Taking Care Of Your Lover/Spouse

Taking Care Of Your Lover/Spouse

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Taking Care Of Your Lover/Spouse
Okay, so you are in love. Butterflies are flying in the tummy, your heartbeat accelerates, and there are twinkling little stars on your face. How do you take care of each other? Or you are married, somehow the butterflies have decided to rest, the heartbeat is stable and the stars have hibernated. How do you take care of each other or probably rekindle this love?

Here are some ideas for singles and married couples.

1. Communication
Stay in touch. Words are powerful; use them to your advantage. As singles, don’t let your courtship season be a memory of fights, quarrels, and arguments. Be mature with each other. Avoid being incommunicado.

Make it a rule; we must keep talking. That can also be a powerful principle to live by as a married couple. The devil feasts on silence; assumptions will persist and complicate the issue because assumptions are the lowest form of knowledge.

What is a man looking for? Respect!
What is a lady looking for? Love!
If you learn to communicate this, there will be less tension!

Singles should however note that it is wrong to say you are showing respect while you are disobeying God’s injunctions! More aptly put, you are not showing respect to your fiance by cooperating with him when he asks for pre-marital sex.

2. Spirituals
Oh, pastor, what has this got to do with being romantic? It’s got a lot to do! Somebody said, to be romantic, read the book of Romans! Your spiritual life as single or married can determine the success of your relationship or marriage. There are two elements to your spiritual life: reading God’s word (which also includes study and meditation) and praying to God. If you can make this regular and consistent, some order will enter your relationship/marriage.

To be Continued


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Check For This With Your Lover/Spouse!

Check For This With Your Lover/Spouse!

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Check For This With Your Lover/Spouse!
 
A man ought to be responsible. As a single man, how many books have you read or are you reading to prepare yourself? Who is your mentor? Who are you talking to? You need a mentor in your relationship to avoid the tormentors of marriage!
 
Are you a man who fears God? If you have the opportunity Joseph had, to have sex so easily, will you run? The fear of God is something that cannot be negotiated.
 
I know a lady whose husband has been abroad for seven years and was lonely. There was this brother who got careless and visited her at home all alone in the name of being her cell leader. First mistake. They sat down to watch a film. Second mistake. Then the film got to some romantic part, and the lady stood up, went inside the room, and started crying because she was sexually moved.
 
The brother could hear her sobbing. He went to her to console her. Third mistake. You see that was not part of cell leadership. He put his arm around her and consoled her and they ended in sexual sin.
 
Fast-forward; to a year later, they’ve had several sex romps. Fast-forward six months; the brother was dead! Cold dead! Nobody knew what killed him. It was the lady herself that narrated this to me!
 
You see, God is not a killer, but the devil is! You need to know that! What would have kept that brother from being trapped is the fear of God!
 
Go for the fear of God! That is what will keep you from cheating on your wife. It is not because you are a worker, leader, or pastor. There are a thousand and one leaders, workers, and pastors messing up by the day. The only reason you won’t mess up is because you have the fear of God.
 
The fear of God can be understood. It can be learned. It can be cultivated. You need it to stay faithful. You need it not to pounce on that little girl when you are alone. You need it not to falsify documents. How do understand the fear of God?
 
I will show you one way, and we will conclude with that this morning. I want you to read it slowly and let it settle in your spirit.
 
My son, if thou wilt receive my words, and hide my commandments with thee; So that thou incline thine ear unto wisdom, and apply thine heart to understanding; Yea, if thou criest after knowledge, and liftest up thy voice for understanding; If thou seekest her as silver, and searchest for her as for hid treasures; THEN SHALT THOU UNDERSTAND THE FEAR OF THE LORD, and find the knowledge of God (Proverbs 2:1-5 KJV)

The more of God’s word you read, study, and mediate on, the more of the fear of God you are going to have! 


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Decide To Be A Good Lover/Spouse

Decide To Be A Good Lover/Spouse

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Decide To Be A Good Lover/Spouse

You can either learn through wisdom or from experience. 
Learning from experience comes with its downside. You would have made so many mistakes. Yes, God forgives, but the consequences of the mistakes will stare you in the face and you might have to live with them for a long time.
 
