The main focus and intention of God for marriage is that the couple bond. Bonding is a strong word and we need to take note of it.
The whole essence of marriage is that the husband and wife bond together, spirit, soul and body.
That’s why a man will leave his own father and mother. He marries a woman, and the two of them become like one person.
Gen 2:24 CEV
Bonding is both a spiritual act and a process.
It is God that takes care of the spiritual aspect. The process aspect of bonding is our responsibility to fulfill.
Both the husband and wife have various and different role to achieving bonding – a state of becoming one flesh, as a person.
I will like to mention 3 secret that helps us in becoming one flesh continuously.
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1. Proximity 2. Jeru trip 3. Food
1. Proximity If bonding and one flesh is to be achieved, then couples will have to be close to each other. The first step to bonding is ‘leaving to cleave’. There must be a physical cleaving. Husband and wife should be close to each other.
Every opportunity to be together should be maximized. Couple need to fight against whatever might want to keep them separate.
Some jobs are anti marriage. They don’t value or respect your marriage vows.
You have to make choices and honor what God honors. Some promotions and transfer should be rejected and God will honor us for choosing God rather than wealth or riches or the worlds standard.
My mum had opportunity to travel out for a nursing job, but she refused. She said she would rather stay with her young family than leave us vulnerable and exposed.
Thank God for her sacrifice then, we are a product of her sacrifice.
As couples, we have to pay the price for proximity.
There are some transfer or staying apart that are very necessary. You must be willing to make sacrifices and go the extra mile to ensure you are close. (Just be led by God’s Spirit.)
You must be willing to spend more money on calling each other everyday, do video calls.
Some couples are near yet far from each other. Be on the same page with your husband. Don’t take each other for granted. It is a continuous working to keep both husband and wife together.
Let our aim in our marriage be ‘to become one flesh’ and the Lord will help us in Jesus name.
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I become one flesh with my spouse.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, grant me understanding to take this up as my priority above all else.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Gen 2:24 CEV That’s why a man will leave his own father and mother. He marries a woman, and the two of them become like one person.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Begin to work at being close with each other.
Twenty Two Things We’ve Learnt In 22 Years – Part 2
My husband wrote the first part of this devotional yesterday. I will be concluding on the other part this morning.
And guess what? Today is my birthday! God has been faithful to me.
Let’s get into the devotional….
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1. Marriage is done by the mercy of God
Rom 9:16 So then it is not of him that willeth, nor of him that runneth, but of God that sheweth mercy.
There is a part where you work at it from both end, but at the end of the day, it is wise to constantly surround your marriage with the mercy of God.
2. Marriage is highly spiritual. You must engage in all spiritual activities in other to stay at par. Marriage can often be warfare and you have to be prepared for it.
3. You have to be a woman of prayer You cannot afford to be prayerless. A prayerless wife is a careless wife. The devil is out to ruin marriages. Learn to wake up at night to pray as well.
4. Learn to let go of issues. Don’t enforce your right. Be flexible. This goes for husband and wife. You have to close your eyes and ears to certain things.
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5. Be quick to forgive and don’t be revengeful. Be a quick forgiver. Marriage is all about forgiving 7 X 70 times! Practice advanced forgiveness
6. Be free to express your true feelings Be ready and willing to express your true feelings, and the spouse should allow for expression of true feelings.
7. Laugh at each other and laugh with each other Laugher is like medicine, so says the Bible. Let your home be filled with laughter.
8. Be an open book. No secrets Be open about everything. Don’t keep secrets.
9. Don’t insist on your own opinions. Respect each other. Respect is mutual in marriage. Your wife has things to offer.
10. Be a helper. Be supportive, submissive and be ready and willing to make sacrifices
11. Always seek to keep your love ablaze
Have a great day!
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I celebrate my spouse today and always
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, increase my passion for my lover.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
Twenty Two Things We’ve Learnt In Twenty Two Years
Today is our wedding anniversary! It has been God o! Literarily.
And the way the years moved so fast? Like it has been twenty two years! Twenty two long years!
Even though, it kind of looked so fast, I can assure you it has been a long marital road. However, I can also tell you this of which I am sure of, the long road of our marital journey is laced with mercy!
GOD’s loyal love couldn’t have run out, his merciful love couldn’t have dried up.
Lam 3:22 (MSG)
We travelled on mercy. We had junctions of His favour! We had stops where angels ministered to us. To God be the praise!
