Busting Myths in Marriage: Truths You Need to Know. A lair is only capable of lying. The devil is the originator of all lies. He had been lying all along till now. He gently plants these lies in our minds in an effort to get us to accept and trust them. When we do, we open a door for him and give him permission to enter and wreak havoc. You must firmly deny all of his fabrications and mischief! You must be aware of his tactics. Through your prayers and meditations, you must be vigilant at all times!
…When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it. ” (Joh 8:44b KJV)
Amplified Version says:
“When he speaks a falsehood, he speaks what is natural to him, for he is a liar [ himself ] and the father of lies and of all that is false.” (Joh 8:44, AMP)
Here’ s one of devil’s falsehoods that you must disregard! Don’t accept them. Don’t make room for them in your mind. Get rid of them. Discard them. Delete them entirely rather than merely placing them in the recycle bin!
Busting Myths in Marriage: Truths You Need to Know
That You were made for nothing!
We’ll look at this particular falsehood first this morning. Does it ring a bell? You are a biological mistake, your parents and friends don’t like you, and you are just there are some of the thoughts that occasionally cross your mind. You are simply floating there. You have nothing to contribute. You are not useful. You lack any talents.
Well, you must vehemently reject that voice because it is the voice of the evil one. Why? Because lying is the only thing the devil is capable of doing. He lacks the ability to tell the truth!
What do we see in the scripture?
“Before I shaped you in the womb, I knew all about you. Before you saw the light of day, I had holy plans for you: A prophet to the nations— that’s what I had in mind for you.” (Jer 1:5, MSG)
Here, the scripture helps us comprehend that there was a reason for creation. God previously fashioned into you everything you would need to accomplish your purpose before you were even conceived. To put it another way, you are a task. There is a fantastic goal you are packaged to achieve. To find it, you simply need to get closer to God. The world is waiting for a gift you possess.
Busting Myths in Marriage: Truths You Need to Know
Whose report are you going to trust? Make up your mind to trust the Lord’s report!
Tell the devil to leave your life the next time he rants that untruth! Do not believe his falsehoods! You must not let your bad emotions suffocate God’s purpose for you. Abandon those emotions!
As singles and married, the realization of this truth is needed for you to be secure in yourself in that relationship or marriage! This realization becomes an anchor in your soul and helps you to love and be loved in the right ways!
What To Do If Your Romantic Partner Turns Cold. One of the most frequent questions expressed by a number of folks I counsel is the one mentioned above. It’s possible to avoid having a spouse who is hot right now but frigid afterward.
He has changed, pastor.
“Pastor, I had no idea he was this way.”
“Pastor, he was a leader in the fellowship before we were married, but he no longer attends church anymore.”
“Pastor, he was so lovely when we were courting, but now he beats me up!
“Pastor, I never met him; our courtship was far away.”
And so it goes on and on.
What went wrong along the road, though?
2Pe 2:20-22 (MSG) If they’ve escaped from the slum of sin by experiencing our Master and Savior, Jesus Christ, and then slid back into that same old life again, they’re worse than if they had never left. [21] Better not to have started out on the straight road to God than to start out and then turn back, repudiating the experience and the holy command. [22] They prove the point of the proverbs, “A dog goes back to its own vomit,” and, “A scrubbed-up pig heads for the mud.”
There is nothing as frustrating as starting out on a romantic lane and winding up on a lifeless unromantic corner! Here are a few things to keep in mind.
What To Do If Your Romantic Partner Turns Cold
1. Meeting someone at church does not guarantee that he or she is a sincere child of God or that you will escape all problems in your marriage. On the other end, a person may be very spiritual and yet very unromantic! That a person has finished the Book of Romans does not mean they understand what romance is! Always seek advice before getting entangled with somebody. If you are married already, ensure you have your marriage under mentorship and accountability! This is important!
2. Learn everything you possibly can. Get marriage assistance and free Christian guidance online to avoid marital disaster. On Kisses & Huggs Club, for example, we give free Christian counsel for singles and married couples, and you may get marriage advice through our daily REVIVE Devotionals, Daily REVIVE Conversations, Daily REVIVE Prayers, and a variety of other online resources. Don’t go into a marriage clueless and believing anything!
The reason your spouse is not romantic is not that they are wicked. They simply just do not know how to! They never saw it growing up. Whatever was not modeled to them had to be learned deliberately! And that requires some effort in admittance and willingness to change!
3. As a marriage counselor for many years, I can confidently state that some people truly love the Lord, yet there is a reversal along the path. This could be due to a negative influence, a change in surroundings, or the pressure that comes with it. Many people want to be committed to their marriage and really be romantic, but wrong influences show up along the way! You want to choose your friends carefully and make sure they are on the same page as you because they will eventually influence you!
