There are a few things that add spice into your marriage. Apart from praying and doing all the spiritual aspects, the things you do physically matters too.
We need to remind ourselves of some of these things. They are so simple; in fact, some of us vowed to do these things while single, but life happens to us, and then we get overcome by events.
There is no way you can start doing these things and stay committed to doing them that your marriage will not be better and grow intimately.
Let’s take a look at some of those things.
1. Take time to touch daily
a. Hugs – aim at 3-4 hugs per day for atleast 20sec
b. Hold hands for at least 10 mins per day
c. Cuddles – at least 30 mins everyday
d. Massage – at least 10-15 min per day
e. Intimate touch – kissing, caressing & lovemaking.
Physical touch reduces stress and anxiety. Oxytocin release hormones of bonding. It promotes feelings of attachment, closeness & bonding
2. Find something to laugh about daily
a. Schedule laughing time – Set aside time to see a movie
b. Find the humor, laugh at yourself
c. Be playful – playful activities & games that bring laughter & joy in your relationship
d. Share funny stories: funny stories about your past.
These tips are simple yet practical and profound.
God bless our marriages in Jesus’ mighty name, amen.
Love is a beautiful thing. It teaches patience, sacrifice, and the art of meeting in the middle. Any healthy relationship requires compromise here and there because two people will never agree on everything all the time. Sometimes, you have to choose peace over being right. You make adjustments, small sacrifices, and little shifts to create harmony, and that’s actually a good thing.
But here’s where it gets dangerous. You see, compromise is healthy until it starts making you lose YOU..
“Love your neighbor as yourself.” — Mark 12:31
You’ve probably been there, saying “yes” when your heart was screaming “no.”Compromising your standards because you were scared of being alone. Pouring into someone who only left you drained and empty. Changing who you are just to be “enough” for them.
The thing is, it happens so slowly that you don’t even notice at first. You adjust your schedule, your preferences, and your way of expressing yourself, all in the name of love. You tell yourself it’s normal, that this is just what relationships require. And to some extent, that’s true. But compromise should never feel like erasure.
It should never mean suppressing your voice, constantly dismissing your own needs, or walking on eggshells to keep someone else happy or just to fit into someone else’s idea of who you should be.
What does the Scriptures say?
The Bible teaches us that love is selfless but not self-destructive.
Ephesians 5:25 “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”
Notice that Christ loved sacrificially, but He never lost His identity in the process. His love uplifted, purified, and made the Church better and bigger, not smaller.
Mark 12:31 says, “Love your neighbor as yourself.”
This verse is often quoted, but notice the balance: You are to love others as yourself, not instead of yourself.
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Proverbs 4:23
Guarding your heart doesn’t mean closing yourself off, but it does mean setting healthy boundaries. If a relationship is draining your spirit and pulling you away from who God made you to be, it’s time to evaluate if it is truly love or control.
Here are some of the signs you are losing yourself in love:
You constantly suppress your own feelings to keep the peace.
You adjust your personality to fit what your partner wants.
You feel exhausted, as if you’re always giving but rarely receiving.
Your dreams and goals have taken a backseat to the relationship.
You stay even when you’re no longer happy, out of fear of being alone.
Conclusion:
Love should never cost you your peace, joy, or identity. If a relationship is slowly stripping you of who you are, then it is not love; it’s bondage, and you need to get out of it quickly.
God’s kind of love always builds you up, it never tears you down. If you have to lose yourself to keep someone, then maybe they were never meant to stay.
Love isn’t just about sweet words or fleeting gestures—it’s about consistent actions that demonstrate true commitment. The Bible reminds us in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, “Love is patient, love is kind… it always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” These verses highlight the essence of what it means to be truly committed in a relationship.
Here are 10 signs that reveal if he’s genuinely committed to you.
1. He Chooses You Daily :
A man who is truly committed doesn’t take your presence for granted. He actively chooses you every day, even when life gets tough. This daily decision reflects his unwavering commitment.
Deuteronomy 7:9 “Know therefore that the Lord your God is God; he is the faithful God, keeping his covenant of love to a thousand generations of those who love him and keep his commandments.”
True commitment mirrors God’s faithfulness.
2. He Speaks Respectfully About You :
A partner who is truly committed honors you in public and private. He speaks highly of you, showing pride in your character and your relationship. Ephesians 5:33 reminds husbands, “Each one of you must love his wife as he loves himself,” which includes treating her with dignity and respect.
3. He Invests Time in You :
When someone is truly committed, they make time for what matters most. If he prioritizes quality moments with you, it’s a clear sign of his dedication. Psalm 37:5 encourages us to “Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him, and he will act.” Commitment requires intentional effort and trust.
4. He Works Through Conflicts Maturely :
A truly committed man doesn’t run from challenges. Instead, he faces conflicts head-on, seeking resolution because he values the relationship. Matthew 5:23-24 teaches us to reconcile quickly when there’s conflict, showing how important it is to preserve unity.
