How will you know if your lover truly loves you or not?
He will love God first
This is the first acid test to know whether a man would really love you appropriately or understands what love is.
Listen to me, guys, you will never be able to love a lady the right way until you love God first.
You don’t love a woman with money alone or with fame, otherwise, the love tangos of celebrities should have been successful, but that is not always the case. The fundamental cause of marriage failure among them is that they don’t know God.
God is love and love without God is no love, it becomes lust
Is he a God-lover? If he has issues with loving God, he will have issues with loving you. True love can only be shed abroad in your heart by the Spirit of God.
It is only the God factor in a man that won’t allow him to lift up his hands against his wife in the days on anger.
Will those days come? Yes, they will come, but what will restrain a man from the tendency of beating and battering his wife is that fear of God.
So then, Pastor, how do you know a man that loves God?
a. He would want to obey God always. If you love God, you will keep His commandments. That is what Jesus said. He wouldn’t be insisting on pre-marital sex.
b. He will serve God with his time. He wouldn’t be too busy to serve God in any capacity.
c. He will serve God with his finances. He will not struggle with tithe. That is how you know a man that really loves God.
d. He will listen to his pastor or mentor. If a man loves God, he wouldn’t have problems with the servants of God.
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e. He doesn’t joke with his devotional life. He knows that is the source of his strength in God.
f. He will not manipulate your emotions or try to use you. The fear of God in him would not allow all that.
g. He will not be “okay” with habitual sins. He will be uncomfortable with offending God in anyway.
h. He will not be able to accommodate strife for too long. He will be forgiving and will not be comfortable quarreling for extended number of days without feeling bad about that attitude.
I can go on and on but those are just a few.
At the background of all these, however is the fact that nobody is perfect, and nobody will have it all. You will never be able to see a man that has it all. We are all “works of project” in the making.
So there may be mistakes here and there, but you will see signs of genuine repentance and willingness to make adjustments.
At the height of all these, do you have peace? If you have peace, then go ahead, irrespective of some imperfections. When I say, imperfections, I don’t mean consistent habitual sins!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am led by the Spirit of God
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me in the way to go and guide my feet into your plans
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY “No one who abides in Him [ who lives and remains in communion with and in obedience to Him—deliberately, knowingly, and habitually ] commits (practices) sin. No one who [ habitually ] sins has either seen or known Him [ recognized, perceived, or understood Him, or has had an experiential acquaintance with Him ].” (1Jn 3:6, AMP)
A lot of men seem to have a lot of complaints about their wives. They really don’t seem to understand them. To say the least, most men think their wives are very annoying.
This could be because of their temperamental differences and more so, the male-female differences.
Men basically are logical and women are basically emotional beings.
What men and usually most husbands call ‘annoying’, is the emotional side of their wife which men do not understand.
For example, a husband cannot make sense/logic out of a woman crying over every issue. Your child has Malaria, she cries. Your child is going to school, she cries, and so on.
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It takes a mature man to understand his wife and be patient.
My attempt this morning is not trying to justify the annoying things that women do but to point them out. Let the wives know it annoys their husbands and become mature emotionally to prevent such.
Here are ten annoying things wives do for their husband
1. Getting moody without any explanation and thinking the husband has some superpowers to decode their moods. Your husband does not have superpowers, so you have to try and articulate yourself.
2. When your wife wants something and she doesn’t go straight to the point. It could be annoying. Dear husband, try to cope and lovingly bear with your wife.
3. Nagging is another thing that annoys men. Women are known to nag when they want something to be done or not to be done.
4. Withdrawal is another annoying thing women do. When women withdraw, their husband can’t place their hands on what exactly is wrong and it keeps them wondering.
5. When your wife is disobedient and recalcitrant, it could be annoying. Women are supposed to be submissive and when they are not, the husband finds it annoying.
6. The silent treatment is another annoying feat that wives throw. The silent treatment is not only rude, it is killing. It can drive the husband nuts and drive him to go look for a girlfriend outside the matrimonial home.
7. When the wife does not know how to keep the house tidy and everywhere is unkempt. The woman has failed in her responsibility as a wife.
8. It could be annoying when a wife tries to be her husband’s mother and not his wife. She tries to continue the correction and the training of her husband
9. When a wife complains about her husband’s spirituality or lack of it, his job, his parents, his siblings, money, et cetera, and she is generally not content
10. When a wife is too serious. Mostly, every man wants a playmate in his wife. The little boy in him wants to play and unburden himself.