Can I Find Fulfillment In My Lover or Spouse? A lot of singles and married put pressure on their loved ones more than necessary. Sometimes, we even “blame” our spouses for what they are not responsible for when we become frustrated. The reality is that your spouse won’t be able to give you everything, chiefly, fulfillment in life. The emptiness and loneliness in the soul you often feel are “attention getters” for you to get back into God like the prodigal son. The rolling with pigs that we often find ourselves in like the prodigal son cannot be sorted by a lover or spouse but only by you with your God when “you come to yourself!”
Luk 15:17 (KJV) AND WHEN HE CAME TO HIMSELF, he said, How many hired servants of my father’s have bread enough and to spare, and I perish with hunger!
Can I Find Fulfillment In My Lover or Spouse?
What exactly is fulfillment? Fulfillment is a unique and personal experience that represents one’s sense of purpose, satisfaction, and happiness. It is a feeling of contentment that comes from aligning one’s values, goals, and aspirations with the choices and actions one takes in their daily life.
The reality is that fulfillment can only come ultimately from God! Your spouse can provide support, love, companionship, and friendship and will always be there, but ultimately you must have a personal relationship with God.
This is central and pivotal. Other mini areas of getting fulfillment like career pursuits, sports, games, and so on will only find meaning after God has been found!
Decide today to go for fulfillment in God, and you will have all other areas sorted.
As singles, you have to understand this, or else, you might find yourself going from one relationship to another and yet not finding what you want! Get into God first, then all others areas will align! Do that and thank me later!
Can I Find Fulfillment In My Lover or Spouse?
Let me attempt to give three simple steps to take in finding fulfillment.
PRAY – Connect with God. He is the one that “manufactured” you and He has the manual for your life, relationship, and marriage!
Jer 33:3 (MSG) ‘Call to me and I will answer you. I’ll tell you marvelous and wondrous things that you could never figure out on your own.’
PURSUIT – Go after your dream! Without apologies! Fulfillment lies in the pursuit of that which God has asked you to do!
3. PLAY – Find areas of hobbies, and relaxation and incorporate that into your busy life
Are you aware of what is going on in REVIVE Conversations?
Basically, Kisses and Huggs Club is bringing you a three-pronged panacea for your relationship and marriage which include:
1. REVIVE Devotionals (which is what you are reading now) 2. REVIVE Prayers (On Mixlr daily by 6.00am GMT +1, available on YouTube afterward) 3. REVIVE Conversations (On Mixlr daily by 9.00pm GMT +1, available on YouTube afterward)
Are you also aware we have responded and treated the following on REVIVE Conversations?
My Husband Doesn’t Appreciate Me
Tired Of Being Single
My Husband Does Not Give Me Money
Venting, Question, and Answers: I Saw My Husband With A Strange Woman
I Love Him But He Is Not Committed In His Church As A Worker
I Find It Hard To Ask For Money From My Husband
My Husband Is Gaslighting Me, And Yet Everybody Thinks He Is Sweet
My Friend Doesn’t Want Us Together Anymore
I Aborted Eleven Times Before Wedding
Scared of my feelings
He’s quiet and doesn’t talk
I feel hurt and betrayed: What should I do?
He Doesn’t Have Money: Is This Waiting Or Time Wasting?
Emotional Involvement: Can I Marry A Muslim?
I Suspect She Is Cheating; I Want To End It
Genotype Issues
I Caught My Husband Cheating
Question: Should I Marry?
Proper Or Improper – My Husband Betrayed My Trust
My Minister Friend Got Involved With A Female Member
I fell a victim of what I feared most
Single Mum: I Fight A Lot With My Baby’s Father
I Got Pregnant Outside Of Wedlock, He Doesn’t Want Me
Betrayed By My Husband, I Want To Retaliate With My Ex
How Side-Chicks Are Smarter Than Wives. A “side chick” is used to describe a person who is in a romantic or sexual relationship with someone who is already married to someone else. This type of relationship is often kept secret and outside of the main relationship, and is considered harmful, unethical, or disrespectful to all parties involved.
The side chicks seem smarter because their goal is different from that of wives.
The side chicks want money and attention. The wife wants love and progress.
In the bid, of the wife to get better and “make” her husband better, she often loses him, almost unconsciously, but it happens all the time.
The side chick only tells her victim what he wants to hear in other to get what she wants.
The wife at home is busy using sex to punish her husband by withholding it.
