The quality of your life is pegged by the quality of your thoughts. If you think you can, you are right. If you think you can’t, you are also right! Too many relationships and marriages have been ruined by the kinds of thoughts that were entertained. Thoughts are so powerful that they will eventually overwhelm your life and give your life direction.
In this devotional, we will delve into the power of thoughts and how they shape our lives. We will also explore how negative thoughts can ruin relationships and marriages, and how to stop negative thoughts.
Dealing With Negative Thoughts
Have you ever wondered why some people seem to have everything they want, while others struggle to make ends meet? The answer lies in the power of thoughts. Your thoughts shape your beliefs, which in turn shape your actions. And your actions determine the quality of your life.
Dealing With Negative Thoughts
The Power of Thoughts
Thoughts are so powerful that the greatest robberies were first carried out mentally before execution. Thoughts can be so healthy that they would drive sicknesses away. Thoughts can be so sickening to the point of physical paralysis. How do you convince a man or woman to become a suicide bomber? They simply work on the thought realm. Once the person embraces the proposition in the thought realm, the rest is easy.
The power of thoughts is not limited to negative thoughts. Positive thoughts can also have a profound impact on our lives. When you think positively, you attract positive things into your life. You become more confident, more optimistic, and more resilient.
No wonder, the method through which God will change you daily into becoming who He wants you to be is through the renewal of your mind.
“And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” (Rom 12:2, KJV)
Transformation comes as a child of God as you read, study and meditate on God’s word.
Dealing With Negative Thoughts
Negative Thoughts Can Ruin Relationships and Marriages
In the same way, the method that the devil would use if he wants to ruin a relationship or marriage is through thoughts. Precisely, negative thoughts and lies!
All the quarrels in a relationship and marriage first of all start in your thoughts. When you are negative-minded, full of doubts and mistrust, the relationship or marriage in question will be shaky.
When you are negative-minded, you will misinterpret every effort of your spouse. You will suspect every move and you will not give your spouse breathing space.
Dealing With Bad Dreams and Nightmares. Dreams are like windows into the realm of the spirit. Dreams can come from God, from the devil, and from you.
God can warn you through dreams. They are often a language of the Holy Spirit through which He communicates to us and warns us of dangers ahead.
The devil can cause dreams too through which he injects the spirit of fear and trepidation in other to create a loophole and have access into your lives. Once the spirit of fear grips you and you do nothing about it, it’s an expressway for the devil to cause chaos and carry out his plans.
Some dreams are harmless, however. These are the ones you have because of the multitude of thoughts and watching too many films or playing an engrossing game. Suddenly you become Jack Bauer and you want to help complete his mission in 24!
Dealing With Bad Dreams and Nightmares
Now, if you have the gift of seeing and knowing, you have to be careful of what you feed yourself. You have to deliberately avoid junk in order not to contaminate that gift!
Back to the issue of bad dreams, once you have them, when you wake up, go into the offensive using relevant scriptures, come against those dreams, take authority over them, nullify them, plead the blood of Jesus, and declare that only the counsel of God will stand in your life!
Joel 2:28 says we will dream dreams! Dreams can be a tool in the hand of the Lord.
Ensure that you are not living in any habitual sins so that the pipe way of information can be sanctified. Once contaminated, confusion sets in!
Dealing With Bad Dreams and Nightmares
You will not be confused in Jesus’ name!
Every spirit assigned to waste opportunities around you via bad dreams, we take authority over them in Jesus’ name!
Join Revive Prayers throughout this week as we pray against bad dreams!
The Reluctance to Change In Marriage. In marriage, you only have to choose once. Circumstances emerge that present an opportunity to choose again, and even again, but those experiences are not what you pray for, and they usually come with unpleasant accomplices. Nobody prays for the loss of a spouse, separation, or divorce.
Ideally, you are stuck in a marriage with that fellow. You better choose wisely if you are still single.
And if you have chosen, decide to make it work and go the long haul.
Marriage is not designed with reverse gear except in very extreme cases.
The Reluctance to Change In Marriage
I am over fifty, and my wife is almost fifty, and we have not really changed. We only become “mature” in our tendencies.
It’s as simple as that. I am still as playful and funny as I used to be. She is still as “reserved’ as she used to be.
Yes, she borrows my playfulness a few times, as occasions demand, but she is essentially who she is. Reserved.
I borrow her reservation, a couple of times, but inside me, in the midst of the reservation, I am still as naughty as ever.
Playfulness and reservation in all excellencies!
