Apology is defined in the Oxford English Dictionary as a regretful acknowledgment of an offense or failure.
There has been instances where the husband does something that hurts the wife, a simple ‘am sorry’ would have resolved the matter, but the husband refuses to apologize because of his ego. In marriage, we cannot afford to have a blotted ego. We have to be humble. In humility, we serve each other and are to look out for each other.
Back to my analogy, the wife gets hurt over the fact that her husband offended her. She enters into the strife not talking to her husband for days. She too is claiming her right for the need to be apologized to.
Meanwhile, she should also apologize for being in strife.
Between the couple, it always takes two to tango. At every point, if we would just learn to swallow our pride and apologize, most issues will be solved.
The unending cycle of strife continues.
The devil is having a great time keeping couples from fulfilling their God ordained destiny and doing exploits.
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How should one chase a thousand, and two put ten thousand to flight, except their Rock had sold them, and the LORD had shut them up? – Deu 32:30
A times, we allow the devil cheat us because we allow our flesh and we refuse to apologize.
When we hurt each other and it is not intentional, we should still learn to apologize. It could be hard especially if we are not used to apologizing.
God bless us as we begin to apologize even for the small things we do to offend our spouse. Apologize out of love not a sense of duty or an obligation
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am humble and quick enough to apologize to my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me the spirit of humility and grace to apologize.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Deu 32:30How should one chase a thousand, and two put ten thousand to flight, except their Rock had sold them, and the LORD had shut them up?
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be the first to apologize to your spouse for the next 30 days.
Giving Your Waking Moments To God In Your Marriage
There is something about the Morning. There is something about giving the first to God that makes the rest of the day blessed. God wants to be involved in our day. There’s no way He can be involved if you don’t intentionally invite Him.
You don’t wish God to intervene in your affairs, you pray Him to intervene. God does not just burst into our life, He must be invited.
You have not been configured to struggle through life all by yourself. This life is a wicked world. There are so many evils. The wickedness of the wicked is on the increase.
The concept of early morning has since been. Let’s see some examples
1.Abraham
And Abraham gat up early in the morning to the place where he stood before the LORD: – Gen 19:27
2.Joshua
So Joshua rose up early in the morning, and brought Israel by their tribes; and the tribe of Judah was taken: – Jos 7:16
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3.David
Awake up, my glory; awake, psaltery and harp: I myself will awake early. – Psa 57:8
When you give God the best and prioritize him, He releases His blessings. The help of God is what you need in life.
That marital issue, the health challenge, the lack of job, lack of profiting in your business endeavors, lack of favor, overwhelming bills or debt etcetera, will all be a thing of the past. As you lift up your voice to God early in the morning and provoke the morning, He will answer you.
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CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I give my waking moments to God
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for diligence and strength to build a vibrant prayer altar
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Gen 19:27And Abraham gat up early in the morning to the place where he stood before the LORD:
There is no condition you are, that does not require a level of stress. One of the greatest things one is looking for in life is rest all around.
Life is most of the time full of complications. Overwhelming work schedules, hustle and bustle of life, bills to pay, in-laws to take care of, relationship to maintain, a spouse to look after, spirituality to pursue, the standard of living to raise, health condition to battle with, and the list goes on and on.
But now the LORD my God hath given me rest on every side, so that there is neither adversary nor evil occurrent. – 1Ki 5:4
Solomon had the testimony of experiencing rest all around, where the people of Israel were prosperous, where all their wars ceased, all their struggles became rest.
It is this state of rest, every man is looking for. It is this same peace or rest Jesus Christ, the Prince of Peace came to bring to us
Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. – Joh 14:27
How can we have access to the peace of Jesus?
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We have access by the Person of the Holy Spirit. It is the communion with the Holy Spirit that gives us rest all around.
There are troubles all around us, the peace He gives remains. We are joyful in the midst of life’s challenges and He helps us to eliminate those struggles and He gives us wisdom and strength to deal with them.
So if you are experiencing struggles and you don’t seem to be able to maintain balance in every aspect of your life, I want to introduce you to the person of the Holy Spirit.
It is developing a relationship with the Holy Spirit that puts an end to your struggles. Let your waking moments be given to God In worship. Cultivate a relationship with the Holy Spirit. Learn to spend time in the presence of God. Practice his presence and your day, week and life generally will be blessed.
You will experience the move of God the Holy Spirit in your marriage in Jesus name
God bless our marriage!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I have all-round peace in my marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that the Prince of Peace will dwell in your home
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. – Joh 14:27
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Say the prayer for the day
Keeping our family together during the tough times, challenging times and good times is something we must all strive to do.
