We looked at the first instance yesterday, We continue today.
Psalms 9:5 (MSG) You blow the whistle on godless nations; you throw dirty players out of the game, wipe their names right off the roster.
2. If a match is suspended or abandoned
A whistle is used when a match is suspended or abandoned.
Were you abandoned by a supposed lover?
Was the marriage plan suspended after you announced the date and the boo on Facebook?
Did you have to change “Engaged” to “It’s complicated?”
Have you had to change “Single” to “Engaged” and then back to ‘Single” and then “Engaged” over and over again?
I have good news for you!
God is about to blow the whistle on your behalf.
He or she might have abandoned you, but God has not rejected you!
That is all that matters!
If he leaves you, let him go! Maybe his name is Abed-ne-go!
If she leaves you, let her go! Maybe she is not qualified to handle the greatness of your future which she cannot see now!
Never beg a guy to stay with you who wants to go. Let him go. In his heart, he is gone. If you beg him to stay and he stays, he is staying to leave soonest, after enjoying more sexual escapades from you!
If he gets to marry you, you will need to keep begging him all through your life!
The rejection of man often becomes the direction of God!
Rise from the doldrums of that agony and move into the joy of the Lord that awaits you!
The wedding plan might have stopped, but don’t stop your life. God is the referee!
For married couples, do you feel abandoned by your spouse? Do you feel neglected? What could be their distractions? Work, friends, colleagues, immediate family? Whatever it is, God is blowing His whistle on all distractions in your marriage that are causing a sense of abandonment and neglect!
Your Spouse will focus on you and cherish you all over because God is blowing the whistle on all distractions in Jesus’ name!
Take a look at this scripture before we look at the different scenarios.
Psalms 9:5 (MSG) You blow the whistle on godless nations; you throw dirty players out of the game, wipe their names right off the roster.
God is blowing the whistle on every godless entity harassing your destiny!
God is throwing all dirty players away from your life.
God is wiping off names of deceivers, froward men, liars, strange women off the roster of your destiny!
No more distractions for you!
1. For a free kick or penalty kick
Every pretentious lover who is planning to commit fouls in your life, God is blowing the whistle on them.
No more will you be cheated on the field of play!
God is the referee!
No longer will you attract time wasters, destiny killers, distraction entities, and wicked men.
Your marital life will no longer be a field of play with countless fouls from energy-sapping players who have no intentions of walking down the aisle.
For married couples, God is blowing the whistle on every side chick, on every man or woman out there distracting your spouse, God is blowing the whistle on them!
God will referee your marriage and cause the winning goals to be on your side! You will no longer play against each other but work towards a common goal!
Marriage is a journey, and for Buddy and Sade, the road has been filled with unexpected twists. What seemed like an unbreakable love during courtship hit the harsh realities of married life, leaving them questioning if their love could endure.
Unmasking the Real You: The Impact of Marriage
Contrary to popular belief, marriage doesn’t change individuals; it reveals their true selves. Buddy and Sade, like many others, discovered that understanding each other’s needs is pivotal for a thriving relationship.
The Maturity of Meeting Needs
A key aspect often overlooked is recognizing and addressing the distinct needs of each partner. Maturity in a relationship comes from prioritizing your spouse’s needs over your own. This is true in both courtship and marriage.
Decoding the Greatest Needs
Understanding the unique needs of your partner is the cornerstone of a successful relationship. For women, time and attention top the list. Spending quality time and giving undivided attention convey genuine care and love.
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. (1 Peter 3:7 KJV)
Men, on the other hand, crave sex and respect. Delving into these fundamental needs can lead to a fulfilling relationship.
Navigating Needs in Courtship
Meeting Her Needs
For singles in courtship, proximity makes meeting a woman’s needs simpler. Regularly scheduling time together fosters a deeper connection. Long-distance relationships require consistent communication to bridge the gap.
The purpose of seeing each other is to understand and align your souls, fostering communication and future planning. Physical intimacy is reserved for marriage, and crossing that boundary during courtship can jeopardize the foundation of trust.
His Needs Matter Too
Single men, regardless of their beliefs, may feel the urge for physical intimacy. It’s a legitimate need, but one that should be reserved for marriage. Controlling desires and waiting ensures a foundation built on respect and obedience to one’s beliefs.
Sustaining Love in Marriage – Prioritizing Time and Attention
Married couples often face the challenge of balancing busy schedules. Neglecting the fundamental needs of time and attention can lead to emotional strain and financial consequences.
Understanding His Need for Intimacy
Sex is a valid need within marriage. Neglecting this aspect can lead to feelings of disrespect from the husband. Balancing the priorities of God, family, and career is crucial to maintaining a healthy marriage.
“Defraud ye not one another…when you deny each other, the Bible calls it fraud!” (1 Corinthians 7:5 KJV)
Sex should never be a tool for punishment or reward but rather a shared duty in the union.
In conclusion, understanding and fulfilling the needs of your partner are vital for a lasting and fulfilling relationship. May God’s peace prevail in every challenge or storm that may arise in your journey together.
Can violence come before a love adventure? Does it make sense to unleash pain on the one you truly love?
