Three Things Women Want In Their Husbands. One of the first commandments of marriage is ‘selflessness’. You will find happiness if you make your spouse’s happiness your priority. Husbands, if you truly love your wife, you will want to meet her needs.
Women have many needs but in today’s devotional, I will write about three of those needs.
Three Things Women Want In Their Husbands 1. Affection The Webster dictionary defines affection as “a feeling of liking and caring for someone or something : tender attachment : fondness”
Women love it when their husbands are fond of them. Husbands can show affection to their wives in a number of ways. The baseline is whatever you do in loving your wife, be thoughtful of her. Like her person and genuinely care for her and about her.
Let her know you are proud of being her husband. That you are proud of her, you genuinely value her contributions and opinions in your life.
Tender touches also show your affection towards her, public displays of affection (PDA), like holding her hands, smiling, and looking into her eyes are some other displays of fondness.
2. Meaningful Conversations Women love talking. Even for the introversive ones, she will still long to express herself by having meaningful conversations with her husband.
Meaningful conversations like what her desires are, her aspirations, her opinions, and her vulnerability are all that make for meaningful conversations for her. It’s important for a wife to be vulnerable to her husband.
It is a turn-off to conversations when the husband does not listen to understand his wife, and they can’t have a mature conversation.
Couples will always be different and so will have different opinions.
When husbands tune off, wives often feel they don’t care. Strong relationships are built on deep and meaningful conversations and real communication.
So if your wife says she wants to talk, switch off the TV, put your phone aside and give her your undivided attention.
3. Family Commitment Women need to feel secured. One of the ways she feels secured is when the wife knows that her husband is committed to her and her children completely.
Be Committed to your family by putting them first place in your thoughts, and decisions and being considerate of their welfare and happiness.
Let your wife see how important your family is to you. Love your children and be committed to them
Whether your marriage is on the rocks or strong as nails, it will absolutely benefit from examining these needs and applying them to your marriage. Always strive to give your spouse the very best of yourself.
Your marriage will thrive! There are the Three Things Women Want In Their Husbands
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love my wife. I am affectionate towards her. I meet her needs for meaningful conversations and I am committed to our family.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Let the love of God be shed abroad in my heart towards my wife
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY In any case, as for you individually, each one of you should love his wife as himself, and wives should respect their husbands. Ephesians 5:33 CEB
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be affectionate and love your wife genuinely. Be committed to your family and have meaning conversions with your wife
Couples – 3 Things Men Want in Their Wives. The first one is Respect
Men thrive better in marriage when their wives trust and respect them. I believe it is not just a need but how men are wired. They are wired to love and respond to respect.
You can make respect a priority in your marriage consciously. Your husband will always sense your attitude of respect. Respect in words and actions even in the very little things can make your husband calm and not uptight or harsh. With our soft answers, we can make them feel great.
Wives, be wise, don’t answer your husbands with a disrespectful tone or body language.
When he knows he has a wife that respects and celebrates his opinions he won’t want to exert his headship.
I guess it makes them feel on top of the world. You know like the feeling of being a king.
As the children grow, it is also essential to teach them and show them by example how to respect the man of the house.
The Bible also gives clear instructions, not a suggestion to wives to respect their husbands in Ephesians 5:33b CEV translation “…and wives should respect their husbands.“
Respect can be expressed in so many ways. Ask your own husband how he will like you to respect him. Since respect means different things to different people.
2. Intimacy
Men love it when they know that their wives are devoted to them. All men love it when you touch them. So, don’t allow the day to pass without your rubbing your husband’s back, or head, giving him a hug, a kiss, cuddling when watching a movie, or cuddling in bed. Just touch everywhere and anywhere. He is your husband.
Every Husband wants to know they are attracted to their wives physically. So initiate sex Let your husband know that he is the best and that he is still the handsome guy you fell in love with.
Share deep thoughts and feelings with him. Be vulnerable and let your husband know how you feel about issues and communicate without inhibitions.
3. Appreciation
Men do a lot in terms of keeping the family together especially good men. Being a good husband, father and a good provider is not an easy task. This is one of the 3 Things Men Want in Their Wives
So your husband will do well with some praise and appreciation
Be generous with your appreciation and praise. Don’t just appreciate your husband in your thoughts and in your heart. Learn to verbalize your appreciation. Say thank you, to your husband for helping out around the house. Don’t take those things for granted.
