Be Joyful To Win Or Stay Sad And Lose. There are no two ways to it, you are either a joyful being and you keep winning or you like traversing the land of depression and discouragement and you lose by default!
You will not lose! You have to decide to enjoy this journey while on it and stay joyful!
The regular happenstances seemed to be designed to bring heartaches; jilting experiences, heartbreaks, disappointments, quarrels, betrayals, emotional affairs, full-blown affairs, side chick matters, habitual cheats, and so on…
So you might seem justified to have a lousy day…but listen to me, staying sad will make you lose more, can affect your health, and steal your progress!
Decide to be happy and fun to be with!
Be Joyful To Win Or Stay Sad And Lose.
You will not lose! We have been looking at ten essential qualities for any marriage to succeed.
Trust Communication Respect Love Affection Honesty Understanding Cooperation Commitment Fun
Today we will be looking at the last one which is Fun!
Be Joyful To Win Or Stay Sad And Lose.
Even God wants you joyful! You see, that joy is your strength! Looking morose draws tiredness and weariness!
God commands you to get up and be joyful! Take a look:
Isa 60:1 (KJV) Arise, shine; for thy light is come, and the glory of the LORD is risen upon thee.
Now you need to read this in the Amplified version!
Isa 60:1 (AMPC) ARISE [from the depression and prostration in which circumstances have kept you–rise to a new life]! Shine (be radiant with the glory of the Lord), for your light has come, and the glory of the Lord has risen upon you!
Arise! Yes, you went through this and that! You are not alone in that bracket!
Don’t let the devil push you into a corner of regret where your destiny becomes immobilized!
Decide to enjoy your relationship instead of it being riddled with daily quarrels.
Couples, your own can even be funny! You are married to that guy or lady!
Why build your family home on depression street, sadness avenue?
It just doesn’t make sense!
Have fun in that marriage! It’s a choice!
Forgive quickly, don’t quarrel over everything, don’t be a sadistic person, and don’t allow your past to cripple your present moment!
Learn to draw joy from God’s word!
Learn to dance all by yourself when things seem they are going awry!
Learn to slot in some music and dance all any yourself to your victory!
Stop sulking. Stop murmuring. Stop complaining. Start living! Learn to laugh, dance, and praise God in the midst of crisis! You will come out in victory when you learn to do that!
Pro 5:18 (GNB) So be happy with your wife and find your joy with the woman you married
Commitment: A Guide to a Lasting Love Life. Dear husband, when you kneel before that beautiful lady and proposed to her, either literally or otherwise, what do you think you were offering her in totality? It was your commitment!
Dear wife, when you decided to walk down the aisle, forsaking your father’s name and taking another man’s own, joyfully and with indescribable ecstasy, what do you think you were giving him? It was your commitment!
Dear handsome single guy, when you kept wooing that lady and won’t leave her alone, what do you think she is actually looking for? Your commitment!
Dear beurry potato! What do you think you will give him that will bind you together in an unflinching manner? Your commitment!
Today we are talking about commitment in relationships and marriage!
We have been looking at ten essential qualities for any marriage to succeed.
Trust Communication Respect Love Affection Honesty Understanding Cooperation Commitment Fun
Today we continue with the next which is Commitment! Commitment: A Guide to a Lasting Love Life
Let’s see how commitment makes all the difference in creating a strong married life and some tips on how to stay committed to yourselves.
What Does Commitment Look Like?
When considering what being truly committed looks like in a marriage, one must consider aspects beyond loyalty and love – factors such as trustworthiness; communication; joining each other’s interests; appreciation of family members; standing up for each other during challenging situations; spending quality time together – regardless of routines imposed by society or culture…all of which strengthen bonds within any type of relationship! When couples commit to these principles, they create an atmosphere where differences cease to exist because respect keeps everything from crumbling down.
God wants you and your loved one to be forever committed to each other and warned any intruder from pulling you apart! That is how much God wanted it! You can rightly say that God is committed to your commitment!