5. He Supports Your Growth :
Whether it’s personal, professional, or spiritual, a man who is truly committed encourages you to grow. He sees your potential and stands by you as you pursue it. Proverbs 27:17 reminds us, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” A committed partner helps you become the best version of yourself.
6. He Plans a Future Together :
Words like “we” and “us” become natural for someone who is truly committed. If he talks about building a future with you, it’s proof of his long-term commitment. Jeremiah 29:11 assures us, “For I know the plans I have for you… plans to give you hope and a future.” A committed man aligns his plans with yours.
7. He Protects Your Heart :
A truly committed partner shields your emotions. He avoids saying or doing things that hurt you intentionally, showing his care and devotion. 1 Peter 4:8 says, “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” Love protects and nurtures.
8. He Sacrifices for You :
Commitment often involves sacrifice. If he willingly puts your needs ahead of his own, it’s a powerful sign of how truly committed he is to your happiness. John 15:13 declares, “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” Sacrifice is the ultimate expression of love.
9. He Stands by You in Tough Times :
Life’s challenges reveal true colors. A man who remains steadfast during hardships shows he’s truly committed to sticking by your side no matter what. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 reminds us, “Two are better than one… for if they fall, one will lift up their fellow.”
10. He Shows Consistency :
Love may have ups and downs, but a truly committed man demonstrates consistency. His actions align with his words, day after day, proving his loyalty. Hebrews 10:23 encourages believers to “Hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful.” Consistency reflects faithfulness.
Passion is often described as a strong feeling of excitement, love, or dedication toward something. It can be a deep interest in an activity, a cause, or even a person. Passion fuels motivation, keeps people pushing forward, and inspires hard work.
But is passion alone enough to live a truly fulfilling life?
Many people excel in their fields, achieve great success, and gain recognition. Yet, deep inside, something still feels missing. The joy isn’t there, and neither is the fulfillment they once expected. Why? Because passion without purpose is like running a race without a destination.
God never created man just to exist; He designed each person with a divine purpose.
“For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them” (Ephesians 2:10).
Your purpose is the reason behind your existence. The very plan God had in mind when He formed you.
This is why discovering your purpose must begin with seeking God.
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart” (Jeremiah 1:5).
Just as no one understands a product better than its manufacturer, no one knows your purpose better than your Creator.
Beyond personal ambition, our lives should reflect God’s image and serve His kingdom.
So, dear friend, beyond chasing passion, seek God’s purpose for your life. Life finds true meaning, and fulfillment follows when passion meets purpose. Proverbs 16:3 says, “Commit your works to the Lord, and your thoughts will be established.”
At the end of the day, you will be in a place of balance. Seek passion, but never neglect purpose.
Some time ago, I went to pick up my son from his school. As busy as the road was, I had no issue crossing it since I was alone. On my way back, with my son, I was more careful about crossing the same road. I stood there for a very long time, waiting for the road to be entirely clear before crossing.
I remember I saw others crossing with the speed of light while I stood there, calculating my next move.
People were watching me, wondering why I was finding it difficult to cross. I heard someone say,’ this man cannot live in Lagos State.’
Eventually, when the road was clear, I crossed.
On my way to his school, I crossed the road without thinking twice. On my way back, I had a tough time crossing the road – the same road, the same me…lol.
What happened? I was more conscious the second time because I was carrying something. I was carrying someone. I was carrying my son.
That consciousness altered the way I thought, acted, and even spoke. I didn’t mind the insults rained at me. I didn’t mind the time wasted. I couldn’t afford to miscalculate because it wasn’t just me this time.
How conscious are you of the one you are carrying? It is not enough to say it. You must act it and live in that consciousness. That consciousness won’t allow you to slide your hands into a lady’s blouse. That consciousness won’t allow you to send your nude pictures to him. That consciousness won’t allow you to alter that document. That consciousness won’t allow you to take advantage of the one you are meant to protect.
Perhaps I should remind you of who you’re carrying.
II Corinthians 6:16 [NKJV] And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will dwell in them And walk among them. I will be their God, And they shall be My people.”
God dwells in you. You carry God inside. Let that consciousness guide you throughout today.
In the vastness of life’s challenges, it can be easy to feel small and insignificant. The storms of uncertainty, pain, or fear may rage around us, threatening to overwhelm our faith. But in those moments, we must remember this profound truth: God stands on His throne—for you.
The Bible reminds us repeatedly of God’s sovereignty. Psalm 47:8 declares, “God reigns over the nations; God is seated on his holy throne.” This image of God seated on His throne isn’t just about authority—it’s about presence. It tells us that no matter how chaotic life becomes, God remains steadfast, watching over His creation with unwavering love and purpose. And when He rises from His throne? That’s when miracles happen.