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Here are a few things things I have learnt that may help you in your marriage
1. Pray a lot as married couples. Do everything in prayer. The battle is intense, but God has all the power.
2. Stay close to each other. Do not allow a third party to break your bond.
3. Get a marriage mentor that you can speak to from time to time. Very important.
4. Be open and honest with each other. Avoid unnecessary secrecy.
5. Be faithful to each other. Avoid emotional affairs. Do not starve your spouse emotionally.
6. Be quick forgivers. Forgive quickly and avoid strife like a plague
7. Be friends. Laugh a lot. Play with each other. You need that to live long
8. Do not allow anything to steal your joy. Keep your joy intact.
9. Do not deprive each other sexually. Satisfy each other and never refuse yourselves. Sex is never a tool of punishment or a reward system. It is simply an obligation
10. Decide to be sacrificial. Live to please each other. That is what marriage is all about.
11. Never stop communication. Do not give each other silent treatment. Crack jokes a lot and play together
12. Give a lot. Work hard and trust God for His favour upon the works of your hands.
To be continued tomorrow.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I celebrate my spouse today and always
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, increase my passion for my lover.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
We started on the topic of keeping love alive in our marriages in yesterday’s devotional. Let’s delve in the remaining things we need to keep love alive.
2. Don’t Compare
The grass always seem greener at the other side. Never fall for the comparison trap.
Don’t compare other couples or marriages with your own.
Yes, you can learn from them but never compare.
The truth is you never know that other husband or wife.
Every good marriage you admire sacrificed on their path to get to where they are now.
So rather than compare and blame your spouse for not being like husband A, work on your own marriage, pay your own price and make your own sacrifices.
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3. Don’t withdraw
The withdrawal syndrome is one thing that destroys a marriage fast.
It’s a temporary shield you build around yourself to avoid confronting and dealing with issues.
Don’t withdraw into work, yourself, your passion, activity, church project, children, porn, friends, outings or keeping late nights.
When you hide in withdrawal, you have simply created a vacuum for the devil to fill in your home.
You need to understand each other’s temperament and know how to lovingly respect each other’s differences.
Extroverts and introverts are very different and handle issues differently.
Give each other space. Allow your spouse grow without nagging them.
Be patient with your demands. Don’t expect your wife to change over night. Let the fruit of the spirit grow and manifest in your life.
Allow your marriage to grow. Let it blossom.
If you are presently experiencing a not too pleasant moment in your marriage, let grace flow towards you now, releasing peace, strength and courage to you.
I pray for you, may God’s love and a fresh love for your spouse be shed abroad in your heart now in Jesus name.
It’s beautiful seeing newly wedded couples. The love spark is amazing.
There is a love wave, love current and all the love vibes around them. They set out professing their eternal love for each other.
They are deeply in love and could never imagine hurting each other not to talk of harming themselves whether emotionally or verbally.
The question is what happened? At what point did they start to deviate from the love zone?
Really, no husband or wife starts out over night from being loving to being rash, unkind, abusive and insensitive.
There must have been little actions or in-actions here and there, that crept into their love affair.
The Bible talks about little foxes that destroy the vine, the tender vine.
Our marriages are like these vines that are very tender. Little foxes are like poisons slowly released that will eventually destroy the marriage. We therefore, need to place close attention so that we don’t allow these foxes.
Here are three things not to do if you want to keep love alive in marriage.
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1 Don’t blame
‘It’s his fault’ ‘She very disrespectful’ ‘He’s not kind and loving’ She’s lazy and overly sensitive’ ‘He’s always hurting’
Stop the blame game. You have a choice, either you keep blaming and remain hurt, bitter and full of regret and revengeful.
When you keep on blaming the other person you focus on their negatives.
You become blind to their positive sides and you put him/ her on edge.
Remember, when you were in love, it was because you were blind to their negatives and only focused on how good, handsome & lovely they were.
Do the same now. Blaming your spouse continuously is poisonous.
I am not asking you to keep completely silent on your spouse’s weakness but rather confront each other respectfully and lovingly.
Remember you have your own faults too. Forgiveness and mercy is reciprocal in marriage.
Gifts are one of the love languages as postulated by Gary Chapman.
Below are a few of my thoughts concerning this topic.
1. Don’t Manipulate Your Spouse Into Gifts Buying
As married couples, the idea is not to disconnect or quarrel with your spouse if he or she is not speaking your language.
You can lovingly discuss with your spouse what makes you happy. You can also reach out and buy him or her gifts and then your spouse does the same in return.
2. Intertwined
As married couples, acts of service and gifts are intertwined. This is because you can give your time, encouragement, empathy, show your love to her in the kitchen and give her some of your time, watch a football match with him when you will rather be having a nap.
But there are people who associate gifts as a love language to have a lot of money.
