This Life No Balance? So brilliant, but jobless. So gifted, but largely unknown. So cute, but no husband. So responsible, but wifeless.
Anything out of balance becomes dangerous. A car out of balance can have an accident. Same way, a marriage out of balance can have marital accidents. Just like vehicles can be tagged accidented, marriages can be tagged accidented as well. Relationships can be tagged accidented! At such times, the status becomes “It’s complicated!”
A man can be handsome but very wicked.
That is why the scripture talks about evil men and froward men.
A lady can be so beautiful yet empty-headed. The scripture validates that as well.
Proverbs 11:22 (MSG) Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout is a beautiful face on an empty head.
This Life No Balance?
So people would often say humorously, “This life no balance!”
It is true that a life without God “no go fit balance!”
However, I bring you a word today, in your relationship, marriage, business, and life, God is bringing you balance in Jesus’ name!
God has in His hands, a measuring tape, coming as a surveyor to measure all areas that are out of alignment and bringing them into balance!
Zechariah 2:1-5 (MSG) [1] I looked up and was surprised to see a man holding a tape measure in his hand. [2] I said, “What are you up to?” “I’m on my way,” he said, “to survey Jerusalem, to measure its width and length.” [3] Just then the Messenger-Angel on his way out met another angel coming in [4] and said, “Run! Tell the Surveyor, ‘Jerusalem will burst its walls— bursting with people, bursting with animals. [5] And I’ll be right there with her’—GOD’s Decree—’a wall of fire around unwalled Jerusalem and a radiant presence within.'”
This Life No Balance?
They are a fine couple, but they have no kids yet
They have a lot of money, but their spiritual life is Zero
They appear so spiritual but impoverished as well
So brilliant, but jobless.
So gifted, but largely unknown.
So cute, but no husband.
So responsible, but wifeless.
Out of balance!
That story is changing today!
This is the fourth month and 4 is the number of balance! That is why a car has four tires!
God is bringing balance into every area of your life in Jesus’ name! Meditate on the above scripture and use it to pray into your life.
Most relationships and marriages are so riddled with unnecessary quarries and bickering. Some of these altercations are actually needless and totally avoidable.
On our WhatsApp Singles’ Hub and Couples’ Hub, we looked at this topic yesterday
I want to quickly share with you a few things I discussed yesterday!
I will talk about one of the principles you can apply to reduce quarrels to the barest minimum.
A Guide For Conflict Resolution
The 15 – 1 Principle
This is talking about the scripture in Proverbs 15:1
Proverbs 15:1 (KJV) A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
In eliminating unnecessary quarrels, you have to learn how to respond with soft answers. You don’t have to sound angry and caustic every time, for those only stir up the heat.
I love the way the Message Translation puts it:
Proverbs 15:1 (MSG) A gentle response defuses anger, but a sharp tongue kindles a temper-fire.
A Guide For Conflict Resolution
Anger is like a bomb! But a gentle response can defuse it. You never see a person defusing a bomb with aggression. They do it gently and with the highest level of caution.
You can learn from this principle. You don’t have to put your “spouse in their place” every time.
Allow them to be themselves and make mistakes.
Have you ever wondered how your spouse has been existing so many years before you met? And they have not managed to “destroy” themselves all the while. God who has kept them will continue to keep them! Why do you think your spouse is the zenith of carelessness and you must keep correcting every time like it’s a ministry?
As a matter of fact, you don’t have to answer every statement. Neither should you respond when you know where it will lead.
I put a caption on social media some days ago. I said the things that you are seriously fighting about now, you will laugh over them in some years to come and wonder why you have to make a big deal out of such things.
The things that are drawing the most intense arguments now will not even draw a comment in some years to come.
Learn from this and apply it to your life! Once again, Happy New Month!
God’s Method for a Stronger Marriage. Single or Married, God has a method He has instituted to save you from unnecessary embarrassments and heartaches in your marital journey. He has a “deliverance” package for us, before the problem showed up!
Well, if He didn’t do that, He would have been an insensitive God, since this area is in major focus at certain seasons of our lives.
As a matter of fact, in the scripture, He actually used the word “deliver!”
Take a look at them:
For the woman:
Proverbs 2:12 (KJV) To DELIVER thee from the way of the evil man, from the man that speaketh froward things;
For the man:
Proverbs 2:16 (KJV) To DELIVER thee from the strange woman, even from the stranger which flattereth with her words;
God’s Method for a Stronger Marriage
Here is the provisioning system for your deliverance and protection when it comes to emotional decisions and marital conclusions.