Consider the story of Joshua at Jericho (Joshua 6). As the Israelites faced an impenetrable city wall, God gave them specific instructions: march around the walls for six days, then on the seventh day, shout as the priests blow their trumpets. When they obeyed, something extraordinary happened—the walls came tumbling down. Why? Because God acted on behalf of His people. At that moment, it was as if He stepped forward from His throne, saying, “I see your obedience, I hear your cries, and I will fight for you.”
God does the same for us today. When we face obstacles too big for us to overcome alone—whether it’s financial hardship, broken relationships, health struggles, or spiritual battles—we can trust that God sees us. He hears our prayers, and He is not idle. Just as He stood for Joshua and the Israelites, He will stand for you.
But here’s the key: we must position ourselves to receive His intervention. Like Joshua, we are called to act in faith, even when the way seems impossible. Faith doesn’t mean having all the answers; it means trusting that God is who He says He is—a loving Father who fights for His children. When we surrender our fears and step out in obedience, we make room for God to move powerfully in our lives.
So, take heart. No matter what you’re facing, God has not abandoned you. He stands on His throne, ready to rise up and work on your behalf. Trust Him. Follow His lead. And watch as He turns your impossibilities into testimonies of His grace and glory.
In every storm, declare this promise: “The Lord Almighty is with us; the God of Jacob is our fortress” (Psalm 46:7). For when God stands on His throne for you, nothing can stand against you.
Today’s devotional is not only targeted at educating men but also at helping women know what types of men to avoid.
There are three kinds of men.
1. The Hunters
2. The Predators
3. The farmers
Married couples can also greatly benefit from this article because they can work towards being a better version of themselves.
For the singles, it becomes a guiding light to recognize and be able to know guys who are wolves in sheep’s clothing and to be able to avoid them.
Let’s dive into it.
1. The Hunters:
These are guys who recognize the good virtues in ladies, they have high taste and only desire the best of the ladies. They are very strategic and skillful. They usually don’t give up until they get their target.
It will interest you to know that this is the nature of all men whether single or married.
Married women should be careful of such married men who go about chasing married women. Please honor your marriage vows, and give them no attention.
These men are very skillful, looking for ways to warm their ways into undiscerning women’s hearts. They want to eventually use such women for their own selfish interests or gains. To satisfy their rush of adrenaline or for financial benefits. They are in the habit of leading ladies on, only to eventually marry someone else or marry them to brag about their conquest.
2. The Predators
These guys prey on their targets, which are usually weak ladies. These ladies may be financially strong but emotionally weak or vulnerable.
They are also very skillful and strategic in their approach. They are the sweet or sugar-coated talkers.
They have no interest in helping the weak but have an interest in preying on them. They usually leave their victims worse off. Their relationship most often ends in tears. Such guys move on to other ladies after they feel they have succeeded in milking their victims.
Ladies, whether married or Singles must stay clear of such guys. To avoid stories that touch the heart.
3. The farmers
These are the nurturers. They nurture the ladies they come in contact with. Their focus is to bring out the best in them. They are usually helpers with no ulterior motives. They are patient until they have nurtured the lady to a remarkable stage.
These guys never leave any lady the same way they meet them. The ladies are better, stronger, more emotionally stronger, richer, more spiritually mature, more knowledgeable, wise,r and better in every aspect of their lives.
Every woman or lady needs a ‘farmer’ in their life, one who will nurture God’s gifts in them. God desires every man to be a ‘farmer’ to His daughters. Jesus brought healing to every woman he had contact with and left them better than he met them.
Every man must pray to possess the qualities of a ‘Farmer’.
Imagine you’re at a dinner table, having a deep and meaningful conversation with someone you love. The atmosphere is just right, the emotions are real, and everything feels perfect. But have you ever stopped to ask, Is God even invited to this table?
A lot of people trust God with their careers, finances, health, provision, etc but when it comes to relationships, they like to take matters into their own hands. They pray, “Lord, bless this relationship,” but deep down, they already know they didn’t ask Him before getting into it.
The first relationship in the Bible didn’t start with two people finding each other rather it started with one person walking with God. Before Adam ever met Eve, he had a personal relationship with God (Genesis 2:18-22). That means before you start thinking about who to date or marry, the real question is: Where does God stand in your life?
Not every relationship that feels right is from God. Samson thought Delilah was everything he wanted, but in the end, that love story cost him his strength, his vision, and his purpose (Judges 16). If emotions are leading you instead of God, you might be walking into something that looks good but is quietly pulling you away from Him.
Here’s a reality check: If you have to constantly justify red flags, hide certain things from people who care about you, or feel spiritually drained, that’s not God’s best for you. Relationships built on compromise never stand the test of time.
Ask yourself these questions: Did I really invite God into this relationship, or did I just hope He would go along with my choice? Is this relationship helping me grow in my faith, or is it quietly pulling me away? If I had to stand before God today, would I feel good about how I’ve handled this relationship? Your honest answers will tell you a lot. If you’re drifting further from God instead of getting closer to Him, maybe it’s time to pause, reevaluate, and let Him take the lead.
“Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with that person, and they with me.” — Revelation 3:20 (NIV)
At the end of the day, marriage is too important to get wrong. A relationship without God is like driving without direction, you might feel like you’re moving forward, but you have no idea where you’ll end up. Before you let someone sit at the table of your heart, make sure God is the One who set the table in the first place. If He’s not in it then it’s not worth it.
I hate to be the “killjoy” right now, but I’m just helping you. Listen. Sometimes, what we call “love” isn’t really love. It’s just a craving for attention that is being met. You’re screaming “You’re in love with so, so, and so” but it may just be you enjoying the calls, the sweet messages, and the compliments. The attention creates a mirage that makes you believe you’re in love. But my question to you is: if the attention disappears, would the love still remain? Is the love hanging on any other thing aside from the attention?
My dear singles, it’s easy to mistake affection for true connection. Someone gives you attention, and suddenly, you feel special and in love. (And the bad guys know this; so if they want to get you, they give you attention.)
But be careful, my dear—are you really in love with the person or just the way they make you feel? Attention is temporary; true love is built on character, shared values, and commitment. If you strip away the sweet words, is something real between you two? Do your values align? Do you like his/her character? Are they godly? Today, I dare you to strip off the feelings and sweet words, and see if you will find something deeper in that relationship. This is one way to know if you truly love this person or if you are just falling because of the attention you’re receiving.
And for my married couples, attention from outside your marriage can be dangerous. Very very dangerous! Extremely dangerous! A simple compliment from someone else might feel exciting, especially if things at home feel a bit dry. But don’t allow a simple moment of attention to make you forget the love and home you’ve already built. Remember your covenant. A stranger’s admiration is never worth the destruction of a covenant. Oh, I hear you say there’s nothing physical between you two. Well, it’s called an emotional affair. Even Jesus warned that you don’t need to get physical to get physical—once your emotions are entangled and lust is birthed, you’re already in it.
It’s time to flee! Instead of seeking attention elsewhere, invest that energy into your spouse—flirt with them, appreciate them, and rekindle the excitement within your own marriage.
This is a call for us all to guard our hearts, just as the bible instructs:
“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.” Proverbs 4:23
Not every form of attention is good for you. Don’t ever mistake temporary excitement for lasting love.
Singles, don’t marry just because of attention. Couples, don’t dishonor your marital covenant simply because of attention. Real love isn’t about who makes you feel special for a moment—it’s about who stays and chooses you, every single day. Look inward and work out your marriage with fear and trembling.
Breaking someone’s heart is a serious matter, especially when it involves someone who has trusted you with their deepest emotions. Here are five biblical and heartfelt reasons you should never break her heart:
1. Her Heart Is a Sacred Trust
When someone gives you their heart, they are entrusting you with something incredibly precious. The Bible teaches us to steward what God has placed in our care (1 Peter 4:10). A person’s heart carries their dreams, vulnerabilities, and trust. To break her heart is to misuse that trust and disregard the sacredness of what she has shared with you. Treat her heart as a gift from God, deserving of honor and protection.
2. It Grieves the Holy Spirit
The Holy Spirit dwells within every believer, guiding us to live lives of love, kindness, and integrity (Ephesians 4:30). When you break her heart—whether through betrayal, dishonesty, or neglect—you grieve the Spirit by acting contrary to His nature. God calls us to build others up, not tear them down (1 Thessalonians 5:11). Breaking her heart harms not only her but also your relationship with God.
3. It Causes Lasting Pain
A broken heart leaves scars that can take years to heal—if they ever fully do. Proverbs 18:14 says, “A broken spirit who can bear?” Emotional wounds run deep and can affect every area of her life, including her faith, relationships, and self-worth. By choosing to hurt her, you introduce pain into her life that may ripple outward, affecting those around her. Love seeks to heal, not harm.
4. You Are Called to Reflect God’s Love
As followers of Christ, we are called to love others as He loves us—with patience, kindness, and selflessness (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). Breaking her heart contradicts this divine mandate. God’s love is steadfast and unconditional; ours should mirror that. When you fail to cherish her heart, you fall short of reflecting His character and purpose for your life.
5. Your Actions Reveal Your Character
How you treat others speaks volumes about who you are. Jesus said, “By their fruit you will recognize them” (Matthew 7:16). If your actions leave a trail of brokenness, it reflects poorly on your faith and integrity. Guarding her heart demonstrates maturity, compassion, and a commitment to living out biblical values. It shows that you value people not just for what they offer but because they are made in God’s image (Genesis 1:27).
In conclusion, breaking her heart is not just an emotional issue—it’s a spiritual one. Let your love reflect God’s unchanging truth: steadfast, sacrificial, and full of grace.
There is a level God desires His children to reach, which is a depth of understanding of the things of the Spirit. Growth is not optional; it is essential for where God is taking us.
