Son 2:3-7 (MSG) As an apricot tree stands out in the forest, my lover stands above the young men in town. All I want is to sit in his shade, to taste and savor his delicious love.
Well, born again or not, there is a strong desire that comes with falling in love. If you like, speak in tongues till tomorrow, this desire will not go.
But what can be subdued is lust that often wants to tag along, like Lot tagged along with Abraham.
Yes, the desire will not go, because there is nothing wrong with the desire, it is the fulfillment of the desire at a wrong time that gets us into trouble.
So, all you want when you fall in love is that you want to sit down in each other’s shade, with feelings of wanting to taste and savor the delicious love.
I felt like that. She felt like that. But we waited. You can wait as well.
No matter how intense the desire is, do not taste that love before wedding. Tasting love and consummating your love before wedding is like stealing a hot meat from the pot of stew before it is ready.
Your taste bud gets burnt and you can lose your sense of taste, which ultimately leads to tasting more pot of stew that does not belong to you!
2. The Feasting of the Eye Rather Than On The Meal
Son 2:4 (MSG) He took me home with him for a festive meal, but his eyes feasted on me!
So she followed him home or to some guest house for a meal. Let’s just eat out.
May we not dine with the wrong person. May we not eat up our destinies.
The guy had more plans than just the meal.
Ladies, be careful who buys free meals for you, you might be paying for it soonest.
Rather than for the guy to feast on the meal, his eyes were riveted on the damsel.
Essentially, men are moved by sight.
Men, watch what you see. Ladies, watch what is seen.
I will stop here this morning.
Have a blessed day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not fall in love carelessly
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, let my strong desires be for you
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Proverbs 22:24 Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go:
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Disconnect from every wrong relationship
This is an important topic because every one of us gets angry. Anger is probably the most common vice in every marriage. Every couple, white or black, colored or Asian gets angry at least once in a day.
Whether we get angry or not is not the point here, how we handle our anger is. Some couples have outbursts of anger while others suppress theirs.
Neither one of them is good. The explosive anger is bad because things may have been destroyed sometimes beyond repairs. It is like the effect of a raging fire. It has no time to wait and discern.
The quiet kind of anger, that is suppressed usually comes with withdrawal. It is like rain that eventually causes floods.
It is our responsibility to master it.
Eph 4:26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
God recognizes the fact that being angry is not a sin in itself. But anger has to be controlled not to cross the line of sin.
God gave us permission to get angry but it must be over by end of day. In other words, ‘Do not stay angry’.
As a couple, you will experience your spouse getting angry at most times, because he or she is human, but you have to learn how to forgive him/her quickly.
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It crosses into the devil’s zone when your anger causes bitterness, strife, hatred, and the likes. When you meditate on your anger, you give the devil time and space to expand it.
That is one of the reasons suppressing anger is evil.
Read on how to manage your anger. Seek God’s help and think of methods that work for you that will help you.
Remember, anger not controlled or managed can destroy your marriage or at least steal your unity and oneness.
God bless our marriage
CONFESSION OF THE DAY I master my anger, I dwell with my spouse with understanding
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me understanding and wisdom to master my anger.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 4:26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
You must learn how to show appreciation. Tobi looked at the money in his hand, glared at his father in unbelief. What will five thousand naira fetch him at school as pocket money? Is this man from another planet, he thought? He murmured a “Thank you” to his father before storming away. I will just put it under my pillow and not go to school, he said to himself. That was exactly what he did.
Tolu, his twin brother, thanked their father profusely, prostrating as he did. He calculated how he was going to spend it to ensure that it lasted him for one month. A business idea even came to his mind. He smiled as he thought of the idea.
This much relates to the story of talents in the bible. We read how each was given an amount, how each spent it, who was praised, and who was punished.
God expects us to be grateful first for everything we have through our parents or others.
He also expects us to keep well everything we have. We should keep our rooms neat and tidy, ensure our clothes are washed and well arranged. We should handle our toys, shoes, books, and all we own well. Whatever we don’t use anymore, we can give out to someone else. He expects us to save our money or put it to good use.