Let me give you an example. David went into an adulterous relationship with Bathsheba. He later admitted his error when God sent Prophet Nathan to him. God forgave him, but two things happened. The son from the adulterous union died, despite David’s pleading. Sword was never to depart from his house. That was a consequence that stared him in the face all through his lifetime.
 
Yes, God restored and even blessed their union eventually when Bathsheba gave birth to Solomon who later became a king, but there were issues in David’s family!
 
What I am saying to you this morning, is that the best way to go is the way of wisdom!
 
Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding. (Proverbs 4:7 KJV)
 
My dear, go for wisdom. That is how to get the best of relationships and marriage. It is not tantalizing yourselves alone or having outings that will sustain a relationship.
 
Next verse says:
Exalt her, and she shall promote thee: she shall bring thee to honour, when thou dost embrace her. (Proverbs 4:8 KJV)
 
So one of the things to watch out for in a spouse is how passionate he or she is about learning and going after the things of God.
 
You don’t want to get involved with someone not spiritually minded.
 
Look at a scenario, you are married and it is Sunday morning. It doesn’t happen, but you don’t feel like attending church. Your wife will either say, “It’s okay, even me, I want to rest,” or “ No, dear, we have to go to church.”
 
That is why the scripture calls a wife a helper. You see, there is a difference between a wife and a knife! A helper is an encourager, a factor you need for functioning well for total productivity.
 
That is why as a man, you should never lift your hands against your wife. You don’t beat your helper. It is not done!
 
A man would beat up his wife and then say it was the devil. Why didn’t the devil push the man to go and beat up a soldier? Just wondering!

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Why Are Things Not Working?

Why Are Things Not Working?

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Why Are Things Not Working?

We have probably all been there. You have tried all you know and yet nothing seems to be working.

You have prayed, fasted, and even sowed seeds, and yet, the heaven seems closed. 

God seems silent to all your inquiries and you are not getting anything. Your prayers seem to be bouncing off the ceiling. 

What could be happening?

Well, a lot of things can be happening why this is so, but this morning, I want to point to singles and couples alike why this could happen.

Let’s take our text below:

Rom 4:21 (KJV)  And being fully persuaded that, what he had promised, he was able also to perform.

The text used “fully” persuaded. That means persuasion can be measured. You can be half persuaded or a quarter persuaded! But the text says he was FULLY persuaded.

Are you fully persuaded concerning what you trust God for or ask Him to do?

Why must you be fully persuaded? 

The answer is in below text:

Jas 1:6-8 (KJV)  But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed.  [7]  For let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord.  [8]  A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.

A person who is DOUBTING is like a wave. Verse 7 says that man will not receive anything from God.

Every time things seem not to be working, check your heart if there are doubts concerning God’s promises to you or concerning His instructions. 

As you learn to be fully persuaded, you get more results in your walk with God either as a single or couple. 

I pray for you this week, God will reach out to you and send you help in every area you need Him in Jesus’ name! 


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Changing Gears From Leaving To Cleaving

Changing Gears From Leaving To Cleaving

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Changing Gears From Leaving To Cleaving

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. (Genesis 2:24 KJV)

Here, we see God giving an instruction once marriage is in view. There must be “leaving” and a “cleaving” before any marriage can be successful.

A lot of people leave without cleaving. It won’t work. A lot more try to cleave without leaving. It won’t work either.

It has to be a “leaving” and a “cleaving.”

The word “leaving” is very interesting. There are two particular words or meanings I am interested in. They are the words ‘relinquish” and “commit self”

Pastor, you mean I must relinquish relationship with my parents? It doesn’t mean you disconnect from them or cut off from them, it only talks about where your focus should now be as a married person. After God, the next most important person in your life is your spouse. It doesn’t mean you should not take care of your parents any longer, it just means there should be more emphasis on your spouse.