Why do victims of rape cleave to their abusers and vice versa?
Why do people go after a person who is not treating them well?
Several reasons, but let’s take a look at one this morning from this story
Attraction After Distraction?
One day Dinah, the daughter Leah had given Jacob, went to visit some of the women in that country. Shechem, the son of Hamor the Hivite who was chieftain there, saw her and raped her. Then he felt a strong attraction to Dinah, Jacob’s daughter, fell in love with her and wooed her. Gen 34:1-3 (MSG)
Dinah just went on a stroll to see some of her girlfriends in town and then Shechem, (the way the name sounds sef!) saw her, and then the next thing is rape!
After Oga has brutalized the young girl, he starts forming love, bringing flowers, writing poems, and getting into her DM!
Absolute nonsense!
The great question is how does a person “rape” a person he loves?
Well, there is an interplay of lust, deception, and wickedness that is at work here.
At the point of rape, he was not in love but in lust!
After the rape, there was an illegal cleaving of their souls which led to wooing her!
Attraction After Distraction?
Would this medicine after death be worth it? Never. She had been defiled first, and the cleaving of souls was only a result of soul tie or soul bonding which comes as a result of sexual interaction!
This is exactly why we warn young ones to stay away from pre-marital sex.
Just as Shechem got confused in his soul and went after the one she defiled, confusion comes when pre-marital sex is involved.
To the married, adultery brings the same consequences. It is the reason a man refuses to pay his children’s school fees but gives money to a side chick for her excesses.
The lesson? Singles, stay away from pre-marital sex, it brings confusion to your soul and lust begins to rule. Where lust rules, agony of heart follows! Couples, stay away from adultery because it brings troubles and havoc as stipulated in the scripture!
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In simple terms, capacity building simply means developing your skills and abilities to improve your performance and productivity.
This can be applied to your work or career where you aspire to become a better person.
This can also be applied to your relationship and or marriage where you want to become a better spouse to your loved one.
Building Capacity As Singles and Couples
Now, developing or building capacity can be done in a variety of ways which include sharpening yourself, going back to school, self-study and self-development, and so on.
For example, you can build the capacity to be a better husband or wife by giving yourself to study and research on how to become better and following through on what you learn.
Now, the major question is usually knowing what to do but never doing it for one reason or the other.
You know you should give yourself to self-study but the whole year is almost gone and you can’t point to one book that you have read successfully!
Your diary is filled with all kinds of instructions and wisdom, which you have never put to use. You listen to messages day after day but never have enough impetus to act on what is there!
Building Capacity As Singles and Couples
What is the thing to do? Here it is
Eph 3:14-16 (MSG) My response is to get down on my knees before the Father, [15] this magnificent Father who parcels out all heaven and earth. [16] I ask him to strengthen you by his Spirit—not a brute strength but a glorious inner strength—
You need to ask for strength in your inner man so that you can do the things you have always known you should do, but you are not doing!
I love the word Amplified Bible used
Eph 3:16 (AMPC) May He grant you out of the rich treasury of His glory to be strengthened and reinforced with mighty power in the inner man by the [Holy] Spirit [Himself indwelling your innermost being and personality].
You need to be strengthened and reinforced with mighty power!
A power that will go deep into your innermost being and personality, alter lazy attitudes, and give you strength to do what needs to be done!
I pray for you, to receive strength in your inner man in Jesus’ name!
Yesterday, while in church, I was getting ready to mount the pulpit when I was led to these verses and it was a spur-of-the-moment revelation. I would like to share this with you this morning. You are going to be blessed!
We have been looking at gratitude and this word only comes to validate it more.
Let’s dive into the river of God’s word!
2Ch 32:24 (MSG) Some time later Hezekiah became deathly sick. He prayed to GOD and was given a reassuring sign.
So this guy was sick and the doctor must have told him he would die. He prayed and God came through for him.
Now see the next verse.
2Ch 32:25 (MSG) But the sign, instead of making Hezekiah grateful, made him arrogant. This made GOD angry, and his anger spilled over on Judah and Jerusalem.
After God reassured him he wouldn’t die, he wasn’t grateful! Rather he was filled with arrogance. He never gave glory to God!
This made God angry towards him and the entire cities he presided over.
How many of us are right on this table, not giving glory to God, prayed for a job and after getting the job, refused to pay tithe, prayed for a spouse, and after the wedding, asking God what kind of marriage the is?
But I like what Hezekiah did.
2Ch 32:26 (MSG) But then Hezekiah, and Jerusalem with him, repented of his arrogance, and GOD withdrew his anger while Hezekiah lived.
God wasn’t pleased at his arrogance! But the guy was smart. He repented and you can do the same. Recent of arrogance and ascribe all gratefulness to God! I wonder what would have happened to him if God didn’t withdraw His anger.
Done Deal: He Will See To It
The next verse will amaze you!
2Ch 32:27 (MSG) Hezekiah ended up very wealthy and much honored. He built treasuries for all his silver, gold, precious stones, spices, shields, and valuables,
Wow! The devil didn’t want this for him when he made him arrogant!
As you give honour to God, you will end up wealthy!