Are you like Tobi and the ungrateful servant? Or you are like Tolu and the two servants who used their talents well?
Each had a reward? Which reward would you like to have?
The good –
“The master said, well done, my good and faithful servant. You have been faithful in handling the small amount, so now I will give you many more responsibilities. Let’s celebrate together!”(NLT)
Matt.25:23
The bad –
“To those who use well what they are given, even more will be given, and they will have an abundance. But from those who do nothing, even what little they have will be taken away.” (NLT)
Matt 25:29
Be grateful for all you have and use them well.
Prayer: Lord, thank you for everything I have. I am grateful for my parents and all the people you have used to bless me. Teach me how to take care of my things. Help me make good use of them, in Jesus name. Amen.
Declaration: My children are grateful. They are not like the foolish servant who hid his talents. They make good use of what is given to them.
Friendship is like a foundation of relationship upon which a great marriage is built. Marry your friend! Whoever is not a friend, is not worth a marriage relationship.
Friends love each other. Friends forgive each other. Friends look after one another’s good. Friends talk and play. Friends do not “form” for each other. Friends pray together. Friends easily overlook each other’s mistakes. Friends cover for each other.
If your lover is not a friend, there will be issues.
Do not marry a “father” or a “mother” or an “uncle,” rather marry a friend.
If he or she is not a friend, don’t walk down the aisle.
2. Friends are thoughtful and sensitive
A friend doesn’t just blab, he knows what to say, when to say it and how to say it.
A friend is careful not to get you unnecessarily aggravated. That is the kind of person you need in marriage.
An understanding person. A person on whose shoulder you can lean. A hearing ear, understanding heart, and empathic listener.
The one that will not allow you to say anything while you are courting is already showing you that you will be muted in marriage. And that can be frustrating.
Nothing is as frustrating as unexpressed and bottled up words and feelings.
A friend enjoys your “talk” although you should not resort to nagging.
3. Friends are truthful
Friends would always tell you the truth.
Beware of people who say they are your friends and all they do is to tell you what you want to hear, and flatter you all the time.
A flattering neighbor is up to no good; he’s probably planning to take advantage of you.
Pro 29:5 (MSG)
Marry a friend who can tell you the truth, because you often time get to positions that it is only your spouse that can tell you the truth.
Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.
Pro 27:6 (KJV)
The one that is kissing you but will never tell you as it is is not a friend. He or she is not ready to tell you anything that will cause the “kissing” to discontinue. That person is not really a friend.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will get it right in marriage
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God will lead you to the right person.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Disconnect from every wrong relationship
Signs or symptoms make us pay attention to certain areas of our lives.
There are certain signs or symptoms that our marriage shows that make us know that it is time to pay attention to our marriage.
When you have a headache, it is a sign that you need to pay attention to your body. Something is wrong somewhere. It could be a result of body weakness or something.
Finding out what went wrong is a whole lot of effort on its own
After you find out what is wrong, you then take the right medicine to cure or get rid of the symptoms.
In the same way, our marriage shows certain signs that make us aware of the fact that our marriage needs help.
Here are some of those signs:
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1. Observation from friends and family.
When friends and family begin to ask questions and are worried about the way your marriage is going. When things are obviously wrong and it is visible to your friends. Then you need to retrace your steps and begin paying attention to your marriage.
2. When your children’s attitude begins to change.
There are several ways when things are not cordial between husband and wife, that affect the children.
They may become withdrawn, stubborn, sickly, prone to domestic accidents, lower performance in school. Once you begin to see these signs, then your marriage needs attention.
3. Physical abuse
If there is any kind of abuse in your marriage then that marriage needs attention. Either you visit a marriage counselor, read books, pray, listen to messages, or change your attitude or behavior.
When either of the spouses becomes violet or threatens in the marriage, then your marriage needs attention.
Note that in all these, it is not about who is right or wrong, it’s about quick intervention in the marriage, and proffering solutions to wherever the problem is.
