Sade has been abused since she was young. Almost everybody who met her wanted to abuse her. From her cousins to her Uncles, and then to the gateman. From fellow schoolmates to friends and neighbors, it has been the same story. It is as though she has a magnetic entity in her body that draws people filled with lust.
She got born again and the story did not change. She is completely frustrated and did not what to do. At the root of it all, she discovered she has grown to a point where she actually entertained herself with abusive thoughts. She looked forward to being abused unconsciously and she would often position herself in such scenarios by following guys she barely know to their homes for sex romps
She is completely frustrated. She has prayed, read her Bible, and fasted, yet the problem persisted.
Well, the main issue about Sade’s problem is that she has an addiction; and it is called sex addiction. She thought she was just being an emotional person. But she is wrong.
It is even possible she has not yet slept with anybody, aside from all the touch and kisses, and yet be sex addicted. This is because not all sex addicts need to have sex to feed their addiction, they only need to fantasize.
Such people can have sexual pleasure by just viewing pornography, by thinking about a certain person that has been tattooed into their brain, by a certain object or image they have photographed into their brain.
The brain has then attached sexual pleasure to these persons, objects, or fantasies such that all they need is a thought away. And of course, because this is dominant in the brain, anytime an opportunity presents itself to express these carnal thoughts, they simply give in. This is why such people often say they cannot say No.
Such people will certainly need a form of therapy in addition to the renewal of mind exercises that is persistent to become free. I will write more on this in the ensuing days.
If you find yourself in such a scenario and you believe you need help, you can send me a mail at khcpartners@gmail.com or send a WhatsApp message via +234 802 350 7395 for private premium therapy that can be of help.
Have a great day.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am free from all forms of emotional addictions.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, deliver me from all forms of emotional addictions.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Rom 12:1-2 (NKJV)I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. 2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.
Andy and Sandy were so much in love in their courtship days. They were the quintessential campus love birds. Their love was palpable. Their eyes shone in ecstasy at the thoughts of each other. Barely can thirty minutes go without getting in touch for one thing or another. They looked forward to the wedding and they knew it was going to be so blissful.
The wedding happened and life began to happen. Differences emanated from nowhere and screamed at their love story. A love story filled with laughter and flowers, with dimples without pimples, soon became a love song punctuated with moods, cries, and tales of regrets.
What really happened?
They both brought their invisible baggages into the marriage. Baggages collide with luggages. These baggages were filled with junks and emotional dirts accumulated over the years growing up from abuses, negative words spoken, attacks and misconceptions that have been fed to them.
After the wedding, emotional baggages, sexual baggages, physical baggages and even spiritual baggages are brought to the table.
They now begin to deal with these, and sometimes for years, some of the contents of the baggages have not been revealed. Howbeit, the consequences of the baggages contents begin to take a toll on the couple, opened or closed.
Every anomaly and inconsistent behavior in marriage is drawing strength from that bag.
It is for this reason Jesus made one of the most powerful statements ever.
Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
Mat 11:28 (KJV)
Instead of carrying the bags around and messing up relationships, go to Jesus and let Him give you rest.
I love the Passion Translation:
“Are you weary, carrying a heavy burden? Then come to me. I will refresh your life, for I am your oasis.
Mat 11:28 (TPT)
Have a great day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I lay down all baggages at the foot of the cross.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask the Saviour to help you.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Matt 11:28 (MSG) “Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest.
Children are a blessing. The more children you have, the more blessed you are (little wonder the bible says happy is man who has his quiver full of them).
There is a Scripture I will show you now; one that we need to rejoice and be glad about. In that scripture, God was decreeing and declaring that apart from being a blessing, our children are gifts from Him. Take a look at that Scripture:
Children are a blessing and a gift from the LORD.
Psa 127:3 CEV
How would you treat a gift you received from someone you esteem? That is exactly how children ought to be treated.
You and I know God never gives bad gifts. His gifts to us are beautiful and special because of His steadfast love for us.
Our children are a special gift to us, so as parents, we are blessed because of the presence of these little ones in our lives.
What do you do then? Go ahead and give God thanks for the gift of children. Thank Him for your children are a blessing. Amen
You don’t need a diviner or a herbalist of a soothsayer to know the man that is just playing you and will not marry you. All the tell-tale signs are loud and visible. The actions and inactions, the disenfranchisement and the distance, the unaccountability and the subtle rebellion are all the signs that should not be ignored in any way.