It is annoying to the husband when the wife is too concerned about pepper, tomatoes, children, and so on and cannot let those things be and enjoy her husband.
Wives, get past this, and don’t be lost in your own world. Remember you have a husband. Help him to understand you.
God bless our marriages.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I take heed unto myself. I don’t do things that will annoy my husband
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help my weaknesses
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Peter 3:1 (KJV) Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Work with your spouse to ensure oneness
Children are taught, and therefore they can be taught God’s Law. God is interested in the way we handle and train our children.
He gave laws to the people of Israel and commandments to the descendants of Jacob. He instructed our ancestors to teach his laws to their children.
Psa 78:5 (GNB)
God is a God of continuity. He perpetuates His covenant and extends it to our children.
He expect us as parents to teach our children and show them Gods ways.
In fact, he commands us to do so. It is a responsibility and a God given assignment we must not fail to do.
We keep teaching our children God’s word as a matter of priority. What we teach them is what they become. They give us peace when they are taught God’s ways. Children are taught, and therefore they can be taught God’s Law.
Prayer: Lord, help me to teach my children your law.
Action point (parents): Be intentional about teaching God’s word to your children.
Declaration: I teach my children God’s way. They do not depart from these teachings. They are rooted and grounded in the Lord. My children are godly. They are used of the Lord. They dream, see visions of the Lord and prophesy.
That is the name he usually calls her. As he held her hands and looked into her eyes, Angie tried to look back into his eyes and beyond the words, to really find out if Buddy meant his words, but she couldn’t decipher anything.
“Well, I am not sure” replied Angie.
“Why would you say that,” Buddy said, still holding her hands.
“You are going for NYSC next week, I am not sure what you will come back with.”
“Oh, common, Angie, we have been together for four years now and by the grace of God, we will get married soonest. You have no reasons to doubt me.”
“I don’t doubt you, but I get scared sometimes.”
“Angie now, why would you be scared?”
“You know what happened….”
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“Don’t go there!” Buddy cuts in, raising his voice a bit. “I have already asked for forgiveness and that it wouldn’t happen again. I thought you have forgiven me?”
And they went on and on.
Angie has her fears because of the mistake that Buddy made of recent with another girl that he slept with whom he initially claimed he was mentoring. How did a protégée end up in bed? What type of mentoring is that? There is a difference between a mentor and a tormentor!
Angie wasn’t sure whether it was a genuine mistake or a state of his heart. If it is a state of his heart, then he would still do it again.
But the dilemma is that you cannot enter a man’s heart.
Only someone knows the heart of a man, and that is God. Angie knows she would need God to really make up her mind, as she wouldn’t want to be hurt and disappointed again.
How do you know a man’s heart? How do you know a guy who loves you and will eventually marry you? That will be our subject of discourse tomorrow morning.
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CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am led by the Spirit of God
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me in the way to go and guide my feet into your plans
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY “No one who abides in Him [ who lives and remains in communion with and in obedience to Him—deliberately, knowingly, and habitually ] commits (practices) sin. No one who [ habitually ] sins has either seen or known Him [ recognized, perceived, or understood Him, or has had an experiential acquaintance with Him ].” (1Jn 3:6, AMP)
Yes, I am talking about Sarah Abraham of the Bible. Have you ever wondered what Sarah’s secret was?
We have today Victoria’s Secret, which has to do with the secret in the beauty world. Today, we want to learn the secret behind this woman, Sarah.
She was a typical no-nonsense lady, the prim and proper type of lady that tends to correct and put everyone on their toes. With 380 servants that were born in their house, I’m sure she had a very big house.
Sarah was the CEO, MD of Abraham holdings. She was an ironwoman who knew her onions. She was both feared and respected.
She was not the only good woman in the Bible, so what qualified her to be mentioned among the hall of fame of Hebrew 11?
How many of us knew Sarah as not always being submissive? It was recorded that she resulted to taking things into her hands and decided to help God, and gave Abraham her Servant, Haggai in Gen 16: 1-4.
Abraham was the typical phlegmatic, cool and God fearing husband. He was a lover of peace and so we could conclude that he had left the leadership of running the home to Sarah, who was capable.
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It was possible she was bitter against God and some times, her husband. It is possible it was her bitterness that closed her womb for so long, before God changed her name from Sarai (contentious) to Sarah (princess).