Meanwhile, no one truly knows the strength within until they step out in faith. In Matthew 25:14-30, we read the parable of the master who entrusted his servants with different talents before going on a journey. He gave five, two, and one talent respectively, and according to their capacity.
The first two servants invested and multiplied what was given to them, while the third buried his talent out of fear. When the master returned, he was pleased with those who had expanded their capacity and entrusted them with even more. But the servant who did nothing lost the one that he had.
God gives according to our ability, but He expects growth. Spiritual capacity is not just for today; it is required for where God is leading us.
As believers, we are called to grow beyond spiritual infancy. 1 Peter 2:2 told us to desire the sincere milk of the Word so we may grow. However, we cannot stay on milk forever.
Hebrews 5:14 states that strong meat belongs to those who are mature, those who, through practice, have trained their senses to discern between good and evil.
The more capacity we build, the more responsibilities God can entrust to us. And the more responsibilities we carry, the greater the supply of power we receive (Luke 12:48).
Building spiritual capacity requires intentionality. It’s means stretching beyond our comfort zones and making room for more of God in our lives. Therefore, we must engage consistently with God’s Word, prayer, fasting, and obedience to divine instructions.
I urge us to increase our spiritual capacity today, positioning ourselves for greater assignments, deeper revelations, and a life of impact in God’s kingdom.
It’s easy to get caught up in seeking validation. Whether it’s through relationships, social media, career success, or the approval of family and friends, we often feel like we need someone else to confirm our worth. I am here to tell you that you are enough!
When you start seeking validation from people, you unknowingly give them control over your self-worth. Their compliments make you feel high, but their silence makes you question yourself. It’s like chasing the wind. No matter how hard you try, you’ll never catch it. And let’s be real: people are fickle. One day they’re cheering for you, and the next, they forget you exist. If Jesus the Son of God was praised by the crowd one week and crucified the next, what makes us think people’s opinions about us will stay consistent? This is why your worth must come from God alone.
“Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.” — Galatians 1:10 (NIV)
As a single, this pressure can feel even stronger. Society tells you that love from another person is what makes you complete. You hear comments like, “When will you settle down?” or “Don’t you want someone to share life with?” And before you know it, you start questioning if you’re missing out or if something is wrong with you.
But here’s the truth: You don’t need anyone else’s approval to be enough, you already have God’s. Your value was never meant to be placed in people’s hands.
Jesus Himself was single, yet He lived the fullest, most purpose-driven life possible. He never chased human validation. Instead, He was secure in the love of the Father. And because of Christ, you are already fully known, fully loved, and fully accepted.
The world tells you that your worth is based on how many people admire you, but God says:
“I have loved you with an everlasting love.” (Jeremiah 31:3)
“You are fearfully and wonderfully made.” (Psalm 139:14)
“The Lord delights in you.” (Isaiah 62:4)
If God, the Creator of the universe, delights in you, why waste time seeking approval from people who constantly change their opinions?
Your singleness is not a sign of lack, rather it’s a season of purpose. Instead of searching for validation, rest in the truth that God has already called you His. Live in that confidence. Walk in that security and know that you are already enough, just as you are.
You are not waiting to be loved, you are already loved beyond measure. Live in that truth today.
This morning, I want to write to those experiencing one form of delay or the other, especially in marriage.
I’m sure you know the feeling. When it seems as though all your friends are married and doing fine but you are still single, or you are married and are trusting God for the fruit of the womb.
You’ve sent out numerous applications, yet you keep receiving rejection emails.
You’ve prayed, fasted, and done everything you think you should do, but the status quo remains the same. All you are asking for is just one miracle.
Let me announce to you that you are not alone. The children of Israel faced a similar situation years ago.
Ex 32:1 And when the people saw that Moses delayed to come down out of the mount, the people gathered themselves together unto Aaron, and said unto him, Up, make us gods, which shall go before us; for as for this Moses, the man that brought us up out of the land of Egypt, we wot not what is become of him.
When Moses delayed, the Israelites sought another option. It was as though God had been silent all along until they made the golden calf. It was immediately after the five foolish virgins left that the bridegroom appeared.
What is my message this morning? Hold on just a bit more. Your Miracle is closer than you think.
Don’t be a second fiddle out of frustration. God’s plan for you is that you be the head, above always and never beneath.
Trust God completely and you will smile at last, amen.
Five Qualities a Husband Cannot Resist from His Wife
Marriage is one of God’s most beautiful designs, meant to reflect the love and unity between Christ and His Church (Ephesians 5:25-33). While every relationship has its unique dynamics, there are certain qualities a husband cannot resist from his wife that can strengthen their bond and glorify God. These qualities aren’t about striving for perfection but about cultivating godly character that honors both your spouse and the Lord.