And then check this:
2Ch 32:29 (MSG) He founded royal cities for himself and built up huge stocks of sheep and cattle. God saw to it that he was extravagantly rich.
He found cities! Wow! But that is not even what is tripping me! It’s the last sentence!
God saw to it that he was extravagantly rich.
This morning, as you decide to be grateful always, God will SEE TO IT that you are extravagantly rich!
This message is so vast and deep. Meditate on it. Good morning!
Every woman, regardless of her spiritual inclinations, has certain expectations from her partner. Today, we’ll explore a few of them.
She seeks a companion who knows how to play. Within every woman, there resides an inner child yearning for playful interactions with her partner. In every lady, there is a little girl who always wants to play with the little boy in her lover. In your relationship, remember to engage in playtime. Don’t be overly serious all the time; make her laugh, play games, and enjoy movies together.
She craves a mentor, not a lecturer. Every woman desires guidance rather than lectures. There’s a vast difference between the two. Avoid lecturing or sermonizing her; you’re not her teacher or pastor. Don’t quote scriptures angrily at her, it doesn’t work that way. Instead, mentor her with compassion, as it’s more effective and impactful.
What Every Woman Desires in Her Partner
She values honesty. Honesty is a cornerstone of trust in any relationship. Be truthful, as dishonesty can lead to cheating and heartache. It is the same heart that tells lies that will cheat. With truthfulness, you know you are on safe grounds. Commit to always being honest, as a truthful partner contributes to a truthful family. If he is an impulsive liar, don’t walk down the aisle with him.
She wants the freedom to express herself. Every woman appreciates the opportunity to express herself. Encourage her to share her thoughts and feelings, even if you don’t always agree. Don’t shut her up. Allowing her to talk is an emotional release, and it’s important not to belittle her or make her feel like an idiot.
What Every Woman Desires in Her Partner
She anticipates financial responsibility. Financial responsibility is a crucial aspect of any partnership. A financially irresponsible partner can lead to stress and frustration. Therefore, strive to be financially responsible, as it will greatly contribute to the well-being of the relationship.
In summary, understanding and respecting these desires can help create a strong relationship and marriage
In the complex realm of relationships, success is far from guaranteed merely because you identify as a child of God. Being able to speak in tongues doesn’t automatically equip you with the wisdom to navigate the intricacies of human connection. This is where self-improvement and the pursuit of knowledge come into play.
Go For Knowledge
If your goal is to tie the knot by the end of this year, ask yourself: how many books on marriage have you diligently perused? You see, being a child of God is a wonderful foundation, but it’s not a substitute for actively seeking wisdom and understanding in the realm of relationships. Your desire to get married should be complemented by a genuine commitment to improving yourself.
For the married, even after wedding, you have to keep studying and developing yourselves to learn more about what marriage is all about
One common misconception is that falling in love with someone automatically implies that God has led you to that person. However, it’s vital to discern whether your emotions align with God’s leading. Feelings alone may not necessarily be a sign of God’s plan for your life. While it’s true that God can guide you through your desires, it’s essential to be certain of His guidance before fully embracing those emotions.
The Challenge of Emotions
Once emotions become entangled in a relationship, deciphering God’s voice becomes a more intricate task. Emotions can cloud our judgment and make it challenging to hear His guidance clearly. It’s advisable to seek His direction before allowing your emotions to run wild.
On the other hand, couples are to be intimately connected emotionally with their spouses. If there is no emotional connection towards your spouse, that marriage can hardly work.
No-Nonsense Advice For Singles and Couples
Time and Emotional Bonds
For singles, spending time with someone has a profound impact on your emotional connection with them. It’s astonishing how feelings can evolve when you invest time with a person. This is a universal truth, and it’s important to be mindful of the company you keep.
The Danger of Inappropriate Connections
For instance, if a single lady declares her disinterest in a man but continues to spend time with him, she’s unknowingly fostering emotional ties. The more time you invest in someone, the deeper the emotional connection becomes. Therefore, it’s crucial to be cautious about the company you keep and avoid engaging in inappropriate relationships, especially with married individuals.
Conversely, couples who are not spending enough time with themselves will have their emotional tank on the low, resulting in several other issues and irritations that can complicate their marriage! Spend time together!
Divine Blessings and Guidance
In conclusion, May God’s favor shine upon you, and His mercy guide your steps. You will break free from the spirit of delay, and may you find the one meant for you. For couples, God’s love is shed aboard in your hearts anew in Jesus’ name!
Marriage is a significant aspect of our lives that is meant to span our entire adult years, an enduring commitment till death do us part. To ensure a happy and fulfilling marriage, we must be content with our spouse and with ourselves. Here, I present two valuable tips to help you achieve this blissful union.
Don’t Miss These Two Crucial Points
1. Let Go of Past Mistakes
In any marriage, challenges are inevitable. We are all a work in progress and bound to face both current and past issues. However, dwelling on past mistakes is akin to unearthing old wounds, and it signals a lack of forgiveness towards your partner.
Forgiveness is a cornerstone of a successful marriage. You cannot move forward or experience happiness if you’re constantly revisiting past grievances. Make an effort to release the past and resist the urge to shame your spouse with reminders of their previous mistakes.