It was at this point when there was a divine visitation and her contention confronted (Gen 18:12-13) that she dared to believe God and judge Him faithful. The Bible recorded in Heb 11:11 that Sarah herself received strength to bear a son.
It was also at this junction she became submissive to Abraham and bible says she called him lord.
1Pet3:5-6 (GNB) For the devout women of the past who placed their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful by submitting themselves to their husbands. Sarah was like that; she obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are now her daughters if you do good and are not afraid of anything.
Sarah’s secret was that even though it was not her natural tendency to be submissive, when she knew it was God’s will for her, she repented. She submitted so much, she started calling her husband ‘my lord’.
What a woman! She moved from being contentious to becoming a princess. That became the secret of her beauty and youthfulness. Not her cream, beauty routine or makeup. Her real secret was in her meek and a quiet spirit.
She had to change! She was willing to drop her old self and embrace who God says she is. Her reward; she was blessed beyond measure. She was blessed and protected every where she went because God was with her.
Dear wife, if you want to be like Sarah, you can be like her. She was willing to change and repent. She submitted to her Lord and Abraham her lord. That my dear lady was Sarah’s secret.
God bless our homes.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love and respect my husband
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Ask for wisdom to build your home
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Study the life and times of Sarah
Children obey God’s rules! Rules can be defined as a set of explicit or understood regulations or principles governing conduct or procedure within a particular area of activity.
Simply put, rules are written principles, guidelines and instructions for doing something right. It is created to manage behavior in an organization or country.
On the other hand, regulations are directives made in addition to the laws in a particular country or can be defined as rules accepted legally by the administration.
The scripture says
You and your children must obey these rules forever.
Exo 12:24 (GNB)
It is amazing how much God is concerned about our children and how He mandate it for us to obey Him.
God is not going to accept any of our excuses for not training our children.
Our busy schedules, no matter how we justify it counts before God.
When we are willing and ready to obey God, then He helps us and comes to our rescue.
Prayer: My children will obey God’s laid down rules in Jesus name. Amen.
Action point: Have you been disobedient in time past? It’s time to turn a new leaf.
Declaration: My children obey God’s rules. They are taught in the ways of the Lord. They grow in the admonition of the Lord. They are fat and flourishing in the court of the Lord.
Here is a true story. A woman was having tremendous challenge in her matrimonial home. She had this friend she would always discuss with. The friend told her she is being stupid and that she needed to teach her husband a lesson by packing out. She did.
She packed out and later informed her Pastor what she has done. Her pastor told her to go back to her house before he would say anything. This is after a few days.
Out of respect for her Pastor, she obliged. She got back home with her loads and knocked. When the door was opened, lo and behold, the person she saw was her friend in a towel.
Life is about association. Your level of productivity is often determined by the people you associate with. The same way, your failure is sealed when you walk with foolish people who have no regard for God.
Your relationship decisions are influenced by the choice of your friends. The people you know and you have access to in the days of challenges will determine whether that challenge will crush you or will be crushed.
The relationship and marriage mentors you have will often be the thin line between divorce and victory in marriage.
Most often than not, your relationship or courtship will survive not based on your wisdom alone but on the wisdom you are able to garner from those that have done what you are trying to do. Do you have one?
If you associate for long with a monkey, you will learn how to jump on trees. If you lie down with a dog, you will rise up with fleas. It is all about laws of connections and relationships.
That boyfriend that is always paying for abortion as a result of jeru trip is really an enemy.
That friend that introduced you to that underground jeru trip chain so you can earn dollars is an enemy. You see, your destiny is in contention.
Who is your friend? Your friend is the definition and description of your life. The future of your friend is the picture of your future. Watch the friends you have. Friendship is by choice and not by force.
Can you confidently introduce your friends to your pastor or parents?
Most young people who suddenly find themselves in prostitution were not really decided on doing that, they were introduced by friends.
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If your friend is promiscuous, you will eventually become one. If your friend is a goal getter, you will eventually become one. The same way, if your friend is a gold digger, you will eventually become one.
He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.
Pro 13:20 KJV
Message translation
Become wise by walking with the wise; hang out with fools and watch your life fall to pieces.
Pro 13:20 MSG
You must review your friends from time to time. Any friend that is not adding value to you should be disconnected from.
Friendship is an issue of life and so friendship decisions must not be subjected to sentiments. A friend that is always looking out for ‘jists’ on the next bad thing is an enemy in disguise.
