I want to be sincere with the question I want to ask right now.
With the way your marriage is, is there still any hope yet?
Have you given up on your marriage or relationship and you are just going through the motions?
What is your response?
I want to show you something powerful this morning, which was what we taught on REVIVE Day 1. If you missed it on Mixlr earlier this morning at 5.00am, there will be a repeat broadcast on YouTube soon.
I was writing a story yesterday! Permit me to pause the story and I will be back to continue the story later!
Can These Bones Live?
Eze 37:1 (KJV) The hand of the LORD was upon me, and carried me out in the spirit of the LORD, and set me down in the midst of the valley which was full of bones,
These valleys were full of bones and Ezekiel must have been asking, what is God up to here? I mean these are dry bones and nothing much can come out of them.
Have you come to a place like that in your marriage where you believe it can’t be good again?
Have you been in a cycle of strife and bitterness that you believe marriage is not for you?
Have you had so many broken relationships as singles that you believe you should just remain single?
This is where Ezekiel found himself. Can These Bones Live?
Verse 2 makes it worse!
Eze 37:2 (KJV) And caused me to pass by them round about: and, behold, there were very many in the open valley; and, lo, they were very dry.
Lo, they were very dry! It’s not a little dry and but very dry!
Things have gone really bad!
Eze 37:3 (KJV) And he said unto me, Son of man, can these bones live? And I answered, O Lord GOD, thou knowest.
If Ezekiel were a Nigerian, he would be like “God, are you whinning me? How can they live?
He said, God, it’s you that knows!
Are you in that place already? Can your marriage be good again?
Uhmm, It’s God that knows!
When will you get married?
It’s God that knows!
This is what we addressed and prayed about this morning! Can These Bones Live?
God is asking you that question not to point you to the impossibility but to ignite your hope that He will intervene in your situation!
God will come through for you!
He will intervene!
The first step is to let all aches and bitterness go! Let God! Forgive and let God bring something new in your life!
God was trying to work on the heart of Ezekiel with that question!
God wants to heal your heart first!
Psa 12:5 (MSG) Into the hovels of the poor, Into the dark streets where the homeless groan, God speaks: “I’ve had enough; I’m on my way TO HEAL THE ACHE IN THE HEART OF the wretched.”
Decide to forgive one more time. Decide to let go of bitterness!
Watch the video below the page anytime from around 8am and use the prayers!
In The Hole – The Assault. In one deft kick, I sent him sprawling on the ground. He couldn’t believe it. In a melange of consternation and agony, he came for me. I was ready for him and I expected that. His consternation arose from the reality of a lady humiliating him like that, a rather slim lady. His agony from the lethal pain I carefully meted out to him.
I knew something like that might happen at such an ungodly hour. It was a risk I had to take as I was feeling feverish and I couldn’t stay throughout the party. I had to risk it and walk home. My bestie that would have walked me home was as drunk as a fish.
In The Hole – The Assault
This unwanted ally had approached me thinking he had easy meat to fry. He was going to sexually assault me, and I was in no mood for such. Little did he know I was a black belter.
His consternation and agony morphed into a fearful fury as he saw that I did not run from his charge. He came with his right hand raised and clenched. The mistake of his life.
He swung his right hand with all his might with the intention to knock me out, and he could have, but I dodged in a very cute way, by bending a little, and that was all the opportunity I needed. My clenched knuckles landed on the region between his thighs. His eyes popped out as he grabbed his balls, then a scream, and then he yelled in vernacular, “Ye mo gbe o, Aje lomo yi o.“
I chuckled. It’s not only a witch you will see, you will soon see a wizard. The pernicious knuckles I gave him had him in the hole, writhing in pain. I walked away.
That pain meant nothing to me. All my life had been one of pain.
In The Hole – The Assault
How did I get here? My early years were all loving and cute until the enemy interrupted me. I used to be a church girl. I still remember my first memory verse. Will never forget it.