The earlier we start to do these things, the better for us. It is better to inculcate certain virtues into members of our families as standard and allow them grow with it as the family grows.
Challenges in life are inevitable but we can go through whatever comes our way easier, if we have a supportive and encouraging family.
He is like a man which built an house, and digged deep, and laid the foundation on a rock: and when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently upon that house, and could not shake it: for it was founded upon a rock. – Luk 6:48
Let’s build our marriage and family on the rock. Let your spouse and children be solidly built, so that when the storm comes, they will not crash.
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Let me share five of those things.
1. Read God’s word together
Form a good habit of reading scriptures as a family. The children will love it and it will not be a burden reading God’s word when they are older.
2. Pray together
A family that prays together stays together. Where there is unity, God’s blessings abound. Your family knows how to pray by praying.
3. Eat together
Eating together is so powerful. Even Jesus eat the Passover with his disciples and teaches us to take communion.
4. Say the truth to each other and be sincere
Be open and truthful to each other. Say it as it is.
5. Go to church together
Your church is not a social gathering, it is the place you are being fed spiritually. It also affords you the opportunity to pay your tithe for your heavens to be opened.
When you do all these, you are building wisely and securing the future of your family.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will build my house solidly
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help us to build according to pattern.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Luke 6:48 He is like a man which built an house, and digged deep, and laid the foundation on a rock: and when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently upon that house, and could not shake it: for it was founded upon a rock.
There are a thousand and one articles on what to do in marriage, and sometimes we are running to keep up.
At times, our roles as husband and wives are so complicated and sometimes we get confused and mix things up. We minor in the major and major on the minor.
I was also running this race to meet up and catch up with what I should be doing as a wife early in our marriage.
I discovered that every one of those articles had a core message. We could have 100 topics on marriage but the core message they are passing across is the same.
For example, we have articles that talk about dressing well for your husbands, how to cook, communicating well in such a way that shows true friendship, husbands treating your wife well, taking her out, remembering her birthday and buying her gifts, understanding each other’s temperament, and many more.
The Bible remains our marriage manual. Each of us should take his/her portion and run with it. We should pursue our role, not minding whether the other person takes up the challenge of his/her responsibility.
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I believe if husbands and wives can be committed to this, we will have fewer problems in our marriage.
Our manual as couples is in Eph 5:22- 26. Emphasis on verses 22 &23 for wives and for husbands verses 24-26
For wives, this means being supportive to your husbands like you are tenderly devoted to our Lord, for the husband provides leadership for the wife, just as Christ provides leadership for his church, as the Savior and Reviver of the body. In the same way the church is devoted to Christ, let the wives be devoted to their husbands in everything. And to the husbands, you are to demonstrate love for your wives with the same tender devotion that Christ demonstrated to us, his bride. For he died for us, sacrificing himself to make us holy and pure, cleansing us through the showering of the pure water of the Word of God. – Ephesians 5:22-26
In summary, wives should be supportive to their husbands and husbands are to demonstrate love to their wives with the same tender devotion that Christ demonstrated to us.
Now, every couple is to take this and fit it into their own marriage. Find creative ways you can show your support to your husbands as wives. Husbands, love your wives tenderly.
Meditate on these verses and begin to function in your roles. God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to go with the manual.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help us to follow the manual
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 5:22 For wives, this means being supportive to your husbands like you are tenderly devoted to our Lord.
We stated in our devotional yesterday that there are some things that would not just work. As far as we are called ‘wife’ and we want to fulfill our destiny as godly wives, we must stay away from doing such things.
Yes, I agree that some of these things are the normal reactions that women find easy to do. They flow naturally with being women. Naturally, a woman finds it easy to want to disrespect or give the silent treatment when she is not pleased with her husband.
Remember, God has not called us as wives to do what flows with us or comes to our flesh as a natural behavior, but to be spirit controlled and mortify the deeds of the flesh.
For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live – Rom 8:13
Yesterday we looked at two out of the five things not to do as a wife. They are
1. Disrespecting your husband
2. The silent treatment
Let’s conclude.
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3. Don’t Usurp Authority
Because women are multitasking, there is a natural tendency for them sometimes to want to fix everything. The mother hood instinct wants everything-to be in order. There is also a tendency in men to want to sit back and relax especially when the wife decides to step in and fix it all. The man is the head and the family should be run as a team work. Each person must have their roles to play and function in it. So as a wife, don’t usurp authority.