The side chick is busy investing in sex and using it as a reward by initiating it.
Some wives are still tying towels up and down and hiding their nakedness from their husbands.
The side chick knows how to use her nakedness to seduce the man and “collect” his brain.
The wife at home is busy comparing; that “Daddy” is now going bald and she didn’t bargain for that.
Before I go on, did you miss out on REVIVE Conversations yesterday? We treated the following: Single Mum: I Fight A Lot With My Baby’s Father I Love Him But He Is Not Committed In His Church As A Worker Emotional Involvement: Can I Marry A Muslim? Check the responses HERE or below the devotional.
How Side-Chicks Are Smarter Than Wives
The side chick is busy lying to the man that his shiny head makes him look younger and even rubs it for him all the time.
The wife is busy cutting down on food so that her husband’s big belly can go down. She is suggesting nodules because she doesn’t want to cook.
The side chick will serve pepper soup as an appetizer, then make “swallow” and native soup, and use the food to hold the man by the jugular.
The wife is fasting all the time to win the battle for life and would not allow her husband to spoil the fast with sex.
The side chick is available anytime, even before the man asks, fast or no fast.
The wife is busy at home fighting and quarreling all the time. Contentious over unnecessary things.
The side chick doesn’t get angry. She apologizes quickly and pretends she is submissive!
Since a man is logical, he begins to think he made mistake marrying his wife.
Of course, adultery will end up in the wrong place. This post is not to validate the “side-chickens” but to wake up the wives lest you leave your husband on the table for daughters of Eve to feast on!
Jesus Christ said it aptly!
Luk 16:8b (KJV) …for the children of this world are in their generation wiser than the children of light.
How Side-Chicks Are Smarter Than Wives
Dear wives, be smart! End quarrel quickly. Don’t leave your man vulnerable. Stop fighting over everything! Take charge of your man and home!
May God grant you strength!
For all side chicks, men, women, and single ladies involved in adultery know that you are sowing a wrong seed whose harvest you don’t want to imagine! Get back to God and decide to live right with the help of the Holy Spirit.
Why Men Cheat and What You Can Do. God frowns and warns against infidelity! The scripture is clear on that. It really doesn’t matter what number of men are doing “side-chicks” It really doesn’t matter how many married women are yet opening their laps for men in other get some favour or whatever reason!
The reality remains that this sore area has to be confronted and treated and God disapproves of it entirely!
Before I go on, a quick one! On REVIVE Conversations yesterday, we treated and responded to the following:
I fell victim of what I feared most
Venting: I Saw My Husband With A Strange Woman
He Doesn’t Have Money: Is This Waiting Or Time Wasting?
REVIVE Conversation holds 9.00pm daily via Mixlr. If you missed out yesterday, do not worry! We have painstakingly uploaded it to YouTube for you HERE – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ej5I465d0OY
Don’t carry the burden around. Consider your mental health. Drop all questions and issues, or if you just want to vent and pour out your heart here – https://khcng.com/vent
The scripture warns clearly of the consequence! Take a look at one of them.
Pro 6:32 (KJV) But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.
So we see the very first reason why men cheat right there!
Why Men Cheat and What You Can Do
1. Lack of Understanding
The amplified Bible explains what lack of understanding means.
Pro 6:32 (AMPC) But whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks heart and understanding (moral principle and prudence); he who does it is destroying his own life.
Men cheat because they just don’t have that good heart, that moral principle, and prudence that keeps a man zipped up!
This is one of the qualities you look out for as singles. And this is something you continually pray into your spouse as married.
Attending a relevant meeting, reading books, and studying the Bible, can go a long way in showing man areas where he is lacking!
One of the most difficult things to do is to confront an ignorant man who is also arrogant.
It takes a lot of humility for a man to admit he has been stupid. Some actually admit when they get into trouble only to dabble back into another adulterous terrain. Another translation actually calls it stupidity!
Pro 6:32 (CEV) But if you go to bed with another man’s wife, you will destroy yourself by your own stupidity.
Now, as a single, the man that will cheat on you has probably started doing so even while he is courting you. Watch out for the telltale signs and don’t think the wedding will correct that habit! Be sure you know what you are going into!
Why Men Cheat and What You Can Do
If you are married, fighting your husband, or going into some retaliatory adultery would not always work.
Seek help. One of the ways you can seek help is to go and anonymously pour out your heart at https://khcng.com/vent and we will surely respond!
Don’t keep quiet! Aside from the fact that it is not healthy for you, people will blame you in the end why you kept quiet and did not seek help until things become very messy!
I pray God will intervene in that situation in Jesus’ name!