Someone once said that your wisdom level is the level of wisdom your circle of friends have. Someone else said that if you are the smartest among your friends, it is time to look for better friends because you are adding to them while you are gaining nothing.
May God grant us more understanding.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not associate with the wrong person.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to disconnect from those who are not adding to me in any way.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed. (Proverbs 13:20 KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Disconnect from all wrong associations.
Have you ever seen a Nollywood movie where a couple are close or seen a couple where the wife is so loving? I am sure you must have also seen couples who just seem to be close but there is something that just doesn’t add up. They are in one way or another disconnected.
When there is a disconnect and you are sensitive, you just know it, you just pick it up and are able to discern it.
Either the wife is cheating or the husband is cheating or they are just not agreed. Well apart from both couples praying together, there are some practical things the wife can do to be a good wife and be the kind of wife any husband will be proud to call his own.
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1. Be loyal to your husband. 2. Make your husband and his affair matter to you. 3. Seek to do whatever he likes and things that pleases him. 4. Be thoughtful of and about your husband. 5. Cook his meals, serve them yourselves and make it special thing 6. Be fun to be with every time. 7. Be a defender of your spouse anytime and always 8. Be his cheerleader and make him feel good about himself always. 9. Enjoy the company of your husband every time. 10. Absolutely let your husband trust you. 11. Be gist partners. 12. Be his confidant and his companion. 13. Be his prayer partner and a prayer warrior for him. 14. Be his mum, wife, side chick and flirt with him. 15. Be his collaborator, his manager and his covenant partner.
You may not be these naturally, but you can engage in the place of prayer. Be the specific things you want to see yourself become.
Be focused and decisive about what you want to see yourself become. Let it be as your goal. Let it be SMART, i.e Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time bound.
The Lord will help us in Jesus name. God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love and respect my husband
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Ask for wisdom and understanding for your marriage
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Do the above steps and watch your marriage transform.
My children are responsible is our focus today. I remember when I was little and my mother gave me some money to buy fish from the market. When I got to the woman selling the fish, I couldn’t find the money I was given.
Guess what happened when I got home? My mother was angry and scolded me for losing the money.
Why do you think my mother was angry? Was she right to be angry? The answer is “yes”.
It was my responsibility to keep the money well. It was in my possession and I should have kept it well. I was trusted to keep it safe and get what I was sent.
Responsibility means doing what is expected of you and accepting the consequences for either doing or not doing these things.
This means that as a child, there are things you are meant to do, say or keep. Things you will be responsible for. And as you grow older these things increase in size and time.
“…Each person should judge his own actions. Then he can be proud for what he himself has done. Each person must be responsible for himself.”
Gal. 6:5 ICB
The bible verse above says that you are to judge your own actions, check if you are proud of what you do and that you should be responsible for yourself.
In other words, are you proud that you are responsible or not? Judge yourself.
May the Lord give you enlightenment about being responsible. Amen.
Prayer: Lord Jesus, I open my heart as I learn about responsibility. Help me to keep my heart open. Amen.
Action point: Ask your parents what your responsibilities are if you don’t know them. If you do, as the bible verse said, are you proud of your actions?
What is really the heart? Is there such a heart that upholds and honors the marriage covenant? How does one get this kind of heart?
The heart is so important that the Bible says out of it flows the issues of life. What we do on the outside reflects what is in the heart.
If the heart is perverted the actions will be perverted. If the heart is far from God, then the actions will be far from God. Make the heart right and the actions will be right also.
Show me the heart that honors the marriage covenant and I will show you a person whose actions honors the marriage covenant.
We should all look into our hearts and by the help of the Holy Spirit, search out what is in our hearts. I pray God will give us a wise and understanding heart today to see the importance of our heart.
In Psalm 51, David knew the importance of the heart and he cried out to God to create in him a new and clean heart and renew a right spirit within me.
Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.
Psa 51:10 (KJV)
Let’s stop paying so much attention to our actions and start to pay attention to the very source and root of our actions.
When the heart is right, then we can teach and tutor our hands for right actions.
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Let this be our prayer everytime, for God to search our hearts and if there be any guile in us, to purge us and wash us with hyssop. To create in us a new and clean heart, that our actions may be pleasing to God. That we may all begin to honor our marriage covenant and our marriage vows.
That we may esteem our spouse above all else. To crucify the flesh and fight for our marriage upholding the things that are meant for peace and progress in our homes.