Let your husband remain the husband and you the wife. Stay at your duty post, don’t leave your duty and focus on the duties of your husband. If you do, you will end up being overwhelmed.
4. Don’t disobey your husband
This is very crucial. Your husband must be obeyed at every time. That is why every wife should be very prayerful. What prayer does is that it brings God to the affairs of your home to intervene. God has instituted it that the wife is protected in her obedience to her husband. As you pray and are ready to obey your husband, God will intervene in your affairs.
5. Don’t deny your husband Jeru trips
What jeru trip is to a woman is different from what it is to a man. Jeru trip is very necessary for men and guess what, you must be prepared for this task. It is the only task no woman can help you or assist you. Don’t reject him and don’t refuse him for no matter the reason.
So heed my advice now and do as occasions serve you.
God bless our marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will respect my husband publicly and privately.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to be a good man/woman to your spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. – Rom 8:28
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Show some respect to your spouse
There are certain things that are just not advisable to do if you want to enjoy your marriage. No matter how good it is or seems to be, the laws of marriage are always against them. Whenever as a wife, you engage in such, you are playing foul and a red card will always follow. There are some things every husband detests, no matter how good he is or loving he is.
The male-female differences will just not make him understand. I want to share with us five of those things every wife must avoid.
1. Disrespecting your husband whether publicly or privately.
Respect is a big deal to men. In fact, the number one need of a man is respect. So every wife wants to stay clear of anything that looks like not respecting her husband. Watch out for every form of disrespecting your husband. Abusing, talking down on him, disobeying his instructions, ignoring him to attend to others, etc, you must avoid every form of disrespect in words, actions, or attitudes.
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2. That silent treatment must stop.
This is when the wife decides to keep to herself either by reason of being hurt or angry with the husband. The wife shows her displeasure by not talking to her husband or giving mono-syllabic answers. This will usually breed strife.
I once asked my husband how he sees silent treatment. Of cause, he said it makes him angry, confused and wants to retaliate. Wives should learn to desist from such acts.
We will continue from here tomorrow.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will respect my husband publicly and privately.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to be a good man/woman to your spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. – Rom 8:28
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Show some respect to your spouse
In life and in our various situations and circumstances, there are times when our calculations fail us. We planned for certain things to work in certain ways but they end up not turning out the way we planned.
Every one of us hoped that our marriage will be ‘happily ever after’. Every bride had such beautiful dreams as they walked down the aisle. After the wedding, our eyes are opened to a rude shock.
Most of the time, we never bargained for the speed breakers, the potholes, turnings, speed limits, traffic lights, and bends in marriage. Life just happens and we learn to cope with whatever comes our way.
Being a believer is so good because we know that the promises of God are yea-and yea Amen.
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. – Rom 8:28
Even if our plans do change and things go in the opposite direction, Jesus is still Lord.
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As couples, we must learn the unforced rhythms of Grace
“Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. – Mat 11:28
From this scripture, I will show us what to do.
1. Find time to worship Him
2. Spend more time in His presence studying.
3. Speak out the promises of God
4. Ask God for His peace
5. Patiently wait for wisdom that will guarantee your way out.
Always do these, any time anything overwhelms you.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I know what to do.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask God for his peace
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Matthew 11:28 [ESV]Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Pray for God’s direction for your home
Time is everything. It can be spent or invested. Everyone has the same twenty-four hours a day
The Bible teaches us that there is a time for everything, that is, the right time to do certain things. Eccl 3:1-11
For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: – Eccl 3:1 [ESV]
If there is a right time for things to be done, that means there is also a wrong time and a not too right time.
Knowing the right time to do things requires wisdom. We all need wisdom in our lives; wisdom as married couples, wisdom as a husband, wife, father, or mother, wisdom in all our endeavors.
The Bible teaches us to redeem the time. Make your time count this year. Use time wisely.
Walk in wisdom toward them that are without, redeeming the time. – Col 4:5
Redeeming the time, because the days are evil – Eph 5:16
Champions are known for their daily routines. Ask yourself, what is my routine like? What time do you wake up? What is your day like? Do you do needless things? Do you interject your day with movies, chatting away, viewing Instagram posts, and the likes?
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All these things could be beneficial if you channel them to the right course. Are they making you financially free, are they an investment into the future?
You have to check your daily routine. Is God a vital part of it? Do you spend time worshipping God? Do you listen to hear from him?
You cannot spend all your time watching movies and expect to hear from Him. Yet your success in life hinges on it.
