Sally, a God-loving babe is single, sassy, smart and searching! She has many suitors, but she just can’t seem to decide what she should really go for. She knows God loves her and is assured of that, but she is yet to find the man that will truly love her. Who should one really go for? What is it that must not be negotiated?
Before saying “I do,” what should one do?
Before walking down the aisle with the loved one, the sweetheart, the fedora, the rose, the lily, what should one really look out for?
What should a man look for in a lady or what should a lady look for in a man?
This is our bone of contention this morning and we are going to have to crack it by the Holy Spirit.
In relationship and marriage decisions, there is something that should not be negotiated. This is what we are looking at this morning.
There is something that you should watch out for that if you cannot see, you should talk to your lower limbs and pick a race.
You cannot marry everybody or just anybody. In the scriptures, God is particular about where the children of Israel should marry from.
In the contemporary world of 2022 and beyond, what do you look for?
After being involved in ministry work and pastoring for over two decades, with countless experiences in counseling sessions, I can tell you a few things.
After being married for twenty-two years plus, my eyes have seen a little. I have listened to countless brides crying and agonizing over the phone over their regrettable choices in marriage. I have listened to mature men break down like little boys because of the frustration experienced from their wives.
In the world of relationships and marriage, all men are not equal or the same. There are men and there are mean men.
There are honest men who speak with integrity and there are froward men whose mouths speak deceit and lies.
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not say I do to the wrong person
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, do the best for me
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY And Abraham gave ALL that he had unto Isaac. – Genesis 25:5 (KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Do well to share this devotional
The Three Most Important Rooms In Your Marriage. A few years back, President Buhari was asked about his wife’s interview in which she made some statements that showed her displeasure with her husband’s decisions.
In his reply, President Buhari said he doesn’t know which party his wife belongs to, but he knows she belongs to his kitchen, his living room, and the other room.
The president was taken up on this and many expanded, amplified, and even dragged the statement beyond its original intention.
Let’s take a look at these rooms one after the other.
The Kitchen
In the physical realm, it is so much a vital part of the house. You couldn’t do without it.
Yes, the woman is always there, but a good man will often be found there as well.
In the kitchen, food is prepared.
In the spiritual milieu, the kitchen is where revelation is cooked. It is a place you don’t joke with and both husband and wife have better belong there.
Without constant “cooking” in this place, the inner man will be famished and results will be defective.
The Living Room
Here is a public place for the family. Everybody comes together in the living room. When Daddy wants to talk to everybody, it will probably be in the living room.
Everybody must have a place where you meet with divinity. Everybody must have a place where you meet with God. Everybody must have a living room where you talk to God.
The Other Room
This room is only for Daddy and Mummy. The other room is for those who are married.
Singles should never have the other room, and should never visit the other room. As singles, if you go to the other room, “other” things can take place that you will not be proud of.
Yes, the woman belongs to the other room. The wife can even delegate the kitchen to some domestic help, she can have the luxury of time off from the living room, but her role in the other room cannot be delegated.
Her functions in the other room are so pivotal to her husband’s productivity in the board room.
The temperature in the other room should be kept hot. The other room should be alive.
As a wise wife, you should make sure that your husband never has the luxury of having another “other room” outside the matrimonial home.
When a man is dissatisfied in the other room, disorder and chaos await him.
Christian wives, don’t be over-spiritual!
The gas cooker belongs to the kitchen.
Chairs and seats belong to the living room.
But what is needed in the other room is the bed!
Marriage is honorable in all and the bed undefiled!
On your wedding date, you were licensed to enter the other room. Focus on each other and enjoy yourselves sexually!
God will more likely answer the prayers of a sexually satisfied couple than that of couples denying each other! Read your Bible very well.
God bless you today!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am wise. I am focused on the things of God. I am not confused
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me to be wise
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 7:5 (AMP)Do not refuse and deprive and defraud each other [ of your due marital rights ], except perhaps by mutual consent for a time, so that you may devote yourselves unhindered to prayer. But afterwards resume marital relations, lest Satan tempt you [ to sin ] through your lack of restraint of sexual desire.