It takes a lot of sacrifice. Focusing on our spouse and not allowing any other person’s thought fill our hearts.
The help of God is there to help us but we have to first set our face as a flint to do what is required of us. For God will only do His part, he will not help us set our face as a flint. It takes our decision.
For the Lord GOD will help me; therefore shall I not be confounded: therefore have I set my face like a flint, and I know that I shall not be ashamed.
Isa 50:7 (KJV)
May God bless our marriages in Jesus name.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I receive a new heart today.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, set my heart right towards my marriage.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psalms 51:10 Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Pray to God for a new heart.
Beyond learning at school, you get to relate with other individuals. You must learn how to be responsible as you relate with people. There are teachers, non-teaching staff, and your fellow students to relate with at school.
Every school has rules and regulations guiding its operations and existence.
Students are meant to obey these rules and regulations at all times.
As a student, the first way to show responsibility is by obeying the rules and regulations of your school.
You should also ensure that you help other students to obey the laws of the school.
When a fellow student is doing something contrary to school rules, you should tell him it’s against the rules. That way you have done your part.
Do not also follow other students to break the rules. Rather than do this, report to the teachers.
In class, ensure you are not causing distractions or joining others to do so. Your class is part of the school and whatever rules the class teacher lays down should be obeyed.
These are just some ways you can show responsibility at school.
May God guide your hearts towards obeying rules and regulations at school. Amen.
Prayer: Lord, give me the grace to be a responsible student at school. Amen.
Action point: Do you know your school rules and regulations? If yes, are you obeying them? If no, get them and read so you can start obeying them.
Declaration: I am an obedient child. I obey laid down rules and regulations.
Whatever you eat is what you will use to live in your relationship. That is just the reality. You cannot afford to marry a starved person.
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As a single, you have to find what to eat. This is a responsibility all believers have.
When you really want to eat, we are not talking about Golden Morn or nodules. You go for real food when you really want to “jeun soke!”
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It is the same in the realm of the spirit. You have to sit down with God’s word and study extensively. You have to eat to your satisfaction. Eating well takes time in preparation.
Refusal to study God’s word can be likened to a watery stew that has no taste. There is nothing to enjoy there. Do you really want to enjoy your relationship? Then eat well and make sure you marry somebody who has spiritual stamina by reason of what he or she has eaten.
The smell of food never satisfies until you taste it. Tasting is never like eating.
When we hear a revelation on Television or in a conference that blesses us, you have just smelt it, now you need to go home and sit down to really make your own food based on the smell and then cook your own revelation. That is when you really get blessed.
My soul shall be satisfied as with marrow and fatness; and my mouth shall praise thee with joyful lips:
Psa 63:5 (KJV)
People of God, this is how things work. Let’s get into real business as we eat well concerning areas where we are believing God.
May God grant you more understanding and bless the works of your hands today.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I receive the grace to eat well for my marital destiny
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Ask for wisdom and understanding
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Jeremiah 15:16 (KJV)Thy words were found, and I did eat them; and thy word was unto me the joy and rejoicing of mine heart: for I am called by thy name, O LORD God of hosts.
As a single, your greatest asset is not your hips, tips, boobs, complexion, baritone voice, your looks, skills, degrees, background, wealth, sonorous voice, beauty, or any other physical attribute.
It is your character.
Your character is the real you. Not who you profess to be or what people say you are. You can never run away from your character.
A Yoruba adage says, your character is like smoke, you can never hide it for too long. It will always surface.
Young ladies, don’t focus on that which is ephemeral. It is not a big deal to make yourself beautiful.
All you need is some good, quality make-up. A dark-skinned lady can become fair by virtue of the different toning creams available.
A guy can look polished, well packaged with all the six-packs, but really who is he?
A guy may look very responsible and mature, but may not be in actual fact. Remember looks can be deceptive.
The good news is that you can develop your character. You can develop a positive character that will add value to you and not make you a liability in marriage.
Nobody is left out of this quest to develop proper winning character. So don’t ever think you are alone or get overwhelmed with developing your character.
As singles, your priority is to put your strength to improve your character.
Some people will adamantly stick to the character flaws and excuse them away. Some will even pretend and push their negative characters deep down so people will not easily notice.
Whatever negative tendencies you have are to be confronted, dealt with, and replaced with positive ones.
There are a thousand and one character flaws. Some are very glaring, while others are very subtle and hidden.
Whichever way, every negative character will be brought to full view in marriage no matter how long it takes.