I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye. – Psa 32:8
God wants to instruct us, but are you spending time with Him? He wants to teach you the way to go, are you spending time in His classroom.
Plan your time wisely. Whatever you use your time for, the harvest of it is coming
As a husband or wife, invest in your marriage, family, and children. When the harvest comes, you will not regret it.
God bless your marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will spend my time wisely.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray against every time waster sent your way this year
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ecclesiastes 3:1[KJV] To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
Experiencing peace in marriage is priceless. You don’t want to know what some other couples experience when they have no peace.
Peace is our birthright as believers in Christ. It is part of the things Jesus bequeathed us with. The peace He gave us is all-round peace. Not some peace in the workplace and crisis at home with the children and lack of peace in your health. No, He died to give us all-round peace.
But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed. – Isa 53:5
Jesus actually paid the price for us to experience peace. If you are not experiencing peace in any area of your life, the devil is cheating you out of what belongs to you.
Jesus already paid the price for your peace. He was chastised for you to experience peace. You are not just to hear about peace but experience it in your life and marriage.
Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. – Joh 14:27
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We can claim the peace of Jesus. You can experience peace with your in-laws, peace with your money, peace in your neighborhood, all-round peace.
Let no man trouble me for I bear in my bodies the marks of the Lord Jesus Christ, Paul said.
Here are five ways to experience peace
1. Know what Jesus has done for you by His shed blood on the cross.
2. Learn of these truths and begin to appropriate them. You can’t afford to be lazy about it. You have to search scriptures diligently.
3. Begin to confess that which you discovered from scriptures
4. Begin to take practical steps to enjoy peace in every area of your life.
5. Be a person of peace. Avoid being quarrelsome. Stop being overly aggressive, hot-tempered. Avoid jumping to conclusions on matters.
God help us to experience all-round peace this year in Jesus name
God bless our marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I experience all round peace in my marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray against everything that wants to steal your peace
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. – Joh 14:27
We are in a very significant year as I have heard so many people say a lot of things about this season. This year, we have to prepare to walk into greatness. There is no accidental success and no growth is a coincidence.
We have to prepare our ways if we must see any significant positive changes in our lives and families. Twelve months is a lot of time. You could start this year having nothing and in twelve months, have kids, have a business of your own, move into your own house, and be doing something significant in the nation.
All these come as a result of the blessing (if it must be true prosperity). The blessing however has to be activated. We activate the blessing by walking in certain principles of the kingdom.
As couples, you have to make up your minds and do so early enough. You cannot continue to do things you used to do and expect a different result. There must be significant changes in your approach and attitudes.
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No more compromises! No to living life haphazardly! No to prayerlessness! No to the works of the flesh, works of unrighteousness! No to not paying of tithes! No to lack of intimacy with God!
You decide to say yes to a life that honors God! Yes to living to please God! Yes to seeking to know God! Yes to hearing the voice of God! Yes to a life of Obedience!
If you do all these, you will be preparing your way into significance.
Remember, God has a purpose for you and your marriage. Carry your spouse along and you will see yourself walk into Glory.
May God grant us grace in Jesus name.
God bless our marriages.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY No more compromise. No, not me.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Help me Lord to be faithful to my marriage covenant
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Prov 6:2 [NKJV] You are snared by the words of your mouth; You are taken by the words of your mouth.
Words are spiritual and are our connection to the spiritual word. Our destinies are spiritual and so is our marriage.
Words don’t die so also their effects. God has given man the capacity and ability to create, project, and speak things to come to pass.
Now, this could be positive or negative, the same principle applies to both. Words spoken by men whether born again Christians or unbelievers are powerful. These words could be spoken to our detriment or to our advantage.
The effects of words spoken to us are real. They either form limitations in our lives and marriage or make our way easy in life. Careless words are also not left out. Whether the words were spoken consciously or unconsciously, or in a moment of emotional pain, words spoken affect our lives.
Some people don’t wish us well and they are either outrightly wicked or full of the devil. Sometimes, we speak negatively to our spouses and these words stand against them.
Whether character flaws or otherwise, we will do ourselves good speaking what we want to see in our spouse and marriage.
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Negative words from parents, colleagues, friends, and associates can affect us and our spouses.
Rachel was Jacob’s wife whom he loved. But unknown to him, he released the words of death, which eventually worked in the life of Rachel. When she was giving birth to her son, she died.
And so it was, as her soul was departing (for she died), that she called his name Ben-Oni; but his father called him Benjamin. – Gen 35:18 [NKJV]
The best way to nullify the effect of wrong words spoken is by using God’s words to cancel them. The same also happens concerning generational and lineage curses.
