This happens a lot and I get to hear this from time to time.
Pastor, I don’t have feelings for him again.
Pastor, I don’t have feelings for her again.
I will tell you five things quickly that will put things in perspective and help you judge your loss of “feelings” whether they are genuine or just some ruse.
1. Feelings are different from conviction
A feeling is the voice of your flesh. It is an emotional state. A conviction is the work of the Holy Spirit in your life.
So, when it comes to relationship and falling in love, as a child of God, you need to ask, is it just feelings I have for this person or do I have a “leading” from God?
They are two different things entirely.
2. Feelings are fickle
Feelings are not bad in themselves, it is just that you should not trust them.
They are fickle, and they don’t have a forever a status.
You can wake up with seven different feelings for a supposed loved one in seven different days.
They are also temporal and they often don’t last. Feelings come and go!
Feelings are not deep. They are surface surfers. Feelings cannot endure. Feelings are like fair weather friends.
3. You will not always have feelings for him or her
The next thing you need to realize is that you will not always have feelings for him or her.
So, in effect, feelings cannot be a standard for measuring your love!
Even in marriage, there are times you wake up to see your spouse and all the feelings have gone on holiday to Bahamas or some Island of no communication!
What do you do? Are you going to file for divorce?
You see, beyond your feelings, there must be a genuine commitment arising from a conviction towards the person you want to get married to!
So, you cannot afford to be led by what you “feel” alone.
Feelings are too weak to sustain you in the midst of love adventure. Feelings will abandon you at the slightest pressure.
It is only conviction that can travel the whole length with you, in cold or summer!
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am led by the spirit of God. My feelings do not control me.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, lead me to the rightful person for me
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Romans 8:14 For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.
Celebration is the source of life and joy. Keep Celebrating. If you want to experience constant life and joy in marriage, learn to celebrate. Let there be a constant feast in your marriage.
By feast, I don’t mean a party. It is more of the condition of the heart than it is a physical thing.
All the days of the afflicted are evil: but he that is of a merry heart hath a continual feast. – Pro 15:15
All forms of moodiness and gloominess are not meant to be allowed in your home. You have to learn to disallow certain things in your home and family. You allow joy and happiness.
Celebration is something you practice consciously. You make it a habit in your family. There are a lot of opportunities to celebrate that God brings our way. We should seize these opportunities.
Celebration puts us in faith. Abraham celebrated God by giving glory to God even when the covenant child was not even born. His celebration kept his faith alive.
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When you learn to celebrate, you acknowledge God as the source of your very life. You recognize God as the Lord over your marriage.
There are several opportunities in which we have to be sensitive to celebrate. Some people in a bid to appear humble say to celebrate is not to be sober like the Bible says. But the same bible says we should rejoice and again it says we should rejoice.
To celebrate is to be thankful and grateful. Celebrate every of your birthday. Celebrate the life and the lives of all those around you. Be grateful to God for victory and sparing your life. Many have been laid aside, so be grateful and celebrate life.
Celebrate your children. Celebrate your husband. Celebrate events. Create memorials. Celebrate the beginning of the term for your children. Celebrate the end of term. Celebrate anniversaries, Christmas, holidays. Look into each and find out what to celebrate.
Make things special. Make every dinner and lunch a memorable one. Let your spouse and children have sweet memories. Celebrate your pastors, your boss. Celebrate your parents, your siblings, celebrate everything and anything.
As you celebrate, you will have more reasons to celebrate.
God bless your marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to celebrate at every opportunity I get.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me how to love my husband/wife well
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 5:25 [KJV]Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Today we are looking at “Going The Extra Mile.” What made Jesus take special interest in Zacchaeus? Out of all the people around him, how was he able to distinguish Zaccheus out?
The bible says there was a large crowd gathering to see Jesus. Jesus could have picked out anyone from the crowd and passed his message.
As a matter of fact, Zacchaeus was not the only tax collector in the region at that point in time.
So what really attracted him to the saviour?
Zacchaeus went an extra mile. Oh yes, he did.
Luke 19:4 And he ran before, and climbed up into a sycomore tree to see him: for he was to pass that way.
He looked beyond his height and refused to be discouraged. He climbed a tree, all in a bid to see the saviour.
Dear children, be like Zacchaeus. Go the extra mile. Don’t settle for less. Don’t be mediocre in your approach to life, your academic pursuit and everything you find yourself doing.