As humans on earth, our ever loving Father never created us to navigate this earth aimlessly. He made us and gave us a manual to live by everyday of our lives.
This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success. – Joshua1:8 ESV
The scripture above is an instruction God has given us to follow always. The word of God is a manual we need to lead a Godly and successful life.
I believe you must have seen other adults read the bible in public or private places. That’s because nobody wants to get lost in this race of life.
We should always read and confess the word of God everyday of our lives.
Additionally, we should pray that the Spirit of God will dwell in us and grant us understanding of what we are reading. You can call on your parents or guardians to help you with this prayer and I am sure they will be glad to do so.
One more prayer you can equally pray as you daily go through your manual is that you will be conformed to the life God has ordained for you to live.
Prayers: Lord, fill me with your spirit. Let me live according to your plans for my life in Jesus name; Amen.
Action Plan: Go through your manual before leaving your house
Declaration I am a doer of the word. I confess and obey the word of God at all times.
9. God’s word will renew your mind and make you become a better person
Are you wondering how you make some changes especially concerning old habits that seemed ingrained in you and tattooed on your mind? God’s word is the way out. The word of God brings transformation. It can lift a man from the miry clay to the mountain top.
And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. (Romans 12:2 KJV)
10. God’s word will help you to know your rights in God and get the best in your relationship, marriage and home.
Finally, it is in God’s word that you get to know and discover your rights in God and lay claim on them. You are not to be overcome by sin again. The bond of iniquity ought not to have a hold on you again. Its power has been broken. Sin shall no longer lord it over you. You are no longer the sinner trying to be righteous, you are the righteous whom the devil is trying to trap.
The power of lack, insufficiency, and poverty has been broken in your life. You have all things in God right now. The power of sicknesses and diseases has been crushed in your life! That cancer has no place in your body. That arthritis is no longer your portion. That heart condition has been taken care of…all these truths and more are what belong to you as a child of God.
When you study God’s word and discover what He has done for you when his body hung on the cross, you will have the boldness to demand what belongs to you in God!
May God grant you more understanding!
I pray for you this morning, every tree in your life and destiny that my God has not planted, be uprooted now in Jesus name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a student of the word
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to stay with the word
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Josh 1:8[NET]This law scroll must not leave your lips! You must memorize it day and night so you can carefully obey all that is written in it. Then you will prosper and be successful.
Marriage is one institution you will never stop improving. No matter how old you are, you never grow too old of getting better at your marriage.
In fact, it is said that like wine, it gets better and sweeter the older it gets. I think it is true. The marriage goes through different stages and like a child you have to be patient with your marriage.
It requires a lot of work, a lot of sowing into the marriage. The formative years of the marriage are the most critical of all. Those years in a marriage which comes with so much labor and hard work.
Those years, you are still trying to understand yourselves; where the differences in temperaments and the male/female differences had to be mastered, where your spouse’s weaknesses really show, where you get pissed up by your spouse’s weaknesses, and where his strength can put you off, rather than celebrate his strength.
You may be at this critical stage in your marriage. I want to encourage you to hold on and be patient.
What God has joined together, let no man put asunder, is what the bible says. Make sure no matter what, you keep on improving on your marriage.
Never grow weary of improving on your marriage. Never grow weary of doing those things you know will improve your marriage. Don’t stop talking. Don’t stop being loving. Don’t stop being tender and kind.
Don’t stop helping your wife achieve her dreams. Don’t stop meeting her needs. Never stop treating her in a special way.
Never stop being a helper. Help him fulfill his dreams. Be romantic. Make him feel like a king. Don’t stop praying. Never stop talking to God about your marriage.
Your marriage is yours to bring the best out of it. It is yours to work out until the beauty therein appears.
God is waiting on you. Heaven believes in you to make it work. So make it work.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to improve on my marriage
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Php 2:13 (KJV) For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure.
Praying is a type of spiritual exercise. As you pray, you are exercising your spiritual muscles, strengthening them. You are building them up. As you build your prayer life with prayer, you also build your body with physical exercises. It’s one way of keeping your body fit and trim.
Keeping fit gives you a pleasant appearance, your clothes seat well on your body and your self-esteem grows. You just love the way you look. This feeling adds to your mental health and you can’t help but be happy.