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3. Eat your cake and have it?
Some single ladies have different guys for different purposes. Some to buy them phones and tabs, some to pay their rent, some to load their phones, some to buy them air tickets, some to load them with cash… well, this is not about love language, it is more of trying to eat your cake and have it.
If this idea and way of living is brought into the marriage, there will be a lot of issues.
It is more of greed and covetousness. It is more of being caught in the web of the deceitfulness of riches. It is not consistent with God’s principles and this will rather slow you down in your journey to a good marriage.
4. Conclusion
In conclusion, and in expressing this language, let God’s word guide you and keep you within godly boundaries.
Don’t borrow to give gifts. Don’t take a loan just to impress someone.
Don’t start what you cannot sustain. Don’t spend the money you don’t have to buy things that are not needed in order to impress people that are not looking.
This is a woman at the top echelon of her career, so she can often become prideful if care is not taken.
The husband should be secure enough to let his wife go for the best and ultimate in her career.
There are husbands who can be so threatened with the progress of their wives. This is a wrong heart. Let her be, and let her go for the best.
The keyword here is honor. As long as the wife does not get proud.
2. The Stubborn Wife Who Will Not Budge
Some wives can be stubborn o! From counseling experiences, I have seen wives that would stand on their opinion even when you show them the scriptures. There are stubborn men as well o!
How do you know a stubborn wife?
Stubborn wives don’t talk much, they just won’t budge. They will just be looking at you like Lucozade, but what they will do is what they will do.
This is not good as well. It is not beneficial for the prayer life of the couple.
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3. The Manipulative Wife Who Is Dextrous
The manipulative wife has several weapons in her arsenal including crying, throwing tantrums, withdrawing, talking endlessly, refusing sex, nagging, until she gets what she wants.
She always wants the man at her beck and call.
This may go on for a while especially if the husband is on the calm side, but one day, he would definitely react.
4. The Insistent Wife Who Is Not Meek
The insistent wife is hard, difficult, and doesn’t listen to anything apart from what she knows or wants. Her major weapon is anger.
She always wants to be told what she wants to hear and she picks up a quarrel with anybody that dares go against what she feels.
Her husband lives in perpetual fear of what could happen next.
This is a wrong attitude that could be detrimental to the marriage. The problem is that what she knows is limited and what she wants can often be a wrong desire.
We are all work in progress and nobody knows it all. Meekness or being teachable is a great virtue in marriage.
Husband and wife should strive to live considerably with one another. Put yourselves in one another’s shoes. This is where maturity is.
May God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a good woman to my husband.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, take away from me every iota of pride.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Prov 31:11 [NLT]Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY What kind of wife are you? Make amends where necessary
We started this topic a few on the things that the husband will want his wife to do for him days back. We looked at
1. Lovingly ask your husband what his present needs are and how you can meet them.
Today we will look at
2. Be ready to offer him help.
I know some women could be saying, I need help also let him help himself, is he a baby?
And yes, it could be overwhelming. When you work at a job, care for the house, the children, go to the market, do the laundry sometimes, there seems to be no time to take care of yourself, let alone help him out.
I always tell people, God is asking you to be everything. He is asking to be all that is needed par time with the strength He supplies.
This help could be as simple as being a good listener, who offered support.
There is capacity inside every woman to function as a helper. This is an unselfish role. You must be willing to the embassy this role and put on the garment of a helper.
Remember: you want to be a wife that will be celebrated, whose rewards will be obvious to all.
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3. Pray for you husband
Some people believe that when you pray you are being fanatical. Well, try functioning without oxygen and see how far you can go. It’s almost impossible.
You pray not only because you have a problem. Develop a relationship with the Father. In that case you learn to talk with Him about everything, especially about your husband.
Pray for his protection in this evil world. Pray for his job. You can make use a daily praying guide.
Remember, when you are praying for your husband, you are praying for yourself.
4. Submission is a vital part of the deal
The word submission have been abused and it’s intention has been reduced to merely that of the lord and servant.
Submission and love go hand in hand. A wife that is loved, will definitely be submitted.
The role of a woman viz a viz that of a man requires her to be submissive.
She is not inferior to her husband, but positionally, she occupies the second position.
For any woman or wife to make the home and marriage worthwhile, she has to be submissive to her own husband.
5. Respect him.
There is no husband who does not like being respected. If you think respect is no big deal to your husband, wait till someone else gives him respect and see what happens.
If your husband is not making a big deal of you respecting him, wait till a few more years. It will be as if your husband has changed from who he was. So it’s better to begin now, practicing respecting him.