Until they are broken, their effect still holds. Sometimes, your spouse could be engaging with issues and problems they don’t know anything about. The good news is that you can begin to nullify the effect. You can cancel the effect of any negative words.
Go into the scriptures and get promises that God has promised. Declare this intentionally over your spouse and begin to see desired changes.
May God grant us more wisdom in Jesus name, amen.
God bless our marriages.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I nullify every negative word spoken to me or against my marriage
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Blood of Jesus, erase the effect every of wrong word spoken to me
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Prov 6:2 [NKJV] You are snared by the words of your mouth; You are taken by the words of your mouth.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Plead the blood of Jesus over your mariage
Every once in a while, we always fill in certain gaps in our marriage created consciously or unconsciously. As couples, we are a team and should see ourselves as such.
As a team, our goal must be to work together to achieve a common goal. Every family is unique and we have different desires in our hearts we want to be fulfilled.
We are to complement each other. As a couple, the husband’s strengths should be the place of weakness for the wife and vice versa. That’s why it is good for each one of us to develop our unique strengths.
Let the husband not fight the wife over their strengths but celebrate each other’s differences. Our differences are there to create a balance, like the breaks in a car or the speed breakers are meant to control the speed of a car.
We are meant to fill in the gap created by our spouse without being critical or judgmental. If your spouse does not pray as much as you pray, don’t waste time pointing out his or her weakness. The ideal thing to do is just step in and get the job done.
Well, I know it is not every weakness we should step in and fill. This could breed irresponsibility. Based on the uniqueness of each family, each member should be given a particular task to do. There should be a division of labor and responsibility.
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I don’t subscribe to an individual doing everything in marriage. Each person should have something to bring to the table. But when there are lapses on either part, please let us receive Grace to step in and do the needful and the Lord will help us.
For example, if your husband does not talk that much, you talk without complaining and he will also learn from you. The Bible admonishes us not to be weary in well-doing.
Gal 6:9 And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.
We will only reap if we faint not. Let us always put in mind our harvest. This will keep us from being discouraged.
There are seasons of waiting and it is my prayer that God will strengthen us and keep us from being discouraged in our homes as we keep up the good work in Jesus name.
God bless our marriages
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I step in and fill the gap for my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to fill in the gap for your spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Gal 6:9 [AMP] And let us not lose heart and grow weary and faint in acting nobly and doing right, for in due time and at the appointed season we shall reap, if we do not loosen and relax our courage and faint.
This is a few days gone in the new year. What will happen at the end of this year starts now. Our everyday steps, moving in the positive direction are so important.
As couples, let us think ahead. Let’s have a projection of what we want to achieve in our marriage. We have to get certain principles right.
There are a lot of things we do consciously and unconsciously that frustrate our marriages and are detrimental to the bliss of our marital journey.
Or what king, going to make war against another king, sitteth not down first, and consulteth whether he be able with ten thousand to meet him that cometh against him with twenty thousand? – Luk 14:31[KJV]
As we begin a new year, we should sit down in retrospect and cast a vision for ourselves.
You need to ask yourself what exactly do I want from my spouse and marriage. Put it in one or two sentences; something you can put before God and aim at.
Also, know that it takes two to tango. Just as you have certain expectations from your spouse, your spouse too has expectations. Break those expectations into smaller bits and have a vision for this year.
For example, I want my spouse to be more Godly this year. Find out all you need to know about being godly. Let that be your focus. Your spouse can tell you they expect you to be more homely. Humbly, accept that and keep working towards it through the year.
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Let each one of us be committed to doing what our spouse demands of us. Stay focused to this. Do all you can this year to become a better person!
Read books that will show you and help you be a better and happier person. Commit your ways into God’s hands and make sure you talk to God about this. Measure your progress weekly. Don’t get discouraged in your pursuit and don’t become critical of yourself or your spouse.
May God strengthen us!
God bless our marriages.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will be a better version of myself this year
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to be a better spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Luke 14:31 [ERV] “If a king is going to fight against another king, first he will sit down and plan. If he has only 10,000 men, he will try to decide if he is able to defeat the other king who has 20,000 men.
We started this instructive devotional yesterday. If we will be successful, get it right and gain speed in 2022, we need to take these points seriously.
Not striving to be super couples only slows us down. We move in circles and we achieve very little. Whereas, God’s intention for us is to multiply grace and do ten times our normal capacity.
