The Power of Words in Romantic Relationships. This morning, I’d like to write about something essential. It is a biblical principle that ensures us daily triumph in our daily work, relationships, marriage, and life in general.
On the wedding day, words are exchanged as vows, and those words become the terms of the marital partnership. Constant, loving words must be spoken in marriage or the union will die. That is how significant words can be.
To dedicate your life to Jesus, you must confess a few words, and that’s it! Words are extremely essential in the Spirit realm, and the devil is well aware of this. That is why he tries to feed you unpleasant thoughts so you can express them. When you express them, they become your reality. In Jesus’ name, that will not be your lot.
So this morning’s inquiry is, “What are you saying?”
The Power of Words in Romantic Relationships
According to the Bible, when you keep your mouth, you keep your life! Take care what you say!
Don’t say something like, “I don’t even understand my own life.” (You will never understand it when you keep saying that)
“I’m completely perplexed.” (You just granted the spirit of confusion legal access to your soul.) “I believe there is a curse working against me.” (You just empowered the devil to operate)
Never use inappropriate language. Never say anything hurtful to your fiancée or spouse!
Don’t say something like “You are extremely stupid!”
Do not tell your wife she is slow.
Don’t refer to your husband as an irresponsible man.
Don’t tear your future spouse in half with your lips, dear future Wife. There is a distinction to be made between a wife and a knife!
Don’t injure and wound your future wife-to-be with insensitive words; dear husband-to-be, words mean a lot to them.
Pro 13:2-3 KJV (2) A man shall eat good by the fruit of his mouth: but the soul of the transgressors shall eat violence. (3) He that keepeth his mouth keepeth his life: but he that openeth wide his lips shall have destruction.
The Power of Words in Romantic Relationships
There are parents who refer to their children as “coconut heads!”
How would the child be bright with that prophecy when you know the only thing inside a coconut is water? Or do you not realize that whatever you call your children as parents is a foreshadowing of their future?
Don’t tell your wife, “Fat lazy woman, you were once slim and beautiful when I found you, but now you are…” Guess who made her that way? Rather than saying that, go to the gym and sign her up!
Don’t tell your hubby, “I regret ever knowing you!” Rather than saying that, pray for him since you are one!
If you are a single person who is subjected to verbal abuse on a regular basis, do not close your eyes and walk into a relationship. Seek counseling since he may not change; in fact, he may worsen after marriage because marriage does not transform anyone.
If the lady you want to marry is constantly shutting you down for any reason, it is a flaw; seek assistance and counseling!
Words are extremely crucial! Don’t tell me someone loves you when he or she constantly demotivates and weakens you with words!
5 Life-Altering Choices You Should Consider. Life is about making choices! Consider yesterday and count the number of decisions you took on your own. Your current life is a result of the choices you made in the past. The choices you make now will set the stage for the life you lead tomorrow.
2Sa 8:15 ERV – David ruled over all Israel, and he made good and fair decisions for all of his people.
There are seasons for every MAN. Morning, afternoon, and night, respectively.
The issue is that terrible choices made in the morning of one’s life do not manifest until the evening!
Most likely, you are currently in the afternoon phase of your life. Your morning error should not turn into a nighttime regret you’ll always have.
Strong decisions can alter the way your tomorrow will pan out.
Making decisions is difficult because it forces you to confront your routines and comfort zones, often in a painful way. However, it is the cost you must pay in order to proceed.
You cannot carry on doing things the way you have been doing them if you desire a different outcome in your life.
These are the choices you must make. However, the list is not all-inclusive.
1. Make the decision to connect with God.
Without this, you will not get far. A slight breeze, like when you blow out a candle, could end your life, and that would be the end of it. Fear Him who made you and has preserved you! Give your life back to Him in thanks for the gift of life!
Mat 10:28 (MSG) “Don’t be bluffed into silence by the threats of bullies. There’s nothing they can do to your soul, your core being. Save your fear for God, who holds your entire life—body and soul—in his hands.
2. Determine to have everyday fellowship with God.
You must experience daily refreshment and rejuvenation otherwise you will quickly grow weary. When fatigue is at its worst, suicidal thoughts may surface. Be sage!