It takes considerable maturity to keep the past where it belongs. Remember, what goes around comes around, and you may need forgiveness in the future. Embrace forgiveness as a divine virtue, and let it permeate your marriage.
`As singles, forgive yourself as well despite your past mistakes. The important thing is not to repeat the same errors. Forgive yourself and love yourself, so that you can be loved appropriately
In today’s fast-paced world, the problem of neglecting one’s spouse has become increasingly prevalent. Many couples find themselves prioritizing others over their life partners, leading to a lack of emotional connection.
To maintain a strong bond with your spouse, it’s crucial to focus on each other with undivided attention. Cultivate a heart-to-heart connection that transcends mere words and draws you closer together.
Resist distractions, emotional affairs, and wandering thoughts that hinder your ability to focus on your spouse. Let your partner continually capture your spirit, soul, and body. After God, the next is your spouse! Regardless of anyone else’s physical attributes, your spouse is your one and only. The key lies in maintaining the integrity of your heart.
As singles in courtship, avoid sexual intimacy in your bid to prioritize each other. Sexual sins will only welcome confusion into the equation.
In conclusion, let us strive for a deeper understanding and stronger bonds in our marriage. May your union be blessed with lasting joy and harmony in the mighty name of Jesus.
Communication goes beyond words; non-verbal cues play a crucial role in conveying feelings and emotions.
Pay attention to your body language, facial expressions, and gestures when communicating with your partner.
Maintain good eye contact, smile often, and use affirmative gestures to create a positive and warm atmosphere during your conversations. Liars are known to evade eye contact.
Communication Between Lovers
Time and Space
In a fast-paced world, finding quality time to communicate can be a challenge. However, allocating time for each other is vital for building a stronger connection. Create a space that is free from distractions where you can truly focus on one another.
Designate “unplugged” time, during which you and your partner can engage in meaningful conversations without the interruption of screens or other distractions.
This has to be done deliberately
Communication Between Lovers
Empathy and Understanding
Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. It’s a fundamental aspect of effective communication. To communicate better in your relationship, put yourself in your partner’s shoes and try to understand their perspective.
When your partner expresses their feelings or concerns, validate their emotions and show understanding. This helps build trust and connection.
Communication Between Lovers
Conflict Resolution
No relationship is without its conflicts. However, how you deal with these conflicts can make all the difference.
Learning effective conflict-resolution strategies is essential for maintaining a healthy and communicative relationship.
When conflicts arise, focus on the issue at hand rather than resorting to personal attacks. Practice active listening and compromise to find solutions that work for both of you.
Honesty and Transparency
Honesty is the bedrock of trust in any relationship. Open and transparent communication is essential for building a strong and lasting bond with your partner.
Be honest about your feelings, thoughts, and concerns. Sharing your vulnerabilities can lead to a deeper and more authentic connection.
Build trust through sincerity and you will enjoy yourselves more! When trust is broken down in a marriage, it’s like a house whose fence is broken. It would be invaded easily!
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Back to our discourse for today. The greatest lover of our souls is God Himself! What has He been trying to do? It’s just one thing! To keep communication with us!
In a world filled with constant distractions, communication is the cornerstone of any successful relationship. Effective communication is not just about talking; it’s about understanding, empathizing, and connecting with your partner on a deeper level.
This devotional aims to provide you with invaluable insights into how lovers can communicate better, enhancing the quality of their relationship and, ultimately, bringing them closer together.
How Lovers Can Communicate Better
The Power of Active Listening
A major aspect of effective communication is active listening. It’s not merely waiting for your turn to speak but genuinely absorbing what your partner is saying.
I used to be right on this table! I would just be looking for something with which to give a resounding logical reply without actually listening! Can you imagine? Listen well and deliberately and you will connect more with your spouse!
When you actively listen, you show respect and empathy, which are key ingredients for successful communication.
Practice active listening by maintaining eye contact, nodding in agreement, and asking open-ended questions. This creates an open and inviting atmosphere for your partner to express themselves.
How Lovers Can Communicate Better
Choose Your Words Wisely
Words can cut and lacerate! Words can proceed as weapons of massive destruction tearing everything apart that it collides with. It can also be an agent of peace, a tool of tranquility, and a wrath killer! How are you using words with your spouse?
Words have a profound impact on our relationships. A thoughtless phrase can lead to misunderstandings and even conflicts. To communicate better with your partner, it’s essential to choose your words wisely and speak with kindness and consideration.
Before speaking, take a moment to reflect on your thoughts and emotions. This will help you communicate in a calmer and more composed manner.
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In today’s devotional, we delve into a timeless principle rooted in scripture, one that holds the key to daily victories in our work, relationships, marriages, and life. This principle is none other than the profound impact of the words we speak.
Proverbs 13:2-3 (KJV) (2) A man shall eat good by the fruit of his mouth: but the soul of the transgressors shall eat violence. (3) He that keepeth his mouth keepeth his life: but he that openeth wide his lips shall have destruction.
The Life-Altering Power of Spoken Words
The words that flow from your lips possess an extraordinary ability to shape the course of your life.