The Reluctance to Change In Marriage
That difference was what attracted us.
Then that same difference irritated and repelled us when we got married. And then we wanted to change one another. Frustrating attempts.
Then we had to learn how to manage the differences to have peace at home.
Then the differences we didn’t want in our spouse, which cause quarrels and endless tantrums, become what you smile and laugh over. That is maturity!
That point is where you must get to and then life becomes peaceful and enjoyable.
The differences to live with do not include bad habits and sinful dispositions. Those are to be prayerfully and lovingly confronted and refused for the health of the marriage and the upbringing of the children.
That is how it works.
Those that are still single, don’t get lost in the ice cream or in the movie halls. Don’t enter his inner chamber yet! Choose wisely. Dig dip and pray well, the first thing is not sex! Never! That confuses the soul! Sex should be reserved till after marriage!
Unleashing Your Best Self In Marriage. Growing up in my family, I had several responsibilities in the house. At one time, I was the “sweeper” Can you imagine? I hated sweeping the living room with a passion. But that was my job and I had to do it because I am a member of the family. At one time, I had to do the dishes. At another time, I was the car washer! The only thing remaining for me was to open a car wash!
I remembered the day I locked my youngest siblings, aged 6 and 4, in the car, wind up, and forgot them there for over two hours. When I remembered, I rushed downstairs to open the car door, they were both there crying and sweating like no man’s business. That was the last day I allowed them to move near the car when I am doing the washing.
Unleashing Your Best Self In Marriage
The point here is that every family member has something he has to contribute to the family, in terms of home chores.
As singles and married, we are to have the regular “chores” we do in the church we belong to!
I really don’t understand believers who do nothing in their local assembly! A church is a spiritual family unit and everybody should have “chores”
As a matter of fact, when a single person says he has found a lover, my next question is always, which church? And which unit does he belong to?
I want to know if that person is responsible in his local assembly.
Does it mean a church worker will not have issues in marriage? I never said that. But being a worker and showing some level of responsibility is a step ahead of someone who attends church and does nothing, contributing nothing.
We don’t have that kind of spirit.
In the same way, married couples, find something to do in your local assembly. Be responsible. Pay your tithe, and be involved. When you are faithful in what belongs to others, then God will give you your own. Serve, Do your part, and be interested in advancing God’s kingdom
Unleashing Your Best Self In Marriage
There is a blessing in serving God over you, your family, your finances, and your health! See it here:
Exodus 23:25 (KJV) And ye shall SERVE the LORD your God, and he shall BLESS thy bread, and thy water; and I will TAKE SICKNESS AWAY from the midst of thee.
The reason Mr. Johnson and Mrs. Johnson kept quarreling and never understood each other was that they actually don’t understand God’s love.
If singles can ensure they marry someone who understands a little of the depth of God’s love, a lot of complications will be averted.
What do I mean?
Let me take you back to the text we have been considering for the past few days. This is something the Holy Spirit showed me, right?
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Mat 8:5-8 (KJV) And when Jesus was entered into Capernaum, there came unto him a centurion, beseeching him, [6] And saying, Lord, my servant lieth at home sick of the palsy, grievously tormented. [7] And Jesus saith unto him, I will come and heal him. [8] The centurion answered and said, Lord, I am not worthy that thou shouldest come under my roof: but speak the word only, and my servant shall be healed.
The Love Secret Every Couple Should Know
What the centurion responded with is our focus this morning.
I am not worthy that you should come under my roof…
How many times have we messed up in our relationships and marriages that we have concluded, there is no need to pray? I can’t even invite God to come under my roof!
How much of negative words have we uttered that have become swords of cryptic decoration hanging down from the roofs of our marital roofs, lacerating and causing more wounds on the lovers?
And the devil taking this back to God to accuse you to God, based on the words he instigated you to say?
And then coming back to accuse God to you convincing you that Jesus can’t come under your roof because so much damage has been done!
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And you believing all this, you are not worthy to come under my roof.
The Love Secret Every Couple Should Know
However, in an incredible twist of divine love, such that we have not comprehended the length, breadth, width, and depth of it, Jesus wants to come into your HEART, not just your roof.
His entrance into your heart is what will bring peace under your roof. With Him in your hearts, no third party can infiltrate your roof.
Dear single, look for the one whose heart has been completely occupied and has no vacancy for any other.
Dear couples, seek to grant an entrance to Jesus in your hearts and let His love and His word regulate your marriage.
This is where peace, Shalom, nothing missing, nothing broken begins from.