Isa 40:31 (MSG) But those who wait upon GOD get fresh strength. They spread their wings and soar like eagles, They run and don’t get tired, they walk and don’t lag behind.
3. Always ask the Holy Spirit for guidance.
You have been designed as a believer to succeed solely with His assistance. You won’t be able to overcome sin without Him.
Gal 5:16 (KJV) This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.
4. Choose to take responsibility.
Live your life responsibly. Get a pastor or mentor to intentionally guide you. In this way, you are kept alive. Get a confidant in your life who you can call whenever you need advice! Maintain contact with them. Grant him. Say a prayer for him. That is how a good protege behaves.
1Ti 4:14 (TPT) Don’t minimize the powerful gift that operates in your life, for it was imparted to you by the laying on of hands of the elders and was activated through the prophecy they spoke over you.
5. Choose not to engage in iniquity
Don’t let your youthful exuberance drive you to shortchange yourself or compromise your future. Zip up! Avoid engaging in any sexual vices. Quit being a boy, be authentic! Women, keep your virtue! Keep your word to your spouse. Never play around with premarital sex!
2Ti 2:19 (KJV) Nevertheless the foundation of God standeth sure, having this seal, The Lord knoweth them that are his. And, Let every one that nameth the name of Christ depart from iniquity.
Ten Tips For Finding Joy As Single Or Married. Singles and married couples alike are frequently sidetracked by the ups and downs of life. Here’s a reminder of what you should do to each other on a regular basis, as well as how to do it.
1. Please pray your spouse
Allow it to be genuine. This allows you to bring God’s help to bear on your behalf. Genuine prayers for each other will help keep you together. Reduce disagreements and increase prayer periods.
2. Call each other every day.
The problem is not whether you will see each other later in the day; the issue is that communication is the lifeline of any relationship or marriage that can survive. Keep in touch. Send SMS. Use chats.
3. Exchange gifts on a regular basis.
Ten Tips For Finding Joy As Single Or Married
It does not have to be costly! But it must be touching. Take note of what I said: exchange gifts, not gather gifts! Those small actions serve to keep the fire burning in your relationship and marriage.
4. Tell him or her how God is dealing with you through His word.
Whatever God tells you in your devotion or personal walk with God will bless him or her for as long as it blesses you. When you want to do that, you don’t have to make it look like you’re in another service, but you should make it as natural as possible.
5. Be encouraging to one another.
You are his biggest fan. You are her biggest fan. Don’t put each other down. Don’t waste your time and energy on criticism. Because you are the closest person, your opinion counts for a lot.
6. Forgive one another so that your heavenly Father will also forgive you.
You’re not flawless, are you? So, rather than becoming a judge, gently overlook and forget any flaws that are designed to appear.
Ten Tips For Finding Joy As Single Or Married
7. Make corrections with love.
Do you realize that it can take up to nine affirming statements to accommodate and see one critique as it should be seen? But you know what people do? They make nine harshly critical statements and one or none of the affirming statements. That will not have a beneficial outcome.
8. Seek to assist one another in following God’s directions.
You have the most influence. Don’t tempt him or her to sin. Stay on the straight and narrow and assist him or her in resisting temptations.
9. Don’t fuel each other’s flaws.
Instead, you should balance him or her out because you will always be stronger in areas where he or she is weak. Make yourself ready to assist him in standing. Be there to assist her in saying no to evil. Don’t be perceived as an accomplice in crime or wrongdoing. Allow him or her to state, “I believe my loved one; he will never compromise.” Trust one another and keep your trust safe.
10. Make sure you have a mentor with whom you communicate on a regular basis.
Sometimes the most heated disputes and disagreements can be resolved with a few simple comments. That is God’s grace upon our lives and this ministry: to provide positive assistance in crisis-ridden couples and godly advise to those in courtship.
Accountability to others who have done what you are attempting to achieve is really wise. Stay close to these devotionals that have helped many marriages and relationships around the world, discuss it from time to time, and continue to make improvements! So, God help us!