Respect can be seen in almost everything. From how you prepare his food, to the way it is served, how you talk to him and talk about him in private and public, all reveal the way you value and respect him.
I believe if we can do these things, we will be loved, cherished and valued more by our husband.
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am led by the spirit to know how to meet my husband’s needs.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Father Lord, teach me to be patient enough to listen to your guidance
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 31:10-11 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Start practicing these things
Marriage wine can often dry up, turn sour or simply lose taste. Relationships can lose the spark, the fun, and the glee! Love can wane, can grow old, and can fast dissipate. Feelings are fickle, never with a forever status.
What do you do when love seems to wane, when the tummy butterflies have all rested their wings, love birds have no more songs when his or her words evoke no more feelings, and the blushing, the dimples, and the smiles have all gone?
What do you do at such times? This is the subject of our discourse this morning.
Everything used to be intense, but recently, you are no longer excited. You are married, and the marriage bed has gone cold.
The bedroom used to be a trip but right now it is a complete bore. You could almost be reading a novel while you are at it, and yet the Bible unequivocally advises that
Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
Pro 5:19 (KJV)
What happened?
Here are a few things that could steal the wine off the marriage shelf, that could sap out and zap off every fun in the union.
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1. When you allow pressures to stifle the pleasure There will always be pressures, especially pressures from work. Wise husbands and wives learn to leave office pressures at the office and not bring them home.
Decide to enjoy your marriage through vibrant communication and unhindered flow irrespective of the pressures that be.
2. When you allow the hustles and bustles of life to steal your rest in God Whether you like it or not, there will always be issues to deal with. You must have a commitment to each other in marriage to put each other first place after God.
3. When you refuse to spend quality time together Love will wane when you don’t spend time with each other. Nothing will ever replace quality time spent together enriched with destiny discussions and plans for the future.
Those times of fellowship can never be replaced with any other thing. With compromise, quality time will become dangerous time, bringing with it, damnation and guilt.
4. When you refuse to give yourself self development and learn how to please each other Bringing new wine into a relationship or marriage can be learnt. Both parties must give attention to learning. Learn how to minimize your weaknesses and maximize your strength
5. When you stop praying and the devil starts preying When the wine finished at the wedding at Cana in Galilee, they had to enlist the help of Jesus.
There is no doubt that the supernatural is needed in keeping the bedroom fire hot and in bringing fresh wine into relationships and marriage.
Keep your relationship and marriage established on the foundation of prayers!
Have a great day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY The devil has no place in my home.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, increase my passion for my lover.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
There are so many things you can do as a wife that will earn you high scores with your hubby. We may often get confused as to what we should do as wives. That was my case a few years ago when I just got married to my hubby. I was always reading books on marriage.
All I wanted to be was the best wife and for my husband and me to be so loving. I had that burning desire and I still do. At that time, the numerous books I read left me confused as there were so many things to be done.
I feel there are basic things we should consecrate on as wives. Our husbands have different needs per time. Their needs and what they desire change due to a lot of reasons ranging from work pressure, age, social status, background, financial status, health, spiritual needs, taste, temperamental makeup, emotional strength, and so on.
With all these changes and with the fact that our husbands are not so relational, that they will not necessarily communicate their needs to us as we expect.
That is why the woman should use her God-given ability to perceive and her intuition. Never be presumptuous or emotional in determining your husband’s needs.
Here are 5 helpful things you can do as a good wife.
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1. Lovingly ask your husband what his present needs are and how you can meet them. Even though your husband will not tell you what he needs sometimes because of his ego, he will tell you when you ask him. Men are logical and prefer to be asked how you can help, rather than they ask you to help them. They feel more secure and a little bit protected.
When you do this as a wife, it shows you are not claiming you know him but respect him enough to approach him about how he wants you to best meet his needs.
It also shows humility and a willingness to treat him as a unique individual with specific desires.
We will continue tomorrow…
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will be a helpmeet indeed to my husband
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask God to help you fulfill your role as a wife
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Put the above point into practice
This is a very practical topic. Sometimes, husbands do things that annoy their wives and they don’t even know it.
The man may be born again, tongue talking, demon chasing, and heaven-bound. This does not really matter.
We all as believers are trying to walk more and follow the dictates of the spirit. The more we walk and follow the dictates of the spirit, the better and more sensitive we are and the better our relationship with our spouse is.
We are able to apologize on time and forgive easily. Everybody, whether male or female has certain tendencies.
Unfortunately, it is those tendencies that annoy our spouse because the opposite really does attract. When we attract each other and are married, then we begin to repel each other. We must manage these differences if we must live a happy married life.