4. Withdrawal
When either of the spouses is withdrawn and no longer enjoys the company of the other spouse, that marriage needs quick intervention. When the couples are nothing but mere bed mate or housemate
When silence becomes the order of the day and you find it difficult to share your thoughts, feelings etc. That marriage needs help. When the new normal is monosyllable questions followed by monosyllable answers, your marriage needs help.
I will stop here today and continue tomorrow by God’s grace.
Do you know what to give this season? The bible tells us that we are wonderfully and beautifully made by God. Can you imagine yourself as beautiful and wonderful? Do you see yourself as ordinary? Do you see yourself as someone with no talent or gift, with nothing to give or share with others?
I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.
Ps 139:14, KJV
God couldn’t have made you so beautiful and wonderful then leave you empty. No. You are a masterpiece from the Creator’s hands. Even the stones He created give praise to His name when you admire them. When you look at the rainbow in the sky and smile, you are praising God
Your Creator didn’t create you without something to give. No one should complain that they have nothing to give. You have something to give. It could be a thing or an action.
You have a lot to give, children. More than you can ever imagine. You could give out your clothes if you’ve outgrown them, your toys, shoes, or books. Do you know that your smile could be a gift to someone who is down and just needs someone to notice and smile at them?
Your time is also a gift you can give to teach a friend or classmate who is struggling to understand lessons at school.
Praying for others is another thing you can give. You can pray for your parents, guardians, friends, siblings, pastor, teachers, neighbours, classmates, and so on.
Helping your parents or guardians at home is another good way to use your time.
Whatever it is you plan to give to others, ensure you tell your parents or guardians.
Prayer: Heavenly Father, thank you for how you made me. I am glad that I have more than I give. Teach me new ways to give to others. Enable me to be a giver, to the glory of your name, amen.
Declaration: My children learn to give. They do not withhold more than necessary.
Do you know who you are in Christ? The bible tells us that we are wonderfully and beautifully made by God. Can you imagine yourself as beautiful and wonderful? Do you see yourself as ordinary? Do you see yourself as someone with no talent or gift, with nothing to give or share with others?
Ps 139:14, KJV I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.
God couldn’t have made you so beautiful and wonderful then leave you empty. No. You are a masterpiece from the Creator’s hands. Even the stones He created give praise to His name when you admire them. When you look at the rainbow in the sky and smile, you are praising God
Your Creator didn’t create you without something to give. No one should complain that they have nothing to give. You have something to give. It could be a thing or an action.
You have a lot to give, children. More than you can ever imagine. You could give out your clothes if you’ve outgrown them, your toys, shoes, or books. Do you know that your smile could be a gift to someone who is down and just needs someone to notice and smile at them?
Your time is also a gift you can give to teach a friend or classmate who is struggling to understand lessons at school.
Praying for others is another thing you can give. You can pray for your parents, guardians, friends, siblings, pastor, teachers, neighbours, classmates, and so on.
Helping your parents or guardians at home is another good way to use your time.
Whatever it is you plan to give to others, ensure you tell your parents or guardians.
Prayer: Heavenly Father, thank you for how you made me. I am glad that I have more than I give. Teach me new ways to give to others. Enable me to be a giver, to the glory of your name, amen.
Declaration: My children learn to give. They do not withhold more than necessary.
For singles, work on your anger. Anger can make men run away!
Guys are logical, so in each of your anger episodes, they are thinking about what will happen after wedding and they are making up their minds.
That could, on few occasions, be the reason why some guys just disappear after promising weeding! They got scared!
I am not asking you to pretend. I am asking you to work on it. Read books on anger management. Read scriptures that talks about anger. Some of them will humble you.
For example,
Don’t be quick to fly off the handle. Anger boomerangs. You can spot a fool by the lumps on his head.
Ecc 7:9 (MSG)
Does that lump appear on your heard when you are pissed? The Bible is saying that it is foolishness to be given to uncontrollable anger.