And then the word “commitment!” Leaving to cleave involves commitment! A person that goes into a relationship or marriage without the willingness to commit to the relationship is just playing around. You need to pray as a single that your path will not cross with such people because they would waste your time, energy and resources. Yorubas call such people “alawin”

It is not God’s concept to have several people on your list that you are dating at a time. If God wanted some form of double dating or polygamy, He would have created Eve, Eva and Evelyn for Adam. Remember Adam still had ribs remaining!

But God created only one person upon whom Adam should focus on. And that is the biblical standard! In that one person is packaged everything you need to be complete. Couples who constantly fight and quarrel are missing out a lot because they are never complete that way. Their agreement would be broken and prayer would be hindered.

To be continued. 


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The Aggressors And The Responders

The Aggressors And The Responders

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The Aggressors And The Responders

Men are the aggressors, ladies are the responders. Men are supposed to woo ladies. 

The problem is that most men stop wooing their wives immediately after the wedding, and then wonder why the spark, the laughter, and the joy disappear from their wives’ faces. Well, the reason is obvious. You have to keep doing what you did before the wedding to sustain the marriage after the wedding! 

In the beginning, Adam was the aggressor. Eve said nothing and just watched while she was being “toasted”

And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. (Genesis 2:23 KJV)

As a single lady, don’t take the lead in asking a man out. It is not scriptural. You will be found, trust God on that. Don’t manipulate and don’t be suggestive so that the guy will not take advantage of you. Men are hunters by nature; don’t tamper with that “hunter” in him! Let him value you by coming after you.

The man who is not ready to “chase” and “woo” is not worth it.

Why is this so important?

Wooing is a lifetime assignment, even for husbands after marriage. If you want to keep the fire of your marriage burning, keep wooing your wife. It is a potent principle! The source of a thing is often time the sustenance of that thing.

Whatever you did to her while you were “toasting” her should not be stopped after marriage. If you wrote letters, keep writing. If you bought flowers, keep buying. If you used to take her out and her eyes would brighten up, you shouldn’t wonder why she has been downcast when you have not taken her out in six months!

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Asking Her Out And Keeping Her

Asking Her Out And Keeping Her

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Asking Her Out And Keeping Her

I will write to singles first.

Some people are deeply spiritual. So spiritual they probably wanted God to help them propose or answer a proposal. Well, it is not as complicated. 

And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. (Genesis 2:22 KJV)

What God will do is that He will present you with opportunities and guidance, but He will always allow you to make up your mind. That is why the scriptures says:

Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord. (Proverbs 18:22 KJV)

Whoso findeth… this is talking to men. Men are the ones that do the finding, not the ladies.

Right now, look around you. Your friends, church folks, classmates, relationships around you, those are all the people God has presented to you. You are to prayerfully choose once you are at a marriageable age. You are to be led by God’s Spirit, because when you ask Him, He will lead you and you won’t have to be proposing to several people. God still leads. You don’t need to have a dream or vision or hear a voice, it could just be inner witness or even circumstantial leading.

I am very certain that God’s design for a good relationship is not to start having boyfriends or girlfriends all over the place and be toying with your emotions in experimental relationships. God certainly wants to lead, if you allow Him.

And do you know one thing? God will not lead you wrong!

Now to the couples. If you are already married, presentation opportunities are over. Stay with your spouse and enjoy the wife of your youth, the scripture advises. Focus on God and then on your spouse. That is the secret to a successful marriage.

You can only admire people after your wedding, you should not desire them. In other to enjoy God’s blessings and favour maximally, you will need to focus on your spouse with all your heart! After God, the next person is your spouse! 

Good morning! 


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Finding Her And Keeping Her

Finding Her And Keeping Her

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Finding Her And Keeping Her 

Let’s talk to singles first. Guys, go to sleep.

Take a cue from Adam, it was when Adam slept that God was able to perfect the presentation of his wife. You have been too noisy and too mobile, go and sit down somewhere and let God do His work! Think about it, upon all your sweet mouth and relationship skills, where is the loved one?

And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; (Genesis 2:21 KJV)

Learn from Adam, and go to sleep.

The responsibility of God is to cause a deep sleep to fall upon Adam; the responsibility of Adam is to sleep. Adam could say, “No way, I am not sleeping!” But the scripture says he slept!