Here are 10 things husbands do that annoy the wife
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1. Husbands annoy their wives when they spend all their evenings hanging out with their buddies and leave their wives alone.
2. When the husband is glued to the television watching a match or movie and gives his wife monosyllable answers. She is gradually taught to bottle things up.
3. When the husband watches his wife do all house chores without offering a helping hand. She feels like a slave and could be bitter. The husband in turn is frustrated but he caused it.
4. When the husband keeps secrets and hides things from his wife.
5. When the husband does not compliment and appreciate his wife but does that to other women.
6. When the husband doesn’t give enough money for the house keeps yet, expect the most expensive things to eat, wear and expect a beautiful house.
7. When the husband demands respect at all cost without being loving and tender to his wife.
8. When the husband expects a super woman and a ‘lamb’ in the day and a ‘lion’ at night. He expects her to be submissive in the day and aggressive in bed at night.
9. When the husband expects the wife to be near perfect with no flaws when he himself is not in any way near perfect. He excuses his own shortcomings but he is hard on his wife’s weakness.
10. When the husband is not a faithful friend and does not honor the marriage vows but expects his wife to be a faithful covenant partner.
God bless our families
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY As a husband I receive wisdom and I walk in the spirit daily.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me your ways, I humble myself to seek your help.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Ask for God’s help in the journey of marriage.
If there is something married couples need more than anything, it’s the ability to remain joyful in the midst of intense financial pressures, emotional pressures, and marital issues.
As husbands and wives, you have to learn how to laugh always and stay in rejoicing mode! Take a look below at a three-minute video and understand why you should keep on laughing!
The scripture used above says
Why do the heathen rage, and the people imagine a vain thing? The kings of the earth set themselves, and the rulers take counsel together, against the LORD, and against his anointed, saying, Let us break their bands asunder, and cast away their cords from us. HE THAT SITTETH IN THE HEAVENS SHALL LAUGH: the Lord shall have them in derision.
Psa 2:1-4 (KJV)
The pressures that show up in marriage can be overwhelming! One of the ways to handle these pressures is to maintain your joy!
Jesus made efforts to keep us joyful. He said so many things to us just to keep us in that state of joy.
He said here in His word:
Hitherto have ye asked nothing in my name: ask, and ye shall receive, that your joy may be full.
Joh 16:24 (KJV)
Here, He said we should ask. Rather than allow that marital situation to drive you into some sad mode or regrettable mode, Jesus tells you to ask, and you will receive and your joy will be full.
God wants you excited and laughing and rejoicing.
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Rather than react to your spouse, rejoice. At those times that you feel your spouse does not understand you, rejoice and laugh!
Celebration is a demonstration of your expectation!
Good morning!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will rejoice evermore. No more sadness. No more depression.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Bind the spirit of depression in your home
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Joh 16:24 (KJV)Hitherto have ye asked nothing in my name: ask, and ye shall receive, that your joy may be full.
Nothing just happens. There is always cause and effect. Coincidences are almost always divine incidents at the end of the day.
Nobody brings plucked fruit to you. You have to do your climbing and plucking. You have to do your learning.
In the school of marriage, there cannot be impersonation, you will have to write your examination all by yourself.
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In terms of communication in marriage, you have to make certain decisions and stick to it. In terms of how to resolve quarrels, there has to be an established and agreed way of settling them. In times when one party is angry and hurt, there must be an agreed way of sorting them and as a couple, you must conform to whatever you agree.
There has to be these decisions.
Maintaining and sustaining joy is a decision that you have to make.
Hab 3:17-18 (KJV) Although the fig tree shall not blossom, neither shall fruit be in the vines; the labour of the olive shall fail, and the fields shall yield no meat; the flock shall be cut off from the fold, and there shall be no herd in the stalls: [18] YET I WILL REJOICE IN THE LORD, I WILL JOY in the God of my salvation.
This Scripture shows that there seems to be no productivity, but the person in question decides to keep himself joyful.
This is how we win in the kingdom. This is how we fight our battle. We don’t fight with guns or wield some weapons of war. We fight with joy! Glory to God. We fight with rejoicing. We fight by staying joyful.
As couples, stay away from endless cycle of hurts and bitterness. Stay on the side of joy and your victory will be guaranteed in Jesus name!
Good morning!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to be joyful all day long.
PRAYER FOR TH DAY Reject the spirit of depression.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Hab 3:17-18 (KJV) Although the fig tree shall not blossom, neither shall fruit be in the vines; the labour of the olive shall fail, and the fields shall yield no meat; the flock shall be cut off from the fold, and there shall be no herd in the stalls: [18] YET I WILL REJOICE IN THE LORD, I WILL JOY in the God of my salvation.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Sing, shout, jump, do anything to stay joyful.