Anger can end relationships. Anger can scatter relationships. Anger can divide a God ordained relationship!
Let’s take a look at two angry brothers in the Bible.
Simeon and Levi are brethren; instruments of cruelty are in their habitations. [6] O my soul, come not thou into their secret; unto their assembly, mine honour, be not thou united: for in their anger they slew a man, and in their selfwill they digged down a wall. [7] Cursed be their anger, for it was fierce; and their wrath, for it was cruel: I will divide them in Jacob, and scatter them in Israel.
Gen 49:5-7 (KJV)
Anger leads to division and scattering.
The Message Translation is apt in verse 7
A curse on their uncontrolled anger, on their indiscriminate wrath. I’ll throw them out with the trash; I’ll shred and scatter them like confetti throughout Israel.
Gen 49:7 (MSG)
Your God ordained love affair not be shredded! Your courtship or marriage will not end in the trash! Your home will not be scattered like confetti!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not fall in love with an angry lover.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, deliver me from an angry lover
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Proverbs 22:24 Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go:
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Disconnect from every wrong relationship when
How To Get Fresh Wine For Your Marriage. Every once in a while, it is important to attend a place where other couples are sharing their experiences.
We all experience burn out and we often get tired of the whole daily routine of house chores, taking care of the children, wives tending the home and taking care of the husband, going to the market, husbands going to work daily looking for money to pay bills and so on.
All these routines day in day out leave us sometimes frustrated and just getting along.
However, the wine of marriage must be kept renewed from getting stale because of the imminent dangers.
There are marriage ministers and ministry set aside and instituted by God to help us. Marriage could be the greatest blessing and as well the greatest regret of one’s life, depending on how it is handled.
Marriage is highly spiritual and it takes spiritual principles to have a blissful marriage. For example, you cannot be selfish and expect your spouse to live joyfully with you. Because it is spiritual, we often need men of God to speak into our lives and marriage and break satanic strongholds off our marriages.
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Obviously, one of the aims of the devil is to destroy homes, families, and marriages, but thank God He came to give us life and to give it to us in abundance. This life is the very life of God that gives us the capacity to function in the class of God.
Such couples’ program is what we have put together to help your marriage experience the new life and new strength to carry on.
This year’s KHC Marriage Bootcamp is not to be missed. We will be discussing issues like communication, conflict Resolution, spicing your sex life, parenting, finances, health Talk, and lots more.
The venue is the Redemption Camp and it starts today.
Friday, 17th – From 4 pm
Saturday, 18th -All Day
Sunday, 19th – Departure by 5.00 am
Amongst many things, we will be looking at Communication, Conflict Resolution, Spicing Your Sex Life, Parenting, Finances, Health Talk, And lots more!
You don’t want to miss this wonderful opportunity. Plan and prepare to attend. Your marriage is worth all the sacrifice.
Remember, pour into your marriage and invest in it and you will enjoy the dividends thereof.
God bless your marriage!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I make plans to renew and refresh my marriage
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me understanding and wisdom in the affair of my marriage
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Heb 13:4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
ACTION READING FOR THE DAY Register for KHC Marriage Bootcamp
Today, we would be looking at how to believe the Word Of God. In some parts of the bible, we find places where the author writes “…saith the Lord.”
And thou shalt say unto Pharaoh, Thus saith the LORD, Israel is my son, even my firstborn:
Ex 4:22 KJV
At other places, God Himself speaks, saying “I will…”
Behold, I will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert.
Isa 43:19 KJV
These are words that tell us about the promises and power of God.
When you come across such phrases in the bible, what comes to your mind? Do you think these words are still applicable today? Is God still saying “I will?” Are the words written by those writers still in effect? Do they mean that God is still saying?
Everything written in the bible is still as powerful as they were in bible times. God is still saying the same thing. His promises are continuous. He hasn’t changed. Nothing about Him has and never will.
When next you come across such words, believe that God is still saying them to you and everyone. If it is a place where God made a promise, claim it for yourself and others. That is how to believe and enjoy His promises. He even tells us that He honours His words more than His name.