Mat 19:4-6 (MSG) [4] He answered, “Haven’t you read in your Bible that the Creator originally made man and woman for each other, male and female? [5] And because of this, a man leaves father and mother and is firmly bonded to his wife, becoming one flesh—no longer two bodies but one. [6] Because God created this organic union of the two sexes, no one should desecrate his art by cutting them apart.”
Commitment: A Guide to a Lasting Love Life
Committing fully to your marital partner will significantly improve relationships on many levels including mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
What are Tips For Developing And Maintaining Healthy Marital Commitment
Make time for yourself – It takes energy to remain constantly focused on others so it is important for couples to create intentional “me time for reflection, recreation, and relaxation.
Celebrate small wins. Rejoice with the wife of your youth. Be grateful for who God has given you as a spouse or lover
Stop focusing on the negatives, rather focus on the good things and good qualities of your spouse.
Do not attack one another. Be quick to appreciate yourselves and be slow to criticize yourselves!
Stay faithful and focused. Avoid distractions and do not desecrate your marital covenant knowing that God is the ultimate witness in your marriage!
These tips help in staying committed to one another!
Cooperation: A Key Ingredient for a Happy Marriage. Two people cannot walk together or work together unless they are in agreement, alignment and cooperation! Nobody plows a farm with one ox going forward while the other is going backward. In every facet of life, cooperation is needed to succeed.
We have been looking at ten essential qualities for any marriage to succeed.
Trust Communication Respect Love Affection Honesty Understanding Cooperation Commitment Fun
Today we continue with the next which is Cooperation.
Cooperation: A Key Ingredient for a Happy Marriage
Whether married or in a relationship, it’s important for couples to work together as one unit if they want their marriage to last. Here’s how cooperation between you and your partner can help strengthen the bond of your union:
Support Each Other Through Difficult Times
During challenging times, spouses should lean on each other for support rather than competing against each other. Even though couples may sometimes disagree over certain issues, being able to talk things through calmly and rationally is key when trying to get back on the same page after an argument. Supporting each other during difficult times will make any couple stronger in the end.
During difficult times or when you are having challenges, don’t blame each other! You are already going through some difficulties, don’t add more to them but rather harness the power of agreement and pray together! You’ve got to cooperate!
Mat 18:19 (MSG) When two of you get together on anything at all on earth and make a prayer of it, my Father in heaven goes into action.
Cooperation: A Key Ingredient for a Happy Marriage
2. Get Involved In Each Other’s Tasks
Couples should collaborate with each other on both domestic tasks like cooking dinner, taking care of children, or doing chores around the house and also spend time enjoying activities together such as going out for date nights every week/month or watching movies/shows that interest them both at home etc. This type of involvement not only shows appreciation toward one another but leads to a better understanding of what matters most for them. You must be deliberate in cooperating with one another and shut out the devil from your marriage!
Cooperation: A Key Ingredient for a Happy Marriage
3. Set Aside Disagreements For Mutual Goal Accomplishment
Do not allow continuous petty disagreements to mess up your family and financial goals. You don’t have to reply to every statement made by your lover or spouse and you don’t have to answer every question bluntly! Remember what the scripture says about soft answers?
Pro 15:1 (KJV) A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
Take a look at The Message Translation
Pro 15:1 (MSG) A gentle response defuses anger, but a sharp tongue kindles a temper-fire.
Ensure that your overall goal is not tampered with and that no strife or animosity is retained.
Cooperate together at all times so you that can enjoy yourselves together!
Good morning!
Cooperation is A Key Ingredient for a Happy Marriage. Use REVIVE Day 17 prayers below!
How To Understand Your Lover and Spouse. I often wondered which planet my spouse came from after my wedding! Interestingly, there is this thing that tells you before the wedding that you know your loved one through and through! Ha Ha Ha! I laugh in the Holy Ghost. Wait till you are married! Don’t believe that thing o!
