Happy New Month! This month will be a glorious month for us all. God has been good. We just have six months to go this year! May God honour you and yours this month in Jesus’ name!
We all grow up with certain habits.
If they are healthy habits, praise God.
If they are unhealthy habits, you have a lot of stuff to confront and deal with.
Your habits eventually form you.
Your habits determine your attitude temperature.
For example, a person who grows up in a polygamous setting would have certain habits and outlook on life.
Such a person will be suspicious of everybody. Everybody is a suspect. The fighter in such a person is always on alert. The person lives with his attack and defense on overdrive all the time.
Now, those kinds of habits seem right because the person has had those habits for a long time.
But the reality is that the fact that you’ve had those habits for long does not make them right.
Let’s just pick one deadly habit that would ruin any relationship.
What exactly is it?
When you have a Whisperer as a friend!
Why Lovers Break Up
Proverbs 16:28 (KJV) A froward man soweth strife: and a whisperer separateth chief friends.
Wow! Read that again and again!
Let’s break this down.
I think the scriptures are just too loaded. And very practical.
God sure knows His children!!!
A froward man or troublemaker sows strife. We all know that strife is dangerous.
How does he do this?
He does this by “whispering”
A troublemaker sows strife as seed through words, whispering.
Beware of a whisperer.
The Yorubas have a not-too-nice name for it – “Gbeborun!”
A whisperer is ineffective until he or she has a fellow whisperer.
Never allow a whisperer to make you his dumping ground. You are not a refuse ground!
If you are in a relationship and you have a whisperer friend, that relationship may not last because the goal of the whisperer is to separate chief of friends.
His unwritten goal is to break that relationship.
Why Lovers Break Up
Who is a whisperer?
He or she is the gossip!
That is how the Message Translation describes it.
Proverbs 16:28 (MSG) Troublemakers start fights; gossips break up friendships.
Do you have a friend who is a gossip? Or are you the gossip?
You will unconsciously mess up your own relationship and others’ relationships if you are not careful.
A whisperer or gossip will end relationships.
The whisperer gossips about everybody, gossips about parents, pastors, friends, and just anybody.
One whisperer can throw a church apart because he or she doesn’t just talk, he SOWS strife and whatever is sown grows!
I will stop here this morning.
Once again, Happy New month… and well, say bye-bye to all whisperers as the new month begins.
Gen 2:24 (KJV) Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
The words “Leave” and “Cleave” stick out inside the above verse.
An understanding of these words will substantially help us in our marriage!
The word “Leave” means to loosen, relinquish, permit, and forsake
It is a complete departure. But it is in no way a disconnection.
The man has to do the leaving.
Without leaving, there’ll by no means be a successful marriage.
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All undue interference and manipulation from the dad and mom or in-laws ought to be minimized.
The word “Cleave” means cling or adhere; to catch by pursuit: – abide, follow close (hard, after), be joined (together), and pursue hard
Allegiance has to shift from parents to your spouse.
This is what marriage is.
Leaving To Cleave In Love
Your spouse comes first from the wedding day.
Your spouse takes precedence.
Your mum is another man’s wife, not your wife.
Your own spouse needs to be your priority.
Cleaving means to catch by pursuit, so you never stop pursuing your wife.
You keep at it, even after the wedding.
In the pursuit lies the cleaving.
The guy is to cleave unto HIS OWN wife!
Trying to cleave to some other guy’s spouse will bring in marital disaster.
It also means to follow close. Leaving To Cleave In Love
Be joined and connected to her emotionally and otherwise. When things appear not to be going right, you don’t give up. This is what it means to cleave.
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You don’t pack your stuff and start singing songs of divorce when there is a little provocation.
This is what cleaving is.
It is much like your relationship with God.
You are to cleave unto Him and not try to depart when matters seem not to be going your very own way.
Leaving God and refusing to cleave will complicate issues, and that is the same thing in marriage.
You are to cleave for life!
Any attempt to leave is a tearing part that would be painful.
