The second thing that must be present in every marriage that will succeed has to do with communication.
2. Constant Communication A man was once asked what the three most important things in a marriage are.
His response:
1. Communication 2. Communication 3. Communication
Do I agree? Yes, I fully do!
When communication dies, assumptions, suspicions, lies and deception will take over. There is nothing as beautiful as a marriage where both parties can fully express themselves.
Hear each other out!
When a man talks, his goal may be a logical explanation, but when a woman talks, it is more than an explanation, it is a release; an emotional release. So every time she is muted, there are pent-up tensions being stored up for a later time.
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It is akin to the molten magma within, nothing shows on the surface much, but one day, the magma can no longer hold still, there will be a volcanic eruption causing untold havocs!
Unexplained hurts, unexpressed bitterness, are all like the molten magma in the belly of the ground.
So, when you tell your spouse to “shut up” continually, and it looks as though you are in charge and winning, well, you are not really in winning, you are actually losing!
Allow free expression in your matrimonial home.
3. Renewal and Recharge Junctions In marriage, you must learn to take breaks from work and relax. You have to have time that you spend together as husband and wife.
You need to go back to what used to excite you before wedding and do those things again and again.
Apart from reading your Bible and praying in the Holy Ghost which re-fires you and recharges your spirit, you should also learn to be relaxed once in a while.
4. Mentoring Every marriage must have a mentor that you defer to and seek wisdom from.
There is something that a couple who has been married for thirty years know that a three-year-old couple is oblivious of.
It is plain wisdom to seek counsel. Most issues that lead to serious strife and possible separation and divorce could easily have been resolved by seeking knowledge.
That is why I am a little scared of couples who talk to nobody! Something is not quite right with that. Part of having a marriage mentor is being humble.
5. Sincerity and Openness Finally, this is so crucial to the survival of any marriage!
Be open! Marriage is not a secret cult! Talk about everything and anything.
Hiding things and allowing your spouse to discover will only lead to mistrust and suspicion.
The rule of the game is to talk about everything. That will go a long way to establish trust.
If you keep talking exactly how it is, it would be difficult to go into adultery, because adultery is perpetuated in the platform insincerity and deception
May God help us all.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will pray for my loved one
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me to pray
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Jas 4:7 (KJV) Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
There are a lot of things that must be put in place for a marriage to succeed. There are conscious and deliberate inputs that must be in place so that marriage can bring bliss and not blisters.
Here are some of those things.
1. Prayers A family that prays together stays together. A husband and wife that pray together will overcome the flesh easily. Prayer protects, shields and connects you to your inheritance in God.
As husband and wife, pray for one another rather than tear one another apart. Intercede for each other. What the devil wants is a tearing apart, do not cooperate with him. Wake up in the middle of the night and pray together. The power of agreement is better harnessed as a couple.
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In the first few years of our marriage, my wife and I would wake up by 12.00am and pray in the Spirit. I am persuaded that those prayers advanced our lives and ministries.
There is a purpose for coming together in marriage. It is not just for making love and then dying at the age of ninety. There is a purpose in the heart of God. That purpose is not to be decided, it is to be discovered. When you discover that purpose, you just stepped into your wealthy place. You can only discover in the place of prayers.
The devil will do all he knows to do to make sure you don’t pray.
I will stop here today and continue tomorrow.
Be blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will pray for my loved one
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me to pray
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Jas 4:7 (KJV) Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
What would make a man cheat on his wife? What on earth could that be? It is simply a bad heart, one devoid of conscience.
What would make a wife cheat on her husband? It is the same thing. A bad heart, and additionally, deliberate seductive attires.
Let’s take a look at the scriptures:
And behold, there met him a woman, dressed as a harlot and sly and cunning of heart.
Pro 7:10 (AMPC)
So the scriptures talk about a dressing and state of heart. These two will show there is a major problem in the offing.
Let’s take a look at other translations.
A woman with an ulterior motive meets him. She is dressed as a prostitute.
Pro 7:10 (GW)
Notice the two things here; an ulterior motive, and a certain type of dressing.
It goes to show that the heart is very important in an adulterous equation. Once the heart is wrong and it is complemented with seductive dressing, the picture fits who the scripture describes as a harlot.
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This is because, from the scriptures, the dressing of a harlot goes with a wrong heart that will cheat.
Do you catch yourself always wanting to wear something skimpy, something revealing your flesh, showing cleavages, then you really need to watch it as a married woman.