God loves it when you are happy. Your happiness is worship to Him. And when you are happy, your praise to Him comes not only from your lips but from your whole heart and soul.
Remember, your body is not your own. It was given as a gift. All gifts are meant to be treasured, kept well and used accordingly.
You should know that your body is a temple for the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit is in you. You have received the Holy Spirit from God. You do not own yourselves. -1 Cor. 6:19 ICB
Exercise to keep your body fit as a way of honouring God with your body. Do not do it to please anyone at school or to join any group. Don’t do it out of peer pressure.
If you don’t need to exercise because of health challenges, then don’t do it. God understands and still loves you. There are other ways to keep your body holy for Him.
May the Lord give you the ability to keep fit always. Amen.
Action plan: Start small and don’t rush it. Gradually increase the routine as you keep up. Engage the help of someone as well.
4 God’s word will become light and direction to help you choose as a single.
There is rigour in direction. Life is about decisions, but that is not all to it. Good life is about making the right decisions. The frailty of our human nature is overcome when we rely on God to lead us in our choice of marriage partner. ‘The Lord is my shepherd’ becomes a living story of our life when we embrace His word.
5. God’s word will bring stability to your relationship and marriage.
As you put God’s word in your heart, it will help your discernment in knowing the right people and the wrong ones. In a relationship or marriage, you need stability. You need God’s help to have a successful marriage. You need a wisdom from above that will not make your marriage follow the usual pattern of separations and divorce.
And wisdom and knowledge shall be the stability of thy times, and strength of salvation: the fear of the Lord is his treasure. (Isaiah 33:6 KJV)
6. God’s word will regulate and help maintain your relationship and marriage when you follow its principles.
Following the principles of God gleaned from His word will help to regulate your relationship or marriage from the hullabaloo of marital journey.
7. God’s word will help you to have peace of mind in that relationship or marriage
God’s word brings peace. It helps put the couple at rest and delivers them from cheating on each other. It helps the couple to be satisfied with each other, and saves them from the pits that the enemy might have dug on their paths.
8. God’s word will help you to raise your children
When you train a child in the way he should go in the principles and systems of God, he will not depart from those principles when he grows up.
Rather than worry about the overwhelming peer pressure that an average youth is exposed to, show that youth the ways of God and his or her destiny will be preserved.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a student of the word.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, make me a word addict
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Joshua 1:8 This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Put the above points to use
How To Make Progress In Your Marriage. Your past is your past because it happened in your ‘yesterday’. That yesterday could be 20 years, 30 days, 12 years and it could be a day ago. It becomes our past the moment we consciously put it behind us.
The past before our marriage too has to be dealt with in this manner. These include past relationships, past habits, those friends you used to have late night hang out with. Any thing that you know will be detrimental to your new status as a married man or woman.
The pains, hurts, challenges, shortcomings and weights of yesterday must be laid at the feet of the cross of Jesus. If we must experience the marriage that God has in mind for us.
Some people are holding so many people in unforgiveness. Some wives are holding so many people in their minds. Even people who they have no business holding in unforgiveness. Some are unfruitful because of holding unto the past.
In your marriage, you have to let the past go. The past is too heavy a weight to carry with your today. Your spouse will offend you not on purpose most of the time. But the onus is on you to let go of the past.
We must learn to embrace the truth of how to let go of the past like the prodigal son did.
And when he came to himself, he said, How many hired servants of my father’s have bread enough and to spare, and I perish with hunger! – Luk 15:17
The Bible says, he came to himself. We must come to ourselves every now and then about our past hurts and offense.
And he arose, and came to his father. But when he was yet a great way off, his father saw him, and had compassion, and ran, and fell on his neck, and kissed him. – Luk 15:20
He arose, he took step in dealing with his past. He didn’t leave it as an intent, he did something, he took action.
Until you take action to deal with your past, don’t expect God to grant you the freedom He has in store for only those who let go of the past.
But the father said to his servants, Bring forth the best robe, and put it on him; and put a ring on his hand, and shoes on his feet: – Luk 15:22
May God help us to let go of our past in Jesus name.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My past does not slow me down
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, heal me from my past
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. – Heb 13:4 (KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Put the above points to use.
