Physical Intimacy For Singles and Married Let’s talk to the singles first! Flee Fornication! To flee means “to run away as in terror!” Where God asked you to run, don’t say “Let’s reason together! Run for your dear life!
It doesn’t matter if you are the head of the Prayer unit, that thing doesn’t respect your anointing! Just run. Before sex happens, you will always know, at least five minutes before. The voice is changing to bedroom voice, the room is becoming romantic, and you are all alone, staring into your eyes as if you have never seen each other before, you are smiling at each other sheepishly when nothing is funny, you are holding hands and goose pimples are appearing, and you are still sitting there saying you are in control? Dear son, dear daughter, you are already out of control. Things are about to fall apart where the center can no longer hold, and the next thing will be the arrow of God! So run!
Physical Intimacy For Singles and Married
Why would you visit him to spend the night? What were you thinking? Is his house a place for Night Vigils? or did he say his place is now a hotel?
The Scripture advises that you should not wake these hormones that are sleeping on their own!
Son 2:7 (KJV) I charge you, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, by the roes, and by the hinds of the field, that ye stir not up, nor awake my love, till he please.
Don’t indulge in oral sex either! How do you hold that thing in your mouth on Friday and still come to hold the Microphone on Sunday? Ha, fear God o! Stop poking at Grace!
I have said all of these to tell you, get back to God and consecrate your life all over gain. Get that fire back that you have lost in the place of compromise!
Physical Intimacy For Singles and Married
Now, to the couples. Can you imagine? We are telling the couples, to do this thing o! We are telling singles, don’t do it! God will help us!
God desires that you have sexual pleasure as married couples! As in, have the most fun in that area! Some people believe they are more spiritual than God!
Let’s see what the scripture says!
“Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.” Pro 5:19 (KJV)
Solomon is advising us in God’s word! That is, concentrate on your wife’s breasts rather than another man’s! When another woman’s breasts start winking at you, you’re moving toward adultery!
Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe. Where? On the bed! Be thou ravished with her love! It means you should be in love with her.
Another translation can be found here.
“She is beautiful and graceful, just like a deer; you should be attracted to her and stay deeply in love.” Pro 5:19 (CEV)
Physical Intimacy For Singles and Married
Stay deeply in love with each other and keep your attention on each other. Stop letting unnecessary demonic squabbles ruin your sexual life! It is not safe for a man to be sexually starved due to quarrels, nor is it acceptable for a woman to be sexually neglected due to childish tantrums.
Forgive each other quickly and have fun sexually!
It is a decision you should make as a couple!
Do not use sex to punish your husband, dear wife. It’s not going to work.
Do not ignore your wife in order to punish her, dear husband.
Make a decision to enjoy each other!
Have sex first, then settle your differences later. Singles, stop using sex to end quarrels! There will be too many quarrels, deliberately! If you know, you know!
Twinkle Little Stars, How I Wonder Where God Is? I attended Sanni Luba Nursery and Primary School. I can still remember our school Bus picking me up every morning, back in the seventies. The last four seats at the back of the Bus were a no-go area for us, we have been seriously warned by the grandma who accompanied the driver to pick students up. Why? There was a hole/opening on the floor of that bus at the back, and you could literally see the road beneath the bus and it sped off on the road. I remember taking a look at that hole and wondering as a four-year-old what would happen if somebody jumped inside the hole while the bus was speeding!
My little mind simply imagined that if I jumped inside, I would cry and then they will quickly pick me up. I imagined that every day while summoning courage to do it one day! Thank God there was no opportunity to try that. The grandma sat just before the hole in the bus, preventing any adventurous kid from experimenting.
Twinkle Little Stars, How I Wonder Where God Is?
One of the foremost lullabies we learned in school is Twinkle twinkle little star by Jane Taylor.
Twinkle, twinkle, little star, How I wonder what you are Up above the world so high, Like a diamond in the sky Twinkle, twinkle little star, How I wonder what you are
To many of us, God is like the twinkle, twinkle little star. We take a look at our situation and we simply wondered if God existed.
Up above the sky so high, I know you are there, but then I wonder who you are to me! We are not exactly mouthing this song, but our thought seems to be recapping the song in our hearts when we survey our situation.
How can God be there, and I am still single? As if singleness is a disease o! How can God be there and my spouse is treating me like this? Where is my spouse? Where is God? Where is my financial breakthrough? Where is God? Where is my admission to that school? Where is God? When will my wedding take place? Where is God?
REVIVE CONVERSATIONS now holds on ZOOM!Drop all relationship /marital questions, issues, and troubles ANONYMOUSLY, or just vent and pour your heart out. We will respond and judge the situation together by 9.00pm (Tuesdays and Thursdays) – https://khcng.com/vent/
Twinkle Little Stars, How I Wonder Where God Is?