I will worship toward thy holy temple, and praise thy name for thy lovingkindness and for thy truth: for thou hast magnified thy word above all thy name.
Ps 138:2 KJV
He wants us to believe in Him and His words. We are greatly rewarded when we do so.
What a wonderful God we serve!
Prayer: Lord, thank you for your words are still the same. They are eternal and powerful. I claim every promise you made to me even before I was born. I am grateful in Jesus name, I pray, Amen.
Action plan: Try to find two instances each for where a writer records, “…says the Lord” and God saying “I will.” Read the full chapters and meditate on them.
Declaration: My children are studious. They read, study, and meditate on God’s word daily.
We will be looking at finding and keeping the love of your life.
1. Where to get a good wife
House and riches are the inheritance from fathers, but a wise, understanding, and prudent wife is from the Lord.
Pro 19:14 (AMP)
A good, wise, understanding and prudent wife can only come from one source and that is from the Lord, period.
It won ’t come from clubbing around. It won’t come from sampling ladies around. It will only come from the Lord.
It is simply logical then, that a deliberate, conscious relationship with God is a must to have a good family and make a good choice.
How else can you ask God for a prudent wife without having a relationship with Him?
In essence, you want a good spouse? Go after God first, since a prudent wife comes from Him.
If the Bible says there are prudent, wise women, then it means that there are wives that are foolish and not prudent. Trust me, you want a prudent wife!
Your choice of a life partner will either make you or mar you, a delight or a disaster. Your choice will make your home a haven or an oven.
What if you are already married and you feel your wife is not prudent? Of which you may be wrong! But let’s assume that is how you feel.
What you do is to go back to God and retrace your steps. He will tell you what to do, He will give you wisdom on how to go about it.
The solution to the imbroglio you are facing in your home and marriage now is with God. Take time to find that out before you take rash decisions.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY God will lead me to a prudent wife.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open the eyes of my understanding.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Proverbs 19:14 (KJV) House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the LORD.
We started on the topic “How Couples Can Keep Emotions in Check” Yesterday, we started on this anger issue. I told us anger can be used positively, like the case of Jabez, who changed his story when he got angry.
In the context of marriage, however, you can start handling your anger in a positive way by using these 2 methods.
1. Trace back the source of your anger.
Most people’s anger could be traced to something that happened way back in their past. A parent abandoned them, the death of a loved one, something negative that happened, and so on.
We are angry because of pain. Think back and get the source of what makes you angry. Don’t just ignore it, thinking it will pass away.
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2. Admit your anger
What you don’t admit, you cannot take responsibility over. It is until you admit and agree that you have anger problem that is hurting you and your loved ones, it holds its grip over you.
Become vulnerable, admit it as a sin, then and only then can you be free to handle these negative emotions.
Also know that we all express anger for different reasons and in different ways. Don’t judge your spouse. Focus on dealing with your own anger problems before trying to help your spouse.
God bless our marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be an angry spouse.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord help me recognize the source of my anger and deal with it.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Proverbs 22:24 Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go:
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Register for couples camp meeting
Do This First Everyday. When you wake up in the morning, what’s the first thing that comes to your mind? Or what do you do first? Do you reach first for your phone or the television’s remote? Or join your family for morning devotion?
God wants to be the first person you speak to and spend time with every morning. How do you do this? By praying immediately, you wake up. Begin with praises and thank Him for another day. Move on to committing your day to him. Thank Him for your family members, ask Him for protection and provision. Tell him anything that is on your mind.
My voice shalt thou hear in the morning, O LORD; in the morning will I direct my prayer unto thee, and will look up.
Psalms 5:3, KJV
Regularly doing this helps you develop closeness with God and He will bless you for it.
So, tomorrow morning, when you wake up, start to talk to God immediately. He is waiting to hear your voice.
Prayer: Dear Father, I want to start my day with you before anything else. Guide me as to how to pray to you when we meet at the place of prayer. Thank you.