Strive to be the best and God will send for you, Amen.
Prayer: Lord, help me to make amends where necessary.
Action Point: Are there areas you need to make restitutions? List them out.
Declaration: I am living for Jesus so I do things right!
“But that is what you are doing! It is firstly sweet in your mouth, but afterward, it turns into gravel. The mastication process will go awry. So says the scriptures.”
“I don hear. Holy sister.”
“But candidly speaking, your perspective is wrong. Don’t waste your time on what will not work.”
Phone rings, as they made to enter their room.
Nancy picked up her phone and looked at the name on the screen. It was one of her boyfriends, the one that was not caring, but gives her a lot of money.
“I beg, make I pick important call, my foodstuff don nearly finish!”
As she chatted away, Angie sat down on the edge of her bed and ruminated. She prayed silently to God to help her communicate and help her friend who is obviously dancing with imminent disappointments.
She knew what she was doing wouldn’t work. It was simply not God’s order. She wondered at how her roommate had trivialized what is clearly a sin, how she kind of mocked God with her attitude to life.
She seemed to be enjoying it now and she prayed for her silently as the scripture came to her mind:
Behold, all ye that kindle a fire, that compass yourselves about with sparks: walk in the light of your fire, and in the sparks that ye have kindled. This shall ye have of mine hand; ye shall lie down in sorrow. – Isa 50:11
She knew all Nancy was reveling in were sparks…and she prayed to God to send light her way, before the night time, when her bed would have been decked up with sorrow!
Despite all she is doing, she knows God loves her deeply, but that is not enough, she needs to love the Lord too and that is where the real blessing is!
When she sees the light, then she would realize she has been living in the sparks!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to do it in God’s way.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the Grace to stay faithful in a perverse world
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. Hebrews 13:4 KJV
Husbands should endeavor to pray for their wives daily. This may sound religious but I have found it to work. Apart from the fact that it draws the husband to God, making him take his rightful place as the priest, it takes the pressure off the wife also.
Everybody now looks up to God who is able to transform our marriage and make us better people. The focus shifts to God. The husband sees God as the One who will answer his prayers and he’s patiently waiting on God.
It also affords the husband to pray for those virtues he likes to see in his wife. Praying together brings God into the scene where He becomes a partner with us. He sees to it that there are changes and our marriages become better.
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. – Eph 5:25 – 28
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The husbands should be responsible in the transformation process of their wives. They should be committed to seeing their wives transformed to what they want them to be.
So dear wives, a little trick that works is to always ask your husband to lay his hands on you and pray for you. It gives your husband a feeling of your being submissive to him and a willingness to want to please him. It will also reduce quarrels. You can’t be fighting and your husband praying for you.
Note that the devil will try and fight this. He hates this kind of unity and agreement because of the power it generates. Even when there is a fight, make sure you apologize and ask your husband to pray for you.
For example, if your husband is always complaining that you are slow, let him begin to talk to God about it. So he prays for you that God should make you faster or quicker in doing your things.
Two things will likely happen. It is either he begins to see himself as complaining and begins to see the good side of your being slow, or he accept you that way and work on being more patient. If he still complains, you tell him, Senior, we have prayed about it.
In this way, the wife takes the pressure of performance off her and allows the process of change to take its course. You could use this method to kick start praying together for those who don’t pray together at all.
May God give us victory, Amen!
God bless our homes and marriages.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I cooperate with my spouse to have an award winning marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me how to love my husband/wife well
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 5:25 [KJV]Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
This morning, I want to bring out one more lesson, on how to make restitution appropriately, from the story of Mr. Zacchaeus the tax collector.
To have a better understanding of what I am about to share, let us go to the beginning of the travails of Mr. Zacchaeus the tax collector.
Luke 19:1-3 [BBE] And he went into Jericho, and when he was going through it, A man, named Zacchaeus, who was the chief tax-farmer, and a man of wealth, Made an attempt to get a view of Jesus, and was not able to do so, because of the people, for he was a small man.
My point this morning is in verse three. The bible says he made an attempt to see Jesus. That was the beginning of his redemption.
He did not just stay at one point, wishing Jesus would come for him. He made an attempt.
Dear children, make that attempt today. Give that dream a shot. Leave your comfort zone and make that push.