We looked at the following yesterday:
1. Worship 2. Understand your spouse 3. Excellence
Today, we will continue from where we stopped.
4. Forgiveness
If you can’t forgive, don’t bother getting married. Forgiving in marriage is a compulsory course. You only slow yourselves down if you find it difficult to forgive.
Some couples hold their spouse and refuse to forgive because they feel their spouse doesn’t deserve the luxury of their forgiveness. They want to hold on to wrong because they feel they are punishing their spouse.
How humorous that is. I have always said it. Not forgiving is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die. You cannot afford it.
Be like a duck that water doesn’t stay on its back. Let nonforgiveness fall off your back like a duck.
Deal with every form of hurt, malice, bitterness, strife et cetera. These are Satan’s most common arsenal.
Forgive because God says to forgive and trust God to reward you.
And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him. So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses. – Mat 18:34-35
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5. Fun
Be fun-loving. Don’t be too serious. Have a child-like approach to life and cast all your care upon the Lord once and for all.
Casting your care is like throwing your care on God. Don’t pick it back, drop them and leave them with the Double-breasted one.
Laugh, make jest of yourselves, play like clowns, behave like little children, pull your husband beards, do funny faces, and so on. Be creative with fun. By all means, play.
I know you are busy, but out of no time, create time. If you were told if you don’t play, you will not live past 2 months, you will take playing seriously.
It takes away the boredom and monotony out of your marriage. It even helps you to forgive better. If you have to pray for God to make you playful, do. Some of us are not naturally playful. We need the Holy Spirit’s help.
Fun in marriage is not complete without doses of intercourse. Let it be regular, spontaneous, creative, and pleasurable.
6. Be the best
This is simply being your spouse’s best friend. Remember when you were younger, how you did with your best friend. Bring the same into your marriage.
Cherish your time with your spouse. Talk about everything with the exception of nothing. Talk, talk, talk, and listen, listen and listen. Be concerned and truly care from your heart.
Think of ways to outdo yourself in being kind.
Being the best spouse to your own husband or wife entails looking into your marriage and finding out the ingredients that are missing.
Remember, you cannot change your spouse. Love your spouse without trying to make him/her conform to your own standard. Who told you your standard is the best?
Best friends never attempt to change one another. At best, they seek to lovingly influence the other person.
Do the above things, and you will be on your way to becoming a super couple. It is the doer that God promises to be blessed in his ways. Don’t just read, be a doer.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I get it right in my marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for the spirit of excellence
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Mat 6:33 [KJV] But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Being a super couple, I have found out is all about getting it right Spirit, soul, and body. It is about being wholesome individually and extending it to yourselves as a couple.
As a believer, we know all things begin and end with God.
Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding. – Pro 4:7 [KJV]
God has to come first, then, He gives you the needed strength, wisdom, knowledge, and understanding to be all that you can be in 2020 and beyond.
But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. – Mat 6:33 [KJV]
1. Worship
God demands to be worshipped, and that is the starting point. Let us learn to give our waking moments to God in worship, seeking His help, and looking up to Him as the Almighty.
Worship God because He deserves to be worshipped.
Worship also entails studying your bible and praying. Form the habit of talking to God about every detail of your marriage. Put God first and all will fall in place.
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2. Understand your spouse
Know how to press the mumu key of your spouse. Understand your spouse. Seek to learn and know your spouse. There are things he/she likes and does not like. Know what your spouse cannot resist.
For some husbands, it is jeru trip. For some, it is good food. Understand your spouse’s love language and temperament.
It is foolishness to want to spend the rest of your life with someone and you don’t take time to study them.
In 2022, tell yourself no more foolishness. Be tired of fighting to have your way. It is time to become mature. Sometimes, we need to stoop to conquer.
For example, if your spouse is choleric, you don’t do power tussle with them. A choleric wants to be in charge, a phlegmatic needs gentle persuasion, a sanguine needs fun and a melancholy needs their love tank always full. Understand these dynamics and you are on your way to success.
3. Excellence
No one can resist an excellent spouse. Be an excellent communicator, be an excellent friend and companion, be an excellent provider, excellent support, be excellent in bed, be an excellent cook, be a better organizer, don’t be haphazard with managing the home and children, be an excellent dresser and stop being an embarrassment to your spouse.
In being an excellent person, you may be required to go out of your comfort zone most of the time to learn. Be willing to change, improve and learn better ways of doing the same things you used to do.
God bless your marriage!
