Why Can’t I Get Someone To Love Me? Before anybody can love you, believe me, you have to love yourself.
Yes, love yourself!
The most Herculean task anybody can embark on is to start loving persons who do not love themselves.
Oh, what a frustrating journey!
The junctions and stops of that pathway is laced with depression, quarrels, several blue days, and emotional blackmails. That is just to mention a few.
Depression will be constant because the person will be most unhappy, always falling into comparison traps and never appreciating himself or herself.
2Co 10:12 (KJV) For we dare not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves: but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.
Why Can’t I Get Someone To Love Me?
Constant quarrels will percolate the relationship because the other lover will be mostly confused as to why unhappiness clouds the relationship. It is a truism that men are confused when their lover is unexcited about them.
No energy, no passion, no excitement, no anticipation, just going through the motions! It is noteworthy that a relationship can be like that and yet filled with pre-marital sex! They would think sex would solve the problem but it would actually add to the confusion.
Several blue days because the devil will plow such a mind, make negative suggestions, plant assumptions, dampen the little morale left and fill the mind with condemnation darts. The presence of such a person is an effulgence of negative vibes!
Emotional blackmails because such a person is good at excuses, always explaining why things went that way, blaming others for his woes, and making his or her lover take the blame for the failures.
The beginning of solving this issue is to resolve the identity crisis, take a journey into God’s word to discover what God says about you, start refusing negative thoughts and suggestions from the devil, and start walking in the Spirit. Walking in the Spirit means listening to hear God and following His direction and wisdom!
Why Can’t I Get Someone To Love Me? One thing you can also do immediately is to saturate your life with the truth of God’s word. Light will always dispel the darkness!
Lastly, be truthful with yourself and stop living in denial. Nobody is able to deal with any situation while still in denial. Confrontation is part of the process of repentance!
May God bless you today!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love myself and I understand who I am in Christ
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, open my eyes to see me!
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 2Co 10:12 (TPT) Of course, we wouldn’t dare to put ourselves in the same class or compare ourselves with those who rate themselves so highly. They compare themselves to one another and make up their own standards to measure themselves by, and then they judge themselves by their own standards. What self-delusion!
Communication In Courtship Is A Sign. George and Sally are in love or so they claim. George had promised Sally marriage immediately they met. Sally’s joy knew no bounds. She was thankful that her “single years” are about to end.
However, rather than for the love to become established and grow, doubt increased in her. George was working in Port- Harcourt while Sally was in Lagos. George stopped calling, practically. Sally was doing the calling, making efforts while George kept saying he was busy.
Communication became a one-way street. Sally became the pursuer as she sensed that George was not going to change.
In no time she came frustrated and she gave up. The relationship came to a resounding crash.
On the part of Sade and Bode, it was Sade that stopped picking calls. Bode was confused since they are at different locations as well. She would say she was tired, she replied to chats with monosyllables, and some were not replied to until three days later. He eventually got the message and moved on!
My point this morning, once communication begins to die, that relationship will die as well.
Don’t spend your courtship years tearing yourselves apart in quarrels here and there because precious moments of communication will be lost.
Once this attitude and habit are taken into marriage, it can really be frustrating.
People in love talk! They want to talk all the time. The moment you see that communication is dwindling, there is an issue there. Communication In Courtship Is A Sign
The moment he tells you he is too busy and that you should already know he loves you, there is a problem.
The moment she is withdrawn and not talking and yet she is talking to others, there is a problem.
The moment you are seen as a nuisance without any cause as it were, there is an issue.
I pray God will grant you wisdom indeed!
Be blessed today in Jesus’ name! Communication In Courtship Is A Sign
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be deceived. I am sensitive to the Holy Spirit
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Father lead me into your ordained relationship for me and teach me to work at it.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Gen 11:6 (KJV) And the LORD said, Behold, the people is one, and they have all one language; and this they begin to do: and now nothing will be restrained from them, which they have imagined to do.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be committed to your relationship through consistent communication
After Failed Relationships, What Next? Hey! This must be my village people o!
Sandy has been in five relationships! Not one lasted a whole year! She moved from one guy to another seeking true love, but true love evaded her. She ended up being used by guys who could sense she was needy.