Say thank you for every little thing he does. Be quick to notice little and big gestures. Let them be big deals to you. Thanking your husband is very powerful, little wonder it’s one of the magic words
Celebrate his success and achievement. Be passionate about his work or job. Thank him for his effort, hard work, and diligence.
Let your husband be sure of your praise if any other person doesn’t praise him.
Leave short notes for him, letting him know how much you appreciate him.
Don’t focus on things you don’t have or the things he doesn’t do. Focus on the things he does and he will do more. It is a law, what you focus on becomes bigger and of course, he will also get better at being a good husband. These are the 3 Things Men Want in Their Wives.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a good wife. I focus on meeting the needs of my husband always. I am not weary of doing good.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY I ask for grace to be a doer of what my husband needs in Jesus mighty name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY In any case, as for you individually, each one of you should love his wife as himself, and wives should respect their husbands. Ephesians 5:33 CEV
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Respect your husband, appreciate and be intimate with him
This sounds like a preaching topic on a Sunday morning service. But we can also apply this to our marriage. We can’t separate our lives as Christians from our marriage. We have a Christian marriage because we first of all live the Christian life.
We have an enemy, an accuser, an adversary, the one who hates us with perfect hatred, the one who comes to steal everything good in our lives, he seeks to kill everything alive and seeks to destroy everything that gives us joy.
Look into your marriage, are there things that make you happy, that give you joy? Are there things you are grateful to God for, things that you are excited about?
Know that the devil is working over time, and he desires to put an end to your joy. But thank God for His Mercy, He will never allow this to happen.
Ps 94:17 KJV Unless the LORD had been my help, My soul had almost dwelt in silence.
We are all recipients of God’s mercies. We should never take these mercies for granted.
In learning to cooperate with God in other to get His will totally done and manifested in our lives, we have to be obedient to whatever He asks us to do.
One such instruction is ‘Go Ahead And Laugh at the Devil’. This may sound strange but it is an ‘act’ of faith. How can I laugh at the devil? When he is throwing ‘fiery darts’ at me? I don’t know whether it’s the fire of the dart to deal with first or the pain of the dart.
Sometimes it could be overwhelming. When you are like that, just laugh out loud!
You know God told the children of Israel to look at a brazen serpent hanging on a pole when they were bitten by real serpents. It looks ridiculous, but that is where their victory lies.
God will never ask anything that is not an act of faith and that He Himself has not done before.
Ps 2:1-2, 4 KJV Why do the heathen rage, And the people imagine a vain thing? The kings of the earth set themselves, and the rulers take counsel together, Against the LORD, and against his anointed, saying, He that sitteth in the heavens shall laugh: The Lord shall have them in derision
God Himself laughed at the devil and his cohorts (the heathen that imagine a vain thing against the Lord).
So instead of giving the devil attention, complaining, arguing, murmuring, getting frustrated, depressed, or downcast, just give out a good laugh.
First, the devil will be confused. Then he will flee. Light and darkness can’t stay together, darkness has to bow and go.
One of the surest ways to get the devil off your back fast is when you do the opposite of what he expects.
Sometimes he even expects us to be binding and loosing, sweating with unbelieving prayers. Just act out in faith. Do the extraordinary and laugh.
In famine and in war, you shall laugh. He has put laughter in your mouth so laugh.
Glory to God.
Go Ahead And Laugh at the Devil
May the sound of rejoicing and laughter never cease from your home and marriage
God bless your marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY God has already given me the victory so I can laugh at the devil
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Keep my eyes on your finished work Lord
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ps 2:1-2, 4 KJV Why do the heathen rage, And the people imagine a vain thing? The kings of the earth set themselves, and the rulers take counsel together, Against the LORD, and against his anointed, saying, He that sitteth in the heavens shall laugh: The Lord shall have them in derision
3 Things That Sustains You In Marriage. Why do we write devotionals every day and invest time and energy to keep pumping the word to you? It is because we need to keep hearing these words. There are so many voices struggling to get your attention, and you are what you hear.
Whatever we give our attention to will influence our actions, that is, how we behave.
Our intention is that your marriage can be all God says it will be. The more you hear or read, the more you will recover and be converted.