What dreams do you have in mind for years? What ideas do you have unattended to? Speak to your parents today and make that attempt towards realizing that dream.
“Thank you, sister Angel. I love my boyfriend and he loves me. When we are married, we will go to church.”
“Who told you that you will get married to him?”
“I know! He told me we will.”
“And who told you that you are the only one he is promising?” Angie said.
“Yes, I may not be the only one, but I am the first on his list”
“List? Nancy, why go through this humiliation?
“Which one is humiliation there now? Is there any man out there that can be faithful?”
“You always get what you expect! I will be married to a man who not only loves me but also loves the Lord,”
“Such men are all dead, I beg!”
“No, they are still alive.”
“You are simply inexperienced. You don’t know guys. I currently have three boyfriends and my back is covered. If one fails, I will latch unto another.”
“Your back is not covered.” You are toying with your life and destiny.”
“There you go again, pastoress.”
“But candidly, it is not like God doesn’t want you to have a boyfriend, but He wants everything done His own way.”
“What’s His own way?”
“No sex.”
“That is not possible”
“It is possible. I am an example.” Angie said.
“So, I will not test wetin I go buy for market? Nancy said shaking her head.
“How many times have you been sexually involved with your boyfriend?
“Which of them?
“See your life?”
“I can’t count o… Am I supposed to be recording that? I be secretary?”
“Ok, let’s just say twenty times… So you have been testing? For how long will you test in the market? Will you ever get home? Is the market not your home now?”
“Leave that one, I dey enjoy am, plus lots of bucks.”
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to do it in God’s way.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the Grace to stay faithful in a perverse world
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. Hebrews 13:4 KJV
Has your husband ever told you that you are not talking to him well? It is either he says you speak in a disrespectful manner or you are not just logical.
My own husband used to tell me that often. I used to wonder how best to speak to him. My own husband is very, very intelligent, coupled with the fact that he is a strong choleric. You really have to make a lot of sense to get his attention.
To prove a point is a very bad move because it will not just work. So I quit trying to make a point.
I discovered a secret that has helped me and I believe will help every woman out there. I am not talking about remote controlling your husband to do as you say, but to have regards for what you say.
Your husband will respect what you say more when your words are weighty and carry power. You know in the world, the wives do charms so that their husbands can listen to them. But we believers have the real thing.
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I am not talking about native intelligence or academic prowess. I am talking about possessing the spirit of wisdom and understanding that comes from God.
And they were not able to resist the wisdom and the spirit by which he spake. – Acts 6:10
See it in the Amplified version
But they were not able to resist the intelligence and the wisdom and [the inspiration of] the Spirit with which and by Whom he spoke. – Acts 6:10
It is possible to possess such intelligence and wisdom that your husband will not be able to refuse you, shut you up, or won’t listen to you.
You don’t have to be manipulative with your words, no auto planning, no rehearsals before speaking.
The fact has been established that you can speak with intelligence. But how can one come to the point where you have such a spirit?
You cannot learn it from school or from your parents or mother. What was the secret of Stephen? He was full of the Holy faith and the Holy Ghost as recorded in Acts 6:6
Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God. So Stephen was a man dedicated to the study of the word of God and prayers.
When you give yourself to the study of the word of God and you become controlled by the Holy Spirit, you will possess an intelligence that will be beyond your age.
You will speak with much grace and power. You will not be forceful or manipulative but your words will be gracious. The Holy Spirit will give you insight and foresight.
You will advise your husband and your advice will turn out the best decision. By the next time, he will seek counsel from you. He will disregard your words and treat your words with levity. He will come to respect you and honor you because of your intelligent words.
This is what my mentor possesses and that is what I am getting. I am giving myself to the study of the word and to prayers.
I have made up my mind to go for wisdom in words and in deed, so that I will become relevant and impact my generation. You too can take on the journey of being full of faith and the spirit of God.
God bless your marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am full of wisdom and the spirit.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for the spirit of wisdom
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Acts 6:10 [KJV]And they were not able to resist the wisdom and the spirit by which he spake.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Take out time to pray in the spirit
We are still learning how to make restitution appropriately, and we are still on the story of Mr. Zacchaeus the tax collector.
This morning, let us examine one more thing that made making restitution easy for him.
Luke 19:8 [TLB] Meanwhile, Zacchaeus stood before the Lord and said, “Sir, from now on I will give half my wealth to the poor, and if I find I have overcharged anyone on his taxes, I will penalize myself by giving him back four times as much!”
