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How Friendly Is Too Friendly In Marriage?

Mr and Mrs Ade have been married for some years. They had a close family friend, the Andys. They were so close that they built their houses beside one another. They were each other’s best man.

Down the line, Mr. Ade developed some erectile dysfunction which he refused to disclose to his wife. That was the first mistake. He dealt with the embarrassment by coming home late to avoid, love making with his wife.

Mrs Ade had a shop in front of the house with those long recoiling metallic doors that had to be pulled up and down.

When she would close in the evening, she would call on her husband’s friend, Mr. Andy to help her.

And that was okay. Till Mrs. Andy traveled during her study leave for about three months.

Mrs. Ade and Mr Andy became close. He would come to help pull up the shop door but they would talk for some time. Their “talk” graduated to their very private life being shared and before they knew it, they had slept together.

It came slowly, but it happened.

Why would that happen?

Firstly, there was neglect from both sides.

Secondly, they started talking intimately.

Thirdly, it looked like friends helping out each other.

The event, nearly tore apart the two homes because it was eventually discovered.

Such things would be discovered eventually! Take note of that.

The Lessons?

Try as much as possible as a married person to avoid sharing intimate experiences with friends who are of the opposite sex. Such actions will stir up unnecessary emotions and because you are already friends, descending the road to compromise becomes really easy.

The problem usually begins when there is a communication lapse between any couple. Avoid this as much as possible. Every void you leave open in your attempt to “deal” or “fix” your spouse increases sexual vulnerability!

Be wise! Hold your spouse closely and forgive quickly.

My name is Dunamis Okunowo. Good morning.

I will not neglect my spouse.

Pray that God will shield your spouse from the evils out there.

Psalms 55:21 The words of his mouth were smoother than butter, but war was in his heart: his words were softer than oil, yet were they drawn swords.

Open up to your spouse.

PS 55


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