In the words of Jesus Christ himself,
It is the spirit that quickeneth; the flesh profiteth nothing: the words that I speak unto you, they are spirit, and they are life” (John 6:63, KJV).
From the moment of birth, the very act of making sounds signifies the commencement of life. As infants grow into toddlers, the development of language is a significant milestone, marking their progress.
Words are the tools that enable us to express our thoughts and intentions. Even in romantic relationships, the exchange of words is the foundation upon which love and commitment are built.
The Power of Words in Relationships
Marriage, a sacred covenant, relies heavily on words. On the wedding day, vows are exchanged, binding two individuals in love and commitment. Yet, the importance of words doesn’t diminish after the ceremony.
In fact, in marriage, the continuous exchange of loving words is essential to maintain and nourish the relationship. Words have the power to uplift, encourage, and fortify the bond between partners.
The Spiritual Significance of Words
In the spiritual realm, the influence of words is even more profound. The devil understands the potency of words and often attempts to inundate our minds with negative thoughts, hoping we will give voice to them. Once spoken, these negative words can become our reality. However, we rebuke such negativity in the name of Jesus.
Choose Your Words Wisely
Today, I implore you to reflect upon the words you utter daily. The scripture from Proverbs 13:2 teaches us that by controlling our mouths, we safeguard our lives.
Avoid making statements that can potentially mar your life. Phrases like “I don’t understand my life” or “I am very confused” should not be part of your vocabulary. These words can invite negative forces into your life.
Words in Relationships
In your relationships, particularly with your significant other, be cautious of the words you use. Refrain from calling your partner derogatory names or making hurtful remarks. Words have the power to uplift or wound, and it’s vital to use them with love and respect.
Potential spouses, remember that your words can either build or destroy your partner. Treat each other with kindness and consideration. There is a significant difference between being a supportive spouse and one who inflicts pain with words.
Words and Parenting
Parents play a crucial role in shaping their children’s futures. What you call your children can act as a prophecy for their lives. Avoid negative labels and instead encourage and support your children to become their best selves.
Seek Help When Needed
If you find yourself enduring verbal abuse in a relationship, whether as a single person or within a marriage, don’t accept it as the norm. Seek help and counseling, as abusive words can have severe emotional consequences. Remember, marriage does not inherently change anyone; it is essential to address such issues before they escalate.
The Final Word
In conclusion, words hold immense power over our lives. They can either create or destroy. Choose your words wisely and speak life into your destiny and the lives of those around you.
The cornerstone of any enduring relationship is a strong foundation with God. He provides the stability and strength needed to weather life’s challenges.
2. Wisdom in Relationships
Wisdom is essential in every aspect of life, including relationships. Seek wisdom from God’s word, as it holds the key to understanding and sustaining healthy relationships.
3. Timing Matters
Timing is Crucial. Don’t rush into a relationship too hastily. Premature relationships often lead to premature endings. Exercise patience and wait for the right time.
4. Preparation is Key
Let God Prepare You. God often uses experiences and people with similar temperaments of your spouse to prepare you for the relationship you desire. Allow Him to guide you through this preparatory journey.
5. Foundational Values
Respect and Submission are Fundamental Respect, honor, and submission are non-negotiable components of a successful marriage. Embrace these values to nurture a lasting bond with your partner.
If you are not ready to love your wife unconditionally, you are not ready for marriage
If you are not ready to submit and honour him as you head, you are also not ready for marriage.
Rather than attempting to change your partner, focus on being an influential and positive force in their life. Transformation happens through influence, not coercion.
7. The Power of Prayer
Harness the Strength of Prayer. Prayer is vital in maintaining a healthy relationship. Don’t wait for crises to pray; build a foundation of prayer to navigate challenges together.
8. Sacrifices for Love
There has to be a Willingness to Make Sacrifices. Relationships often require sacrifices, both big and small. Be prepared to make these sacrifices to strengthen your bond with your partner.
9. Be Teachable and Meek
Embrace a Teachable Spirit. Approach your relationship with humility and a desire to learn. Recognize that you don’t have all the answers, and God places you in relationships to grow and learn.
10. The Role of Leadership
Understanding Your Partner’s Headship
Comprehend the role of your husband as the head of the relationship. This understanding is key to respecting and nurturing the relationship.
Eph 5:23 (KJV) For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
If I were to visit your home, would the echoes from the walls of your bedroom, kitchen, and living room be a jumble of murmuring and complaints? Of dissatisfaction, unrest, and anxiety?
Oh no! Don’t get into that subtle trap of the enemy of our soul who steals, kills, and destroys by whispering thoughts, words, and fiery darts of ungratefulness to God!
You are still single? Yes, I know.
You are still waiting on God for the fruit of the womb?
You are still unable to kick off that business?
That dream remained on paper still, never finding the route to physical expression.
The list is endless!
But can I tell you something? Will you give me a minute of your time?
I have a word from the Lord this morning!
God is a God of last-minute miracles!
The year is almost ended, but God is not operating by our calendar! He loves to surprise with last-minute miracles and yours will not be an exception before this year ends!
This is what God showed me this morning and it is for you!
