How to Become Two Lovebirds Who Love God is continued from yesterday.
4. Study Scripture Together God’s Word provides wisdom, encouragement, and direction for your relationship. Reading and discussing Scripture allows you to align your hearts with His truth and build intimacy through shared faith. Psalm 119:105 declares, “Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.”
Solution: Set aside time weekly to read the Bible together. Choose devotionals or books of the Bible that address marriage, love, and godly living. Discuss how you can apply what you’ve learned to your relationship.
5. Practice Forgiveness and Grace No relationship is perfect, and misunderstandings or mistakes will happen. Becoming two lovebirds who love God means extending forgiveness freely, just as He forgave us (Ephesians 4:32). Holding onto resentment creates distance, while grace draws you closer.
Solution: Be quick to apologize when wrong and equally quick to forgive. Remind yourselves that no one is without flaws, and your commitment to grace reflects God’s unconditional love for you.
6. Cultivate Communication Rooted in Love Healthy communication is essential for any relationship, especially one centered on God. James 1:19 encourages us to be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry. Loving communication builds trust and prevents unnecessary conflicts.
Solution: Speak kindly, avoid harsh words, and seek understanding before responding. Practice active listening by truly focusing on what your partner is saying without interrupting or jumping to conclusions.
7. Celebrate Spiritual Milestones Just as you celebrate anniversaries and achievements, take time to acknowledge spiritual milestones in your journey together. Whether it’s answering a prayer, overcoming a trial, or seeing fruit from your ministry efforts, celebrating these moments reinforces your shared faith.
Solution: Mark special occasions by giving thanks to God, journaling your blessings, or planning meaningful dates to reflect on His faithfulness. These celebrations remind you of God’s hand in your relationship.
A relationship that thrives isn’t just about two people falling in love—it’s about two people growing together in love for each other and for God. When Christ is at the center of your relationship, you create a foundation that withstands life’s challenges and reflects His glory. Here’s how you can become two lovebirds who not only adore each other but also passionately pursue God as a couple.
1. Prioritize Your Relationship with God First Before you focus on loving each other, ensure that both of you are deeply rooted in your individual relationships with God. Jesus said in Matthew 6:33, “Seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” A strong spiritual connection with God enables you to love one another selflessly and faithfully.
Solution: Spend time daily in prayer, Bible study, and worship—individually and together. Encourage each other to grow spiritually and hold each other accountable to stay close to God.
2. Pray Together Regularly Prayer unites hearts like nothing else can. When you pray together, you invite God into every aspect of your relationship—your joys, struggles, dreams, and decisions. Acts 4:24 says, “When they heard this, they raised their voices together in prayer to God.”
Solution: Make prayer a regular habit. Start by thanking God for your relationship, interceding for each other’s needs, and seeking His guidance for your future. Even short prayers throughout the day can keep your bond spiritually vibrant.
3. Serve Others as a Team Serving others shifts the focus from yourselves to reflecting God’s love to the world. It strengthens your unity and deepens your shared purpose. Galatians 5:13 reminds us, “Serve one another humbly in love.”
Solution: Volunteer together at church, mentor younger couples, or participate in community outreach programs. Serving side by side fosters teamwork and gratitude for what you have as a couple.
How to Become Two Lovebirds Who Love God will be continued tomorrow.
Before God brings the right person into your life, He often focuses on making you the right person. Many singles spend years praying for the perfect partner but overlook the importance of preparation. Ruth wasn’t sitting idly by waiting for Boaz; she was living faithfully, serving diligently, and growing in character. It was her consistency in doing the right things that positioned her for divine connection.
Proverbs 31:30 says, “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” Godly relationships are not built on outward attraction but on inward transformation. When your heart is yielded to God, He refines your values, strengthens your patience, and builds your faith.
Becoming the right person means developing the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22–23), learning self-control, and being content in God’s timing. It means letting God work on your weaknesses and heal areas that could later harm your relationship. Philippians 2:13 says, “it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill His good purpose.”
