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In Love, But In Doubt! Sally is so much in love and yet her soul is engulfed in an Island of doubt. The contradiction is a source of confusion for her. How can I be in love and yet doubt holds me in the jugular, suffocating the life out of me with unending questions and anxieties?

The Johnsons are not spared. Mr. Johnson had just lost his job in the Oil and Gas sector and their finances had plummeted. Mrs. Johnson for the first time after their wedding began to question her choice and began to think her wrong choice could be what is sponsoring their present predicament. In Love, But In Doubt!

It happens all the time. You fall in love, you make commitments, and in some cases,  wedding plans begin, and then like a mighty tornado from nowhere, doubt hits you like you hit someone with a sledgehammer.

I thought I was in love! Where is this doubt coming from? O Lord, help me!

It even gets more confusing when compromise or specifically, sex is involved. You hardly know what to do. On one hand, you think you love him or her, but when you think about your future together, a lump rises in your throat and a subtle fear meanders in the inner crevices of your mind.

Even married couples are not spared sometimes. You are already married, and really everything was okay until you had this huge financial storm that refuses to abate. Then you begin to entertain the question that you thought was never there or has long been settled; are we really meant for each other? Are we financially incapacitated because I am involved with the wrong person?

What do you do at such times? This is what we want to look at this morning.

First of all, at what points do doubts occur? Here are some:

In Love, But In Doubt!

1. A relationship is outside of God’s will and God needed to get your attention.

2. A relationship is actually God’s will, but the devil wants to confuse you so that you can step out of that will.

3. You have huge and sometimes unrealistic expectations and unfortunately, the expectations are far from being realized.

4. You are in a relationship and it is God’s plan for you, but somewhere along the line, you are caught in sex. The devil would usually bring guilt trips and if you stay habitually in the compromise, confusion will enter the soul and you won’t know your left from right.

5. You are not informed and you are ignorant of your basic spiritual rights, you will easily get confused and yield to doubt.

6. You start a relationship or courtship without seeking God’s will. That conviction would not be there and doubts would have an upper hand.

7. You sought direction about your marriage from some prophet without a personal adventure in seeking God’s face.

8. You go into a relationship or marriage in order to escape from something. After your escape, then you start asking whether you really love the person.

9. All your mentors, pastor, and even parents are against the wedding except you. Doubt will surely come eventually.

10. Marriage is not all about roses and flowers, when the thorns show up, they usually come in the basket of doubt.

The next thing is “will one ever get to a place in life where doubt is completely extricated and will never occur again?” Like take a gun and shoot doubt forever and ever?

Well, the answer is a big NO. Doubt will still come, whether you like it or not. But it is now your choice to discard it or embrace it.

How do we deal with doubt and how can it be prevented?

I will continue from here tomorrow. In Love, But In Doubt!


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