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Continued from yesterday.

3. The Test of Focus. 

Is he or she focused? Where is his passion? A visionless man is so easy to identify. His speech will betray him because the mouth speaks out of the abundance of the heart. Once you know a particular friendship is getting deepened, ask a lot of questions when you can still reason well before emotions take over.

The world is full of people who will readily compromise and who lack focus. You haven’t been together for long and he or she is already asking for sex? That is gross irresponsibility. Run from such people, they are not your friends!

Jesus said; “What a generation! No sense of God! No focus to your lives!” -Luke 9:41a (MSG)

You ask him what his job is, and he says “He is planning to travel out of the country.”

“Since when?”

“Well, for like three years now.”

Is that a job? Why must a young person stop his or her life because of plans to travel?

4. The Test of Sincerity. 

That is openness. Is he sincere about his faults, weaknesses, feelings? Is she willing to talk about them or does she pretend?

It is dangerous to walk with someone who lives in a delusion of grandeur. Some of the most dangerous sets of people are those who are self-deceptive. They can abort twenty times and simply use some scriptures to cover up. If it was done in ignorance, that is another thing, because God cleanses you and you can start your life all over again when you genuinely repent.

But I am talking of those who have successfully combined this sinful lifestyle with serving God alongside. I don’t care if he is a pastor or she is a minstrel, if he or she uses scriptures to justify a habitual sin that even an unbeliever will often refrain from, you should run from such people and not be joined in their unrepentant sinful adventures. 

An insincere guy will lure you into sexual sin and then turn around to say you seduced him. What are you doing with such people? An insincere lady will offer her body to get some money and then turn back to say you forced her. That is nothing short of wickedness. Those are not friends! He says he is a pastor and he slides his hands into your blouse each time you visit his office.

I don’t care how much ‘anointing’ you think he has, he is a charlatan! What counseling are you looking for with such people, run for your life because there are counsels that can cancel destinies.

To be continued…

I have the Spirit of wisdom to discern and choose that which is good for my destiny.

Holy Spirit, fill me afresh with your wisdom in the affairs of my relationship.

Careful planning puts you ahead in the long run; hurry and scurry puts you further behind. – Proverbs 21:5 (MSG)

Commit your ways unto the Lord

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