It is the same with men. Are you always wearing show me your muscle shirts, interested in showing off your body and more?
These are indicative of what is in the heart and not just a coincidence.
I pray that God will give us more understanding even as we deliberately work on what we allow ourselves to feed and meditate on.
Be blessed today as always.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I have a good heart.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, give me a good heart
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 7:10 (MSG)Just then, a woman met him— she’d been lying in wait for him, dressed to seduce him.
In God, there will never, read that again, there will never be disappointments when you stay with Him. Everything in God is perfect. He is the master planner who never misses a bit. The problems we have are mostly self-inflicted.
Even at that, when we come back to God in repentance and ask for His mercy, He hears and ensures that our situation works together for our good and still ends up in victory.
Are you experiencing any form of delay? Are you getting tired of the whole thing and feeling like backing out on God?
Don’t!
The pressures are mounted when you are closest to your miracle!
When the heat is increased, victory is often near. When the fire was increased seven times more to fry the three Hebrew guys, Jesus Christ was near!
Then Nebuchadnezzar was filled with wrath, and the form of his face was changed against Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego. He spoke and commanded that they should heat the furnace seven times more than it was usually heated.
Daniel 3:19 (MKJV)
And these three men, Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego, fell down bound into the midst of the burning fiery furnace. [24] Then Nebuchadnezzar the king was amazed. And he rose up in haste and spoke and said to his advisers, Did we not throw three men bound into the middle of the fire? They answered and said to the king, True, O king.
Daniel 3:23-24 (MKJV)
The fire was heated seven times more, but the situation only became an opportunity for a miracle.
Let the fire burn, let the waters rush, let the storms roar, God is still God.
Hold on. Refuse to give up. Endure. Refuse every compromise.
A miracle waits for those who wait!
And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.
Galatians 6:9 (KJV)
It is when we faint not that we surely reap.
The delay eventually turns out to be a relay race, you are not out yet, you can still rejoice!
Keep serving Him. Keep keeping joy. Keep holding unto the word.
Your wedding will be a reality. God will ensure it.
Dream your miracle. Visualize the blessing. Imagine the reality, because you will soon see the travail of your heart.
I hear the sound of rejoicing on your behalf. I see God honouring His word in your life! Be blessed.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My miracle is here. No more delay.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, do a new thing in my life
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Galatians 6:9 (MSG) So let’s not allow ourselves to get fatigued doing good. At the right time we will harvest a good crop if we don’t give up, or quit.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Rejoice and be glad. Your miracle is here
1. Take Care Of Her Needs A lady has many needs; material, emotional and spiritual
Love to a lady is spelled being there for her at such times of need. As a guy who loves her genuinely, you should show empathy for her needs.
Definitely, you will not be expected to meet all her needs especially since you are not her Jehovah Jireh.
However, the husband is expected to show concern and encourage her in those times of need. Don’t just ignore her needs and pretend as if those needs are not important.
Let her know that her needs are important. Let her feel well taken care of. One of the distractions and deception the devil uses for ladies is to make them feel that some other guy can take care of them better.
As a man, don’t let the devil have the opportunity of deceiving her, take care of her well.
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2. Speak Into Her Life Words for a woman are very important. More so, words from her head, her priest, and her crown. Speak kind words to her.
Never lash at her with your words. Never hurt or wound her with your words. Such words go deep into her heart, causing deep emotional pains.
A lady can never be all she has the potential to become if all she hears from her husband are downgrading words. Take up the role of a high priest in her life.
Keep speaking God’s word over her life. The lady is like a vine, which initially looks weak and has to coil around a wall or stake but later develops deep roots and branches and becomes very strong.
3. Listen To Her There is no real love until you pay attention to her when she speaks.
The only way you can truly know a person is to listen when they speak. It’s from their words you understand how they reason, their opinions, and their viewpoints on issues
When your wife talks and you give her undivided attention, you are telling her she is important enough to listen to, that you value what she has to say so much, you want to listen, that she is intelligent enough in her conversation, you want to listen.
What you don’t understand is that when you treat your wife as though she is not intelligent, she notices, it affects her esteem and she begins to believe she is not intelligent and begins to act out what she believes.
May God bless our marriages.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love my fiance/fiancee with God’s love
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me and teach me how to love and understand my loved one
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 5:18 (MSG) Bless your fresh-flowing fountain! Enjoy the wife you married as a young man!