1. Respectful Communication: One of the top qualities a husband cannot resist from his wife is respectful communication. Proverbs 18:21 reminds us, “The tongue has the power of life and death.” Speaking with kindness, patience, and respect—even during disagreements—creates an atmosphere of trust and understanding. Men feel deeply valued when they are respected, and the Scripture encourages wives to honor their husbands as leaders (1 Peter 3:7).
2. Gentle Spirit: Another quality a husband cannot resist in his wife is a gentle spirit. The Bible says, “A gentle answer turns away wrath” (Proverbs 15:1). A calm and peaceful demeanor fosters harmony in the home, even amid challenges. 1 Peter 3:4 highlights this inner beauty, describing it as “of great worth in God’s sight.”
3. Faithfulness to God: A wife who prioritizes her relationship with Christ inspires her husband in ways nothing else can. Faithfulness to God is a quality a husband cannot resist from his wife because it strengthens the spiritual foundation of their marriage. Joshua 24:15 calls families to serve the Lord wholeheartedly, and a godly wife leads by example.
4. Supportive Partnership: Husbands long for partners who believe in them and support their God-given vision. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 illustrates the power of two working together: “If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.” This supportive partnership is another irresistible quality a husband finds in his wife.
5. Joyful Presence: Finally, a joyful presence is a quality a husband cannot resist from his wife. Proverbs 31:25 describes a virtuous woman whose “joy is her strength.” Her laughter and positivity make her husband feel loved and cherished.
These qualities aren’t about perfection but about pursuing Christlike character. As wives grow in these areas, they not only bless their husbands but also glorify God.
I pray for you: your marriage will reflect the unbreakable bond between Christ and His Bride—the Church.
Beauty and the Beast is a timeless fairy tale that explores themes of love, transformation, and inner beauty. The story follows a young woman named Beauty, who sacrifices her freedom to live in a mysterious castle to save her father from the wrath of a fearsome Beast. Although his appearance is terrifying, Beauty discovers the kindness and sorrow hidden beneath the Beast’s exterior. Through their growing bond, she learns to see beyond his outward form and recognizes the goodness within him. Her love ultimately breaks the curse, transforming the Beast back into a handsome prince.
This heartwarming tale reminds us that true beauty lies not in outward appearances but in the heart.
This story holds profound meaning when applied to our individual lives. Within each of us resides both a “beauty” and a “beast.” The “beauty” represents our spirit—the godly, virtuous nature that reflects the image and likeness of God. It is this divine essence that empowers us to act with love, kindness, forgiveness, and selflessness.
On the other hand, the “beast” symbolizes our flesh—the part of us prone to selfishness, anger, envy, jealousy, unforgiveness, and indulgence. These vices seek to dominate and control us if left unchecked.
The key to personal transformation lies in nurturing the “beauty” within us while weakening the influence of the “beast.” As we strengthen our spiritual nature through prayer, faith, and walking in alignment with God’s Word, we become better versions of ourselves.
Galatians 5:25 (KJV) “If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.”
By yielding to the Spirit, we resist the desires of the flesh and cultivate virtues such as love, joy, peace, patience, and kindness.
Ultimately, there is a “beauty” inside all of us waiting to shine. The more we nurture it, the weaker the “beast” becomes.
Let us embrace the transformative power of love and choose to walk in the Spirit, unlocking the full potential of who God created us to be.
Loneliness is a powerful feeling. Like desperation, it can make people settle for less—for relationships they know aren’t right. They do this just to fill the empty space in their hearts. However, if you make a decision based on loneliness, it will often lead to premium tears—your temporary fix causing you long-term pain.
Sometimes we mix it up, but get it straight now. God didn’t propose marriage to Adam because he was lonely. No! There’s a world of difference between being alone and being lonely.
“And the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.’” Genesis 2:18 [NKJV]
A man can be alone, but not lonely. Another man can be married to a woman, yet lonely. “Being alone” means being singular—be it physically, in an assignment or project, etc. while “being lonely” is a void in the heart—a feeling of emptiness in the soul that is often caused by a lack of active participation in purpose.
Adam was too busy with what God had committed into his hands to do that he didn’t even have time to be lonely. He was alone but not lonely. God had to come to initiate marriage when he saw that Adam needed a helper.
For singles, the temptation to say “Maybe this is the best I can get” often springs from loneliness. Seeing others in relationships makes matters worse, making you feel like time is running out. That’s desperation. But don’t let the feeling of loneliness and desperation push you into something unhealthy. It’s better to wait alone than to walk into a relationship that steals your peace, your values, or your destiny. The wrong relationship will drain you much more than loneliness ever could.
For married couples, well, you can be married and still be lonely. Loneliness can still creep in—especially when communication is broken down or when life gets overwhelming. However, the solution isn’t to withdraw, seek emotional validation elsewhere, or compare your spouse to others. The solution is to fight for your marriage to thrive again—work towards reconnecting. Talk. Pray together. Block out every channel (the opposite gender) that gives you emotional satisfaction. Remember why you chose each other. And fight to reconnect.