The past Sunday was awesome in God’s presence as we had an explosion of the spirit of joy in our midst. It was such a glorious time in God’s presence. The Spirit moved. We rejoiced in the Lord. Healings and deliverance took place. Thanksgiving service last Sunday was on another milieu!
Below is a sneak peek into what went up in the Holy Ghost. It will afford you to have a taste! Watch before reading….
You must keep on laughing, dancing, jumping, and shouting in the Holy Ghost. You must not allow your voice to be muted!
The devil is a joy thief! He knows that if only you and your spouse can maintain and sustain your joy, he is in trouble!
Haven’t you noticed that unnecessary quarrels often happen? Haven’t you noticed that sometimes, you can’t even place your finger on what went wrong between the two of you?
Haven’t you noticed that both of you are hurt at the same time and nobody is trying to understand the other?
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That is the devil at work, my dear! He doesn’t want you joyful in any way. He wants you sad, depressed, and despondent. You have to make up your mind to be joyful.
It is a decision that you have to make!
The joy of the Lord is your strength!
Neh 8:10 (KJV)Then he said unto them, Go your way, eat the fat, and drink the sweet, and send portions unto them for whom nothing is prepared: for this day is holy unto our Lord: neither be ye sorry; FOR THE JOY OF THE LORD IS YOUR STRENGTH.
What it means is that anything aside from joy is weakness and weariness!
Decide to stay strong. Avoid strife like a plague!
Can I hear you scream “The joy of the Lord is my strength? Can I hear you say to your spouse, “The joy of the Lord is your strength?
Good morning!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY The joy of the Lord is my strength
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, cause me to experience joy unspeakable
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Isa 12:3 (KJV)Therefore with joy shall ye draw water out of the wells of salvation.
A lot of men seem to have a lot of complaints about their wives. They really don’t seem to understand them. To say the least, most men think their wives are very annoying.
This could be because of their temperamental differences and more so, the male-female differences.
Men basically are logical and women are basically emotional beings.
What men and usually most husbands call ‘annoying’, is the emotional side of their wife which men do not understand.
For example, a husband cannot make sense/logic out of a woman crying over every issue. Your child has Malaria, she cries. Your child is going to school, she cries, and so on.
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It takes a mature man to understand his wife and be patient.
My attempt this morning is not trying to justify the annoying things that women do but to point them out. Let the wives know it annoys their husbands and become mature emotionally to prevent such.
Here are ten annoying things wives do for their husband
1. Getting moody without any explanation and thinking the husband has some superpowers to decode their moods. Your husband does not have superpowers, so you have to try and articulate yourself.
2. When your wife wants something and she doesn’t go straight to the point. It could be annoying. Dear husband, try to cope and lovingly bear with your wife.
3. Nagging is another thing that annoys men. Women are known to nag when they want something to be done or not to be done.
4. Withdrawal is another annoying thing women do. When women withdraw, their husband can’t place their hands on what exactly is wrong and it keeps them wondering.
5. When your wife is disobedient and recalcitrant, it could be annoying. Women are supposed to be submissive and when they are not, the husband finds it annoying.
6. The silent treatment is another annoying feat that wives throw. The silent treatment is not only rude, it is killing. It can drive the husband nuts and drive him to go look for a girlfriend outside the matrimonial home.
7. When the wife does not know how to keep the house tidy and everywhere is unkempt. The woman has failed in her responsibility as a wife.
8. It could be annoying when a wife tries to be her husband’s mother and not his wife. She tries to continue the correction and the training of her husband
9. When a wife complains about her husband’s spirituality or lack of it, his job, his parents, his siblings, money, et cetera, and she is generally not content
10. When a wife is too serious. Mostly, every man wants a playmate in his wife. The little boy in him wants to play and unburden himself.
It is annoying to the husband when the wife is too concerned about pepper, tomatoes, children, and so on and cannot let those things be and enjoy her husband.
Wives, get past this, and don’t be lost in your own world. Remember you have a husband. Help him to understand you.
God bless our marriages.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I take heed unto myself. I don’t do things that will annoy my husband
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help my weaknesses
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Peter 3:1 (KJV) Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Work with your spouse to ensure oneness
Yes, I am talking about Sarah Abraham of the Bible. Have you ever wondered what Sarah’s secret was?
We have today Victoria’s Secret, which has to do with the secret in the beauty world. Today, we want to learn the secret behind this woman, Sarah.