Oh God, I really want to know you. Show yourself to me in my situation. Touch me, heal me, strengthen me, mend my broken heart, let me just know you are with me!
Well, if we are looking for God to show up in our situation, we don’t need to look too far away. Jesus Christ said, if you see me, you have seen God!
In other words, God is no longer like the mysterious twinkle, twinkle little star, He is no longer far away, He has shown Himself to us in the person of Jesus. Jesus is God personified.
Then, the next question of course is, where is Jesus Christ? He lived on earth about 2000 years ago, he was crucified, resurrected on the third day, and went back to heaven!
Back to square one! Jesus is as far away as God Himself! How do you beat that?
But we know Jesus is the Word! The Word is Jesus. How far away is Jesus? He is as far as His word. How far away is His word? It is as far as my heart and my mouth!
“But what saith it? The word is nigh thee, even in thy mouth, and in thy heart: that is, the word of faith, which we preach;” (Rom 10:8, KJV)
In a more pragmatic sense, I only need to locate Jesus by locating His word, and boom, I have God with me!
The word of God read regularly is like interfacing with divinity. It is knowing the mind of God for your relationship or marriage.
That word will give you wisdom. That word will give you direction. That word will fortify you and shield you. That word will keep you in the right direction. That word will keep you away from evil men and froward men who speak frowardly. That word will keep you safe from strange women who flatter with their mouths. That word will keep your relationship. That word will preserve your marriage.
Never be far from it. Let it be your companion. Let it be in your heart and then it will be in your mouth.
Twinkle Little Stars, How I Wonder Where God Is?
Your husband is in the word. Your wife is in the word. That which you are looking for lies in the word. That great marriage is right in the word. Your job is in the word. Your visa is in the word. Your breakthrough is in the word. Your healing is in the word. Your promotion is in the word.
Hold on to it. Embrace it. Bind it around your neck. Incline your ears unto it. Put it in your heart and fence it around. It will take you up, it will promote you, it will change that situation.
If I were you, I will dive into that word, like a desperate fisherman looking for some big fish, and I will search and search, seek and ponder, mediate and cogitate until I come up with a bounty that will translate to joy unspeakable in my situation! Good morning!
The Ultimate Checklist: Is There Lust Issue? Part 2
6. You send out confusing signals to multiple people
You are lying when you pick up your phone and simultaneously send the identical “love” text to seven different people, proclaiming your love. You give the impression that you are evaluating their spiritual condition before dropping the bomb. I’ll give you an illustration.
“Hullo Sister Sube, I hope your time in service today was lovely. I know this because I could see God’s splendor shining on you. I’d want to meet with you whenever it’s convenient for you. Keep in mind that God loves you, and so do I!” Now you send this to about seven sisters and wait for the green lights, this is nothing more than lust!
The Ultimate Checklist: Is There Lust Issue? Part 2
REVIVE CONVERSATIONS now holds on ZOOM!Drop all relationship /marital questions, issues, and troubles ANONYMOUSLY, or just vent and pour your heart out. We will respond and judge the situation together by 9.00pm (Tuesdays and Thursdays) – https://khcng.com/vent/
7. You truly hope that God will permit polygamy in your thoughts.
You mull it over and truly wish God will simply approve that clause. Even though David had multiple wives and God still loved him, you may be thinking that it is not a sin. When you think in this way, you are already swimming in lust rather than merely standing on the side of the pool. You should read your Bible more often.
8. You discover that you frequently have sex in your dreams mostly with faceless people
If you frequently have sexual dreams, there may be a connection between those dreams and your current thinking. Actually, there is a demonic problem there that needs to be resolved.
The Ultimate Checklist: Is There Lust Issue? Part 2
9. When conversing or given the chance, you love touching people of the opposing gender.
Simply put, you like “tapping current!” That could be a lust problem! As of the last time I looked, speaking should be done with the mouth, not the hands, so stop tapping your fingers constantly!
10. It’s challenging for you to reflect on God’s word.
Finally, you have trouble reflecting or meditating on God’s word. This is due to the fact that you cannot think about two things at once. God’s word is either present or not. In actuality, reflecting on God’s word is one of the quickest ways to clear your mind of bad thoughts. Over time, your mind will be refreshed if you immerse yourself in God’s word.
The Ultimate Checklist: Is There Lust Issue? This is a good topic to discuss on Valentine day. Lust will be in the air. It will be so easy to compromise, so you want to be careful who you are with today. This is not the day to connect with an ex that you were sexually involved with in the past. This is not the day to attend a poolside party. Keep yourself and do not lose your testimony because of Valentine. The day will come and go!
