The Greatest Investment For Your Lover or Spouse. Sally and George talked into the night. The love between them was palpable. As they gazed away at the sky dotted with stars that seem to cooperate with their emotions, Sally turned and looked at George. George was expecting a kiss. At last, she was going to yield.
Thoughts raced through his mind. The earth seems to stand still. George has been transported away in the rapturous romantic setting as he imagined what it would be like locking lips with Sally…and he was enjoying it until his fantasy was rudely interrupted by a question from Sally,
He woke up from his fantasy adventure, rather disappointed.
“George, what do you think would be your greatest investment into my life?”
“Hmmm…”
George had no idea what response Sally wanted exactly and he didn’t want to say something that will douse the romantic fire of the night.
“It would be your quest for knowledge. It would be an ongoing investment in your mind! Sally said.
Chai! This girl doesn’t know the times and seasons at all! George thought!
He sheepishly nodded his head in agreement with what Sally said. “Yes, the mind!” He said.
The Johnsons, who got married a few years back have not been enjoying their marriage as they expected. They couldn’t place their hands on what could be wrong.
Rather than search for answers, they kept on blaming themselves. The quarrels became incessant.
The reality is that every couple comes into the marriage with their baggage. These items of baggage are filled with experiences, opinions, outlooks, and so on.
However, the place of marriage is a place of learning and unlearning!
You have to be open to knowing more and also realize that you don’t know a lot!
What is The Greatest Investment For Your Lover or Spouse?
It is your quest to know more that ensures you will keep working on your marriage, making adjustments, and investing heavily in knowing more! This is The Greatest Investment For Your Lover or Spouse
Who is that woman you are married to?
Who is that man you want to spend the rest of your life with?
Who is that guy you are walking the aisle with?
Who is that lady that will bear your children and be their mother?
How can you keep pleasing each other?
Like the scriptures says:
Pro 1:20-23 (AMPC) Wisdom cries aloud in the street, she raises her voice in the markets; [21] She cries at the head of the noisy intersections [in the chief gathering places]; at the entrance of the city gates she speaks: [22] How long, O simple ones [open to evil], will you love being simple? And the scoffers delight in scoffing and [self-confident] fools hate knowledge? [23] If you will turn (repent) and give heed to my reproof, behold, I [Wisdom] will pour out my spirit upon you, I will make my words known to you.
Wisdom is everywhere. They are in the books. They are encapsulated in people around you!
This is what Kisses and Huggs Club devotionals attempt to do. To daily bring the wisdom of God to you for your relationships and marriage! Bringing to you The Greatest Investment For Your Lover or Spouse on a daily basis
Make up your mind to invest in your relationship and marriage today! It is The Greatest Investment For Your Lover or Spouse
Spirituality And Reality Of Soul Ties. Sally and George have been engaged for only three months. But in the short time they were together, they could not remember as many times as they had been intimate. When they quarreled after three months, they parted ways and went differently.
Somehow they kept thinking of each other. They had moved on differently and each of them even have new relationships but they kept on thinking of each other.
What happened to them? Why couldn’t they move on? Spirituality And Reality Of Soul Ties
The Johnsons, on the other hand, married a few months back and have their issues as well. Mr. Johnson couldn’t enjoy intimacy with his wife without importing the thoughts and images of his exes. He would have to disconnect from his wife and reconnect in his mind to a certain ex before he can reach the crescendo.
What was his issue? Spirituality And Reality Of Soul Ties
Sexual intimacy is created by God for your enjoyment and to bring you closer to marriage. It is the highest level of knowing your spouse. God is so particular about it that He said you must not deny or defraud each other. In other words, satisfy each other.
As a matter of fact, when you starve each other of this great blessing that God has afforded you, you actually make yourselves vulnerable. And the devil is quick to set up such traps in offices and anywhere. So, married couples, learn to satisfy each other, that is exactly what God wants.
The issue that Mr.Johnson has is called soul ties with previous lovers.
For Sally and George, the reality is that they have what is called a “soul tie!”
This is what pre-marital intimacy does! How does this happen? Spirituality And Reality Of Soul Ties
In marriage, it brings a bonding between the couple, because that is one of the purposes of intimacy. It cements the couple and joins them together at the highest possible level. Their souls become knitted together. They become one. They are glued together, and God says nobody should put them asunder.
But in intimacy outside marriage, there is also a bonding. It is just that it is another kind of bonding. It is an illegal bonding that gives access to the operation of demonic entities in one’s life. It is called soul ties.
This is what the scripture is talking about here:
“Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.” (1Co 6:15-16, KJV)
Can you see that?
