The Woman You Should Not Be. Mrs. Johnson is a high-energy, productive, choleric wife. Her husband always feel disrespected most of the time. Where is the balance between such a couple?
Wives should be sensitive and not usurp the authority in the house.
Here are the type of wives that need to exercise some caution in this area.
The Woman You Should Not Be 1. The Choleric wife
Cholerics are known to be energetic, sharp-mouthed, unemotional with words and actions, and can survive on their own.
They usually don’t need any encouragement to forge ahead.
They can be very independent and this can often lead to friction in the house.
The couple should learn to maximize their strengths and minimize their weaknesses. Usually, a choleric wife will be married to an opposite temperament, someone who is reserved, laid back, and probably an introvert.
The choleric wife should go out of her way to ensure she honours her husband at all times.
2. The Proud Career wife
A woman at the top echelon of her career can often become prideful if care is not taken.
The husband should be secure enough to let his wife go for the best and ultimate in her career.
There are husbands who can be so threatened by the progress of their wives. This is a wrong heart. Let her be, and let her go for the best. Give her wings to fly!
Much work lies with the wife in refusing to get proud of her achievements. The keyword is honour.
3. The stubborn wife
Some wives can be stubborn o! From counselling experiences, I have seen wives that would stand by their opinion even when you show them the scriptures. There are stubborn men as well o!
Stubborn wives don’t talk much, they just won’t budge. They will just be looking at you like Lucozade, but what they will do is what they will do.
This is not good as well. It is not beneficial for the prayer life of the couple. Anything that will engender strife should be flushed out of the home.
4. The manipulative wife
The manipulative wife has several weapons in her arsenal including crying, throwing tantrums, withdrawing, talking endlessly, refusing sex, and nagging, until she gets what she wants.
She always wants the man at her beck and call.
This may go on for a while especially if the husband is on the calm side, but one day, the hidden molten magma may give way to eruption. And this is not usually the best.
Every husband must strive never to get to the point of exploding.
5. The insistent wife Another type of the woman you should not be is the insistent wife who is hard, difficult, and doesn’t listen to anything apart from what she knows or wants.
Her major weapon is anger.
She always wants to be told what she wants to hear and she picks up quarrels with anybody that dares go against what she feels.
Her husband lives in perpetual fear of what could happen next.
This is a wrong attitude that could be detrimental to the marriage.
The problem is that what she knows is limited and what she wants can often be a wrong desire.
We are all a work in progress and nobody knows it all. Meekness or being teachable is a great virtue in marriage.
Husband and wife should strive to live considerably with one another.
Put yourselves in one another’s shoes.
The following verses are probably the best advice for the couple
WIVES
1Pe 3:1-2 (AMPC) IN LIKE manner, you married women, be submissive to your own husbands [subordinate yourselves as being secondary to and dependent on them, and adapt yourselves to them], so that even if any do not obey the Word [of God], they may be won over not by discussion but by the [godly] lives of their wives, [2] When they observe the pure and modest way in which you conduct yourselves, together with your reverence [for your husband; you are to feel for him all that reverence includes: to respect, defer to, revere him–to honor, esteem, appreciate, prize, and, in the human sense, to adore him, that is, to admire, praise, be devoted to, deeply love, and enjoy your husband].
HUSBANDS 1Pe 3:7 (AMPC)
In the same way you married men should live considerately with [ your wives ], with an intelligent recognition [ of the marriage relation ], honoring the woman as [ physically ] the weaker, but [ realizing that you ] are joint heirs of the grace (God’s unmerited favor) of life, in order that your prayers may not be hindered and cut off. [ Otherwise you cannot pray effectively. ]
How To Get Out Of The Prison. Sally and Bode were so much in love, or so, Sally thought. She was looking forward to the wedding and settling to raise a family with Bode. Sadly, Bode had other plans. He led her on, to the edge of nowhere and led her soul hanging to nothing. All the while Sally thought it was a romantic journey, she ignored all the warning signs and now she has been lethally thrown into a dungeon of sadness and bitterness. Bode got married to another person!
On the day she saw the wedding pictures on Instagram, Sally lost it all. Her praise vaporized into thin air. Bitterness settled and she became angry at God.
The case of Mrs. Johnson wasn’t different. Ever since she discovered her sweet loving Christian husband was cheating on her, she couldn’t easily forgive. Her trust bowl was shattered, her fragile heart was ruptured, her gait was wobbled, her dancing feet were frozen, her laughter became a dirge and her praise was gone.