Don’t just pray for a partner; pray to be the kind of person who adds value, love, and stability to someone’s life. When God sees your readiness, He aligns your steps with His perfect plan.
One of the hardest challenges for those trusting God for a life partner is learning to wait without growing impatient or making decisions out of fear, loneliness, or pressure. Many of us have experienced situations where we rushed into relationships because it “felt right” or because everyone around us seemed to be moving faster. Yet God’s timing is not about convenience or immediate gratification—it is about alignment, preparation, and purpose.
Ecclesiastes 3:1 (NLT)For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven.
The above passage reminds us that everything has its season. Love is no exception. There is a time to meet, a time to court, a time to commit, and a time to wait. Learning to discern these seasons is crucial if you want a relationship that lasts, glorifies God, and nurtures your heart.
Discerning God’s timing begins with recognizing the difference between desire and direction. Desire can be emotional, impulsive, and focused on comfort or companionship. Direction is spiritual, intentional, and rooted in God’s plan for your life. Singles often confuse the two, rushing because they feel ready emotionally or because society pressures them to “settle down.” God wants you to pause, reflect, and ask: Is this person, situation, or opportunity aligning with His plan, or am I acting on my own timing?
Another key aspect is preparation versus presence. God may bring the right person into your life, but your heart may not yet be ready to receive them fully. Timing often involves internal growth—healing past wounds, developing patience, clarifying your values, and strengthening your faith. Discernment requires self-examination: Are you seeking a relationship to fill a void, or are you ready to share life with someone in a healthy, intentional way?
God’s timing is often revealed through peace, confirmation, and alignment with Scripture. When a potential relationship is truly from Him, it often comes with clarity, consistency, and a sense of calm that aligns with Godly wisdom. Conversely, if you feel constant stress, confusion, or guilt, it may be a sign that the timing is off or that the person is not yet right. God may use circumstances, delays, or even closed doors to prepare you, sharpen your discernment, and guide you toward someone who will honor both Him and your heart.
Practical ways to discern God’s timing include prayerful reflection, seeking counsel from trusted mentors or spiritual leaders, observing actions over words, and paying attention to how your relationship aligns with God’s standards and your spiritual growth. Waiting is not passive—it is active preparation, learning, and listening. It is growing into the person God wants you to be so that you are ready to receive the love He has been orchestrating.
How to Discern God’s Timing in Love
CONCLUSION
True love rarely happens by accident—it comes in God’s perfect timing, and it is meant to strengthen, encourage, and build both hearts spiritually and emotionally. Trust Him, prepare intentionally, and let your discernment guide you to a relationship that is not only fulfilling but deeply God-centered.
Faith doesn’t always feel good. There are days when emotions scream louder than truth, and trusting God feels hard. Yet Scripture calls us to “walk by faith, not by sight” (2 Corinthians 5:7).
Feelings fluctuate, but faith remains anchored in who God is, unchanging, faithful, and true. When life gets heavy, our emotions can cloud our judgment. Fear, anxiety, and disappointment can make us forget what God has already done. That’s why the Psalmist asks in Psalm 42:5, “Why, my soul, are you downcast? Put your hope in God.” Faith speaks to the soul and reminds it of God’s promises.
Choosing faith over feelings means deciding that your trust in God will not depend on circumstances. It’s waking up and declaring, “Even if I don’t see it yet, God is still good.” Isaiah 26:3 assures us that “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.”
Faith stabilizes your heart in seasons of uncertainty. It teaches you to pray instead of panic, and sing praises instead of complaining. It’s not a denial of how you feel; it’s a decision to let God’s truth define your reality.
Your emotions are valid, but they should never lead your life. When faith leads, peace follows. Trusting God above your feelings will always lead you to victory.