Hello dear one, guess what? Today we will be considering a very important topic. I will be teaching you about prayer today. You will be learning how to pray, and I am very excited about it; I hope you are too?
Have you ever heard the song “Prayer is the Key, prayer is the master key”?
Prayer is the key that we as children of God use to unlock the treasures we want from our Father.
Jesus himself taught about prayer. In the New Testament, he showed us how important it is to pray.
First off, what is prayer? Prayer is simply communicating with God. That simply means you talking to God, and he replying you in the same vein. How awesome is that?
Prayer isn’t only for grown up people; it’s for every child of God.
Why is it so? That’s because weather old or young, we all need to talk to God and hear him talk back to us.
As God’s child, you need to learn to always talk to him, just like you talk to your Mum and Dad, and even your friends.
How often should we pray as children of God?
Let me show you a bible verse that answers this question, in fact, these are Jesus exact words.
And he spake a parable unto them to this end that men ought always to pray, and not to faint; – Luke 18:1 (KJV)
Wow, Jesus is saying here that we ought to pray always. That means all the time. The concluding part says and not faint. It means we shouldn’t get tired of always praying.
How do you get to pray always? This is by the help of the Holy Spirit. Ask the Holy Spirit to teach you how to pray, that’s very simple to do.
Just say this; “Precious Holy Spirit, please teach me how to pray, help me to pray always and help me to be able to hear from God when I pray.”
That’s it! When next you pray, start by saying “Dear Heavenly Father…” and let every other word flow from your heart. Talk to God the way you talk to your friend, and be patient to hear him speak back to you.
Prayer: Holy Spirit, please help me to stay in prayer always; Amen.
All things were made by him; and without him was not any thing made that was made. (John 1:3 KJV)
Here are ten things that God’s word will do for you.
1. God’s word will clean up your past
It doesn’t matter what your past looked like, the word of God, anointed in and of itself, will wipe the slate clean for you! It is almost unbelievable and incredible to the human mind, but in one stroke of sacrifice, Jesus paid the price on your behalf. The past should never hold you to ransom again. You have been made free. The mistakes of yester-years can no longer bear its fangs at you today!
2. God’s word will birth hope for your future
After your past is forgiven and forgotten, the same word of God will birth hope in you. This hope is a necessary ingredient to help you receive the fullness of God. All of a sudden, light dawns on your heart and hope comes alive, that it is not over, after all.
3. God’s word will produce faith in your heart to conquer the world.
Faith comes by hearing God’s word. As you hear and read more of God’s word, faith will rise in you. Why is faith so important? It is with faith that you will wrought victory in God!
For whatsoever is born of God overcometh the world:and this is the victory that overcometh the world, even our faith. (1 John 5:4 KJV)
See it in Message Translation:
Every God–begotten person conquers the world’s ways. The conquering power that brings the world to its knees is our faith. (1 John 5:4 Message)
Did you see that? Faith that comes through God’s word has the power to bring the world and its systems to its knees! Glory to God!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a student of the word
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to stay with the word
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Josh 1:8[NET]This law scroll must not leave your lips! You must memorize it day and night so you can carefully obey all that is written in it. Then you will prosper and be successful.
Now that you are married, all your attempt should be to make your marriage worthwhile. You want the singles out there to look at your marriage as what they will love their marriage to like. Your marriage should be an inspiration and a model to both married and the singles.
When I mean deepening your relationship, I don’t mean reading your bible for more hours, going to church for more hours, and certainly not screaming in tongues all over the house. I also don’t mean being in more activities in church, going for evangelism and being more active in church.
Even though all these are good in themselves, they don’t show you have a deep relationship with God. Deepening your relationship with God has to do with having conversations with God that are honest, sincere and vulnerable. You could be doing all the motions and not have a real relationship with the Father.