She was a typical no-nonsense lady, the prim and proper type of lady that tends to correct and put everyone on their toes. With 380 servants that were born in their house, I’m sure she had a very big house.
Sarah was the CEO, MD of Abraham holdings. She was an ironwoman who knew her onions. She was both feared and respected.
She was not the only good woman in the Bible, so what qualified her to be mentioned among the hall of fame of Hebrew 11?
How many of us knew Sarah as not always being submissive? It was recorded that she resulted to taking things into her hands and decided to help God, and gave Abraham her Servant, Haggai in Gen 16: 1-4.
Abraham was the typical phlegmatic, cool and God fearing husband. He was a lover of peace and so we could conclude that he had left the leadership of running the home to Sarah, who was capable.
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It was possible she was bitter against God and some times, her husband. It is possible it was her bitterness that closed her womb for so long, before God changed her name from Sarai (contentious) to Sarah (princess).
It was at this point when there was a divine visitation and her contention confronted (Gen 18:12-13) that she dared to believe God and judge Him faithful. The Bible recorded in Heb 11:11 that Sarah herself received strength to bear a son.
It was also at this junction she became submissive to Abraham and bible says she called him lord.
1Pet3:5-6 (GNB) For the devout women of the past who placed their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful by submitting themselves to their husbands. Sarah was like that; she obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are now her daughters if you do good and are not afraid of anything.
Sarah’s secret was that even though it was not her natural tendency to be submissive, when she knew it was God’s will for her, she repented. She submitted so much, she started calling her husband ‘my lord’.
What a woman! She moved from being contentious to becoming a princess. That became the secret of her beauty and youthfulness. Not her cream, beauty routine or makeup. Her real secret was in her meek and a quiet spirit.
She had to change! She was willing to drop her old self and embrace who God says she is. Her reward; she was blessed beyond measure. She was blessed and protected every where she went because God was with her.
Dear wife, if you want to be like Sarah, you can be like her. She was willing to change and repent. She submitted to her Lord and Abraham her lord. That my dear lady was Sarah’s secret.
God bless our homes.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love and respect my husband
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Ask for wisdom to build your home
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Study the life and times of Sarah
Have you ever seen a Nollywood movie where a couple are close or seen a couple where the wife is so loving? I am sure you must have also seen couples who just seem to be close but there is something that just doesn’t add up. They are in one way or another disconnected.
When there is a disconnect and you are sensitive, you just know it, you just pick it up and are able to discern it.
Either the wife is cheating or the husband is cheating or they are just not agreed. Well apart from both couples praying together, there are some practical things the wife can do to be a good wife and be the kind of wife any husband will be proud to call his own.
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1. Be loyal to your husband. 2. Make your husband and his affair matter to you. 3. Seek to do whatever he likes and things that pleases him. 4. Be thoughtful of and about your husband. 5. Cook his meals, serve them yourselves and make it special thing 6. Be fun to be with every time. 7. Be a defender of your spouse anytime and always 8. Be his cheerleader and make him feel good about himself always. 9. Enjoy the company of your husband every time. 10. Absolutely let your husband trust you. 11. Be gist partners. 12. Be his confidant and his companion. 13. Be his prayer partner and a prayer warrior for him. 14. Be his mum, wife, side chick and flirt with him. 15. Be his collaborator, his manager and his covenant partner.
You may not be these naturally, but you can engage in the place of prayer. Be the specific things you want to see yourself become.
Be focused and decisive about what you want to see yourself become. Let it be as your goal. Let it be SMART, i.e Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time bound.
The Lord will help us in Jesus name. God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love and respect my husband
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Ask for wisdom and understanding for your marriage
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Do the above steps and watch your marriage transform.
What is really the heart? Is there such a heart that upholds and honors the marriage covenant? How does one get this kind of heart?
The heart is so important that the Bible says out of it flows the issues of life. What we do on the outside reflects what is in the heart.
If the heart is perverted the actions will be perverted. If the heart is far from God, then the actions will be far from God. Make the heart right and the actions will be right also.
Show me the heart that honors the marriage covenant and I will show you a person whose actions honors the marriage covenant.
We should all look into our hearts and by the help of the Holy Spirit, search out what is in our hearts. I pray God will give us a wise and understanding heart today to see the importance of our heart.
In Psalm 51, David knew the importance of the heart and he cried out to God to create in him a new and clean heart and renew a right spirit within me.
Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.
Psa 51:10 (KJV)
Let’s stop paying so much attention to our actions and start to pay attention to the very source and root of our actions.
When the heart is right, then we can teach and tutor our hands for right actions.