God and His word, with our cooperation can help us to develop positive character.
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Our present character is formed basically by our thoughts. Our thoughts become our words. Our words become our actions, our actions become our habits and our habits form our character.
We developed our present character through a process and it will also take a process to unlearn the negative character and develop new ones.
Roms 12:2 tells us to be transformed by the renewing of our minds.
And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
Rom 12:2 (KJV)
In other words, we allow God’s word and His Holy Spirit to change our thoughts, which will change our words, which will change our actions, change our habits and then ultimately change our character.
No matter what your character is today, you can change it for good. The earlier you take up this task the better for you.
The character flaws you don’t deal with now as a single will roar at you in marriage.
Whatever bad tendencies you have now can be replaced with goodly and godly character.
As a single, you have no business chasing only funfair while your major course is left unattended. It’s a gross mistake, don’t fall for it.
Eating is so powerful. If you really want to satisfy your husband, you don’t coon a watery tasteless stew. Even you will not enjoy that food. There is something about a wife and sometimes a husband that knows how to really prepare good food.
Whatever you eat is what you will use to live in your marriage. That is just the reality. You cannot afford to stay starved in marriage.
The short humorous video (extremely funny ) below summarizes what we are looking at this morning. Take a moment to watch it right away
As couples, you have to keep finding what to eat by going to the market and not just some biscuits or nodules every time. This is a responsibility all believers have. When you really want to eat, we are not talking about Golden Morn or nodules. You go for real food when you really want to “jeun soke!”
It is the same in the realm of the spirit. You have to sit down with God’s word and study extensively. You have to eat to your satisfaction. Eating well takes time in preparation. What do you want from God. Sit down and eat!
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Refusal to study God’s word can be likened to a watery stew that has no taste. There is nothing to enjoy there. You really want to enjoy your marriage? Then eat well and make sure you and your spouse have spiritual stamina by reason of what you are both eating.
The smell of a food never satisfies until you taste it. Tasting is never like eating. When we hear a revelation on Television or in a conference that blesses us, you have just smelt it, now you need to go home and sit down to really make your own food based on the smell and then cook your own revelation. That is when you really get blessed.
You can’t serve your husband a “smell of a certain food!”
My soul shall be satisfied as with marrow and fatness; and my mouth shall praise thee with joyful lips:
Psa 63:5 (KJV)
Dear couples, this is how things work. Let’s get into real business as we eat well concerning areas where we are believing God.
May God grant you more understanding and bless the works of your hands and your marriage today.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I receive the grace to eat well for my marital destiny
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Ask for wisdom and understanding for your marriage
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Jeremiah 15:16 (KJV)Thy words were found, and I did eat them; and thy word was unto me the joy and rejoicing of mine heart: for I am called by thy name, O LORD God of hosts.
What is the power of forgiveness? Is forgiveness not for the faint-hearted? Is there really a power in forgiveness? Today we would be answer these questions.
One thing about forgiveness is that your failure to forgive has made you unholy before God, which won’t make Him listen to or even answer your prayers.
That’s because when God looks at you, He sees the mark of sin on you – resentment, unforgiveness, hatred, and He can’t look at you like that.
However, when you ask for forgiveness before you pray, it takes the mark of sin away from you. Or even while praying and the Holy Spirit convicts your heart of unforgiveness, quickly forgive whoever you need to forgive so that your prayers might be answered.
When God sees your entire heart as unholy, He also sees your body as unholy too.
By allowing unforgiveness to stay in your heart, you are causing yourself more harm than good.
An unforgiving heart affects your entire body. It can cause you to have medical conditions. The power of forgiveness cannot therefore be overemphasized.
Be holy today and forgive who you need to forgive. God bless and provide for you as you do so. Amen.
Prayer: My Father in heaven, forgive me my trespasses and help me to forgive everyone I need to forgive, Amen.
Action point: Pray and ask the Holy Spirit to show you who you need to forgive and do so fast
Declaration: I choose to forgive all who have hurt me.
Spider in the palace? That is sacrilegious! How did it get there? Who granted it entrance? Where are the palace guards? How dare such a creature be allowed into the most secured and guarded place?
It can’t just be. Maybe you did not see well. Or maybe you are hungry and you are taken by mirage or simply hallucinating. It can’t be! Spider sha? No way!
If you are even talking of a lion in all its, strength we can understand. If you say it’s an elephant, oh that is understandable, for who will dare stop the humongous beast from trampling on where it wants?