The Love That Builds Together – Priscilla & Aquila
If there’s a couple in Scripture who understood partnership, it’s Priscilla and Aquila. They weren’t just in love—they were in purpose. Together, they built tents, hosted Paul, and taught Apollos about the way of God more accurately.
Their love wasn’t loud, but it was strong. It wasn’t flashy, but it was fruitful.
In the journey of seeking “the one,” look beyond chemistry—look for compatibility in calling. Chemistry is okay, but don’t forget compatibility. Can you build something meaningful with this person? Can they strengthen your faith, or will they stretch your peace?
In marriage, Priscilla and Aquila remind us that love isn’t only about affection; it’s about assignment. As a couple, support each other’s callings. Build something that outlives you. Let your home be more than a comfort zone—make it a kingdom zone.
The world may not remember how perfect your wedding was, but it will remember what your partnership produced.
Love is sweetest when it’s serving purpose together.
We started this series last week. If you missed it, you can read it HERE
Part 2 – Leaving and Cleaving
Genesis 2:24 begins with a key phrase — “A man shall leave his father and mother…” Before the union comes the leaving. This leaving isn’t just about moving out of your parents’ home; it’s about a shift of loyalty, priority, and identity.
When a man or woman marries, their primary allegiance changes. The emotional center that once belonged to parents, siblings, or even friends must now be given to their spouse. Many marriages struggle, not because of external enemies, but because the couple never truly left. They are married physically, but still attached emotionally or financially in unhealthy ways.
To “cleave” means to cling tightly — like glue that bonds two surfaces so firmly that separating them would cause damage. That’s the level of commitment God desires in marriage — one that is permanent, exclusive, and deeply loyal.
For singles, understanding this helps you prepare your heart for true partnership. Learn to build healthy boundaries with family and friends. Learn to stand on your own spiritually and emotionally. When you know how to “leave” rightly, you will “cleave” rightly when the time comes.
For the married, leaving and cleaving is a continuous practice. It means protecting your spouse from unnecessary external interference — whether from family, work, or ministry. It means honoring your spouse as your first human priority after God.
One flesh cannot exist where there’s divided loyalty. A man or woman who hasn’t learned to leave cannot cleave. True intimacy is born when both hearts are fully present and free from competing ties.
We often imagine hearing God as something that happens in deep prayer or during life’s major crossroads—like choosing a spouse or a career. But what if God speaks just as clearly in the grocery aisle, the traffic jam, or while folding laundry?
Joseph, the earthly father of Jesus, teaches us that divine direction isn’t reserved for dramatic moments. He wasn’t a priest or prophet—just a carpenter trying to live right. Yet every time God spoke, Joseph heard.
In Matthew 1:20, when the angel said, “Do not be afraid to take Mary home as your wife”, he listened. When told, “Get up, take the child and his mother and escape to Egypt” (Matthew 2:13, NIV), he obeyed. Later, “Go to the land of Israel” (Matthew 2:20, NIV). No thunder. No burning bush. Just quiet clarity in ordinary life.
What made Joseph different wasn’t his holiness—it was his habit of listening. He didn’t treat hearing God as a rare spiritual event but as part of his daily rhythm. His obedience turned ordinary moments into sacred history.
Maybe God’s voice isn’t hiding—it’s just competing with our noise. The ping of notifications. The rush of deadlines. The hum of worry. But when we quiet our hearts, even in the middle of life’s routine, we might catch the whisper of God guiding us through “everyday” issues: which conversation to have, which decision to delay, how to respond in kindness.
Like Joseph, we don’t need a spotlight to hear heaven. We just need to stay tuned. The voice that guided him still speaks steadily, practically, and is present in the details of our ordinary days.
How to Deal with Lack of Commitment and Sacrifice in a Relationship
A relationship without commitment and sacrifice is like a house built on sand; it may stand temporarily, but it will crumble under pressure. If you’re experiencing this struggle, here’s how to address it biblically:
1. Understand God’s design: Marriage requires mutual sacrifice, modeled after Christ’s love for the church. Ephesians 5:25 instructs, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” This sacrificial love isn’t optional; it’s foundational. Both partners must embrace the call to die to self (Luke 9:23).