Stay with each other no matter what.
Cleaving means that you are dedicated to each other.
It means sharing with each other on the deepest level.
It means enjoying each other and supplying warmth for yourselves.
Ecc 4:11 (KJV) Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone?
I pray that God will grant understanding.
Your marriage will not suffer a crisis.
Your marriage will not lose that godly steam.
I pray that God will pour new wine into your marriage and cause the love between you to come alive!
When You’re Ready for Marriage. Let’s take a look at some hints that show you are really ready for marriage.
1. You are not lonely.
This is because marriage is never the solution for loneliness. You can be married and be lonely! Ask some married folk. You are not ready for marriage if you are lonely. Adam was not lonely; he was alone. Loneliness and being alone are not the same thing.
Marriage is never meant to alleviate loneliness; rather, it is meant to supplement and provide companionship.
If you look up the word “helper,” you’ll see what I mean.
Genesis 2:18 (KJV) And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
The Amplified Bible calls it a helper and then expands on that word.
Genesis 2:18 (AMPC) Now the Lord God said, It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him.
When You’re Ready for Marriage
2. You are not looking for house help.
A woman is to be a helper rather than a house help The definitions have been established. They are not the same thing.
Depending on the circumstances, she can do the laundry, but she is not a dry cleaner or washing machine.
She hasn’t come to work her hands to the bone while her husband watches the news and football.
This is especially crucial now since there are so many career women.
If the young couple does not have housekeepers or anyone else to assist them, they must both face the labor and not delegate it to one side. This is what real love is!
This does not diminish the wife’s hard work and industriousness, as demonstrated by the virtuous woman, but it also does not render the husband superfluous in the home.
There should be “labor division” in love!
hen You’re Ready for Marriage
And this is why single should not spend weekends with boyfriends in order to secure a wedding.
That is not how it works.
You’ll have more sex (which is sinful) )and less meaningful conversations to develop your marital aspirations.
The time that should be spent getting to know each other and examining character flaws is instead spent wrapped up in each other’s embrace, in passionate sex, which is why difficulties arise after the wedding.
You never got to know that person with you on the bed.
Today we look at an important aspect for the wife. Why you should not close your spirit.
There might be reason to, you may be justified, you may think that is the only option, but I beg in you in the name of Jesus or let me just put it in Kings James Version, I Beseech you, Do not close your spirit!
In the event you have done so, pursue the path of healing and let God bring restoration!
Why should you? Here are a few reasons!
Why You Should Not Close Your Spirit
1. Hell, instead of Help
When you close your spirit against your husband, you simply welcome hell instead of providing the help that you are meant to be to your husband! This will not be your story in Jesus’ name!
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Joy will gradually wither, love will be feigned, life will become boring and a once excited and vivacious couple will become mere human caricatures, just going through the motions!
These will affect the entire family on a level you won’t appreciate! Do not close your spirit, rather resolve the issues!
Why You Should Not Close Your Spirit
2. Leaving, instead of Cleaving
Listen to me, dear wives, when you are joined together in holy matrimony, you actually become one flesh! Not one spirit. One flesh! The question is, how do you close yourself up to yourself? It’s literally impossible.
When you are “cleaved” already in marriage, it’s tearing apart when you try to “leave” and that comes with a lot of pain and anguish.
It will affect his finances and ultimately your finances. What you are meting out to him in the form of reactions will ultimately come back to you and the children. It’s not worth it!
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Why You Should Not Close Your Spirit
3. Vulnerable, instead of Enviable
You are meant to be an enviable couple, a model to others, and who others should look up to.
Closing up your spirit will impact you sexually, and that will even make you more vulnerable. Yielding to these vulnerabilities is like opening the door for the devil to cause even more havoc!
It is not worth it!
Go for counseling, therapy, or whatever you need to do so that you can heal and welcome peace back to your home! If you need some form of therapy, reach out to my wife and I and we might be able to help. By all means, do not keep quiet and continue t get bitter! You can’t afford bitterness!