Pro 1:10 (KJV) My son, if sinners entice thee, consent thou not.
I was just five years old then. Looking back, I had not only consented, but I am now the sinner enticing others. I was holed up in the hole.
It’s not even funny. Mu mum would convulse in her grave to have an inkling of how my life is.
My dad? He is alive but does not exist in my life. I care less. I hate him too.
When The Flags Go Red. Sally knew within her something is not right. But she ignored them because she felt nobody is perfect. She decided to overlook all the red signs. She should have met the couple next door, the Johnsons, the husband saw all the red flags and decided to “skip the part” Now a major issue is pulling them apart in their marriage!
What are these red flags, as singles or married? Let’s take a look at one today!
When The Flags Go Red
Red Flags Before Wedding
Lies and Deception
Your lover tells lies and you know! Really a red flag. If it has become habitual, the storyline would likely continue after the wedding. Habits don’t die easily unless one is willing to really confront them head-on. But the challenge with a habitual lair is that he or she is already courting with the spirit of deception. That same spirit responsible for always cooking up lies and telling others would also lie to the lar. This is what you call self-deception!
The habitual lair sees lying as sport or fun! This even becomes intense because God warned about this sternly!
Joh 8:44 (KJV) Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.
The devil himself is a liar and the father of all liars.
This is really fearful, to say the least.
Again, the Bible says without mincing words here that lairs have a damnable destination!
Rev 21:8 (KJV) But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, AND ALL LIARS, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.
Like Bishop Oyedepo would say, Caution! Caution! Caution!
A lying spirit should not be accommodated in one’s life! When The Flags Go Red
You can even take it further and discover that all adulterous lifestyles, all cheating, unfaithfulness, or infidelity are predicated on lies! An adulterer would be a good liar!
The one flesh principle of marriage, however, stipulates that when you are telling a lie to your spouse, you are lying to yourself because you are one!
Can you now see how chaotic things can get with this undesirable habit?
A lover who lies is raising a red flag for you to see!
A spouse who lies is toying with the marriage because telling lies hobnobbing directly with the devil himself. The door will be left open and the devil will explore that loophole!
Now, people tell lies for a lot of reasons, but that won’t stop the consequences! Some were even taught to lie by parents and guardians especially if you are from a polygamous setting or a broken home!
The reality is that you have to take charge of your life! You have to be responsible. Decide to confront the habit and come open before God like Jacob had to do! When The Flags Go Red
Your openness, sincerity, and integrity will save not only save you and your family and prevent unnecessary tears and agony but would also save your regeneration unborn! Put your feet down and let the devil know you will not be a gateway to his antics and deception in your lineage!
Be sincere with your spouse knowing that you will have to face God one day and give account! Why don’t you talk to God now?
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What Version Is Your Lover? Sally is such a beautiful girl. Her gentle mien, so angelic was an attraction to George who is hopelessly in love with her. Their love story looked straight out of the movies. Everything looked good. Till they began their courtship. Well they say, beauty is only skin deep. The person who lies beneath the skin showed up. the real Goerge within George met the real Sally within Sally! Things began to fall apart and the center could not hold.
They managed and got married thinking once wedded, their demons would leave them. Alas, it was not to be. It was as if the issues got married too and followed them to honeymoon and then to home.
Every time, Sally wished she could have back the George she met when he proposed to her. George longed for the Sally that used to cause all the butterflies to spread their wings in a romantic matric within his tummy, but he couldn’t find her.
What really happened? What Version Is Your Lover?
Do you want to know what happened?
You see, when two people are together, as singles in courtship or as a married couple, and begin to “abuse” the relationship or marriage, they inadvertently create another version of a lover or spouse!
When you “mistreat” your spouse continually, taking advantage of him or her, always the one doing one wrong thing or the other, there would be a reaction. That reaction is the version of a lover you have created with perpetual carelessness and insensitivity to your spouse. There comes a time, you are almost looking for your lover and can’t find him or her, yet beside you!