But a spider! Ordinary spider! Something I can crush with my leg. Spider ko, spider man ni!
But wow, there it is. The spider is actually in the palace!
How did it enter!
The spider taketh hold with her hands, and is in kings’ palaces.
Pro 30:28 (KJV)
It’s by her hands! It’s by its skill. It’s by what it can do!
An entrance was granted to the spider by reason of the skill it brings to the table.
As singles, I want to encourage you this morning, identify a skill that is inherent and develop it. Maximize it. Don’t be laid back in life for life has no place for such people.
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Take hold with your hands like the spider and you will find yourself in palaces.
By the time you are thinking about marriage, you should have a definite stream of income! Nobody wants to marry a liability. That is a simple truth!
Go learn something! How to sew, bake, and such things as additional things you can do. There is money there!
And if you are particularly career-driven, then study more courses that will enhance your area of dexterity!
I pray God will give more understanding today in Jesus name
Have a blessed day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not lazy.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Teach me how to use my skill wisely oh Lord
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psalms 78:72 (KJV) So he fed them according to the integrity of his heart; and guided them by the skilfulness of his hands.
It’s a lie! A Spider cannot be in the palace. How can you even conceive that? Merely saying it is so disrespectful to royalty. Who granted it entrance? Do you mean it went through the palace guards? How dare such a creature be allowed into the most secured and guarded place?
It can’t just be. Maybe you did not see well, or maybe you are hungry and you are taken by mirage or simply hallucinating. It can’t be! Spider sha? No way!
If you re even talking of a lion in all its strength, we can understand. If you say it’s an elephant, oh that is understandable, for who will dare stop the humongous beast from trampling on where it wants?
But a spider! Ordinary spider. Something I can crush with my leg. Spider ko, spider man ni!
But wow, there it is. The spider is actually in the palace!
How did it enter!
The spider taketh hold with her hands, and is in kings’ palaces.
Pro 30:28 (KJV)
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As married couples, you must take hold with your hands and bring something concrete to the table.
Husbands who don’t work or are lazy eventually become docile and end up abdicating their responsibility and alongside their leadership of the home.
Wives who don’t work or are lazy end up becoming liabilities, resorting to being busybodies and gossips. As they say, an idle mind is devil’s workshop.
Don’t get me wrong! There are times you can’t help it and you are simply sacked or just couldn’t get a good job in time.
At such times, you are to stay with your spouse and pray through those times because you know that your spouse is not lazy.
What I am saying is that you can be out of jobs for whatever reason, but never be out of work!
Create work for yourself, and be skillful in the discharge of your gifts. You will eventually find yourself in the palace and in a great place, by taking hold with your hands!
I pray God grants you more understanding.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not a lazy man/woman.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the enablement to use your gifts well.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psalms 78:72 (KJV) So he fed them according to the integrity of his heart; and guided them by the skilfulness of his hands.
There are benefits of forgiveness. Forgiveness is important in serving God. A key instrument in entering and staying in God’s presence is by letting go of offences.
No wonder Jesus mentioned in the Lord’s prayer that “…forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.”
We can’t come before God with any sin in our lives. The lack of forgiving others when they hurt us is a sin.
You might wonder how does this keep my body holy before God? The bible says that the heart of man is full of wickedness.
When you harbor resentment towards another person and refuse to forgive them, you can’t come before God.
Jesus said to ask for forgiveness not because of the other person, but so that God can answer your prayers. In other words, it’s about you, not the other person.
“But when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive your sins too.
Mark 11:25 NLT
It was also emphasized here:
“If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.”
Matt. 6:14-15 NLT.
When you fail to forgive, you hurt yourself and cut short God’s blessing upon your life.
These are some of the benefits of forgiveness. May God help is all to to forgive all who have hurt us in time past. Amen.
Prayer: My Father in heaven, forgive me my trespasses and help me to forgive everyone I need to forgive. I want to be holy to you. Amen.
Action point: Pray and ask the Holy Spirit to show you who you need to forgive and do so fast
Sense is described by Word Web dictionary as “The faculty through which the external world is apprehended”
As Buddy entered his friend’s house, you could tell he was excited. He was grinning from ear to ear he could almost eat Banana from the side of his mouth.
Woah! I have finally found my wife. I am so much in love with her. I asked her out and she said Yes.’
Daniel was happy for him.