A good marriage is not built on constant excitement; it’s built on commitment through every season. Commit to working on your marriage. Commit to fighting for the spark to return again. Sometimes, or most times, it starts with just one of the spouses. If it’s you, then don’t get discouraged. Keep your eyes on the goal, regardless of what you see on the way. Don’t allow loneliness to last. Don’t allow it to lead you into an emotional affair and, ultimately, a full-blown affair.
Ultimately, may we all always recognize that God is always present with us, so we can draw strength from Him.
“Do not fear, for I am with you.” Isaiah 41:10.
God is always present, even in seasons when you feel lonely. So, instead of making hasty decisions out of desperation as singles, trust that His timing is perfect. While waiting, keep active with your purpose. The right love—one that honors God—will come. And if you’re married, the love you already have can be strengthened.
Many people enter relationships with high hopes, only to watch them crumble. But why does this happen? Is love not enough? The truth is, love alone does not sustain a relationship. Wisdom, commitment, and divine guidance do.
First, you need to understand that marriage is not the union of two perfect people. Rather, it is the coming together of two imperfect individuals, choosing to walk in love daily and grace as God leads them. No one is 100% perfect, and that’s okay.
However, when relationships fail, there are often clear reasons why.
1. Absence of the Instructor (God)
Marriage was designed by God, and He alone knows how it should function. In Genesis 2:18, God said, “It is not good for man to be alone; I will make a helper suitable for him.” Yet, many couples walk into marriage without the One who created it. When challenges arise, they find themselves lost, with no divine wisdom to navigate through. A relationship without God is like a ship without a compass that drifts or crashes eventually.
2. A Mismatch in Faith
When you marry someone who does not share your faith, you are building on different foundations. A spouse who does not understand your beliefs or values may struggle to align with your vision.
“Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” (Amos 3:3).
This spiritual disconnect creates frustration, leading to discord and, ultimately, failure.
3. Unrealistic Expectations
Expectations are natural, but when they are too high or completely unrealistic, they set the stage for disappointment. Many people enter relationships with fairy-tale dreams, only to face the reality that their partner is human. Instead of focusing on what they lack, appreciate the little things they do. A heart of gratitude strengthens love.
4. Lack of Purpose
God did not institute marriage just for companionship or procreation. It’s also a divine partnership with a purpose (Genesis 1:28). When a couple lacks a shared vision, marriage can become monotonous, leading to frustration and dissatisfaction. Purpose fuels passion. When both partners understand their God-given assignment, it brings joy and fulfillment to their union.
5. Selfishness
Marriage is not about me, it’s about us. When selfishness takes over, decisions are made without considering the other person’s feelings or well-being.
“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.” (Philippians 2:3).
A healthy relationship thrives on mutual sacrifice, compromise, and a willingness to prioritize the needs of one’s partner.
Every relationship has challenges, but with God as the foundation, shared faith, realistic expectations, purpose, and selflessness, it can stand the test of time.
Are you building your relationship on the right foundation? If not, it’s never too late to start.
“Unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labor in vain.” (Psalm 127:1)
Let God be the center, and watch your love flourish.
Letting go of past hurts is easier said than done. You may have prayed about it, tried to move on, or even told yourself that you’re over it. But then, something happens, a familiar situation, a certain name, a random memory, and suddenly, the pain feels just as fresh as it did back then.
Maybe you were betrayed by someone you trusted. Maybe you were abandoned, abused, rejected, or taken for granted. Maybe you gave your all to a relationship that ended in heartbreak. Whatever the case, those wounds don’t just disappear. They shape how you see yourself, how you interact with others, and even how you approach love.
And if you don’t deal with them properly, they will follow you into your future, especially into your marriage. Your spouse will feel the weight of baggage they didn’t pack, and your marriage will suffer from wounds someone else inflicted. The walls you put up to protect yourself will also shut out the person who is meant to love you. Your fears will cause unnecessary arguments. Your past will compete with your future. And that’s not the kind of marriage God wants for you.
“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” — Isaiah 43:18-19
The scripture above reminds us that God is doing a new thing. But notice that He first tells us to FORGET the former things, that is, to stop dwelling on the past. That’s because we can’t fully embrace what He has ahead if we are still clinging to what’s behind.
So, how do we truly let go?
1. Be honest about the hurt. Acknowledge it Pretending you’re fine won’t bring healing. Ignoring the pain won’t make it go away. Healing starts with honesty, acknowledging the hurt, and allowing God to meet you in that place. Psalm 34:18 says, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” What pain have you been avoiding? God is ready to walk through it with you.