2. Communicate your concerns honestly: Proverbs 27:5-6 says, “Better is open rebuke than hidden love. Wounds from a friend can be trusted.” Have a loving but direct conversation about what you’re experiencing. Express specific ways the lack of commitment affects you, avoiding accusation but speaking truth in love (Ephesians 4:15).
3. Examine your own heart first: Matthew 7:3-5 warns against judging others while ignoring our own flaws. Are you modeling the commitment you desire? Sometimes we must lead by example, trusting that our faithfulness will inspire reciprocity.
4. Set healthy boundaries: Commitment requires two willing participants. If your partner consistently refuses to invest in the relationship, you may need to establish boundaries. Proverbs 4:23 advises, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”
5. Seek godly counsel: Proverbs 15:22 reminds us, “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” Talk with a pastor, Christian counselor, or trusted mentor who can provide a biblical perspective and practical guidance.
6. Prayer and patience: First Corinthians 13:4-7 describes love as patient and enduring. Pray for your partner’s heart and for wisdom in responding. Remember Philippians 2:3-4: “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.”
Ultimately, both partners must choose daily to commit and sacrifice. Without this mutual decision, the relationship cannot reflect God’s covenant love.
For the next 4 weeks, we will be looking at what it means to be one flesh. To make it easier, I have made this article into a series, and today, we will start with the first part.
Part 1 – The Mystery of Oneness
When God said in Genesis 2:24, “A man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh,” He wasn’t just talking about physical union or romance. He was revealing a divine mystery — one that reflects His own nature of unity, love, and purpose.
Marriage was God’s idea, not man’s. When He created Eve out of Adam’s rib, it wasn’t because Adam was lonely and needed company. It was because God saw that His creation was incomplete without a counterpart who would complete, not compete. Eve was not another version of Adam — she was the missing piece of his wholeness. Together, they reflected the image of God more fully.
To be one flesh, therefore, is not simply to live together or share responsibilities. It means to be joined in spirit, in purpose, and in destiny. It means that what affects one affects the other. It means there’s no “his” and “hers” — it’s “ours.” Our dreams, our struggles, our wins, our calling.
For singles, this truth invites deep preparation. It’s not enough to desire marriage; it’s important to become the kind of whole person who can merge with another whole person under God’s authority. Emotional maturity, spiritual grounding, and purpose clarity are vital. You cannot merge into one flesh if you are still fragmented within yourself.
For the married, this oneness is a lifelong journey. It doesn’t happen automatically after the wedding; it’s cultivated daily through understanding, forgiveness, communication, and prayer. It’s about consistently choosing unity even when differences arise. One flesh means we win together, we grow together, and we heal together.
In Acts 5, we meet Ananias and Sapphira, a couple who wanted to look generous before others. They sold some land and agreed to pretend they were giving all the money to God, even though they secretly kept some for themselves. They thought no one would know, but God did, and their lie cost them their lives.
Their story teaches us something important: true love never leads us to do wrong. When we truly love someone, we help each other do what pleases God, not what hides the truth. Ananias and Sapphira stood together, but they stood together in sin. That is not the kind of unity God blesses.
If you are single, don’t let your feelings for someone push you into choices that dishonor God. The right person will help you grow closer to Him, not away from Him.
If you are married, remember that love means helping each other live honestly and faithfully. A home built on lies cannot stand strong.
True love doesn’t cover sin. It leads us toward the truth. When love is built on God’s truth, it becomes something pure, strong, and lasting. That’s the kind of love God wants for all of us.
Ruth wasn’t scrolling through profiles or waiting for a miracle at midnight. She was busy—serving, gleaning, showing loyalty, and doing the right thing even when life didn’t look fair. And that’s exactly where Boaz found her.