When he slept, God went to work.

No wonder the scriptures say:

Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth. (Psalms 46:10 KJV)

Yes, be still. Stop sampling around! How can one brother propose to seven sisters in the same church? Who is leading you? Each time, you keep saying, “God said..” Are you sure God said?

Be still, then you will see God in your relationship or marriage. Ladies, stop being suggestive and stop spending your money to buy things for him. Let God help you by calming down! How I love the Message Translation:

“Step out of the traffic! Take a long, loving look at me, your High God, above politics, above everything.” (Psalms 46:10 Message)

Yes, step out of the traffic. Focus on God and you will surely see His salvation in your relationship and marriage!

To married men, you are not only to sleep, you are to die! The Scripture admonishes that you are to love your wife as Christ loves the church. How did Christ love the church? He died for her. In the same way, loving your wife appropriately involves dying to your preferences sometimes, dying to your desires sometimes, and prioritizing her needs! May God give husbands understanding!

Selar! Good morning!

Be blessed today!


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You Must Know How To Give Names

You Must Know How To Give Names

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You must know how to give names

Adam named all the animals, from cattle to the fowl of the air and every beast of the field. He became a nomenclature expert.

To succeed in relationship management, you must learn how to give names appropriately to everybody around you.

And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him (Genesis 2:20 KJV)

Your boss is your superior; he is not your lover. Things should not be turned upside down. Especially if he is married. Both singles and couples should know this to avoid stories that touch the heart! 

Your lecturer is meant to teach you academics, and not take you to bed for practicals.

Dear Youth Corper, you are meant to teach that young girl Chemistry, not take advantage of her naivety and take her to bed. If you do that, Chemistry will soon become Physics and the law of gravity will take its course. You go down when you trifle with such things!

He is your colleague, not one to discuss your marital challenges lest there be an emotional connection. As couples, you don’t discuss your marital issue with another married fellow of the opposite sex. That will be counterproductive! 

Let the cattle remain as cattle and let the fowls remain as fowls.

The scripture above says Adam named every cattle, but there was not found a help met for him.

For Singles, the implication is that not everybody can become your spouse. You cannot be falling in love with everybody that comes your way and keep saying you can’t help it.

There are friends, acquaintances, classmates, and colleagues, yet none qualify as a spouse until the direction issue is settled with God.

Don’t settle with cattle, or fowl, or beast of the field, wait for your Adam or Eve! What would have happened if Adam had looked at the female baboon and said this is the bone of my bones and the flesh of my flesh…you can guess how you will look today!

Finally, for couples, it is important to establish boundaries especially emotionally. Desist from getting emotionally entangled with someone else aside from your spouse. May God help us all. 


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What can We Learn from Adam and Eve? Part 2

What can We Learn from Adam and Eve? Part 2

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What can We Learn from Adam and Eve? Part 2

I started yesterday on this topic. Will continue this morning.
 
2. For man, work came before marriage
And the Lord God took the man and put him into the Garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it. (Genesis 2:15 KJV)
 
God gave Adam work before ever giving him a wife. God’s order is not coincidental. It is a deliberate order that is meant to communicate wisdom that work is the first thing to get before getting a wife. Speaking in tongues alone will not feed your wife; you’ve got to work. If you are jobless, you can create work for yourself.
 
To be without work is to resign yourself to fate. While you are busy waiting for that dream job, find work to do. Volunteer somewhere, and that might even get you a job!
 
Without work, your wife will not likely show-up! Don’t let your life stop because you haven’t gotten that job. There is a creativity packaged inside you that needs to be discovered. Joblessness is an opportunity to discover work; the gifts of God embedded in you that will bring you to your wealthy place. Discover your gifts, develop them, and simply deploy them.
 
3. There is a difference between aloneness and loneliness
And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. (Genesis 2:18 KJV)

Man was alone, but not lonely. When you are lonely, you are not ready for marriage yet. When you are alone, you are ready!
 
Marriage or courtship will not cure loneliness. If you don’t agree, ask some married people ‘is it possible to be married and be lonely?” They will give you a resounding Yes!
 