To be continued tomorrow by God’s Grace.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I get it right in my marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for the spirit of excellence
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Mat 6:33 [KJV] But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
We all have seeds to sow into our marriage. It is a fact that we all do not have seeds like money, for example, to sow into our marriage but we all have ‘time and words’ to sow into our marriage. No one is left without seeds. Everyone can always change their marriage for the better.
1. The seed of kind actions
You married your spouse because you at least liked who they were as a person. There must have been at least one thing you admired about your spouse. We all have the capacity to do kind things to and for our spouses. Those kinds of actions are not ordinary. They are the seeds God has given us to deploy in our marriages.
I Cor13:4-13 talks about the attributes of love and the fact that love never fails. If your spouse is behaving in a selfish manner, you choose to put the power of the seed to use and influence your marriage in a positive way.
Love is always supportive, loyal, hopeful, and trusting. – 1 Cor 13:7 [CEV]
A miracle happens when we sow our God-given seed. But remember, our seed is only powerful when it is sown. So be a seed sower in your marriage. See your kind actions not as mere actions but as your seed and your God-given influence over your marriage.
2. The seed of Prayers
Another seed we have is our ability to pray. If we viewed prayers as receiving help from God, it will help us to stay committed to the power in prayer.
Prayer is going to the throne of Grace to obtain help.
Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need. – Heb 4:16 [KJV]
We all need help at one time or another in our marital journey.
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There are times we just don’t seem to be able to hold on any longer or we don’t just seem to know what more to do. When we pray, we bring God into our situation. God answers us in different ways. He may not answer us the way we want to be answered, but we have His promise to answer us.
He may give us the wisdom to handle the situation, patience to hold on, or strength of character to do what is right.
There are such untapped powers in our prayers especially if it is for our marriage.
3. The Seed of Hope
Our hoping for the best and not giving up on our marriage or spouse is important. This is the power that holds all other seeds we have or decide to sow together.
We have hope, and that is why we can sow whatever seed we have. Not giving up on your spouse is needed.
God wants to see our hope alive. So whatever we do, let us not forget to always keep our hope alive. God can restore the most difficult marriage. God can intervene and give us a miracle but we have to keep hope alive.
Let us keep sowing our seeds and know that we will reap a rich harvest if we faint not.
And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not. – Gal 6:9 [KJV]
God bless our marriages.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I sow the right seeds into my marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh God, help me to sow the right seeds into my marriage
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Cor 13:7 [CEV] Love is always supportive, loyal, hopeful, and trusting.
As couples, there are areas we need to make improvements with our lives because we have the capacity to do and be more than it presently is. We need to grow so we can accomplish more and become more fulfilled in life especially in our marriage.
1. Spiritually
As a couple, we should grow together in the Lord. Our spiritual growth is of utmost importance and we should take it as such. Even Jesus Christ grew and waxed strong in spirit.
And the child grew, and waxed strong in spirit, and was in the deserts till the day of his shewing unto Israel. – Luke 1:80 [KJV]
You need to strive at growing spiritually first on a personal level.
Some husbands are of the opinion that their wives are supposed to grow more than they and be their intercessors. They go around and commit all manner of sins and expect the prayers of their wives to cover them. This is not right. Every husband should be the head of his family in every ramification.
We grow together spiritually when we are able to hear, walk and work with God on the same frequency in our marriage. Not that God is asking your husband to do a particular thing and you don’t have the slightest clue because you are still a babe in Christ.
We grow spiritually when we give attention to the things of God. Daily study of the Bible, prayers, meditations of God’s word, et cetera, all sum up our spiritual growth. Let couples be seen serving God together. It’s such a blessing when husband and wife hold hands to pray and wreak havoc to the kingdom of darkness together.
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This year, we should make it our priority to serve and know God more. Let us give time to seeking and searching for the Lord. Wisdom is the principal thing we have to seek before anything.
2. Mentally
Our mental health is so important and we need to pay attention to it. Why we need to aim at this development as couples is that, if we don’t grow together, we will not be able to relate well to our spouse on the same level. We have mental capabilities that are yet untapped and we need to explore this aspect of our lives.
Our mental capacity is our ability to think well and process events well. It is the creative part of us. It is also our intellectual capacity. Some couples have the husband further his education and develop his mental capacity while the wife remains at the school certificate level.
We should as couples grow together and be on the same mental level so we can discuss issues together without the fear of losing our spouse in the discussion. The wife or husband should stop feeling intimidated whenever one spouse is discussing intelligently with other people of the opposite sex.