Luk 17:15 (KJV) And one of them, when he saw that he was healed, turned back, and with a loud voice glorified God,
You sure remember this story!
Only one came back!
Check it out in this translation!
Luk 17:15 (MSG) One of them, when he realized that he was healed, turned around and came back, SHOUTING HIS GRATITUDE, glorifying God.
Wow! Shout your gratitude this month and you will be made whole!
Luk 17:19 (KJV) And he said unto him, Arise, go thy way: thy faith hath made thee whole.
Because he came back with gratitude, Jesus told, him, you are made WHOLE!
As we get filled with gratitude daily, we will be made whole and we will see last-minute miracles!
Let words of thanksgiving, thankfulness, and gratefulness emanate from your soul to the living God and you will see His wonders this month!
So she followed him home or to some guest house for a meal.
Let’s just eat out.
May we not dine with the wrong person.
May we not eat up our destinies.
The guy had more plans than just the meal.
Son 2:4 (MSG) He took me home with him for a festive meal, but his eyes feasted on me!
Ladies, be careful who buys free meals for you, you might be paying for it soonest.
Rather than for the guy to feast on the meal, his eyes were riveted on the damsel.
Essentially, men are moved by sight. Men, watch what you see. Ladies, watch what is seen.
For The Sisters, Ladies and Wives
The Reciprocity of the Feasting
Son 2:5 (MSG) Oh! Give me something refreshing to eat—and quickly! Apricots, raisins—anything. I’m about to faint with love!
Ladies are enthralled by attention and non-verbal expressions of love.
She was going to faint with love. She felt more important as the guy refused to satisfy his hunger pangs and focused on his lust pangs.
She felt special, but there was a mix-up Their goals are different. The lady wants care, attention, and love. The guy wants a bedroom tango, period!
The contradiction of goals results in confusion of the soul. Two cannot walk together except they be agreed.
For The Sisters, Ladies and Wives
The Physicality of The Desires
Son 2:6 (MSG) His left hand cradles my head, and his right arm encircles my waist!
In no time, his manifesto begins in aggressive fulfillment of intentions.
The left hand should be busy with the meal but travels to the head and cradles it lovingly or “lustingly?”
The right hand encircles the waist. Desire travels into blood veins.
The heart races and gallops like a horse who just sighted waters! The rush of adrenaline colliding with dopamine!
Hey! Destinies are about to be ruptured. Glorious futures are about to be tainted. Promising ministry hopefuls are about to morph into miseries!
For The Sisters, Ladies and Wives
The Stirring and the Warning
Son 2:7 (MSG) Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem, by the gazelles, yes, by all the wild deer: Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready.
Oh, there comes a warning! Don’t do it. Don’t excite love!
In a moment, his voice and words are so gentle and caressing, the next moment, his biceps pins you to the wall in a wicked hold, because love has been excited. Be warned!
Eh singles, the time is not ripe. You are not ready! Don’t let the “glee” take over the “flee!” It is time to flee!
Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem, by the gazelles, yes, by all the wild deer…
The gazelles and the wild deer know how to run from the enemy! Run! Flee!
Married couples, what would you be doing in a guest house with someone you are not married to?
Don’t go to that guest house or hotel again. Don’t go and meet him on campus again. Don’t frolic with him in the office again. Don’t take his money again, because his money controls you.
Take a cue from the gazelles and the wild deer. When they see the lion crouching, they take off. They are not ready to be preyed upon.
Don’t be a prey! Dear sisters, caution! Dear wives, caution!
God will guide you and the heavens will assist you!
Son 2:3-7 (MSG) As an apricot tree stands out in the forest, my lover stands above the young men in town. All I want is to sit in his shade, to taste and savor his delicious love.
Well, born again or not, there is a strong desire that comes with falling in love.
If you like, speak in tongues till tomorrow, this desire will not go.
But what can be subdued is lust that often wants to tag along, like Lot tagged along with Abraham.
Yes, the desire will not go, because there is nothing wrong with the desire, it is the fulfillment of the desire at the wrong time that gets us into trouble.
So, all you want when you fall in love is to sit down in each other’s shade, with feelings of wanting to taste and savor the delicious love.
The Strong Desire That Comes With Love
I felt like that. She felt like that. But we waited. You can wait as well.
No matter how intense the desire is, do not taste that love before the wedding.
Tasting love and consummating your love before the wedding is like stealing a lump of hot meat from the pot of stew before it is ready.
Your taste bud gets burnt and you can lose your sense of taste, which ultimately leads to tasting more pot of stew that doesn’t belong to you!
If you have already started doing this as singles, then there is a clarion call this morning to stop and now get yourself onto unnecessary problems that are never part of your destiny!
The Strong Desire That Comes With Love
For married couples, you are licensed to sit in his shade, to keep tasting, relishing, and delighting in each other’s love! What is forbidden here is looking outside for pleasure. You are now married, you can admire others but shouldn’t desire them.
You now need to focus on the one you have married and pleasure one another. To look outside is not only greed and covetousness but also lust, which your maker frowns at! Dear husband, dear wife, FOCUS!