These heartfelt communications with God is a heart to heart thing, where despite God knowing you through and through, you tell him who you really are. You tell him where it really hurts, you tell him how desperately you need him, how you will fall flat on your face if He does show up. This is bearing yourself before Him openly without hiding anything. Naked and not being ashamed
It is like when you see your life like a big house with several rooms and you open up all the rooms for God to be involved and come in. When you don’t treat God like a guest who is only allowed into the sitting room, don’t get official with God.
God wants to be our God and Father who want to be involved in our everyday activities. David knew God. He knew him as Shepherd, as a high tower, a rock, a defender etc He had a deeper relationship with God than most people.
Having this relationship with God is very important because this relationship will help you in relating better with your spouse. You would be used to open communication and conversations with your spouse. You learn to appreciate your spouse, to be vulnerable with them, develop intimacy and express gratitude for every little thing they do. There will be no hidden secrets kept from your spouse. You won’t hide your deepest feelings. You will say it as you are thinking about it.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am deepening my relationship with God
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to stay with the word
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Josh 1:8[NET]This law scroll must not leave your lips! You must memorize it day and night so you can carefully obey all that is written in it. Then you will prosper and be successful.
James didn’t like how his brothers treated him. They always teased him about his love for reading and studying. They called him names like “effico”, “bookworm” and more. He wished he could just tell them what was on his mind. They weren’t that perfect too. He knew their flaws too and what they did in secret. What would God speak to him?
At church, he learnt about forgiveness. The Sunday school teacher used the story of Joseph to explain how to forgive.
That was going to be hard for James. So, he approached the teacher and told him about what he was facing at home. The teacher explained the reason why he had to forgive his brothers just like Joseph did.
By the time they were through, James learnt why he had to forgive and how to do so. It was a relief to him. He wasn’t going to continue in unforgiveness towards his brothers.
When you speak to other believers about an issue, you get more knowledge. They help you to understand what you are feeling, why it is wrong or right, and what to do about it. When the believer is older than you, you get to hear about their or other people’s experiences on issues like yours.
So, find a believer like yourself and share your fears or issues with them.
Tonight wasn’t a good one for Angie. The sublimity of the night couldn’t reach her soul. The night was calm and rested, but the tranquility of the night was a far cry from the turbulence and storm raging in her heart. She has just been jilted, after offering several sexual escapades. The pain in her heart was deep, the lacerations within her elicited endless tears that cascaded down her powdery face, to the very foundation of her makeup.
Only one person can assuage the waters of agony meandering in her soul and that is her dad. She called him severally, but to no avail. She knew if she could just reach her dad, his deep words from his deep voice will lift her soul from the pit of regret.
In the same way, there is something God has given us that if we can just reach out to that in our moment of troubles, tests, and trials, we will always be bailed out. And that is God’s word!
God’s word is powerful. As a single or married couple, you should surround yourself with that word. Listen to tapes, read books, read it online, hear it in church, and by all means, keep feeding your inner man. Your success and stature in life are predicated on your studious habit of God’s word.
And don’t for a minute let this Book of The Revelation be out of mind. Ponder and meditate on it day and night, making sure you practice everything written in it. Then you’ll get where you’re going; then you’ll succeed. (Joshua 1:8 Message)
Do you know that some of the frustrations that you are going through right now as a single or married couple can be terminated by God’s word? Do you know that some of the greatest questions in your heart right now can be answered when you read and study God’s word?
Do you know that some of the greatest puzzles and enigma in your heart can be dissolved by God’s word? Do you know some of the hidden things that seemed oblivious and far-fetched can be unraveled and brought to the fore by God’s word?
May God grant you more understanding!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a student of the word. I do this one thing passionately.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to do this one thing
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Josh 1:8[NET]This law scroll must not leave your lips! You must memorize it day and night so you can carefully obey all that is written in it. Then you will prosper and be successful.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Decide to do this one thing
We started looking at the topic of what every husband must do to their wives a few days back. We’ll conclude on this topic today…
5. She wants you to know that she expects that you give yourself to her.
This has to do with sacrifice. The husband must be ready and willing to sacrifice for his wife. He must sacrifice emotionally, financially, spiritually, or socially. A wife that sees and knows that she has a sacrificing husband will go to any length to submit to her husband.