Help, I’m Married. I want to protect him! I just don’t want to expose her. That is why I’m not talking! Have you heard that before? This is a simple recipe for marital failure! When there is no sort of guidance or oversight, or, to put it another way, when there is no accountability, a relationship or marriage will always fail, according to experience, counseling, and even the Bible.
You are not intended to be alone because of how the kingdom of God is set up. Usually, isolation leads to desolation.
Here is God’s word:
God setteth the solitary in families: he bringeth out those which are bound with chains: but the rebellious dwell in a dry land. (Psalms 68:6 KJV)
Help, I’m Married.
God, in His wisdom, has surrounded us with both spiritual and physical families. You must be able to recognize and stick with your spiritual family. God has appointed someone to be in charge of you, someone who can provide you with insight and who can speak into your life when things are rough.
There are times when you are faced with problems, but the answer is only a few words away in the words of a servant of God who has been anointed.
This is why I frequently get concerned around couples that have no one to answer to. Couples without a mentor over them often make me uneasy. Someone correctly stated that you need mentors to avoid life’s tyrants.
Help, I’m Married.
Singles, beware of getting involved with someone who has no one to answer to except themselves! Something isn’t right when he or she starts claiming that God is his tutor.
I’ll explain why it’s so crucial that you marry a responsible person right away.
Sometimes when a couple calls for counseling, there is only one course of action that makes sense after hearing what they have to say.
If you are already married, understand that marriage is not a plaything. It’s not something that just works out fine without you putting the necessary structures and deliberate effort into healthy marital habits.
Refuse good advice and watch your plans fail; take good counsel and watch them succeed. (Proverbs 15:22 Message)
Help, I’m Married.
God has surrounded you with great people who can help. I do not advocate you talk to “everybody” but both of you must mutually agree on who you can talk to, whom you respect a lot. This person must be a phone call away and should also have a great example in his or her own marriage.
This way, you will avoid unnecessary heartaches in marriage. There is no point in giving yourselves a high BP, just simply get help.
Marriages Under Pressure. If you have any of the below wives, then you must work more on your marriage and pray more in your marriage. Interestingly, the weaknesses are actually strength turned inward. So, you want to help bring the best out of your spouse!
1. The Choleric Blooded Wife
She is reputed to be vivacious, quick-witted, emotionless in her speech and deeds, and capable of surviving on her own.
She doesn’t require outside inspiration or encouragement. She has a tendency to be quite independent, which can cause conflict in relationships.
A choleric wife typically has a temperamentally opposed husband. They should therefore learn to play to their abilities and to hide their deficiencies.
Marriages Under Pressure
2. The Career-Oriented Wife
A woman at the pinnacle of her profession has a tendency to become haughty if caution is not exercised.
In order to allow his wife to pursue her professional goals to their fullest potential, the husband must feel safe.
Some husbands may feel so frightened by their wives’ advancement. This heart is not right. Allowing her to go in the greatest direction is ideal.
Honor for her husband is the crucial word here for her to keep going without issues. The wife does not become arrogant.
3. The Unyielding Stubborn Wife
Some wives can be obstinate. In my counseling work, I’ve witnessed wives who will maintain their position despite being shown the scriptures. Of course, there are also stubborn men too.
How can you recognize an obstinate wife?
Wives who are obstinate don’t talk much; they simply won’t budge. They will simply be staring at you, but they will still act accordingly.
Also, this is not good. The couple’s prayer life won’t benefit from it.
Marriages Under Pressure
4. The Manipulative Wife
The manipulative wife has a number of tactics at her disposal, such as sobbing, having temper tantrums, withdrawing, droning on and on, refusing sex, and nagging until she gets what she wants.
She desires the man to line up at all times.
This is not an ideal marriage.
5. The Demanding Wife
This woman is demanding, and difficult, and only pays attention to what she wants or knows.
Anger is her main weapon.
She picks fights with everyone who dared to disagree with what she feels because she constantly wants to be told what she wants to hear.
Her husband constantly worries about what might occur.
This is a poor mentality that could harm the marriage.
She has limited knowledge, which is an issue, and she frequently has the wrong desires.