Hebrews 12:15 (KJV) Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled;
See it amplified version
Hebrews 12:15 (AMPC) Exercise foresight and be on the watch to look [after one another], to see that no one falls back from and fails to secure God’s grace (His unmerited favor and spiritual blessing), in order that no root of resentment (rancor, bitterness, or hatred) shoots forth and causes trouble and bitter torment, and the many become contaminated and defiled by it–
Why Your Lover Can Close Her Spirit Part 2. We started on this series two days ago and we have looked at two other devotionals in the series. If you missed them, find them below.
This morning, we are looking at the second part of Why Your Lover Can Close Her Spirit. Let’s dive into it.
2. When you make her feel foolish and stupid.
When you constantly imply that your wife is ignorant and dumb, she will be hurt.
You don’t always say it, but it’s clear from your body language and the way you discard whatever she suggests.
Sometimes a husband will not even listen to her opinion.
She is to be seen rather than heard? That is never God’s intention for marriage.
In reality, she is your helper!
Only if you had listened to her “dumb” or “stupid” ideas would you have saved a lot of money sometimes!
She may not be logical, but she is instinctive.
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You know the man you want to partner with in business, but she will tell you based on an intuition that the man will mess things up. Yes, she won’t have facts but you will find out she is often right. It’s intuition.
She has no proof, no precedent, but she has intuition!
Don’t dismiss your her gut instinct!
Why Your Lover Can Close Her Spirit Part 2.
3. When you make her a laughingstock
If you make your wife the target of crude jokes in front of your friends and family, she will be hurt.
Only a foolish husband would do such a thing! You’re supposed to protect her and project her, not embarrass her at every turn!
Make it clear to everyone, especially your parents, that you are proud of your wife.
Biting words and mocking her about her weight and appearance will easily wound her.
Constantly harping on her flabby tummy will not result in a tummy tuck operation!
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Why Your Lover Can Close Her Spirit Part 2.
Take her to the gym or do a home workout with her!
She had that flabby tummy because she carried your baby in it for months, so treat her well!
And, dear lady, do all in your power to please your husband when he starts bugging you about your weight.
He is moved by what he sees! It is important to look your best not only for him but also for your health!
Why She Can Close Her Spirit. Yesterday, we looked at signs showing a wife has closed up her spirit against her husband.
We identified and explained the following five signs:
1. She begins to criticize you
2. You disagree on everything.
3. When she goes silent for several days
4. She pretends to be fatigued.
5. Her expression is always downcast.
These are surely not good places to be for the couple. Some of these tell-tale signs are also relevant even as singles in courtship, and you must seek counsel urgently when you notice any of them. It will be detrimental to ignore them and proceed to the wedding.
One of the most unpleasant points in a marriage is when a wife closes down her spirit.
Women are often more profound than men.
What a man may dismiss as a harmless jest may cause a lady to suffer for days.
What you believe is a joke could become a source of contention in your marriage if you are not careful.
Amo 3:3 (KJV) Can two walk together, except they be agreed?
How will they move forward, how will they grow, and how will progress be made until they agree?
Is Your Wife’s Spirit Closed?
When a wife closes her spirit, prayers become ineffective, fasting becomes ineffective, and God’s favor is not assured.
What are they?
What are the telltale symptoms that a wife’s spirit has closed?
If you can locate two or three of the following, you should pay attention to your marriage and your wife.
1. She begins to criticize you
She used to be a fan of yours. She used to approach problems objectively. She used to give advice in her own unique style. But, over time, if you see she is simply criticizing, without really considering what you are saying, she is undoubtedly upset.
2. You disagree on everything.
When nothing you say makes sense, she rejects anything you say, and she appears unwilling to agree with you on anything, she has most likely closed down her spirit.
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Is Your Wife’s Spirit Closed?
3. When she goes silent for several days
Something is wrong if your wife abruptly withdraws and says nothing, contributes nothing and appears withdrawn.