Singles, this is your reminder: purpose attracts purpose. Don’t pause your life waiting for love. Keep becoming who God called you to be. Let your consistency, not your loneliness, define your decisions.
Ruth wasn’t looking for Boaz; she was walking in obedience. Boaz wasn’t chasing attention; he was leading with integrity. Their paths crossed because both were aligned with God.
For couples, the Ruth-and-Boaz story doesn’t end at the wedding. The same qualities that attracted them—kindness, diligence, respect—had to keep showing up in marriage too.
So whether you’re single or married, keep doing right even when no one seems to notice. The right person—or the right version of your spouse—often appears when you stay faithful in the field God planted you in.
Sometimes love doesn’t come looking for those who wait; it comes looking for those who work faithfully.
Every real relationship will test your ability to compromise. It doesn’t matter how much you both love each other, or how “perfect” you seem together. At some point, you’ll have to choose between being right and being at peace, between holding your ground and holding someone’s hand.
And the way God has designed it to be is that most times God will give you someone opposite in character.
Not to frustrate you, but to refine you. So you both can meet in the middle.
For example, you like to talk through everything immediately, but your partner needs time to think first. Compromise here would look like you learning their rhythm instead of forcing yours.
Romans 12:18 (NIV)– “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”
That’s what compromise really looks like. It’s not a weakness. It’s not losing. It’s learning to love beyond yourself.
Because the truth is, no two people are the same. We come with different stories, different backgrounds, different ways of thinking, and different ways of being loved. Compromise is what makes those differences work instead of clash.
Why Compromise Matters
1. Because love isn’t one-sided. You can’t build connection if both of you insist on your own way.
2. Because it teaches patience. Compromise humbles you enough to listen before reacting.
3. Because it builds respect. Yielding doesn’t mean you’re smaller; it means you care.
4. Because it keeps peace alive. Sometimes peace is just one less argument you decide not to have.
It’s easy to talk about “matching energy,” but maturity sometimes looks like softening your tone, trying again, or agreeing to disagree — just because you value the person more than the point.
Compromise is what gives relationships room to thrive.
Conclusion
Many relationships and marriages fail today not because of big problems, but because they couldn’t meet in the middle on the small ones.
Every healthy relationship stands on tiny, daily compromises, be it in tone, in patience, in understanding.
Because truthfully, there’s no relationship without compromise — not friendship, not family, not romance.
Love only survives where pride learns to sit down.
Today, we conclude on conflict resolution strategies in marriage. You can read PART 1 and PART 2
8. Set Healthy Boundaries Around Arguments
Some boundaries are essential to prevent conflicts from spiraling out of control. Agree ahead of time on rules like no yelling, name-calling, or bringing up unrelated past grievances. Ecclesiastes 3:7 reminds us there’s a time to keep silent—a reminder that sometimes stepping back is wise.
Solution: Establish ground rules for handling disagreements, such as taking a timeout if emotions escalate. Return to the conversation once both parties have calmed down.
9. Forgive Freely and Fully
Holding onto grudges keeps wounds fresh and prevents healing. Forgiveness doesn’t mean excusing harmful behavior but releasing the need for revenge or punishment. Colossians 3:13 instructs, “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”
Solution: Extend forgiveness even when it feels difficult, trusting that God will help you move forward. Letting go of bitterness frees both spouses to rebuild trust and intimacy.
10. Seek Outside Help When Needed
Sometimes, conflicts persist despite best efforts to resolve them. In such cases, seeking professional counseling or pastoral guidance can provide valuable insights and tools. Proverbs 11:14 says, “Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors, there is safety.”
Solution: Don’t hesitate to consult a licensed therapist or trusted mentor if recurring issues strain your marriage. Objective input can help uncover root causes and facilitate lasting change.
Final Thought:
Graceful conflict resolution requires intentionality, humility, and a willingness to prioritize your spouse above your ego. By choosing to handle disagreements through the lens of love and faith, you honor God and strengthen the foundation of your marriage.
