My God will save! There is this confidence the psalmist speaks with every now and then. Such confidence is what we can learn and emulate.
But I will call upon the Lord to save me-and he will.
Ps 55:16 (TLB)
Did you just see that confidence from the Psalmist? It’s amazing. And you too should have it. My God will save!
No matter how deep seated the trouble may be, just tell yourself all I need is about 10-15 minutes of prayers to God.
The psalmist said he will call upon God to save. He was so sure that God will not only hear, He will answer and do his bidding.
Another lesson here is that we should realize God answers prayers. My God will save. In another part of the scriptures, the psalmist said;
I pray to you, and you answer from your sacred hill.
Ps 3:4 (CEV)
What is that issue you have been trusting God for for months?
Is it about your school results?
Is it about your parents?
Is it about your friends or their families?
Call upon God for salvation and he will save. My God will save!
Your part is to pray, God’s part is to answer and He sure will!
Like someone once noted; if there is a man to pray, there is a God to answer.
Parents, lets encourage our children to always pray to God. They should be taught how to grow their faith by petitioning God from time to time as need arises.
Let’s not wait till they become teenagers before training them.
I still remember my wedding day. It was twenty-two years ago, in the city under the rock! The service was long, and the sermon was boring.
I can tell you what happens in a long service on a wedding day! The couples have left in their mind, and a major part of the crowd have left in reality, on their way to reception to wait for the main item of the day. A lot of people are not as concerned about the marriage as they are concerned about not missing the wedding “Jollof” rice!
By the time the church folks are getting to the reception venue, another set of crowds are already waiting! Those ones don’t attend church service. They are not interested in the church’s blessing.
This is why the family of couples usually gets bouncers!
The bouncers would keep unwanted visitors away! The bouncers are usually hefty-looking guys, muscular and well built to send fear to intruders!
In the same vein, God has given you bouncers to keep you from falling in love with intruders!
And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
Php 4:7 (KJV)
This bouncer is called the peace of God. Look at what it says; shall keep your hearts!
You don’t want your heart broken? This peace is the bouncer! You don’t want your heart violated and you end up being cheated? The peace of God is the bouncer!
Now take a look at the Amplified version.
And God’s peace [shall be yours, that tranquil state of a soul assured of its salvation through Christ, and so fearing nothing from God and being content with its earthly lot of whatever sort that is, that peace] which transcends all understanding SHALL GARRISON AND MOUNT GUARD over your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.
Php 4:7 (AMPC)
Garrison Mount guard.
This peace is like an army barrack keeping you secured from marital bandits and kidnappers! This peace wades off attacks like divorce, adultery, strife, and so on!
How do you find this peace? It comes when God has spoken. It is absent when you are about to make a mistake. Follow this peace. Follow this bouncer and you will avoid a lot of mistakes in your marital endeavor!
Be blessed this morning, as always!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I follow the peace of God.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, lead me by your peace.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Phil 4:7 (TLB)If you do this, you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will keep your thoughts and your hearts quiet and at rest as you trust in Christ Jesus.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Do you have peace about that decision?
Mr and Mrs Ade have been marriedfor some years. They had a close family friend, the Andys. They were so close that they built their houses beside one another. They were each other’s best man.
Down the line, Mr. Ade developed some erectile dysfunction which he refused to disclose to his wife. That was the first mistake. He dealt with the embarrassment by coming home late to avoid, love making with his wife.
Mrs Ade had a shop in front of the house with those long recoiling metallic doors that had to be pulled up and down.
When she would close in the evening, she would call on her husband’s friend, Mr. Andy to help her.
And that was okay. Till Mrs. Andy traveled during her study leave for about three months.
Mrs. Ade and Mr Andy became close. He would come to help pull up the shop door but they would talk for some time. Their “talk” graduated to their very private life being shared and before they knew it, they had slept together.
It came slowly, but it happened.
Why would that happen?
Firstly, there was neglect from both sides.
Secondly, they started talking intimately.
Thirdly, it looked like friends helping out each other.
The event, nearly tore apart the two homes because it was eventually discovered.
Such things would be discovered eventually! Take note of that.
The Lessons?