‘When did you meet her?’ ‘Two hours ago.’
‘What is her name?’ ‘Lovett, I don’t know her surname.’
‘And you already asked her out?’ ‘Yes.’
‘And she said yes?’ ‘Of course now, what is the meaning of all these questions?’
‘Where is she from?’ ‘I don’t know. She must be from heaven.’
‘What does she do?’ ‘I don’t know, but she has hot legs!’
One other question that every single will be confronted with is the question of common sense.
You see, you are not supposed to fall in love with strangers. True love emanates from the knowledge of the characters involved. You hardly know somebody you just met some thirty minutes ago. True love should spring up from friendship.
God gave you a brain so that you will not disturb him on some issues that you can already find their answers in God’s Word.
‘I am so happy for you Comfort. Is he born again? ‘l don’t know but he goes to church.’
You don’t need somebody that you can’t even vouch for concerning Salvation. You need somebody that loves God!
‘He does not drink alcohol, he only takes Stout.’ ‘He does not do weed, just normal cigarettes. I will convert him after marriage.’
You see, you are not the Holy Spirit. Watch the person you fall in love with. Use your gumption. Spirituality does not mean stupidity or thoughtlessness. The scripture says that discretion will preserve you!
‘I have aborted for him three times, but I cannot leave him. I love him.’ But when he finally ruins your chances of giving birth, he will leave you! Wake up! The reason you cannot leave him or her is not because of love but because of low self-esteem and soul ties, wrong bonding that comes as a result of violating God’s principles as regards jeru trip.
‘I know I am number three on his list.’ So what are you still doing, playing a second fiddle, opening your legs to a man that you know can drop you anytime? You see, hear me, and quote me anywhere, you cannot use jeru trip to buy love. Jeru trip does not guarantee marriage. In fact, it reduces its chances.
Whoever told you that you are ugly? It is money you need! When God blesses you, you will know how beautiful you are! Guys never have problems with appearance, it is always ladies. Haven’t you seen guys with their legs like Hockey sticks, and yet wearing three-quarters short? They don’t care! And they will come and ask you out like that, and you are like, What?
You are not ugly! Beauty is in the beholder’s eyes. You are fearfully and wonderfully created, so says the scriptures. You will be wonderful to some people, and fearful to others, so never mind if someone calls you ‘ugly’ When you meet your spouse, you will be wonderful! So, believe in God and believe in yourself!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will apply discretion in every area of my relationship as God helps me
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Lord, I ask that you give me wisdom and understanding in my relationship in Jesus name.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Proverbs 11:29 [MSG] Exploit or abuse your family, and end up with a fistful of air; common sense tells you it’s a stupid way to live.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Have a hearty discussion with your lover today
The family altar is where the family consisting of the father, mother, children, and any other person living in the home come together and all look up together to God as their rock of Defence against all the odds in marriage and life.
It is a place of unity, where God is invited to unite the family together. The prayer altar is meant to be a place of sincerity and honesty. Each member of the family should be taught not to approach God’s presence like a superhero but to be vulnerable in His presence.
Each member of the family must be taught to participate enthusiastically in worship, praise, prayer, confessions, reading the Bible and discussions, since these are the activities done during the family altar.
Now there are many scenarios in different homes and marriages that can debar a proper daily family altar. We have couples who have never had family altar as their family routine before and just want to start.
We have a family where the husband doesn’t like the idea or doesn’t give it much priority or attention.
We have a family where the husband is always busy thus the wife is left to organize the family devotion.
We have a family where it is a headache to get the children to participate.
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In other families, the issue of timing is their case. Others yet, it is a disagreement between the couples that forms a hindrance to their family altar.
Whichever group we fall into, we should know that our family devotion is very, very important. The importance of the family altar may not be obvious at the present but it will eventually show.
I grew up with my dad leading the family altar in the morning and evening and we can see the benefits 30 years after in the lives of all of the children. Begin to make efforts to start your family altar now if you have not and you can strengthen your family altar if you already have a family altar.
Let your children be more participative. Let it suit their ages, as you put them into consideration. Let the time of the devotion not be too long to help their concentration.
Let God help you to find what suits the whole family. Work out something that everybody will be comfortable with.
God bless your marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I receive the grace to take my family altar more seriously.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Ask for wisdom and understanding for your marriage
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Prov 11:29 (GW) Whoever brings trouble upon his family inherits only wind, and that stubborn fool becomes a slave to the wise in heart.