She began to feel something is wrong with her! Is something wrong with her? Is she under a curse? Her the village people meeting over her case at the village square under the Banana tree?
Let’s get into this!
There is nothing negative about failed relationships. It simply means you still need to learn more. What is negative there is refusing to learn and repeating the same mistakes over and over again.
In itself, nothing is negative about missing it. Even the Bible attested to that.
Pro 24:16 (KJV) For a just man falleth seven times, and riseth up again: but the wicked shall fall into mischief.
Staying down by repeating the same issues is where the problem is.
So after failed relationships, what next? I will talk about one out of several things you can do.
Sit down. Calm down. Be calming down! Smiles.
Don’t be a Boy Scout! Don’t be jumpy! Cool those hot hormones.
The scriptures advise you to do the same.
Psa 46:10 (KJV) Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth.
Be still! Hey, don’t rush into another relationship! It is in your stillness that you know God in your situation!
I particularly love the Message Translation:
Psa 46:10 (MSG) “Step out of the traffic…
After Failed Relationships, What Next?
Get out of the traffic of pursuing guys or ladies who don’t love you, of offering your body to get love, of allowing yourself to be emotionally manipulated all in the name of love! That is one traffic that is worse that Lagos traffic!
May God grant you more understanding! Have a fantastic day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be hasty. I am teachable.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, teach me to be patient and wait on you
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psa 46:10 (AMPC) Let be and be still, and know (recognize and understand) that I am God. I will be exalted among the nations! I will be exalted in the earth!
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Don’t rush into another relationship within six months of a failed relationship.
Run From The Incredible Hulk Lover. Whatever you are experiencing now is a snapshot of the whole marital album, it is a trailer of the season movies in your marriage. Rev. Dunamis Okunowo
Run From The Incredible Hulk Lover. We are looking at The Incredible Hulk as a type of man or woman not to marry.
In the cinemas, the hulk brings himself to high levels of gamma radiation which results in his transformation into a monstrous green being, whenever he experiences negative emotions.
One type of man or woman you cannot marry is that man who looks cool on an average day but who turns into a monster at any little provocation as a result of anger that is uncontrollable
The hulk is known for turning into a monster when he’s livid with anger and causes destruction all over the place.
Yes, there are people who become destructive when they are angry. They will break stuff, destroy things and let out their anger in ridiculous ways.
The scripture clearly advises that you do not marry such a person. In fact, it says that you don’t become friends with persons with uncontrollable anger not to talk of falling in love with them.
Falling in love with a lover who has uncontrollable anger is like falling in love with a nemesis, as even your life is not safe, neither is theirs!
Pro 22:24 (KJV) Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go:
A word is enough for the wise. Don’t let anybody damage your exterior because you are in love!
Run From The Incredible Hulk Lover. How do you know an angry person?
The Hebrew word used in the above verse is “ânaph” which means to “breathe hard or to be enraged.”
You would know angry persons from their countenance, mien, reactions, outbursts, tones, body language, and dispositions.
The Message Translation puts it this way:
Pro 22:24 (MSG) Don’t hang out with angry people; don’t keep company with hotheads.
Yet another translation says
Pro 22:24 (GNB) Don’t make friends with people who have hot, violent tempers.
Perhaps, an even more risky arrangement is two angry people getting married. They will not likely go far in their marital journey before crashing their love vehicle with irreparable damages.
There were two angry brothers who came together in anger. It all ended in tears. They were scattered, divided.
Gen 49:5-7 (KJV) Simeon and Levi are brethren; instruments of cruelty are in their habitations. [6] O my soul, come not thou into their secret; unto their assembly, mine honour, be not thou united: for in their anger they slew a man, and in their selfwill they digged down a wall. [7] Cursed be their anger, for it was fierce; and their wrath, for it was cruel: I will divide them in Jacob, and scatter them in Israel.
As you can see, it is not really worth it getting married to an incredible hulk who will get angry at no notice, who will manipulate your emotions and beg you, but the damage is done and the next feud of anger could be the next moment.
Why live with a person with whom you have to hold a knife around you just in case?
Why subject your tender emotions to a violent emotion whose expression makes you a victim all the time?
Why get beaten over and over again till you are almost losing your mind because this person exhibits a dual personality or bipolar tendencies?