She becomes quiet and withdraws inside her shell to express her dissatisfaction.
4. She pretends to be fatigued.
When it comes to the time to make love, she gives one of two reasons.
She tries to avoid it, and when she can’t, she lies down and lets you do what you want, but she’s bored, sad, and disconnected.
While you’re doing this, she could nearly be reading a novel. It indicates that she is in pain.
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5. Her expression is always downcast.
Her facial expressions, countenance, and mien have changed from what they were.
Her formerly vibrant smile and excitement have all faded into apparent rage and pain on her face.
She lets you know she is uncomfortable and distant when you are with friends or people you respect.
These are symptoms that she is unhappy, in pain, injured, nursing emotional wounds, and that her spirit is quickly closing down.
This is not a good place for a husband to be because your spiritual efficacy will suffer, your oil will be depleted, and your productivity will suffer.
This is not a healthy situation for the wife since her susceptibility, as well as her husband’s vulnerability, will develop and they will be easily caught
It is not where God wants you to be as a wife.
After discussing the warning signals, what are the fundamental causes and how may they be avoided?
I pray that God would bring relief to every troubled marriage and that God will intervene and bring healing in Jesus’ name.
When To Think About Breaking Up. Should we call it quits or not?
I’ll give you some useful advice today. A little heartbreak is preferable to a lifetime of heartbreak. You might wish to thoroughly consider your choices while praying before making a choice. Keeping this in mind, decisions are what ultimately define us.
1. Keep your future and destiny in mind
When falling in love, it is crucial to keep the future in mind. Can you envision him or her in your future? Is faith in harmony? Are there tasks that must be completed jointly in destiny?
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2. Think about your genotype
As an illustration, AS and AS are off-limits. Avoid deep commitments before learning about your genetics.
A few days of suffering and heartbreak are preferable to a lifetime of suffering and regret.
When To Think About Breaking Up
3. If they have not repented of their sins
If he or she is an atheist or a believer who still engages in frequent sin and shows no sign of repentance. The things of God are treated lightly, and no attempts are being made to get closer to God. He or she is not a churchgoer. You might avoid having a regretful future if you break up.
4. If a person has numerous character defects
Although nobody is flawless, some character defects cannot be overlooked. A break would be preferable if the person abuses alcohol, tobacco, womanizing, fraud, or violence in any way.
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5. If the love isn’t genuine
A breakup is a better alternative if the love is imbalanced and he or she loves you for what he or she can obtain from you. The partnership has no genuine foundation.
When To Think About Breaking Up
6. If there is widespread parental and family opposition
If after prayers, attempts, and exhausting all feasible possibilities, there is still a strong parental disapproval despite prayers, you may wish to contemplate a breakup. In the long run, it may turn out to be direction.
Remember that as God’s child, He desires the best for us and our future.
Blunt truths about Intimacy are snippets culled from Kisses and Huggs Club Devotionals over the years. Today we continue from where we left off yesterday.
19. Ladies put up some electric fence around your bodies – a no-go zone to everybody except your husband
20. Ladies, you are not philanthropists. Stop donating your body to lustful escapades that will culminate in regret
21. There is a subtle dual operation of mammon spirit and perversion spirit you must violently resist in your life
22.. God created you in His image, not as an NGO. Stop all charitable acts of sex. Live with dignity and stay with your spouse
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23. You just met two hours ago. Now you are locked up in a sexual encounter. What a generation! Something is not quite right.
24. Intimacy is not for “settling” quarrels as singles. Verbal communication should not be replaced with sexual intimacy.
25. When you mess up, God wants you to own up and repent. Don’t be like Adam who offered God an excuse. Being truthful to God about your mistake engenders His mercy!
26. Now this is strange, when you ask God for forgiveness genuinely, He forgives and forgets! Total amnesia!
27. When you go back to ask for forgiveness again, He is wondering when that happened, because He already forgot!
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28. To all women that the crowd wants to stone, Jesus tells them, I don’t condemn you! Go and sin no more!
