Negative words give power to undesirable experiences. Refrain from using hurtful words in relationships. Never belittle your partner with demeaning remarks or indulge in verbal abuse.
For singles enduring verbal abuse, seek help. Recognize that such behavior often worsens after marriage. If your intended partner consistently employs hurtful words, consider seeking counseling.
Words are potent and must be used responsibly. Don’t stay in love with someone whose words consistently demotivate and weaken you.
May understanding abound, and may our words be a source of life and encouragement.
Let’s face it, the pressures of life can strip away the joy and laughter from our marriages. When couples succumb to life’s demands, their relationship can transform into a mere cohabitation, lacking the vitality of shared laughter and joy.
Important conversations become the only discourse, leaving no room for lighthearted moments. Tension looms, and the marriage becomes a tedious routine.
The impact of allowing life’s pressures to take a toll on marriages is profound. Unaddressed pressures can lead to a cascade of issues, from anger and harsh words to late nights, seeking solace in ungodly friendships, and even the risk of emotional entanglements with the opposite sex.
Amidst life’s pressures, couples must learn to lean on each other for spiritual, emotional, physical, and financial support. It’s a time for mutual support and encouragement, where kind words, appreciation, and affirmation play a crucial role. This is also the time when intimacy becomes not just a desire but a need—a means of ministering to each other.
During challenges, laughter becomes a powerful tool. It is therapeutic and healing, adding value to the relationship without costing a dime.
Couples can creatively infuse laughter into their homes, finding joy amid adversity.
Psalm 2:4 reminds us that “He that sitteth in the heavens shall laugh.”
Learning to laugh in challenging times invites God’s power into the situation. Laughter becomes a declaration of trust in God’s ability to change circumstances. It shifts the focus from the present situation to the belief in God’s capacity to turn things around.
In those moments, couples find the strength to trust in God’s mercy, restoring their fellowship with the divine. Laughter becomes a conduit for grace, allowing couples to draw strength from the throne of grace. Through laughter, couples can rediscover God as their Shepherd, leading them beside still waters and restoring their souls.
May you find refreshing laughter in your marriage during times of pressure, trusting in the Lord’s ability to bring joy and resilience.
At a recent marital gathering, a common question surfaced: Is it acceptable for married couples to indulge in pornography? My unequivocal response was a resounding No!
1. The Spiritual Dimension of Pornography
James 1:14-15 cautions against being carried away by one’s lust, leading to sin and eventual death.
“Pastor, why would you say so? At least, we are married, and we can do anything in the sanctity of our marriage!”
James 1:14-15But each one is tempted when he is carried away and enticed by his own lust. Then when lust has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and when sin is accomplished, it brings forth death.
There’s an unseen force behind pornography—the strongman of perversion.
Engaging with it, whether single or married, invites negative spiritual influence. Transference of spirits can occur, impacting your home and family negatively.
Reject the subtle attempts of the devil to infiltrate your sacred space through disguised pornography.
2. The Gripping Pull of Addiction
Beyond dirtying your heart with explicit content, pornography exerts a formidable pull on your emotions. Addiction becomes a real danger, with the allure of more extreme forms of perversion.
The initial satisfaction from regular pornography may wane, leading to the exploration of increasingly disturbing territories. This journey not only jeopardizes your sexual life but also poses a significant threat to your marriage and spiritual well-being.
3. Unfair Comparisons within Marriage
One often overlooked consequence is the undue pressure placed on a spouse to match the performances witnessed in pornography. Ignorantly demanding such acts can violate your partner’s conscience and erode the sanctity of your relationship.
It’s essential to realize that the scenes depicted are often fueled by drugs, numbing the actors’ humanity.
Requesting your spouse to replicate these acts can lead to strained intimacy, potential infidelity, and a breach of trust.
In conclusion, the pitfalls of introducing pornography into a marriage are numerous and profound.
Later, we’ll delve into strategies to break free from its grips and restore the sanctity of marital relationships.
Stay tuned for practical insights on reclaiming a life free from the clutches of pornography. Until then, remain blessed!
God has given us. Word for this year. Borderless opportunities!
“Borderless” refers to the absence of borders or boundaries. It suggests an environment or situation without limits, restrictions, or defined edges.
Its synonyms include Boundless, Unlimited, Unrestricted, Infinite, Limitless,and so on.
“Opportunities” refer to favorable circumstances, situations, or chances that arise, providing a possibility for advancement, benefit, or success.
The scripture is replete with several people who had boundless opportunities. Examples are David, Joseph, and Daniel!
In 2024, be sensitive! Don’t allow the devil to attack your opportunities.
How does the devil attack opportunities?
These are a few ways:
1. Opportunities may elude one’s perception,
2. Opportunities can be pilfered away,
3. Opportunities are susceptible to squandering.
4. They may be concealed,
5. They may be disregarded.
6. Opportunities can suffer scarcity,
7. Opportunities may prove elusive.
How Do You Seize Opportunities This Year?