Here is an indication that He will not marry you.
Little or No Communication
The guy who will not marry you is likely to starve your of communication. If there are two love birds, one way you will know them is that they are into themselves and they talk a lot. They will stay in touch through WhatsApp, Facebook, and other social media. There will likely be more than one call in a day.
The person you love and who really loves you wants to talk to you all the time. I guess it’s just simply natural. The moment he starts forming busy, and he is unwilling to pick your calls, then you should know something is deeply wrong there.
He has been outside the country for some months and there has not been communication. Well, you can simply assume the relationship is over. Communication is the oil that runs the engine of a love affair.
On the other hand, when the communication is little and toxic all the time, it’s a tell tale sign as well that something is not right.
He hardly calls and when he calls, it’s to weigh you down, maim and lacerate, leaving deep gaping wounds in the soul. It’s a sure sign that the love affair is sick.
Pro 12:18 (MSG) Rash language cuts and maims, but there is healing in the words of the wise.
Do not forcefully hold to an abusive relationship because it only ends with stories that touch the heart!
Have a blessed day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I do not give place to the devil.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask that God opens your eyes to see what you cannot see.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Gen 11:6 (HCSB)The LORD said, “If they have begun to do this as one people all having the same language, then nothing they plan to do will be impossible for them.
The ambitious early men were too focused to be distracted. Their project was clear. They were going to build the tallest building in the world. Whatever technology existed at the time, God Himself attested to the fact that they will succeed.
and he said, “Now then, these are all one people and they speak one language; this is just the beginning of what they are going to do. Soon they will be able to do anything they want!
Gen 11:6 (GNB)
God said nothing will be impossible for them because of the oneness in their speech and language. God knew what to do to stop their ambition. He tampered with their speech.
Come, we’ll go down and garble their speech so they won’t understand each other.” Then GOD scattered them from there all over the world. And they had to quit building the city.
Gen 11:7-8 (MSG)
The resultant effect of their garbled speech is that they could no longer understand themselves, then a scattering and then they quit building.
This is quite instructive and interesting.
O yes, in marriage, there will be little quarrels and disagreement here and there. You know what? Keep on talking. Papa Kenneth Hagin said learn to disagree without being disagreeable!
Do not allow strife in your marriage. When you stop talking as a result of hurt, your speech has been garbled and you will soon be unable to build anything. Now, this is the plan of the devil. He wants you scattered. He doesn’t want you to build anything. He doesn’t want you to do anything meaningful together. Ensure you don’t cooperate with him anyway.
Keep on talking. Don’t hurt too deep. Be a quick forgiver. Laugh a lot. Enjoy yourself as couples and do not allow anybody to pour “stones” into your “Garri!
Have a blessed day with your spouse!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I do not give place to the devil. I keep on talking with my spouse.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that you are sensitive to your spouse.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Gen 11:6 (HCSB)The LORD said, “If they have begun to do this as one people all having the same language, then nothing they plan to do will be impossible for them.
As godly parents, one of your priority should be how to disciplined children. You must remember that you will give account to God over them.
Don’t hesitate to discipline children. A good spanking won’t kill them. As a matter of fact, it may save their lives.
Proverbs 23:13-23 (GNT)
Discipline is good. The bible encourages it. Disciplined children are a blessing because those are the children that are well developed and balanced in society. The society is filled with undisciplined children, you don’t want your children to be a part of the statistics.
Love corrects. If you truly love your children, then you must learn to correct them. If you want them to turn out well, then like the bible says, a good spanking won’t kill them. Love does not overlook wrongdoing.
We have to teach and train our children (raising them up as disciplined children), and the Lord will help us in Jesus name.
There is hardly any strong person. We only have helped people. My discourse with you this morning is a prophetic declaration that you will be marvelously helped in your relationship in Jesus name.
Oratory power is cool. Intellectual prowess is admired but is not always a magic wand when it comes to the problems of life. There are issues that defy the best of the intellectuals. There are puzzles and enigmas of life that are beyond the parameters of cognitive abilities.
At the end of the day, ensure you are helped of God. Your innate abilities, your gifting, your intelligence then begin to make meaning when God helps you indeed.
This morning, I prophesy into your relationship, you are helped of God in Jesus name!