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; – Eph 5:25 (KJV)
And to the husbands, you are to demonstrate love for your wives with the same tender devotion that Christ demonstrated to us, his bride. For he died for us, sacrificing himself – Eph 5:25 (TPT)
And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor—since they’re already “one” in marriage. – Ephesians 5:28 (MSG)
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6. She wants to be sanctified by you
Sanctify – Greek – to make holy, purify or consecrate; to venerate:
A wife needs her husband to sanctify her, to through communication, make her what he wants her to be. She needs the husband to talk to her all of the time because she thrives on his words.
That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, – Eph 5:26 (KJV)
Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, – Eph 5:26 (MSG)
All that he does in us is designed to make us a mature church for his pleasure, until we become a source of praise to him—glorious and radiant, beautiful and holy, without fault or flaw. Husbands have the obligation of loving and caring for their wives the same way they love and care for their own bodies, for to love your wife is to love your own self. – Eph 5:27-28 (TPT)
Let’s ensure we put these points to work.
God bless our marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to honor my wife in all things
PRAYER FOR THE DAY I nullify every activity of the devil over my family.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Husbands, you in turn must treat your wives with tenderness, viewing them as feminine partners who deserve to be honored, for they are co-heirs with you of the “divine grace of life,” so that nothing will hinder your prayers. -1Pe 3:7 (TPT)
Hello, dear one let me tell you about a certain girl. In this story about Mirable, you should learn the value of doing the right things.
Mirabel, a six-year-old girl in primary four is a very intelligent child. She always comes out as the best student after every session. Her position as the best student has remained unchallenged since she was in nursery school. Mirabel isn’t only intelligent but she is also loved by everyone. Everyone wants to be her friend. At lunch, in school, everyone wanted to be at her table because she is so adorable and pleasant.
I am sure you also want to be like Mirabel, don’t you?
I didn’t also mention that she is a Christian, who acted accordingly, doesn’t tell lies or take what doesn’t belong to her. You will never hear her insult anyone or be rude to anyone. She is such a good girl.
That’s the secret of her excellent performance.
See what the bible says in Psalms 45:7
Thou lovest righteousness, and hatest wickedness: therefore God, thy God, hath anointed thee with the oil of gladness above thy fellows. – Psalms 45:7(KJV)
Let’s see a much simpler version
You love the right and hate the wrong. And that is why God, your very own God, poured fragrant oil on your head, marking you out as king from among your dear companions. – Psalms 45:7(MSG)
What this simply means is if you want to stand out amongst your peers as a child of God, you have to love doing the right things.
What are the right things?
Honouring your parents and everyone around you
Don’t be a liar
Don’t take what doesn’t belong to you
Read God’s word
Pray all the time
These are very simple things that if you can be diligent with, God will anoint you with the oil of gladness and he will place you above your peers.
Prayer: Lord, help me to do the right things; Amen.
A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones. Pro 12:4 (KJV)
Piety
A virtuous woman respects and serves God first by deepening her faith, attending church, and actively serving the community. She honors and obeys the will of God in all things.
Patience
A virtuous woman is patient. She knows that God’s timing is perfect and will not rush Him. When faced with difficult circumstances, she trusts that God has a plan and waits patiently to see what He will do.
Kindness
Kindness is an attribute of a virtuous woman. She cares for those who are hurting or in need without expecting anything in return. A virtuous woman is gentle and patient with others and doesn’t allow her emotions to control her actions, but instead she remains humble.
Humility
A virtuous woman is humble because she does not boast or brag about her accomplishments. She does not compare herself to others and she is generous with her praise and compliments.
A virtuous woman is careful to remember that it is not about her, but that she has been given gifts in order to make other people’s lives better.
Diligence
A virtuous woman is diligent. She is not lazy or wasteful, but she works hard and looks for ways to improve. This characteristic of a virtuous woman is one that can be seen in all over the scriptures.
Gratitude
A virtuous woman is grateful. She is thankful for the things she has and knows that all good things come from God. A virtuous woman doesn’t take anything for granted and she gives thanks to God for her everyday blessings. She is not petty and demanding.