One thing is evident here. He was sincere. He didn’t try defending what he had done. He wasn’t going to beat around the bush. He didn’t try to blame the system or the government, as some would have done.
Little children, God wants and expects you to be sincere. The moment you are at fault, admit it.
So I am posing this question to you this morning;
Have you wronged someone before?
Have you cheated on a friend?
Have you unjustly used someone before?
If you are still trying to justify why you did what you did, you haven’t gotten the drift yet.
Now is the time to make amends.
Walk up to that friend and do the needful. If you need to involve your parents or guardians, by all means, do.
May God strengthen you as you decide to do things right, Amen.
Prayer: Lord, help me to make amends where necessary.
Action Point: Are there areas you need to make restitution? List them out.
Declaration: I am living for Jesus so I do things right!
The day has been a hectic one. Having six lectures back to back was not an easy task. Angie and Nancy are two of a kind. They were roommates in one of the private Universities. As they walked back to their hall, they struck a conversation. It was more than a conversation. It was a state of their hearts.
Welcome to the world of Angie and Nancy.
“There is only one thing on my mind now, can you guess?” Angie asked.
“What else will it be, other than to go and eat and sleep off?” Replied Nancy.
“Waoh! You are in the Spirit, you got it. Flesh and blood hath not revealed that unto you.”
“What about me, guess what’s rolling on my mind?” Nancy asked.
“Same thing now, are you not hungry and tired?”
“Yes, I am hungry and tired, but it is not food and sleep that will appease the goddess now”
“Ok o, Miss goddess, what is on your mind?” Asked Angie?
“What’s on my mind? It’s more than Facebook status o…”
“Ok, na Twitter, abi?”
“You sure don’t want to know, Nancy said giggling.”
“Your boyfriend?”
“Yes,” Nancy said, almost screaming, and eyes bulging. “I want to be wrapped in my boyfriend’s arms.”
“Wrap? You be foo-foo, abi? You don’t know more than that, Jesus is coming soon o!
“Please, can’t we have a decent conversation without you sermonizing me?” Nancy said with a slight hiss.
“Oh oh…why the beef now? And where is the sermon? I have not even quoted a scripture. I have not even told you that the soul that sinneth shall die!”
“Please! All of us are sinners. It is God that knows who is serving Him!”
Calmly, Angie said, “I disagree with that. It is not only God that knows. Those who are serving Him also know. I spoke to Him this morning!”
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to do it in God’s way.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the Grace to stay faithful in a perverse world
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. Hebrews 13:4 KJV
What A Mother Told Her Daughter. An ever-green story was told of a beautiful lady who got tired of her husband and sought the help of her mother to get rid of her spouse. She was however afraid the law of the land will hold her responsible.
I would like to bring back the lessons learned from the advice given by her mother.
Her mother answered:
Yes, my daughter, I can help you, but there is a little task attached.
The daughter asked ‘what task? I am willing and ready to do any task attached to getting rid of him.
Ok, said the mother.
1. You will have to make peace with him so that no one will not suspect when he is dead.
2. You will have to make yourself beautiful in order to look young and attractive to him.
3. You have to take good care of Him and be very nice and appreciative of him.
4. You have to be patient, loving, and less jealous, have more listening ears, be more respectful and obedient.
5. Spend your money for him and don’t get angry even when he doesn’t give you money for whatever.
6. Don’t raise your voice against him but encourage peace and love so that you will never be suspected when he must have died.
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Can you do all these? The mother asked?
Yes, I can, she replied.
She gave a powder to her daughter. Add it to his food daily. It will kill him slowly, she said.
After 30 days of adhering to all the tasks, she came back to her mother and said;
Mother, I have no intention of killing my husband again. As of now, I have grown to love him because he is completely changed. He is now a very sweet husband than I ever imagine.
What can I do to stop the poison from killing him? She asked in a sorrowful tone.
Do not worry my daughter. The powder is only turmeric powder. It is not meant to kill him.
In reality, you were the poison that was slowly killing your husband with tension and dispassion
When you start being nice, respectful, loving, and cherishing your husband, he begins to be nice, caring, and wonderful.
Every woman has a magic wand in her hands to change her marriage and her husband. Your husband will respond to your change.