Try as much as possible as a married person to avoid sharing intimate experiences with friends who are of the opposite sex. Such actions will stir up unnecessary emotions and because you are already friends, descending the road to compromise becomes really easy.
The problem usually begins when there is a communication lapse between any couple. Avoid this as much as possible. Every void you leave open in your attempt to “deal” or “fix” your spouse increases sexual vulnerability!
Be wise! Hold your spouse closely and forgive quickly.
My name is Dunamis Okunowo. Good morning.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not neglect my spouse.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God will shield your spouse from the evils out there.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psalms 55:21 The words of his mouth were smoother than butter, but war was in his heart: his words were softer than oil, yet were they drawn swords.
What are you saying to your friends? What are you saying to your colleagues? What are you saying to your parents? Speaking the right words is very important in life.
What are you saying to your neighbors? What are you saying to those around you?
A man will be satisfied with good by the fruit of his mouth, and the recompense of a man’s hands will be rendered to him.
Proverbs 12:14 MEV
Words are important to both genders, hence the need to use them wisely. The way you speak to those around you goes a long way. Speaking the right words is very important in life. How will you feel if someone constantly tears you apart with the words coming out of his/her mouth? Conversely, how will you feel if someone constantly encourages you with his/her words?
It has been observed that correcting children lovingly goes a long way to boost their ego.
Parents are advised and encouraged to use good words on their wards. Speaking positive words will help boost their confidence and increase their esteem.
Using harsh words when correcting children could negatively impact them. When necessary, let’s use complimentary words.
Learning to say thank you to our children when they run errands for us will go a long way to help their esteem. Yes, speak right words. Speaking the right words is very important in life.
Complimentary words make them happy and leave them beaming with a smile, eager to face the next task.
Prayer: Lord, help me to speak good words only.
Action plan: Learn to speak positive words; speaking the right words is very important in life.
Declaration: My children grow in the way of the Lord and they are encouraged by the positive words I speak towards them. My words nurture them and cause them to grow well and in the LORD. Amen
As they walked down the aisle, Kunle holding his bride, and their faces punctuated with laughter and sheer joy. Betty and Kunle are finally getting married and both of them were so happy.
They had looked forward to this day. Preparations were in top gear as they pumped millions into ensuring the day was glorious. They left no stone unturned, and both of them even borrowed some money for the D-Day. The day was colourful, and people went home belly-full. Everybody eat to their satisfaction as they hired the best caterer in town.
By the time they arrived at the honeymoon venue, they were both exhausted. And now, a new chapter of their life begins.
That day was super and that was it. The wedding was over and marriage began. Reality sets in. Few weeks after the wedding, the pressures showed up in their numbers and with the pressures are different scenarios.
My point this morning? We all put in a lot of preparation and resources into one day often at the detriment of the real thing. We spend millions on feeding guests while we cannot spend a couple of thousands required to take a good marriage counseling.
Here are a few things to note
1. Do not overstretch yourself because of a one-day event. It is foolishness to borrow and feed people while you spend the next six months in debt and are unable to feed yourselves properly.
2. Work more at the comfort of your spouse after the wedding. Some couples will sit on some golden beautiful settee on their wedding days and then arrange plastic chairs in the living room afterward. Who are we really trying to impress?
3. You and your intended spouse should draw a budget and work within the budget. Agree on how you want the day to look and prioritize your home after the wedding
4. Lastly, do not allow folk in the family to draw you into unnecessary spending. Be wise. Be circumspect.
I pray God to grant you more understanding
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am wise and circumspect.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for divine wisdom to plan your wedding
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Matt 19:16 (AMP) So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
I love the way our Easternbrothers usually refer to their wives. They will say “My Woman!”
Well, your wife is your woman. She is yours and no other. So you simply take care of her.
“Oh yeah, Pastor, I am taking care of her.’
“Have you really asked her and engaged her to know her definition of being cared for?
It may be way different from what you think.
What a woman interprets as care is often influenced by a lot of factors which may include background, parental upbringing, schools attended, church attended, personality type, temperament, past experiences, and so many other factors.
This is where communication becomes really important. Talk about how she wants to be taken care of.
