Don’t Marry The Flash. He wants to marry you because you are too beautiful, hours after meeting. He says you are the best thing that has ever happened to him, hours after meeting. Mr. Flash, slow down, it doesn’t work like that.
Who is the Flash? The flash is a scientist named Barry Allen who acquired super speed through a freak accident and becomes the fastest man alive.
Why shouldn’t you marry him? Beware of that guy who wants to sleep with you minutes after meeting you.
He is not interested in your person, he is only interested in your body. Those are two different things entirely. How does a person want to quickly sleep with the lady he just met? Something is out of place with that proclivity.
Knowing a person requires time. Besides, in this kingdom, we don’t compromise before the wedding! The moment he is rushing you, be careful. It takes time to know a person. Knowing a person requires time and several conversations!
You cannot fall in love with a person you barely know. There is a difference between love and lust.
Mr. Flash is driven by hormonal rushes. He’s had so many quick relationships that never worked out. He is the type that can ask three ladies out in one day. He is quick, nimble, and daring.
He is the type that convinces a lady he meets on the bus to follow him home and they are together for the next few weeks, sleeping together with a person he barely knows.
Once you see a flash in that guy, that is all it is, a flash, never a call.
People who hurry too much to arrive will also depart hurriedly.
Pro 21:5 (MSG) Careful planning puts you ahead in the long run; hurry and scurry puts you further behind.
Whenever it is too fast, and everybody is warning you, slow down and pray again.
Beware of the Flash!
Jer 2:25a (MSG) “Slow down. Take a deep breath. What’s the hurry? Why wear yourself out? Just what are you after anyway?
The Flash wants to marry you weeks after meeting you. A lot of ladies fall into this trap only to end up in a solo song titled, “He was not like this!” But the reality was that you never knew him.
Time is a tool to prove authenticity. Time reveals. Time exposes. Waiting on God to seek His face as regards that man will eventually put you ahead in life.
I conclude with this scripture!
Psa 46:10 (MSG) “Step out of the traffic! Take a long, loving look at me, your High God, above politics, above everything.”
In being still, you will know God, you will know His plan for you and you will avoid a whole lot of heartache.
I pray that God will give you more understanding in Jesus’ name. You will not be too hasty, but you will cooperate with God’s speed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not in a hurry. I am patient for God’s best.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, deliver me from unnecessary haste.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ps 46:10 ESV “Be still, and know that I am God. I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth!”
One Man You Should Not Marry Is A Thanos. Today, we are looking at Thanos
Who is the “Thanos” husband? And why should you avoid such?
Thanos was a genocidal warlord from Titan, whose main goal was to bring stability to the world by wiping out half of all lives.
His objective to bring stability and peace is good. But his method is destructive. Thanos wants to bring peace by destroying lives.
Thanos kind of husband doesn’t mind crushing you to have his way.
Your emotions mean nothing to him, as long as his selfish objectives are achieved.
He is that guy who has paid for several abortions, terminating several conceptions because he doesn’t like using protection.
Run from Thanos. He doesn’t mind putting your womb at risk as long as his rush of adrenaline is satiated.
The reality is as singles, condom or not, sin is sin.
One Man You Should Not Marry Is A Thanos. The Bible warns against evil men!
Pro 2:11-12 (KJV) Discretion shall preserve thee, understanding shall keep thee: [12] To deliver thee from the way of the evil man, from the man that speaketh froward things;
Perhaps Thanos’ greatest ability is his capacity to rise from the dead. He can accomplish this by sacrificing others so he can live again, recharging his inner strength, so as to return more powerful and terrible than he was before.
Thanos kind of husband has no mercy for ladies. They are just tools for him, objects of sex, and nothing more.
He is the husband who will make advances on his wife’s siblings and who has no sexual decorum in any way. Thanos kind of husband believes there are too many ladies, and you can do whatever you want with them.
Thanos is also known for being manipulative. He is the husband who will manipulate you and make you feel guilty for what you never did.
He is the husband who makes you crawl on your knees to apologize whereas he is the culprit.
One Man You Should Not Marry Is A Thanos. Run from every Thanos, dear singles.
How do you know him as Singles?
Manipulation. Deceit. No regard for God.
Wants to sleep with you and you ask, what if I get pregnant? In the coldest unemotional voice possible, he retorts, “you’ll do the normal!” Abortion is normal to him!
Thanos has no mercy.
He will beat you up at the slightest provocation.
Physically, Thanos in movies stands above the average human with powerful muscles, a broad face, and a purple-hued skin tone.
You can’t match his strength. His potential wife or wife will have several black-eye moments, several bumps on the face, the result of brutality within sexuality.
Don’t put up with Thanos! Run!
I pray for you today, your path will not cross with evil men.
Good morning.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My path will not cross with evil lovers
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, deliver me from every evil relationship.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Prov 2:11-12 NLT Wise choices will watch over you. Understanding will keep you safe. Wisdom will save you from evil people, from those whose words are twisted.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Pray in the spirit over your relationship
This morning, we will be looking at the Ten Commandments For Lovers Part 2
3. Thou shalt not take the name of the LORD thy God in vain;
This is the third of ten commandments for lovers. They say you don’t know the value of something until you lose it. It doesn’t have to be your experience. Don’t take your partner’s love and commitment to the relationship for granted. Don’t be so used to each other that you expect nothing new anymore. If you are led to each other by God, then be committed to the relationship.
4. Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy. To our brothers, remember her birthday to keep it holy. Ladies have a thing with dates. Significant dates like anniversaries, birthdays, the day she said yes etc may mean nothing to you but means a lot to her. If you need to set a reminder, please do.