We should be able to engage our spouses mentally. Mental development is essential especially since men are logical. We can develop our mental capacity by going back to school (if need be), taking online courses, engaging in brain-stimulating events, learning new skills, reading news and other intellectual pieces, being current through reading and learning.
Don’t be rigid and old school. Learn new things and new ways of doing things.
The world has gone digital, don’t be analog in your mind. Don’t become obsolete or you will be laid aside by your contemporaries.
Let’s work on this aspect of our lives because it has effects on our marriage.
God bless our marriage!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I develop every aspect of my life because Jesus died for every aspect of it.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to give attention to every area of my life.
THOUGHTS FOR THE DAY Lk1:80 And the child grew, and waxed strong in spirit, and was in the deserts till the day of his shewing unto Israel
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Start developing these areas of your life
The Kind Of Beauty God Loves. We all want to look beautiful. It is delightsome when our husbands tell us, ‘you look pretty or ‘you are gorgeous’.
And I must tell you, there is so much noise about different beauty products. Makeup artists are being paid heavily just to make women look gorgeous.
The fashion industry is booming with different styles every day. We have all types of human hair now, and they are really expensive.
The other day I saw a Whatsapp video of a woman bleaching. She was literally removing the layer of the skin. Women go through all these troubles just to feel and hear people say they are beautiful.
There is nothing wrong with being beautiful. In fact, God loves it when we are beautiful because we reflect God in our beauty.
We as believers, however, who are called of God to be separate from those of the world and called out of darkness into His marvelous light need to know that our beauty and our motive has to be different.
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God never approves of a wife who is beautiful outwardly but has a nasty, stinking attitude, especially with her husband.
I love how the CEV bible puts it in
Don’t depend on things like fancy hairdos or gold jewelry or expensive clothes to make you look beautiful. Be beautiful in your heart by being gentle and quiet. This kind of beauty will last, and God considers it very special. – 1Pe 3:3-4
Our beauty should not be based on externals. If we spend all our time focusing on making our bodies beautiful at the expense of our spirit, we have beautiful bodies and ugly spirits.
God does care so much about our nails or fixed hair as much as He does our gentle and quiet spirit. He is not proud of wives who take their primary responsibility for granted.
Our primary responsibility is worship to God and part of our worship to God is honoring our husband.
Until we see being submissive, putting our husbands first, and honoring them as worship to God, we will keep fighting for our rights.
God is a just God and He well knows how to defend us, take care of us and reward us. All He asks of us is to honor Him first and be mindful of making the fragrance of our worship raise up to Him as our worship.
This is the beauty He is proud of and acknowledges.
May we not end up knowing all our beauty regimes were all wasted and as filthy rags before God.
May we all be truly beautiful inside out!
God bless our marriages
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I pay more attention to being beautiful inside
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to cultivate inner beauty more than outward beauty
THOUGHTS FOR THE DAY 1Pe 3:4 Be beautiful in your heart by being gentle and quiet. This kind of beauty will last, and God considers it very special.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Pay attention to developing your relationship with God
The year 2022 is very strategic and we need to position ourselves to be ready to partake of all God has for us.
You know, most of the time, we all think of what we should be or should have been doing. Sometimes, we even feel sorry about not doing those things. We feel bad and we figure if we had been doing those things how much we would have been happier and our lives would have improved.
The scary thing about this is that God will only tug at our hearts to do those things that will make us live a happier and fulfilled life or to stop doing certain things.
God will never force man to do what is right. God is a just God and He created us with the right to make our own decisions.
People are going to hell because they didn’t decide or make up their minds they are NOT going to end up in hell. Some other factors are responsible like disobedience, not forgiving, etc, but what I am saying is that, there is tremendous power in our decision. No devil can stop us once we take a decision.
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We all need to come to a point where we make up our minds and make decisive efforts. Not making a decision is a decision in its self.
Here are some decisions you can make this new year.
1. To spend more time with God and practice His presence
2. To spend more time with God’s word daily.
3. To read more widely.
4. To be an intercessor.
5. To be deliberate with loving people
6. To be a more happy person and not waste time being moody.
7. To save more money and be an investor
8. To exercise daily and watch your diet.
9. To live a life of giving and sacrifice
10. To be a doer of the Word.
11. To have mentors and follow them closely.
There are some other decisions you take daily or several times a day. Learn to live your life purposefully.
May the Lord grant us strength.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I live life more intentionally
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me strength to live on purpose
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 16:2 (KJV) All the ways of a man are clean in his own eyes; but the LORD weigheth the spirits.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Write out your own decisions for 2022