For some wives, it’s to take them out to eat in some fancy restaurants.
For some, it’s to take them out to see a movie.
For some, it’s to buy a surprise gift.
For others, it’s to discuss the gift to be bought. For example, my wife doesn’t like surprises. She wants to know and be involved in whatever you want to do. Your own wife may be different.
For others, it’s to sit down and talk with them.
For some, it’s to write them a cheque.
For some, it’s to go on a dream vacation.
Whatever it is, ensure you pay the price in the place of pleasing and taking care of your wife.
May God enable us to be good spouses to our loved ones.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I know how to take care of my wife.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for divine wisdom to take care of your wife
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Matt 19:16 (AMP) So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Ask your wife what taking care of her means to her
You can overcome sin little children. This is what you should always have in your mind as you carry out your daily activities. Now what is the definition of sin?
Sin is the barrier that disrupts you from accessing God’s throne and His presence as you should. It is that one thing that blocks you from being with your heavenly Father.
In the old testament, the bible records that the temple had a place called the Holy of Holies where there was a veil covering it, but only the high priest could enter after he had undergone some cleansing rituals.
“But only the high priest could go into the second room, and he did that only once a year. He could never enter the inner room without taking blood with him. He offered that blood to God for himself and for the people’s sins…”
Heb.9:7 ICB.
After sinning, the enemy suggests to a person that God can never forgive, thereby encouraging them to run away from God.
If you allow the enemy to tell you that your shortcomings are so huge or terrible and that God can never forgive you, then you don’t know your God.
Your God is more than able to forgive your sins. He wants nothing more than to forgive you so that the two of you can be in a loving relationship constantly.
Never allow the enemy or anyone to tell you that God can’t ever forgive you. He gave Jesus for you. Jesus that was sinless to die for your sins that you may be called His son or daughter.
Prayer point: Dear Lord Jesus, thank you for granting me access to the Holy of Holies. I am glad that God will always forgive my sins. Sin will not overcome me. I will not hide in shame. Amen.
Action Plan: Stay away from all forms of sin
Declaration: God will forgive me of my sins. I will not hide in shame.
There are a few things every lady wants from her man. I will attempt to write about a few of them this morning.
Every lady wants a romantic playmate
A lady loves a guy who makes her laugh and who has endless romantic ideas. It’s cool to be a serious person, but you can’t be serious all the time! It’s not even good for your health! In an already tense environment, you must devise ways to keep her calm and laughing. She looks forward to a man that can help her unwind without compromising.
Every lady wants a spiritual guy It goes without saying that every lady wants a prayerful man, who can be a spiritual covering! They need someone who is romantic and who can also explain the book of Romans!
They want some who can spend, but who is also spent for God!
Every lady wants a guide She wants someone who can advice, not one that will adversely crush her spirit. She wants someone who can point the way, who will provide navigation for the family eventually. You see, the eyes are located in the head, and since the man is the head, he is supposed to provide the compass for the family.
4. Every lady wants a truthful man Every lady is looking for a man of integrity. Men who will say something and stand by it. Our generation is filled with too many insincere people! O Lord, give me a spouse that will be truthful.
Most men will proclaim every one his own goodness: but a faithful man who can find?
Pro 20:6 (KJV)
Truthfulness is a legacy to leave for the children, and the children will eventually gravitate towards what they can see in their father.
Never cope with an impulsive and unrepentant lair. If you marry such, you might have to endure it for a lifetime. Whoever refuses to change now is not planning to change anytime soon.
5. Every lady wants a man who will allow them to be who they are. Nobody wants to be caged! She wants a man that will not be insecure as to limit her greatness. She wants a man that will give her wings to fly and help her fulfill all God has called her to do.
6. Every lady wants a man who is loaded in the pocket Ladies want to be comfortable and they want a man who can take care of them. Nobody wants to get involved with a liability! Every man should work! You may be out of job, but never be out of work. No lady wants to afflict her life with a perpetually lazy man! Get working!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I know how to show love to my partner.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to speak lovingly to my partner
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Most men will proclaim everyone his own goodness: but a faithful man who can find? Pro 20:6 KJV
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Show love to your spouse today
Words flew in the air likemissiles, accompanied with fire in their tails, landing like piercing swords in their souls, tearing apart and causing untold agony in the inner crevices of their souls. Like angry puppies, they bellowed at each other while their little daughter cried because she could not understand why “strong” daddy and “cute” mummy were screaming at each other vociferously! The veins stood up on his temple and her veins breathed hard from her neck. Then there was a knock on the door, and only then did they come back to their senses.