In pre-marital intimacy, the two people also become one body! They are not married, but there is an illegal bonding that gives access to legal operations of demonic activities because of disobedience.
Message Translation puts it this way:
“There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, “The two become one.”” (1Co 6:16, MSG)
So we see that this is spiritual. As a matter of fact, when you get involved with someone, you are actually having intimacy with everybody that person has had intimacy with! It is not uncommon to see a person suddenly stealing after being intimate with someone that steals!
There is nothing like casual sex. Nothing is casual about it, it is spiritual. There is nothing like a one-night stand. One night stand can lead to an eternity of woes and damnation.
There is nothing like a quickie outside marriage. One quickie and one’s destiny can be quickly set back by five years or more!
This is just the reality! Spirituality And Reality Of Soul Ties
How do you break soul ties from past sexual mistakes?
1. Ask God to forgive you for the mistake 2. Repent and make up your mind not to do it again. 3. Fast and pray and ask God to severe every bonding and soul ties 4. Disconnect from such a person. Stop all the calls and chats 5. Psalm 23 says, “He restoreth my soul!” Ask God to restore your soul 6. Stop living in sin. Jesus told that woman, “Go and sin no more!” 7. Patiently wait for the salvation of God in your relationship. Don’t be hasty. Cooperate with God’s plan. 8. Believe that God has a plan for you and that the plan will become a reality. 9. Keep reading and studying God’s word. Your mind will be renewed over time. For example, if you can follow this devotional consistently, your mind will be renewed in this area and you will get to know a lot of things and be prepared for marriage and as married. A lot of people have testified to that.
I pray for you this morning that God will grant you more understanding.
Right now, I break every form of soul ties that may exist in Jesus’ name. I destroy every plan of hell over your destiny, I declare you free from consequences of past mistakes and I ask in the name of Jesus and by the power of the Holy Spirit that your soul be restored now to God’s desire for you as an individual and in your relationship/marriage….in Jesus name! Spirituality And Reality Of Soul Ties
This Is For Every Lady And Wife. Yesterday, I started writing about how to know if he will not marry you. I will conclude today and I will be writing to singles and married.
4. Authority figures are involved
This Is For Every Lady And Wife
For wives, the greatest thing you can encourage your husband to do is to make sure he submits to at least one authority figure! Such a person will be a mutual mentor to both of you whom you can listen to. There will be days you will need somebody like that to speak into your lives.
Singles, you can be very sure he will not marry you eventually if he avoids any authority figures in your plans.
“Don’t let’s talk to our parents now.”
“I don’t want pastors to know for now.”
“Let’s keep this between the two of us only.”
A relationship like this that is isolated and exists only between the two of you is the easiest to end. This Is For Every Lady And Wife
5. Perpetual life of unfaithfulness
Dear wives, do you suspect your spouse is cheating on you? Your response is important at this time.
Fighting, resorting to anger, retaliating by going out too, and such attitudes would not help. The best you can do is to have your spouse’s back which will begin with him being sincere! Sincerity shows a window for repentance. Denial is a bad sign. Talk. Communicate. Seek help.
“But pastor I don’t want to expose him?”
Well, he will soon expose you if you are not careful and everybody will blame you why you kept quiet and allowing fire to keep burning on the roof of your house!
For singles, you have discovered more than once that he is cheating on you. He keeps begging you that he won’t do it again. But you keep discovering from time to time.
The question is what are you doing with such a person? It is just a matter of time. If somebody is committed to you, he will focus on you.
Let’s even assume he gets married to you. He has been trained to be unfaithful, so you will need to live with that.
And then when you catch him again after marriage, he drops the bomb,
“But you know me before you got married to me! These girls are always disturbing me, what do you want me to do?”
He just told you that you will have to live with it.
May God bless our relationships and marriages. This Is For Every Lady And Wife
How To Know If He Won’t Marry You. Sally was downcast. Her whole world seemed to have fallen apart. In the past few hours, she has wept, lamented, and even considered suicide.
She could not believe what happened earlier in the day. Her husband-to-be, whom she loved unreservedly with all her heart, told her that he is no longer interested in marriage.
No reasons, no explanation, and that was it.
For once, she regretted that she allowed him to have sex with her severally. She felt so used and dumped that she couldn’t even pray. She felt small to even approach God in the place of prayers.
She thought about the mockery that would attend to her from friends and foes. She really loved Ade, and there was nothing that suggested that he would make such a shocking decision.
As she sat before the mirror in her room, she suddenly hated the whole idea of marriage. She looked at herself and concluded, “Maybe I am not beautiful enough.”
