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Two Signs of A Toxic Marriage. Similar to how an ailment can afflict an individual without becoming evident for some time, a marriage can be unhealthy without the obvious manifestation of underlying issues. 

Nonetheless, signs are bound to reveal themselves. Although there are numerous warning signs, we shall examine a few this morning.

Two Signs of A Toxic Marriage

1. Lack of a Spiritual Connection

A marriage in which the couple does not have a spiritual connection with God is likely to deteriorate with time. 

Building a successful home necessitates the involvement of a higher power.

Psalm 127:1 (KJV) states, “Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the Lord keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.”

It is only through the intervention of God that a house can become a home.

It is not enough to have a passing relationship with God; it must be built and nurtured.

This concept also applies to singles who are preparing to meet or are already in a courtship with their beloved. Falling in love with someone who does not have a profound spiritual connection is ill-advised.

It is effortless to discern whether an individual has a spiritual connection with God or not. His actions, words, choices, and priorities reveal the kind of person he is.

Don’t settle for just a good-looking partner; aim for a spiritually mature and deep individual. 

A man who genuinely knows God will not resort to hitting or beating his wife, while a woman who is familiar with God will not be a perpetual source of annoyance to her husband.

Why did I say this is toxic? A person without a deep relationship with God will have no restraint and will eventually mess things up.

Two Signs of A Toxic Marriage

2. Lack of Accountability

An unaccountable couple is perched atop a keg of gunpowder that could detonate at any moment.

Wisdom is the foundation of life, and every error and setback is a manifestation of foolishness lurking within.

Accountability provides a means to learn from older couples and those who have been in your shoes before.

Falling in love with an unaccountable person is the most dangerous thing one can do in life. To those who have ears, hear now!

The saddest part of counseling is often the conversation that goes like this:

“Who is his/her pastor?”
“He does not have a pastor.”

“What about his parents?”
“His parents cannot speak to him. He won’t listen.”

“Does he listen to any of his friends?”
“None of his friends can talk to him.”

“Then who does he listen to?”
“He listens to nobody!”

Once an individual has alienated themselves from all authority figures, isolated themselves from any help, and disconnected themselves from those who can provide guidance, the situation becomes complicated. 

Therefore, it is prudent to consider only those who are accountable when seeking a partner. For those already married, it is essential to address accountability lovingly and prayerfully. 

This is toxic because marriage without accountability will resort to manipulation and the like, with nobody to correct the ignorance and arrogance that come with a life that is not accountable 

May God assist us all.

These are two of the warning signs of an unhealthy marriage. I will be concluding here this morning.

Good morning!


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