Words spoken in anger are debilitating as they are dangerous! Sadly, the words cannot be retrieved, they have gone into the belly of the sea within the soul, waiting to be retrieved for fresh scenes of provocation in the nearest future.
I want to show you a scriptural panacea for managing anger as couples.
The first rule is to ensure that both of you don’t get angry at the same time.
The second rule is that you must respond to anger or angry words with soft answer. If you can do this, you will minimize animosity in your home! Take a look
A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
Pro 15:1 KJV
Take a look at what it says in the Message translation
A gentle response defuses anger, but a sharp tongue kindles a temper-fire.
Pro 15:1 (MSG)
Anger is a bomb! But you can defuse it. It is better to turn away wrath in your marriage with soft answers than to prove a point that ‘you are the son of your father’ or that you are the ‘man in the house.’
Does that mean that I should play the “fool” when I am being provoked? Yes! You will soon discover that you are wise and not a fool.
When you learn this, you will give the Holy Spirit a chance to help you at such times.
Good morning!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I control my tongue. I do not speak irrationally.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to speak lovingly to my spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.Pro 15:1 KJV
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Watch the tone of your voice during communication.
Have you lost an item before, how did you feel? Now imagine a little child misplacing an item. The chances of finding it is very slim; but God promises restoration for children.
And I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten, the cankerworm, and the caterpiller, and the palmerworm, my great army which I sent among you.
Joel 2:25 (KJV)
This is one of God’s promises we can lay claims on. The promise of restoration!
The Lord is promising us total restoration. He has said we will find all we’ve ever lost.
So go to God with ‘Father to son’ important gesture and sort it once and for all.
We should daily read this scripture to our kids, so that they can understand the supernatural aspect available in God.
Declaration: My children enjoy divine restoration. They understand the supernatural. Amen
This is Part 2. I started writing on this topic yesterday. This morning, I will conclude. If you missed the first part, you can read it HERE
6. Don’t hold your lover in unforgiving mode. I learnt from my dad how to forgive quickly. He doesn’t know how to get bitter, and that has prolonged his life. You need that attitude in your relationship or marriage. You have to learn to lovingly overlook mistakes and errors and not be unnecessarily judgmental.
7. Do not feed your weaknesses Your strength is to provide needed balance in your marriage so that your strength will cover for her weaknesses and vice versa. Deliberately avoid feeding each other’s weaknesses. That way, you will grow faster.
8. Do not correct to hurt or in anger. Let affirmations be the landing place for your corrections. Learn how to correct in love!
O LORD, correct me, but with judgment; not in thine anger, lest thou bring me to nothing.
Jer 10:24 (KJV)
This is how God corrects and this is what we need to imbibe as well.
9. Do not lead your lover into sin You are the greatest influence on your lover. Most of the time, he or she will do what you want or what you approve of. Do not lead each other or encourage each other into iniquity. Be circumspect.
10. Do not ignore the wisdom of mentors and superiors. God will usually surround you with mentors and pastors that can help you out in your marital journey. Ignoring them could be at your peril. The wisdom you will need in navigating the path of a successful courtship and eventually marriage is usually domiciled in your mentors around you.
Counsel in the heart of man is like deep water; but a man of understanding will draw it out.
Pro 20:5 (KJV)
Good morning.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I know the things to do to make my lover feel loved
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me the things I need to know.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Cor 13:4 (AMP) Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Go through the devotional again and make plans.
Mr. and Mrs. George are two of a kind. They both have short fuses. They get angry so easily and frequently. As a result, they live in cycles of quarrels and strife. Before the last quarrel was settled, two fresh ones have started. As a result, they never really get to enjoy their married life. They were both swimming in the slimy waters of strife and perpetual bitterness and their arrogance blinded them to what they were missing with that posture.