She even hated God as well. Why would God allow such a thing to happen to her, of all people?
What Sally doesn’t know is that the tell-tale signs have always been there that something like that would happen, but she didn’t take heed.
The second thing she doesn’t know is that pre-marital sex brings confusion into a relationship and you lose your sense of judgment and discernment because of illegal bonding and soul ties.
What are some of the tell-tale signs that a man would dump you later? What are the subtle signs?
How To Know If He Won’t Marry You. I will be talking to singles and married.
1. He will keep on telling you what you want to hear in order to keep you as long as he wants
He has your password. He knows what to say to keep you begging when there are quarrels even when he is obviously in the wrong. He knows how to manipulate your emotions to his advantage. He will always tell you what you need to hear. In fact, he enjoys quarreling with you because he knows you will always come begging, and begging will always culminate in sex
Ladies that fall to this gimmick often have low self-esteem. The guy is logical and he can see that, so he starts feeding that self-esteem in order to keep getting sex
For married couples, you must keep keep telling each the truth, but in love! Be naked before each other and don’t entertain sinister thoughts about each other because of hurts
How To Know If He Won’t Marry You
2. He will evade discussions on wedding plans
He will try as much as possible to evade discussions on wedding plans. If you trouble him enough, he will give you a date that he would not be committed to.
One other way he does that is to get angry whenever you raise the issue of a wedding and settling down.
Since you love him and you don’t want him to get angry again, you too will avoid it as much as possible discussing such again.
It is a sign that anything can happen.
For married, do not evade meaningful discussions. This is the oil of your marital engine. Keep on talking and don’t increase your vulnerabilities with silence and withdrawal
How To Know If He Won’t Marry You
3. He will never make commitments
When you ask him directly about plans, he will tactically avoid your question with no direct answers. You will spend two hours talking and yet there is no headway. He knows what he is doing. His mind is not made up.
When a guy’s mind is not made up, he would not talk, or at most he would tell you lies.
And because you are in love, you so easily believe the lies. But if you think deeply, you will know that something is wrong somewhere.
Married couples, be committed to each other! Focus on one another as no other person exists. Please each other after pleasing God! May God bless your marriage!
Mercy Said No! Listen to me, you are a candidate for God’s mercy, as long as you are God’s child.
Thank God for His mercies.
Do you remember that song by CeCe Winans? “Mercy said No”
The devil said you will not live long, but mercy said “No!” The devil said you won’t get married, but mercy said “No!” The devil said you won’t have children, but mercy said “No!”
As a young man preparing for marriage in the nineties, the devil said to me, that I would not be able to father children, but mercy said “No!” Today, God has given us three boys! Mercy Said No!
The devil told Joseph he won’t realize his dreams, but mercy said “No!
The devil wanted to snuff out the life of Jesus as a baby, but mercy said “No!”
At a time, it looked like it was over for me in ministry when I made a decision to quit pastoring a local assembly and obey God in starting an online ministry, and I thought it was over too, but mercy said “No!”
They said you will not graduate, but mercy said “No!”
They said you are good for nothing, but mercy said “No!
They said you are not fine, but mercy said “No!” You ended up getting a fine spouse!
They said you will be poor forever, but mercy said “No!”
The devil thought he would end your life because of that mistake you made, but mercy said “No!”
The prodigal son thought it was over for him as he ate the portion that belonged to the pigs, but mercy said “No!
They threw Apostle John into a drum of boiling oil, to fry him alive but mercy said “No!” He just wouldn’t die!
Listen to me, it is too late for the devil. Mercy covers you. Mercy is speaking for you before God. Jesus took His blood, the offering carried by the offerer, and sprinkled all of it on the mercy seat, just because of you.
Where are you this morning? Let the mercy of God locate you. Let that mercy speak for you!
I see God’s mercy bailing you out. Yes, you messed up quite alright, but His mercy will bring out a message from that mess.
Let hope come alive in your spirit this morning. Mercy is here! Mercy is for you and that mercy is holding you by the hand.
“ARISE [ from the depression and prostration in which circumstances have kept you—rise to a new life ]! Shine (be radiant with the glory of the Lord), for your light has come, and the glory of the Lord has risen upon you! [ Zec 8:23 ]” (Isa 60:1, AMP)
Arise Now! It is not over. That jilting experience cannot define you. That abandonment does not qualify you, because of His Mercies! What if you lost all the money? Start over because of His Mercies!
Rise to a new life! I curse that spirit of depression and despondency right now that seeks to pull your head down! Rise up into the newness of God and Shine!
