by Rev Dunamis Okunowo | Nov 16, 2022 | Singles and Married
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Spirituality And Reality Of Soul Ties. Sally and George have been engaged for only three months. But in the short time they were together, they could not remember as many times as they had been intimate. When they quarreled after three months, they parted ways and went differently.
Somehow they kept thinking of each other. They had moved on differently and each of them even have new relationships but they kept on thinking of each other.
What happened to them? Why couldn’t they move on? Spirituality And Reality Of Soul Ties
The Johnsons, on the other hand, married a few months back and have their issues as well. Mr. Johnson couldn’t enjoy intimacy with his wife without importing the thoughts and images of his exes. He would have to disconnect from his wife and reconnect in his mind to a certain ex before he can reach the crescendo.
What was his issue? Spirituality And Reality Of Soul Ties
Sexual intimacy is created by God for your enjoyment and to bring you closer to marriage. It is the highest level of knowing your spouse. God is so particular about it that He said you must not deny or defraud each other. In other words, satisfy each other.
As a matter of fact, when you starve each other of this great blessing that God has afforded you, you actually make yourselves vulnerable. And the devil is quick to set up such traps in offices and anywhere. So, married couples, learn to satisfy each other, that is exactly what God wants.
The issue that Mr.Johnson has is called soul ties with previous lovers.
For Sally and George, the reality is that they have what is called a “soul tie!”
This is what pre-marital intimacy does! How does this happen? Spirituality And Reality Of Soul Ties
In marriage, it brings a bonding between the couple, because that is one of the purposes of intimacy. It cements the couple and joins them together at the highest possible level. Their souls become knitted together. They become one. They are glued together, and God says nobody should put them asunder.
But in intimacy outside marriage, there is also a bonding. It is just that it is another kind of bonding. It is an illegal bonding that gives access to the operation of demonic entities in one’s life. It is called soul ties.
This is what the scripture is talking about here:
“Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.” (1Co 6:15-16, KJV)
Can you see that?
In pre-marital intimacy, the two people also become one body! They are not married, but there is an illegal bonding that gives access to legal operations of demonic activities because of disobedience.
Message Translation puts it this way:
“There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, “The two become one.”” (1Co 6:16, MSG)
So we see that this is spiritual. As a matter of fact, when you get involved with someone, you are actually having intimacy with everybody that person has had intimacy with! It is not uncommon to see a person suddenly stealing after being intimate with someone that steals!
There is nothing like casual sex. Nothing is casual about it, it is spiritual. There is nothing like a one-night stand. One night stand can lead to an eternity of woes and damnation.
There is nothing like a quickie outside marriage. One quickie and one’s destiny can be quickly set back by five years or more!
This is just the reality! Spirituality And Reality Of Soul Ties
How do you break soul ties from past sexual mistakes?
1. Ask God to forgive you for the mistake
2. Repent and make up your mind not to do it again.
3. Fast and pray and ask God to severe every bonding and soul ties
4. Disconnect from such a person. Stop all the calls and chats
5. Psalm 23 says, “He restoreth my soul!” Ask God to restore your soul
6. Stop living in sin. Jesus told that woman, “Go and sin no more!”
7. Patiently wait for the salvation of God in your relationship. Don’t be hasty. Cooperate with God’s plan.
8. Believe that God has a plan for you and that the plan will become a reality.
9. Keep reading and studying God’s word. Your mind will be renewed over time. For example, if you can follow this devotional consistently, your mind will be renewed in this area and you will get to know a lot of things and be prepared for marriage and as married. A lot of people have testified to that.
I pray for you this morning that God will grant you more understanding.
Right now, I break every form of soul ties that may exist in Jesus’ name. I destroy every plan of hell over your destiny, I declare you free from consequences of past mistakes and I ask in the name of Jesus and by the power of the Holy Spirit that your soul be restored now to God’s desire for you as an individual and in your relationship/marriage….in Jesus name! Spirituality And Reality Of Soul Ties
by Rev Dunamis Okunowo | Nov 15, 2022 | Singles and Married
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This Is For Every Lady And Wife. Yesterday, I started writing about how to know if he will not marry you. I will conclude today and I will be writing to singles and married.
4. Authority figures are involved
This Is For Every Lady And Wife
For wives, the greatest thing you can encourage your husband to do is to make sure he submits to at least one authority figure! Such a person will be a mutual mentor to both of you whom you can listen to. There will be days you will need somebody like that to speak into your lives.
Singles, you can be very sure he will not marry you eventually if he avoids any authority figures in your plans.
“Don’t let’s talk to our parents now.”
“I don’t want pastors to know for now.”
“Let’s keep this between the two of us only.”
A relationship like this that is isolated and exists only between the two of you is the easiest to end. This Is For Every Lady And Wife
5. Perpetual life of unfaithfulness
Dear wives, do you suspect your spouse is cheating on you? Your response is important at this time.