Make such days memorable and use them as an opportunity to be good to the one you profess to love.
5. Honour thy father and thy mother Don’t fall in love and then disregard your parents. Respect her parents the same way you respect yours. Carry your pastors along; they are your spiritual parents. Give to your parents, pastors and mentors of your substance, that’s part of honour.
Ensure you have a mentor over your relationship. Good mentors save your from tormentors of life.
6. Thou shalt not kill. Don’t kill your relationship. Don’t always shut her up. Don’t ask her for sex. Don’t pressurize him to fix a wedding date. Don’t stop communicating. Now that she has said yes, don’t stop wooing her. Don’t dress provocatively when paying him a visit. You will kill him before you know it.
Do not sow wrong seeds into your relationship, because you always reap what you sow. Here is The Ten Commandments For Lovers Part 2. Tomorrow, we will look at Part 3
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be careless with my relationship with God
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, uphold me to seek you always
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Isa 45:19 (KJV) I have not spoken in secret, in a dark place of the earth: I said not unto the seed of Jacob, Seek ye me in vain: I the LORD speak righteousness, I declare things that are right.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Have a heart to heart discussion with your lover concerning serving God
The Ten Commandments For Lovers. If the 10 commandments were written in the contemporary world, specifically for lovers, what would they look like? Let’s delve into it this morning!
The is not an attempt to change the ten commandments, no those are sacrosanct. This is just a creative way to apply them to our love life and creatively learn from them.
1. Thou shalt have no other gods before me. This is the first of the ten commandments for lovers. This means you should not double-date. Don’t add another bone to the bone God has given you. Set your face like a flint and concentrate on your partner. One god is good enough in God’s injunctions. Even the traditionalist are focused.
One guy in Abuja and another in Lagos while going out with both is not God’s idea. One babe in Canada and the other in Nigeria, while professing love to both at the same time is never the style of the kingdom.
One young man to supply gadgets and an elderly rich man to supply cash is trying to eat your cake and have it. These actions are strange to the kingdom!
2. Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image This is the second of the ten commandments for lovers. This means don’t idolize anything, including your relationship. Not your family, not your career, not your friends. Your walk with God should not suffer because you fell in love. Your lover should not become a graven image to replace God.
In your attempt to do that, you may end up losing that lover. God is to be worshipped, your lover is to be loved, don’t get it twisted. Your lover is never to be worshipped. Your lover cannot be your god.
You fell in love and you stopped reading your Bible? It’s not a good idea. Thinking all day about your lover has replaced meditation in God’s word. Not cool at all.
You used to send scriptures that bless you to friends, now you are sending pictures; nude pictures to your lover! That contravenes the kingdom lifestyle!
I will stop here this morning. To be continued tomorrow.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am focused on my relationship.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to focus on my partner.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Isaiah 50:7 (KJV) For the Lord GOD will help me; therefore shall I not be confounded: therefore have I set my face like a flint, and I know that I shall not be ashamed.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Write out all the good things in your partner.
How To Have A Blast and Still Be Blessed. Sally and George were so deeply in love! However, George wanted Sally to do certain things for him which were like crossing the red line for Sally. Sally was caught in the middle. She so much loved George but she also adored God. It was a tug of war between the flesh and the spirit.
Can one really have a blast and still be blessed? Yeah, right! You can have a blast and still be blessed in your relationship! You can have a blast in your relationship without displeasing God or losing His favour in the process.
Sally was confused. She wept severally because she loved George and she loved God. She knew she had to drop one. It was a hard decision for her. The thought of dropping George seemed suicidal. The thought of dropping God is pure hell. What would she do?
As she sat in my office seeking counsel, I had compassion for her. I knew what to tell her, but I prayed for a pearl of wisdom for the right vehicle for my words to avoid a destiny accident. Love issues can be very tricky!
“Pastor, what should I do?” I looked at her. Her mien was that of one who knows what to do but lacks the strength to do so.
“Have you been sexually involved?” I asked her
She hesitated. Her head bowed, her countenance taking a duck, I knew the answer right away!
Sheepishly, she said “Yes Pastor, but we asked for forgiveness!”
“I am not here to condemn you daughter” I chipped in so that guilt will not convolute the conversation and the devil will not explore that loophole.
“It was only five times,” she said,
“Okay, my daughter.”
“You are in a battle between your soul and your flesh. The flesh wants George. Your soul needs God. The confusion is there because there has been a compromise. Every time there is a compromise, the soul gets confused.
“Think about this daughter. George is the lover of your flesh. God is the lover of your soul. To know what to do, you have to get into your spirit. The struggle is real but the truth is there.
Gal 5:17a (MKJV For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh.
Don’t be in a rush. God is not an author of confusion. Take some time and have a sincere conversation with God. I don’t want to call it prayer. Just talk to God. From your spirit, your belly, in your knower, you will know the truth, and when you know what to do, however painful it might seem, take that decision.
Let me warn you, emotionally, it won’t be easy, but eternally, it will be a blessing!
Remember this, God knows best! He will never lead you wrong and He will never abandon you!” The safest place to be is God’s side! This is How To Have A Blast and Still Be Blessed
“Thanks, Pastor.”
As she stood up to leave, I added, “I think the greatest misery a person can find himself is to seek pleasing his lover while displeasing God. Things are going to get awry quickly.
“I understand sir,” she said.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not disappoint God.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, help me to the needful and not just listen my flesh
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Gal 5:16-17 (MKJV) I say, then, Walk in the Spirit and you shall not fulfill the lusts of the flesh. [17] For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh. And these are contrary to one another; lest whatever you may will, these things you do.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Decide for God, and not for your flesh!