And he made in Jerusalem engines, invented by cunning men, to be on the towers and upon the bulwarks, to shoot arrows and great stones withal. And his name spread far abroad; for he was marvellously helped, till he was strong.
2Ch 26:15 (KJV)
The guy above is sharp and intelligent. He is creative and productive. He had inventors working for him. But the last phrase amazes me. He was marvelously helped till HE WAS STRONG!
So, with all his achievements and productive energy for inventions, he was weak. He only became strong when he was marvelously helped.
May God help you by sending the right people your way. May you have your engines located on the towers and upon the bulwarks, to shoot arrows and great stones that will devastate every marital enemy in Jesus name.
See the Message Translation:
He also installed the latest in military technology on the towers and corners of Jerusalem for shooting arrows and hurling stones. He became well known for all this—a famous king. Everything seemed to go his way.
2Ch 26:15 (MSG)
Everything will go your way and work together for your good in Jesus name!
Have a great day.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am marvelously helped of God.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Pray for the help of God
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 2 Chron 26:15 (ERV)In Jerusalem, Uzziah made machines that were invented by clever men. These machines were put on the towers and corner walls. They shot arrows and large rocks. Uzziah became famous. People knew his name in far away places. He had much help and became a powerful king.
The race is never to the swift. The battle is not to the strong. We are only helped of God.
This is not to disregard the significance of labour, for there is dignity in labour. However, and at the end of the day, the realization sinks, that it is all by the help of God.
Let’s take a look at the scripture this morning.
He also installed the latest in military technology on the towers and corners of Jerusalem for shooting arrows and hurling stones. He became well known for all this—a famous king. Everything seemed to go his way. But then the strength and success went to his head. Arrogant and proud, he fell. One day, contemptuous of GOD, he walked into The Temple of GOD like he owned it and took over, burning incense on the Incense Altar.
2Ch 26:15-16 (MSG)
This man was marvelously helped. He had everything going his way. But then, he became proud, and the strength and success went to his head. He took God for granted and wanted to perform roles meant only for priests.
The result was a disenfranchisement that isolated him.
They confronted Uzziah: “You must not, you cannot do this, Uzziah—only the Aaronite priests, especially consecrated for the work, are permitted to burn incense. Get out of God’s Temple; you are unfaithful and a disgrace!” But Uzziah, censer in hand, was already in the middle of doing it and angrily rebuffed the priests. He lost his temper; angry words were exchanged—and then, even as they quarreled, a skin disease appeared on his forehead.
26:18-19 (MSG)
The disease never left him.
Uzziah had his skin disease for the rest of his life and had to live in quarantine; he was not permitted to set foot in The Temple of GOD. His son Jotham, who managed the royal palace, took over the government of the country.
2Ch 26:21 (MSG)
The lesson here? Do not open the door for pride in your life. Do not make the mistake of going into extramarital relationships because you now have some money and some success in your business. Such steps only end in tears.
Stay humble, Stay close to God. Stay faithful to your spouse.
May God grant more understanding!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am marvelously helped of God.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Pray for the help of God in your marriage
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 2 Chron 26:15 (ERV)In Jerusalem, Uzziah made machines that were invented by clever men. These machines were put on the towers and corner walls. They shot arrows and large rocks. Uzziah became famous. People knew his name in far away places. He had much help and became a powerful king.
Who is your friend? That is one question that you must ask and answer if you desire to become the best of who you are meant to be.
Julius had a problem. He needed a solution. This issue had been eating deep into him. He just couldn’t wrap his head around it. He began to emaciate as a result of excessive thinking. He wasn’t looking like the Julius everyone knew. His parents wondered what could be wrong with their once lively lad.
He knew he had to find a solution to whatever was wrong with him. Just like a flash, he remembered his one time buddy and friend, Samson. Who is your friend? Who do you call friend? Samson was not really born again, that was why he cut ties with him initially, but now, he needed his help desperately.
Oh, why didn’t I think about him before now? He asked himself.
Off, he dashed to Samson’s house and discussed with him. In the end, Samson had a good time laughing at his long time friend who was looking worried over a “simple” matter.
Samson told him what to do. Even though he knew it was wrong, he went ahead, as he needed a solution badly. Who is your friend?
This was what happened to Amnon, David’s son. What was heavy in his heart, became a small matter in the eyes of his friend because his friend had a devilish mind.