So this morning, I will be writing on 3 Things That Sustains You In Marriage
The first thing is:
1. The peace of God.
Many of us wonder what the peace of God is. Some believe that when I have a good job, have money to pay my bills, have no trouble at work, attend parties at weekends, and my children go to a good private school, then I have the peace of God.
I wish I could tell you that life without struggles is all there is to the peace of God.
We all know that life happens. Sometimes good people have bad problems that they can’t even account for. It seems as we grow older, we begin to experience life. That was why I loved being a child, but the reality is that no one can be a child forever. Even children now have issues which is no fault of theirs.
This world is on a downward movement and will always have troubles no matter what.
Our father is so good and merciful that He has already made provisions for us to overcome and navigate this world. He gave us His peace.
John 14:27 AMPC Peace I leave with you; My [own] peace I now give and bequeath to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Do not let your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid. [Stop allowing yourselves to be agitated and disturbed; and do not permit yourselves to be fearful and intimidated and cowardly and unsettled.]
The peace of God is one of 3 Things That Sustains You In Marriage. No matter what comes along the way or what the devil throws at you, His peace will sustain you.
When God speaks, He speaks peace. He is the prince of peace and He says peace be still to any raging storm in our lives or marriage.
Jesus wouldn’t just speak, you have to consciously have Him on your side. Have Him on your boat. Have Him in your home and marriage.
At the wedding in Cana of Galilee, Jesus was invited.
(John 2). He was not only invited but He was also recognized and acknowledged. His words were taken as important enough to obey whatever He said.
Do you want to experience peace in the midst of chaos? Let Jesus, the Word be given priority. Whatever He (the Word) says then do it.
What He (the word) says may not make logical sense just like it didn’t make any sense to fill water pots with water when they needed wine.
Whatever situation you are in that wants to steal the peace from your marriage, just listen to the prince of peace. He has peace in His custody.
May the Lord grant you His peace in Jesus’ name, Amen.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY God has given me His peace. I declare I have peace in the midst of whatever crisis
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Lord in the name of Jesus, give me the tenacity to study your word, the source of peace.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Peace I leave with you; My [own] peace I now give and bequeath to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Do not let your hearts be troubled, neither let be afraid. [Stop allowing yourselves to be agitated
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Go for the peace of God in the midst of whatever crisis you may be experiencing
Emotional Maturity in Marriage is what we are looking at this morning. Man is a tripartite being. We are spirits, we have a soul and we live inside a body. Our body is the earthly suit that makes us able to live and function on this earth. Exactly what a spacesuit is to astronauts in space, and makes it possible for them to stay and function in space.
We are spirits and really we need to understand we function from the spirit realm. We have to understand our identity as spirits and operate as such.
My focus for this morning is really centered on our Soul. Our soul is what connects our spirit and body together. Our soul is what makes us give expression to our spirit on earth through our bodies.
Our Soul contains our will power, intellect, and emotion. Our willpower is what helps us in decision-making. Our intellect is the faculty that help us function in the intellectual world. Our emotion is the seat of our feelings. It is where we feel pain, hurt, bitterness, loyalty, faithfulness, guilt, joy, etc
3 John1:2 in AMPC Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in every way and [that your body] may keep well, even as [I know] your soul keeps well and prospers.
Our soul must prosper. We must move from one level to another. We must grow in our soul realm. We should not be directed by our feelings alone in our marriage. This is what Emotional Maturity in Marriage is all about.
Have you ever eaten at a buffet and felt very full? At that moment, you are full but in some hours that changes and you become hungry again. Our feelings are fickle. Our feelings change.
Don’t take permanent actions based on temporary situations.
Our feelings are subject to change. When we feel like being bitter we switch to our spirit.
That is how we mature in our souls. Don’t yield to the dictates of your feeling. You are not your feeling.
In the practical sense, it’s not everything, every word, every action you respond to, to mature in your soul. Grow up in your soul.
Guard your heart and your soul for it affects your life and indeed your marriage. It affects your relationship with your spouse. Get rid of every bad feeling, hurt, pain, and negative vibe in your marriage. Replace them with positive emotions.
God bless your marriage. Emotional Maturity in Marriage is a must
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not my feelings. I live above my feelings.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Lord, I receive grace to master my feelings.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Rom 12:2 (CEV) Don’t be like the people of this world, but let God change the way you think. Then you will know how to do everything that is good and pleasing to him.