Ask yourself, if you were in a secret reality show that is willing to offer you $10, 000,000 if you will follow the above task, will you commit to following the task?
If you can do this for riches, how much more for the invaluable, unquantifiable benefits of obeying God and honoring our husbands?
Think about this and may God grant you understanding.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION OF THE DAY I am a patient and loving spouse.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me the wisdom to know how to love my spouse.
THOUGHT OF THE DAY Ecc 10:19 A feast is made for laughter, and wine maketh merry: but money answereth all things
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Put the above points to practice
The dictionary defines restitution as the restoration of something lost or stolen to its proper owner. It can also mean recompense for injury or loss. Restitution can involve money being paid back in some cases.
Were there cases of restitution in the bible? Yes, and in the next few days, we will be looking at these cases one by one.
The first case we will be examining is the case of Mr. Zacchaeus
In the case of Zacchaeus, we see that his encounter with Jesus in Luke chapter 19 facilitated his restitution.
Luke 19:8 [TLB] Meanwhile, Zacchaeus stood before the Lord and said, “Sir, from now on I will give half my wealth to the poor, and if I find I have overcharged anyone on his taxes, I will penalize myself by giving him back four times as much!”
This means you cannot totally make restitutions without meeting with Jesus.
So my first assignment is to lead you to Jesus if you’ve not met him.
Say after me;
Lord Jesus, I believe you came to the earth and that you died for me. I confess and I acknowledge you as my Lord and personal savior. Come into my life today. Come and reign over my affairs. I surrender my all to you this day. Thank you because I am now yours, amen.
As simple as that, you are now one with Christ.
Now, your journey to making restitution begins. Amen
Congratulations!
Prayer: Lord, help me to make amends where necessary.
Action Point: Are there areas you need to make restitution? List them out.
We are still on things that are popular and prevalent but not necessarily of God.
4. We have to seek Prophet’s consent
This is another nonsensical pursuit. It is a waste of time. What you need to know is that there are prophets for profit. They are hungry and they need to eat, so they will always see something. These fake prophets have obfuscated the real and original prophets because people are readily drawn to deception.
Even when you give them three non-existent names, they will still see something! That spirit in them will not be able to identify that those are non-existent names.
In the Old Testament, the people will consult the prophet for direction because the Holy Spirit is only upon these prophets. But in the New Testament, the primary function of the prophet has moved from foretelling to forth-telling.
The Holy Spirit is now upon all believers, and you are supposed to be led by the Spirit of God individually. If your prophet or pastor confirms what is already in your heart, that is okay. I have done that for a lot of people, but pastors or prophets are not to be sought for direction on who to marry!
You are to decide, they can confirm! If a pastor insists you must marry somebody you dislike and you are not in love with, that is nothing more than emotionalism and manipulation!
5. I don’t really love him or her, but I need the citizenship
This is another wrong reason to get married. Getting married to an older person to get some papers? Don’t be that desperate; allow God to do what He wants to do in your life.
What if you are not supposed to be in that place according to God’s direction for your life? You would have sentenced yourself to a life of non-fulfillment and dissatisfaction.
You might end up having some Dollars or Pounds, but you will never have the peace of mind that way, and there is all likelihood that such marriages will not last!
You don’t have God’s support when you venture into such deals.
May God grant more understanding!
I pray for you, you will not miss it. God will surround you with His mercy!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will follow God all the way. I choose to do it in God’s way.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God will help you stay true till the end
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. Hebrews 13:4 KJV
Yesterday, we started talking about money. I explained to us how money can be a defence in our marriage and shield us from several things.
This morning, I’ll love to point out a few areas we can discuss with our spouse about our finances.
1. Being transparent about our income.
Be as open and sincere as possible about letting your spouse know about our income.
2. Discuss paying of tithe.
Let it be an established rule in your home.
3. Discuss your family budget
Have a budget your home and family run on. Let every single aspect of your marriage be under a budget. The kids, parents, projects…etc
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4. Discuss about saving
This is so important. A particular percentage should be set aside regularly as savings.
5. Discuss about how to improve and make more money.
Start looking at having multiple streams of income.
6. Discuss about investments.
In the parable of the talent, the servant that invested his master’s money was commended. Get information about investment opportunities. Search the internet about money making ideas.
7. Discuss about your needs
When a woman’s needs are not met, she has a tendency of trying to sort herself.