In life, there are moments when it feels like everything is falling apart. Times when doubt creeps in, and it seems like there’s no way out. Marital problems, challenging relationships, and seemingly endless struggles can leave us feeling trapped and hopeless. It’s in these moments that some people give up on hope and stop praying. They start to believe that there is no way out. Job searches become futile, and well-meaning individuals reinforce the idea that there’s no brighter future. But is it the end of the road?
Embracing Hope Amidst Adversity
When multiple voices join in, all echoing the same sentiment that there’s no help from God, what should you do? Even when it feels like God has abandoned you, and others question your faith, there’s a message of hope to be found.
The 3rd Psalm, verse 2 (KJV) speaks to this very issue, “Many there be which say of my soul, There is no help for him in God.”
When your circumstances push you to the brink, it’s easy to feel abandoned by God. You may have even asked yourself, “God, where are you?”
But, let me convey a message of hope to you today. The very next verse, Psalm 3:3 (KJV), reads, “But thou, O LORD, art a shield for me; my glory, and the lifter up of mine head.”
It’s crucial to remember that God’s perspective is different from human judgment.
Dear Pastor, Is There A Way Out For Me?
The Power of Faith
No matter what others say, with God, all odds can be overcome. The Lord serves as your shield, your source of glory, and the one who will lift your head. When people try to lift your head, they will soon realize it’s a job reserved for Jehovah alone. Men may believe they cannot offer any help, but the Lord is different.
The distinction between “God” and “Lord” is deliberate. If God is your Lord, you can find solace knowing that it’s only a matter of time before He lifts your head. “God” is a universal term, but “Lord” signifies a personal commitment.
When you declare, “He is my Lord,” you are affirming that He is your owner. You belong to Him, and He will lift your head in every area where it’s bowed. In times of struggle and shame, God will intervene.
God is the lifter of your head, and you’re destined for victory.
Just think about Joseph, who went from being a prisoner to a prime minister.
Consider Rahab, a harlot who became the great-grandmother of Jesus.
David, a shepherd boy, and forgotten sibling, rose to become a king.
Jabez became more honorable when God lifted his head. Even an illiterate Nigerian bread seller was featured on CNN after God intervened.
When God raises your head, remarkable transformations occur. The possibilities are endless, and God’s blessings know no bounds.
Dear Pastor, Is There A Way Out For Me?
A New Beginning
What can’t God do? Your life is about to take a new turn. Doors will open, jobs will become realities, and promotions will follow. Your wedding day is on the horizon, and the right partner will find you. Your marriage will be great and beautiful. You will hold your children in your arms. When God lifts your head, no one can bring it down.
Believe it. From today, the hand of the Lord will be evident in your life. Rejoice, for a new chapter is beginning in the name of Jesus.
In the realm of relationships, Christian women yearn for qualities in a man that harmonize seamlessly with their faith and principles. These qualities serve as the bedrock of a loving and harmonious partnership. Let’s delve into the five crucial attributes that a Christian lady or wife often seeks in a man, redefining the path to a deeply fulfilling relationship.
1. Being Spiritually Anchored
A Christian lady cherishes a man who is deeply rooted in his spirituality and actively pursues a closer connection with God. She longs for a partner who shares her unwavering faith, regularly attends church, and places spiritual growth at the forefront. A man who leads by example in his spiritual journey not only serves as a source of inspiration but also forges an unbreakable bond through shared faith and values. A man who fears the Lord will love appropriately and will not cheat.
Discovering The Desires of Every Lady
2. Integrity and Character
Integrity and character rank high among the virtues that Christian women seek in a man. They yearn for a companion who embodies honesty, kindness, and respect in every aspect of life. A man of unwavering character makes choices guided by the teachings of the Bible, instilling a sense of security and trust in the relationship.
3. Emotional Support
Christian women value a man who offers unwavering emotional support and comprehends the significance of transparent communication. They seek a partner who listens intently, extends compassion, and provides encouragement during both moments of joy and adversity. Effective communication is a cornerstone for building a profound emotional connection.
A Christian lady yearns for a man who holds the sanctity of marriage in high regard and is committed to nurturing a strong family unit. She desires a partner willing to invest time and effort into cultivating a loving and enduring relationship. A man who prioritizes his role as a husband and a potential father showcases his profound understanding of the pivotal role of family within the Christian context.
Discovering The Desires of Every Lady
5. Humility and Selflessness
Humility and servitude are virtues that resonate deeply with Christian women when it comes to a man. They aspire to be with someone who wholeheartedly serves others, mirroring the selfless example set by Jesus. A humble man recognizes that true leadership is manifested through service to others and is eager to prioritize the needs of his family and community over his own.
It’s imperative to remember that entering into relationships with an open heart and profound respect for individual preferences is paramount. While these qualities align with the desires of many Christian women and wives, it’s important to acknowledge that every individual is unique, and personal preferences may naturally vary.
May this guide serve as a compass, helping you gain insight into what Christian women often seek in a man who shares their unwavering faith and values.
In this devotional, we will explore the secrets to finding and maintaining a lasting love, for both singles and married individuals.
Love is a universal desire, but where and how do you find it, and once you have it, how do you keep it alive? Let’s delve into the keys to a successful and enduring relationship.