29. Can these bones live? Too far gone into a myriad of sexual perversion & yet God brings you back into His righteousness! The driest of bones can live again!
30. Her price is far above rubies… she would not sell her body or give in to sexual compromise because of some amount of money
31. A virtuous woman protects her husband by satisfying him always sexually. She does not defraud him.
32. A lady pays the price for sexual sanctity by saying No to pre-marital or adulterous sex
33. When you respect your body, others would have no choice but also to respect your body.
We are going to be looking at a lot things about Intimacy
These punchy truths are collected from KHC Devotional over time from different days. Enjoy!
1. Sex is created by God. God in His Holiness invented it and wanted man to enjoy this height of pleasure
2. God invented a protrusion in man and a receptacle in woman, beyond the incredible bonding, God had pleasure in mind
3. “And Adam knew his wife…” (Gen. 4:1) not his girlfriend. That was how God wanted it from the beginning. In Marriage! Stop playing boyfriend – girlfriend games and tantrums. It’s not scriptural.
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4. Any form of compromise points to some selfishness, there is no love in perversion
5. Intimacy remains a balm to married couples, but a killer to singles who lack self control.
6. Intimacy is a marital glue and bonding to couples. Sex before wedding is an illegal bonding with unhealthy soul ties.
7. A true child of God whose mind is renewed will not ask for pre marital sex. He recognises that God is not pleased with such
8. If he makes a mistake, he feels dirty & repents, never to go there again. This is different from a habitual sinner, who continually lives on the iniquity lane.
9. But if he doesn’t feel remorseful, then it wasn’t a mistake. It was deliberate. Something is wrong somewhere
10. A child of God will not be comfortable with repeated sexual mistakes, he will seek to stop and run like Joseph did.
11. Running is the smartest thing to do in an atmosphere of sexual pressure and temptation. Not speaking in tongues!
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12. You cannot be more holy or spiritual than God. If God says “Flee,” don’t say “Let’s reason together!
13. So, learn to run away! Use your legs. 5 minutes before there would be sex, both parties would unusually know
14. Iniquity is perpetuated in an atmosphere of secrecy. It takes a closed door to close up your destiny! Open that door!
15. Sex is different from love, or else every prostitute will fall in love with her client
16. Singles who have pre marital sex constantly end up confused and the relationship breaks, because of violating God’s principles.
17. Adultery makes you an adulterated specimen
18. Your body is good enough, you don’t need someone fondling it to accept this fact. No man or woman can affirm you
The second question is how Delilah eventually got Samson despite Samson knowing she planned to deliver him to his foes. You can see it straight now!
Jdg 16:16 KJV And it came to pass, when she pressed him daily with her words, and urged him, so that his soul was vexed unto death;
She pressed him with words!
Hullo There, My Name Is Delilah
The lesson is straightforward. If you notice that a person is not the kind to relate to, disconnect immediately. If you make some room, you will be inundated with ‘words!’
Words are like spirits!
You’ll be strained with words the moment you start going on harmless dates with that improper individual. Your spirit will be so troubled that before you know it, you’ll be cooperating with things that can harm you and jeopardize your relationship with God.
Run if he or she is not a child of God! Run if he or she is not your spouse! You will compromise if you allow yourself to be pressured with words! Before you know it, with words, you will let down your guards. How did Satan get Eve? With words. He didn’t need to put a gun to her head.
Married Couples! Do not go silent on each other. Use good words to constantly oil the engine of your marriage!
Hullo There, My Name Is Delilah
Delilah’s second card is seen below:
Jdg 16:15 MSG She said, “How can you say ‘I love you’ when you won’t even trust me? Three times now you’ve toyed with me, like a cat with a mouse, refusing to tell me the secret of your great strength.”
How many times have you done this?
How many times have you heard that from guys or ladies in a courtship requesting pre-marital sex?
“If you truly love me, bla…bla…bla.”
I’ve given you two techniques utilized to ‘complete’ Samson’s fate!