1. Cultivate a Prayerful Spirit
2. Commit to Fasting
3. Immerse Yourself in the Word
4. Shun Iniquity
5. Embrace Boldness
6. Cultivate Sensitivity
7. Become a Generous Giver/Tither
8. Maintain Strong Connections
9. Steer Clear of Strife
10. Develop Capacity
Prayers To Take
1. Heavenly Father, guard me against squandering the divine opportunities you present in the name of Jesus!
2. Lord, ensure that my future surpasses my past in the name of Jesus!
3. Father, prevent me from becoming a forgotten tale while I am still alive in the name of Jesus!
4. I declare disgrace upon every power assigned to waste your opportunities in the name of Jesus!
5. May the battles inherited from my parents find no voice in my life; let them be silenced in the name of Jesus!
Instructions this year!
Be sensitive! Be alert.
Be strong to utilize all the opportunities coming out way this year!
2Co 4:1 (AMPC) THEREFORE, SINCE we do hold and engage in this ministry by the mercy of God [granting us favor, benefits, opportunities, and especially salvation], we do not get discouraged (spiritless and despondent with fear) or become faint with weariness and exhaustion.
Hello everyone, today we’re diving into five areas that deserve your contemplation as we approach the final day of the year. These insights aim to guide your reflection, helping you make the most of the remaining time before we usher in the new year.
1. Reflection:
As the curtains draw on this year, seize the chance to step back and ponder your accomplishments and goals. Evaluate your progress with an honest lens, identifying areas for improvement. This self-reflection isn’t just a trip down memory lane; it’s a tool for personal growth, laying the foundation for new aspirations in the year ahead.
2. Gratitude:
In the hustle and bustle, it’s crucial to pause and express gratitude. Take a moment to appreciate the people, experiences, and opportunities that have added joy and fulfillment to your life. Cultivating gratitude isn’t just a nice sentiment; it’s a proven way to enhance overall well-being and maintain a positive outlook.
Has God been good? Have you taken the time to express your gratefulness and appreciation?
3. Family and Friends:
Amidst the year-end rush, reflect on whether you have allocated quality time for your loved ones, especially family and friends. Strong relationships serve as pillars of support and fountains of happiness. Plan activities that create lasting memories, strengthening the bonds that make life richer.
4. Spiritual Growth:
These closing days of the year offer a prime window for spiritual reflection. Engage and practice God’s presence, basking in His glory and enraptured in His grace to endow and endue you for the coming year! Have you gotten a word for the coming year yet? It’s not too late! Spend time in His presence!
5. Giving:
Have you given enough back to your immediate sphere of influence as God blessed you? Were you faithful in tithing and honouring God? Have you helped others around you that you are better off than? Contributing to the community not only has a positive impact on others but also brings a profound sense of fulfillment and purpose to your own life.
Remember, these last hours of the year present a unique opportunity for introspection, growth, and positive transformation. Embrace the time that remains, and let it be a stepping stone to a brighter, more fulfilling future.
Meet Sandy, a soul amid relationship storms, feeling like her ship is sinking, one after the other. Pay attention if you’ve ever found yourself in a similar boat, wondering why love seems elusive. We’re about to set sail on a journey of healing and restoration.
1. Drop the Baggage
Ever feel like you’re carrying the weight of past hurts and betrayals? Sandy knows the drill. The first step to turning the tide is dropping that baggage. Offenses and bitterness are like hidden roots, which the Bible warns about. Don’t let past hurts become the stumbling blocks in your journey to love.
2. Forgive and eliminate all Bitterness
Forgiveness isn’t just a virtue; it’s a lifeline. Sandy’s been there, hurt by an ex, and betrayed by friends, but holding onto bitterness is a dangerous game. Let God handle the scorecards. Don’t let someone else’s foolishness become your folly. Confront bitterness head-on, ask for divine help, and let go. Your destiny needs room to breathe.
Heb 12:15 (KJV)
Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled;
3. Lighten the Load
Extra baggage doesn’t fly well in relationships. Sandy learned the hard way that carrying emotional weight can ground you. If you must, confront the pain, but don’t let it weigh you down. Like a bird weighed before flight, relationships are hindered by emotional baggage. Let go and soar like an eagle.
4. Protect Your Heart
Being served breakfast unexpectedly can be devastating. Breakups can feel like being left in the cold, discarded like unwanted trash. It hurts, and a little cry is okay. But don’t let sorrow turn into bitterness. Protect your heart, let God heal the wounds, and believe in compensation for your losses. Understand that greatness awaits, and with a healed heart, you’re destined to rise. Bitterness and iniquity work hand in hand!
Act 8:23 (KJV)
For I perceive that thou art in the gall of bitterness, and in the bond of iniquity.
5. Embrace Understanding
In times of heartbreak, pray for understanding. Sandy’s story teaches us that comprehension leads to breakthroughs. May God grant you the wisdom to navigate the storms, and may your days be filled with productivity and blessings.