2. Stop making others pay for what someone else did It’s natural to be cautious after being hurt. But when past wounds cause you to push away good people, assume the worst, or expect failure, that’s a sign of unhealed pain. Your future spouse is not your ex. Your friends are not the people who abandoned you. Don’t punish the right people for what the wrong people did. Colossians 3:13 says, “Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”
3. Stop defining yourself by what happened to you Pain has a way of reshaping our identity. You may start to believe you’re unworthy of love, destined to be alone, or incapable of a healthy relationship. But those are lies that the devil wants you to believe. 2 Corinthians 5:17 declares, “If anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!” God doesn’t just heal, He makes new. Who does God say you are? It’s time to start believing it.
4. Allow yourself to heal Healing is not instant. Some days will be better than others. Some moments will still sting. But every step toward healing matters. Psalm 147:3 says, “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Allow yourself to feel, but don’t dwell in the hurt. Forgive, not because they deserve it, but because you deserve freedom. You don’t have to have it all together overnight, but you do have to commit to the process. So allow yourself to truly heal and stop suppressing the pain
5. Walk into your future without fear Your past does not have the power to ruin your future unless you let it. Philippians 3:13-14 encourages us, “Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” God has something greater ahead of you. But will you trust Him enough to step into it?
Carrying emotional baggage into marriage will not only make your life harder but also make your spouse’s life harder. Don’t let your past sabotage the love God has planned for you. Let Him heal you now so you can walk into the future whole, free, and ready to love the way He intended.
In Ephesians 5:22-33, the Apostle Paul provides profound guidance on marriage that reflects Christ’s relationship with the Church. For husbands, the call is clear: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25).
This command challenges men to lead not through authority or control but through sacrificial love—a love so deep it mirrors Jesus’ ultimate sacrifice on the cross. Loving your wife means putting her needs above your own, serving her with humility, and nurturing an environment where she can flourish spiritually, emotionally, and physically.
For wives, Paul writes, “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord” (Ephesians 5:22). Submission here does not imply inferiority or blind obedience; rather, it reflects trust in God’s design for order within the home.
Just as the Church submits to Christ’s leadership, a wife’s submission involves respecting and supporting her husband’s role while trusting God to guide their shared journey.
It’s important to note this mutual submission is rooted in love—both partners are called to honor one another out of reverence for Christ (Ephesians 5:21).
These roles might seem challenging, even counter-cultural, yet they point us back to the Gospel. Husbands are reminded that true leadership looks like laying down your life—not demanding respect but earning it by loving selflessly.
Wives are encouraged to embrace submission not out of fear but from faith, trusting God’s wisdom in His design for unity and harmony.
Ultimately, these instructions aren’t about power dynamics but about reflecting God’s love story.
When husbands love sacrificially and wives submit respectfully, they create a picture of Christ’s covenantal love for His bride, the Church. As Colossians 3:14 reminds us, “And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”
Let us pray for marriages to reflect this divine model—that homes may be places of grace, joy, and testimony to God’s unchanging love.
Whether you’re a husband striving to love well or a wife seeking to submit faithfully, remember that God equips you to fulfill His purpose when you walk in obedience to Him.
I have come to realize that choosing a spouse is not as spookyas some people make it to feel. If you can just follow God all through, the journey will be less complicated.
Also, I have realized that more often than not, your spouse is very much around you. Godis not just about to create your spouse. You just need to be discerning to know where he or she is.
Ex 32:1(KJV) And when the people saw that Moses delayed to come down out of the mount, the people gathered themselves together unto Aaron, and said unto him, Up, make us gods, which shall go before us; for as for this Moses, the man that brought us up out of the land of Egypt, we wot not what is become of him.
After Moses had gone for a long while, the children of Israel became impatient and demanded a god. Where would they get the raw materials to fabricate a god? Remember, they were in the wilderness.
See what Aaron said.
Ex 32:2-4 (KJV) And Aaron said unto them, Break off the golden earrings, which are in the ears of your wives, of your sons, and of your daughters, and bring them unto me. 3 And all the people brake off the golden earrings which were in their ears, and brought them unto Aaron. 4 And he received them at their hand, and fashioned it with a graving tool, after he had made it a molten calf: and they said, These be thy gods, O Israel, which brought thee up out of the land of Egypt.
Aaron made the golden calf with the earrings he found around him.
Who would have thought something good could come out of those earrings?
I mean, they wear these earrings every day. They see it every day. They use it every day. It was looking too common in their eyes, so they couldn’t see the golden calf in it.
And that is how this marriage thing is. You are probably seeing your spouse every day. You are probably interacting with your spouse every other day. The issue is that you may not know. It took Aaron, the priest, to see that something good could come out of the earrings. Likewise, it will take a priest to see if something worthwhile will come out of that lady or gentleman lurking around you.
However, as believers, we don’t need any Aaron. You are the Priest and Prophet over your life.
You are the one who will look beyond the physical and go for what you want.
You are the one who will cry to God to open your eyes that you may see what others are not seeing in that person.
Everyone saw a woman with five husbands, but Jesus saw an evangelist.
Everyone saw gold earrings, but Aaron saw a golden calf.
Everyone saw something whitish, but Moses saw food for the Israelites.