Learn from their experience. For the wise, a single word suffices. God grant you the wisdom and strength to flee every ‘Delilah’ in your life!
My Name Is Delilah. Samson and Delilah’s story never ceases to fascinate me. Samson was called, anointed, and assigned by God. He was among the fortunate few whose birth was announced by an angel! That was the significance of his birth and assignment.
He did, however, have a dreadful weakness: women! Samson had a penchant for women. When he saw a woman, he would utterly lose his bearings. His erection would become his direction.
Jdg 16:1 KJV Then went Samson to Gaza, and saw there a harlot, and went in unto her.
When it came to girls, he was uncontrollable! Despite being anointed and appointed, he later proved to be a failure since he refused to address his shortcoming.
He was so disorganized that all it took for him to lose his bearing was to ‘see’ a woman. He once saw a lady and couldn’t speak correctly! “…get her for me to wife!” he exclaimed.
Jdg 14:2 KJV And he came up, and told his father and his mother, and said, I have seen a woman in Timnath of the daughters of the Philistines: now therefore get her for me to wife.
My Name Is Delilah
Samson was the type of person he was. The end result? His eyes had been gouged out, and he had been caught off guard in the middle of his days.
Delilah sought to learn the secret of Samson’s power in order to kill him. Samson was well aware of Delilah’s desire.
Samson tricked Delilah three times about the secret of his power, and each time the Philistines came to murder him, so Samson understood exactly what Delilah’s aim was. Nonetheless, he clung to Delilah and refused to let go.
How many of us are in this situation right now? We find ourselves in an unholy relationship that we know is deeply flawed, but we refuse to let go!
You fall in love with someone who continuously abuses you, yet you do not flee for your life. You fall in love with someone who isn’t in love with you.
You fall in love with someone who does not value you.
You fall in love with someone who beats you up at the slightest provocation, and yet you cling to that connection.
You can see that the person you’re madly in love with is taking you straight to hell, but you still cling to them. You can see that the person you love is preparing to expose you to the world of illegal drug use, but you continue to express your love!
You can tell that the person you met at church is not a true child of God based on what he or she has done to and with you, but you refuse to listen to warnings.
My Name Is Delilah
My suggestion to you this morning is straightforward. Don’t end up like Samson.
You have a gift; don’t waste it by begging God to let you die!
Don’t let it lead to you being delivered right into the hands of your adversaries. Don’t let it get so bad that your spiritual eyes are severed and you can’t see the perfect law of liberty!
Don’t let the brother or sister who has been greatly utilized by God become a pitiful sight to behold.
Escape for your life! If Samson had fled, he could have been rescued. However, his lack of discipline led to his death. Flee! That is what the Bible says. When the Bible says to run, don’t say, ‘Let’s reason together!’
Now, This You Should Do. One of the greatest things every couple should do is pray!
This is so important, and how I wish you can understand the weight of it.
But before I go on, I want to appreciate everybody for the show of love for Father’s Day and all the wishes.
Such a joy that so many lives are being touched by our ministry.
However, as Apostle Paul said, Pray for us and continue to pray for us. Every day, mention us in your prayers. Our ministry is so significant to many lives, many relationships, and many marriages, so many people let me know this is the only devotional they have been using for years… the devil is not going to be happy about that and he would try a lot of things just as he has been trying all kind of stuff.
But he is defeated; continue to pray for us, for our home, family, children, marriage, finances, and ministry.
It has not been easy doing this, writing daily for more than sixteen years strengthening homes and families at no cost. You will never have an idea about the price we have to pay to keep this on. The enemy has tried all kinds of things and attacks, he has attacked us on every level, finances, health, our marriage, and all.
The scripture says we should not be ignorant.
So I am saying like Apostle Paul, Pray for us! Every time you read a devotional, single or married, and you get blessed, remember us in your prayers. Pray for our home.
Pray for the ministry, of which you are a part.
Pray for our finances.
Now, This You Should Do!