As a matter of fact, Bible says his friend was a subtle, shrewd and crafty person.
Amnon had a friend named Jonadab, who was the son of David’s brother Shimeah. Jonadab always knew how to get what he wanted,
2 Sam 13:3 (CEV)
Jonadab put Amnon in trouble, just like Samson did to Julius in the story above.
Little wonder the Bible says
Stop being deceived: “Wicked friends lead to evil ends.
1 cor 15:33 (ISV)
Who are those you call friends? Are they really worth it? Are they after your wellbeing or your downfall?
Talk to your parents. Let them help you identify who your friends really are.
Prayer: Lord, help me to identify my real friends. Amen
A perpetually irritating friend or ally is always somewhat a nuisance. There are some naughty relationships like that. They just keep provoking you and testing your patience till you want out. After you have been grieved severally and you are brought into a place where it looks like there will be no change, you probably want to quit.
If this is done to you, you sure don’t want to stay too long among such people. There is a way you naturally move away from where you are being afflicted to where you will be celebrated. Nobody wants his or her head beaten all the time and that without cause. You, being on the receiving end, are not usually having a pleasant time.
What if I say that is what we often do to God? Take a look at this scripture:
How oft did they provoke him in the wilderness, and grieve him in the desert! Yea, they turned back and tempted God, and limited the Holy One of Israel. They remembered not his hand, nor the day when he delivered them from the enemy.
Psa 78:40-42 (KJV)
Provoking God with acts of compromise in your relationship, grieving Him with repeated wrong acts in a deliberate fashion translates to turning back and tempting God, thereby limiting Him.
His desire is to bless and increase us. His desire is that the marriage institution He established becomes a reality in our lives. God is never the one bringing delay into your life, it is we that often keep tempting and limiting the Holy One of God.
The Message Translation puts it this way:
How often in the desert they had spurned him, tried his patience in those wilderness years. Time and again they pushed him to the limit, provoked Israel’s Holy God. How quickly they forgot what he’d done, forgot their day of rescue from the enemy,
Psa 78:40-42 (MSG)
My advice this morning: Quit limiting God to do what He wants to do through your disobedience and repeated errors. Stop pushing Him to the limit with habitual sinful tendencies.
Allow Him to be God in your life.
May God grant you more understanding!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not provoke God to anger. I will not limit God
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God shows you areas where you have been limiting him.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ps 78:41 (ERV)Again and again they tested his patience. They really hurt the Holy One of Israel.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Stop limiting God through disobedience
This Is What Happens To Couples Who Don’t Cooperate
The home was hot, and yet it was really cold outside. Sad miens, sadistic motions, palpitating hearts resulting from acute bitterness serenaded the house. Music has disappeared from their hearts and in its place is a dirge composing itself.
Mr. and Mrs. Jebolade are at it again. The usual bickering have ensued. This will lead to unending quarrels, exchange of bitter words, reclusion into their shells, and eventually strife and animosity that will last for days.
Both of them would feel they were right and would insist on their rights. As they continue in this cat and mouse tantrums, they are actually losing a lot in their marriage without knowing. They are limiting God from blessing them in fullness.
The scriptures says
Psa 78:40-42 (KJV) How oft did they provoke him in the wilderness, and grieve him in the desert! Yea, they turned back and tempted God, and limited the Holy One of Israel. They remembered not his hand, nor the day when he delivered them from the enemy.
Continually provoking God, grieving Him with your refusal to forgive each other is like tempting God and limiting Him from blessing you.
Discarding the marital vows you said and recited on your wedding day because of some disagreement or differences is tempting God and limiting Him in your marriage.
In marriage, it takes your agreement from both sides for anything to work. The devil knows this, so he tampers with your agreement, just to stop the flow of the blessing. You have to be wise, therefore, to ensure that the devil is kept at bay in your marriage.
It’s something deliberate that both of you have to do. You work at your marriage and trust God for the best by simply cooperating with each other. Full cooperation with each other!
I pray and declare that your marriage is blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My marriage is blessed in Jesus’ name.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to cooperate with my spouse.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ps 78:41 (ERV)Again and again they tested his patience. They really hurt the Holy One of Israel.
I want to bring to our remembrance something really important this morning. Dear child, you are a special gift! Yes, you! You really are.
It is something we know, but we sometimes allow the devil fill our minds with negative and false thoughts. This was exactly what happened to Jude.