Many wives see their husbands daily and yet very lonely! So, as a single, you need to understand that loneliness cannot be eliminated by marriage or by sex. You increase the emptiness by trying to fill it with sex. Only Jesus can fill that emptiness.
 
Signs of loneliness in your life are an indication that there is still a void to be filled by your maker. It is an indication that you need to pay attention to your spiritual life and you need to go on a journey of identity discovery in the scriptures! Don’t ignore it, rather go on a spiritual adventure through reading, studying, and meditating on God’s word. You will come up stronger and better and ready to face life! 

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What can We Learn from Adam and Eve?

What can We Learn from Adam and Eve?

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God’s word has solutions to all problems on earth and in heaven. Nothing else will be done or given to men that will improve upon God’s word. It is the complete counsel of God.

You can find a husband in God’s Word.

You can locate your wife in God’s Word. The scriptures teach us how to have a good home and family life.

The scriptures contain the wisdom required to rule in this world’s affairs. People seek love, husbands, wives, and relationships in all the wrong places.

Online dating sites are not the best place to go! Nightclubs and gatherings are not the locations to look for meaningful connections. Where shall I go, pastor? Go to God’s Word! Your response is waiting for you there.

When you are perplexed, God’s word is available to help you deal with it and fill your heart with light, which will dispel all confusion. When you are depressed, God’s word is available to destroy your depression and replace it with the joy of the Holy Spirit.

When you are hurt, wounded, and offended, God’s word is there to heal every wound and give you recompense of all deeds.

When you are filled with unforgiving tendencies, God’s word is there to give you the inner strength to do the godly and the needful.

This morning, what can Singles and Married Couples learn from Adam and Eve?
 
1. Man was made from the breath of God.
And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul. (Genesis 2:7 KJV)

You will never be able to achieve much in your marital endeavors without God. God is the source of your life; He will also be the sustenance of your relationships and marriage.
 
You will never be able to achieve much without Him. There is no point wasting your time by ignoring Him or by kicking against His instructions. The earlier you flow with God and not with man, the better!

The earlier you learn to converse with Him on a personal basis and quit looking for some prophet, the better. Most of the so-called prophets are prophets for profit; they will collect your money and tell you lies.

You are the prophet of your own life, so develop a deliberate relationship with God and take charge of your destiny!


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The Man’s Helper

The Man’s Helper

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The Man’s Helper

I will write to couples first and then singles.

God was the one who created Adam in His likeness and image.

Looking at the Godhead, we will know that God created man to be like Him. That is why we have God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit. They are in perfect harmony, yet different in personality and functionality.

Genesis 2:18 CEV   
[18] The Lord God said, “It isn’t good for the man to live alone. I will make a suitable partner for him.” 

Genesis 2:21-22 CEV   
[21] So the Lord God made him fall into a deep sleep, and he took out one of the man’s ribs. Then after closing the man’s side, [22] the Lord made a woman out of the rib. The Lord God brought her to the man, 

God knew perfectly what He had created and knew how best it would function. He knew the man would not be optimally efficient, so He made the woman solely for this purpose. To complement and complete the man.

The woman was custom-made for the man. She is the help needed, fit, suitable, adaptable, meet, right for him, sufficient, complementary, perfect, complement to him, companion he needs, one just right for him, one who balances him, a counterpart who is suitable and complementary to him,  companion suitable for helping him, a suitable companion he needs…

All these qualities are what describe the help God provided for Adam.

Can you trust God in all His Almightiness that the helper He has given you, is the best for you?

Can the helper trust God enough to believe she possesses all these qualities? And that God packaged her, with all her gifts to help the man?

Husbands and wives, can you trust God enough that you are fulfilled and complete with each other? That all you will ever need is packaged in your wife. 

She may not look like it. He may not look worthy of your companionship.

Your wife was never meant to be exactly like you. Rice and stew are complementary but very different. 

Enjoy your wife, she is God’s best for you.

Wives, be satisfied with your husband, that is the one you were sent to.

Let’s begin to trust God afresh.