Fighting, resorting to anger, retaliating by going out too, and such attitudes would not help. The best you can do is to have your spouse’s back which will begin with him being sincere! Sincerity shows a window for repentance. Denial is a bad sign. Talk. Communicate. Seek help.
“But pastor I don’t want to expose him?”
Well, he will soon expose you if you are not careful and everybody will blame you why you kept quiet and allowing fire to keep burning on the roof of your house!
For singles, you have discovered more than once that he is cheating on you. He keeps begging you that he won’t do it again. But you keep discovering from time to time.
The question is what are you doing with such a person? It is just a matter of time. If somebody is committed to you, he will focus on you.
Let’s even assume he gets married to you. He has been trained to be unfaithful, so you will need to live with that.
And then when you catch him again after marriage, he drops the bomb,
“But you know me before you got married to me! These girls are always disturbing me, what do you want me to do?”
He just told you that you will have to live with it.
May God bless our relationships and marriages. This Is For Every Lady And Wife
by Rev Dunamis Okunowo | Nov 14, 2022 | Singles and Married
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How To Know If He Won’t Marry You. Sally was downcast. Her whole world seemed to have fallen apart. In the past few hours, she has wept, lamented, and even considered suicide.
She could not believe what happened earlier in the day. Her husband-to-be, whom she loved unreservedly with all her heart, told her that he is no longer interested in marriage.
No reasons, no explanation, and that was it.
For once, she regretted that she allowed him to have sex with her severally. She felt so used and dumped that she couldn’t even pray. She felt small to even approach God in the place of prayers.
She thought about the mockery that would attend to her from friends and foes. She really loved Ade, and there was nothing that suggested that he would make such a shocking decision.
As she sat before the mirror in her room, she suddenly hated the whole idea of marriage. She looked at herself and concluded, “Maybe I am not beautiful enough.”
She even hated God as well. Why would God allow such a thing to happen to her, of all people?
What Sally doesn’t know is that the tell-tale signs have always been there that something like that would happen, but she didn’t take heed.
The second thing she doesn’t know is that pre-marital sex brings confusion into a relationship and you lose your sense of judgment and discernment because of illegal bonding and soul ties.
What are some of the tell-tale signs that a man would dump you later? What are the subtle signs?
How To Know If He Won’t Marry You. I will be talking to singles and married.
1. He will keep on telling you what you want to hear in order to keep you as long as he wants
He has your password. He knows what to say to keep you begging when there are quarrels even when he is obviously in the wrong. He knows how to manipulate your emotions to his advantage. He will always tell you what you need to hear. In fact, he enjoys quarreling with you because he knows you will always come begging, and begging will always culminate in sex
Ladies that fall to this gimmick often have low self-esteem. The guy is logical and he can see that, so he starts feeding that self-esteem in order to keep getting sex
For married couples, you must keep keep telling each the truth, but in love! Be naked before each other and don’t entertain sinister thoughts about each other because of hurts
How To Know If He Won’t Marry You
2. He will evade discussions on wedding plans
He will try as much as possible to evade discussions on wedding plans. If you trouble him enough, he will give you a date that he would not be committed to.
One other way he does that is to get angry whenever you raise the issue of a wedding and settling down.
Since you love him and you don’t want him to get angry again, you too will avoid it as much as possible discussing such again.
It is a sign that anything can happen.
For married, do not evade meaningful discussions. This is the oil of your marital engine. Keep on talking and don’t increase your vulnerabilities with silence and withdrawal
How To Know If He Won’t Marry You
3. He will never make commitments
When you ask him directly about plans, he will tactically avoid your question with no direct answers. You will spend two hours talking and yet there is no headway. He knows what he is doing. His mind is not made up.
When a guy’s mind is not made up, he would not talk, or at most he would tell you lies.
And because you are in love, you so easily believe the lies. But if you think deeply, you will know that something is wrong somewhere.
Married couples, be committed to each other! Focus on one another as no other person exists. Please each other after pleasing God! May God bless your marriage!
I will conclude this tomorrow!
by Rev Dunamis Okunowo | Nov 13, 2022 | Singles and Married
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Mercy Said No! Listen to me, you are a candidate for God’s mercy, as long as you are God’s child.
Thank God for His mercies.
Do you remember that song by CeCe Winans? “Mercy said No”
The devil said you will not live long, but mercy said “No!”
The devil said you won’t get married, but mercy said “No!”
The devil said you won’t have children, but mercy said “No!”
As a young man preparing for marriage in the nineties, the devil said to me, that I would not be able to father children, but mercy said “No!” Today, God has given us three boys! Mercy Said No!
The devil told Joseph he won’t realize his dreams, but mercy said “No!
The devil wanted to snuff out the life of Jesus as a baby, but mercy said “No!”
At a time, it looked like it was over for me in ministry when I made a decision to quit pastoring a local assembly and obey God in starting an online ministry, and I thought it was over too, but mercy said “No!”
They said you will not graduate, but mercy said “No!”