Jude was always moody. He was always downcast and sad. He just couldn’t fathom certain things going on around him.
One thing that kept coming to his mind was that his parents loves his siblings more than they love him. He didn’t see himself as a special gift.
He fought this thought for weeks until his Sunday school teacher read this verse in church yesterday.
Gen 4:1 (KJV)And Adam knew Eve his wife; and she conceived, and bare Cain, and said, I have gotten a man from the Lord.
Dear children, this is how I want you to see yourselves henceforth. You are a special gift from God to your parents.
You are not a mistake. You are not ordinary. You came at the very right time God wanted you to come.
We all know God gives good gifts. That means you are a good gift to your parents, not just an ordinary gift.
Every good and perfect gift comes down from the Father who created all the lights in the heavens. He is always the same and never makes dark shadows by changing.
James 1:17 (CEV)
Don’t conclude your life because of your present situation. You are a special gift.
Look on the bright side. You are perfect because God made you so.
Parents, let’s do well to encourage our children, assuring them of God’s love.
Prayer: Lord, thank you because I see myself the same way you see me. Amen
Action point: Tell yourself you are a special gift to your parents.
Declaration: I am a gift to my parents and to this generation.
Words are powerful. It is interesting to know that our world is created by our words. Your micro world as well, guess what, was fashioned by your words.
Words are so powerful that what you say eventually overwhelms you and give direction to your life.
It is in the regard that the scripture says:
“Take this most seriously: A yes on earth is yes in heaven; a no on earth is no in heaven. What you say to one another is eternal. I mean this.
Mat 18:18 (MSG)
Words are so powerful that even the heavenlies respond to your words and statements.
Angels, as powerful as they are, the scripture declares that they listen and act on the WORDS of God in your mouth.
If you keep saying life is tough, guess what will happen to you. If you keep saying marriage is tough, guess what you are building with words. If you keep saying all men are scum, guess what the experience will be.
Your life simply gravitates in the direction of that which you speak.
In your relationship therefore, you want to be careful and deliberate about what you say to your lover, especially when you are angry or livid.
You want to abstain from such statements as below:
1. Our relationship is over 2. I know you cannot change 3. You are frustrating my life 4. You are such a negative force in my life 5. Since we met, it has been one problem or the other and I know that is what it will be forever 6. One day, I know our relationship will be over 7. I know this is never going to lead to marriage 8. I regret the day I met you 9. There is bad luck hovering around you 10. There is a curse following you and it is affecting me
Avoid any statement that looks like the above. As you begin to train your mouth, your life will come into alignment with God.
Have a great day.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My words are seasoned with salt
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to speak the right words
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Colossians 4:6 (NLT): “Let your conversation be gracious and attractive so that you will have the right response for everyone.”
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Watch what you are saying to your lover
Life is a journeythat is taken on the road of words. Your words literally will pave way for you to take in life. Wrong words will dig dangerous potholes into the road of life. Negative words will create mirages that look real but offered nothing at the end of the day.
Particularly, the scriptures opined that it is with words that you will bring out the best in your spouse
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; [26] That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water BY THE WORD, [27] That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
Eph 5:25-27 (KJV)
Just like Jesus, you are to speak what you want to see and not what you are seeing. There is a huge difference.
Here are some statements you should avoid saying to your spouse
1. This marriage will never work 2. I hate you will all my heart 3. I will leave you eventually and marry someone else 4. You are such a negative force in my life 5. Since we met, it has been one problem or the other and I know that is what it will be forever 6. One day, I know our marriage will be over 7. I know this is never going to lead to anything meaningful 8. I regret the day I met you 9. There is bad luck hovering around you 10. There is a curse following you and it is affecting me
Avoid any statement that looks like the above. As you begin to train your mouth, your life will come into alignment with God.
I pray that God takes every storm out of your marriage.
I honor you.
Have a great day.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My words are seasoned with salt.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to speak the right words.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Colossians 4:6 (NLT): “Let your conversation be gracious and attractive so that you will have the right response for everyone.”
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Watch what you are saying to your spouse
It’s time to talk about health decisions. Your health is another important area of your life that you should make changes in. Don’t think because you are young, there’s no need for you to take care of your health.
This area is often neglected by many children and parents alike, until something bad happens.
May we not experience such in Jesus name.
