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How to Become Responsible Lovers. Over the years, from counseling experiences, and even from the scriptures, one surefire reason for a marriage to fail is a lack of mentoring or tutelage.

God’s kingdom is so intricately planned that you are not expected to remain isolated.

Here’s what God says:

God setteth the solitary in families: he bringeth out those which are bound with chains: but the rebellious dwell in a dry land. (Psalms 68:6 KJV)

In His wisdom, God has surrounded us not only with physical families but also with spiritual families. You must be able to recognize and stay with your spiritual family. 

God has placed a man or woman over you to whom you can seek knowledge and who will be able to speak into your life during storms.

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There are times when you are confronted with a problem, but the solution is only a sentence or two away in the lips of a God-anointed servant.

How to Become Responsible Lovers

This is why I am often afraid of couples who have no one to hold them accountable. I am often afraid of couples that do not have mentors. Someone correctly stated that you need mentors to avoid life’s tormentors!

Now I’ll explain why it’s critical to maintain accountability in marriage.

There are instances when couples seek counseling and there is just one way to go after listening to them.

So I’d like to pose the question,

“Who do you think is your spouse’s mentor?”

It is always disappointing when the response is

“Nobody, sir!”

As a result, I frequently reword the question,

“Who does your husband admire? “Who can speak to him?”


Then comes a sadder response.

“Nobody, sir!”

Then I’d give it one more shot.

“What about his parents?” I would ask.

“He doesn’t pay attention to his parents!” Nobody can communicate with him!”

At this moment, the situation appears to be dire… since it is difficult to assist a solitary person!

A soul that has been disenfranchised is a vulnerable soul.

One of the most important aspects of marriage is the question of accountability!

How to Become Responsible Lovers

Let me close with this verse:

Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counsellors they are established. (Proverbs 15:22 KJV)

Purposes might be sincere, but when they are unaided, they can lead to frustration and disappointment.

Check it out in The Message translation:

Refuse good advice and watch your plans fail; take good counsel and watch them succeed. (Proverbs 15:22 Message)

Good morning! Your relationships and marriages are blessed!


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