Son 3:1 (KJV) By night on my bed I sought him whom my soul loveth: I sought him, but I found him not.
And the devil loves this. Both the person causing the issue and the one reacting are both in the flesh. Both sides believe the other is wrong. The hatred with which you hate now becomes greater than the love you use to love!
2Sa 13:15 (KJV) Then Amnon hated her exceedingly; so that the hatred wherewith he hated her was greater than the love wherewith he had loved her. And Amnon said unto her, Arise, be gone.
May you not be found in this milieu!
What Version Is Your Lover? Depending on who is on the receiving end, you either have a version of a husband who is cranky most of the time, prefer to come home late to avoid trouble, and whose vulnerability without the home is beginning to trap him or a version of a wife who is withdrawn, withholding sex, bitter and depressed.
This happens in courtship too. You keep taking advantage of that relationship, apologizing every day and yet going back the next day to do the same thing, like you are the one anointed to create problems and the other is empowered to deal with the mess. After a while, you create a version of an angry lover who might eventually walk away.
The coordinates I am trying to establish this morning are very simple. What version of lover or spouse do you think you have created? What Version Is Your Lover?
How long will you stay in the flesh, remain stubborn, and stay in strife because you think you are right? How long will you open the door for the devil because of ego? How long will you continue to deny your weakness and bad habits that is causing woes for your spouse? For how long will you allow a spirit of deception to have a hold on your soul and refuse to confront the obvious?
Will you cry to the Lord this morning and ask for help? Will you seek the needed counsel you need or watch as thing degenerate more?
This is my conteplation this morning! You’ve got to take charge come out to open and honest and begin to treat and love your lover or spouse as the scripture recommended.
Amo 3:3 (KJV) Can two walk together, except they be agreed?
Are you truly submitting to your husband? Are you truly loving your wife? Are you truly having a godly relationship without sex as singles? Selah before you answer the questions and let them lead you to a point of change and decision!
Don’t Stop The Music! No matter how Sally tried, she was never happy! Her past seemed to haunt her at every point. Her experiences in the past had become a monster reaching beyond her present and even into her future and everything looked bleak for her. Even after the wedding when she thought things would change, they pretty much remained the same!
I want to quickly write to singles and married this morning. What is expected of you? What does God want from you? While we cannot exhaust them all, here is a quick excursion into that discourse.
Isa 35:10 (KJV) And the ransomed of the LORD shall return, and come to Zion with songs and everlasting joy upon their heads: they shall obtain joy and gladness, and sorrow and sighing shall flee away.
If you look at the above scripture, you will see that being glad and joyful is a choice you need to make!
Don’t Stop The Music!
Go after God. Let Him be the lover of your soul before you start looking for a lover of your body. Your single years should be expended on a hot pursuit after God. You see, that is the season of your life when you have the most time. After the wedding, you are going to get so busy! You should be so busy for God that there is no time for depression or some negativities.
For those who are married, let God be your priority in your family. Let Him have the rule over your family and all affairs. Trust me, as we learned on our Whatsapp Community yesterday, to keep the music on, you will need God all the way!
Don’t Stop The Music!
I taught yesterday via WhatsApp, that what the devil wants is to mute your music and stop your dance and move from a dance ballroom into a boxing ring where all you do is fight and bicker.
Even in courtship, the devil hates your music and dance. He doesn’t want you happy! He wants your relationship riddled with quarrels.
His method is to get you to sin and offend God through sexual sins so that you can be cut off from God and His favour!
Don’t Stop The Music!
Make up your mind to live for God!
Your first song is “Nobody stops my music and dance! “
Don’t let any past issues, past abuse, or past experiences stop your music.
You need that atmosphere of joy and rejoicing to get things done and have perpetual victory as single or married.
Have you ever fought and stayed in strife with your lover or spouse till you forget what even caused it in the first place? That’s the attempt of the devil to stop your joy!
Don’t allow him. You have that choice to make! Don’t Stop The Music!