Here’s a fact you should know – it’s the body you take care of now that will aid you when you are old. Don’t wait till you are thirty or forty before you start taking your health seriously. Start making better health decisions.
Beloved, I pray that all may go well with you and that you may be in good health, as it goes well with your soul.
3John 1:2 (ESV)
Watch what you eat, drink, inhale or apply on your body. Beyond your physical body is your mental health. Learn to make better health decisions.
Be conscious of what you watch, read or listen to. If it doesn’t build your mind in ways that will make you a positive and fulfilled person, do not do it. Do not give in to peer pressure to do what is wrong. .
The bible cautions us to watch what we allow into our bodies and minds. So, review the past month and ask yourself questions concerning your health decisions. Some of the questions you can ask includes:
1. Did I eat right? 2. How often did I exercise or turned a potato-couch? 3. How many books did I read? 4. How did they impact my life? Did I take good health decisions? 5. What changes did I make from reading those books? 6. What type of thoughts did I think?
May the Lord help you make excellent health decisions this new month.
Prayer: Lord, I want to make better health choices in Jesus’ name. Amen.
Action point: Make a list of your new plans for the month and start doing them.
Declaration: I consciously guide my health. I am not careless with what enters my body. I make great health decisions.
You have waited. You have prayed. You might have even cried and wondered why your spouse is not showing up. You have dabbled into some unwise relationships out of being desperate or because you think your biological clock is ticking away.
You are agitated. You are not happy. You have fasted and still fasting. Is God really listening? You wondered.
In the midst of all these, here is the word of the Lord.
For yeta little while, and he that shall come will come, and will not tarry.
Heb 10:37 (KJV)
He will come and he will show up. She will be found and you will meet your wife. Put all your trust in Him and never Doubt Him for a second.
The devil wants you to give up on God. Like Job’s wife said to Job, the devil wants you to curse God, and of course what will follow is death.
Then said his wife unto him, Dost thou still retain thine integrity? curse God, and die.
Job 2:9 (KJV)
Death of your desire and all that pertains to it. That will never be your portion in Jesus name!
Trust this God because He never fails. He has your back. He is faithful. And you will never be ashamed as a result of serving God.
Hold on tightly to Him, He that will come will come. Don’t allow pressure to push you into the zone of compromise.
He remains your shepherd and He will guide you into His plans. Wow! What a good God we serve.
How I love the Message Translation.
It won’t be long now, he’s on the way; he’ll show up most any minute.
Heb 10:37 (MSG)
Yes, it won’t be long. Any minute from now, your miracle will show up. Trust and hold on to the horns of the altar.
He is all over you. His love seems to know no bounds. He has boundless ideas complemented with accompanying energy on different ways to please you and make you happy.
His thoughts seem merged with yours, functioning in amazing synchrony that amazes everybody.
Looks like you were made for each other from heaven. Mere thinking about him, your heart goes into a loving palpitation and begins to skip.
It looked like a forever happily after kind of love script whose plot is from God Himself.
You wondered how you deserved so much love from an individual. Butterflies spread their wings in abundance in your tummy, causing colors of love to emanate from your dimples.
It looked so good…until YOU GOT MARRIED
What? What happened to all the flowers, and all the romantic ideas? The poet in him died after wedding. The romantic voice went coarse. The hugs vaporized. The loving voice that shook you to your marrows was still shaking you, but now in fear and trepidation.
Why Lord?
The reality is that marriage is a lot of work.
Wooing each other ought not to stop. It should continue and even intensify.
For this reason a man is to leave his father and his mother and lovingly hold to his wife, since the two have become joined as one flesh.
Eph 5:31 (TPT)
If the sparks have disappeared from your love life as married couples, you need to go back in time and learn from your single selves!
Ever wondered why your wife no longer smiles and all the sparkles disappeared from her mien? It’s because what you used to do that excited her are no longer there.
Ever wondered why your husband who used to be sweet and all of a sudden he has grown unfriendly and get angry easily and sometimes with little provocation? It’s because he can no longer sense respect from you.
Bot husband and wife should get back to what they used to do, and you will see fresh wine poured into your marital cup, bringing fresh sweetness into your lives.
My name is Dunamis Okunowo
Be blessed.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My marriage is blessed.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for wisdom to run your marriage.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ephesians 5:31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
The month has begun already. Are you making adjustments already? Are you finding this series helpful? I hope so. Today we will look at family decisions.