Their prayers remained largely unanswered. Their peculiarity was that both of them were getting angry at the same time. Two guys were like that in the scriptures. They were eventually scattered.
Simeon and Levi are two of a kind, ready to fight at the drop of a hat. I don’t want anything to do with their vendettas, want no part in their bitter feuds; They kill men in fits of temper, slash oxen on a whim. A curse on their uncontrolled anger, on their indiscriminate wrath. I’ll throw them out with the trash; I’ll shred and scatter them like confetti throughout Israel.
Gen 49:5-7 (MSG)
That would be the end, scattered. Usually, these quick expressions of anger are a result of unresolved issues. This is why it is good and healthy to talk about issues troubling you and not sweep them under the carpet.
Nothing is swept under the carpet really, they only go into the depth of the belly, like magma within the crust of the earth, breathing, hot, and mad, waiting for an appropriate provocation to explode in a volcanic eruption.
As couples, ensure both of you do not get angry at the SAME TIME!
In fits of anger, poor judgment results, twisted conclusions are reached and very regrettable words are spoken.
When your spouse is angry, try and control yourself as much as you can so that the event in question is not escalated unnecessarily.
May God grant you more wisdom!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not controlled by anger
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to control my emotions.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Genesis 49:5-7(KJV)Simeon and Levi are brethren; instruments of cruelty are in their habitations. O my soul, come not thou into their secret; unto their assembly, mine honour, be not thou united: for in their anger they slew a man, and in their selfwill they digged down a wall.Cursed be their anger, for it was fierce; and their wrath, for it was cruel: I will divide them in Jacob, and scatter them in Israel.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Go through the devotional again and make plans.
Most times, we need to be reminded not just what to do, but what not to do in a relationship that will lead to marriage. God is clear in His word regarding the Don’ts. It is your ability to stay within the parameters of God’s word that will guarantee a great relationship that will lead to a wedding. Here are those things you need to pay attention to.
1. Do not stop praying for each other Hear this again and again, in addition to working on your relationship, you are going to need a lot of prayers. You are going to need that spiritual energy to sustain the relationship. The devil doesn’t want you to get married! He is going to do everything possible to throw tantrums and bring confusion into the relationship. When you pray constantly, you will not enter into his temptation and traps!
2. Do not ignore each other Stay in touch through calls and chats. If there is someone not to ignore, it’s your loved one! Ignoring each other will open the door for the devil to feed your souls with assumptions; and assumptions are the lowest forms of knowledge.
3. Do not stop buying gifts for each other. Gifts should not be one sided. There is nowhere in the scripture where it says it is the destiny of guys to buy gifts while the ladies collect. It should be mutual. You will always be creative with giving gifts to the one you really love.
4. Do not stop sharing spiritual truths. Talk to each other from time to time about your dealings with God. Whatever God is sharing with you in your personal closet, share the same with your spouse. This will enable you to be on the same page. In the coming days when you forget, your spouse is the one that will remind you.
5. Do not discourage each other Don’t wear each other out with criticism and discouraging words. Do not disparage each other. Rather, invest in each other’s esteem and build yourselves up in God. Say good words and prophesy unto yourselves! It works!
I will stop here today and continue tomorrow.
Have a blessed day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I know the things to do to make my lover feel loved
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me the things I need to know.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Cor 13:4 (AMP)Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Go through the devotional again and make plans.
It’s a sad reality today that adultery is right in the church. Professing believers, deacons and even pastors are flagrantly indulging in adulterous escapades, resulting in unnecessary and unprecedented headaches and agony in families.
An affair is more or less a sexual relationship, romantic friendship, or passionate attachment between two people without the knowledge of the other spouse.
Nobody is totally exempt from adultery. This morning, I am going to attempt to identify a few causes why couples often resort to cheating and unfaithfulness. This is not an attempt to justify this obviously sinful act, but to help us identify areas we might need to pay attention to.
1. The Needs of the Couple The couple usually will have different needs. Emotional and sexual needs particularly. When these are not met, the person would indirectly seek to meet those needs outside of matrimony. You see, those needs are valid and every couple should strive to meet their emotional and sexual needs. Meeting sexual needs reduces vulnerability to a large extent.