Embrace the journey, for greatness beckons, and you shall not miss it.
So, to all the Sandys out there, and everyone grappling with relationship failures, remember: The storm may rage, but you have the power to navigate through it. Be blessed, be healed, and embrace the love that awaits on the other side.
Alright, lovebirds, if you’re sailing the single seas and eyeing that potential forever mate, here are five things you should be doing consistently. Trust me; these will lay the groundwork for a rock-solid marriage. If you are already hooked, these are the things you should keep your eyes on as well.
1. God at the Center
First things first, folks. Let’s not kid ourselves; if it wasn’t for divine intervention, you might not have crossed paths. Keep that God factor intact – it’s the glue holding you together. Follow the divine playbook, hit those church services, dive into your Bible, and throw in massive rivers of tongues, meditation, and confession. Make sure your love story is anchored in something more profound than just looks or deep pockets.
Five Consistent Acts for Great Lovers
2. The Power of Prayer
Prayer – the unsung hero of relationships. Pray together, pray separately, just pray. Even if you’re miles apart, thanks to smartphones and social media, you can still make it happen. Share your prayer points, download some powerful confessions, and let your prayers become the secret sauce that adds favor, mercy, wisdom, and understanding to your relationship. Trust me; it’s a game-changer.
3. Forgive, Don’t Forget
In the courtship phase, you’re learning the ABCs of each other. And let’s be real, clashes are inevitable. The key? Forgive early and forgive often. You’re dealing with different temperaments here, folks. Misunderstandings are par for the course, so keep that forgiveness flowing. Marriage, they say, is for two great forgivers. Don’t let strife, malice, or bitterness set up shop – forgiveness is your secret weapon.
4. Knowledge is Power
Ever heard the phrase “knowledge is power”? Well, it holds in courtship too. Read, read, and read some more. Educate yourselves about the intricacies of courtship and marriage. Books are your best friends in this journey. Dive into the wisdom of authors who’ve been there, done that. Tim Lahaye’s “Spirit-Controlled Temperament” could be your marriage Bible. Trust me; it did wonders for us. Understanding our differences became a breeze and the quarrels? Drastically reduced.
Five Consistent Acts for Great Lovers
5. Mutual Respect
In the game of love, it’s a partnership. Respect and honor should flow both ways. Yeah, God put the man as the head, but let’s not forget the neck – just as crucial. It’s not about superiority; it’s about complementing and respecting each other’s God-given roles. Courtship is the breeding ground for this respect. Ladies, no need to play the role of a small mummy before marriage. Let your virtues speak for themselves. And guys, lead with love, earn that respect – don’t demand it.
So, there you have it, love warriors. As you navigate the courtship waters, remember these consistent acts. May God grant you the wisdom and understanding to make your journey from courtship to marriage a joyous one. Cheers to love!
Let’s talk about a marriage that’s dancing on the edge – a tango of revenge and retaliation. It’s a twisted tale where love and respect take a backseat, making room for a toxic brew of fear and animosity.
In this scenario, couples aren’t motivated by love or mutual respect; it’s the fear of being crushed that drives their behavior. It’s a roller-coaster of bitterness, hurt, strife, and a cocktail of justifiable evils.
Emotional Chaos Unleashed
Here, emotional tantrums are not just tolerated; they’re practically encouraged. Outbursts of anger are the norm, creating a battleground within the supposed sanctuary of marriage.
The Unbalanced Power Play
Picture this: the man demands reverence and the woman? Well, she better worship him, or life becomes a living nightmare. Love, agreement, and cooperation – all held hostage by the looming threat of punishment.
Love Withdrawal Tactics
Trouble arises when love becomes a bargaining chip. The woman, in a bid to retaliate, withholds love, intimacy, agreement, cooperation, and goodwill. It’s a silent but potent form of punishment, casting a dark cloud over the relationship.
A Cycle of Retribution
What follows is a dangerous tit-for-tat game. The man, feeling the sting of emotional and sexual starvation, retaliates by flexing his authority as the man of the house. It’s a never-ending cycle, a destructive loop of retaliation.
The Silent Sufferers
But guess who bears the brunt of this vengeful waltz? Both the man and the woman suffer the consequences. As the Yoruba proverb wisely puts it, “When it is uneasy for the rope, it equally becomes uneasy for the bird.”
A Marriage in Flames
In the heat of this retaliation, the marriage becomes an unbearable inferno for both parties. The burning question: If we make this marriage work, is it for our own good or to save face?
The Bed We Make
Reflect on this – the way you lay your bed determines how you lie on it. If you roughen the sheets, don’t expect a restful night. But invest in your marriage, work on it, and you’ll reap the sweet dividends.
A Call to Change
If you choose the path of reacting to every provocation, insisting only your viewpoint matters, you’re in for a turbulent ride.
Decide to do it God’s way! Don’t be vengeful! Forgive easily and avoid marital retaliation! Good morning!