1. Finding Your Ideal Partner
Proverbs 19:14 (AMP) tells us that, “House and riches are the inheritance from fathers, but a wise, understanding, and prudent wife is from the Lord.”
In essence, a truly wise and prudent partner is a divine gift.
Seeking Divine Guidance
Your journey to finding a life partner begins with building a meaningful relationship with God. To secure a prudent spouse, you must first establish a strong connection with the Divine.
It is only logical that if you desire a wise and understanding partner, you must seek this through your relationship with God.
Choosing Wisely
The Bible suggests that there are both prudent and foolish individuals. The choice you make will have a profound impact on your life.
To ensure you make the right choice, trust in God to guide your path. Remember, your choice of a life partner can either elevate or undermine your happiness.
Married but Unhappy?
If you’re already married and are facing difficulties in your relationship, don’t rush to judgment.
Sometimes, we may perceive our partners differently from their true selves. If you believe your spouse lacks prudence, consider revisiting your connection with God.
Seek His guidance and wisdom to navigate your marriage’s challenges and also seek therapy when necessary
2. Building a Harmonious Home
Proverbs 21:19 (KJV) advises, “It is better to dwell in the wilderness than with a contentious and an angry woman.”
This verse underscores the vital role a wife plays in creating a peaceful atmosphere at home.
Creating a Home, Not Just a House
A woman possesses the unique capacity to transform a house into a loving and serene home. It is within her power to set the tone for the entire household, making it a welcoming and pleasant place.
Avoiding Destructive Behavior
When a wife displays contentious, nagging, or angry behaviors, she risks driving her husband away.
Such actions can lead to a strained and unfulfilling relationship, pushing the man to avoid spending time at home.
It is crucial for both partners to create a loving and supportive environment.
The Importance of Understanding
Men often deal with internal struggles and decision-making processes differently from women.
They might choose to remain silent when faced with dilemmas. Instead of pressuring them to speak up, grant them the space and time needed to find a resolution on their own.
Respect his silence as he contemplates his choices.
For singles, addressing anger is crucial. Frequent displays of anger can discourage potential partners.
Men are generally logical and will consider how anger issues may affect their future together. It’s essential to work on anger management and self-improvement.
Seek Wisdom
The book of Ecclesiastes 7:9 (MSG) advises, “Don’t be quick to fly off the handle. Anger boomerangs. You can spot a fool by the lumps on his head.”
Anger has the potential to destroy relationships. Remember that anger can hinder the growth of a God-ordained love affair.
In conclusion, the key to finding and keeping the love of your life lies in building a strong relationship with God and fostering a harmonious home environment.
By seeking divine guidance and practicing understanding, you can ensure a long-lasting and joyful partnership.
Addressing anger issues and working on self-improvement are essential for singles looking to embark on a successful relationship journey.
In today’s world, it’s not uncommon to hear statements like, “I cannot marry a man who doesn’t have a car,” or “He must be rich, otherwise, no wedding!”
These sentiments seem to dominate conversations these days, but it’s essential to pause and reflect on what truly matters in a relationship.
Rethinking Priorities in Marriage
It’s natural to desire a comfortable life and a partner who is financially stable, but it’s vital to remember that your significant other should never be reduced to their financial status. Your life partner should not merely be a source of material wealth but a companion for life’s journey.
Unlocking True Love: His Purse
Love Beyond the Superficial
One common mistake people make is using a person’s financial standing as the primary determinant of their suitability for marriage.
Asking for material possessions like a car as a prerequisite for marriage is an approach that often leads to heartache. What if the car spoils after the wedding?
It’s crucial to differentiate between being in love with the person and being infatuated with their possessions.
Remember, you’re getting married to the man, not his ATM. Don’t let someone’s bank account dictate your decision to marry them or not, as the contents of the purse are not always permanent. Life is full of ups and downs, and wealth can come and go.
In the grand scheme of things, God knows the right person for you. The person He has in mind is part of His best plan for your life. This person won’t leave you as a widow or turn you into a punching bag.
Only God has the insight to find someone who will continue to love and support you even after fifty years of marriage.
It’s only God who can identify a man who can seamlessly balance the roles of a responsible husband and a loving father. He alone knows the potential of a financially struggling man who is destined for wealth and a wealthy man who might face financial setbacks.
Unlocking True Love: His Purse
Embracing God’s Purpose
Instead of allowing material wealth to take the forefront in your decision-making, prioritize God’s purpose for your life.
Remember, purpose outweighs wealth. A fat purse without a sense of purpose in life will eventually lose its significance.
Avoid falling into the trap of making money the central focus of your relationship decisions. Instead, give God the final say. He is the only one who truly knows what the future holds, and He can see things that human eyes cannot.
Before you inquire about someone’s bank account, seek to understand God’s account of that person. By doing so, you’ll make more informed and lasting choices in matters of the heart.
Conclusion
In the quest for true love and a fulfilling marriage, shifting the focus from material possessions to genuine compatibility and shared purpose is vital.
Trust in God’s plan, and you’ll be led to a partner who not only complements your life but also supports your journey toward a brighter future.
May God guide you in finding true love and reveal His plans for your life.