Today he is calm, loving, and romantic, the next moment, there is a lump on his head and he is fuming as if he will strangle you.
As a single, why allow him/her to make love to you and then make mincemeat of you the next moment?
Why give blow jobs (which is sinful in itself as singles) only to take back blows on your head?
Whoever did this to you does not love you! Are you really planning a wedding with such a person? Sit down and think, prayerfully, if that is what you want all your life.
Whatever you are experiencing now is a snapshot of the whole marital album, it is a trailer of the season movies in your marriage.
If you don’t like what you are seeing now, then run for your life! Run From The Incredible Hulk Lover
I think I will stop here this morning.
I pray that God will give you more understanding and guide you into a great marriage in Jesus name! Be blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will marry right
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, lead me to the right person for me.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Prov 22:24 (AMP) Do not even associate with a man given to angry outbursts; Or go [along] with a hot-tempered man,
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Ask that the eyes of your understanding be opened.
Don’t Marry The Batman Or The Batwoman. Batman and Batwoman are known for being secretive. They are mysterious, secretive, and totally withdrawn.
Getting married to a secretive person can be risky. This guy or lady has no mentors, trusts no one, and relates with no one.
Mostly been abused in the past, disappointed by some persons in authority, or let down by people he or she trusted in.
There is usually a story that touches the heart around Batman And Batwoman.
The problem is that he will eventually create more stories that touch the heart in the lives of others.
What he hated and is running from becomes that which he inflicts on other people. She becomes a problem rather than a help in marriage.
Nobody really goes far by being secretive. Yes, I am not saying you should mouth your issues with everybody and anybody, that will be foolishness. However, there are people, usually less than three, that you have in your life and you can confide in.
This confidence reposed in trusted people brings healing on a level you don’t understand.
Jas 5:16 (KJV) Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.
Yes, there is healing there.
However, the Batman husband is that man you live with and you really don’t know. He hardly talks. The wife is usually miffed because he talks to others, except her.
Don’t Marry The Batman Or The Batwoman. The Batwoman type of wife is the one who punishes you with silence. She starves you emotionally by withdrawing from you! You see her get excited with others except you.
He is that guy you know as a single and you don’t know any of his friends. He says he is not social, but the reality is that he is usually withdrawn for a reason.
Secrecy in relationships and marriage is dangerous. This is why every adulterous fling and cheating are predicated on secrecy.
You see, iniquity is perpetuated in secrecy.
He has the capacity to have flings, secrete chats, passworded phones, mysterious calls, girls’ names saved with carpenter, vulcanizer, Bolt man, and so on! Same with a Batwoman in marriage. She lives inside her thoughts and hardly talks.
In marriage, we are to be naked and not ashamed.
The Batman hides in the shadows obtaining information. He is suspicious of people and even suspicious of the person he wants to marry. He trusts nobody. She trusts nobody too.
Batman is never out to kill anybody. He appears to be a good person, but his secrecy will eventually leave you hurt.
He is a solitary lone fighter. He consults nobody. He doesn’t believe in having a spiritual father. He is the lover that tells you that you should keep your relationship in the cooler. He says he doesn’t want attention.
She refuses to introduce you to friends. Your relationship is like a secret cult.
But the more secretive a relationship is, the tendency to let go and drop it like hot potatoes. No commitments, zero casualties in terms of people involved, and so on.
Generally, people who talk to no one end up having major issues they can’t resolve all by themselves.
Don’t Marry The Batman Or The Batwoman
And it could get worse. Beaten in secret. Abused in secret. Manipulated in secret. Sexually starved in secret.
Sooner or later, the pain will be public. The shame will be open. The mystery will turn to misery.
Batman is the kind of man you don’t want to marry! The Batwoman is the type you should run from.
I pray that God will grant you more understanding in Jesus’ name. Your path will not cross with the wrong person. God will preserve you in Jesus’ name! You will not miss it! Did this devotional bless you? Don’t forget to share! Consider Partnering with us too!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be held in bondage in marriage
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, grant me wisdom to discern
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Job 20:8 (KJV) He shall fly away as a dream, and shall not be found: yea, he shall be chased away as a vision of the night.