2. Retaliatory Adultery Some people dabble into adultery simply because they wanted to retaliate or show their spouse that they can sort themselves out. This usually happens as a result of deep-seated offense or bitterness.
The sad part is that the reason for adultery does not extricate the consequences of it. As the scripture noted;
Adultery is a brainless act, soul-destroying, self-destructive; [33] Expect a bloody nose, a black eye, and a reputation ruined for good. Pro 6:32-33 (MSG)
3. Wounded and Injured Ego The reality is that some men go into adultery just to simply repair or mend an injured or wounded ego!Wives, massage your husband’s ego! This is very important!
This is not to say that wives are responsible for unfaithfulness in men. A man who has a bad heart will cheat, injured ego or not. However, we should not be careless in some of these areas.
God bless you. Have a fantastic day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love my spouse the God kind of way
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me how to love
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Cor 13:4 (AMP)Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Go through the devotional again and make adjustments
All through the Scripture we see that the spirit of fear is not to be allowed to have a place in our lives. Dear children, say no to fear.
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
Joshua 1:9 (ESV)
The first thing in that passage says we should be strong and courageous. Strength is needed to do anything in life. Fear is a tool of the devil to weaken our resolve to doing anything.
The Lord is always with us wherever we go. We should not be frightened or afraid of any harm.
Yes, there will be instances where we might be overwhelmed, but the assurance from God’s word is enough to bring us out and place us on top.
We have the assurance of protection from God himself, saying he is with us. It is this assurance that we need to succeed in life.
This means we can do anything because God is with us.
What are those dreams and goals in your heart? What are those aspirations in your heart?
You can do it, only fear not.
As parents, we can build confidence in our children with this scripture.
Furthermore, God tells us he has no plans to leave nor forsake us.
We should train our children to put their trust and hope in God, not in man.
Action Plan: What are the things that make you scared? List them. You can talk to your parents about them too.
Prayer: Lord, help me to trust you. Take away the spirit of fear in me and build my confidence in you. Amen
Declaration: My children know no fear because the Lord is with them always. They are not afraid to do new things because they have assurance from God.
There are several beliefs that are so popular and yet very wrong. They are as wrong as they are popular. Believing them is to the detriment of that believer.
This morning, I want to delve into some of them so you can roll them up as they come and throw them in the trash can.
Incidentally, some of them will be fed to us by precious family and friends around us. That is to the extent they know. And that is why we often believe them. However, you need to note, that irrespective of the source of an information, once it is in contradiction to the scriptures, simply throw them away.
Here is one of those beliefs;
Marriage is unnecessary in the real sense, I can just be a baby mama, have a few children and I will be okay.
Well there is nothing okay about the above scenario. It is in total contradiction to the institution of marriage that God Himself established.
Sleeping with a man because he is a celebrity or he has some money is a total departure to the principles and injunctions of the Lord as we know it.
Marriage is necessary. It helps you to contain sexual sins to a large extent.
Certainly—but only within a certain context. It’s good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder.
1Co 7:2 (MSG)
Marriage is designed to contain sexual sins. Avoiding marriage while wanting to have children will sentence a person to a lifetime of adultery.
This is why a baby mama can often have children for more than one man. What can be more debilitating than that?
I will stop here this morning. See you tomorrow and have a blessed day.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am decided for Jesus. I do things right.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the spirit of patience even as you keep on believing.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Cor 7:2 (GNT) But because there is so much immorality, every man should have his own wife, and every woman should have her own husband.
Choleric wives are energeticand creative. They never run out of ideas. They are full of boundless energy and they cannot sit in one place. Properly channeled, nurtured, and encouraged, they can fit into the energetic virtuous man described in the book of Proverbs
They are very independent, and they can act like they don’t need their husbands for anything.
She is productive, has the capacity to have several businesses running at the same time and she will usually climb to the zenith of her career if she chooses.
All these can come at a price to pay, however. The husband of the choleric woman is usually calm and cool. He is most probably of the opposite temperament, reserved and extremely laid back, almost translating into laziness.