1 Thessalonians 5:25 (KJV) Brethren, PRAY FOR US.
2 Thessalonians 3:1 (KJV) Finally, brethren, PRAY FOR US, that the word of the Lord may have free course, and be glorified, even as it is with you:
Hebrews 13:18 (KJV) PRAY FOR US: for we trust we have a good conscience, in all things willing to live honestly.
Just as you expect the devotionals to come daily and some of you will even chat me up if it’s coming late, can I also expect that you lift us up in prayers?
Somebody once commented offline, that who are these pastors that churn out devotionals every day and it comes in the emails as if they are robots?
Well, we are not robots. We are human, so human. With all the attendant needs and weaknesses!
Now, This You Should Do!
So, continue to pray for us. It would be a pride and spiritual cockiness not to ask for prayers.
In the same vein, never cease to sow words of prayers into your marriages
Don’t stop praying, especially praying in the Holy Ghost.
Keep sowing words of prayers into your marriage.
Keep firing. Never let the fire die.
Stay on the same page.
Avoid strife like a plague.
I pray for you this morning, dear members and partners of KHC, your faith will not fail you in Jesus’ name!
God will keep you!
He will uphold you.
He will honor you!
Your home will be blessed.
Ìpónjú kò ní ba yín! (You will not be frustrated or disconcerted)
E ò ní sì se! (You will not end in an error!)
Aso ègàn kò ní jé tiyín lórúko Jesù (Shame will not be your portion in Jesus name!)
Step Out Of The Rushing Traffic. You’re not married? Cool. Are you single and desperate to marry? That’s not cool. Are you single and praying to God for a nice spouse? Cool.
Are you single and willing to hook up with anyone who comes along? That’s not cool.
One of the most important decisions you must make as a single is to avoid using the haste mode. We frequently become desperate as a result of the stresses we face.
Mothers who wish to modify their status and add “grand” to become grandmothers are unintentionally pressuring you!
“This is my back, eheen, I will use it to carry your baby before I die!”
Does this sound familiar?
These and other factors can cause you to make poor decisions. You must maintain your cool.
Step Out Of The Rushing Traffic
This is the counsel I have for you this morning. Psalms 46:10 (KJV) Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth.
In your patience, God moves faster. Your patience indicates your agreement with the divine marital goal.
Even if it appears that time is passing, I trust in you, God, to set all things right in your own time. I abandon my timetable in favor of the divine purpose!
Psalms 46:10 (MSG) “Step out of the traffic! Take a long, loving look at me, your High God, above politics, above everything.”
Step Out Of The Rushing Traffic
Step away from the congested streets that often lead nowhere. When you get out of that traffic, you’ll realize that God is in control of your circumstance.
As long as you are desperate, you are telling God that He is too slow and that you can figure it out on your own. Allow God to be God!
That’s how it should be. That’s how sweet it is.
Today, may your relationship and marriage be blessed!
My God will keep and strengthen you to carry out His will. You will be the last to laugh.
Delving into the Magic of True Love. One of the questions I asked God was, “How do I know which of the millions of guys on the planet truly loves me?” In my seriousness, I asked God to help me discern who the guy is who truly loves me. God did it. The rest is today’s narrative. True love discovered me.
The question is, how do you know whether you’ve found true love? Everyone will tell you that you should never marry someone who does not sincerely love you. This morning, I’ll teach you how to recognize true love. You can use a litmus test to determine true love. Singles can use this as a guide. Couples can use this to develop their love more!
True love can be detected no matter how well it hides itself.
Don’t fall in love with anyone until you’ve put what appears to be love to the test.
Delving into the Magic of True Love
1. There will be commitment, not just feelings if it is true love.
Many people are persuaded, but how dedicated are they to you?
Commitment necessitates sacrifice. Is he or she prepared to make a sacrifice for you? The more the sacrifice, the greater the sincerity of the love. He doesn’t actually love you if he exhibits no signals of commitment.