Dear single guys, every lady around you is to be protected and not violated! An understanding of this will start preparing you to become that man that God wants and can trust!

God bless you


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In Love With An Angry Person?

In Love With An Angry Person?

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In Love With An Angry Person?

I will be writing to the couples first and lastly to singles. 

Pro 21:19 (KJV)  
It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.

The role of a wife is to give her husband a conducive atmosphere in the home.

A woman can turn a house into a home. 

She can make the house serene or too hot to stay in.

When you find your husband coming home late, avoiding conversations with you, and preferring to hang out than hang in with you, you need to be careful that you are not doing anything to resent him.

The scripture says contentions, nagging, anger, uncooperative attitudes, tantrums, and such can make a man relocate!

He would avoid spending time with the lady because he knows all he will get is nagging and complaints.

When a man is confused or doesn’t know the decision to take yet, he keeps quiet.

That is why you discuss some things with him and then he says nothing. As in nothing!

He probably needs to think it through.

A lady makes it worse by nagging and holding him by the neck to say something by force.

However, the last thing that will come out of a man’s mouth is to say “I am confused!” Every man is egocentric! 

When he is confused, he keeps quiet!

Give him time to sort, process, and decide, and don’t unwittingly drive him away. 

For singles, work on your anger. Anger can make men run away!
Guys are logical, so in each of your anger episodes, they are thinking about what will happen after the wedding and making up their minds.

That could, on a few occasions, be the reason why some guys just disappear after promising a wedding! They got scared! 

I am not asking you to pretend.

I am asking you to work on it.

Read books on anger management.

Read scriptures that talk about anger. 

Some of them will humble you.

For example,

Ecc 7:9 (MSG)  
Don’t be quick to fly off the handle. Anger boomerangs. You can spot a fool by the lumps on his head.

Anger can end relationships

Anger can scatter relationships

Anger can divide a God-ordained relationship!

Gen 49:7 (KJV)  
Cursed be their anger, for it was fierce; and their wrath, for it was cruel: I will divide them in Jacob, and scatter them in Israel.

The Message Translation is apt.

Gen 49:7 (MSG)  
A curse on their uncontrolled anger, on their indiscriminate wrath. I’ll throw them out with the trash; I’ll shred and scatter them like confetti throughout Israel.

Your God-ordained love affair not be shredded!

Your courtship or marriage will not end in the trash!

Your home will not be scattered like confetti!


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Overcoming The Sad Moments of Romantic Journey 

Overcoming The Sad Moments of Romantic Journey 

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Overcoming The Sad Moments of Romantic Journey 

There are those moments when the eyes are red, and the tears flow endlessly and you just couldn’t be consoled enough. 

For the singles, it could be those times of rejection, when the one you love walks away or you are the one who needed to walk away. Either way, the walking away is not always a pleasant experience. 

It could be those times you suddenly feel betrayed when you discover that the one you have been loving with all your life is loving another!

It could be those time when you feel neglected and it seems nobody is looking you way. 

For the married, it could be those times when all your expectations have been disappointed and what you see in marriage is far from what you think it should be.

It could be those times when you feel misunderstood and your spouse isn’t lifting a finger to understand your feelings.

It could be those times when you are so deeply hurt that it reaches to the bone and marrows, when the one you love most has broken your trust, caught red handed frolicking with the opposite sex.

Or it could just be any of the days when there are no stars and the moody mushy thing envelopes you and you don’t want to talk to anybody including GOD.

It could be times of going through mid life crisis, when all the cruises are gone and all left are crashes.

In any of those sad unhappy times, what do you do?

Sing. Rejoice. Dance. Jubilate! 

What?

Isa 54:1 (KJV) Sing, O barren, thou that didst not bear; break forth into singing, and cry aloud, thou that didst not travail with child: for more are the children of the desolate than the children of the married wife, saith the LORD.

That is what you do. Do opposite of what your flesh wants. And then, in an incredible turn of events, you will see God’s intervention and justice system in that situation and you will have victory and rejoice at the last.

Do not grumble. Do not get bitter. Do not fight back.

Leave all the fights to God. 