In other words, if you follow the instructions here, you will not enter “one chance!”
What are these things that will “deliver” you?
It mentioned three things:
a. Wisdom b. Discretion c. Understanding
It all still boils down to one thing we have been emphasizing in these devotionals for years!
Spend time with God and His word before making decisions.
That is where you get wisdom, discretion, and understanding!
God’s Method for a Stronger Marriage
For those who are already married, this is also what will get you out of any storm or issue you are going through!
His word is powerful. His word is mighty!
As you read and study His word, wisdom, discretion, and understanding will come.
There will be clarity and everything will become explicit.
That which has been a puzzle is suddenly dissolved, and enigmas are unraveled.
As singles, when you are confused, get into that word. Clarity will come. Decisions to take will seep into your spirit.
As couples, rather than pick up draining quarrels with your spouse, use this deliverance method instead!
God still guides.
He has shown us His deliverance method, stick with it and He will bail you out of that imbroglio!
Satan’s Sneaky Strategy Through Thoughts. Thoughts! Thoughts! Thoughts!
That’s his channel, his pipe way, his major interest, the very same reason the mind is referred to as the battlefield.
If you refuse to lose in your thought realm, then you will not lose in life. But if you lose there, there is little anybody can do.
The devil doesn’t waste his time trying several weapons against you. He studies you and deploys arsenals that are specific to your weakness, usually beginning from your thoughts.
Most marriages have been messed up, not by outright sinful adventures, but by seemingly harmless thoughts.
The devil bombards your mind endlessly, filling your thoughts with images that are designed to trap you, weaken you, and draw you away from God’s favour.
This is why you have to consciously build a fence around your mind.
Pro 4:23 (AMPC) Keep and guard your heart with all vigilance and above all that you guard, for out of it flow the springs of life.
You are responsible for securing your hearts against fiery darts, sexual thoughts, pornographic images, undressing people with your mind, and so on and so forth.
Guard your mind and do not allow thoughts about some other persons aside from your spouse to infiltrate your mind.
If you live your thought gate open carelessly, intruders will flood your mind and mess it up.
In no time, you find yourself becoming what you are thinking.
If those thoughts already infiltrated your mind, what do you do?
2Co 10:5 (KJV) Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;
Cast them down. When you do, the Holy Spirit is there to help you so that your mind can be sanctified! This is done by filling your mind with His Word. Spend a lot of time in the Word!
You can have the mind of Christ where the Holy Spirit begins to think through you.
As you begin to take responsibility for your thoughts, you will begin to take charge of your life.
May God bless, strengthen and hold you by the right hand in your relationship and marriage in Jesus’ name!
The Irresistible Power of Your Beloved’s Voice. Words. Utterances. Extremely powerful. Words come out with a sound. Everything begins with a sound. When heaven went quiet for thirty minutes, it was recorded because heaven is a place for sounds!
Nobody gets married without words. You have to ask for her hand in marriage. And there is no true union without a response. The agreement has to be mutual, and validated by what is said.
On the wedding day, husband and wife come together in a string covenant recognized by God Himself, and yet all they did was say some “words” we usually refer to as vows.
When these words are spoken, something miraculous takes place in the realm of the spirit and the man and woman become one flesh!
It would have been easier if they become one spirit. One flesh? That is how powerful words are.
That is why God attributes judgment to those who break the covenant because they are coming against their very words.
When a baby enters the milieu for the first time, he has to make a sound.
Words are powerful.
The Irresistible Power of Your Beloved’s Voice
If the words of a man were that powerful, how much more would be the words of God?
How great would it be to hear God speak to you? How blessed can you be if you refuse to make any move until you have heard Him?
How great will it be for relationships and marriage wherein the lovers won’t do anything until they have heard Him?
All our troubles, were they not initiated because we did not listen to Him and we choose to respond to the voice and dictates of our flesh?
The Irresistible Power of Your Beloved’s Voice
The beauty of listening to Him before acting is that His voice comes with power. A lot of power. Enough to destabilize the enemy, render opposition ineffective, reduce them to ruins, and give you a resounding victory!
Song of Solomon 2:8 (KJV) The voice of my beloved! behold, he cometh leaping upon the mountains, skipping upon the hills.
The voice of God has the capacity to leap over mountains and skip over hills!
That issue, that problem, that imbroglio, cannot and will never defy the voice of God!
Before you conclude on your fiancee or spouse, listen to what God is saying! His instructions come with the power to overcome that very issue!