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Let this be our prayer everytime, for God to search our hearts and if there be any guile in us, to purge us and wash us with hyssop. To create in us a new and clean heart, that our actions may be pleasing to God. That we may all begin to honor our marriage covenant and our marriage vows.
That we may esteem our spouse above all else. To crucify the flesh and fight for our marriage upholding the things that are meant for peace and progress in our homes.
It takes a lot of sacrifice. Focusing on our spouse and not allowing any other person’s thought fill our hearts.
The help of God is there to help us but we have to first set our face as a flint to do what is required of us. For God will only do His part, he will not help us set our face as a flint. It takes our decision.
For the Lord GOD will help me; therefore shall I not be confounded: therefore have I set my face like a flint, and I know that I shall not be ashamed.
Isa 50:7 (KJV)
May God bless our marriages in Jesus name.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I receive a new heart today.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, set my heart right towards my marriage.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psalms 51:10 Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Pray to God for a new heart.
Eating is so powerful. If you really want to satisfy your husband, you don’t coon a watery tasteless stew. Even you will not enjoy that food. There is something about a wife and sometimes a husband that knows how to really prepare good food.
Whatever you eat is what you will use to live in your marriage. That is just the reality. You cannot afford to stay starved in marriage.
The short humorous video (extremely funny ) below summarizes what we are looking at this morning. Take a moment to watch it right away
As couples, you have to keep finding what to eat by going to the market and not just some biscuits or nodules every time. This is a responsibility all believers have. When you really want to eat, we are not talking about Golden Morn or nodules. You go for real food when you really want to “jeun soke!”
It is the same in the realm of the spirit. You have to sit down with God’s word and study extensively. You have to eat to your satisfaction. Eating well takes time in preparation. What do you want from God. Sit down and eat!
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Refusal to study God’s word can be likened to a watery stew that has no taste. There is nothing to enjoy there. You really want to enjoy your marriage? Then eat well and make sure you and your spouse have spiritual stamina by reason of what you are both eating.
The smell of a food never satisfies until you taste it. Tasting is never like eating. When we hear a revelation on Television or in a conference that blesses us, you have just smelt it, now you need to go home and sit down to really make your own food based on the smell and then cook your own revelation. That is when you really get blessed.
You can’t serve your husband a “smell of a certain food!”
My soul shall be satisfied as with marrow and fatness; and my mouth shall praise thee with joyful lips:
Psa 63:5 (KJV)
Dear couples, this is how things work. Let’s get into real business as we eat well concerning areas where we are believing God.
May God grant you more understanding and bless the works of your hands and your marriage today.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I receive the grace to eat well for my marital destiny
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Ask for wisdom and understanding for your marriage
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Jeremiah 15:16 (KJV)Thy words were found, and I did eat them; and thy word was unto me the joy and rejoicing of mine heart: for I am called by thy name, O LORD God of hosts.
It’s a lie! A Spider cannot be in the palace. How can you even conceive that? Merely saying it is so disrespectful to royalty. Who granted it entrance? Do you mean it went through the palace guards? How dare such a creature be allowed into the most secured and guarded place?
It can’t just be. Maybe you did not see well, or maybe you are hungry and you are taken by mirage or simply hallucinating. It can’t be! Spider sha? No way!
If you re even talking of a lion in all its strength, we can understand. If you say it’s an elephant, oh that is understandable, for who will dare stop the humongous beast from trampling on where it wants?
But a spider! Ordinary spider. Something I can crush with my leg. Spider ko, spider man ni!
But wow, there it is. The spider is actually in the palace!
How did it enter!
The spider taketh hold with her hands, and is in kings’ palaces.
Pro 30:28 (KJV)
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As married couples, you must take hold with your hands and bring something concrete to the table.
Husbands who don’t work or are lazy eventually become docile and end up abdicating their responsibility and alongside their leadership of the home.
Wives who don’t work or are lazy end up becoming liabilities, resorting to being busybodies and gossips. As they say, an idle mind is devil’s workshop.
Don’t get me wrong! There are times you can’t help it and you are simply sacked or just couldn’t get a good job in time.
At such times, you are to stay with your spouse and pray through those times because you know that your spouse is not lazy.
What I am saying is that you can be out of jobs for whatever reason, but never be out of work!
Create work for yourself, and be skillful in the discharge of your gifts. You will eventually find yourself in the palace and in a great place, by taking hold with your hands!
I pray God grants you more understanding.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not a lazy man/woman.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the enablement to use your gifts well.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psalms 78:72 (KJV) So he fed them according to the integrity of his heart; and guided them by the skilfulness of his hands.