8. Discuss about contentment.
This is very important. We are believers and our lives must be guided by scripture. Our lives do not consist of what we have. Let your spouse know that money is not everything. We have to learn to trust in God and not in riches. Let our driving force not be money but God, His kingdom and using whatever we have for His glory.
God bless our marriages
CONFESSION OF THE DAY We have money. Money doesn’t have us. We are rich.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give us wisdom to know how to multiply whatever amount of money we have in Jesus name.
THOUGHT OF THE DAY Ecc 10:19 A feast is made for laughter, and wine maketh merry: but money answereth all things
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Discuss the points with your spouse
Yesterday, I started writing on things that are popular and prevalent but not necessarily of God.
2. He has to be ‘mobile’ (He‘s got to have a car!)
Well, this is good! Who doesn’t want the best of things and who wants to ‘suffer’ first? If your fiancée has a good car before marriage, great! You are blessed!
But to make this a criterion will be a great error. The important thing is to find out God’s plan for your life. His thoughts towards you are thoughts of peace and not of evil!
Are you marrying the car or the guy? What if something happens to the car? There are seemingly rich guys today who are on their way to being massively broke. But there are also guys who are seemingly broke today but are on their way to being unrepentantly rich!
As a lady, you need to follow your heart and you have to be able to “perceive!”
3. We have to be compatible in bed
You just want to satisfy your lust, simple! How do you measure this compatibility in bed? What would he or she do that will give a pass mark?
And if he or she is not compatible according to your judgment, what happens? Look for the next available person and jump in bed to measure compatibility? Compatibility in bed is a figment of the imagination, and that is why you keep measuring after the first “measurement”
It is high time we stop that deception. It is high times ladies woke up and stop being easily deceived.
If the lady was good in bed, you’ll say she is too exposed; she has slept with too many people. If she is naïve in bed, you’ll say she is Mummy’s girl! So, exactly what are you up to?
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will follow God all the way. I choose to do it in God’s way.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God will help you stay true till the end
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. Hebrews 13:4 KJV
We know money is a major part of our lives as married couples. In fact, we make about 70% of our decision based on finances.
The house we live in, the area we stay in, how many kids we have, what school they go to, what type of clothes they wear, the type of food they eat, how comfortable the house we live in is, do we rent an apartment or buy one, what work we do, where we work, what part of the country we live in, what type of friends we have, the type of car(s) we have, what church we attend, our spiritual level…and it goes on and on.
Money is so important that it appears 123 times in the Bible.
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The only thing that can compete with God in our hearts is mammon or money. Every sin of covetousness, especially of material things is traceable to money issues.
Most Adulteries and fornications are basically traceable to money. For example, a beautiful lady or handsome who you get attracted to is attractive because she/he can afford expensive things that make her beautiful.
No one is attracted to an ugly and poor fellow.
Money is a defence! It can defend our spouse and marriage from falling if properly used
For wisdom is a defence, and money is a defence: but the excellency of knowledge is, that wisdom giveth life to them that have it. – Ecc 7:12
So as couples, it is important we talk about finances and guard against its adverse effect on our marriage because we can make money serve us at whatever level we are in. Money will answer and solve the majority of our marital problems.
A feast is made for laughter, and wine maketh merry: but money answereth all things. – Ecc 10:19
To be continued…
CONFESSION OF THE DAY We have money. Money doesn’t have us. We are rich.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give us the wisdom to know how to multiply whatever amount of money we have in Jesus name.
THOUGHT OF THE DAY Ecc 10:19 A feast is made for laughter, and wine maketh merry: but money answereth all things
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Discuss the points with your spouse
This is one promise I want you to always remember as you grow older in life. The LORD has it all planned out. He has plans to take care of you till good old age.
Here is one of the promises you should hold on to in life;
And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus. – Philippians 4:19 [ESV]
Children, God says through his word that he will supply every of your need. That means you should always cast your cares and burdens upon Him.
Why do you need to worry yourself over basic necessities of life? With the above promise, you do not have to worry about anything because you have a father in heaven who is always ready to attend to your need.
Let me show you another scripture;
“Therefore I say to you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink; nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing? 26 Look at the birds of the air, for they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? Which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature? – Matthew 6:25-27[NKJV]
Conclusively, God has us in his long-term plans. Let’s keep our fingers crossed and trust his timing
Prayer: Ask the Lord to supply all your needs. Amen
Action point: Are you worried about a thing? Cast your care on Jesus
Declaration: I refuse to worry because the Lord supplies all my needs.