Action plan: Prepare the night before for your morning time with God. Tell your parents or siblings about your new decision. Ask for their help to wake you up early. You can also set your alarm to the time you want to start praying.
Declaration: My children understand the place of communion. They spend their morning productively communicating with the Father.
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We started on this yesterday!
4. Blame Shift
You are constantly blamed for their woes, problems, difficulties, lack, failure and unhappiness.
You are told that you are the reason for any misfortune in their lives.
You are constantly reminded that everything with them was okay until you came into their lives.
5. Withdrawal
They are adept in withdrawing into their shells in order to punish you and demand your attention. They disengage and use neglect, abandonment, and measured withdrawals to punish, frighten and intimidate you.
6. You are always in the wrong
They make you feel that they are always right, and you are wrong. They would arrange facts and sentiments to prove that to you over and over again until you start thinking there is a curse on you, or that some people are fighting you spiritually from your village.
7. Control over you finances
They try to control your finances and how you spend money. Your credit card is permanently with them.
They tell you what to buy and what not to buy. You are told that you are a careless spender and and you cannot mange money well.
They end up emptying your account from month to month and keep threatening you that they will leave you and you will not be able to survive.
You know what?
God has made you free from such manipulative relationships!
Our soul is escaped as a bird out of the snare of the fowlers: the snare is broken, and we are escaped.
Psa 124:7 (KJV)
The snare of the soul has been broken by the Lord Jesus Christ. Do not subject yourself under any weak and beggarly element again! You have been made free!
I pray for all who might be in an emotionally draining and abusive alliance. I break the power of such deceptions and manipulations in Jesus name and I proclaim you free in Jesus name!
Whosoever the son of man has made free is free indeed! You are free from today in Jesus name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY The eyes of my understanding are opened to see these signs.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open the eyes of my understanding.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Proverbs 22:24 Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go:
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Disconnect from every wrong relationship when
We all have emotions and there’s nothing wrong with having them. What could be wrong is not handling them well.
Whatever God has given us, whether money, relationships, jobs, career, gifts, talents etc, we need to take responsibility over them. Maturity is learning to handle them well, so that they are used to our advantage and not to our disadvantage.
For Example, God gave us all mouths, but do you know that some people have destroyed their marriages by the wrong use of their mouth?
Anger could be used in a positive way if we understand its great potentials. Anger is what makes us desire for things and ourselves to get better. When we get angry over the status quo we find change.
When we get angry at how we are treated by life, we seek something better, a better life for us and our families.
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In 1 Chron 4:9-10 it was because Jabez was angry at why a name meaning sorrow was imposed upon him that he could pray and have a change of name and destiny.
If we didn’t have the ability to get angry, we will remain as we are. Anger shows there is a problem to be dealt with. Even God get angry.
The evil of unmanaged anger like any other unmanaged emotions far outweighs the benefits.
In marriage, we must keep our emotions managed. Some couple react to situations in an explosive way while others react angrily in a quiet way. Whether it is an explosive anger or a silent anger both are destructive.
The silent anger is dangerous because it works like hot magma. It silently gathers strength and then in a moment without warning it explodes causing a lot of havoc.
Tomorrow, I will show you practical ways to handle anger in marriage.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be an angry spouse.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord help me recognize the source of my anger and deal with it.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY I have to deal with any source of angry but it destroys me
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Before the arrival of Jesus, God spoke to His people through the prophets, so you can start studying the Bible by learning from the prophets.
Heb 1:1 (KJV) God, who at sundry times and in divers manners spake in time past unto the fathers by the prophets,
The prophets received the offerings that the people brought to the temple as sacrifices to God.
They prepared it in accordance to God’s instructions.
Prophets were also sent to deliver messages to someone or a nation.
Jonah was a prophet sent to Nineveh to warn them about their ways.
Elijah was a great prophet, filled with the power of God. He refused to bow to idols worshipped by king Ahab, Jezebel and the false.
Prophets also prayed for sick people and they got healed.