This makes the choleric wife cranky most time because she can’t understand why her husband is so slow and demotivated.
But in reality, that slow, laid-back husband is often the backbone and encourager of the choleric wife especially when she is down and she cannot meet her goals in time.
The choleric woman is also bossy, almost looking like she is the one running the home in terms of decision-making. She needs to honor and respect her husband in this regard.
The husband of the choleric wife must be secured and allow his wife to function maximally with all her unending ideas that she never seems to run out of.
The husband must always remain calm, a hot-tempered husband cannot survive with a full-blooded choleric wife. That marriage will crash really fast. The husband has to be patient and lovingly teach his wife how to take life easy.
As they grow together lovingly, they will come to even understand themselves the more and understand why they act the way they do.
May God grant you both more understanding in Jesus name.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love my spouse passionately.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to be a submissive spouse.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Cor 7:2 (GNT) But because there is so much immorality, every man should have his own wife, and every woman should have her own husband.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Read a book on temperaments
My children are grateful. That should be your declaration every time, as a parent. As a child, you must learn to be grateful always.
Ps 6:5 (KJV) For in death there is no remembrance of thee: in the grave who shall give thee thanks?
Many of us lack the culture of gratitude. We seem to believe our parents will always have it figured out. “They are parents anyway, they should. If they don’t, why did they bring me to the world?”
It doesn’t really work that way. When you grow up, you will realize adulthood is hard work.
The psalmist is asking us one question we always ignore. He asks if anyone could give thanks in the grave.
The answer is no one can. So why don’t you do all the thanksgiving now that you are here?
Look at the way the message bible puts it.
Ps 6:5 (MSG) I’m no good to you dead, am I? I can’t sing in your choir if I’m buried in some tomb!
We don’t have to wait till we have the ‘big’ things before learning the culture of thanksgiving. As little as a candy or biscuit, it should be received with thanksgiving.
This means as parents, we should imbibe in our children and make them understand once they do something. We have to teach our children that there is no remembrance in the grave, hence, the need to give God all they can now.
Ps 6:5 (CEV) If I die, I cannot praise you or even remember you.
Children, now that you have breath, use it to praise God.
No one is praying for death, but it is something that will happen to virtually everyone. The prayer is that we all live to good old ages before returning ‘home’
Declaration: My children give God thanks. My children are grateful.
Prayer: Lord, teach my children the art of thanksgiving. Also, help me to imbibe the culture of thanksgiving in them. Amen
Action Point: List all those things you ought to be grateful about.
Betty gave her all to that relationship. It was the very first time she would fall in love and it meant a lot to her. She saw nothing other than a glorious wedding, a blissful marriage, and wonderful children ahead. She fantasized herself being with Bode, loving each other as married couples.
She nearly failed her exam at a time because she was in love. The love was like drugs to her. She thought about nothing other than Bode. Her friends told her to slow down but she told them they were jealous and it was because theirs weren’t working.
As time progressed, quarrels reared their heads. The love story began to develop unwanted twists that nearly ended the story abruptly. But she hung on.
The straw that broke the camel’s back was when Betty discovered that Bode was cheating on her with three different ladies, one of them being her best friend.
Her heart was shattered, scattered, and battered.
“All men are scum!” She said.
She went from anger into hurt and then bitterness. From there she entered acute feminism and she was beginning to sing that “marriage is not for me”
Have you ever find yourself in this kind of scenario? I have a word of the Lord for you this morning.
Even though you are hurting and bitter, God will heal your soul! Yes, He promised that!
HE RESTORETH MY SOUL: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name’s sake. Psa 23:3 (KJV)
He would not just heal your soul which is battered, He will restore it and reset it! Then He will now lead you into His God’s ordained plan for you maritally.
So when you are hurting, don’t stay in that hurt, go to God and let God do only what God can do.
I pray for you, healing and restoration will come to your soul in Jesus Name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My soul is restored in God.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for your emotional healing
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ps 23:3 (AMP) He refreshes and restores my life (my self); He leads me in the paths of righteousness [uprightness and right standing with Him — not for my earning it, but] for His name’s sake.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Take your hurting heart to God