This morning, we would like to set some things straight. There has been so much ignorance and wrong counsel.
There are things that are popular and prevalent but not necessarily of God. That something is nearly ubiquitous does not validate it. The voice of the people is sometimes reverberations and echoes of hell!
The voice of God is what stands any day, any time. The voice of man and the principles of man are often fraught with errors and casualties.
In God, there is nothing like Democracy, it is Theocracy. All of God or none of Him!
There are things that have been defined by the media and societal inclination; but as long as they are not founded in the word, they are as fickle as a flower that blossoms today and withers tomorrow.
You cannot build your life on such, or else when the storm rages; the wind blows and the rain falls, great will be the ruin of such building.
For other foundation can no man lay than that is laid, which is Jesus Christ. (1 Corinthians 3:11 KJV)
So, what are some of those things?
1. She Has To Get Pregnant Before Marriage
Some families will insist on this before they agree on any marriage. They want to be sure that the daughter they are bringing into the family is fertile or the guy that wants to marry their daughter is not impotent.
No matter how logical this looks, it contradicts the principle of God in terms of making the marriage bed undefiled.
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. (Hebrews 13:4 KJV)
However you want to see it, what is wrong is wrong. When your marriage is therefore founded on disobedience, it cuts short the blessings of God. It is not the ‘fertility’ of the lady or the potency of the man that will guarantee the next pregnancy after marriage.
There are couples who are very okay and have nothing wrong with their bodies and yet it takes a while to get pregnant. So how many times will the poor lady be subjected to some sexual rendezvous all in a bid to get her pregnant? And if she doesn’t get pregnant, she waits for another man, while she is discarded like an unwanted element?
How about her self-esteem? Self-worth? And who says the woman is always the issue in the event of no pregnancy?
This idea is definitely not of God and not from God!
Don’t allow yourself to be subjected to such affliction! Learn to trust God because God cannot lead wrong! He may lead you round, but He will never lead you wrong.
May God grant more understanding!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will follow God all the way. I choose to do it in God’s way.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God will help you stay true till the end
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. Hebrews 13:4 KJV
How To Fall In Love Again With Your Spouse. During the pandemic, it was recorded that in some places in China, there were more divorce cases than ever before.
Why was this? Husbands and wives were not used to being at home together. They were simply flat or roommates who just shared the house and essential commodities together.
The truth is that we may be used to our own space, being alone doing our own things, and being in control of our own time. It may first of all be awkward being home with the kids and your spouse, not just for a few hours but for weeks, so you have to learn to be very patient and determined to enjoy the time spent with your spouse.
When both spouses are at home with the kids, it is also a good time to bond well, so I am pointing out few ways to bond with your spouse and kids.
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1. Depending on what age your kids are, the younger ones will do well with playing around. Be creative and invent plays, do hide and seek, trust God for strength to roll on the carpet with them.
2. Cartoons are good. You can unwind with them watching and enjoying their world with them. Don’t let the cartoons be too much.
3. Do some intellectual talks and ask personal questions about their friends and special friends. Attend to their many questions.
4. Take time to teach your girls new dishes. For the boys, let them use their energy to help out in the house.
5. Play games with the whole family and it is the best time for drawing the quiet ones from their shell.
6. Be happy and content with what you have. Create fun out of what you have. Do a lot of teasing and rough plays. Never allow any member of the family to be moody
7. Be pleasant to your spouse and don’t do things that will spark up arguments.
8. Make sure you have sex as often as possible. This will keep the bond between you and your spouse. The tension will also reduce between the two of you.
9. Be very patient with your spouse as it may take some time for them to adjust to being with you. Pray for the Holy Spirit to help you and teach you to meet your spouse’s needs.
10. Give attention to your spiritual bonding. Take time to play together and read your bible and have bible discussions together.
11. Ensure finances don’t cause you to get frustrated. I know it’s difficult but please try. Trust in God together for open heavens. Do a lot of cuddling and please help each other do house chores.
I hope these few tips will go a long way to help you bond well with your family.
God bless you family
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a loving spouse.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me how to love my husband/wife well
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 1:18 [GW] Then you will have deeper insight. You will know the confidence that he calls you to have and the glorious wealth that God’s people will inherit.