The devil had Sally and Mrs Johnson where he wanted them. Soul imprisoned!
David in the Bible was there too. He said in
Psa 142:7 (KJV) Bring my soul out of prison, that I may praise thy name: the righteous shall compass me about; for thou shalt deal bountifully with me.
Every time you find it hard, difficult or impossible to praise God, the soul is in the prison. Every time your lips become heavy to praise God, the soul has been caught and shackled in the snare of the fowler. And when the soul is in that position, bountiful blessings will be impossible to receive.
Just like it’s impossible for a prisoner to have maximum benefit that life has to offer. His movement is restricted and he cannot meet great people. His choices are limited and his will are controlled and he must be under servitude. He can’t go on vacation and he can’t choose what he wants to eat. His life became regulated with force.
The Message Translation puts it this way:
Psa 142:7 (MSG) Get me out of this dungeon so I can thank you in public. Your people will form a circle around me and you’ll bring me showers of blessing!”
The dungeon of life is where you have ceased to give thanks to God.
How To Get Out Of The Prison
You must purge your soul of hurts, unforgiving spirits, bitterness, wounds, or just anything that hinders you from praising God continually.
You must find a place of forgiveness for those who dealt with you badly, cheated, jilted, deceived, and despitefully used you. You must find forgiveness for an erring spouse, and allow God to do His work. Hurts must not be allowed to hunt you down and wounds must not build mounds over your destiny.
Don’t allow anything to take your praise away! This is How To Get Out Of The Prison May God grant you more understanding.
Your relationship will not crash. Your marriage will not suffer a mishap!
I might look like this super amazon of a lady that has everything figured out, but there is a little girl in me that wants to be tantalized!
She wants you to be caring!
She needs you to be tender.
She doesn’t like it when you shout at her.
As singles in courtship, you must be careful that the TLC does not lead to bedroom! Keep the bed undefiled!
7. I want a lover-boy, not a lecturer or sermonizer
When she is tinkering with her moods, she needs you to lovingly find out what is happening and not lecture or sermonize!
It is not a classroom or church.
You are supposed to be a lover boy, not a lecturer or a pastor!
Sometimes, what your wife needs is just to know there is a husband who shows some understanding because she sometimes doesn’t even understand herself!
If you are still single and you have a lecturer or sermonizing lover, that is what will likely continue in the marriage. If it’s not something you like right now, it is in the order for you to go for counsel. Don’t walk down the aisle thinking all will just change overnight because you are now married.
8. I need you to whisper in my ears and taunt me lovingly
Your wife loves that a lot.
You just try it out.
Most husbands are too serious about reading Bible all the time or doing some office work at home.
Office work should be left at the office.
Have some family time and some “wife” time.
It would improve a lot of things.
Singles, no need to whisper anything, for now, you need more prayer whispers than ear whispers!
9. Concerning sex, make sure we both finish
This is strictly for married couples. Singles can just skip…lol
She doesn’t want to be abandoned along the mountaintop!
Sex for a man is a sure arrival.
For your wife, it is a gradual ascent, a mountain climbing, multi-orgasmic experience.
This requires a lot of skill and patience on the part of the husband to take it slowly and guide his wife to arrive before him!
10. I need you to find out my love language and speak it
Every lady has a love language.
Find out what it is and your wife’s peculiarity and simply stick with that language.
That way, you will be able to cultivate your love more effectively.
Singles, go ahead and do online tests to find what your love language is. It will stop all the language confusion at Babel of Tower and bring you into understanding one another as in the Pentecost experience.
May your marriage be blessed.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love my wife genuinely
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, destroy every wrong spirit in our marriage
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1Pe 5:7 (KJV) Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Plan a surprise for your spouse / lover
5 Deepest Desires Of Every Woman. The desires of ladies, women, and wives can be so amazing to men because of the male-female differences. Are you aware that men and women think and process differently?
1. Read My Body Language
Women love it when you can pick up everything about them. “How am I supposed to do that, when I am not the Holy Spirit?”
Well, it is about being sensitive and studying the one you claim you love and adore. Ladies are not sometimes good with words, but they are experts in non-verbal communication, so it can be painful when the husband in question is just insensitive!
A woman loves her husband to be able to sense her needs without having to communicate them!
So, husband, you’ve heard o!
However, ladies should communicate when it is obvious your husband is not picking up anything, it is better to talk than to suffer in silence.