Love
Love is one of the most important qualities of a virtuous woman. Many people think that love is a feeling, but it goes much deeper than that. Love requires patience, kindness, humility, diligence, and graciousness. A virtuous woman who loves deeply understands the meaning of sacrificial love and lives it out in her actions to those around her.
Conclusion
A virtuous woman is a woman who is virtuous in every way. She has many different traits that make her who she is.
She is kind to everyone and never gets angry, even if she is wronged. She is humble and doesn’t always need praise. She has a strong personality, but knows how to stay calm when it’s needed.
She always tries to do what is right and what she believes God wants her to do. She is diligent, diligent, diligent in all her work. She never gives up and always strives to be better.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a virtuous woman.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, make me diligent in all I do.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Proverbs 31:26 (KJV) She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. – Heb 13:4 (KJV)
Marriage is an institution that has existed for thousands of years. It’s a union between two people who commit themselves to one another in the most intimate and personal way possible. The fact that it’s lasted this long suggests there is something about marriage itself that we value. But what, exactly?
Here are a few thoughts on what makes a good marriage.
A good marriage is based on respect
A good marriage is based on respect. Respect is a two-way street. It means that each partner respects the other person’s feelings and opinions, as well as their own.
This doesn’t mean that couples are never at odds with one another. Conflict is inevitable in any healthy relationship, but it should never be allowed to escalate into disrespect of one another.
The partners need to be open to speaking frankly with one another, while also listening attentively to one another and understanding the other person’s perspective or point of view.
Communication is key
It sounds very cliché, but it’s true: communication is key to achieving a good marriage. You have to talk to each other and work on the problems together.
There’s nothing worse than being married and not knowing what your spouse feels like because they don’t talk to you.
One of the most important aspects of a successful marriage is good communication.
There are many ways to communicate, but it’s particularly important for both parties to share their feelings and thoughts with one another.
For example, if one partner feels neglected and begins to withdraw from the relationship, it’s vital that they tell the other person how they feel.
Communication creates understanding and can help prevent problems before they escalate.
To have a good marriage, you need to be committed
The commitment is the key ingredient for a good marriage. Successful marriages are about two people who are willing to commit to one another and work together through the good times and bad times.
It’s also so important that both partners are committed to the relationship. If one person isn’t committed, then it could doom the marriage from the start.
A good marriage isn’t perfect
The first thing to keep in mind about marriage is that it’s not perfect. Even when two people are deeply committed to one another, there will be times where you disagree and times where you might feel unhappy. But with a good marriage, these disagreements are just part of the process.
In fact, research suggests that a marriage can grow stronger after a disagreement has taken place because the couple knows they have each other’s back. This type of relationship is better able to withstand the inevitable challenges life throws at it.
Marriage is work
Marriage is work. It’s not just a piece of paper you sign to make it valid. Marriage takes commitment and sacrifice – but the rewards are worth it.
You have to make time for one another
Marriage is all about commitment, and making time for one another is a big part of it. Too many couples put everything else in their lives ahead of their significant others. That’s not what marriage is about! You need to make time for your spouse or you will lose them.
Love is also an important aspect of a good marriage. If you don’t love each other, get divorced. Marriage should be about more than just living together and having kids. It should be about loving each other unconditionally and doing whatever you can to make the other person happy.
Lastly, take care of yourself as well as your spouse, do things that make you happy without feeling guilty!
This will help ensure that your marriage lasts longer because it won’t feel like a burden or obligation anymore.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My marriage is a blessing
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, do a miracle in my marriage today.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. – Heb 13:4 (KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Put the above points to use.
Ideally, when someone gives you a gift or offers a compliment, you ought to say thank you (that’s gratitude). Why?
Because it shows courtesy, that you are well brought up and not a country bumpkin.
Also, it’s a sacrifice on the person’s side. They decided to give you out of love or they saw that you needed something.
Even with a compliment, the person took his or her time to really look at you and decide to appreciate you for how you dressed, your hair, how clean your nails are, or how nice you smell. They noticed you.
The least you can say is thank you with a very genuine and friendly smile.
If someone pays you a compliment about how good your grades are, say thank you.
The Bible tells us to be thankful and that when we are grateful for what we have, we will receive more.