Back in biblical days, prophets were full of God’s raw power, that’s why what they say will happen, will happen. Their words were held in high esteem. So you will grow by learning from the prophets.
There are also stories of good and bad prophets.
Through studying these great men of God (i.e. learning from the prophets), you will learn how and why God chose them.
As you study today, God will bless you with more revelation. Amen.
Prayer: Thank you Lord for the mighty prophets in the bible.
Action Plan: Choose a prophet today and study about him or her.
Declaration: As I study these prophets, I get insights. I am learning from the prophets.
Emotional abuse is a weapon normally used to control and bring dominance upon the other person. This is often because the abuser has past childhood wounds and insecurities that are still fresh, mostly because they were abused themselves.
Do not cope with an emotionally abusive relationship. At the end of the day, it is never worth it.
Emotionally abusive relationships end up damaging your self-esteem and dignity. It often involves a consistent pattern of verbal attacks, threats, bullying, and unending criticism, using tools like manipulation, intimidation, and shaming.
In an emotionally abusive relationship, a form of deception is involved. This is because the victim usually would not see the experience as abusive. Coping mechanisms of denial are developed in order to subdue the attack.
However, the effects of long-term emotional abuse will cause emotional trauma and upheaval resulting in several dysfunctions and complications.
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Emotional abuse can be debilitating and traumatic. God wants you free from emotionally abusive relationships.
Look at the scriptures:
Our soul is escaped as a bird out of the snare of the fowlers: the snare is broken, and we are escaped.
Psa 124:7 (KJV)
Now, let’s identify some sure signs that you may be in an emotionally abusive relationship.
1. Your Individuality is in question You are viewed as an extension of themselves rather than as an individual. Your opinions are disrespected and you are constantly reminded that without them, you are nothing. Your suggestions and ideas are trampled. When you find yourself in such, it is time to walk away.
2. Unending Chastisement You are corrected or chastised for your behaviors, almost all the time and publicly too. There is nothing you do that is right. Every word you speak is an error.
3. False Accusation You are dubbed “over-sensitive” in order that you can continue coping with the unending abuse and manipulations. You are constantly told to “grow up!”
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY The eyes of my understanding are opened to see these signs.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open the eyes of my understanding.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 6:5 (KJV) Deliver thyself as a roe from the hand of the hunter, and as a bird from the hand of the fowler.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Disconnect from every wrong relationship when you see these signs.
The ultimate goal of every marriage is for both the husband and the wife to grow increasingly in love and intimate with each other.
When you look at your marriage, can you say of the truth that you and your spouse are growing in love?
You may start out not being so close with each other in terms of understanding each other, but as the years roll by, you should be growing in intimacy.
However, it takes some couples longer years to grow to that level of intimacy. Some couples are like cat and mouse. They have not been able to work out their differences.
It is like a rat race, the husband always wants the wife to be exactly like him and vice versa. They always want to fashion their wife into what they want or what they feel she should be like. The same thing with the wife, always trying to make her husband into her image of what a husband should be.
God has not called us to the ministry of changing our spouses. It is a futile ministry, a ministry that will never prosper. If anything, you will end up having a spouse who is a clone of himself or herself.
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Allow your spouse to grow at his/her pace. Don’t try to change your spouse. Your spouse is not essentially your primary responsibility in terms of monitoring him /her. Do more prayer and intercession for your spouse and allow God to get through to him/her.
Don’t let us be too hasty in judging our spouse. Let’s learn to rather commend them to God and to the word of his grace which is able to build up and give them an inheritance among them that are sanctified, as instructed in Acts 20:32
Here are some characters to watch out for that can hinder intimacy in marriage
1. Immaturity Learn to handle things in your marriage maturely. Learn to separate issues from your spouses’ personality.
2. Being temperamental When you are too strong on your personality or being a difficult person.
3. Being too emotional
4. Not forgiving easily
5. Not respecting your spouse as an individual and God’s child.
6. Not being easy to talk with
7. Lack of understanding If you don’t understand that you and your spouse are different and that you see things from different standpoints, intimacy is going to be difficult
All these and much more are things that can prevent any marriage from experiencing the intimacy they so much desire.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to be intimate with my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, teach me how to love my spouse with all my heart
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Gen 2:24[NKJV] Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Register for KHC Couples camp meeting
Children can cry for mercy. Mercy is a vital force to be reckoned with. No one can do without mercy. It is something we should pray for, long for, hope for, and expect all the days of our lives.