How do you know if you have a problem with lust as it relates to sexuality? Here are some indications. The list is not exhaustive, but here are some indications garnered from counselling times.
Before I go on, kindly be reminded to drop all relationship and marital issues, questions, vent anonymously on khcng.com/vent
The Ultimate Checklist: Is There Lust Issue?
1. You always want to preach to the opposite gender
You have been reborn. You are God’s child. You even proclaim the word of God. However, you are always trying to preach to the opposing gender. You will always be discovered with ladies as a guy. It is even more difficult if you are already married. You are never led to men as though the Gospel is unnecessary for them. You may be dealing with lust without realizing it, and the devil is assisting you in covering it up with religion. On the surface, a person is filled with fire and passion to serve God, but beneath the surface, lust is raging and ready to erupt at the slightest provocation.
2. Your whole group of buddies is of the opposite gender.
Another sign is if all of your friends are of the opposite gender. There isn’t a single person that shares your gender as a friend. You should examine your heart and inquire as to why it is this way.
The Ultimate Checklist: Is There Lust Issue?
3. You enjoy romantic films and songs.
You are born again and serve God, but you also enjoy watching romance movies in an addictive manner. You explain yourself by saying, well, it’s not technically pornography, therefore you’re fine. However, those scenes would imprint on your mind and cause major problems later on. When God says to keep your eyes on His word and not on romance movies, He means it! You are simply living the lust vicariously through the characters in the movies.
4. You enjoy reading romance novels.
If you’ve been addicted to romantic novels, you may have a lust issue. Eventually, everything you’ve read will try to overwhelm you with your ideas and even give your life direction. You’ll almost want to go to the beach and wait for that lovely man to materialize out of nowhere, racing towards you in slow motion and sweeping you off your feet! Get up!
The Ultimate Checklist: Is There Lust Issue?
5. You enjoy speaking with others and occasionally disguise yourself.
There is a problem if you have been caught impersonating someone on social media. Impersonation allows you to say whatever you want without being identified as the perpetrator. If you enjoy chatting with attractive women or men and asking them out, you may have a significant lust issue.
Yes, we all make mistakes. There is no human who has never made a mistake. Nobody is perfect. The best of men is still stained with the frailties of life and carnality of the homo sapiens.
On the heels of our mistakes and errors, the devil comes up with lies. One such lie is that you will never be forgiven! He tells you that your sin is beyond redemption and that you will not be forgiven.
Well, you want to know the truth? There is no sin that is beyond redemption. The blood of Jesus is so powerful and precious that He will wipe your slate clean and make you appear before Jehovah as if you never committed a single sin! Wow!
Rom 8:3a (MSG) God went for the jugular when he sent his own Son. He didn’t deal with the problem as something remote and unimportant. In his Son, Jesus, he personally took on the human condition, entered the disordered mess of struggling humanity in order to set it right once and for all…
Unmasking Deceit: Lies of the Devil to Avoid
The devil will continue to beat into your head that there are some sins that God would not pardon. He will then use that guilt against you to make you feel weak and to make you question your prayers. This idea, however, is at odds with what the Bible teaches. The Bible describes a kind, compassionate God who longs to pardon and heal individuals who turn to Him. Those who seek God’s compassion and mercy will always find it, no matter how far they have wandered.
It’s simple to think that our crimes are too great for God to pardon, yet this isn’t the case. We can be delivered from the depths of our sin and brought into a true relationship with God because the blood of Jesus begs for mercy on our behalf. No such thing as “going too far” or “sinning too much” exists. The sacrifice of Jesus can atone for even the most serious sins.
Unmasking Deceit: Lies of the Devil to Avoid
Consider the professional prostitute Rahab, referred to in Hebrews 11 as Jesus’ great-grandmother. There is hope for everyone if she was able to accept forgiveness and be used by God. What about Saul, who was once God’s greatest enemy? He was able to turn to God and repent, and God powerfully used him as a result.
Therefore, if your sins seem overwhelming, remember that God’s mercy is even greater. He only demands that you turn to Him, repent of your transgressions, and ask for His pardon. He is prepared to pardon, heal, and rebuild you. Don’t buy into the myth that your sins are unforgivable. Instead, put your faith in the gospel’s veracity and discover freedom in God’s mercy and love.
Don’t allow any unnecessary guilt to slow you done in your relationship or marriage!
On Tuesday and Wednesday, we have a valentine’s program. If you are in Ibadan, you don’t want to miss it. Details are below the page.