Today, we will be talking about families.
Most times, family members are the most ignored set of people. We tend to think that they will always be there or they don’t need much from us. We push them aside till we get into trouble or something.
Take a good look at your relationship with your family members to know if you’ve been making great family decisions. Do so by asking yourself these questions:
How often did you tell or show them you love them? How many times did you help them when they needed it? How often did you help your parents at home? How often did you obey parental instructions? How many times did you pray for your parents or siblings? What was the last gift you gave your family members? How often did you spend time with them? How often did you fight your sibling?
These are personal questions that will guide you in your journey to making better family decisions. You can and should add yours to these.
Showing love to your family is important and gladdens the heart of God. As a Christian child, you are supposed to value the family system. Christianity itself is a family of believers in Christ.
Prayer: Lord, I am grateful for the family you have blessed me with. I thank you for my parents and siblings. Help me to value them more in Jesus’ name. Help me to make great family decisions. Amen.
Action point: Start by saying a big thank you to your family members for being there for you throughout the year. You can make a big “thank you” card for them.
Declaration: I value my family. This month, I am more committed to them than ever before.
I remember how many times I was disciplined growing up. With mum, it was regular and lenient. With dad, it was occasional but terrible and indelible.
I can’t forget the day my younger sister reported me to dad that I jumped from a first floor balcony, only trying to show that what a boy could do, a girl couldn’t.
Well, she showed me what girl could do; she reported me.
My dad beat me so much that when I slept that night, I dreamt that I died and I was buried. It was that intense. The discipline “entered”
From that day, I didn’t move near High or Long jump, anything that entails jumping was a no go area! I was never led to that area again!
Even so, God disciplines us. Take a look here:
It’s the child he loves that he disciplines; the child he embraces, he also corrects. God is educating you; that’s why you must never drop out. He’s treating you as dear children. This trouble you’re in isn’t punishment; it’s training,
Heb 12:6 – 7 (MSG)
Some of the experiences you are going through in your relationship is just God’s way of educating you. He wants you to be better. He doesn’t want you to fail. He doesn’t want you to become a failure. He doesn’t want you to regret later. So He disciplines.
Accept God’s discipline and move on into greater heights. God doesn’t want you to drop out of that discipline system. It’s not punishment, it’s training. God will NEVER punish you! It may look like that, but it’s not!
As you respond to His discipline and learn from your mistakes or errors, a better version of you emerges and God can use you better.
That relationship broke? Oh, ensure you learn from it before you jump into another one! Take your training and let the best of God be available for you.
Got any questions? Leave them in the comments and I will respond.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY God is not punishing me. I respond well to God’s training
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for grace to receive the training with a humble heart.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Hebrews 12:6 For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Go through the training patiently because God is not punishing you.
In today’s devotional,we’re looking at how we as couples can respond to God’s training. Marriage is an institution, the first institution God created.
In institutions, we go to learn. In effect, marriage is a school, a major one at that.
It is probably the only institution where you get your certificate before the learning begins. On the wedding day, you get to receive your wedding certificate, and then the real school begins.
Especially as it concerns male and female differences, a lot of couples are in for a rude shock.
There will be mistakes that are done in marriage as a result of our opinions, as a result of habits, as a result of mindsets.
God in His wisdom, will start dislodging those mindsets through various circumstances and happenstances.
Your best bet will be to listen and learn from what God is trying to say.
For you to hear God and learn from the discipline, you need to have an understanding that God’s discipline is not punishment, but training.
When you see it as training, then the discipline of God becomes effective in your life.
See what the Bible says
It’s the child he loves that he disciplines; the child he embraces, he also corrects. God is educating you; that’s why you must never drop out. He’s treating you as dear children. This trouble you’re in isn’t punishment; it’s training,
Heb 12:6 – 7 (MSG)
I love what it says. The one that God loves is the one that He disciplines. And the Message Translation says God is simply educating you.
This education will advance your marriage and give you the needed lessons to move higher in your marriage.
Don’t drop out of it. Stay with it and learn all you can learn.
As you cooperate with God’s discipline as husband and wife, you will see your marriage get better in God and fulfilling God’s plan for you as a couple.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I respond well to God’s training
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for grace to receive the training with a humble heart.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Hebrews 12:6 For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Go through the training patiently