One way our children can obtain mercy is through prayers. That is why we must teach them the art of prayers. Nobody is too small to pray.
Taking a cue from the great psalmist, when he messed up with Bathsheba, one way he was quickly restored was when he cried for mercy.
HAVE MERCY upon me, O God, according to Your steadfast love; according to the multitude of Your tender mercy and loving-kindness blot out my transgressions.
Ps 51:1 {AMP}
Also looking at the story of blind Bartimaeus, the son of Timaeus, he received his sight when he cried for mercy.
so he began shouting, “Jesus, Son of David, have mercy on me!”
Luke 18:38 [TLB]
Parents, we should always pray that the mercies of God will continually preserve our children wherever they go.
Withhold not Your tender mercy from me, O Lord; let Your loving-kindness and Your truth continually preserve me!
Psalm 40:11 AMP
They should also be taught that our God is a loving and merciful God. They should always pray for God’s mercy over their lives, academics, and everywhere they go.
Wherever or whatever situation you find yourself, cry out for God’s mercy and He will surely answer you.
Prayer for children: Lord, let your mercies continually rest upon my children, in Jesus Name. Amen
Prayer for parents: Lord, let your mercy speak for us and our children, in Jesus Name.
Action Plan: Parents, let’s ensure we pray, confess, and teach our children God’s words always.
Declaration: My children are continually preserved by God’s mercies.
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1. Words like arrows
A sign of emotional manipulation is when you are called names, given unpleasant labels, derogatory nicknames, and the use of biting cutting remarks. Words are powerful and you are what you hear every day.
A guy goes to Medical school and listens to medical classes for seven years and then becomes a Medical Doctor. The same thing with a lawyer. Invariably, you are what you are hearing.
You should therefore not allow anybody to constantly pull you down and trample on your esteem all in the name of love. Love will not constantly put you down! Love will not crush your esteem day after day.
If one or more of these signs are prevalent in your relationship, you may need to pause and review it.
Listen to me, marriage does not change abusers. It is better to remain single and wait for the right person than to rush into a marriage with an abuser because of the pressures around you.
When the abuse takes a toll, all the people putting pressure will not be seen around you. The last day you would see most of them is on your wedding day to eat your food!
As my wife would always say, you will live with your choice!
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2. The Use of Personal information
Abusers can often resort to using your personal information and secrets against you and to control you.
This is why you have to beware of people who are always asking for your nude pictures. Why would a person who claims to be a child of God be asking for your nude pictures? There is something perverse about that. Is it to masturbate or what? Or to sell the pictures?
Young ladies, don’t ever send you nude pictures to anyone in the name of love. He would eventually use your pictures to manipulate and control you, and when you call his bluff, you would find your nude pictures all over the internet.
Several young girls have committed suicide when they couldn’t bear the shame of having their nude pictures and videos all over the internet. So, don’t ever make that mistake.
Your soul has escaped like a bird out of the snare of the flower! Fly away from all demonic and manipulative relationships.
Deliver thyself as a roe from the hand of the hunter, and as a bird from the hand of the fowler.
Pro 6:5 (KJV)
Cut off that relationship where you are being oppressed. Let the wrong person go so that the right person can show up!
I pray that God will grant you more understanding!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY The eyes of my understanding are opened to see these signs.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open the eyes of my understanding.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 6:5 (KJV) Deliver thyself as a roe from the hand of the hunter, and as a bird from the hand of the fowler.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Disconnect from every wrong relationship when you see these signs.