5 Deepest Desires Of Every Woman
2. I need more foreplay Now, this is specifically for MARRIED women!
Husbands, learn to slow down so that your wife can always look forward to sex.
The lady requires more time for foreplay, much more than a man requires.
She may not say it, but that is the probable reason she is not enjoying the whole show as much as you would have wanted to. She needs an average of twenty minutes to be ready!
Singles ladies you don’t need foreplay for anything! You don’t need any play!
Follow this advice here:
Son 2:7 (MSG) Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem, by the gazelles, yes, by all the wild deer: Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready.
It is clear from that scripture. Don’t stir anything up. All those making out, kissing, and smooching are nothing other than afflictions.
3. Tell me I am beautiful and mean it from your heart
By the time your wife asks you, “Am I beautiful? She had needed it so badly, she couldn’t help it.
As a good husband, part of your responsibility is to keep verbalizing and affirming your wife by telling her how beautiful she is and why you think she is beautiful.
Don’t just admire her in your heart, say it!
For singles in courtship, it is okay to use good words and proclaim what you want to see in your future wife. Words are powerful, so use them to your advantage.
4. Surprise me with gifts or outings
She loves gifts, especially shiny gifts.
A surprise from time to time will go a long way to show your love for your wife.
The gifts don’t have to be expensive, but consistent. This is applicable to both singles and married
5. Pray for me and fill me with confidence Every lady loves a praying man. A lady’s confidence and assurance that all will be well, skyrockets when her husband prays for her regularly.
There is this rest that will surround her like a shield and give her assurance for the future.
So, dear husband, pray for your wife regularly.
Singles, pray more that have fun all over the place. The cinemas, the beach visits, the outings, and the Ice creams are all good, but they should not be done at the expense of spiritual exercises like praying!
These are the 5 Deepest Desires Of Every WomanMay your relationship and marriage be blessed.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me to love my lover/spouse more
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1Pe 3:7 (KJV) Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
I Will Always Love You, Dear. When you met that special one, butterflies were dancing Buga in your tummy. The exhilaration was palpable. Ecstatic moments jumbled into one another.
Few months after, all the butterflies were almost dead! What? What happened? The few butterflies that were barely alive, their wings were broken and alas, they could no longer fly! Their colours have turned monochromatic, the rainbow has disappeared. Cute little smiles and romantic chuckles that sent shivers down the spine have given way to frowns and snappy nasty body language and responses.
No more poems. The poet in him died and all inspiration simply expired. Flowers are no longer sold, and chocolates have been banned. Ice cream is now dangerous to health and no more time for Cinemas and romantic outings. No more candlelight dinners. The bulb was sufficient. No more car-door opening, and little kisses here and there. Chai!
Her dimples have melted and the smiles went a mile!
Singles alike in courtship were all over themselves but these days, one call per week is a luxury! What happened? Networks are misbehaving and salaries have not been paid. “I love you” became scarce and expensive, almost unavailable. What is going on here?
Well, every couple ought to have commitments to each other. These commitments should be verbalized, documented and recounted to each other from time to time. Consciously, deliberately!
What are some of these commitments?
Eph 4:2 (AMPC) Living as becomes you ] with complete lowliness of mind (humility) and meekness (unselfishness, gentleness, mildness), with patience, bearing with one another and making allowances because you love one another.
Here are a few of them
I will always love you, dear It should not just be something you say to fill in the gap of boredom, it should be a commitment that emanates from the heart.
This love should be unconditional. Love does not depend on attitudes, assumptions, or behaviors.
It is simply a commitment from a heart that is made up.
I will never cheat on you This particular commitment will advance your life and marriage in no small measure.
Adultery itself is a killer. It is a stupid sin because you are simply working against yourself in the event of an adultery.
That is why the scripture says that he that commits adultery lacks understanding
I will always be there spiritually
What a blessing it is to have a spiritual spouse! A spiritual spouse is not just a prayer machine, but a quick forever and one that does not harbour and pile up hurts and wounds.
Nothing in this world can replace a spiritually sensitive spouse who can pick signals from the frequency of heaven and who can feel the heartbeat of God.
How blessed are you if you are married to a spouse who is a God-chaser? I Will Always Love You, Dear If you above three qualities and commitments, the butterflies will keep on flying!
Have a great day
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will love my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to value and appreciate my spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 4:2 (MSG) And mark that you do this with humility and discipline—not in fits and starts, but steadily, pouring yourselves out for each other in acts of love,
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Make the right decisions today
