3 Types of Men Women Don’t Want. Life is about change and adjustments. This devotional is not to spite men, but to call us to the responsibility God has given us as head of the home. It’s a huge responsibility.
If you fall into any category of men below, it’s time to change.
3 Types of Men Women Don’t Want
1. The night crawler You are no longer single. You are now married, and that reality needs to settle.
Why would a husband keep late nights? It just doesn’t speak well. If your wife has not been cooperative, the best response is to seek counsel and a solution and not some form of late-night moves.
Keeping your wife awake when she should be sleeping due to needless late-night paroles is not a good idea.
There are some environments that would naturally encourage cheating on her, you should not be found in such places again.
For those single, understand that you really don’t change after the wedding. So all bad habits should be expunged as a single.
2. The manipulator Here, the man uses his money or any other thing to coerce the wife into obedience.
At the end of the day, what you get is not obedience but a bitter, hurt, offended, and wounded wife. And that can be dangerous under the same roof.
These are abnormal relationships between couples. What God ordained is a loving, healthy relationship that will provide an enabling environment for the children to be raised.
As singles in relationships, don’t introduce money and gifts as rewards or punishments. The relationship will become money-driven and true love will escape into the air.
3. The non-spiritual husband Here, the man simply refuses to provide spiritual leadership for his wife and family.
He is evasive, full of excuses, and never puts God first place in their affairs.
He will never read his Bible. He will never pray.
The reality is that without a conscious and deliberate relationship with God, man will be incapacitated in providing any spiritual leadership.
Eyes are located in the head, so the man as the head of the house is supposed to give sight and vision to the family. The navigation system for the family and the compass lie with the man.
But the man can’t even see beyond his nose without God. His capacity for vision will be minimized.
For singles, ask a lot of questions and get to know properly who you are walking down the aisle with.
I will stop here this morning. These are the 3 Types of Men Women Don’t Want.
May your marriage be blessed.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am wise
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to be a great husband
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1Pe 3:7 (GW) Husbands, in a similar way, live with your wives with understanding since they are weaker than you are. Honor your wives as those who share God’s life-giving kindness so that nothing will interfere with your prayers.
5 Things Women Shouldn’t Say In Marriage. Ola would not speak to his wife for days. He buried himself in his work. Outwardly, the Johnson family was the quintessential couple everybody admired. Their marriage seems planned out of the very heavens. They were models to younger people as their PDA was simply top notch!
But, all that was pulchritude! Ola Johnson was not happy! Alone in the house, they despised each other! Ola would not speak to his wife for days. Kelly Johnson was just simply confused how his once romantic husband had hibernated and shut down his emotions towards her.
They acted good in public but were wrecks in the home. They maintained social media life while their reality is tearing apart!
Strife became the order of the day. Little actions would lead to massive provocations. They both knew they won’t last that way. Ola would not bulge. Their sex life was emotionless and the few times they made love, Kelly could almost be reading a novel while they were at it!
What happened?
Yesterday we looked at 5 Things Men Shouldn’t Say In Marriage. If you missed it read it HERE
Today, we are looking at 5 Things Women Shouldn’t Say In Marriage. Well, Ola Johnson had been beaten with words. Being a chronic phlegmatic, and his wife the sharp-mouthed choleric, the only thing he felt safe to do was to resort to intimacy anorexia. He simply withheld his affection because he felt disrespected. He believed his wife would not change!
But what were the mistakes of Kelly Johnson? These are some of the words she used over and over again!
5 Things Women Shouldn’t Say In Marriage
1. I feel you are not being a man in this marriage. That would certainly crush his ego and he would be helpless because we are dealing with personalities here
2. Why can’t you learn from that Mr so and so? Never compare your husband with any other man. The results will be unpleasant.
3. With the way you are going, I am not sure you can provide for me and the family Never say this to your fiance or husband. If you know you love him and you are led by God, what you need to do is to intercede for one another.
4. You are just slow and lazy. The only thing you know to do is sleep and watch football. Your fiance or husband will not take likely to such words repeated in his ears. Those words won’t make him to change either.
5. I made a mistake when I married you. I never suffered like this in my parents’ house. When you know you could not take care of me, why did you marry me? If you understand one flesh principle in marriage, you won’t even talk like this!
These are the 5 Things Women Shouldn’t Say In Marriage. Read 1 Pet 3: 2 in Amplified Version!
I am going to stop here this morning. Note that this devotional is not to justify the unhealthy habits of spouses but to point your attention to the fact that wrong, negative, caustic words will only jeopardize the marriage more.
Good morning!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will respect my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me wisdom to treat my spouse right
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1Pe 3:2 (AMPC) When they observe the pure and modest way in which you conduct yourselves, together with your reverence [for your husband; you are to feel for him all that reverence includes: to respect, defer to, revere him–to honor, esteem, appreciate, prize, and, in the human sense, to adore him, that is, to admire, praise, be devoted to, deeply love, and enjoy your husband].