It is not difficult to determine commitment; merely look for his/her commitment in small things. How devoted is he to the partnership and to your personal well-being?
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2. There will be tranquility if it is sincere love.
Peace is a solid indicator that God has approved you. There is peace in pure love – nothing is missing or broken. Peace is the umpire who gives you the green light to proceed.
This tranquility is both spiritual and natural. True love is absent in situations where there is constant turbulence, strife, dispute, and abuse. If he or she loves you, he or she will desire peace.
Colossians 3:15 (AMPC) And let the peace (soul harmony which comes) from Christ rule (act as umpire continually) in your hearts [deciding and settling with finality all questions that arise in your minds, in that peaceful state] to which as [members of Christ’s] one body you were also called [to live]. And be thankful (appreciative), [giving praise to God always].
Delving into the Magic of True Love
3. True love is quick to forgive.
True love exists where there is forgiveness. True love covers a plethora of sins. If he or she is constantly picking on every small mistake you make, the love is not genuine.
True love finds it easy to forgive and to seek pardon. A real “I am sorry” is an indication of deep affection. If he or she constantly puts you on the spot and is critical or judgmental of you, it’s not true love.
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4. Communication will be effortless if it is pure love.
The love isn’t genuine if he/she claims to love you but hasn’t called you in three weeks. True love appreciates conversing with the person he loves. Silence and boredom are not signs of deep love. True love never regards communication as a chore. When conversing becomes pleasurable, you know you’re in love.
5. Pre-marital sex is never required by true love.
If they truly love you, they will not ask for or demand sex. They will rather want to wait till after the wedding. Whether it is an outright demand, a subtle demand, a polite or deceptive request, sex outside of marriage is a shred of solid evidence that the love is not true according to God’s standard.
Some people mistakenly feel that pre-marital sex is what proves and solidifies true love. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Lovers Who Are Thieves and Robbers. Not all lovers genuinely want to love or are in love. Some people are nothing more than thieves. They only care about your ATM card.
They are not in love with you, but rather with your money.
They understand that what you want to hear is “love,” so they are willing to tell you what you want to hear in order to obtain what they want.
There is no link to the heart.
They can’t feel your pulse and are only interested in your purse.
Because it is based on lies and greed, this form of relationship is faulty and unhealthy.
Lovers Who Are Thieves and Robbers
Now the question is, how do you recognize these types of lovers?
You certainly want to avoid such people.
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Let us now examine the scriptures.
John 10:1 (KJV) Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that entereth not by the door into the sheepfold, but climbeth up some other way, the same is a thief and a robber.
Jesus is defining a thief and a robber in this passage.
A thief or robber might be identified by the way he enters your life.
The door represents the proper place of entry.
Attempting to utilize other places as entrances into a place is prohibited and, of course, may have a hidden motive.
Lovers Who Are Thieves and Robbers
Did that lover enter through the front door?
Did he knock on your heart’s door, or is he attempting to barge inside your emotions?
Did he wait for your reaction after knocking on your heart’s door, or did he go ahead and brutally shatter the door regardless of your response?
Is he willing to wait for you to open the door, or is he set on desecrating you before the wedding?
Is she willing to love you for who you are, or is she more interested in “climbing” into your purse with her body?
Is he or she implying that once you have feelings for yourselves, you don’t have to use the door, that you may leap the fence, compromise, smash down the door, throw away the key, and enter via the window, and so on?
If you are not careful, the one who is ready to tear down the door will also break down your heart.
A thief or robber is someone who is eager to “climb” without first following the proper procedure.
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Remember how your lover used to climb through the window to avoid your parents?
Similarly, a thief and robber is someone who conceals his plans from your parents. He is not prepared to marry! He’d be hesitant to meet your folks!
Should you ever fall in love with a thief or a robber?
Did he enter your life suddenly? A robber and a thief?
He claims you don’t need to include authoritative figures all the way? A robber and a thief!
I could go on, but I’m sure you get the idea!
May God guide and bless your marriage as you endeavor to follow His intentions for you.