I will attempt to address both single and married. The subject of understanding one’s spouse is so key in any relationship or marriage!
Why do you even need to understand one another? It’s simple, you are so different from one another. Opinions, perspectives, leanings, and preferences will be so diverse you will often wonder how your significant other is thinking!
How To Understand Your Lover and Spouse
When God wanted to stop the progress of super brilliant humans while building the Tower of Babel, of which God Himself testified that they will achieve their goal, He went for their “understanding!”
Gen 11:7 (KJV) Go to, let us go down, and there confound their language, that they may not UNDERSTAND one another’s speech.
When the devil wants to tinker with your relationship or marriage, he tries to touch your “understanding!”
You must make effort to understand one another!
You need to understand that your lover or spouse wants to be understood. There is a need for everybody to be understood.
Oh yeah, most women don’t even understand themselves, and yet they want their husbands to understand them, is that not unfair?
Well, you need to know that all your wife wants is to feel that you are willing to understand her.
How To Understand Your Lover and Spouse
In other to understand one another, you must have a listening ear! You must be able to put yourself in the shoes of your spouse!
Stop saying you already know what they want to say! Are you the Holy Spirit? Let them talk! And Listen!
Listen with eyeball-to-eyeball contact. Put your phones aside. Show that you care!
After your lover has spoken, regurgitate the words back to show you really got the message!
Make sure you reply with sentences explaining what you thought they have just said.
Don’t just say ok!
Ok? Lol…
God bless you today!
Use REVIVE prayers below to pray on Understanding your lover or spouse!
Assignment For How To Understand Your Lover and Spouse
Ask your spouse to list three ways they feel you don’t understand them or three ways they feel you need to understand them more.
How To Be Honest With Your Spouse. Honesty! It is one of the secrets of a successful relationship and marriage! Are you aware that most relationships broke, and most marriages are terminated because one or both spouses were not honest? Oh yes!
Why is this so crucial? I will tell you! It is because honesty strengthens marriages by strengthening trust!
Trust is so pivotal to any successful marriage, that you can’t trifle with it! What makes trust real is honesty!
We have been looking at ten qualities that all singles and couples will need in their relationship or marriage
Trust
Communication
Respect
Love
Affection
Honesty
Understanding
Cooperation
Commitment
Fun
Today we continue with the next which is Honesty! How To Be Honest With Your Spouse
For singles, the greatest blessing you can have is to be in love with someone who is honest! It will eliminate unnecessary hassles and heartache. If you have not met anybody yet, you can begin to pray for this quality! God answers prayers!
You won’t have to discover shocking things after the wedding because your lover would have opened up to you before then.
It can be frustrating to keep discovering some new funny things every other day in marriage.
For couples, be honest in every area! Take a look at this scripture.
Eze 45:10 (MSG) Use honest scales—honest weights and honest measures.
A scale is a system used to measure. The weight is what you measure. The measures are the units that express weight!
God said everything must be honest! What this portends is that there should be total honesty in every area of your life.
There shouldn’t be honesty in certain areas while other areas are shrouded in mystery.
The problem with that is that one day, every secret will be discovered and at that point, hearts are broken, trust is shattered, and these are not good experiences for any relationship or marriage.
Php 4:8 (KJV) Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest…
Let this scripture regulate your relationship and marriage and you will have less heartache!
If trust is broken already and there are crises, take time to start building trust back by being honest!
Each lie told after a broken trust is like an arrow being thrown into a festering wound!
Decide to be truthful, particularly when you think about the spiritual implication!
Pro 6:16-17 (KJV) These six things doth the LORD hate: yea, seven are an abomination unto him: [17] A proud look, A LYING TONGUE…
Joh 8:44 (KJV) Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.
Notice the connection between lust and lies here!
Say with me, I am of God, and God is my father! I speak the truth at all times and I have a honest heart!
This is How to Be Honest With Your Spouse. Have a great day and may your week be blessed!
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