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Change your method and be better to your spouse
5 Things Men Shouldn’t Say In Marriage. Bode and Sade got married a few years back. Bode was the quiet easy going gentle giant while Sade is the vivacious hard laughing babe! And that was the attraction. Bode wanted an exciting wife to complement his inward introvert nature. And he got that for a few days only after their wedding.
Today, Sade is a shadow of herself. Bode is frustrated and Sade is hurt and bitter. What happened? Well, life happened, temperamental weaknesses visited and hibernated reactions came to life.
What really happened? They both came into the marriage with high expectations. They’ve had their fair share of quarrels here and there, but those were just child’s play compared to what they are experiencing.
Sade didn’t like harsh words because she was raised in a family where one single abusive word was never used.
Bode grew in an environment where he was cooked with negative utterances and vituperations.
Bode gave what he had. Sade reacted by withdrawing into her shell. Every excitement which Bode liked disappeared. Bode was frustrated and dished out more of the only thing he knew, harsh words.
He didn’t understand why just “stating the facts” can affect his wife. He believes his wife didn’t want to hear the truth!
He obviously forgot the scripture that says
Eph 4:15 (KJV) But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ:
The truth must be spoken in love! Do you think your fiancee is reacting? Is your wife no longer talking and she is withdrawn? The reason might not be far-fetched.
Here are five examples of words you should not say to your wife or fiancee
5 Things Men Shouldn’t Say In Marriage
I thought I married a joyful wife. You are obviously a sadist The priest of the house should not say something like this.
I don’t like the way you make stupid mistakes. I am having doubts about this wedding/marriage She would make more mistakes if you are not careful
You are too slow for me. With the way we are going, we won’t last in this relationship/marriage You might end up having exactly what you said. Words are powerful.
What is wrong with you? You keep making mistakes every day. Are sure you are okay? She would lose her self-esteem and have self-doubts.
I am not sure you are well brought up. My mum is not like this. She is not lazy and she took care of my dad! Comparison in marriage is sacrilege!
These are just a few examples of Things Men Shouldn’t Say In Marriage. These kinds of statements will be like piercings of the swords in the heart of your wife. Sometimes it is the other way around and it is the husband on receiving end.
Whichever way, you are where you are today because of the words you have spoken. Start changing your vocabulary and let them be aligned with God’s word!
May God grant you grace to be a gracious person, whose tongue is bridled in your relationship or marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will speak healthy words.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, bridle my tongue and take every pain away in my heart
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 4:15 (GNB) Instead, by speaking the truth in a spirit of love, we must grow up in every way to Christ, who is the head.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Don’t talk when you are angry
The Bizarre Truth Behind Marital Offences. Mr. and Mrs. George have never had one week of peace since their wedding. One thing would happen, and they will get offended and stay in strife. Most of their marriage days have been filled with bickering, bitterness, and offences.
In the same vein, Debby and Craig fought most of the time in their courtship. They tagged along hoping things will change for the better when they wed and start living together. They should have consulted with the Georges to know that marriage does not annihilate offences.
What is the bizarre truth behind offences? I taught this message yesterday in church, on spur of the moment and this will bless you!
Take a look at the Holy Writ!
Mar 4:16-17 (KJV) And these are they likewise which are sown on stony ground; who, when they have heard the word, immediately receive it with gladness; [17] And have no root in themselves, and so endure but for a time: afterward, when affliction or persecution ARISETH FOR THE WORD’S SAKE, immediately they are OFFENDED.
In the above verse, affliction or persecution comes not because your spouse is unloving, not because your spouse is insensitive and whatever reasons you may proffer, they come for the word’s sake! And because that same word or revelation is not rooted, offence comes! And the seed of the word is lost and there is no fruit to show for it.
Let me give a practical example. Your spouse or your fiancee does something so annoyingly and refuses to ask for forgiveness and he’s even blaming you for it. You are wondering why your lover or spouse can’t own up. You are really angry and you get offended. You refuse to talk to him or her. Strife sets in, offence comes. Now, here is the bizarre truth. All that happened, not because your spouse is wicked or bad and all that, but because the devil doesn’t want any fruit from the word you heard last Sunday, midweek, or from your personal study!
Afflictions and persecution come for the word’s sake!
Amplified Bible puts it this way; …when trouble or persecution arises on account of the Word, they immediately are offended (become displeased, indignant, resentful) and they stumble and fall away.
You will not stumble! You will not fall away!
Be wise not to allow stuff between you and your lover or spouse to degenerate into strife! Forgive quickly!
Singles who are not in any relationship, refuse offences from colleagues, family, or friends.
Offence will stifle, choke, and strangulate the seed of the word, prophetic proclamations, and blessings from becoming a reality!
It is not your boss, friend, lover, or spouse that is the problem, it is on account of the word! This is The Bizarre Truth Behind Marital Offences!
May God grant you more understanding!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I refuse to be offended
PRAYER FOR THE DAY My fruit will not be lost in Jesus name!
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Mar 4:17 (CEV) But they don’t have any roots, and they don’t last very long. As soon as life gets hard or the message gets them in trouble, they give up.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY End all strife and bickering