Rom 12:19 (MSG) Don’t insist on getting even; that’s not for you to do. “I’ll do the judging,” says God. “I’ll take care of it.”

And when you do this, get ready to rejoice, because there is a REJOICING after the rejoicing.

Shalom! Good morning!


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Who Ought To Be Wiser?

Who Ought To Be Wiser?

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This morning, I want to talk to all sisters, ladies, women, and to all guys and men who have ladies in their lives as siblings, wives, or otherwise.

The lady always ends up as the one who is hurt, used, and disadvantaged

She ought to be wiser!

When a relationship breaks or doesn’t work out, who gets hurt the most?

The guy or the lady?

When there is a disappointment concerning the wedding, who cries endlessly for days?

The guy or the lady?

When there is pre-marital sex, who is afraid of getting pregnant?

The guy or the lady?

When pregnancy is anticipated, who starts drowning in pills like a fowl?

The guy or the lady?

Who goes for all kinds of tests in the hospital?

The guy or the lady?

Who goes through the pain of abortion in the event of that?

The guy or the lady?

Who goes through the psychological trauma of murdering a life the most?

The guy or the lady?

Who combines psychological trauma with emotional pain and then with physical discomfort?

The guy or the lady?

If there were complications in the abortion process, whose body was affected?

The guy or the lady?

If a complication arises and life is threatened, who loses her life?

The guy or the lady?

If the womb is affected, who won’t be able to conceive eventually?

The guy or the lady?

If the decision is to have the baby, whose tummy protrudes?

The guy or the lady?

Who goes through the seeming stigma of carrying an unwanted pregnancy?

The guy or the lady?

Who goes through all the morning sickness?

The guy or the lady?

Whose body adjusts to the different trimesters with accompanying inconveniences?

The guy or the lady?

Who goes through labour pain, at that moment when a lady goes through enough pain that would drown any man and make a grown-up man cry like a baby?

The guy or the lady?

Hours or days before childbirth, who goes through the cramping, the tightening, the pounding, the stabbing, the back pain, the waves, the pressure, the pushing, and the exhaustion?

The guy or the lady?

Who becomes a “single mother?”

The guy or the lady?

Who does the breast-feeding afterward?

The guy or the lady?

I can go on and on….but wait a moment..

Who ought to be wiser? The guy or the lady?

But really, who seems to be unwise? The guy or the lady?

I leave you to ponder and answer that!


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Overcoming Wicked Spirits Operating Through Spouses

Overcoming Wicked Spirits Operating Through Spouses

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Overcoming Wicked Spirits Operating Through Spouses

First of all, your spouse is not the wicked spirit or the devil or anything like that! 

The reality, however, is that you and your spouse can yield to these wicked spirits unknowingly. 

This can even happen between two singles who are engaged.

And this is what we are looking at this morning.

A classic example can be found with Job and his wife. Read Job 2:2-10

Let’s pick out one or two verses there.

Job 2:5 (ERV) I swear, if you attack his flesh and bones, he will curse you to your face!”

This is the devil screaming that Job will curse God if his health is touched. 

Eventually, God permitted the devil to do all he wanted to do and Job lost everything, all properties but he refused to back out on God.

However, his wife yielded to the wicked spirit and verbalized what the devil suggested to her ears to Job, which of course is designed to crush him further.

Job 2:9 (ERV) His wife said to him, “Are you still holding on to your faith? Why don’t you just curse God and die!”

Was it a coincidence for Job’s wife to say exactly what Satan said earlier? I doubt. 

As couples, we must be careful to not yield to the wrong voices from wicked spirits. 

For Singles, today is Valentine’s, and a lot of wicked suggestions will come from supposed lovers! Be cautious. You aren’t married, but somebody is telling you, “If you love me, prove it with sex!” We will eventually get married, let’s do it, what difference does it make? 

The question is are those voices and suggestions coming from the Holy Spirit?

They are coming from wicked spirits who want to ruin your testimony and pitch you against your maker! 

Be sensitive! Pray for one another. Pray for yourself and your spouse that you will not yield to the wrong voices!

Good morning! 


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