There are lots of people out there looking for who to notice them and would be grateful to just have one person say to them “you look good.” Remember to say thank you the next time you get a gift or compliment.
Prayer: Lord, I am grateful for all I have. Thank you for providing for my needs. Thank you for the compliments I have gotten and will get. Help me to always appreciate whatever I receive from others. Amen.
Action plan: Consciously be aware of people’s compliments. Ensure you reply with a smile and “thank you.”
Declaration: My children are grateful. They show appreciation in all they do.
Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. –Proverbs 31:10 (KJV)
What does a virtuous woman look like? What does she do, and how does someone know if they are one? A virtuous woman is the epitome of God’s will. She is patient and kind, humble, diligent, gracious and full of love.
A virtuous woman respects herself by using her talents for the good of others and not for self-glorification. She cares for those who are hurting or in need without expecting anything in return. A virtuous woman is a joy to be around because her faith in God is pure.
Find out more about what it means to be a virtuous woman with these 7 characteristics.
What is a virtuous woman?
A virtuous woman is a woman who is living according to God’s will. A virtuous woman respects herself and takes care of her body by not bringing harm to it. She does not abuse her body with drugs, alcohol, or sexual activity outside of marriage. A virtuous woman also respects her husband by caring for him and serving him in every way she knows how.
A virtuous woman cares for others by showing love and compassion. A virtuous woman is diligent in whatever she does and graciously helps others with patience and kindness. She is also humble enough to be teachable and humble enough to follow Jesus Christ, the one true God, as he leads the way into the future.
The seven characteristics of a virtuous woman
1. A virtuous woman is patient.
2. A virtuous woman is kind.
3. A virtuous woman is humble.
4. A virtuous woman is diligent.
5. A virtuous woman is gracious.
6. A virtuous woman is regulated by God’s love
7. A virtuous woman trusts in God and His will for her life every day.
These are what to look for in a virtuous lady!
To be continued tomorrow.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a virtuous lady
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord Jesus, help me to put to use what I have learnt
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Prov 31:25 [TLB] She is a woman of strength and dignity and has no fear of old age.
Being a good husband can be difficult. In today’s society, with more pressures than ever, it’s no wonder that some husbands feel like they don’t know how to be good husbands.
So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. – Eph 5:28 (KJV)
One of the most important qualities of a good husband is the ability to make their wife feel loved and respected. A close second is being a partner in life because this will help to fulfill your wife’s needs as well as your own. However, you also need to have respect for yourself. This blog post will give you some practical tips on how to be a better husband and maintain your relationship with your spouse.
Important qualities of a good husband
There are 10 qualities that make a good husband. One of the most important is the ability to make your wife feel loved and respected. A close second is being a great partner in life.
How to make your wife feel loved and respected
One of the most important qualities of a good husband is the ability to make their wife feel loved and respected. One way you can do this is by creating time for your spouse and making sure that both you and your wife have time to pursue your own interests. Another way to make your wife feel loved is by building up her self-worth. You need to show her that she matters and it’s important for her to be able to talk about any problem she may be facing.
How to be a partner in life
It’s important to be a partner in life for your spouse. This means making sure you’re supporting them through both good times and bad. If your spouse has a problem, help them solve it. Don’t shut them down or tell them they’re wrong.
It’s also important to respect yourself as well as your wife. You want to feel like you have a say in the relationship, too. That way, you’ll both feel more fulfilled and satisfied with how things are going.
Don’t always put your wife first; make sure that your needs are met, too. Your wife should be able to depend on you if something bad happens so she doesn’t have to bear the weight of it alone.
Loving someone is hard work and requires effort on both ends. You’ll need to make an effort at all times if you want to maintain a healthy relationship with your spouse.
Conclusion
If you have read this blog post and agree with these qualities of a good husband, we ask that you share your thoughts with us.
We are interested in what you think about these qualities and if you agree or disagree with any of them. We would also love to know if you could add any more qualities to this list.
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CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a good spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord Jesus, help me to put to use what I have learnt
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Prov 31:23 [TLB] Her husband is well known, for he sits in the council chamber with the other civic leaders.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Decide to be a good husband
