One of your roles as a wife is to take care of your husband. In some parts of the country, young ladies preparing for marriage are often taught some of these skills. Others watch their mothers or older women as they perform this all important role of taking care of their husbands.
You can become a wife a moment you sign the wedding register. It takes a minute to earn the title of ‘Mrs’, the moment you sign the dotted line and say ‘I do’. But to function as a wife requires knowledge and skills.
This skill of taking care of one’s husband is fast becoming obsolete. Wives, no longer see it as a priority and responsibility. Our present society is not helping matters. Husbands are left in the hands of maids to take care of while the wives go on in pursuit of their careers.
Some wives don’t know how to take care of their husbands. Meanwhile, taking care of your husband is the key to marital bliss. When you treat your husband like a king, he reciprocates back treating you like his queen. It is honor to take good care of your husband and there are blessings attached to it.
Did you miss out on yesterday’s devotional, we’ve got you covered kindly go HERE. For KHC video Devotionals kindly go HERE
You take care of your husband in the following ways:
1. Cook him variety of dishes I know most wives are working class women who probably have maids. You can supervise what the maid cooks for him.
2. Serve his food Some wives are not even there to see to what their husband is eating. There is a lot of power in food. And she who feeds your husband is important.
3. Serve him in any and every aspect he requires Be there to assist your husband. Treat him as a king, there are some things you don’t just allow your husband do. Not because he is handicapped, but because you want to show him honor
4. Be involved in what he does Part of being an help meet is showing interest in whatever your husband does. Be it business, career etc. Ask questions about what you don’t know.
5. Be his friend and emotional ally There is nothing a man needs more than a friend. Someone to gist with. Be that friend
6. Meet his sexual needs Jeru trip for your husband is very important. Don’t leave that aspect of your duty unattended to. Satisfy his needs as often as he requires it. Your role is not complete until this aspect is fulfilled.
7. Pray for your husband When you pray for him him you engage the power of divinity to step in, in areas where your humanity can’t reach. You can pray for his protection, provision and whatever he may be dealing with.
If wives can try and fulfill all these, there will be less quarrel in homes and marriages.
God bless your marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I receive Godly wisdom
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me by your Holy Spirit
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 14:1 (KJV) Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Get an eBook that deals with your situation HERE
It happens all the time. You fall in love, you make commitments, in some cases, wedding plans begin, and then like a mighty tornado from nowhere, doubt hits you like you hit someone with a sledge hammer.
I thought I was in love! Where is this doubt coming from? O Lord, help me!
It even gets more confusing when compromise or specifically, sex is involved. You hardly know what to do. On one hand, you think you love him or her, but when you think about your future together, a lump rises in your throat and a subtle fear meanders in the inner crevices of your mind.
What do you do at such times? This is what we want to look at this morning.
At what points do doubts occur? Here are some:
1. A relationship is outside of God’s will and God needed to get your attention.
2. A relationship is actually God’s will, but the devil wants to confuse you so that you can step out of that will.
3. You have huge and sometimes unrealistic expectations and unfortunately the expectations are far from being realised.
4. You are in a relationship and it is God’s plan for you, but somewhere along the line, you are caught in sex. The devil would usually bring guilt trips and if you stay habitually in the compromise, confusion will enter the soul and you won’t know your left from right.
5. You are not informed and you are ignorant of your basic spiritual rights, you will easily get confused and yield to doubt.
6. You start a relationship or courtship without seeking God’s will. That conviction would not be there and doubts would have an upper hand.
7. You sought direction about your marriage from some prophet without a personal adventure in seeking God’s face.
8. You go into a relationship or marriage in order to escape from something. After your escape,then you start asking whether you really love the person.
9. All your mentors, pastor, and even parents are against the marriage except you. Doubt will surely come eventually.
10. Marriage is not all about roses and flowers, when the thorns show up, they usually come in the basket of doubt.
The next thing is “will one ever get to a place in life where doubt is completely extricated and will never occur again?” Like take a gun and shoot doubt for ever and ever?
I will talk about that tomorrow.
Don’t miss it.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not confused.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that every doubt will be destroyed
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY “Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life.” (Php 4:7, MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Spend time in God’s presence
BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY 2 Chronicles 6-7; Psalm 136
Marriage is beautiful, but it can quickly be obscured by the challenges and pressures that come with it. Its intended purpose can quickly fizzle out if care is not taken. My discourse with couples this morning is taken from the below short video. Watch it quickly before we proceed.
The devil is a bad devil. He seeks to distract, and obscure the reality of what God intended!
Your marital experience should be nothing short of fruitfulness. Fruit of the womb, fruit of the land, fruit from your substance and so on and so forth!
Here is what God said:
And God blessed them, saying, Be fruitful, and multiply, and fill the waters in the seas, and let fowl multiply in the earth.