Remember, Ephesians 5:21 calls husbands and wives to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Submission doesn’t mean passivity—it means valuing your spouse’s needs as much as your own and working together toward harmony.
As you navigate conflicts, lean on Philippians 4:13: “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” With God’s help, you can face challenges with patience, forgiveness, and hope, turning trials into triumphs and deepening your bond along the way. After all, a thriving marriage isn’t built on perfection but on perseverance—and the grace to grow together through every season.
Practical Conflict Resolution Strategies in Marriage
How to Handle Conflicts in Marriage is continued from yesterday. If you missed yesterday’s reading, go HERE
4. Take Responsibility for Your Part
Blame-shifting only fuels resentment and prolongs conflict. A graceful approach involves acknowledging your role in the disagreement and apologizing sincerely when necessary. Matthew 7:3-5 challenges us to examine our own faults before pointing out others’.
Solution: Use “I” statements to express accountability, such as “I realize I overreacted earlier, and I’m sorry.” Taking ownership fosters mutual accountability and reconciliation.
5. Focus on Solutions, Not Scorekeeping
It’s easy to fall into the trap of keeping score—tracking past grievances or tallying who does more work. However, this mindset breeds bitterness and hinders progress. Instead, focus on finding practical solutions that benefit both parties. Philippians 2:4 encourages us to look not only to our own interests but also to the interests of others.
Solution: Collaborate as teammates rather than adversaries. Ask, “How can we solve this together?” Prioritize unity over personal victories.
6. Pray Together for Guidance
Inviting God into the conflict transforms it from a battleground to a place of healing. Praying together allows both spouses to surrender their frustrations to Him and seek His wisdom. Psalm 34:18 promises, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
Solution: Hold hands and pray aloud, asking God to soften hearts, grant clarity, and restore peace. Trust that He will guide you toward resolution.
7. Avoid Personal Attacks
Criticism and contempt are toxic to relationships. Attacking your spouse’s character or belittling them erodes trust and damages intimacy. Colossians 3:8 warns against behaviors like anger, slander, and malice, urging believers to put on compassion and kindness instead.
Solution: Stick to discussing specific actions or behaviors rather than attacking your spouse’s identity. For example, say “I felt hurt when the dishes weren’t done,” rather than “You’re so lazy!”
Conflict is an inevitable part of any marriage. No two people are exactly alike, and differences in personalities, preferences, and perspectives will naturally lead to disagreements. However, how couples handle these conflicts determines whether their relationship grows stronger or becomes strained. By approaching disputes with grace, humility, and a commitment to unity, spouses can turn moments of tension into opportunities for deeper connection and understanding.
1. Recognize That Conflict Is Not the Enemy
Conflict itself isn’t inherently bad—it’s how we respond to it that matters. Disagreements provide a chance to address underlying issues, clarify expectations, and grow closer as a couple. Ephesians 4:26-27 says, “In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.” The goal isn’t to avoid conflict but to resolve it in a way that honors God and strengthens your marriage.
Solution: View conflict as a tool for growth rather than a threat. Focus on solving the problem together, not winning the argument or proving a point.
2. Choose Timing and Tone Wisely
The timing and tone of a conversation can make all the difference in resolving conflicts peacefully. Addressing sensitive topics during moments of high stress or exhaustion often leads to unnecessary escalation. Proverbs 15:1 reminds us, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”
Solution: If emotions are running high, take a break to cool down before continuing the discussion. Speak calmly and respectfully, using words that build up rather than tear down.
3. Listen First, Respond Later
Effective communication begins with listening. Many conflicts arise—or worsen—because one or both partners feel unheard. James 1:19 urges us to be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry. Listening demonstrates love and respect, creating a safe space for honest dialogue.
Solution: Practice active listening by giving your full attention, asking clarifying questions, and summarizing what your spouse has shared. This helps ensure you understand their perspective fully before responding.