They said you are good for nothing, but mercy said “No!
They said you are not fine, but mercy said “No!” You ended up getting a fine spouse!
They said you will be poor forever, but mercy said “No!”
The devil thought he would end your life because of that mistake you made, but mercy said “No!”
The prodigal son thought it was over for him as he ate the portion that belonged to the pigs, but mercy said “No!
They threw Apostle John into a drum of boiling oil, to fry him alive but mercy said “No!” He just wouldn’t die!
Listen to me, it is too late for the devil. Mercy covers you. Mercy is speaking for you before God. Jesus took His blood, the offering carried by the offerer, and sprinkled all of it on the mercy seat, just because of you.
Where are you this morning? Let the mercy of God locate you. Let that mercy speak for you!
I see God’s mercy bailing you out. Yes, you messed up quite alright, but His mercy will bring out a message from that mess.
Let hope come alive in your spirit this morning. Mercy is here! Mercy is for you and that mercy is holding you by the hand.
“ARISE [ from the depression and prostration in which circumstances have kept you—rise to a new life ]! Shine (be radiant with the glory of the Lord), for your light has come, and the glory of the Lord has risen upon you! [ Zec 8:23 ]” (Isa 60:1, AMP)
Arise Now! It is not over. That jilting experience cannot define you. That abandonment does not qualify you, because of His Mercies! What if you lost all the money? Start over because of His Mercies!
Rise to a new life! I curse that spirit of depression and despondency right now that seeks to pull your head down! Rise up into the newness of God and Shine!
Can you shout “Mercy?!” Mercy Said No!
by Rev Dunamis Okunowo | Nov 12, 2022 | Singles and Married
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How To Stop Negative Thoughts. How do you stop negative thoughts from ruining your relationship or marriage as single or married? Too many a relationship and marriages have been ruined by the kinds of thoughts that were entertained.
Thoughts are so powerful that they will eventually overwhelm your life and give your life direction.
Thoughts can be so healthy that they would drive sicknesses away. Thoughts can be so sickening to the point of physical paralysis.
How do you convince a man or woman to become a suicide bomber? They simply work on the thought realm. Once the person embraces the proposition in the thought realm, the rest is easy.
Why would a man jump into a river, commit suicide, and end it all? He has first done so in the thought realm, he only acted out what he had done.
Such is the power of your mind.
No wonder, the method through which God will change you daily into becoming who He wants you to be is through the renewal of your mind.
“And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” (Rom 12:2, KJV)
Transformation comes as a child of God as you read, study, and meditate on God’s word.
In the same way, the method that the devil would use if he wants to ruin a relationship or marriage is through thoughts. Precisely, negative thoughts and lies!
All the quarrels in a relationship and marriage first of all start in your thoughts. When you are negative-minded and full of doubts and mistrust, the relationship or marriage in question will be shaky.
When you are negative-minded, you will misinterpret every effort of your spouse. You will suspect every move and you will not give your spouse breathing space.
The next question is how do you stop negative thoughts?
Let’s take a look at the process.
“For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh: (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;” (2Co 10:3-5, KJV)
1. “For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh
Negative thoughts are not just about temperaments. It is beyond that. Never ever say something like, “that is how I am, I always think negatively.” You must wake up to the reality that the spirit realm exists and negative forces would often try to influence your thinking culture.
2. For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strongholds. We cannot solve the problems of negative thoughts by some psychology or some set of therapies alone, we have to look up to God and make use of the weapons of our warfare. This is because you are dealing with strongholds in the mind. What are the weapons of our warfare? God’s word, praying in the spirit, the blood of Jesus, and so on.
3. Casting down imaginations
Negative imaginations will come. Negative suggestions will come, but we must cast them down.
These negative thoughts seek to ride you over, they want to get on top of your thought center, but what does the scripture say? You cast them down!
You deliberately refuse these lies of the devil that he is trying to suggest to your mind. You say with your mouth, “you negative thought, I cast you down in Jesus’ name!
It is not a once and for all exercise, because the devil will not relent in bringing those thoughts. So you keep at it. That is why it says, “Casting…”
4. And every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God
That is how you identify negative thoughts. Those thoughts try to exalt themselves against the knowledge of God’s word. They will challenge the truth of God’s word. For example, a thought that comes that, “There is nothing wrong in having pre-marital sex, everybody does it,” is trying to exalt itself against the knowledge of God’s word. You cast it down!
5. And bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ
Every thought that comes, you bring into captivity. How do you do that? It means to arrest. You arrest every thought and put it captive under God’s word. You use the word of God to judge it. The word will either condemn such words and sentence them into oblivion or acquit such thought as healthy.
Before you act out any thought. arrest it and bring it captive with God’s word. That way, you will deal with negative thoughts and dwell more on God’s word which will advance your relationship, marriage, and life.
I pray for you this morning, every power of negative thoughts in your life is hereby crushed in Jesus’ name.