Gen 1:22 (KJV)
Hold on to that word in your marriage. Say those words to your spouse every time! Look at your wife in the morning and declare over her; “Be Fruitful!” Move over to your husband and romantically whisper into his ears; “Be Fruitful!”
No negotiation!
Why? Because that was what was in the beginning!
I am not interested in what happened in the middle or what is happening now! I am interested in what was in the beginning!
Did you miss out on yesterday’s devotional, we’ve got you covered kindly go HERE. For KHC video Devotionals kindly go HERE
And the scriptures tells us what to do with what was from the beginning.
That which was from the beginning, which we have heard, which we have seen with our eyes, which we have looked upon, and our hands have handled, of the Word of life;
1Jn 1:1 (KJV)
A. Hear it B. See it C. Look upon it D. Your hands handle it!
I pray for you this morning, your hands will handle fruitfulness in Jesus name! You will hold your children and you will hold millions!
This is what marriage is. Marriage is fruitfulness and there is no negotiation!
Be blessed this week!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My marriage is fruitful
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, cause my marriage to be fruitful
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 John 1:1[ESV] That which was from the beginning, which we have heard, which we have seen with our eyes, which we looked upon and have touched with our hands, concerning the word of life—
The second thing that must be present in every marriage that will succeed has to do with communication.
2. Constant Communication A man was once asked what the three most important things in a marriage are.
His response:
1. Communication 2. Communication 3. Communication
Do I agree? Yes, I fully do!
When communication dies, assumptions, suspicions, lies and deception will take over. There is nothing as beautiful as a marriage where both parties can fully express themselves.
Hear each other out!
When a man talks, his goal may be a logical explanation, but when a woman talks, it is more than an explanation, it is a release; an emotional release. So every time she is muted, there are pent-up tensions being stored up for a later time.
Did you miss out on yesterday’s devotional, we’ve got you covered kindly go HERE. For KHC video Devotionals kindly go HERE
It is akin to the molten magma within, nothing shows on the surface much, but one day, the magma can no longer hold still, there will be a volcanic eruption causing untold havocs!
Unexplained hurts, unexpressed bitterness, are all like the molten magma in the belly of the ground.
So, when you tell your spouse to “shut up” continually, and it looks as though you are in charge and winning, well, you are not really in winning, you are actually losing!
Allow free expression in your matrimonial home.
3. Renewal and Recharge Junctions In marriage, you must learn to take breaks from work and relax. You have to have time that you spend together as husband and wife.
You need to go back to what used to excite you before wedding and do those things again and again.
Apart from reading your Bible and praying in the Holy Ghost which re-fires you and recharges your spirit, you should also learn to be relaxed once in a while.
4. Mentoring Every marriage must have a mentor that you defer to and seek wisdom from.
There is something that a couple who has been married for thirty years know that a three-year-old couple is oblivious of.
It is plain wisdom to seek counsel. Most issues that lead to serious strife and possible separation and divorce could easily have been resolved by seeking knowledge.
That is why I am a little scared of couples who talk to nobody! Something is not quite right with that. Part of having a marriage mentor is being humble.
5. Sincerity and Openness Finally, this is so crucial to the survival of any marriage!
Be open! Marriage is not a secret cult! Talk about everything and anything.
Hiding things and allowing your spouse to discover will only lead to mistrust and suspicion.
The rule of the game is to talk about everything. That will go a long way to establish trust.
If you keep talking exactly how it is, it would be difficult to go into adultery, because adultery is perpetuated in the platform insincerity and deception
May God help us all.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will pray for my loved one
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me to pray
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Jas 4:7 (KJV) Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
There are a lot of things that must be put in place for a marriage to succeed. There are conscious and deliberate inputs that must be in place so that marriage can bring bliss and not blisters.
Here are some of those things.
1. Prayers A family that prays together stays together. A husband and wife that pray together will overcome the flesh easily. Prayer protects, shields and connects you to your inheritance in God.
As husband and wife, pray for one another rather than tear one another apart. Intercede for each other. What the devil wants is a tearing apart, do not cooperate with him. Wake up in the middle of the night and pray together. The power of agreement is better harnessed as a couple.
Did you miss out on yesterday’s devotional, we’ve got you covered kindly go HERE. For KHC video Devotionals kindly go HERE
In the first few years of our marriage, my wife and I would wake up by 12.00am and pray in the Spirit. I am persuaded that those prayers advanced our lives and ministries.
There is a purpose for coming together in marriage. It is not just for making love and then dying at the age of ninety. There is a purpose in the heart of God. That purpose is not to be decided, it is to be discovered. When you discover that purpose, you just stepped into your wealthy place. You can only discover in the place of prayers.
The devil will do all he knows to do to make sure you don’t pray.
I will stop here today and continue tomorrow.
Be blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will pray for my loved one
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me to pray
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Jas 4:7 (KJV) Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
